JustPearlyThings - October 16, 2023


Feminists Never Talk About This!


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

198.81816

Word Count

1,929

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

13

Hate Speech Sentences

6


Summary

In this episode we talk about mental health, depression and how it affects us all and how we can tackle it. We also talk about our own experiences with depression and talk about the impact it can have on our mental health.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 guys think that lucy let be um was killing literally killing children for attention
00:00:05.360 i think that's disgusting like it's something that the bigger picture is like it's something
00:00:11.580 that should never have been swept underneath the rug like fair enough doctors do kill people by
00:00:17.020 accident sometimes by giving them wrong medication or you know diagnosing them or something but
00:00:21.560 realistically like why would you not want to take somebody else's health so much more seriously
00:00:28.720 and sweep that underneath the rug so seven's just too much how did that's what i was gonna say how
00:00:33.940 did that go on for so long for so long i think because she was a woman no i don't think it is
00:00:39.580 sweet and innocent i just think it's the it's the eyes like she just looks so innocent and no i i
00:00:44.520 know she probably did more for the hospital as well but someone said she looked like my cousin
00:00:49.100 i was like god damn it guys can um can someone fill me in i don't watch the news oh there is um a woman
00:00:56.740 who her name was lucy let be and she got arrested for killing seven children um or babies yeah she
00:01:03.480 was a nurse all at the same time um no it was over the course of a couple years but they found out she
00:01:09.020 was dating a doctor like a married doctor and they they think she was killing the babies to get his
00:01:13.600 attention how um i she injected them with like something okay yeah it was like the wrong it's for
00:01:20.260 he's attention yeah because he would like he would he would like help her with them when they would go
00:01:25.700 down south or whatever oh yeah yeah no but i think social media has made us insane
00:01:33.380 yeah especially because we pay more attention to it yeah well i think it's like we're all just so
00:01:38.700 addicted to it and it's like when when the social media and i really think there's going to be women
00:01:43.720 with a lot of mental health issues in like 10 years because i think when the attention like
00:01:48.780 they're less attractive they get older and it's like when the attention starts to go i just think
00:01:53.200 a lot of women are going to go nuts i think that's how we see life though we see other people's lives
00:01:57.460 we see snippets of happiness and that's what we kind of chase and that's not how everyone's life is
00:02:02.660 yeah we've got to learn to live in the moment more and just spend days off for social media completely
00:02:07.600 and just appreciate what you have like your family your home you know the small things
00:02:12.060 i think everyone i think everyone needs therapy yeah that's true oh no i think that makes you
00:02:17.440 worse no i feel like i feel like i disagree with you i felt the best cause of action for this is
00:02:23.480 just a throwaway you found well i actually this actually this wouldn't help me personally but
00:02:31.860 sometimes i'm like you had a brick knocking right now you'll be so much now hear me out here
00:02:36.100 ban women exactly ban women off of social media it makes us too crazy i think the men can kind
00:02:42.040 handle it is this next t-shirt what is this the next t-shirt well you know i don't want to push
00:02:46.940 this one too much i make money off of it but i was like you know i think that might be a net good
00:02:52.600 but i was like we would find a way back on you can you can keep us off but okay therapy you think
00:02:58.480 it's a good thing um yes yes it's definitely changed my view on life okay why how um i've had a
00:03:07.500 i've had a really rough upbringing abusive background um dad used to beat me um my mom
00:03:13.160 was an alcoholic um and i had like six years of therapy and i always used to see my glasses like
00:03:20.500 half empty rather than half full so what did you see before like what was the difference between you
00:03:26.960 six years like it's hard to explain it but i used to see everything as black and white
00:03:31.700 like the world was just black and white and now it's sort of got its color back so now i can see
00:03:37.560 things in a positive light which is it was really difficult before and um you know like when you tell
00:03:45.360 people that they just don't get it until they experience it um which is like depression and just
00:03:50.860 sadness just general sadness um but i think therapy helped me understand why things happened
00:03:56.760 and how things happened so the why's and the who's so all the questions that i've got
00:04:02.840 over the six years of therapy really helped me understand who i am who my uh my my parents are
00:04:10.840 um why they did the things they did and why i am why i am and why i make decisions so there was
00:04:18.160 loads of questions answered which now helped me navigate moving forward in life just just day-to-day
00:04:26.220 things just i can now understand why everything is happening and i can change it actively if i want
00:04:33.900 to therapy literally saved my life yeah what were we saying i saved my life too what what was your
00:04:41.260 experience so um i went through about a depression um i just saw earlier this year bring the mic up um
