JustPearlyThings - May 09, 2023


Happy Wife, Happy Life Concept is a Recipe for DISASTER


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In this episode, we discuss the concept of Happy Wife Happy Life and why it is a recipe for disaster. Do you believe in it? Do you think it s a good idea to have a happy wife and a happy life?

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00:00:00.000 do you guys believe in happy wife happy life why or why not yes i believe that um the wife
00:00:07.640 basically is in charge of the household um not the household but the house in itself um so if
00:00:13.520 the wife is in a bad mood or it's not doing okay the kids are not going to do okay like for example
00:00:17.960 with me when my mom was you know going through things or upset she wasn't able to nurture us
00:00:22.740 the way she could and sometimes that would affect us not in a big way so imagine if you know a
00:00:27.720 woman is not happy in a relationship she's not able to do her wifely duties properly 1.00
00:00:31.440 so therefore the woman's life the kid's life and the man's life um is not going to be able to like
00:00:37.840 you know the way i see i feel like the wife is the sun and everything orbits around it
00:00:41.720 and she's what keeps things moving so if that's not working out nothing else is going to work out
00:00:46.900 i think both to be fair i think it's not fair to say like happy wife happy life i feel like
00:00:53.800 we should make a man happy as well because they they can like he he's the one that's providing
00:00:59.780 he's the one that's taking care of the household he's the one that's making you feel safe he he he
00:01:03.420 we women do stuff as well we put stuff on the table i'm speaking about him now i feel like
00:01:08.020 happy husband happy life and happy wife happy life both of them what do you think i feel like happiness
00:01:13.400 is just a feeling and you know like for i don't know what's that for a woman but for a man when we wake
00:01:18.060 up sometimes i'm not happy but i have to keep it moving because i've got i've got stuff to do
00:01:21.600 whereas in the past i've been a partner as soon as something goes wrong and she's not happy it
00:01:26.100 all breaks down and you have to come up with a solution so in that sense there's so many more
00:01:31.360 like different things for like uh like a female to be unhappy about i mean i don't really have that 0.85
00:01:37.620 choice i don't have that that um pleasure to have that feeling if you know what i mean but at the same
00:01:42.480 time i haven't been married so i don't know from other people that have told me that they say that
00:01:46.920 what do you think um i would agree i think it's about 60 50 about 60 to the woman 50 i'm sorry 60
00:01:54.900 40 i'm a bit tired um 40 to the the man because i would say because obviously biologically women are 1.00
00:02:02.780 just a lot more emotional naturally so i feel like the repercussions of her unhappiness will affect a lot
00:02:08.460 more than the repercussions of a man's unhappiness as in he could probably hold it together a bit
00:02:12.660 more than a woman um it's not going to impact as much and to echo what you said about the kids
00:02:17.560 and the household it's going to affect all of that and that's now your environment so i feel like
00:02:21.900 that's where it comes in but i don't agree of like i'm not so rigid in thinking like happy wife happy
00:02:28.000 life and forget your husband because i just truly believe you do need to make your husband happy
00:02:31.960 100 what do you think
00:02:33.640 oh me yeah do you think happy wife happy life is good advice 0.99
00:02:39.240 no i think i think the husband needs to be happy obviously both both needs to be happy but more
00:02:44.740 time the husband because he's the one that's making the money he's going out and he's if if your man
00:02:50.140 is stressed do you think that he's going to come home and he's going to he's going to treat you right
00:02:54.380 and he's going to be he's not he has to be happy as well um yeah i think it's both sides i think that
00:02:59.840 happy wife happy life is a recipe for disaster
00:03:02.700 why yeah i think it's i think it's telling the man that you have to try to make a woman happy
00:03:09.360 and as women i think we're never happy i think that if you give a woman everything you that she
00:03:15.880 wants she'll still find something she'll still find something to not be happy about
00:03:20.160 i feel like the saying for me the way i look at it i feel like men go through a lot they literally
00:03:26.600 have to go outside and battle to understand and the way i look at it i think the only thing that can
00:03:31.260 really make a man happy is his woman that's the own that's his safe space that's his peace so when
00:03:36.940 people say like happy wife like when your wife is happy that man now becomes happy like for example
00:03:42.020 you like when you're you're you have a girl or whatever sorry just like when she's calm and when
00:03:48.780 she's happy doesn't that bring you happiness and peace too like compared to all the stresses of
00:03:52.760 working out or do you have like other outlets and i'm talking like she brings you that i need to i need
00:03:57.860 to add one thing i think that's narcissism i think women were naturally narcissistic and we take 1.00
00:04:03.880 credit for everything and i think that he's either a happy man on a purpose or he's not and i think
