JustPearlyThings - October 30, 2023


Good Conversation on How Modern Women DERAINED as Wives


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In this episode we talk about what it takes to sustain a family on a bare minimum wage and whether or not we should be willing to live on less than we can sustain ourselves on. We also talk about how to deal with a partner who doesn t have the same amount of money as you do.

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00:00:00.000 Whatever the amount that sustains us to like be happy, but I don't need like big flashy things to be happy
00:00:06.720 Would you be happy living in the caravan?
00:00:11.040 I guess. What about what about the box on the corner over here?
00:00:15.200 There's someone there's there's like a couple people in these boxes over there. Oh, you're down there, isn't it?
00:00:20.240 Yeah, literally there's a homeless shelter down the road. They got this box out in the roads, I've seen it.
00:00:24.960 I don't think I could but money doesn't determine like the person for me, if that makes sense.
00:00:32.480 I don't know if that answers your question.
00:00:33.760 No, it doesn't.
00:00:37.360 There's no minimum. Like, come on, no minimum.
00:00:39.840 I don't know if things like that. I don't know what people earn.
00:00:42.560 For you, like to have all your necessities met, what are you looking at?
00:00:48.880 Do you live on your own?
00:00:49.760 Yeah, I live on my own.
00:00:50.800 Okay, so you know what it takes to sustain you.
00:00:53.200 Yeah. Do you want him to be a provider, basically?
00:00:56.320 Because if you do, you know, you have to know your minimum.
00:01:00.160 Surely, surely, unless you don't mind providing for yourself, then it doesn't matter at all.
00:01:06.560 Yeah, can we not come together? Was that not an option?
00:01:10.080 I thought you just said he's earning less than me.
00:01:12.320 Yeah, so I'm saying at what point do you respect his decision making?
00:01:16.480 So, like, if he said, quit your job tomorrow, I have a plan, I'll listen.
00:01:21.600 But if he's a bum and hasn't worked in two years, why the hell would you do that? 1.00
00:01:24.400 Yeah, I would definitely not listen.
00:01:26.080 So there's a minimum point, right?
00:01:28.480 Yeah.
00:01:28.720 There's a minimum point where, and it doesn't have to be exact, you know, just a rough figure,
00:01:33.120 where you would listen to what he says.
00:01:38.880 I want to see. I couldn't tell you. I couldn't tell you. I forgot.
00:01:41.600 Okay, what about 30,000 pounds? Would you listen?
00:01:45.920 Is that the minimum people earn in the UK?
00:01:48.240 Just go off, like, what it takes to sustain yourself.
00:01:51.360 And then could you live on a thousand pound a month?
00:01:53.520 If he's bringing in, like, between 3,000 and 4,000.
00:01:57.280 3,000 and 4,000.
00:01:58.000 I think, yeah, that's fine.
00:01:58.960 A year?
00:01:59.360 A month.
00:01:59.920 No, a month.
00:02:00.400 A month.
00:02:00.960 Oh, yeah, that's nice.
00:02:02.480 That's fine.
00:02:03.120 That's more than nice for some people.
00:02:04.400 I like it, yeah.
00:02:05.760 Okay, what about you? Would you date a guy that makes less than you?
00:02:09.200 I would date a guy that, yeah, I would, but he would have to be able to,
00:02:15.920 like, pay the bills and whatnot.
00:02:17.760 What's your minimum?
00:02:18.800 Um, I would say four grand, because that's, like, enough to, like, pay bills, rent or mortgage,
00:02:26.080 um, car note, that sort of stuff.
00:02:28.880 Okay, what about you?
00:02:31.360 Um, I think I would respect him.
00:02:36.160 Um, I don't believe you.
00:02:40.320 Why don't you believe me?
00:02:41.280 Um, oh gosh, I don't, what's your minimum?
00:02:49.360 Okay, my minimum, I'll be comfortable with, let's say, 3k a month.
00:02:55.040 I think that's fine to bring in.
00:02:57.920 Um, I think it's all down to, I don't know if it kind of relates to the question that you're asking.
00:03:02.320 I think it's just all down to ambition.
00:03:04.320 If he's a bum. 0.89
00:03:05.200 No, she said, no, no.
00:03:06.480 She said, that's what he's gonna earn.
00:03:07.760 This is the problem with women. 1.00
00:03:08.720 She said, that's what he's gonna earn.
00:03:09.840 You're reading into it.
00:03:10.960 He's gonna be a high earner one day.
00:03:12.320 No, he's not.
00:03:12.880 Oh, no, he is not.
00:03:15.040 There's no potential here.
00:03:19.200 He goes to job.
00:03:20.480 He's happy at his job.
00:03:21.840 He loves it.
00:03:22.720 He loves it.
00:03:23.440 It doesn't mean he's lazy.
00:03:24.720 Maybe he's like, I don't know, do police officers, postman, do police officers make a lot here?
00:03:29.600 A manager at McDonald's and he loves his job.
00:03:30.560 He enjoys working at Cisco.
00:03:32.560 Yeah.
00:03:33.120 Oh, God.
00:03:33.840 I mean, I worked at McDonald's.
00:03:35.360 It's all right.
00:03:38.560 I think my approach generally is a job is a job.
00:03:40.960 As long as it's making you comfortable, then I will respect that full stop.
00:03:44.400 Yeah.
00:03:44.720 I think that's just it.
00:03:45.680 Oh, yeah.
00:03:46.320 But I mean, in terms of like respect, I mean, if we're living together and we have a family and I'm
00:03:51.040 meant to like respect all your decision making, if you're not earning at least to cover what it takes.
00:03:57.600 I mean, it's like, okay, if you're dating a guy that makes $250,000 a year,
00:04:02.080 pounce or whatever it is here.
00:04:05.040 If he says quit, when?
00:04:08.640 Yeah, that's so much funny.
00:04:09.760 It's when, like, when do you want me to?
00:04:11.520 But at some point, like it switches to where you give him more control.
00:04:16.640 Because if a bum tells you to do that, you're not going to do it. 1.00
00:04:19.120 Yeah.
00:04:19.440 If it hasn't worked in two years, he says quit.
00:04:21.600 You're like, what?
00:04:22.640 I think we can all agree on that though.
00:04:24.480 Yeah.
00:04:25.600 Which we all agree on.
00:04:26.640 But like, I'm just asking roughly around what point is it that you respect his decision making?
00:04:31.760 Yeah, four grand a month.
00:04:32.800 Like roughly four grand a month.
00:04:34.320 Okay.
