JustPearlyThings - July 16, 2023


Feminist AGREES With This Fact


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9 minutes

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00:00:00.000 Men's attractiveness often increases with age because they tend to make more money as they age and often have larger bank accounts and savings.
00:00:07.320 While generally women's earnings potential withers with their looks, especially if they've had children.
00:00:12.340 The age of 30 is roughly where male and female values intersect and then go in the opposite direction.
00:00:18.420 If a man doesn't get married by the age of 35 or 40, then there's only roughly a 12% chance that he's going to get married from that point forward.
00:00:25.940 Another reason men should go their own way is because of shit tests.
00:00:29.180 Women often test men's ability to be providers and tolerate their horrible behavior.
00:00:34.820 The idea is to turn a man into an obedient broken shell of his former self that walks around saying,
00:00:40.340 Yes dear, all of the time.
00:00:42.240 His spirit has to be broken in many cases so his resources become more easily extracted and he is more malleable.
00:00:48.600 He becomes silly putty in her hands.
00:00:51.060 A woman asking a man to do something over the top is not her being loving or showing love.
00:00:55.720 But instead she's testing him to see if he can be manipulated.
00:00:59.180 And the ironic thing is that women want to manipulate men, but when the manipulation works, they tend to lose interest.
00:01:05.940 Do you think that's true?
00:01:06.980 Yes, a hundred percent.
00:01:10.800 I feel like you have to have that masculine polarity.
00:01:12.800 You're honest.
00:01:13.440 I like that. You're honest.
00:01:13.900 Yeah, like I do feel like you have to have that masculine polarity.
00:01:16.920 They have to be dominant.
00:01:17.700 They have to be in control, stoic.
00:01:20.180 Otherwise you do lose attraction.
00:01:21.660 One hundred percent.
00:01:22.500 And I can't I can't speak for all women.
00:01:24.240 But for me, I feel like I'm very much in my feminine.
00:01:26.980 So I need that masculine polarity.
00:01:29.120 Do you think that women constantly test men's masculinity?
00:01:34.140 Yes, definitely.
00:01:36.020 It's not even conscious, I don't think.
00:01:37.780 No, no.
00:01:38.720 It's like biological, isn't it?
00:01:41.580 Yeah, I don't know.
00:01:42.960 But you want to let you want it.
00:01:44.200 You want to be able to test them to make sure that they're the best option.
00:01:47.020 Do you think that most men lead relationships or most women lead relationships?
00:01:51.880 Like in general?
00:01:52.800 In general.
00:01:53.280 Yeah, probably, probably women most of the time.
00:01:57.020 I'll tell you why I think that is.
00:01:58.700 So if me and you, let's just say we're going to sign a deal.
00:02:01.780 Yeah.
00:02:02.160 And I get paid to leave this deal.
00:02:05.580 Yeah.
00:02:06.020 And you lose everything.
00:02:07.860 Your kids, your house, your money.
00:02:10.560 You're always going to be trying to make me happy.
00:02:12.520 Yeah.
00:02:13.060 So I think the government, the way they've set up marriage has ruined relationships
00:02:17.160 because it puts us at such an advantage over men.
00:02:21.140 Yeah.
00:02:21.460 That unless he's the top guy and we feel like we cannot replace him, we're paid to leave.
00:02:26.600 And I think even a good woman on her worst day with the government paying her to do something bad
00:02:33.520 and all of these options is just going to say, eh, I'm not feeling it anymore.
00:02:40.480 Yeah.
00:02:40.760 Like, honestly, I never, ever thought of it in that way.
00:02:43.300 Like, I always thought of marriage as like this magical thing, like being with husband,
00:02:46.820 my person forever.
00:02:47.700 And I just can't believe that, I can't believe that it is like set up by the government in
00:02:54.120 this way, like it would seem from what you're saying.
00:02:57.440 So this is why I don't think MGTOW is incels.
00:03:00.860 Yeah.
00:03:01.340 I think it's men that were shocked because they married a chick.
00:03:05.720 They didn't know she was in love with her ex, like we talked about, right?
00:03:10.140 And he got the kids, did everything for her.
00:03:13.620 Yeah.
00:03:13.880 Just did everything to make her happy.
00:03:15.660 She's never happy because that means she's leading the relationship, right?
00:03:19.720 Yeah.
00:03:19.900 And then he's completely shocked because he never thought in a million years she would
00:03:27.180 ruin his life.
00:03:27.760 Maybe I'm a MGTOW because I'm shocked right now hearing all of this.
00:03:31.200 Yes.
00:03:31.740 Yes.
00:03:32.460 Yes.
00:03:32.940 And I'll give you an example.
