JustPearlyThings - May 05, 2023


Girl With 100 Bodies Describes Her H＊E Phase


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In this episode, the lads talk about what it's like to be in a long term relationship with someone you've been with for a while and how it can affect your chances of falling in love with that person.

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00:00:00.000 Have you ever switched a habit?
00:00:01.720 What do you mean?
00:00:02.260 Like, have you ever had a habit and, like, you switched it?
00:00:04.760 So, like, maybe you didn't work out and you started working out,
00:00:06.880 or maybe you ate bad food and then you stopped.
00:00:09.120 Yeah.
00:00:09.800 You know how difficult it was for you to switch that habit?
00:00:13.260 Yeah.
00:00:13.800 Like, it wasn't easy.
00:00:15.100 And that's the thing.
00:00:15.840 It's just, like, if you've done that for so long,
00:00:17.760 it's not saying you can't change.
00:00:19.100 Some people do.
00:00:19.920 But it's just on a balance of probabilities,
00:00:22.300 why would a guy deal with a girl that has more bad habits than a girl who doesn't?
00:00:26.640 Because she's used to going out all the time.
00:00:28.140 She's used to going on all these dates.
00:00:30.000 If you've slept with a lot of guys,
00:00:31.340 I'm sure you've been on, like, super nice dates at some, you know, like.
00:00:34.920 Of course.
00:00:35.460 And so now if you meet the average Joe, you know,
00:00:38.360 which maybe would have been your husband, how is he going to impress you?
00:00:42.340 Because the thing is, you've always got it in the back of your mind.
00:00:44.980 Yeah.
00:00:45.760 Not that materialistic things matter,
00:00:48.020 but you do have it at the back of your mind thinking,
00:00:50.960 oh, that was such a nice date where the sun was going down
00:00:53.840 and the bar was really nice.
00:00:55.760 But now I'm just going to a regular bar or something.
00:00:59.060 And you think back at it when you're at that table at a regular place when I shouldn't.
00:01:05.300 But you do automatically do that sometimes.
00:01:08.480 And, you know, I'll be honest about that.
00:01:10.440 But that's just how it comes.
00:01:12.400 Sometimes I've made that decision to do what I've done.
00:01:18.160 And, yeah, you've just got to.
00:01:20.020 No, and I appreciate you being honest about it.
00:01:22.420 But, like, you see how it becomes a problem later.
00:01:24.520 Yeah, yeah.
00:01:24.720 I can see what you mean, yeah.
00:01:26.360 Yeah, because it's like with 80, it's like how many guys did you really, really, really like?
00:01:31.000 Yeah, not a lot.
00:01:32.040 But sometimes you can get yourself in situations.
00:01:35.020 And I'm sure the guys that you did really, really like,
00:01:40.100 like something was really special about them.
00:01:41.860 And it's really hard to replace that.
00:01:44.020 Like, I think it's hard for a girl that's up with five guys to replace the ones you liked.
00:01:47.780 And you've always got them in your mind.
00:01:49.480 Right.
00:01:50.100 Wherever you are kind of thing.
00:01:51.780 And even now, it's still like that.
00:01:54.540 So, the guy, how many guys are you thinking of when I'm talking about this?
00:01:58.780 Probably about five or six.
00:01:59.960 About five or six out of the 80s.
00:02:01.820 No, no, that's what I'm going to say.
00:02:02.560 Which is actually good.
00:02:03.560 Right, right.
00:02:04.620 So, out of the five or six, the five or six guys you're, like, thinking about.
00:02:08.520 Because, you know, when I talk.
00:02:09.840 And they know who they are as well.
00:02:11.480 No, because when I talk about this stuff, I'm sure there's someone that comes to you guys' head.
00:02:15.260 Like, there's someone that comes to my head, right?
00:02:16.920 But it's like, so, out of the five or six guys, did you sleep with them early on or late?
00:02:21.180 I'm just curious.
00:02:21.900 It was kind of throughout the whole period, actually.
00:02:27.120 It was more stretched out.
00:02:30.260 But, I don't know, actually.
00:02:32.480 I reckon in the past two years, actually, recently, I've had a couple of guys in my life that have stuck on my mind.
00:02:40.160 What?
