JustPearlyThings - October 16, 2023


He Gets ROASTED by Feminists For Rendering Women's Education Useless


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In this episode, we talk about why women should leave their marriages and why men should stay in their marriages. We also discuss why men are more selfless than women when it comes to their kids and why women are more selfish.

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00:00:00.000 Yeah, I agree
00:00:08.000 I'm doing a documentary on the court system in the UK mm-hmm, and I I can tell you firsthand men are not the first to throw in the towel
00:00:19.760 It might be for the kids
00:00:21.320 But that the men are more selfless than the women because they care about the kids. They'll stick it out for the kids
00:00:26.080 There was a man. I just interviewed a guy. I just I just
00:00:31.020 I am talking about marriage. He was married. He has three daughters
00:00:35.840 And he was married to a narcissist and he said that he would have stuck it out
00:00:43.140 But she wouldn't wow so then one day he gets a call he can't go home
00:00:47.960 She got a restraining order against him. She accused him of abuse
00:00:51.520 And now he can't see his children three daughters, and he hasn't even gotten to fight in court in the last year
00:00:58.600 Mm-hmm, and all he wants is just to see his kids to bring his family together
00:01:02.860 We hear this all fine this woman had had no real reason and I'm telling you I'm doing a documentary on this 0.97
00:01:08.360 It's like the same story over and over again
00:01:10.600 Because here the courts think about if you're if you're in a contract right and person a gets everything by leaving they get the house
00:01:17.160 They get the kids they get everything in person B
00:01:19.260 They lose everything person B is always trying to please person a because they have more to lose
00:01:25.840 So it changes the way we interact in relationships in my opinion where that's why we always have like women wearing the pants 1.00
00:01:31.700 Especially in the West because the men are always trying to appease the women because they lose everything if they leave
00:01:37.220 So yeah, I do I do think women today throw in the towel and partially it's because they're paid to April 1.00
00:01:41.840 I've had clients crying to me. I've had like in law offices the partners
00:01:47.220 I've had them cry to me over the years because of the divorce they're going through and not being able to see their kids
00:01:53.980 And it's and it's like and we know statistically it's 80% of women that leave the relationships 1.00
00:01:59.120 I've had grown-ass men cry to me about it
00:02:02.480 Like I've had that relation where they're like dude, and they just ball. Yeah, I know many men
00:02:07.680 I know men I've met many men who are actually depressed and that's how they go into depression because they've lost their kids
00:02:14.320 And the mother is usually being sparked for just not letting them see their kid not giving you the right
00:02:18.960 And can I say something though? I don't want to justify the thing that
00:02:23.760 Women sometimes they can be evil and take their kids and use them against their husbands 1.00
00:02:28.960 But you have to check how many marriage are made where the woman she does everything she goes to work 0.99
00:02:34.960 She takes care of kids. She does everything and the man just goes to work and goes home and chill
00:02:39.840 Like you don't really know the reason why people divorce and like I believe there's so many marriages nowadays
00:02:44.880 Well, why did she have a kid with a guy that just sits at the couch all day? 1.00
00:02:47.920 I mean, why did she pick him? No, because the men most of the men they say that like men in business or whatever
00:02:55.360 Men by and large make more than women. Sorry men by and large make more than women. Yeah, I know 0.86
00:03:00.560 But because they make more than women they they feel that they are able to like just go home and chill or watch the tv 1.00
00:03:06.960 Or go with their friends to drink a beer while the woman after she goes to work 1.00
00:03:11.040 She looks after the kids. She takes care of the house. She pays the bill. She does she does everything basically 0.90