00:03:34.340 So one way the laws, they might not specifically say gender, but the way that it's set up,
00:03:39.600 if a man, okay, basically a lot of times in the US, I don't know if this part's the same
00:03:44.880 here, but in the US, the person that spent the most time with the kids is awarded custody.
00:03:50.240 Right.
00:03:50.700 Now on paper, that sounds right.
00:03:52.840 Yeah.
00:03:53.360 However, what if the man spent the most time with the kids?
00:03:56.960 Then would he still be awarded the custody?
00:03:58.380 Well, they say, why aren't you providing for your family like you're supposed to?
00:04:02.000 Really?
00:04:02.740 So, yes.
00:04:03.880 What, they actually say that?
00:04:05.340 Yes.
00:04:05.940 Yes.
00:04:06.580 In court, yes.
00:04:07.680 Well, that seems very unfair.
00:04:09.320 And that's the problem.
00:04:11.300 We want men to protect and provide, right?
00:04:13.820 Yeah.
00:04:13.980 Yet, in divorce court, they're punished for it.
00:04:16.440 Because if they do the right thing and provide for their family-
00:04:19.380 Then they're spending less time with the kids.
00:04:21.760 And you see how it's like the men are like, what are we supposed to do?
00:04:24.720 But the lawyers certainly will spin it in court if he spent the most time with the kids.
00:04:30.240 I mean, come on.
00:04:31.060 Like, we're all going to kind of look at him like a loser a bit.
00:04:33.920 You would.
00:04:34.580 Even if it's not in law, subconsciously, you're wondering, well, why didn't you work more so
00:04:41.240 she could stay-
00:04:42.040 Right?
00:04:42.280 We're all thinking it.
00:04:43.140 Like, let's just, you know, let's just be honest.
00:04:45.180 So, that's why I say feminists, we cannot be equal.
00:04:48.360 Right.
00:04:48.800 Because we will always be below.
00:04:51.180 Right.
00:04:52.200 But wait, why does that mean that we're below?
00:04:53.980 Why does that mean that we're below?
00:04:54.420 Because we cannot do what men do.
00:04:56.080 We cannot work the hours that men work.
00:04:57.940 Yeah.
00:04:58.020 We cannot build the societies that men build.
00:05:01.280 Yeah.
00:05:01.400 We can, I just don't think we can do what men do.
00:05:04.580 Right.
00:05:05.000 Okay.
00:05:05.260 We can offer value in a different way.
00:05:07.260 Yeah.
00:05:07.560 But the only way we get to offer the most value to society, which I believe is being a wife
00:05:12.020 and a mother.
00:05:12.540 Yeah.
00:05:12.920 Would you agree with that?
00:05:13.640 But I, yeah, I would in some respects.
00:05:17.060 Yeah.
00:05:17.400 So, the only, the only way we can do that is if the men let us.
00:05:22.780 Yeah.
00:05:23.600 Therefore, and the only way we can build a career is if the men let us build a career.
00:05:29.480 Everything we do, we have to ask the men to let us do.
00:05:33.240 We cannot be safe in society without saying, men, please keep us safe.
00:05:37.260 We cannot go to work without saying, men, build these companies so I can climb up the
00:05:41.260 ladder.
00:05:42.080 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:05:42.540 So, by this logic, we cannot be equal because everything we do, we have to say to the men,
00:05:47.440 can we do it?
00:05:48.780 Therefore, they must be above us.
00:05:52.060 It's okay.
00:05:52.800 Take it.
00:05:53.260 Take it in.
00:05:54.240 I couldn't, the reason I came to this conclusion was for months, I couldn't think of one thing
00:05:59.680 that women did better.
00:06:00.760 No, because you are, you are so logical, like that is such a logical point.
00:06:04.860 It's just, it's just really hard for me to wrap my head around because I've just always
00:06:08.360 thought, you know, that we are equal and that we do provide value in different ways.
00:06:12.260 And, you know, even if that maybe isn't the equal value or whatever, I still think that
00:06:17.060 it is just as important as each other.
00:06:19.100 Yes.
00:06:19.360 I think that women are absolutely important.
00:06:21.860 We absolutely need women.
00:06:23.460 But the way we are today, I just don't think offers value as a society.
00:06:27.700 I'm not saying I'm better than anybody.
00:06:29.320 Do you think it's maybe because women haven't had the opportunity to do those kind of jobs
00:06:34.100 or whatever that the men are doing that makes them be superior?
00:06:37.320 Do you think it's because they don't get the same opportunities as men?
00:06:39.700 No, I think we've had plenty, like to the point that governments have grants to get women
00:06:44.080 in engineering.