00:02:42.040 No, because it's always, I always wonder if, like, at that point, you can still, like, bond at that level.
00:02:47.260 Yeah.
00:02:47.380 Where a guy really, really gets you.
00:02:48.900 I get where I see where you're coming from, yeah, yeah.
00:02:50.200 But you're saying, like, you could, because I'm guessing at, like, 50, you.
00:02:54.520 But it just, he has to be really, really special.
00:02:56.860 Very special.
00:02:57.680 It takes me a lot now, I think, for a guy to, for me to fall in love.
00:03:02.360 I don't think I've fully been in love.
00:03:03.920 I don't know what love is.
00:03:05.080 I admit that.
00:03:06.060 Pearl, I got a question.
00:03:07.660 So, all three of you girls, really beautiful women.
00:03:11.760 Thank you.
00:03:12.180 Thank you.
00:03:12.720 Have you ever met a guy that was loyal, nice, checked off all the boxes that are required for, you know, a long-term relationship,
00:03:22.480 but you looked over him and chose a guy that you knew was never going to commit to you, never going to give you loyalty,
00:03:30.600 never going to get you the attention and the respect that you deserve?
00:03:34.280 Yeah.
00:03:35.800 I have.
00:03:37.520 Do you know what it is, though?
00:03:38.300 Why is that, though?
00:03:39.140 Do you know what it is, though?
00:03:39.760 For me.
00:03:40.160 Hold on.
00:03:40.640 Why is it that you choose the man?
00:03:42.860 You know the outcome.
00:03:44.860 Let's not act like we don't know.
00:03:46.360 When you meet the attractive guy in the club, he's got a suit on, he's got change, he's got...
00:03:51.380 Listen, the most attention I've ever got from women in the club was when I brought other women with me. 0.96
00:03:55.540 When I went with my boys, few looks.
00:03:59.500 When I...
00:04:00.040 Those want what other guys. 0.79
00:04:01.120 Exactly.
00:04:01.920 So when I showed up with a bunch of women, their attention was unlimited because you want what other girls want. 0.97
00:04:08.760 But my question is, why do you choose?
00:04:10.600 You know the outcome.
00:04:12.640 This is why I talk about playing the victim and accountability earlier when I talked about healing.
00:04:16.040 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:04:16.640 Because there's no way you can fuck with a fuckboy and know that...
00:04:22.220 Yeah, but you can't control that, bro.
00:04:23.500 Girls, that's what's in there. 1.00
00:04:24.880 No, but...
00:04:25.320 Yeah, I know.
00:04:25.900 That's what's in there.
00:04:26.300 But the question is, why do you choose?
00:04:29.400 You know the result.
00:04:30.500 They can't choose, bro.
00:04:31.260 That's what they're attracted to, bro.
00:04:32.820 They can't just choose it.
00:04:33.640 I talked about that earlier.
00:04:34.980 Attraction and arousing.
00:04:35.900 Yeah, that's what they're attracted to.
00:04:36.480 They can't help it, bro.
00:04:37.360 But I'm trying to get deep-rooted with it.
00:04:38.780 I'm trying to get deep-rooted with it.
00:04:39.880 If they see...
00:04:40.180 Why do you choose the bad guy over the good guy when you know the result of both?
00:04:44.380 Because the good guy can treat you good.
00:04:45.860 And he may not arouse you...
00:04:47.240 Yeah, but we like that excitement of the bad boys.
00:04:49.980 Exactly.
00:04:50.280 So don't choose it in your 30s when your value is less.
00:04:52.900 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:04:53.420 And expect that man to settle for you.
00:04:55.120 You know, I think the best solution is, bro.
00:04:56.640 You know, I think the best solution is...
00:04:57.800 That's all I'm saying.
00:04:58.500 I think it's a bad boy.
00:04:59.100 When you're most valuable, give your man that value at that time.
00:05:02.860 Listen, bro.
00:05:03.340 Listen, listen, Giovanni.
00:05:04.780 Cool.
00:05:05.280 I think the best solution is, yeah, to find that bad boy, to find that guy that gets a lot of women.
00:05:09.980 And make him good.
00:05:10.660 To high status.
00:05:11.680 And change him.
