JustPearlyThings - Feminism Made Women Toxic

00:00:00.000 And I also, I fell into the boss babe culture for a long time when I was obese and I, and then I started losing weight, but I was still in the boss babe culture.

00:00:06.420 I was like, oh, I don't need a man.

00:00:07.920 Like I'm fine.

00:00:08.680 And it was when I had the daddy issues when I wasn't, I didn't have a good relationship with my father.

00:00:12.320 And it wasn't until I hit my relationship with my father that I was like, oh, okay.

00:00:17.100 I actually, you know, it's really important that I don't have to work like a man. 0.77

00:00:20.760 I was so stressed.

00:00:22.240 I was so anxious all the time.

00:00:23.800 And then I just let it go.

00:00:24.720 It's like, I don't need to do that.

00:00:26.040 My future husband will provide for me.

00:00:27.540 My future husband will do these and I will fall into my feminine roles. 1.00

00:00:29.740 I will cook, I will clean, I will take care of the kids.

00:00:32.060 I'll take care of the house like that.

00:00:33.160 And I'll garden.

00:00:34.380 What did you do?

00:00:34.940 Did you quit your job?

00:00:36.140 No, I just.

00:00:37.080 Oh, okay.

00:00:37.340 I was just curious.

00:00:37.960 Well, I guess I did.

00:00:39.000 It's a total miracle.

00:00:39.660 I just, I flipped two houses last year and I was like, I don't want to do this anymore.

00:00:43.340 So I just decided to stop doing it.

00:00:45.280 That's cold.

00:00:45.800 Oh, wow.

00:00:46.200 It was a miracle though, really.

00:00:47.660 Yeah, because I, no, no, no.

00:00:48.960 No, because I was the boss, right?

00:00:50.780 I had to be the provider.

00:00:52.040 I had to be everything.

00:00:53.240 And you didn't have that example.

00:00:54.540 And I think that's another part of where all the good women have gone inside of this independence, 0.97

00:00:57.760 inside of this confusion, it's fatherless families.

00:01:01.200 And like Pearl was saying earlier, if you don't have the example, how are you supposed

00:01:04.580 to know?

00:01:05.080 And you haven't had the example, Penelope.

00:01:06.900 So it's a miracle, purely.

00:01:09.140 Purely.

00:01:09.520 Yeah, no, it is.

00:01:10.040 And it was like growing up with you as my mom, like you played both roles, the dad and

00:01:13.480 the mom.

00:01:14.260 And so that was very interesting because I grew up thinking, oh, I don't need men. 0.95

00:01:17.740 Like men are terrible.

00:01:18.480 And I even thought my dad's father was terrible, but now he's like my best friend.

00:01:22.020 And I think where the good women are going is they think that it's a bad thing to be feminine. 1.00

00:01:26.220 I think that the mindset of women today feel like I'm like that.

00:01:30.640 And now if you're feminine and traditional online, people are like, you're, you know, 0.97

00:01:33.800 you're not a feminist, you hate women, you are terrible, you are a disgraced society, 1.00

00:01:37.740 you should go die. 1.00

00:01:38.580 And it's like, wait, wait, what? 1.00

00:01:39.860 Like women are the most beautiful things on the planet. 1.00

00:01:41.840 They create human beings.

00:01:43.360 Men cannot create human beings. 1.00

00:01:44.820 So why are women putting women down? 1.00

00:01:46.840 Well, I think it's probably because women want women to fail and see them. 1.00

00:01:50.700 I think, I think it's because we're not supposed to be competing with our mom's generation.

00:01:55.580 Because the thing is like, if you have a 45 year old and you have like a 25 year old girl,

00:02:00.380 it's like a lot of times the guys you might want are the same age.

00:02:03.700 Because women like 45 tend to want guys like, it's like five to seven years younger, 0.99

00:02:08.500 where women 25 want guys five to seven years older, this crossover.

00:02:12.220 And I think bitter older women that don't want you to win will tell you the wrong information. 1.00

00:02:18.180 And, and it's because like, if they're, if they're being a hoe, right? 1.00

00:02:21.740 Like, what's the worst feeling when you take a test and you fail?

00:02:24.640 What's the worst feeling when everyone else succeeded, right?

00:02:28.560 But if you turn around and they say, I failed too, it's like, you feel a little bit better.

00:02:31.880 So it's like these women want other people to be miserable in their negative decisions. 1.00

00:02:36.140 And I've lost hundreds of people because of it, because of succeeding in my relationship

00:02:40.420 and having a healthy relationship with my father, people dislike me because of that.

00:02:43.860 And it's like, why do you hate me for having a healthy relationship with my family?

00:02:47.380 Am I, am I, am I, am I?

00:02:48.500 So would you, would you say, and especially, I'm like, they don't want you to win. 0.97

00:02:51.800 No, they want you to fail, they want you to be divorced, miserable, sad, fat, on your phone, on TikTok, dying.

