JustPearlyThings - April 06, 2023


Feminism Has Made Women DELUSIONAL

Topics
dating marketplace for men
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Hannah Pearl Davis
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11 minutes

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2,232

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263

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19

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In this episode, we talk about beauty standards, feminism, dating apps, and whether or not men are pickier than women when it comes to beauty standards. We also talk about the fact that men swipe right on dating apps more often than women.

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00:00:00.000 You raised a very good point because feminism, you know, with feminism, women are like, oh, I can do whatever I want, when I want, how I want. 1.00
00:00:07.620 So like, you know, I can underdress myself. No one should judge me for that.
00:00:11.780 And I think that it's a little bit too much.
00:00:13.880 But it's interesting because feminists complain the most about beauty standards, but it just seems like they care the least about them. 1.00
00:00:20.420 Well, wouldn't their view just be like, well, I don't have to bother because why would I let a man dictate how I look?
00:00:27.280 Yeah, well, that's not. Yeah, they'll say, they'll say, oh, women have such high beauty standards. 1.00
00:00:32.780 It's so hard for women because of the beauty standards, Instagram. 1.00
00:00:36.520 And, you know, well, I can sympathize. It's like, if we really cared, wouldn't we be more put together and way less?
00:00:44.100 I agree with this point. I think it's because there's a lot of activists now and feminism and they're trying to prove that.
00:00:50.280 They feel like all women do what they do for men. Some people do things for themselves.
00:00:55.740 Yeah. But because there's that lining of doing things for men, a lot of feminisms now are like, they don't want to do it just because they feel like it's doing it for a man. 1.00
00:01:08.400 Is it even such a bad thing if they were doing it for men, though? Because like you get guys who work out because they want to look ripped for women.
00:01:15.980 Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, it wouldn't be that terrible, to be honest.
00:01:20.500 Yeah. It's like everyone wants to be liked in a way.
00:01:22.760 Yeah. Yeah. It's like if you know, if you like someone and you want to, you know, wear something and you think it's going to be attractive.
00:01:28.480 Yeah. No, no, no, I'm wearing this. Just, you know, you want to feel good, but you also, you know, want to be nice for other people.
00:01:34.940 Yeah. I think.
00:01:35.740 Who's beauty standards are higher, men or women? 0.91
00:01:44.220 I think it depends.
00:01:46.680 Okay. Wait, I want to make a rule.
00:01:49.200 No, it depends.
00:01:51.320 You have to pick one. Pick one. Pick one and tell me why.
00:01:58.400 I think maybe men have higher beauty standards.
00:02:01.540 I think it's because they see a lot of women and they now begin to compare, make comparisons between different types of women.
00:02:08.900 And it's like when they see a particular woman look in a particular way, it's they would compare another woman to the woman that they've seen.
00:02:16.800 But you think that men have higher standards for women, not that the men have the higher standards they have to live up to, just to clarify.
00:02:23.160 I think men have higher standards for women. 0.63
00:02:25.180 For women. So like the women have higher beauty standards to me. 1.00
00:02:27.760 Yes. And that's, what's making women feel like they need to comply with these standards. 1.00
00:02:34.540 Who's pickier men or women? 0.90
00:02:37.220 Men.
00:02:37.980 Men.
00:02:38.180 Definitely.