00:04:34.480 Such a good question.
00:04:36.240 These are things that you wouldn't even ask yourself.
00:04:38.320 I'm actually kind of glad that I'm here and you're doing this.
00:04:41.360 I mean, if you want to get married, you kind of have to do the math.
00:04:44.080 Absolutely.
00:04:44.560 Because it also depends how many kids you want.
00:04:46.960 Yeah.
00:04:47.280 So like, how much does each kid cost?
00:04:48.960 Yeah.
00:04:49.280 You need to think about these things while entering a relationship,
00:04:52.240 especially if you're going to merge into one.
00:04:53.920 I feel like women do, don't they?
00:04:56.000 Yeah.
00:04:56.480 Like, I see a man.
00:04:57.440 Even on first dates.
00:04:58.400 And they're like.
00:04:58.800 Exactly.
00:04:59.360 Like, what would our wedding look like?
00:05:01.120 Yeah.
00:05:01.600 What area are we going to move to?
00:05:04.160 And the man is just right there looking at the state.
00:05:06.400 Yeah.
00:05:06.960 But we're five years into it.
00:05:08.480 Which one?
00:05:09.120 She's like, oh, today's a nice day.
00:05:10.560 She's like, we could have two kids.
00:05:12.080 The dog.
00:05:15.040 The white picket fence is there.
00:05:16.640 And you think about their career ladder as well.
00:05:19.200 All of it.
00:05:19.920 Yeah, a hundred percent.
00:05:21.040 And you look on Glassdoor.
00:05:22.240 I think women like to fantasize a lot. 1.00
00:05:24.480 Oh yeah.
00:05:25.040 And think way into the future.
00:05:27.040 That's good because that's how they help men, like, 0.51
00:05:30.960 blossom.
00:05:31.520 Like, that's how women are helpless to men. 1.00
00:05:33.520 Because men are very, like, 1.00
00:05:36.800 and women are like, oh, but you could do it this way and this way. 1.00
00:05:39.920 And like, they flower the seeds that make it grow.
00:05:42.960 Women have to, like, think outside the box. 1.00
00:05:45.200 Because men are very, a matter of fact.
00:05:48.000 Which is good.
00:05:48.640 And that's why the woman and the man.
00:05:50.480 Works together.
00:05:51.440 Yeah.
00:05:52.320 It's like that quote that's,
00:05:54.880 I think it says something like, um,
00:05:56.320 behind every great man is an even better woman or something. 0.99
00:05:59.440 Have you heard that one?
00:06:00.640 Yeah, I don't agree with it.
00:06:01.600 Oh yeah, that.
00:06:02.640 I don't agree with it though.
00:06:03.280 That's the most bullshit quote I've ever heard.
00:06:04.640 I don't think it should be even better,
00:06:06.240 but I think great women should be there instead. 1.00
00:06:08.640 But it kind of...
00:06:09.600 Oh, just the woman that cares. 1.00
00:06:11.040 Yeah.
00:06:11.840 Yeah.
00:06:12.480 Just his woman. 0.98
00:06:13.680 Beyond every man is his woman. 1.00
00:06:15.040 Just his woman. 0.98
00:06:15.840 You're telling me Elon Musk needed a woman to get to where he's at.
00:06:19.920 Rich men get to where they're going regardless of whether or not they have a girl there or not.
00:06:23.200 By doing dog eat dog.
00:06:24.880 For sure.
00:06:25.600 It's like, I mean, like the guys that are going somewhere,
00:06:27.760 they're going to go somewhere whether or not you're there.
00:06:29.680 It's just like women just like to take credit for doing nothing. 1.00
00:06:32.640 Yeah.
00:06:34.240 I guess.
00:06:35.120 Listen, I think unless you're looking at having kids,
00:06:38.320 men can just pretty much do anything. 0.54
00:06:41.360 Whereas they don't need emotional support.
00:06:44.480 Well, they do.
00:06:45.200 Yes, they do.
00:06:46.080 But they don't need it as much as women. 1.00
00:06:48.400 Like, I don't think they need it.
00:06:49.760 Like, women like to talk about stuff more. 1.00
00:06:52.080 They're with their friends.
00:06:52.880 What do you talk about?
00:06:53.680 You talk about guys.
00:06:54.320 You talk about feelings.
00:06:55.040 You talk about...
00:06:56.080 Men are just like straight to the point.
00:06:57.920 We wiggle around a bit more, but it works together.
00:07:03.840 I like the chorus.
00:07:04.880 I don't know if I agree.
00:07:10.480 I'm just like...
00:07:12.480 I know the worst of that.
00:07:14.560 You're not even doing it this time.
00:07:15.840 You've got a whole chorus here.
00:07:17.120 Oh, I'm the worst.
00:07:18.800 They always roast me in the comments.
00:07:20.720 And that's why I'm sitting there laughing,
00:07:22.080 because I think normally it's Pearl,
00:07:23.280 and every woman is doing it. 1.00
00:07:25.200 I've been trying to get better.
00:07:26.480 I've been trying.
00:07:27.440 After the Thieves interview, I've been trying.
00:07:30.080 She normally sits there going,
00:07:32.720 It's like...
00:07:33.440 It's a tick.
00:07:34.000 I can't.
00:07:35.440 No, it's just a thing, innit?
00:07:36.720 Because all the women are doing it. 1.00
00:07:38.480 One person made a comment,
00:07:39.840 and I'm just saying, listen to the choir,
00:07:41.200 and the choir said,
00:07:41.920 Hmm.
00:07:45.760 Love that.
00:07:46.320 Auntie, what do you think?
00:07:47.840 I've never been out of a man that's earned more than me.
00:07:51.120 Never?
00:07:51.840 Never.
00:07:53.280 And I've respected every single one.
00:07:56.720 Why do you think that is different than a lot of women nowadays? 1.00
00:08:03.200 I'm just old school.
00:08:04.160 I just don't really care how much they earn.
00:08:05.680 Because, no, it didn't really matter,
00:08:08.560 because when I'm out of a man, he's a man.
00:08:10.800 Mm-hmm.
00:08:11.920 So I don't, I don't pay for anything.
00:08:14.640 I don't have to put my hand in my pocket.
00:08:16.320 Even the man that I've got now.
00:08:17.440 Mm-hmm.
00:08:19.600 I've still got more than him.
00:08:20.640 Mm-hmm.
00:08:21.760 He's got more, I must admit, he's got more cash than me.
00:08:23.920 I've got more assets than him.
00:08:27.040 But, no, I can't, I don't have to put my hand in my pocket for nothing.