00:02:58.300 So would you say that this is like, technically just a woman's problem then? 0.99

00:03:02.720 Because it's women that, it's not technically men that put down women, you know?

00:03:05.680 It's women that put down women. 1.00

00:03:06.840 The women trying to be men are hurting the feminine, not the feminine, the beta men, right? 1.00

00:03:12.840 That's hurting beta men.

00:03:14.000 That's why we have beta men.

00:03:15.180 It's because of the masculine women. 1.00

00:03:16.680 Well, I think it becomes a problem because you have 80% of women screwing 20% of men. 1.00

00:03:21.680 So then women don't respect the average guy. 1.00

00:03:23.740 I did a show the other day and like most women said they wouldn't date a bus driver. 1.00

00:03:28.080 They're above a bus driver, average chicks. 1.00

00:03:30.080 And it's why you have average chicks saying they're at the level of a celebrity, no offense. 1.00

00:03:34.340 But like, it's like you have average chicks thinking they're so great when it's like literally you are average, you're average looking, you're an average mindset.

00:03:41.680 Most people are average and men will accept this, but women won't. 1.00

00:03:45.080 It's like an insult for us to be normal.

00:03:47.560 So then you won't see normal women dating normal men. 0.95

00:03:50.740 But do you feel like that is because social media has a lot to play for it?

00:03:54.260 They feel like there's a lot more accessibility.

00:03:55.940 I think it's social media and dating apps.

00:03:58.820 They feel like they've got more accessibility to higher people.

00:04:02.120 I mean, they do.

00:04:03.860 Because the issue nowadays, because this is what made me think about this.

00:04:07.240 I'm like, how would you find a good woman? 1.00

00:04:08.920 And I was thinking about this and I made a chart and I had like the body count of a woman on one hand.

00:04:14.080 And I had the looks of a woman on a one hand. 0.84

00:04:16.800 And so I was like, a woman that's eight to ten with a high or a low body count, good luck keeping her. 1.00

00:04:22.780 Do you know what the list is going to be for a girl that that's like that hot with like, like the competition is crazy.

00:04:28.480 And so it's like you could be dating a woman.

00:04:31.120 And if there's high competition for her, Drake could slide in your girl's DMs.

00:04:35.600 Or maybe it's not Drake.

00:04:36.840 It's the town whoever.

00:04:38.160 Right.

00:04:38.800 And then I was thinking about it and I was like, unless a guy sleeps with a lot of women,

00:04:42.540 how is he going to know the difference between a woman that's been out with everybody and a girl that does it, has it? 0.96

00:04:47.560 They never do.

00:04:48.280 They can't.

00:04:49.360 No, they can't know unless they've been with a lot of girls.

00:04:51.920 And I'm like, it's kind of unfortunate because it's like the only solution for the men seems to be to sleep around,

00:04:58.860 which I don't think is, you know, great for society.

00:05:01.240 But it's like it's women's fault because we're the ones doing the sleeping. 1.00

00:05:04.120 Do you think that men should have more than one woman? 0.98

00:05:06.460 Um, I, I think that it's silly to date certain men and expect monogamy.

00:05:14.740 So I think it's silly to date, say, Jason Derulo, Chris Brown.

00:05:18.460 These are extreme examples, but there's certain men that it's very silly to expect it because he's never been monogamous and they never will be.

00:05:26.000 I think monogamy in general is better for a society.

00:05:29.000 Forget the higher, I'm even talking on average men, normal men on a day to day,

00:05:33.820 because obviously you've said earlier on that there's more women on the earth than men. 1.00

00:05:38.500 Yeah.

00:05:38.720 So on average, how we are naturally, do you think that the average man should have one woman?

00:05:45.240 Um, I think that it's better for society if monogamy is better because you get like a growing, um, having a lot of sex,

00:05:53.440 sexless men, like usually causes society to collapse. 1.00

00:05:57.080 Um, so I think monogamy is better by and large,

00:06:00.040 but I think that a certain percentage of men are always going to be non-monogamous.

00:06:03.820 Um, and that's kind of the way it's been the last like 2 million years.

00:06:06.680 Cause 85%, it's like the last,

00:06:08.840 I don't want to say the, how long it's been like this cause I don't remember off the top of my head,

00:06:12.960 but I know like historically they always,

00:06:15.040 it seems like all of society has been non-monogamous because 17, um,

00:06:19.500 men, um, reproduced for every, uh, one,

00:06:22.760 17 women reproduced for every one man like 8,000 years ago. 0.88

00:06:26.600 And on top of that, there's like two women have always reproduced for every one man, 0.82

00:06:29.460 but it's actually, um, or 40% of men have never reproduced or 40% of men.