00:03:17.040 Please go. Okay. This is literally we talked about this today with kareel. So this is really interesting
00:03:22.080 And again, this is going to be super offensive. So let's go viral
00:03:27.360 First thing okay
00:03:29.680 like
00:03:32.560 Messy the football soccer football player his wife isn't leaving him because he doesn't do the dishes
00:03:37.920 When the wife's like I left him because he didn't do the chores. It's like 0.85
00:03:41.440 That lebron is lebron's wife leaving him because he doesn't do the dishes. That's a bullshit reason. That's not true 0.66
00:03:45.920 Let me tell you what is true
00:03:46.880 Because I know what clean is
00:03:47.920 The answer is he's not if if a wife is like I'm leaving because my husband doesn't do chores
00:03:52.480 It's because he's not making enough money. That's the reason now and and the stat
00:03:56.640 I'll make it very simple. I hate this. I told you it's going to be
00:03:59.440 It's true
00:04:00.000 So so I
00:04:01.040 That makes sense
00:04:01.920 Listen up
00:04:02.560 I come I come home if you do the logic I come home and I'm like I just work like a 14 hour day
00:04:06.880 I'm super tired
00:04:08.320 You know I
00:04:09.520 Whatever pull my portion next to my wife's g-wagon that I got her. She's very cool. Everything's great
00:04:13.920 And I'm freaking tired and I can see my wife which we got four kids. She's working really hard around the house 1.00
00:04:20.320 And I'm like honey, listen, um, let me just get a maid to come in and clean the house 0.99
00:04:25.440 And my wife's like, no, no, I I want to do this myself
00:04:28.560 And I'm like, look, I know I'm not gonna do it
00:04:30.080 I'll tell you I'm not gonna I just work 14 hours
00:04:31.520 I'm gonna touch a dish in my life and I told her if I'm single
00:04:33.680 I have a full-time live-in maid and my like I'll literally get a nanny for myself if I'm single and she will just do everything 1.00
00:04:39.280 So finally I convinced my wife
00:04:41.520 To get a lady to come in and help around the house 1.00
00:04:44.080 So in comes like this hot 23 year old ukrainian girl that's now living in estonia as a refugee and she's in there wiping the everything 1.00
00:04:51.120 I see my wife do the side. She never showed up again
00:04:54.960 She never shows gentlemen 0.96
00:04:56.960 Why is he scaring people?
00:04:59.680 What I'm saying is gentlemen, this is gonna be offensive. Listen up if you ever if you don't want to do dishes
00:05:04.160 And you are successful enough to hire a maid. Hire a hot maid and I promise your wife will do the damn dishes 1.00
00:05:10.000 No one say that
00:05:10.880 If your wife seems to kill, she won't feed from me 1.00
00:05:13.680 I want to give you guys a stat. Wait, no wait
00:05:16.080 Surprisingly studies showed that the divorce rate among couples who share
00:05:20.080 Chores equally was 50% higher than among those where the wife does the majority of the work 0.99
00:05:26.000 It's a financial thing
00:05:26.720 Yeah, I know but I'm not saying I'm not saying because the men like because the men doesn't do because obviously the woman for nature like 0.99
00:05:34.320 Even like in all the religion, right?
00:05:36.160 The woman is the one that she looks after the kids after the house and everything 1.00
00:05:39.760 But like at the same time if a man can make like that type of amount of money that he can come home and chill
00:05:46.640 Then why her wife she should go to work and be like, oh, I have to take care of everything 1.00
00:05:51.520 Like if she if her wife can decide to be at home and be like, oh, I don't want to have like a really 1.00
00:05:56.080 Do you think that successful men want their wives to work? 1.00
00:05:59.360 Does your wife 0.95
00:06:00.080 Well, I know I told her when I married her
00:06:02.240 I said I want my mom work my mom out on my dad
00:06:04.800 So my parents got divorced and it was and I saw it as a kid. I wasn't a dumb kid
00:06:08.320 I'm like, I know why it's happening because my mom started out earning my dad
00:06:11.440 I told my wife like look when we get married. I want my wife to be a stay-at-home mom 1.00
00:06:15.840 I was very open about it
00:06:16.800 Why is because I want my kids seven experience?