00:08:31.280 Yeah, I think as long as I don't have to put my hand in my pocket,
00:08:33.280 then, yeah, I'm in a problem with respect to me.
00:08:34.400 What is, what is the minimum?
00:08:36.880 £1,000 a month.
00:08:37.760 I can make it work.
00:08:38.560 You know I can, Pearl.
00:08:39.520 Oh, oh.
00:08:40.640 You know I can make it work.
00:08:41.920 I, right.
00:08:43.200 So if these people, if these women out here are saying,
00:08:45.280 oh, they need to do this, oh, the man can't afford that,
00:08:47.520 you know what I mean?
00:08:48.080 Check yourself and cut back.
00:08:49.040 What would you do with £1,000 a month?
00:08:51.040 How would you split that up?
00:08:52.640 I'm just curious.
00:08:53.360 I'd go wholesalers.
00:08:54.960 Yeah.
00:08:55.200 I mean, it's different because, all right, then if I had a mortgage.
00:08:57.440 Could you live in London with £1,000 a month?
00:08:59.760 I can live in, before I was living, I can do it on £1,500.
00:09:03.440 Okay.
00:09:04.080 Because, like, £500 is towards the mortgage.
00:09:07.120 Yeah, kids are not expensive.
00:09:08.560 It all depends.
00:09:09.520 Do you know what, right?
00:09:10.560 It all depends on what you want them to wear.
00:09:12.320 But nowadays, you'll find that a £5 t-shirt is not going to cost you £50 for the kid,
00:09:17.920 or because of the name or the stamp on it.
00:09:20.000 And that's what brings things up.
00:09:22.240 Or, you know, eating out.
00:09:24.240 You know, you want a burger?
00:09:25.280 Buy some mincemeat and teach your kids how to make a burger.
00:09:28.480 You know, no eating out.
00:09:30.880 No eating out.
00:09:31.840 But do you think £1,000 is covering bills?
00:09:34.320 It's doing me now.
00:09:36.800 Wow.
00:09:37.680 You know, I honestly had the same, I had the same thought, yo.
00:09:41.120 I proved.
00:09:41.680 She took me, she took me, how much did you say it was £35?
00:09:45.840 It was £30 for the £30.
00:09:47.680 £30, £30 a week for two people.
00:09:50.320 Yeah, she told me she could get a week's worth of groceries on £30.
00:09:53.520 I didn't believe her.
00:09:54.480 You wouldn't even go to the market?
00:09:55.760 Yeah, she took me, she took me to the store.
00:09:57.360 No, we went to the supermarket.
00:09:58.960 We didn't even go to a market.
00:10:00.720 Yeah, you can do it.
00:10:02.240 You just, yeah.
00:10:02.960 We'll talk off.
00:10:03.680 Fresh stuff.
00:10:04.480 Is this tins?
00:10:05.200 Yes.
00:10:05.760 No, it was actually good food.
00:10:07.760 You can check out Wife School episode two. 0.98
00:10:10.640 Okay.
00:10:11.280 Wife School episode two. 0.98
00:10:12.560 But yeah, I didn't believe her.
00:10:14.240 I was like, there is no way.
00:10:15.920 There is no way.
00:10:17.200 But yeah, £30.
00:10:18.880 You have to look for the stickers.
00:10:20.160 The clearance stickers.
00:10:21.120 Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
00:10:24.160 We just went there.
00:10:25.200 We just, we just popped in there and we picked about four things with stickers,
00:10:28.800 but everything else wasn't, was it?
00:10:30.240 It was about four things with stickers.
00:10:31.520 In the middle of the day?
00:10:32.560 Yeah.
00:10:33.040 No, in the, was it in the evening?
00:10:34.160 Yes, in the evening.
00:10:34.800 Towards the evening.
00:10:35.520 But still, but even though...
00:10:37.040 It wasn't bad food.
00:10:38.240 It really wasn't.
00:10:39.120 Yeah, but you have to wait.
00:10:40.480 But even though, this month, to cover a whole month, including toiletries, laundry, alcohol
00:10:47.920 and everything, for the month, £1,000.
00:10:51.520 Yeah.
00:10:52.160 For the month.
00:10:52.720 I'm talking about all the alcohol as well.
00:10:54.720 Well, laundry, toiletries, electric toothbrush, everything, £1,000.
00:10:59.600 Didn't that's it?
00:11:02.880 Teach us today.
00:11:03.440 I'll watch it.
00:11:04.080 Yeah.
00:11:04.400 I'm gonna watch it.
00:11:05.040 I'm sold.
00:11:05.920 It's fine.
00:11:07.200 I'll show you, I'll show you my tricks later.
00:11:08.480 Yeah.
00:11:08.960 I'm sold on it.
00:11:09.520 I'll give you a few tips.
00:11:10.240 I'm sold on it.
00:11:12.160 Do you guys think that Korn, you know what that stands for?
00:11:15.840 Yeah.
00:11:16.080 Okay.
00:11:16.160 Do you guys think that Korn is cheating?
00:11:18.160 No.
00:11:19.200 Yes.
00:11:19.520 No.
00:11:20.240 Yes?
00:11:22.640 Once he does it in front, once he watches it in front of me, I know he's there watching.
00:11:25.840 Well, if it's hidden, it's cheating.
00:11:28.160 If it's like, yeah, you want to watch it, it's like, it's like watching another movie.
00:11:31.120 I ain't watching it though.
00:11:32.240 But if it's hidden, I think it's cheating because for you to hide it, sight must be wrong.
00:11:37.440 Yeah, I agree.
00:11:38.400 Don't lie about it.
00:11:39.600 Fine.
00:11:40.320 Yeah.
00:11:40.720 I feel like you can watch it together.
00:11:43.360 No, I don't want to do that, but...
00:11:46.080 Really?
00:11:46.480 Do you think it's cheating?
00:11:47.280 Don't want to do that.
00:11:47.920 No.
00:11:48.640 I just feel like he wouldn't want to do it in front of you.
00:11:51.680 Why not?
00:11:53.200 I don't know.
00:11:54.960 No, don't do it in front of me.
00:11:55.920 Like, I don't want to.
00:11:56.640 No, I don't mean that in front of you.
00:11:58.880 I mean, like, if he's there watching, you know, he's never watching a TV and he's in one room and he's
00:12:04.400 watching it and he coming, oh, you're watching that rubbish again.
00:12:07.120 It's like, it's nothing to me.
00:12:08.240 Mm-hmm.
