Feminist Doesn't Like Pearl's List
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the things that men are looking for in a woman and what they don't want. We also discuss what we should stop saying to men and how to say them to them. We also talk about toxic masculinity and toxic men.
Transcript
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A couple months ago, I made a list of the things that us as women should stop doing.
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Now, this is not to say that I am perfect and have never said anything on this list.
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However, I just felt like this was a very, very good list.
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So this is the things that men look for, basically, or don't want.
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It's like want, don't want kind of a combination.
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Your hobbies cannot be going to the bar every weekend and going out all the time looking like a hoe.
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Men want women that work hard but not too hard and at the right things.
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They do not want a girl that wants a career more than a family.
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Equals, I want to do no work and still get the outcome I want.
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Equals, I like cheaters and toxic men and I will choose them and be toxic as well and not
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admit my part that I had any part to play except quote unquote giving too much.
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I make the same mistakes that my parents make and I'm too dumb to learn from their mistakes
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and instead I will make the same mistakes but blame it on them.
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Equals, I take no accountability for the negative part that myself or any women play in relationships.
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I feel like I'm a traditional when I am single.
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I will be submissive for the right man who hurt you.
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He needs to add to what I have going on in my life.
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Not all women equals that is a problem with women, but I won't admit it's a problem.
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So if you guys have anything you want to add to it, you know, feel free.
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Get in the bedroom and drop your pants before you go to work.
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Well, you know, we can add more if you have things you want to add.
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I think that whatever you say, honey, that's the only thing.
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It can be a little bit like, oh, you know, like, oh, I have to do it again.
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If you're with the right woman, that won't happen.
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If you're with the right woman, if you're with the right man, that won't happen.
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I think women that say this, because I hear this a lot, it typically means I am disagreeable
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Or like something, like I like bums, basically, is the other, like, it's like a trend.
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Well, some women pick men who are, I think for their character too, I don't want to say that
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because then you're going to be like feminine, masculine.
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No, like, too, you know, like, she's not feminine enough.
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So she's in her feminine most of the time, but sometimes she's like, oh.
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Yeah, I knew you were going to pick that up, girl.
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It's like these women that go on Instagram and they'll say, oh, I'm a feminine.
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But like, it's like, I'm now a femininity coach.
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So if you look at, like, men's improvement, it's very practical.
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So it's very much like go to the gym, screw a bunch of girls so you know how to, or do,
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you know, like, I don't even, there's an ex-corn star that's been on my show.
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But like, and, or they'll do, like, go to the gym, make more money.
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I've only had one, like, femininity coach give me, like, real concrete steps that isn't just,
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Actually, I have something to say about feminine, feminine, feminine coaches.
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They tell you be creative, like, focus on things that make you tap into the woman,
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Like, try to, for, I've been in touch with some of them.
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They tell you, like, listen to music, dance, or create something with, like, a painting,
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And to me, this sounds like nothing useful to a guy.
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There's only been one femininity coach that, like, actually talked about real stuff.
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And she helped me write most of these, like, words to add.
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In the short term, it might seem that it's not helping.
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But imagine on the long term, rather than a woman being in her, as I say, masculine energy,
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She learns to be submissive, but, like, step by step.
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First of all, by tapping into these skills, then to be comfortable just doing, even something
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They tell you cooking makes you tap into your feminine energy more and more.
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I think cooking, yeah, I don't think cooking's bad.
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I agree that it shouldn't matter, but we need these now because a lot of women and
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You know, what's your natural state as a woman?
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I don't know, because I get really confused, because I hear these, like, women talk about
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But, like, our great grandmothers really didn't have a soft life.
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They were milking, like, at least I'm from the U.S., they were milking cows.
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When you ask where all the women, good women, went, I mean, to me, they went to confusion
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And this confusion is a diffused awareness, because of the primal nature, right?
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And a woman is diffused, because she only has a certain amount of daylight hours to get
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She can do it way quicker than a man, apparently.
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And so it is kind of obtuse and broad when we think about how we go back into our feminine
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So we're not, you know, in this CEO role of our families, of our relationships, of our
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And then we got to come home and then deal with the reality of like, you know, being
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a partner, which is a totally different energy.
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Like, yeah, you got to get the meal on the table.
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And my grandmother and my mother, they worked really hard as homemakers.
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But my generation and our generation now, that's very, it's a lot of confusion.
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She made a tune called Single Ladies, all of these things with a ring on her finger.
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From the 90s, to be honest, you'll say you're right.
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From the 90s, 2000s, whatever, there's been a lot of independence, independence, do your
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Someone said modern day gathering has turned into shopping.
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Yeah, but why do you think women are having burnout, endocrine disruption, cancer, depression?
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I mean, there's all these issues with women's health because they're trying to be a man.
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He said women and men don't handle stress the same, and it really messes up our hormones
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If you stay in your feminine energy and you come home and you look after your partner,
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your man is going to want to look after and do everything in his power to make sure you're
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Like, as long as you stay in your feminine and you look after that man, he's going to
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do everything for you, regardless, like, naturally.
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But earlier with what I was saying, if you're not showing certain things to him, he's going
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But if he sees you're making effort, like, even cooking, cooking, if you want to get through