JustPearlyThings - July 23, 2023


@FreshFitMiami DEBATE Millionaire On Girls Night Out


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In this episode, the guys talk about how important it is to have boundaries in a relationship and how to deal with a woman who wants to go out on a date but doesn t want to go to a club with her friends.

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00:00:00.000 So another podcast that talks about checking women constantly is Fresh and Fit.
00:00:06.620 Now, guys, I will tell you, when I first started listening to Fresh and Fit,
00:00:11.260 they would trigger me a lot because I just thought they were so rude,
00:00:14.940 so disrespectful to the women that came on the show until I got into their shoes. 0.90
00:00:21.440 Life is funny.
00:00:22.640 I swear life is funny.
00:00:24.300 And then I started doing what they did.
00:00:27.360 I did a live show like them. 0.99
00:00:30.000 And I realized, God damn, women will disrespect you 10 times. 1.00
00:00:34.840 You check them once and they play victim. 1.00
00:00:37.620 You check them once and you're the bad guy.
00:00:40.960 You're the big meanie.
00:00:42.400 And I realized that women will whine and whine and whine. 1.00
00:00:46.640 And I'm not even saying I've never done this in my life.
00:00:49.880 I probably have.
00:00:50.960 But we live in a society that men can never check women for their behavior without being called toxic, manipulative, controlling.
00:00:58.500 So it's funny because they used to kind of trigger me when I would watch them until I got red-pilled and I realized they're right about a lot of things.
00:01:07.420 So at what point, though, does trust factor into that?
00:01:10.140 Like, let's say her friends getting married or, I don't know, her friends celebrating a birthday.
00:01:15.400 There's 15 of her friends going out.
00:01:17.080 She wants to join.
00:01:18.100 Yeah.
00:01:18.380 At what point does trust play into that where it's like you don't want to tell them, no, don't go and hang out with your friends because you're going to a club.
00:01:23.680 I mean, to me, that just seems like a little mistake.
00:01:25.220 Well, I say you can't control a girl. 1.00
00:01:27.840 You obviously can't do that.
00:01:28.820 You're not going to tell.
00:01:29.120 You're going to stay inside.
00:01:30.080 The only thing you can control is what you do and how you respond.
00:01:33.320 You want to go?
00:01:33.980 Cool.
00:01:34.420 You're single when you come back.
00:01:35.640 But there's got to be a line here, right?
00:01:39.720 No, that's not manipulation at all.
00:01:41.840 That's having boundaries and not acting on it.
00:01:43.440 Let's just say that example.
00:01:44.320 Well, hold on.
00:01:44.760 Hold on.
00:01:45.780 Let me give my example.
00:01:46.660 Sure.
00:01:46.960 Go ahead.
00:01:47.680 One-year relationship.
00:01:49.640 She's going out with her friends celebrating a birthday party.
00:01:52.300 Sure.
00:01:52.640 Girl thing. 0.75
00:01:53.280 Fifteen girls are going to be there. 1.00
00:01:54.880 She's known them forever.
00:01:56.040 You would tell her, no, you can't go to that because you're going to a club.
00:01:59.600 I would tell her, you can go and do whatever you do, but you'll be single when you return.
00:02:04.080 But why?
00:02:05.000 Why would that make sense to throw out a relationship like that that otherwise is good?
00:02:08.300 Because if she respects you, she wouldn't have went in the first place.
00:02:10.580 But that seems like more like an ultimatum that you're placing on it.
00:02:13.680 It's not an ultimatum.
00:02:14.220 She has a choice to make.
00:02:15.040 Okay.
00:02:15.340 But that's an ultimatum.
00:02:16.460 No, no, it's like, no, no, no, she can do it.
00:02:19.240 She's completely free to do whatever she wants because the thing is, is that she's putting
00:02:22.580 the, she's putting the relationship in a risky situation. 0.67
00:02:24.660 Why?
00:02:25.000 Why would she be, don't you?
00:02:27.100 Would you trust her?
00:02:28.240 Because let's be honest here.
00:02:29.220 What are nightclubs for?
00:02:30.640 Well, here's the thing.
00:02:31.460 So I will say general.
00:02:33.060 Oh.
00:02:33.720 Okay.
00:02:34.240 All right.
00:02:35.260 I will say in general, nightclubs are for meeting other people.
00:02:40.680 So you know how many girls get looking at mommy, have boyfriends and be like, yo, boyfriend, 1.00
00:02:45.240 we didn't even know.
00:02:45.880 It's like legit, bro.
00:02:47.600 It's funny.
