@FreshFitMiami DEBATE Millionaire On Girls Night Out
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Summary
In this episode, the guys talk about how important it is to have boundaries in a relationship and how to deal with a woman who wants to go out on a date but doesn t want to go to a club with her friends.
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So another podcast that talks about checking women constantly is Fresh and Fit.
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Now, guys, I will tell you, when I first started listening to Fresh and Fit,
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they would trigger me a lot because I just thought they were so rude,
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so disrespectful to the women that came on the show until I got into their shoes.
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And I realized, God damn, women will disrespect you 10 times.
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And I realized that women will whine and whine and whine.
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And I'm not even saying I've never done this in my life.
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But we live in a society that men can never check women for their behavior without being called toxic, manipulative, controlling.
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So it's funny because they used to kind of trigger me when I would watch them until I got red-pilled and I realized they're right about a lot of things.
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So at what point, though, does trust factor into that?
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Like, let's say her friends getting married or, I don't know, her friends celebrating a birthday.
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At what point does trust play into that where it's like you don't want to tell them, no, don't go and hang out with your friends because you're going to a club.
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I mean, to me, that just seems like a little mistake.
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The only thing you can control is what you do and how you respond.
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She's going out with her friends celebrating a birthday party.
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You would tell her, no, you can't go to that because you're going to a club.
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I would tell her, you can go and do whatever you do, but you'll be single when you return.
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Why would that make sense to throw out a relationship like that that otherwise is good?
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Because if she respects you, she wouldn't have went in the first place.
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But that seems like more like an ultimatum that you're placing on it.
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She's completely free to do whatever she wants because the thing is, is that she's putting
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the, she's putting the relationship in a risky situation.
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I will say in general, nightclubs are for meeting other people.
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So you know how many girls get looking at mommy, have boyfriends and be like, yo, boyfriend,
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Before you know it, there's a gang of guys in there, in their room.
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I refuse to give a woman the comfort of security with me as her boyfriend while she can simultaneously
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I have boundaries and standards and this is what it comes with it.
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Because the thing is, is that if a girl truly respects you, she's not going to want to go
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She's not going to want to be around her friends that want to go ahead and do all this extra
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Like she's not going to want to behave like she's single when she's with a man that she
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And my thing is, if she wants to go to the club, that's cool.
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But you no longer are in a relationship with me because I'm not going to look stupid sitting
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at home while you go out and behave like you're single.
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That's the, this is the first point I actually would say.
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I think, look, if you trust your partner and you trust their friends, because also it's
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you, your due diligence as your, you know, your partner's partner to get to know her friends
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and to understand who she likes hanging out with, because she probably wants that too.
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And if you can trust everybody and they're all going out to the club and she wants to have
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a good time, I feel like there's nothing wrong with that.
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But if you set this, not ultimatum, but if you make this apparent in the boundary, this
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boundary apparent in the beginning of the relationship, such as, Hey, if we're dating,
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Uh, would you do me the respect of not going to the club?
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I think that's fine because that's just a preference at that point.
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And I think all preferences are probably, you ever been to a club?
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That is one of the potential outcomes, but that's not a one-to-one ratio.
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Here's, here's, I think this is where the disconnect is.
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I think you guys grossly underestimate like how easy it is for women to get sex.
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And since it's easy for women to get sex, the threshold for them to cheat is also easier
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That doesn't mean they always want sex though, because it's always available.
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But here's my thing, I look at it, if your girl is outdressed provocatively and seeking
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And some people might look at me like, whoa, what do you mean?
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A man has to actually go out there, put his nuts on the line, talk to a girl to initiate
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Men show their charisma, women show their bodies.
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How would that be any different from a guy driving down with a Bentley convertible with
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You still have to put in work to get that girl.
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Even though the Bentley and the watch, all it does, it gives you another 20 seconds to
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Even let's say you got a Bentley and a nice watch and everything else like that.
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But a girl, on the other hand, she could go into a club and go, ah, and dudes will still
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But if you go into a club, ah, you're going to go to jail.