00:04:09.960 women have very little to do with it i think women play a big role in men's happiness i think women 0.81
00:04:16.720 are delusional and narcissistic um just like by our nature um and yeah i think we think that we deserve
00:04:24.180 more credit than we do oh my god i feel like women definitely make men let's just start with the 0.99
00:04:30.180 fact that where else would men get their orgasms from women yeah but that's a moment of happiness 0.73
00:04:37.200 i guess and that fades very quickly men typically get happiness from doing things it really doesn't
00:04:43.740 have anything to do with women what about peace though i'm thinking of peace when i say happy life
00:04:49.200 i'm thinking peace the problem with your argument is you're saying the woman needs to be happy to 0.97
00:04:53.160 make the man happy but the problem with that is usually women think that their happiness should 1.00
00:04:58.220 come from the man so the man needs to make her happy to then let her make him happy that doesn't make 0.99
00:05:02.320 sense so which one comes first then everyone should be responsible for their happiness yeah yeah yeah
00:05:08.900 yeah i think it's a recipe for disaster because you're basically telling men that you're only
00:05:15.160 gonna have um a happy life if she's happy and i think it goes back to like the like a lot of times
00:05:21.760 marriage like men view marriage as a horrible contract and i think that's part of it because
00:05:26.880 they're they're selling that in order for you to be happy she has to be happy and women are never happy 1.00
00:05:32.400 i always felt like the saying was just like uh just take care of your wife i never really met me it
00:05:37.880 meant like you have to be responsible for that i never knew people really took it literally
00:05:41.400 and that's why i was just like you know keep your wife happy because i thought it was just
00:05:45.340 make sure you're taking care of your wife but i didn't know it actually meant you're responsible
00:05:49.560 for her happiness and i don't believe in that i don't think you should be responsible for anyone's
00:05:52.960 i don't think it's like intentional but i think there's like a lot of words in our society where
00:05:57.020 we like subtly give like women credit for everything and like blame men for everything it's 0.91
00:06:01.860 very subtle i'll give you an example of another one not to do with the marriage but like knocked up
00:06:06.580 assumes that he knocked her up so whose fault is it his he got her pregnant like there's a lot of 1.00
00:06:13.180 really subtle things and i think that's like just one of them no that's that's actually true i still
00:06:19.360 feel like in a relationship everyone should be you should practice interdependence meaning you're able
00:06:24.880 to be independent by yourself and provide for yourself in terms of happiness but when you are in
00:06:29.840 a relationship i think your partner should wake up with the need and want to actually contribute
00:06:36.940 not make you happy and be the source of your happiness but contribute to your happiness so
00:06:41.360 in that aspect i do believe that men should contribute and it's vice versa as well i also
00:06:47.500 think sometimes happiness is just an illusion we're supposed to i think sometimes happiness is
00:06:53.600 an illusion because we're supposed to be up and down up and down if we're waiting until we're happy
00:06:57.940 we're never we're never because there's always something there's always something that we're
00:07:01.920 going to stress about yeah there's always a loss of a family there's always a career that i there's
00:07:06.520 always something so happiness is an illusion like you can be content so one thing you know i just
00:07:12.700 realized oh my gosh women we have easier lives than ever before we have more freedom than ever before
00:07:19.880 we have more automation than ever before yet we're more miserable than ever before and we're more
00:07:26.840 miserable because men tried to make us happy by giving us everything and now we're unhappy with
00:07:33.460 all of this choice and freedom we just spoil yes yes it's like we're like too many options yeah i think
00:07:40.240 we're like children actually yeah and it's kind of like if you give a kid everything yeah a miserable
00:07:46.940 child very true yeah yeah i think it's the same so one thing that you actually taught me is um you know
00:07:53.740 exactly what you just said there we're not always going to be happy in life learn to
00:07:57.880 deal with the unhappiness learn to deal with the stress when you're at work do you know what she
00:08:03.200 said to me she was like you're at work and you're angry just start smiling just endure the anger yeah
00:08:09.540 and there's studies that say like that you naturally like get happier if you're smiling all the time
00:08:14.840 yeah she was like just just learn to deal with it as part of life you experience different emotions
00:08:19.860 you don't always need to be happy sometimes you're sad and i think sometimes if the guy's like
00:08:24.160 feeding into it every time like it's kind of like with kids if they're having a temper tantrum and you
00:08:30.140 feed into it it's like it gets bigger and bigger yeah yeah yeah where if you just shut it down i'm a