00:02:38.980 Yeah.
00:02:40.340 What, what percent of the time do you think men swipe right on dating apps? 1.00
00:02:45.100 When does, what, sorry?
00:02:46.040 What percent?
00:02:46.620 Yeah. What percent of the time?
00:02:48.060 Probably 70%.
00:02:49.100 Yeah.
00:02:50.300 Probably about 70, yeah.
00:02:51.440 What percent of the time do you think women swipe right on dating apps? 1.00
00:02:55.180 I think about the same.
00:02:56.440 Do you know what?
00:02:57.400 70%.
00:02:57.680 I think women, women are more complacent than men. 1.00
00:03:01.580 Are more complacent?
00:03:02.820 Yeah.
00:03:03.120 I think they accept more than men.
00:03:04.560 Do you think men are very like, if they've, they've got a certain standard, they're more rigid than women. 1.00
00:03:09.960 You think men are pickier than women? 1.00
00:03:11.360 A hundred percent.
00:03:12.380 Yeah.
00:03:12.720 Okay.
00:03:12.940 What percent of the time do you think men swipe right on dating apps? 1.00
00:03:17.080 70.
00:03:18.060 Or even 80.
00:03:18.900 I think it's a high percentage of 70.
00:03:20.240 It's really high.
00:03:21.260 I think it's a low percentage.
00:03:22.640 That men's, so men swipe right 60 to 70% of the time, where women, what percent of the time do you think they swipe right? 0.92
00:03:30.240 Oh, wait, no, sorry.
00:03:30.940 I think it's 45%.
00:03:31.960 I'm sorry.
00:03:32.620 I misspoke.
00:03:33.200 That's, it's about 45 to 50, not 60.
00:03:35.160 For men.
00:03:35.420 Yeah, for men.
00:03:36.600 What percent of the time do you think women swipe right? 1.00
00:03:39.100 Probably like 20.
00:03:39.800 Much less.
00:03:40.580 Yeah.
00:03:41.040 I would say like 10%.
00:03:42.140 70 to 80.
00:03:43.180 Maybe 30.
00:03:44.220 I don't know.
00:03:44.880 I would say 70 to 80.
00:03:46.500 What do you think?
00:03:47.060 Do you know this?
00:03:47.620 You have to know this stat.
00:03:49.060 Well, it is around that, isn't it?
00:03:50.080 Is it about 20%?
00:03:52.020 5%.
00:03:52.380 5%?
00:03:54.120 Yeah.
00:03:54.980 I was actually, I thought the male one was actually going to be a bit higher, to be honest, because a lot of guys, well, not a lot of guys, but guys have sometimes have this strategy before the algorithm started clamping down that they would just swipe on everything and then see what came through, you know?
00:04:07.740 It depends what study you look at.
00:04:09.540 Yeah.
00:04:09.820 But how could you say that women are, that men are pickier if women only swipe right 5% of the time?
00:04:15.240 Do you know why?
00:04:15.760 Because they're talking about the top 1% men, aren't they?
00:04:18.960 Those top 1% men, those chads, they're really picky, but that's all they're bothered about.
00:04:23.440 They're not bothered about the other guys who aren't getting a look at anyway.
00:04:25.680 Yeah.
00:04:26.040 The top 5% of men, 10.
00:04:28.240 What percent of men do you guys think are sexually active?
00:04:31.940 100%.
00:04:32.340 Yeah.
00:04:34.340 Not with themselves.
00:04:37.560 I feel like it's not that much of a high percentage.
00:04:39.900 I feel like it's lower than women's, isn't it? 1.00
00:04:42.320 Yeah.
00:04:42.740 I don't know the percentage, though, but I feel like it's lower than women's.
00:04:44.900 Yeah.
00:04:45.140 What percent of men do you think are sexually active?
00:04:47.540 70.
00:04:48.200 70%.
00:04:49.080 40%.
00:04:49.940 40%.
00:04:50.820 I'd say about 60.
00:04:53.260 I would want to say 102.
00:04:55.060 But I'm going to say 60.
00:04:56.980 60, yeah.
00:04:57.860 Me too.
00:04:59.340 Troy, do you know this stat?
00:05:01.040 How many men are sexually active?
00:05:03.740 God, I'm just being a very bad man-sphere person, aren't I?
00:05:05.780 It's low.
00:05:06.460 It's low, though.
00:05:06.960 Yeah.
00:05:07.360 I'm curious.