00:06:34.820 I'm sorry, I'm butchering this, but, but the 85% of, um,

00:06:39.260 like 85% of society has generally been monogamous where the top 15% of men have just been like slaying.

00:06:44.320 Is it?

00:06:45.140 Yeah.

00:06:45.660 Well, well, okay.

00:06:46.560 You do a lot of stats here.

00:06:48.720 Yeah.

00:06:48.880 I know a lot of average men out here.

00:06:50.840 That's probably not on these stats doing the same thing.

00:06:53.100 And when I say a lot, I'm talking, if you're just talking average men in London,

00:06:57.220 obviously London, I don't know about America and that average in what in sleeping with a lot of women. 1.00

00:07:02.540 No, like average looks, average money.

00:07:05.380 Would you average looks average, average job?

00:07:08.200 Um, I'm, I can even give you examples of, of a few average men that are big in weight and just got normal jobs that are dealing with a lot of women across the board.

00:07:17.840 Um, well there, there's a couple things. 0.52

00:07:19.780 So, I mean, typically again, like there's been studies on dating apps and in, in person where women find 80% of men is ugly. 0.55

00:07:27.640 Not okay.

00:07:28.680 Not average.

00:07:29.360 They think ugly. 0.98

00:07:30.460 He is unattractive. 1.00

00:07:31.820 Ugly. 0.98

00:07:32.360 Would you say the top percentage of men are on these dating apps?

00:07:36.420 Um, yeah, maybe.

00:07:39.040 Yeah.

00:07:39.400 I don't know.

00:07:39.760 I don't, I don't believe so.

00:07:41.060 I think that, I think that if you look at the numbers, social media is the number one.

00:07:49.780 One way people, way people are meeting a hundred percent.

00:07:52.160 So social media and dating apps.

00:07:54.380 And like when you look at, so then the question is if that's where people are meeting, what are the numbers look like in the dating apps?

00:07:59.720 Well, women only swipe right 5% of the time. 1.00

00:08:02.540 So that means on the number one way people are meeting, we're sharing men.

00:08:07.500 A hundred percent.

00:08:07.980 Cause it's always going to be free men.

00:08:09.040 Cause we're the hunters.

00:08:09.880 So we always going to have to.

00:08:11.180 Wait, say that again.

00:08:12.420 It's always going to be men because we're the hunters.

00:08:14.840 We're always going, we're going to be the higher anyway.

00:08:17.000 Do you get what I'm saying?

00:08:17.460 Yeah.

00:08:17.840 But when you're saying the average men that get women, they probably get women over the age of 30 because women tend to go for looks. 0.97

00:08:24.300 And so in their twenties, I fully agree with that.

00:08:26.940 You know why I agree with that?

00:08:27.940 Because I feel like in the twenties, you're a hundred percent right.

00:08:30.540 But between 20 and 30, women are very selective in what they do. 0.99

00:08:33.840 And then when they get to the age of 30, you start wheeling off a lot of stats about pregnancy, geriatry.

00:08:39.420 When they start realizing that.

00:08:41.240 Then they go for the average man.

00:08:42.840 They feel like they can come back to the average man or even go back to a man that was trying to get them when they were 18, 19 and feel like they can go back to them.

00:08:50.020 But obviously with men, it's a bit different because men at 30, we start peaking.

00:08:54.960 We get fed up.

00:08:55.820 So we start, there's a change.

00:08:58.640 You get what I'm saying?

00:08:59.300 Yeah.

00:08:59.440 Yeah.

00:08:59.680 And so that's why I say women pick non-monogamy in their twenties when they have the most leverage. 1.00

00:09:04.380 Yeah.

00:09:04.660 And they pick the 20% of men.

00:09:06.580 Then in their thirties, we tend to pick like the rest basically.

00:09:11.920 And so the issue is like when women cheat, who do they typically cheat with?

00:09:15.840 You guys know?

00:09:16.400 Anyone?

00:09:17.640 Their exes.

00:09:18.520 Correct.

00:09:18.880 A hundred percent.

00:09:19.600 Correct.

00:09:20.660 So the issue that a lot of these guys are getting into, and this is why guys don't like typically, like a lot of guys will say, I don't date women over 30.

00:09:27.060 And it's not a looks thing.

00:09:28.380 It's that if she's 30, like how many relationships has she had?

00:09:32.140 Is one of those guys better than me?

00:09:34.140 And does she want to be with him?

00:09:35.540 And the odds are he probably is because in her twenties, she had more leverage than her 30.

00:09:39.340 So what are the odds in her 30?

00:09:40.420 She can get a better guy than in her twenties. 0.97

00:09:43.100 Likely.

00:09:43.700 Right.

00:09:43.940 And he was probably top 20% of looks.

00:09:46.660 I feel like Slyly when they have that relationship from 20 to 30, there's always that one guy that can always come back.

JustPearlyThings - October 25, 2023

Feminism Made Women Toxic

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