00:12:08.880 But you wouldn't get mad if he's...
00:12:10.000 Nah.
00:12:10.400 As long as he's not, he's open with it.
00:12:12.080 Yeah.
00:12:12.400 Would anyone here be mad if their husband watched, or boyfriend watched Korn?
00:12:16.320 Sorry, can I just say something?
00:12:17.680 It all depends on what kind it is.
00:12:18.880 If it's that sick, perverted kind, then yeah.
00:12:20.560 Oh, yeah.
00:12:21.120 Yeah, no, that wouldn't be okay.
00:12:23.120 I mean, if it's like regular, you know, normal, yeah.
00:12:26.480 Any, I'd be upset.
00:12:27.520 I don't think I'd be mad.
00:12:28.480 I'd be concerned because what is it?
00:12:30.080 What's, what are you seeking from this?
00:12:32.560 Variety.
00:12:34.080 Why do you...
00:12:34.800 Black, because men want sexual variety. 0.99
00:12:36.080 Maybe picking up a few tips, isn't it?
00:12:37.680 But then, but then, again, to me, that's a concern for me because what variety?
00:12:42.000 Why do you want variety?
00:12:43.040 Just try this.
00:12:44.000 Because that's like what men want, naturally.
00:12:46.880 I'm not saying all men cheat, but men naturally want variety.
00:12:49.280 You're telling me, okay, you could take the best man in the world.
00:12:52.400 If he had a bus full of models waiting for him every day when he got home every single day,
00:12:57.680 begging to sleep with him, most of you guys are gonna fail.
00:13:00.080 Fair enough, but I'm putting my self in it.
00:13:06.240 If you want variety, it's a concern.
00:13:09.120 If you cannot exercise self-control, it's a concern.
00:13:13.760 If I am to exercise self-control and you don't give yourself that same parameter,
00:13:20.800 it's a concern.
00:13:22.160 I'm not saying I'll be angry, but this is something to iron out.
00:13:26.080 It's not something that, oh, this is how you are.
00:13:27.920 That's your makeup.
00:13:29.520 That's fine.
00:13:30.480 Because I know what I want.
00:13:32.720 And as far as I'm concerned on the foundational, like morals, principles, standards,
00:13:37.760 we match.
00:13:38.880 And so if we're no longer matching, it's an even bigger concern.
00:13:42.400 And now we're talking about the longevity of our relationship.
00:13:45.360 I don't think it means that you don't match.
00:13:48.000 No, no, but it's because I know what I would like.
00:13:50.400 And when you say what you would like, what is that?
00:13:52.240 So not to watch that.
00:13:54.240 And if you're telling me these are the reasons why you watch it,
00:13:59.200 let's iron out those reasons.
00:14:00.640 So you don't have to.
00:14:01.680 If you feel like you have to.
00:14:02.720 What if the reason is just, I just like.
00:14:04.720 Yeah.
00:14:05.120 And it doesn't mean he's doing it every day or even every week.
00:14:07.760 Everyone knows why they like it.
00:14:09.360 Everyone knows why they like what they like.
00:14:11.440 No one just likes it.
00:14:12.400 And I'm not sure.
00:14:13.120 But that's like, but that's like a female point of view. 1.00
00:14:15.680 Like to men, it's just like a reaction. 0.99
00:14:18.000 They don't think that much into it, I don't think.
00:14:20.320 But then that's not what I, then that's, that's fine.
00:14:22.960 We don't have to like.
00:14:23.760 But it's almost like asking men not to be men.
00:14:25.920 Well, no, not necessarily.
00:14:26.880 Because in my experience, I have, well, I haven't not experienced that.
00:14:29.920 Do you understand?
00:14:30.560 So I can't even speak to it.
00:14:32.240 Because it's not like I've been with a man that could explain his side of it.
00:14:35.680 All I can say is from my wants.
00:14:39.360 And if this is how you are, that's fine.
00:14:41.920 I'm not going to like, say change or da-da-da-da-da.
00:14:44.880 It's, you're just not for me.
00:14:46.560 Yeah, it sounds like you're not,
00:14:49.200 you haven't created a space where they could even come to tell you that they watch it.
00:14:52.320 It sounds like if they do, it's in private.
00:14:54.640 Like they wouldn't even tell you.
00:14:55.840 No, it's, if it, and this is what I'm saying, I wouldn't get angry.
00:14:59.280 To me, it would be a concern.
00:15:01.280 So if you came to me or I caught you, I'm not going to be like, oh, no, no, no.
00:15:05.520 It's like, okay, let's sit down and talk about it.
00:15:07.360 Like, why, why, why, why do you feel like you like this or whatever?
00:15:10.880 And like, if, if you're like, this is how I am and I can't really explain it or whatever.
00:15:17.040 I have the right to say, but I don't like this.
00:15:19.760 I don't, I don't have to compromise on that.
00:15:21.680 So how can I just say something?
00:15:24.480 Because from what, tell me if I'm wrong.
00:15:26.640 Yeah.
00:15:27.280 You're talking about if like now, if you found him or if he suddenly decided.
00:15:33.360 Yeah.
00:15:33.680 But what I would say.
00:15:37.120 Yeah.
00:15:37.440 And what I think you're saying is that.
00:15:39.120 Yeah.
00:15:40.000 This is, you wouldn't be with somebody that does it anyway.
00:15:42.960 Yeah.
00:15:43.360 And then if he happens to be doing it, there's a problem.
00:15:45.760 Yeah.
00:15:46.000 And that I feel the same way.
00:15:47.280 I mean, if I, if I know that my man does it and I'm with him,
00:15:50.160 I knew that he'd done it before I got with him.
00:15:51.600 Yeah.
00:15:52.160 But if I'm with a man and then suddenly he starts doing it, well, what's going on?
00:15:55.120 Why all of a sudden you started, you never showed it.
00:15:57.440 And I think that's what you're trying to say.
00:15:58.720 Yeah.
00:15:58.960 Because trying to change an individual is futile to me.
00:16:02.720 Okay.
00:16:03.440 Especially if you do not see an issue.
00:16:06.960 Like I don't have the energy to try and make you see or even see it from my point of view.
00:16:13.200 If you don't, you don't.
00:16:14.640 But I don't have to be, I don't have to take it.
00:16:16.800 Do you understand?
00:16:17.280 You don't have to be bothered.
00:16:18.160 Or, or like, I do have the choice.
00:16:19.600 I can, I can just tolerate it.
00:16:21.440 Like, okay, this is a, I can tolerate it.