00:05:08.480 Can you tell them a little bit about your experience, like, coaching men in dating?
00:05:13.660 Yeah.
00:05:14.080 I mean, so I coach guys.
00:05:15.800 I mean, I create content.
00:05:16.960 I write.
00:05:17.240 But I coach guys to get traction in terms of dating.
00:05:21.660 And the dating marketplace is very tough out there now for everybody.
00:05:25.100 But, you know, a lot of guys, they just really don't get a look at it, you know?
00:05:29.380 And I think there is this misconception.
00:05:30.960 A lot of women think, oh, men are just, you know, that it comes as easily to men as it
00:05:37.720 does to women.
00:05:38.220 And it really doesn't, you know?
00:05:39.400 Because a woman, basically, unless she's irredeemably unattractive for some reason, can pretty much 1.00
00:05:45.440 go out and probably attract somebody that night.
00:05:48.240 You know, there's not a problem.
00:05:49.280 With guys, that's not necessarily the case.
00:05:51.480 Unless they happen to be either, you know, top whatever percentile in terms of looks,
00:05:55.080 or they have social status or they're famous, you know?
00:05:57.160 So a lot of guys sort of who fall below that find it very, very hard to break through.
00:06:02.320 And then when you add on top of that a sort of a lack of social skills or a lack of confidence,
00:06:06.840 a lack of ability to sort of overcome some of the other difficulties they might have.
00:06:11.420 You know, there are guys who are really, really finding it very tough.
00:06:14.760 And we seem to be coming into this environment now where, you know, the rich get richer,
00:06:19.100 the poor get poorer in terms of dating.
00:06:20.660 So the guys who are at the top who are getting traction, they're getting more and more market
00:06:25.900 share, if you like.
00:06:27.140 And then the guys at the bottom are getting less and less.
00:06:28.740 And that's why we've got this issue of guys who are frustrated.
00:06:32.360 And there's, you know, there's sort of the insult thing online and everything like that,
00:06:35.860 you know?
00:06:36.400 So I think it's pretty tough out there for a lot of average sort of dudes, I think.
00:06:41.480 Yeah.
00:06:42.500 One out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past year.
00:06:46.680 Oh, wow.
00:06:47.300 So in here.
00:06:56.760 I don't know.
00:06:57.760 We don't know.
00:06:58.540 I'm not trying to get through it.
00:07:00.300 I'm not trying to.
00:07:01.840 But so it's funny because a lot of girls, like, think that men are pickier than women,
00:07:05.860 but it's actually the opposite.
00:07:06.920 Women are much pickier than men. 1.00
00:07:08.700 I mean, think about out of every 10 men, how many are you really attracted to?
00:07:12.540 Is anyone here, would anyone here say that they're not picky?
00:07:15.160 I'm picky.
00:07:17.580 I'm definitely picky.
00:07:18.900 I think I've become picky over time.
00:07:21.380 Yeah.
00:07:22.740 So then why don't you say that men have higher beauty standards they have to live up to? 1.00
00:07:28.740 Haven't you heard women say they won't date short men? 0.99
00:07:31.200 Would any of you date a guy shorter than them?
00:07:33.540 No.
00:07:34.460 No.
00:07:34.640 I feel like I'm not quite short as it is.
00:07:36.780 So two inches shorter than you, any of you doing it?
00:07:40.740 No.
00:07:41.500 And I like to wear heels.
00:07:42.700 It's not going to work out.
00:07:43.500 Yeah.
00:07:43.940 Yeah, exactly.
00:07:44.640 It's not working out.
00:07:49.120 I think it is tougher for guys.
00:07:50.520 I think looks-wise, it has got tougher for guys.
00:07:52.380 And I think, you know, maybe you could say, well, we've had it coming because the guys were sort of like for a long time.
00:07:58.180 The looks focus was very much on women.
00:08:00.540 But I think now, very much on guys, really.