00:06:19.040 I didn't have and I want to work my ass off to provide my kids that experience
00:06:22.800 Okay, can I just put that in there the last guy?
00:06:25.520 I was hit with even though he wanted me to have this and I have that he wanted me to do all of that
00:06:30.400 He did not want me to stay at home and raise kids
00:06:33.680 He wanted me to go to work and I'll fall well
00:06:36.800 Listen, if you're the breadwinner and you're the alpha
00:06:39.440 Why would you want to put so much pressure on
00:06:41.680 He ain't no alpha girl, he ain't no alpha
00:06:46.560 One thing guys, so this is a topic that's come up here and I
00:06:50.080 I'm so you're like look let's imagine we group men into two groups, okay?
00:06:55.120 Some men are slimy and and they just have you know bad character and they and they mistreat you
00:07:01.040 And maybe you know some of us were unfortunate enough to grow up with with a father like that
00:07:05.520 I just want to give a shout out to my dad by the way who never made a lot of money in his life
00:07:09.200 He's still a mechanic to this day. He's in his 60s
00:07:11.600 He's never going to retire
00:07:12.880 But man did he give me a good example of a man who suffers in dignity my god
00:07:16.480 He just he suffers in dignity and I know he fucking hates it. Pardon my french
00:07:20.480 But he suffered in dignity for me, uh, because you know, he had a son me
00:07:25.120 So we can group the men into these two categories the slime balls 0.85
00:07:27.920 And then we have guys that like genuinely want an optimal outcome for their family pearl
00:07:31.760 I think your dad sounds like he might be that kind of guy
00:07:33.840 Are there any other by the way folks here with a guy with a dad like that?
00:07:37.440 Oh my goodness, so about 50 you can see 50 okay
00:07:41.120 So and this is a painful question to ask
00:07:43.680 But I would ask this question because if i'm coaching a young man or woman in our company
00:07:47.920 And they're continuously getting a negative outcome. I would ask well if 50 of the guys are the good guys
00:07:53.600 Why aren't they picking you?
00:07:55.680 Like why are you being picked by these guys that are problematic guys because that's the experience you're describing?
00:08:00.160 What about the good guys exist and they're picking somebody we exist maybe why are they picking you?
00:08:05.120 Maybe them sly balls know who to pre on and they just see it 1.00
00:08:08.960 So why are you why are you such a juicy target for that and why why why why are you going for it well guys?
00:08:19.360 Wait, wait, this is my issue. It's like okay once i'll give you one
00:08:23.120 All right, but it's like girls will pick two three four like at some point. It's a pattern 0.92
00:08:26.880 It's okay. It's you men can be very deceiving in the beginning. They can be lovely
00:08:31.360 They can be kind
00:08:37.440 Until you get to know them give it three months six months down the line then we start giving them conversations
00:08:42.480 Shall we have the kids shall we move in that quickly you want to do that? Yeah, of course
00:08:46.640 So we we're speaking about life. We're not trying to waste time
00:08:50.320 In or out are you a good judge of character?
00:08:53.200 Um, I think so. Well, that doesn't sound like it
00:08:55.760 No, it is because at the end of the day if you come across a good man, he's hard working
00:09:01.520 He's very dedicated to his own game. He's alpha male and da da da da da
00:09:06.160 You know you're gonna give him that time of day because you think oh, I like this energy. I like this man
00:09:11.280 So where's that man in your life?