00:16:23.520 But my point is, is then I have a choice.
00:16:26.560 But before me making that choice, I want to sit down and understand.
00:16:30.720 If I had a man and he wasn't open about it in the first place and I found him doing it,
00:16:34.480 I'd have issues.
00:16:35.200 Then I'd be angry.
00:16:36.080 Yeah.
00:16:36.320 That's, I'd have issues then.
00:16:37.680 But if I knew, if he said to me in the beginning, like when I thought,
00:16:40.640 oh yeah, sometimes I watch this.
00:16:42.080 I'd be like, okay, then when I know, it's time to me whether I stay with you or not.
00:16:44.800 Yeah.
00:16:45.200 To that, I 100% agree.
00:16:46.800 I want to know, like, you know, what kind.
00:16:48.720 Can you imagine?
00:16:49.360 You know?
00:16:49.680 I've been with you for X amount of years and you're saying, I've always watched it.
00:16:52.880 And I'd be like, nah, nah, I'm out of there.
00:16:58.080 But then that's choosing to hide it, no?
00:16:59.840 Yeah, but that's when I may get angry.
00:17:02.400 Yeah, okay.
00:17:03.120 I agree with that.
00:17:03.680 But if it's happening, we're going to talk about it.
00:17:07.520 Mm-hmm.
00:17:08.320 Okay.
00:17:08.880 I just think a lot of times, like from the men's point of view, it's like,
00:17:12.800 we want them to be exclusive to us, which is like compromising on their mating strategy, 1.00
00:17:18.800 which is to spread their seed.
00:17:19.840 But on the same time, like when they try to watch, and I'm not saying you specific,
00:17:23.360 I don't know your marriage or whatever.
00:17:24.560 Yeah.
00:17:25.040 But like when you tell them that they can't even watch corn and that's cheating too,
00:17:29.200 it's like, well, what do you want from me?
00:17:30.560 What can I do?
00:17:31.280 So I just tell them straight, whatever they're doing on there, I will try it with you.
00:17:35.680 Yeah.
00:17:36.000 I will.
00:17:38.000 And he's ready to meet them in the middle.
00:17:40.000 Yeah.
00:17:40.400 I will try it with you, you know what I mean?
00:17:41.680 Like, you want to pick up some tits, but then I'm going to watch it. 1.00
00:17:44.240 Let's have a go.
00:17:45.040 What's another freaky stuff, you know what I mean?
00:17:46.560 I don't slap me either.
00:17:53.280 I feel like corn has saved a lot of marriages.
00:17:56.000 I've had a partner show me something and be like, let's try this.
00:18:02.560 Really?
00:18:03.280 Yeah.
00:18:03.760 Were you down or were you mad?
00:18:04.960 She was down.
00:18:07.280 She was down.
00:18:08.000 I was down, but it wasn't a case where I didn't know that he wasn't watching it,
00:18:12.960 because I knew he watched it or he'd sometimes be like, oh, look at this.
00:18:16.640 Like, he'd send it to me and be like.
00:18:18.080 I don't know how I'd feel if my partner showed me.
00:18:19.920 Really?
00:18:20.560 If he sent you a band and said, let's try this tonight.
00:18:22.560 I don't know.
00:18:24.000 I feel like I would be like, I'm not saying I would be against it, but I don't know.
00:18:28.720 I think there's, I don't know, obviously everyone's different, but to me,
00:18:31.920 for me personally, there's boundaries.
00:18:33.520 You could be watching it and doing all this, but if you're putting more attention on that
00:18:37.920 than me, then it's an issue.
00:18:39.920 I think that's a bad reminder.
00:18:43.040 Mine is, tell me the first place, because if I find out later on, we're down.
00:18:45.600 I'm telling you, it's just a slippery slope.
00:18:46.800 Yeah.
00:18:47.360 Just tell me who you are.
00:18:50.320 Show me.
00:18:50.640 Introduce me to you and I'll choose if I want to be with you or not.
00:18:53.280 Yeah, you just ask them to be with you.
00:18:54.160 I'm going to show you who I am.
00:18:55.840 Yeah.
00:18:56.880 Yeah, I agree.
00:18:57.680 As long as you're transparent and there's no issue.
00:18:59.680 Yeah.
00:19:00.080 What do you want?
00:19:00.800 Just let me know.
00:19:02.480 No freaky stuff either.
00:19:03.600 No.
00:19:06.080 Yeah, it's definitely important to ask what to ask.
00:19:09.840 Which kind?
00:19:10.640 Yeah.
00:19:10.880 Which are which kind?
00:19:12.240 Yeah, because there's different levels and you find that women might accept some levels, 0.93
00:19:16.720 but then it goes off the scale.
00:19:18.160 Yeah, because if you're watching certain stuff, I'm just like, oh.
00:19:20.880 It's like, nah.
00:19:21.840 Yeah, that's who they are as well.
00:19:23.840 Yeah, that's like a sicko who should be in my house.
00:19:26.160 Yeah, yeah, that's your interest.
00:19:28.320 I feel like that's a topic of conversation that you talk about, no?
00:19:31.200 Yeah, I know, 100%.
00:19:32.800 Like, I want to know.
00:19:34.080 I've never had that conversation though.
00:19:35.680 Yeah, how do you have that?
00:19:36.880 I've never had that conversation with a man in my life.
00:19:38.880 I've had it.
00:19:40.080 Well, what they're into?
00:19:41.040 Yeah.
00:19:42.880 Not in corn.
00:19:44.000 I'm saying in general, in the bedroom, like.
00:19:46.560 Oh, yeah.
00:19:47.280 You know what they like and what they don't like.
00:19:48.720 Nah, I'm up for anything because you're my man, innit?
00:19:51.680 But no freaky stuff.
00:19:53.440 That's different.
00:19:54.960 That's not in copying nobody.
00:19:56.240 That's me getting freaky.
00:19:57.280 There's a big difference.
00:19:58.000 Yeah.
00:19:58.320 I'm going to take a second to read Super Chats.
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00:20:12.000 Maggie, the substitute teacher.
00:20:13.760 Oh, I think she's coming on to wife school. 1.00
00:20:15.600 She's going to help us cut. 0.81
00:20:16.480 Can I say something, please?
00:20:17.360 Yeah, yeah, go ahead.
00:20:18.080 Pearly animations.
00:20:18.960 Oh, I forgot about, yeah, pearly.
00:20:21.120 We have pearly animations now, which is like...
00:20:24.240 You want to explain it?
00:20:25.200 It's your Clips in animation.