00:06:44.960 Yeah.
00:06:45.500 But then how many women do you feel like are comfortable going into like a male dominated
00:06:50.140 environment?
00:06:50.760 I actually think, I think it's really mean to push women into these environments.
00:06:54.420 Yeah.
00:06:55.000 I actually think because the government.
00:06:56.180 Because I mean, it's like, you know, you walk past a construction site and get catcalled.
00:06:58.800 How many women are then going to want to go and work on one?
00:07:01.420 No, that's actually not why I think it's mean.
00:07:03.700 I think women, come on, if they stopped catcalling us tomorrow, we'd kind of miss it.
00:07:08.540 You miss male attention a little bit.
00:07:11.860 You miss it.
00:07:12.260 Not from like a disgusting six-year-old man.
00:07:13.780 What if he was hot?
00:07:15.620 Yeah.
00:07:15.980 Ah, see, see, see, see.
00:07:18.900 No, but still, no, I think that's not the way to approach women.
00:07:21.840 Like, I don't agree with that.
00:07:22.540 If Brad Pitt approached you like that, you would not.
00:07:25.140 I wouldn't care.
00:07:26.840 It's all based on if he's a trap.
00:07:28.500 You know it is.
00:07:29.540 I feel like it's the way in which they approach you.
00:07:31.840 Like, if a guy's whistling at you, like, I'm not a dog.
00:07:33.860 Don't approach me like that.
00:07:34.660 I mean, if it's Brad Pitt, I'm like, you know what, I'll say.
00:07:38.620 But, okay, I forgot what we were talking about before that.
00:07:41.820 It was, got me distracted.
00:07:43.280 Sorry, yeah, I've gone on a tangent, haven't I?
00:07:44.780 You were saying women in engineering.
00:07:45.960 Oh, I think it's really mean that feminists push women into these fields and say,
00:07:50.480 you can do anything a man can do.
00:07:52.360 Do you know what?
00:07:52.640 I think that's something that always confused me about me being a feminist because I feel
00:07:56.100 like I've always, like, my mom was a housewife and my dad, like, has his business
00:07:59.740 and work so that she could look after her.
00:08:01.220 She had a career before, but then she gave that up to look after me and my brother,
00:08:04.240 which I am so grateful for, that I had, you know, my mom around all the time.
00:08:07.900 That was amazing.
00:08:08.700 And I've always wanted to do that.
00:08:10.100 You know, when I have children, I would want to be a housewife.
00:08:12.660 I love to cook and clean.
00:08:13.820 Like, I feel like, I don't think I'm a traditional woman at all, but I feel like in some kind
00:08:18.300 of sense, I have quite traditional, like...
00:08:19.700 I can hear it in your voice on the show.
00:08:22.540 Yeah, like, I have quite traditional, like, views about marriage and things like that,
00:08:26.120 I guess.
00:08:26.340 Is it just me, Kig?
00:08:27.320 Like, I can almost hear when women have fathers and their voices.
00:08:30.680 Yeah.
00:08:31.700 Not as much as...
00:08:33.380 Just by the way you guys, like, talk.
00:08:35.660 But I think what feminists will do is say, hey, young girls that are impressionable, right?
00:08:41.860 Because, you know, you can be convinced of anything at, like, 10.
00:08:44.580 Oh, definitely, yeah.
00:08:45.220 So, you tell them, hey, you can do anything a guy can do.
00:08:48.660 Go be an engineer.
00:08:49.900 Here's a grant.
00:08:50.780 We're really pushing women.
00:08:52.240 And then the women go do it, and they hate it.
00:08:54.360 Yeah.
00:08:54.940 I just feel like I wasn't made for that, like, 9 to 5, like, hardworking life, which I'll
00:08:59.100 happily admit, like, maybe I'm lazy.
00:09:00.520 I don't know.
00:09:00.860 I was just made to, you know, have my own business and do my own thing.
00:09:03.760 I'm a lot happier, more comfortable, you know, being at home with my dog and doing that.
00:09:07.560 Then I am going out to work.
00:09:08.940 It gives me such bad anxiety.
00:09:10.240 It makes my mental health terrible.
00:09:11.740 Thank you for admitting.
00:09:13.340 Women do not want to do hard jobs.
00:09:17.160 I don't either.
00:09:18.100 I do not want to do construction.
00:09:20.000 None of that.
00:09:20.460 No, I could never do that.
00:09:21.400 Correct.
00:09:21.820 And so, like, if we're talking to the women and none of us want to do it, is it maybe it's
00:09:25.960 not a patriarchy or an oppression.
00:09:28.940 It's just we don't want to do it.
00:09:30.440 Yeah.