00:09:12.240 He's giving me me. I have so many to pick from and I haven't chose yet. Yeah, okay
00:09:17.520 I have many that I can actually say I can suckle down baby cap
00:09:25.440 I'm not talking about text. I'm just saying
00:09:32.560 It's any
00:09:33.680 I can say it's any girl if you're if you're saying
00:09:37.440 If you're single, it's like then you're not the guys you want don't want to journey
00:09:43.360 No
00:09:45.360 That's come on if a guy if a guy really you thought was taking you serious and checked all your boxes you'd go for any one
00:09:55.520 That's my that goes back to my point though because the men the men that are going for you don't live up to your standards
00:10:00.400 So either your standards are too high
00:10:03.200 There's one particular person and I'm like wow you really did do that like he read and I'm really shocked
00:10:09.600 And I'm really proud of the man he's become and I've known him for many years
00:10:13.360 And you know we could have been in a relationship and say 15 years ago, but I was like no
00:10:18.400 I've come to London and I'm on a journey and I don't want to be distracted by these guys because guess what they're gonna
00:10:24.720 Give a baby to you 0.95
00:10:28.400 No, not necessarily
00:10:30.400 I'm on a journey
00:10:32.400 How can I be judging characters when I'm on a journey?
00:10:34.400 I have a question you said do you have kids?
00:10:35.520 Do you have kids? No, I don't kids and you said you're 39. Yes. Do you want kids?
00:10:40.560 With the right person if I don't I have many nieces and nephews. Okay, so
00:10:45.440 I've got a big family
00:10:46.480 But but it goes back to you haven't found the right person to have kids with so so again again
00:10:51.840 I've been picky again
00:10:53.360 Right, so so there's there's a there's a mis there's a misconnect there
00:10:56.800 There has been right people
00:10:58.800 Wait, wait, so it's either your standards
00:11:00.800 It's either your standards are too high. Very high
00:11:02.800 You don't know how to pick and maybe you don't have a good judge of character or the men that you want don't want you 1.00
00:11:08.480 It's one of the three like there has to be
00:11:10.480 Maybe the guys who I wanted they probably don't want me no more because we're in a different
00:11:17.040 Category he's in he's far away. I would have to move to his location and da da da da da 1.00
00:11:23.120 And then the ones in England
00:11:29.440 You've been dating you've been dating since what you're 18 16 so in 20 years. You're the only common denominator
00:11:35.680 It can't be all the men. It's you
00:11:38.840 It's not me though. It's because if I have some guys that are
00:11:43.920 You know it may be waiting for me to say yes
00:11:48.000 You know I mean that's just mine, but you know I'm okay. It might be your life choices
00:11:52.620 It might be but but it goes back to you're the common denominator. Just like my outcomes. It's it's my fault
00:11:59.420 Everyone's own outcomes are their own fault. It's choices though. Hey, can I give this choice?
00:12:04.060 I really think it's the energy that she's putting that because you're in your you're in your place where you want to go high up in life
00:12:10.940 You're also not giving those energy to those men. That's what things like that mean as well
00:12:14.780 That's what I'm listening
00:12:15.660 I can't waste time guys. I'm a I'm gonna do a little business thing here
00:12:19.340 You want it you said you want to be a multimillionaire be super successful, right? Yeah, I'm gonna give you
00:12:22.700 I'm about to make you a multi-frickin million. You're ready for this start a cat food company and call your friends
00:12:28.060 You will make millions
00:12:29.420 No, I don't have friends like that. No, I'm sorry. You made my
00:12:36.380 When are you gonna be a millionaire by well, there's no time plan, but we're working on the journey
00:12:41.360 So we're doing everything possible to make it over half a million saved
00:12:45.860 No, I've got some money saved on okay, so but it's like when you've had 20 years to do it
00:12:51.420 I mean, it's not about when you know what it is about when and it's also about who
00:12:57.660 Because if I'll have such a high mentality, I need somebody to match that mentality
00:13:03.740 And they can't bring me down at the at the rate. I'm at I'm 26. Okay. I'm 26
00:13:08.860 I probably will be a millionaire in the next five years
00:13:12.380 No, no, no, it's not even like that
00:13:13.900 But I'm saying like you but I'm saying like but I could tell you I didn't need anyone else to help me do it
00:13:19.020 Good. I just did it. Mm-hmm and it's and it's like
00:13:22.940 If you're 39 and you're not on the actual path to being a millionaire like I wasn't able to get on my path until I was 26
00:13:29.940 But my my whole point but so it's still been 15 years that I had to come
00:13:35.980 From a different city. No, let me give you the city. I had to move from a different city
00:13:41.060 Okay, I had to start fresh again. Okay, you came here with nothing with nobody. Yeah
00:13:46.760 I did that I did that a year ago. You did that a year ago a year
00:13:50.520 Maybe you had a bit more supportive parents. I don't have supportive parents. My dad has passed away
00:13:56.040 And my mom she's a single mom. So no, I can't look to my family for anything
00:14:00.440 So everything is all by myself, which is which is fine
00:14:04.600 You know, I mean you can phone your dad and say dad. What a story. I've got a I've got a problem
00:14:09.960 I can't you're right. I can't you're right. I have to work it out
00:14:15.240 If it's going to take me 15 years
00:14:17.240 You still have that same problem and that's what I'm saying
00:14:20.040 It's like I am changing every day and every day. I'm getting better and better and that's what I do
00:14:26.200 To who? To who? To who?