00:20:27.120 Yeah, it's Clips in animation.
00:20:28.800 And you see Shapely Pearl.
00:20:30.880 Oh, yeah, they gave me a good...
00:20:32.800 My cartoon has such a good body, guys.
00:20:35.600 I was like, I do not look like that.
00:20:38.080 I will take it.
00:20:39.200 She's got butt, chest, hips, everything. 1.00
00:20:41.680 Yeah, it's like...
00:20:43.280 Yeah, I was like, thank you.
00:20:45.120 Okay, Maggie, the substitute teacher. 0.99
00:20:50.240 $30 for a whole week of groceries.
00:20:54.160 Russ, thank you for the super chat.
00:20:55.680 Liberty now.
00:20:56.240 Cheers to England.
00:20:57.040 Hello from America.
00:20:58.080 Question for England.
00:20:58.880 What is the definition of liberty and does it matter?
00:21:00.960 Please be specific.
00:21:03.200 James Pritt, found the woman of my dreams.
00:21:06.000 Got engaged, but bedroom got cold.
00:21:08.960 Started getting a lot of offers, so I broke things off,
00:21:11.520 but I didn't think I could trust myself.
00:21:14.160 Haven't found anything close to that.
00:21:16.000 Should I have just cheated?
00:21:17.840 No.
00:21:18.880 He did good.
00:21:19.680 He did the right thing.
00:21:20.720 I mean, if they're already having issues before they're married,
00:21:23.920 it's not going to get better.
00:21:25.600 Be free.
00:21:27.760 Okay, Maggie, the substitute teacher. 0.99
00:21:30.080 New to the show.
00:21:30.880 Just saying hello to Pearl.
00:21:31.840 Blessing and Auntie Jenny.
00:21:32.800 Appreciate you all.
00:21:34.720 Eugene Steele.
00:21:35.600 I am not considering myself a passport bro,
00:21:38.240 but I wouldn't mind traveling to the UK to meet the woman in olive green.
00:21:44.160 She's single.
00:21:48.880 Sentience.
00:21:51.520 Men are required to be gentle with women because they're not the same. 1.00
00:21:54.720 Well, oh, I think I read this one already.
00:21:56.720 Okay, let me refresh it really quick, guys.
00:21:58.640 Also, guys, I think we're going to do, I know,
00:22:03.760 I know I announced that I was going to do our one million party next month.
00:22:08.640 I was too ambitious.
00:22:09.920 Okay, I was very ambitious.
00:22:11.280 I was like, let's do it next month.
00:22:12.480 We can do it.
00:22:13.200 It's happening in June.
00:22:14.080 I think June 10th.
00:22:15.120 I'm going to finalize it this week.
00:22:16.720 But yeah, yeah, it's not happening next month.
00:22:19.680 Sorry, guys.
00:22:20.720 Too much planning.
00:22:21.680 Yeah, well, I...
00:22:22.640 Underestimated how much work it is.
00:22:24.560 Yeah, I didn't realize how much like it takes to throw an event together and like the tickets and everything.
00:22:29.600 Yeah, so that was my fault.
00:22:32.080 Um, okay.
00:22:36.480 I'm trying to think of my next question, actually.
00:22:38.720 Um, oh, no, if they, when they get married,
00:22:44.080 what kind of wife do they think they're going to be? 1.00
00:22:46.640 Oh, that's a good question, Auntie.
00:22:49.040 Go ahead and start there.
00:22:49.920 Um, definitely a calm wife. 1.00
00:22:57.040 I know that sounds like what is a calm wife, 1.00
00:22:59.120 but just someone who like keeps their home peaceful, no outside dramas,
00:23:04.400 um, and just a loving, nurturing place.
00:23:10.320 Like I want, like I know in the UK you get like that,
00:23:13.920 I think it's like 10 to 12 months or something for your maternity leave. 0.65
00:23:17.920 I want at least the two, the first two and a half years just with my kids at home.
00:23:23.760 And I kind of want them close in age.
00:23:25.840 And just, I know it sounds so like cliche and like the cooking, the cleaning,
00:23:31.040 but I just want it to be a place where my man can feel like he can be a man.
00:23:34.640 And like he's in his role and his masculine and I can be in my feminine and just be a mother and a wife.
00:23:40.960 That's literally what I want.
00:23:44.400 What do you think you're going to get?
00:23:46.160 That's what I'm going to get.
00:23:47.280 Okay.
00:23:47.920 Yeah, that's what I'm going to get.
00:23:50.320 But I need a man who wants to be a husband and wants to do that role.
00:23:55.280 I can't have a man who wants me to also be like...
00:23:58.400 So what would your like day-to-day like life look like if you were in that role?
00:24:02.240 Like what would you be doing?
00:24:03.760 Wait, from the time you wake up in the morning with the two kids at six o'clock in the morning?
00:24:08.720 What's your day going to be like?
00:24:10.560 Well, I have my, my own daily structures and then that can just put me in the mind frame of
00:24:15.200 doing what I need to do.
00:24:16.560 And with kids, you know, it's never going to, no day is going to look the same.
00:24:20.800 But what do you mean?
00:24:23.280 Like what does it look like?
00:24:24.480 Like feeding them, cooking, cleaning.
00:24:26.160 Like give us your rota.
00:24:27.680 Yes.
00:24:28.240 Like, all right, then you wake up at five o'clock in the morning, one baby's screaming, right?
00:24:31.920 You've got to get your husband ready for work.
00:24:33.440 So you, you have a guy across from you who makes $250,000 a year.
00:24:36.800 He says, you know, you could be my, you could be my housewife.
00:24:39.040 What are you going to do for me?
00:24:40.000 Go.
00:24:41.520 Cook, clean, make sure the kids are looked after. 0.99
00:24:45.280 And when I say, and also make, keep myself together.
00:24:47.920 And in order to keep my...
00:24:48.640 Describe your normal day from start to finish.
00:24:51.200 Okay.
00:24:51.440 So I wake up, I VJ, like get stuff out of my journal, meditate, do my like seven self-care pillars,
00:25:00.960 cold shower.
00:25:02.560 If that means I've got to wake up at four because the kid wants to scream at five,
00:25:05.200 then I've got to do that.
00:25:07.680 One, two kids, one might be on school, one might be nursery or two under two.
00:25:12.160 I don't know.
00:25:15.040 Home schooled.
00:25:16.720 Home schooled, until what age?
00:25:19.760 Me doing it or like someone comes in?
00:25:21.280 You do it.
00:25:22.000 Oh, I do know.