00:02:48.560 Bachelorette parties, bro.
00:02:49.660 Oh my God.
00:02:50.380 Yeah.
00:02:50.720 Come to Miami.
00:02:51.480 It's crazy.
00:02:51.880 A bunch of girls.
00:02:52.420 Oh, they're just chilling by themselves.
00:02:54.140 Before you know it, there's a gang of guys in there, in their room.
00:02:56.440 And I'm just saying, bro, things happen. 0.99
00:02:58.440 So don't be dumb about it. 0.97
00:02:59.720 Be smart about it. 0.99
00:03:00.040 Here's the thing.
00:03:00.440 Here's the thing.
00:03:00.760 I refuse to give a woman the comfort of security with me as her boyfriend while she can simultaneously 1.00
00:03:09.180 behave as though she's single.
00:03:11.480 I have boundaries and standards and this is what it comes with it.
00:03:14.020 Because the thing is, is that if a girl truly respects you, she's not going to want to go 0.99
00:03:18.880 to the club.
00:03:19.360 She's not going to want to be around her friends that want to go ahead and do all this extra
00:03:22.840 stuff.
00:03:23.260 Single life.
00:03:23.740 Yeah.
00:03:24.160 Like she's not going to want to behave like she's single when she's with a man that she 1.00
00:03:26.620 actually admires and respects.
00:03:28.040 And my thing is, if she wants to go to the club, that's cool. 0.97
00:03:30.320 But you no longer are in a relationship with me because I'm not going to look stupid sitting 0.99
00:03:34.240 at home while you go out and behave like you're single. 0.98
00:03:36.840 That's the, this is the first point I actually would say.
00:03:38.800 I have a pretty strong disagreement.
00:03:40.660 I think, look, if you trust your partner and you trust their friends, because also it's
00:03:45.200 you, your due diligence as your, you know, your partner's partner to get to know her friends
00:03:49.100 and to understand who she likes hanging out with, because she probably wants that too.
00:03:52.200 And if you can trust everybody and they're all going out to the club and she wants to have
00:03:55.340 a good time, I feel like there's nothing wrong with that.
00:03:57.800 But if you set this, not ultimatum, but if you make this apparent in the boundary, this
00:04:02.960 boundary apparent in the beginning of the relationship, such as, Hey, if we're dating,
00:04:06.920 I don't want you going to the club.
00:04:08.040 It makes me uncomfortable.
00:04:09.580 Uh, would you do me the respect of not going to the club?
00:04:11.700 I think that's fine because that's just a preference at that point.
00:04:14.360 Right.
00:04:14.620 And I think all preferences are probably, you ever been to a club?
00:04:17.080 Yeah.
00:04:17.480 What was that club?
00:04:19.080 People dance.
00:04:20.400 Well, drink.
00:04:22.680 What does that lead to?
00:04:23.800 Dancing and drinking. 0.82
00:04:24.880 Sex.
00:04:25.160 That is one of the potential outcomes, but that's not a one-to-one ratio.
00:04:29.380 It's not like you just.
00:04:30.240 So here's the thing.
00:04:31.080 I didn't.
00:04:31.680 Here's, here's, I think this is where the disconnect is.
00:04:33.740 You can dance and do that.
00:04:34.320 This is where the disconnect is.
00:04:35.860 Disconnect is this. 0.99
00:04:37.140 I think you guys grossly underestimate like how easy it is for women to get sex. 0.89
00:04:42.200 And since it's easy for women to get sex, the threshold for them to cheat is also easier 1.00
00:04:45.680 as well.
00:04:46.360 It's a sliding scale that works together.
00:04:48.020 Like for men, it's very difficult to get sex.
00:04:50.060 That doesn't mean they always want sex though, because it's always available.
00:04:52.220 It doesn't mean they're going to take it.
00:04:53.260 But here's my thing, I look at it, if your girl is outdressed provocatively and seeking 1.00
00:04:58.180 attention, that is cheating.
00:04:59.840 And some people might look at me like, whoa, what do you mean?
00:05:02.440 It's because men and women are different. 0.99
00:05:04.780 A man has to actually go out there, put his nuts on the line, talk to a girl to initiate 1.00
00:05:08.540 some type of interaction.
00:05:10.020 Women don't do that. 1.00
00:05:10.900 Women rarely, if ever, approach men. 1.00
00:05:12.460 How do they do it?
00:05:13.300 They do it by exposing their sexuality. 0.53
00:05:15.620 Men show their charisma, women show their bodies. 0.96
00:05:17.500 How would that be any different from a guy driving down with a Bentley convertible with
00:05:22.160 a nice watch on?