00:14:28.200 It's not about pleasing anybody though
00:14:30.600 It's not. It's about pleasing yourself
00:14:32.600 If you're going to be a millionaire and this is like this just sounds
00:14:35.400 That is a dream. It's a dream
00:14:37.000 It's just it's a dream
00:14:38.040 Yeah, but so
00:14:38.680 And we're working towards it
00:14:40.040 So how?
00:14:41.240 I do properties. You didn't ask me my life story. I do properties
00:14:45.160 I do acting. I do music. I'm all on intellectual property
00:14:49.880 Intellectual property takes time
00:14:51.880 Then your property games take time as well. You know what I mean? I've been working on properties since 2017
00:14:58.920 I didn't leave school with any jcse's and I've just finished university four weeks ago 1.00
00:15:03.720 So I had to go through that journey of becoming
00:15:06.280 Intellectual for me to go on these journeys. Do you think you're still going to have the type of energy you had in your 20s in your 40s and 50s?
00:15:14.200 Maybe not, but guess what we're going to keep on going
00:15:16.840 But you're going to be competing with the people in their 20s and their 30s
00:15:20.600 No competition. There's no competition
00:15:22.760 It is
00:15:23.320 Because if you're not telling you
00:15:24.760 It isn't for you, but there is a competition
00:15:26.680 There is a competition, but I can't look on that
00:15:29.320 I promise you that business is absolutely a competition
00:15:32.440 Oh my god
00:15:32.840 It's a big competition
00:15:34.520 Can I just say one thing please?
00:15:35.960 Go ahead
00:15:36.200 Babe, you know you're saying you're not in competition
00:15:38.920 My daughter's going to be 18 in July
00:15:41.000 So you really think that you're going to have the same sort of the same energy
00:15:45.000 That's what she's just saying the same energy and the same drive and the same opportunities that my 18-year-old daughter 0.61
00:15:49.640 Because you're going to be in the same gym
00:15:51.240 But would your daughter be doing the same things that I'm doing now?
00:15:55.000 Who knows
00:15:55.480 Probably not if she wants to be successful 1.00
00:15:58.440 But she could be
00:16:00.760 You know what I mean?
00:16:01.400 She could be, but we're going to be in a whole different category
00:16:04.680 I'm going to be in the say the 40 to 45
00:16:07.000 She's going to be 18 to 25
00:16:08.760 There is a lot of things a 40 and a 45-year-old can do
00:16:12.520 This is my point though for you
00:16:13.960 It's like you're 39
00:16:15.560 It doesn't sound like
00:16:16.440 Can you talk about it?