00:05:12.500 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:05:13.320 You're not going to change him.
00:05:14.280 No, really?
00:05:15.280 You're not going to change him.
00:05:16.300 Every woman thinks that they can change him out. 1.00
00:05:18.580 And that's a fact.
00:05:19.700 When a guy...
00:05:20.220 Exactly.
00:05:20.920 And that's the excitement.
00:05:21.940 That's the excitement.
00:05:22.980 When a girl thinks they can change a man, that's exciting for them. 1.00
00:05:26.240 Oh, I can change him.
00:05:27.200 I can make him mine.
00:05:28.520 It's a game.
00:05:29.080 That's not reality, though.
00:05:30.040 Got that right.
00:05:30.700 It's a game for them.
00:05:31.420 All these girls want him. 1.00
00:05:32.520 I can change him.
00:05:33.960 And that's exciting for girls. 0.80
00:05:35.320 They don't want a guy that's on the PlayStation, like, fucking playing games.
00:05:39.180 They want a guy that's popular, that's high in demand.
00:05:42.720 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:05:43.380 I like a guy with ambition.
00:05:44.620 Do you think that's good advice for the average chick? 0.98
00:05:47.700 To try to change a bad boy?
00:05:50.400 I think it's like to find a guy that actually loves you, no matter what he does.
00:05:54.800 As long as he loves you.
00:05:56.220 But is that typically the...
00:05:57.600 Because usually, if I'm just thinking stereotypically, the bad boy has a bunch of women after him.
00:06:02.040 So, like, what are the odds that the average chick is going to get him? 0.69
00:06:06.020 Like, you don't think for the average chick she should go for the nicer guys?
00:06:08.380 I think, like, giving myself as an example, like, as a playboy, when you find the girl that you actually love, yeah?
00:06:16.800 And she knows that you're whatever, whatever you do, but you actually are in love with each other, then it's fine.
00:06:22.640 You have a nice, long, fulfilling relationship.
00:06:25.160 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:06:26.220 She has a, like, interest to change you.
00:06:29.700 You want to be with a virgin girl, like, you take her virginity. 1.00
00:06:32.800 Easy as, that's the best aspect.
00:06:34.300 She never gets bored.
00:06:35.320 You're happy.
00:06:36.320 Easy as.
00:06:37.160 But if you're with some girl that's ugly, that no one wants her, like, she's not loyal, whatever.
00:06:41.600 Right, but knowing that women, like, sleep up, is that really good advice for the average chick? 1.00
00:06:47.400 Because she's probably sleeping up.
00:06:49.340 What's sleeping up?
00:06:50.060 Most girls sleep up. 1.00
00:06:51.040 Yeah, so it's, like, you know only, like, 20% of men really get sex like that, like, 15, 20% of men.
00:06:56.940 So when you guys sleep with someone, it's probably the top 20% of men.
00:06:59.920 And so, like, why do women think all men cheat?
00:07:01.840 Like, why do you guys date assholes?
00:07:03.380 Because the assholes have options.
00:07:04.060 We don't know any different.
00:07:05.180 No, no, it's because, like, you guys want the top tier men.
00:07:08.260 And so if you're dating a guy that's an asshole, a guy that's cheating, that means he can cheat.
00:07:11.800 One out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past year.
00:07:15.300 So if you're going for a guy that's in the top percentage, like, he's more likely to cheat.
00:07:19.080 And so that's what I'm saying, like, if you're a girl that's a five or six or a seven can sleep with an eight, nine, or ten.
00:07:23.900 But that doesn't make you an eight, nine, or ten.
00:07:25.680 And so the problem is, like, when you're talking, I'm thinking if she's going for the top 20% of guys,
00:07:30.600 which usually I would say they're more of the assholes because they can be, right?
00:07:34.600 The guy's not going to treat you as special if he's got multiple.
00:07:37.360 Like, the average chick isn't going to slow him down. 0.94
00:07:40.720 Pearl, and I think it's also the average of what environment you're in.
00:07:44.580 Because if you, most women sleep with the guys they work with. 1.00
00:07:49.080 So if you look in the workplace, they're, everybody's sleeping with everybody.
00:07:52.560 It don't matter where you work.
00:07:53.280 I've worked several jobs.