00:08:34.660 big fan of ignoring problems yeah i think sometimes when you ignore problems you forget and they go away
00:08:40.540 i don't think we got to talk about every problem or issue also just being a bit cheeky with it i think
00:08:45.620 as a man a lot of men need to learn to just be like it's okay baby do you know i mean just shake
00:08:50.640 it off and then and then you as a woman be like all right cool i'm overreacting right instead of
00:08:54.460 being like oh no are you okay yeah don't do that and that's what i think that phrase like encourages
00:08:58.520 men to try to make her happy when again i don't think men can make women happier they're happier
00:09:04.400 you're not yeah it's a choice isn't it happiness is a choice that you make and like life is literally
00:09:09.380 just a never-ending story of problem solving i think will smith said something one time he said
00:09:16.520 you both have to be complete before you come together both be happy within your within yourself
00:09:21.980 you're never gonna be complete or happy that's the whole point no no no but like
00:09:25.560 my point is have you seen we've seen will smith's marriage oh yes it's no i've taken the positives from
00:09:33.240 it don't like here's the thing yeah don't try to seek happiness off your partner because then you're
00:09:40.140 going to be stuck aren't you you're going to be forever searching be happy within yourself and then
00:09:44.440 come together as one could we react to um the girl's reaction i know we started watching it earlier but
00:09:50.720 um yes i told you guys i told you i was like i should tell people to wear like i don't know
00:10:02.540 shorts or something no i'm just too my brother will kill me oh sorry that was sorry i don't know
00:10:07.960 if you can say that word sorry next time next time i'm just gonna come and like you know what african
00:10:12.820 moms wear yeah you got you got no excuse you've been here before i don't know who told me to wear 0.87
00:10:21.020 this um okay okay um what dating advice would you guys give to men i'm interested in getting your
00:10:35.100 money up i'm joking i'm joking okay what dating advice i would say um just be honest about just
00:10:43.780 be transparent it's not by force like and that's not just to do with like finances and stuff but even
00:10:49.400 like emotional availability and stuff like that like it's not that serious how do you communicate
00:10:55.540 that though on the first date not on the first not on the first date but she said dating advice not
00:11:00.220 date advice so like if you're dating somebody like consistently my advice would be honesty because
00:11:05.880 i feel like my pet peeve is when men are like not honest or like not transparent i don't really
00:11:11.420 expect it straight away which is fine but at some point just stop lying so i think it depends on be
00:11:17.920 honest be emotionally available those are like the two okay what about you um maybe just be like very
00:11:24.080 clear on your intentions like where you are in your life and what your goal is with this woman
00:11:29.340 essentially be clear in your intentions and what in your intentions yeah okay what about you i think 0.51
00:11:34.480 it depends on what you're dating for as a man what are you dating for um most men want to have sex 1.00
00:11:40.140 okay then then make that clear i'm trying to tell her right away you want to fuck uh nah because then 1.00
00:11:46.480 you're not gonna get her into bed are you okay so tell her soon i think um i think it needs to be a 0.99
00:11:52.200 little bit uh not so blunt like that okay but you know i'm not looking for anything serious i'm just
00:11:56.880 looking for just be honest because then you're not playing sup because when you have a daughter
00:12:00.880 it's going to come back on you karma is a real thing okay uh what do you think um yeah depends
00:12:06.740 on what what you're going for sorry it depends what you're going for so because don't waste my time
00:12:12.340 like i'm dating for for marriage so it's like are you dating for the same interest or are you dating
00:12:17.460 for fod because if so there's lots of fishes in the sea okay so be be honest with your intentions
00:12:22.560 okay what i would say study the girl ask as many questions as possible because one thing i would
00:12:28.300 say is us women we're very good at playing a character yeah um we can play any character that
00:12:32.700 we want so when a man you know falls in love with her beauty or this and that and then later on in 0.95
00:12:37.600 a marriage he finds out okay she was a whore with a body count of 36 and now you're divorced and now 1.00
00:12:41.540 you've lost your money it's because you didn't really take the time to study girls i feel like a lot 0.99
00:12:46.340 of men these days are going for girls just like for vanity and just this fake facade that they put in on 0.98
00:12:51.060 and then they end they end up finding themselves in the shit show like i'm not being funny but look 0.99
00:12:55.100 at kanye and kim he just fell in love with her because of her bum and her s tape and then now 0.99
00:12:59.840 look what's happened as soon as she made a billion dollars she's left him and he's gone insane he's
00:13:04.440 gone insane he has no control over what his daughter is posting on tiktok why because he didn't take the
00:13:09.360 time to really study kim and her manipulative ways 1.00
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