00:25:22.960 I've never actually thought about like what that would look like, but I would be happy to.
00:25:29.280 I've never thought about what that would look like.
00:25:30.720 I've always just kind of had in my head that my kids would be at home until about three, four.
00:25:35.680 I personally don't want my kids going to nursery at two.
00:25:38.080 I know that's like this kind of extended age, but I want to be at home with my kids
00:25:43.200 at two years old.
00:25:44.000 So about three, four, they can like start going to other people.
00:25:49.040 Okay.
00:25:49.840 My kids can't be looked after by other people until they can put a sentence together.
00:25:54.880 Yeah.
00:25:55.440 Like that's it until they can understand like their body in terms of like for that age,
00:26:02.400 they're not being looked after by anyone.
00:26:05.040 And I need a man who gets that, who says, do you know what?
00:26:08.560 Yeah, I agree.
00:26:09.120 I don't want a man to think, oh, you doing that means you're going to live off of me.
00:26:13.600 No, I'm doing this because of the nurturing and the foundation I want for my kids.
00:26:17.760 That's your question.
00:26:18.720 And them going into the world.
00:26:19.680 If the child is really ill and you go to bed at midnight,
00:26:22.320 are you still going to get about four o'clock in the morning to go through your whole?
00:26:26.240 Yeah.
00:26:26.800 I'm just thinking to myself, you would love to have that couple of hours in the morning
00:26:29.840 to do all of that stuff.
00:26:32.560 It just sounds amazing.
00:26:34.400 If they're sick, if they're sick, sorry, sorry.
00:26:36.720 I mean, no, I mean,
00:26:37.440 because you're going to say you're going to get up at four o'clock in the morning.
00:26:39.680 If I had to.
00:26:40.720 Because, um, I heard you're doing a lot of talking,
00:26:42.880 but I heard you say about your day yet.
00:26:44.800 It's been a lot of, I want to hear, I want to, I want to hear, right?
00:26:49.600 Like you said, you get up at four o'clock in the morning,
00:26:52.080 you do all of your stuff, your, for you.
00:26:55.200 What time is that finish?
00:26:58.000 45 minutes to an hour.
00:26:59.280 All right then.
00:26:59.840 So five o'clock, we're going to do that.
00:27:02.640 I mean, I'm not a mother.
00:27:04.320 So I don't exactly know what that looks like,
00:27:06.560 but I know that I'm prepared to do whatever it takes to be the mother that I know that I want to be.
00:27:12.000 So I can't.
00:27:12.800 How have you, how have you prepared?
00:27:15.520 What do you mean?
00:27:16.160 No, I said, I, I'm prepared to do it.
00:27:18.480 Okay.
00:27:18.800 So like, I would have to teach you.
00:27:20.960 What do you mean?
00:27:22.000 So you, I'm saying, so then he would have to teach you, you're prepared to do it,
00:27:26.000 but you're not telling me what it is.
00:27:27.360 Yeah, I, I, yeah, I don't know exactly.
00:27:30.720 I know it takes a lot emotionally, mentally, physically.
00:27:35.360 And I'm ready to, and I'm prepared to go through it.
00:27:37.280 And I, I want to go through it because I want to be a mother.
00:27:40.160 Have you got nieces and nephews?
00:27:41.840 Um, I do.
00:27:42.880 Do you babysit a lot?
00:27:44.480 Not, not like that, no.
00:27:46.640 Would you be able to, if you could?
00:27:48.240 Yeah, I could.
00:27:48.880 It's half term this week.
00:27:49.920 Try it, try it for a day.
00:27:51.680 Yeah.
00:27:52.160 All of them.
00:27:53.280 Try having them for a day.
00:27:55.120 Yeah, I would, I would.
00:27:56.320 And let me know how you get on.
00:27:57.200 I would be down for it.
00:27:58.160 Let me know how you get on.
00:28:00.000 I think my, my siblings, they, they range in a, a massive range.
00:28:04.720 So I want you to have all the ones under five.
00:28:08.080 Okay.
00:28:08.960 And let me know how you get on.
00:28:10.080 For a full day, no parents involved in.
00:28:11.920 But in the morning they drop off to the evening bedtime.
00:28:14.720 I would love to do that.
00:28:16.000 Let me know how you get on.
00:28:16.960 I'd love to know.
00:28:18.480 Okay, so then we get 5am, so the kids are out.
00:28:21.040 Like, I don't know how long the day is going to be, but I know it's going to be long.
00:28:23.760 24 hours.
00:28:24.160 Because, yeah, because, because the thing is, the thing is.
00:28:27.200 The body gets up.
00:28:27.920 Do you know what I mean?
00:28:28.480 Because, and then it's like, you know, finding time to like have your shower and all that.
00:28:32.000 And you might not even have time to, to do all of that stuff.
00:28:34.720 And then to, you know, have dinner ready for when he gets home.
00:28:39.040 Like, I, I know it's going to be stressful.
00:28:41.040 I know it's not going to be an easy job.
00:28:42.960 Like, I'm not even going to pretend like I'm deluded on that.
00:28:47.040 But I just can't wait to be in it.
00:28:48.320 I think you need to start practicing now.
00:28:50.000 That's what I mean.
00:28:50.880 Yeah.
00:28:51.920 It sounds wonderful.
00:28:53.040 Because I can't wait till we get down to the end.
00:28:54.880 So you can hear what it's really like.
00:28:56.160 Yeah, but then also, but then also, I'm.
00:29:01.840 How many, how many meals can you cook?
00:29:03.520 Would you say?
00:29:04.640 Like, if you had to make a menu of your food, how many meals?
00:29:07.360 Oh, I don't know, but in double digits.
00:29:09.680 Okay.
00:29:09.920 So like 10, 20?
00:29:11.360 Yeah.
00:29:12.480 No, which one?
00:29:13.040 10, 20 or 50?
00:29:14.000 Um, like 15, 20, 25.
00:29:17.520 Okay.
00:29:18.160 Okay.
00:29:18.480 Cool.
00:29:18.720 So he gets 25 meals.
00:29:20.880 Roughly.
00:29:21.280 And then, oh, yeah.
00:29:21.920 Yeah, no, I'm just asking what he gets.
00:29:24.080 Yeah.
00:29:24.240 Yeah.
00:29:24.560 Yeah.
00:29:25.120 Okay.
00:29:26.000 Do you have any other questions, Andy?
00:29:27.680 No, I just want to know.