00:07:54.360 Wherever you work, there's girls sleeping with. 1.00
00:07:56.560 I've never slept with someone I've worked with.
00:07:58.420 That's crazy.
00:07:59.360 That is not the case at the JPT, I'll tell you that.
00:08:02.480 In general, wherever you work, people are sleeping together because the guy that's sleeping with all the girls in the campus,
00:08:10.600 you done heard things about him, whatever their sexual or status or whatever,
00:08:15.140 and you know the guy, how he is.
00:08:17.320 He's a player.
00:08:18.100 He sleeps with all the girls on whatever job, and you still choose to do that.
00:08:23.380 But it's also a sense of maturity if the woman actually knows, like, what she wants,
00:08:29.140 then, and she's matured in her mind.
00:08:31.540 A lot of us girls are delusional and immature, and we like to go for bad boys because we're in our immature state.
00:08:38.760 That's a fact.
00:08:40.320 As, once you've matured, and you know what you like and what you, you value, what you like,
00:08:46.360 and you value within yourself, I don't know if I'm explaining this correctly.
00:08:50.180 I'm good, you're doing good.
00:08:51.060 Yeah.
00:08:51.760 You're good.
00:08:52.160 But you, I personally don't like bad boys anymore, and I think I was in an immature era.
00:08:59.420 Yes, you did.
00:09:01.440 Do you know what I mean?
00:09:02.160 You're telling me right now, yeah?
00:09:03.780 You have a go for a guy that's not a bad boy, that's not a...
00:09:06.520 Right now, I...
00:09:07.400 He gets no bitches, he's a virgin. 1.00
00:09:08.700 No, a guy with ambition and drive and knows himself and knows how he looks after a woman
00:09:14.680 is so attractive than a bad boy that doesn't know himself and only disrespect a woman.
00:09:21.540 Do you, do you sleep, who do you sleep with faster?
00:09:26.300 What do you mean?
00:09:27.020 Who do you sleep with faster? 1.00
00:09:28.260 That's a good point.
00:09:29.100 That's a very good point.
00:09:29.780 The bad boy or the good guy?
00:09:32.500 Courtney's very different though.
00:09:33.860 She holds herself back a lot.
00:09:35.620 And I have huge respect for this girl.
00:09:37.400 Okay, but could you answer the quote?
00:09:41.880 Because you said you've dated cheaters in the past, right?
00:09:45.840 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:09:46.760 And so like the way men will see it is when you're at...
00:09:49.020 The younger you are, the more valuable, the higher value you have as a woman, right? 1.00
00:09:53.660 You know the sense of love.
00:09:55.260 If you're 50 and you're 20, you're more valuable to men at 20, right?
00:09:58.280 When it comes to looks, like what they're attracted to.
00:10:00.300 So it's like when you have the most to give and you have the lowest body count, you choose
00:10:04.820 the bad boys.
00:10:05.660 Like you're kind of seen as like leftover to the nice guys.
00:10:08.740 And it's kind of like, okay, imagine if you found out, if you're dating a guy and you
00:10:14.100 found out for their anniversary, his ex-girlfriend, he spent a ton of money on, took her on trips,
00:10:19.600 did all this stuff.
00:10:20.540 And the most he's ever done for you is taking you to Taco Bell.
00:10:23.500 You'd be pissed, right?
00:10:24.540 Oh, 100%.
00:10:25.320 You'd be pissed, but that's how men feel when they find out you slept with Tom, Dick, and 1.00
00:10:29.260 Harry after one night, but you made him wait a month or a week.
00:10:32.640 That just shows that you're different, right?
00:10:34.520 No.
00:10:35.120 Okay, but what if he said that to you?
00:10:38.720 Like, oh, it shows you're different.
00:10:39.920 I took you to Taco Bell.
00:10:42.400 You're a prick.
00:10:43.620 Yeah, but that's how guys see it.
00:10:46.400 So they see it as, oh, when you were younger, fitter, like hotter, you gave your best years
00:10:51.880 to the bad boys.
00:10:53.240 And now it's like to them now, and like they, and it seems like, and I genuinely believe
00:10:58.380 those are the guys that women really want, but once you realize you can't tame them, then 0.99
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