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I think if you do that with confidence, you walk up to, ah, dude.
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They're going to be like, ah, that's what you are.
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She will be attracted to that because that is who you are.
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But the thing is that people hate this, but the reality is there is a double standard.
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There's behaviors that are completely unacceptable for women, and there's behaviors that are
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And my thing is, is that women get mad at double standards that don't benefit them.
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Do you notice how guys that are more blue pill always use partner in their language?
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Because again, they're on a more egalitarian model.
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And I really think, I was trying to think of a similar equivalent of a woman going to
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And I was thinking maybe a man on a dating app, but even that isn't the same.
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Because again, you're putting a girl in a situation where men, like you're basically
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saying, go to this club where 50 men are going to try to sleep with you at the same
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Like, why do women feel entitled to acting the same way in a relationship as you do single?
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And it's interesting because we expect men to change when they're single.
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Like, I don't think most women want their guy going to a strip club.
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They don't want their guy, you know, going on boys trips.
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Like, my question is, if this is a woman, you want to be a wife and a mother.
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Why does she want to be in the club while dating you?
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They don't really have a firm grasp on female nature.
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And I used to I used to find this a little offensive.
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So I kind of understand, like, when you first hear it, it sounds triggering, triggering.
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But it's like, women, we are so easy to to propagate like they elites have known this
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Women, if you just tell us things like get in our ear, you can literally convince us of
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I mean, look, we could be anything because of feminism.
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Feminism said women, you can do whatever you want.
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And a lot of us just decided to go be hoarse that that was the best outcome.
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And it shows in the data, like women are much more likely to get divorced when their friends
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There's a reason that we follow fashion trends, right?
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And if you get the wrong group of women, the wrong chick in her ear, women just kind of
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And the point that Myron is making is that why would you put a girl in a situation that
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Like, why would you allow a woman to constantly put herself in situations that compromise her
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There's nothing wrong with getting to know her friends.
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But if her friends want to go to the club all of the time, what does that say about her?
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And I think a wise woman limits, you know, the type of friends she brings around.
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And the friends understand that you're not going to move the same way in a relationship
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I mean, he doesn't flat out say this, but again, it's, it's that the woman should follow
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his lead and a girl that is going to be in a relationship with him has to operate under
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And I think that relationships would be more successful if men had this mindset.
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But the problem is we tell men that they should just accept anything in a relationship
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that a woman can act exactly the same in a relationship as she does single.
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And it's like, if a girl goes to a club, she's going to have a bunch of dudes hitting on her.
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If a guy goes to a club, like, I mean, he might get eyes.
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I mean, some of y'all's mothers maybe did do this.
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Imagine our grandmothers and our great grandmothers arguing for their right to go to the club.
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And that's what we've convinced the men to defend us for doing.
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And the whole point is a woman may be a good woman, but even a good woman around the wrong
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And it's kind of, it's the guy's responsibility if she's operating under his rules to really
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protect us from ourselves, to be honest, because we just like get around a group of people.
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We get the wrong social media thrown at us and we just think things and start believing
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Now, I don't say this to be mean, but guys, it's just when you interview hundreds of women
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Like, where did we get this idea that the men are the abusers?
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Where did we get this idea that women are equal to men?
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It's very clear when we look around in real life and who runs and operates society.
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Still in our head, these men are these abusers, these gray fist when it's not real.
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But what they'll do is they'll just get in our ear and they'll do it in school.
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They'll take over our institutions with all the studies and say, this is a study that says
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Like, all of this craziness is following the woman's lead.
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And I think evolutionarily, like, we had to fit in in order to survive.
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Maybe your girlfriend should just go to the club.
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Send her to the club and have a happy, healthy relationship.
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Well, guys, to conclude today, let your chick go to the club.
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Also, women have very valid reasons for divorce.
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Pearl's just a big meanie who just doesn't know what she's talking about.
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But let me know what you guys think in the comments.