00:05:23.760 Because you still got to put in work.
00:05:25.200 You still have to put in work to get that girl. 0.50
00:05:26.920 Even though the Bentley and the watch, all it does, it gives you another 20 seconds to
00:05:30.760 build attraction, if anything.
00:05:33.040 It's still very difficult as a man.
00:05:35.440 Even let's say you got a Bentley and a nice watch and everything else like that.
00:05:38.060 A girl will still curve you. 1.00
00:05:40.000 But a girl, on the other hand, she could go into a club and go, ah, and dudes will still 1.00
00:05:43.780 smash her. 1.00
00:05:44.660 But if you go into a club, ah, you're going to go to jail. 0.97
00:05:47.720 You know what I mean?
00:05:48.100 It's not the same.
00:05:48.940 I think if you do that with confidence, you walk up to, ah, dude.
00:05:52.660 They're going to be like, ah, that's what you are.
00:05:57.940 And you are unwavered.
00:05:59.940 She will be attracted to that because that is who you are.
00:06:02.680 But the thing is that people hate this, but the reality is there is a double standard.
00:06:07.240 Men and women are not the same. 0.99
00:06:08.800 There's behaviors that are completely unacceptable for women, and there's behaviors that are 1.00
00:06:12.020 completely unacceptable for men.
00:06:13.540 And that's okay.
00:06:14.680 And my thing is, is that women get mad at double standards that don't benefit them. 0.99
00:06:18.480 That's where they complain about.
00:06:19.880 So I wanted to point out a couple things.
00:06:22.180 Do you notice how guys that are more blue pill always use partner in their language?
00:06:28.220 Because again, they're on a more egalitarian model.
00:06:31.160 We are equal.
00:06:32.540 Like that is their mindset.
00:06:33.920 And I really think, I was trying to think of a similar equivalent of a woman going to
00:06:40.420 a club.
00:06:41.440 And I was thinking maybe a man on a dating app, but even that isn't the same.
00:06:46.340 Because again, you're putting a girl in a situation where men, like you're basically
00:06:51.340 saying, go to this club where 50 men are going to try to sleep with you at the same 1.00
00:06:55.040 time.
00:06:55.340 Like, why do women feel entitled to acting the same way in a relationship as you do single? 1.00
00:07:02.720 And it's interesting because we expect men to change when they're single.
00:07:06.560 Like, I don't think most women want their guy going to a strip club. 1.00
00:07:10.480 They don't want their guy, you know, going on boys trips.
00:07:13.860 But we expect to be able to go to a club.
00:07:18.480 Like, my question is, if this is a woman, you want to be a wife and a mother. 0.97
00:07:22.380 Why does she want to be in the club while dating you? 1.00
00:07:26.160 And it's interesting, too.
00:07:27.700 They don't really have a firm grasp on female nature. 1.00
00:07:31.100 And I used to I used to find this a little offensive.
00:07:33.800 So I kind of understand, like, when you first hear it, it sounds triggering, triggering.
00:07:37.640 But it's like, women, we are so easy to to propagate like they elites have known this
00:07:45.980 for over 100 years.
00:07:47.420 Women, if you just tell us things like get in our ear, you can literally convince us of 1.00
00:07:53.000 goddamn anything. 0.98
00:07:54.260 I mean, look, we could be anything because of feminism. 1.00
00:07:58.200 Feminism said women, you can do whatever you want. 1.00
00:08:01.140 And a lot of us just decided to go be hoarse that that was the best outcome.
00:08:07.420 Like, think of this.
00:08:08.460 This is how easy to maneuver and manipulate.
00:08:12.120 So what?
00:08:14.080 And it shows in the data, like women are much more likely to get divorced when their friends
00:08:18.920 get divorced.
00:08:19.820 There's a reason that we follow fashion trends, right? 0.99
00:08:23.580 Women are like packed animals. 1.00
00:08:25.620 And if you get the wrong group of women, the wrong chick in her ear, women just kind of 1.00
00:08:30.400 go left.
00:08:30.980 And the point that Myron is making is that why would you put a girl in a situation that
00:08:38.660 is going to compromise your relationship?
00:08:40.800 Like, why would you allow a woman to constantly put herself in situations that compromise her
00:08:46.820 relationships?
00:08:47.480 There's nothing wrong with getting to know her friends.
00:08:50.800 But if her friends want to go to the club all of the time, what does that say about her?
00:08:54.480 And I think a wise woman limits, you know, the type of friends she brings around.