00:08:03.940 You know, again, look through Instagram, dudes with six packs, chiseled, you know, features, all the rest of it.
00:08:09.580 And the way that social media has worked and the way that the dating apps has worked has meant that women are now looking at these apps and they're looking at all these, like, top guys, you know, top percentile guys are like, oh, that guy's super hot.
00:08:21.060 And then the bloke who doesn't have those attributes doesn't measure up.
00:08:24.640 So she's thinking, well, I want this guy at the top.
00:08:27.140 So now guys are being encouraged to level up, you know, which is not altogether a bad thing, right?
00:08:33.120 Because self-improvement is good for everybody.
00:08:34.660 You know, we should all be doing what we can do to improve ourselves every day, right?
00:08:37.660 But at the same time, I think it has got tougher for guys.
00:08:40.360 And then in a society like here, like in the UK, there's a lot of guys who are very thirsty and, you know, and they will, they will drop their standards, you know?
00:08:51.760 Yeah.
00:08:52.280 Yeah.
00:08:53.880 Sad.
00:08:55.220 How?
00:08:55.980 So do you ever teach guys to, like, cold approach women?
00:08:59.280 Yeah, absolutely.
00:09:00.060 Yeah.
00:09:00.420 Yeah.
00:09:00.680 And what percent of women are receptive, would you say, to, I mean, like, you've been doing this forever, right?
00:09:06.600 Yeah.
00:09:07.000 But there's someone that hasn't.
00:09:08.700 Like, he has to go through how many girls to get a number.
00:09:13.420 It depends.
00:09:15.000 Usual caveats.
00:09:15.760 It depends where it is.
00:09:16.620 You know, there are certain places.
00:09:17.460 Like, if you're in, like, Latin America, it's a lot more people.
00:09:20.180 Maybe Italy as well, actually.
00:09:21.480 I don't know.
00:09:22.420 Maybe not.
00:09:23.240 But, you know, Latin culture is a bit more, like, open.
00:09:25.440 Yeah.
00:09:25.700 They play the card, like, you know, Latin lover. 0.88
00:09:27.960 Yeah.
00:09:28.220 But I don't know.
00:09:28.860 I think it's difficult, though, like, everywhere.
00:09:31.380 But to answer, yeah, yeah, it is.
00:09:33.220 But to answer the question, you have to be prepared to go through a lot of rejection, you know?
00:09:37.840 Like, if you're an average guy and you're going to talk to a woman in a coffee shop or, you know, a bar or bookstore or the grocery store, whatever it is, you know, you are going to go through rejection.
00:09:48.240 In fact, rejection is the rule and the exception really is to get accepted.
00:09:55.140 But that's OK.
00:09:56.240 You know, it's a question of accepting that, being OK with that, being confident and working on yourself every day in order to be the best possible man that you can be.
00:10:03.420 But, yeah, a lot of rejection, for sure, for people.
00:10:07.720 Go ahead.
00:10:08.320 I was going to say, well, at least a man has options.
00:10:10.440 I feel like women, our options are very, very limited.
00:10:13.680 So even if a man is getting rejected, at least he knows, OK, fine, I can find another woman who is maybe, like, a woman that I'm interested in.
00:10:20.240 But for a woman, it's very, very difficult.
00:10:23.080 I feel like the options for men are very, very low.
00:10:24.800 It is not difficult.
00:10:25.720 You just go outside.
00:10:26.880 It's true, but it's like, for me, it's not going to be a guy that I want.
00:10:34.220 But whose fault is that?
00:10:36.580 Isn't that your own fault?
00:10:37.320 Because that's your standard.
00:10:37.940 It's definitely not my fault.
00:10:38.660 I'm not selling it for anybody that I'm not attracted to or I don't want.
00:10:41.740 Absolutely, I agree.
00:10:43.020 We need better options.
00:10:44.320 So, yeah, I think you should keep coaching men to level up.
00:10:46.080 So the men need to level up.
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