00:29:29.840 Well, I know when you said I'm about, um, when it gets to the end, but I also know that I
00:29:34.080 won't be in that position unless I know that he can provide a certain lifestyle.
00:29:39.520 That's just for me.
00:29:40.320 You can never afford to have children.
00:29:42.640 I know.
00:29:43.120 If you think you're going to save up to have children, forget about it.
00:29:46.080 I'm not, but I can, I can, I can categorically tell you, if, if life happens and we might
00:29:53.280 end up in a situation, but I can categorically tell you I'm not entering a situation like
00:29:58.800 that.
00:29:59.200 No.
00:30:00.000 There's no baby leaving my body without a ring on my finger.
00:30:05.360 Can I come to your wedding?
00:30:06.640 Of course you can.
00:30:07.120 Before I die.
00:30:08.000 Of course you can.
00:30:08.800 Okay.
00:30:09.920 There's nothing wrong with having kids without marriage. 0.91
00:30:11.840 I mean, I was born outside of marriage, but it's not happening for me.
00:30:15.360 It's not.
00:30:17.600 Are you religious?
00:30:19.120 I don't.
00:30:19.520 Are you religious?
00:30:20.560 I'm a Christian, yeah.
00:30:21.760 Okay.
00:30:22.160 Then that just changes things a little bit.
00:30:24.480 Why?
00:30:26.240 Before she said that, I was thinking you don't stand a chance.
00:30:29.440 It's very rare.
00:30:30.800 Now, at least she's got a, there's a percentage there. 0.95
00:30:33.440 Not very high, but there's sort of a percentage.
00:30:35.600 You don't stand a chance for what?
00:30:37.200 Kids.
00:30:37.680 No, for the happy whatever and the regular out there and the way, the way she sounded,
00:30:42.160 it just sounded like impossible.
00:30:44.960 It just doesn't sound like real.
00:30:46.800 I don't know.
00:30:47.520 It depends.
00:30:48.240 I can't.
00:30:48.720 Yeah.
00:30:51.200 Not having kids before marriage.
00:30:52.480 No, no.
00:30:53.360 I'm going to, I'm going to wake up for an hour and meditate before my kids.
00:30:57.200 Oh no, not, not meditate for an hour.
00:30:59.520 Oh my God, no.
00:31:00.240 You said 45 minutes.
00:31:01.440 No, no.
00:31:02.320 I mean like everything that I do, like right now,
00:31:04.320 currently everything that I do takes about 45 minutes in the morning.
00:31:06.960 That's from waking up to having my shower, meditate, VJ, breakfast, but.
00:31:12.880 What's VJ?
00:31:14.080 Yeah.
00:31:14.960 Oh, sorry.
00:31:16.640 Journaling.
00:31:17.280 It's just where you just like get like, but it's not like happy journey.
00:31:20.480 It's just where you get any like horrible thoughts out, any emotions.
00:31:23.600 So it's just, you just get it out.
00:31:24.800 It's done.
00:31:25.440 Leave it there.
00:31:27.280 Don't carry on into the next day.
00:31:28.720 You don't carry in into the day.
00:31:30.480 Why wouldn't you just pray?
00:31:31.360 Pardon?
00:31:32.960 No, I pray as well.
00:31:34.560 And I, sometimes I do it twice a day.
00:31:35.920 Sometimes I do it once a day.
00:31:37.040 It, it really depends.
00:31:39.120 But I just, I don't need to take negative emotions from one day into the next day.
00:31:42.960 And sometimes a lot of times when you think something's happened or someone's done you something,
00:31:47.120 they actually haven't.
00:31:48.400 It's just you're in your feelings and you get it out.
00:31:51.520 And it's also instead of offloading onto another friend,
00:31:54.800 not all the time do I need to call my friend.
00:31:56.000 I'm like, oh my God, can you believe this happened?
00:31:57.120 And they're like, yeah.
00:31:58.000 Oh my God, F that B and duh, duh, duh, duh.
00:32:00.160 Just get it out.
00:32:01.280 Boom, done, move on.
00:32:02.480 What would you do for your husband every day? 0.98
00:32:04.560 Because I've heard about the kids.
00:32:05.760 I've heard about you.
00:32:06.320 I haven't heard about your husband yet.
00:32:08.480 Like cook, clean, look after him. 0.99
00:32:10.640 Outside of that, anything else?
00:32:12.720 Be his support system.
00:32:14.960 Okay.
00:32:15.280 How?
00:32:16.160 I don't know exactly what that looks like,
00:32:18.720 but if he told me it looks like X, Y, Z, then it's X, Y, Z.
00:32:22.880 Okay.
00:32:23.520 Okay.
00:32:24.480 What about you?
00:32:25.360 What kind of wife do you want to be? 1.00
00:32:27.520 I feel like I was born quite maternal, quite wifely.
00:32:32.720 Sometimes it's a con because you carry wifely duties before they're needed. 1.00
00:32:37.200 Girlfriend prices.
00:32:38.400 When I am a wife, I have kind of similar views.
00:32:43.280 I want to raise my children to a certain age and then they can get into education or whatever.
00:32:49.600 If during that time my man is the provider, then I'll have to step up and do most homely things.
00:32:55.600 But then when I do continue to go back to work or start providing also, whether it's for everyone or just,
00:33:01.680 you know, partly, I'd want him to step in slightly more and maybe one night help with the cooking or unload the dishwasher.
00:33:09.440 I don't think it should be all on me.
00:33:11.520 Um, but yeah, I'm a very giving person.
00:33:14.720 I'm very caring, nurturing person.
00:33:16.160 So whatever he needs, if he needs help within his work, you know, I'll always try.
00:33:19.920 I won't, I won't ever say no or decline anything.
00:33:22.560 I always try.
00:33:23.200 Okay.
00:33:23.680 Could I, could I get more specifics?
00:33:25.440 Cause this is just very broad.
00:33:27.360 Specific in what?
00:33:28.240 Like what, what exactly you would do every day, like as a wife. 0.99
00:33:33.040 And you said like you did this stuff at like wifey things at girlfriend. 0.99
00:33:36.560 Oh yeah.
00:33:36.880 What does that mean?
00:33:37.680 I cook, I clean, you know, I'd, I'd wake up, make the bed.
00:33:40.960 If, do you think, do you think a man paying for a date is doing husband things at boyfriend prices?
00:33:47.280 Do I think a man paying for a date? 0.56
00:33:48.880 Yeah, a man paying for a date, is that doing husband things at boyfriend prices?
00:33:52.240 Cause a lot of times I think like we say we cooked, we cleaned and that's, that's.
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