00:04:48.220 um and yeah i made an attempt on my life and from there i went into therapy and um yeah changed the
00:04:58.000 way i see things changed the way i am yeah yeah yeah it's not a competition but i've made like six
00:05:03.440 attempts on my life yeah oh wow yeah so if it's competition you win so thank you i'll tell you i'll tell you
00:05:12.120 why i i don't believe in therapy yeah now i i think there's an individual have you had yeah and i
00:05:18.240 thought i was stupid how long did you do it for like a couple sessions and i was like it was stupid
00:05:23.020 exactly because you didn't give no no that's why let me let me let me let me explain why and then
00:05:28.280 you can you can rebuttal so if you look into the history of psychology it was started by some of these
00:05:33.840 big families um and i i really think it's just usually a way to make men more feminine
00:05:39.260 and and teach them how to communicate like women in general and i think you can see this because
00:05:44.080 90 of therapists are women and i actually went to school for psychology and those bitches are crazy
00:05:50.780 i'm like if these are the women that are telling everyone how to think oh my god now i do think
00:05:56.100 there's individual therapists that are good um usually men i don't think it's like i just think
00:06:00.520 women don't look to solve problems they look to they look to like hear you and listen to you
00:06:05.780 but not not necessarily solve problems so the therapists that i do think are good are typically
00:06:10.600 men not typically women which is only 10 percent of therapists so and usually what what i find is
00:06:18.380 that especially chicks will go to therapists for years and then learn all these like think everybody's
00:06:24.020 a narcissist think everyone's toxic in their life and i really think therapy has replaced what used to
00:06:29.780 be a strong family structure because you used to be able to go to like someone in your household
00:06:34.660 in order to like fix problems but the issue is we have such a fucked up like family structure right
00:06:40.040 now that people don't have families to go to and they go to a stranger instead and i think it would
00:06:45.680 be better if we could go to families instead of go outside of it okay but you do know like there's
00:06:51.920 different types of therapies like there's speak therapy there's music therapy like there's different
00:06:57.060 forms of that which could help i i think there's individual instant i think male therapists are decent
00:07:03.360 like i think i think i think i think some of my best therapists have been male yeah i just i just find
00:07:08.040 that women are most of like most therapists it's like 90 percent are women and i just don't think
00:07:13.440 women look to solve problems they just look to like listen which which is fine but i i just think
00:07:19.460 that it like you said like if you don't have that family correct unit yeah um who do you turn to
00:07:25.820 do you know what i mean but now i'm more open to speak to friends i'm more open to speak to i'm i can speak
00:07:31.600 strangers about how what i've been through yeah because you've spoke to a therapist um yeah it
00:07:37.720 helped me open up to to people and things but you see that's like a more feminine trait and that's why
00:07:43.600 i say i think therapy like typically makes men into women more feminine because because either that
00:07:48.640 will be dead you know i'm not saying it doesn't help in some instances so you know i'm not trying
00:07:54.720 to like knock yours no no no no no i'm fine but i've just i've just found that like i think that
00:08:00.020 therapy tells men to emote like women because typically like women are the ones that need to
00:08:05.620 talk about their problems to feel better yeah where men don't you know they'll like fight it out or like
00:08:11.240 you know just in general right you think that that's good i i think that making someone into
00:08:16.960 something they're not as bad and i think making men into women is bad and we've always been told that
00:08:21.640 the feminine way to do things is good okay so i'd like to add um typically i would say instead of
00:08:28.960 therapy what people should seek out is mentorship so you want someone that would teach you how to
00:08:34.460 attack problems in life and how to build on positive steps each day so the reason why a lot of people
00:08:41.380 fall into depression is usually for a few reasons one things are not going right in their life or they
00:08:47.460 don't have direction that is usually the reason why people fall into depression so if you have
00:08:51.420 someone that can show you steps okay you know what today go to the gym even when you don't feel
00:08:55.500 like going to the gym still do it they push you you go over time you tend to build up small wins and
00:09:01.900 then with each small win you build up character yeah so this is the thing a lot of men these days fall
00:09:07.980 into the trap of going to therapy when you should actually be seeking mentors because as men we get
00:09:15.280 our source of strength and our source of motivation from actually um building things making um little
00:09:23.380 successes here and there so you can't just sit in a room and be talking about your feelings and expect
00:09:27.980 that i mean it could help it could work for some people yeah a lot of people it doesn't actually work
00:09:32.440 yeah i think it's better for people if not just even men both men and women to focus on
00:09:37.980 doing things day by day and getting small wins and that way you can come out of anything