00:09:01.080 And the friends understand that you're not going to move the same way in a relationship
00:09:04.980 that you would single.
00:09:07.060 It's kind of a more like egalitarian model.
00:09:09.980 We are the same.
00:09:10.920 Where Myron has a more, um, hierarchy.
00:09:16.180 I mean, he doesn't flat out say this, but again, it's, it's that the woman should follow
00:09:21.640 his lead and a girl that is going to be in a relationship with him has to operate under
00:09:27.280 his rules.
00:09:28.020 And I think that relationships would be more successful if men had this mindset.
00:09:32.220 But the problem is we tell men that they should just accept anything in a relationship
00:09:37.640 that a woman can act exactly the same in a relationship as she does single.
00:09:42.440 And it's like, if a girl goes to a club, she's going to have a bunch of dudes hitting on her.
00:09:46.520 If a guy goes to a club, like, I mean, he might get eyes.
00:09:51.280 Maybe he's good looking.
00:09:53.020 It's, it's just not the same.
00:09:55.020 Imagine our mothers. 0.99
00:09:56.780 I mean, some of y'all's mothers maybe did do this.
00:09:59.380 Imagine our grandmothers and our great grandmothers arguing for their right to go to the club. 1.00
00:10:04.600 That's what we're arguing for.
00:10:08.780 And that's what we've convinced the men to defend us for doing.
00:10:12.780 Our right to go to the club.
00:10:15.220 And the whole point is a woman may be a good woman, but even a good woman around the wrong 0.96
00:10:20.960 friends can be a bad woman. 0.99
00:10:23.340 And it's kind of, it's the guy's responsibility if she's operating under his rules to really
00:10:31.620 protect us from ourselves, to be honest, because we just like get around a group of people.
00:10:38.120 We get the wrong social media thrown at us and we just think things and start believing
00:10:43.440 things.
00:10:44.320 Now, I don't say this to be mean, but guys, it's just when you interview hundreds of women
00:10:49.180 and they all have like the same conclusion.
00:10:52.040 That's like men are abusers.
00:10:53.360 Like, where did we get this idea that the men are the abusers?
00:10:57.800 Propaganda.
00:10:58.480 It's not in real life.
00:11:00.000 Where did we get this idea that women are equal to men? 1.00
00:11:05.360 Where?
00:11:06.220 Because it's not in society.
00:11:08.760 It's very clear when we look around in real life and who runs and operates society.
00:11:13.600 It is the men.
00:11:14.760 But yet still in our head, we are equal.
00:11:16.940 Still in our head, these men are these abusers, these gray fist when it's not real.
00:11:21.560 But what they'll do is they'll just get in our ear and they'll do it in school.
00:11:25.180 They'll get in our ear.
00:11:26.520 They'll take over our institutions with all the studies and say, this is a study that says
00:11:32.920 something that's not true.
00:11:33.960 They'll get in our ear.
00:11:35.020 They'll get in our ear for social media.
00:11:37.220 Get in our ear.
00:11:37.880 They'll brainwash all of our friends. 0.77
00:11:40.300 Get in our ear. 0.60
00:11:41.420 And then boom.
00:11:43.100 We're on OnlyFans at 37 years old.
00:11:46.480 You have open relationships.
00:11:48.360 Like, all of this craziness is following the woman's lead. 1.00
00:11:52.360 It's not following the man's lead.
00:11:54.420 Because men are a lot more logical.
00:11:56.460 Women, we operate on emotions first. 1.00
00:11:58.600 We want to fit in.
00:12:00.100 And I think evolutionarily, like, we had to fit in in order to survive.
00:12:05.080 But, you know, maybe I'm crazy.
00:12:06.940 Maybe your girlfriend should just go to the club. 1.00
00:12:11.320 Send her to the club and have a happy, healthy relationship. 1.00
00:12:15.160 Well, guys, to conclude today, let your chick go to the club. 1.00
00:12:22.140 Just let her.
00:12:23.380 Send her. 1.00
00:12:24.480 Have fun.
00:12:25.260 Also, women have very valid reasons for divorce. 1.00
00:12:30.720 And I'm just a big meanie.
00:12:32.760 Bad guy.
00:12:34.180 Pearl's just a big meanie who just doesn't know what she's talking about. 1.00
00:12:41.780 See, there's no trends at all in society.
00:12:44.800 I'm just a big meanie.
00:12:46.680 But let me know what you guys think in the comments.
00:12:49.600 Like the video on your way out.
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00:12:51.940 And I'll talk to you next time.
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