00:16:17.560 No, I'm just being honest
00:16:19.880 It doesn't sound like
00:16:20.760 I'm an older woman
00:16:21.560 It doesn't sound like you're on track to be a millionaire
00:16:23.560 It doesn't
00:16:23.960 This doesn't sound
00:16:24.680 Maybe you could have said that to Henry Ford
00:16:27.000 Okay, okay
00:16:28.200 You could have said that to Henry Ford
00:16:29.800 It doesn't
00:16:30.920 Based on the way
00:16:31.640 But you could though
00:16:32.120 Based on what you're saying
00:16:33.880 It doesn't sound like you're on track
00:16:35.080 You might be
00:16:35.640 I don't believe in statistics
00:16:37.880 Okay, okay
00:16:38.600 Yeah, I don't
00:16:39.400 I don't
00:16:40.840 Of course not
00:16:41.880 But business
00:16:42.360 You can't
00:16:42.840 Okay, okay
00:16:43.320 I'll give you something
00:16:44.120 Business people usually believe in statistics
00:16:47.000 I understand that
00:16:47.560 You're going to look at your market
00:16:48.760 You're going to look at the people you're selling
00:16:50.120 You believe in statistics
00:16:51.320 But then
00:16:51.880 If you want to be a millionaire
00:16:52.840 You probably should believe in statistics
00:16:54.600 If you're a kind of evolving person
00:16:57.160 So now you're at the point
00:16:58.600 It's like you want a family with the right guy
00:17:00.920 And I can tell you do
00:17:02.280 But it's like you're curving the guy
00:17:03.960 That you said would be a good relationship for you for 15 years
00:17:06.920 But attraction is everything
00:17:08.760 No, it's not
00:17:09.800 It is
00:17:10.120 It's not
00:17:10.440 It is when you're younger
00:17:11.400 But when you're older
00:17:12.120 It's like you got to pick your poison
00:17:13.640 No
00:17:14.120 You know
00:17:14.680 I'll be single then
00:17:15.800 I'm happy
00:17:16.280 Do you know what?
00:17:17.160 You know
00:17:17.640 Do you have money that you could be saved for retirement?
00:17:21.720 Like what do we need
00:17:22.840 1.5 million to retire?
00:17:24.280 Are you on track?
00:17:25.240 We're all working on it
00:17:26.520 Because I wasn't around the people that was going for those goals
00:17:30.360 I had to take myself out of my environment
00:17:33.400 But this is
00:17:34.280 You can't blame
00:17:35.800 You can't
00:17:36.600 The generational curse environment 1.00
00:17:38.520 You can't
00:17:38.680 Look at my dad grew up
00:17:40.040 My dad grew up on the south side of Chicago with 13 kids
00:17:44.120 He didn't grow up in a good environment
00:17:45.560 None of his siblings are successful
00:17:47.160 It's either you're going to be successful or you're not
00:17:49.160 And most of the time people that are going to be millionaires are on the way
00:17:52.280 By the time they're your age
00:17:53.880 Because you'd have to compete with the people that are in their 20s and 30s
00:17:57.240 And have way more energy than you're going to
00:17:59.000 That does not matter
00:18:00.040 Because everybody's going to be evolving differently
00:18:03.480 Pearl, can I
00:18:04.600 This is like
00:18:05.480 The reason I think some of us are a little bit taken back
00:18:08.200 Is like you're obviously intelligent
00:18:10.120 No, I'm just happy with my life
00:18:12.120 Can I add something?
00:18:13.960 I really feel like
00:18:17.000 With the cost of living
00:18:18.040 A million pound is nothing as well
00:18:19.720 And that's the sad part
00:18:20.760 Like we're all going to struggle
00:18:22.440 Right, okay, sorry
00:18:23.960 Go ahead, go ahead
00:18:24.840 So, sorry, I forgot your name
00:18:27.000 Abby
00:18:27.240 Abby
00:18:28.120 Abby
00:18:29.080 Abby, I apologize for that
00:18:30.520 Um, you're obviously intelligent
00:18:32.520 Like there's no question
00:18:33.240 We can tell like your thoughts are there
00:18:35.880 You're, you look nice
00:18:37.320 You know, like
00:18:38.440 You're a nice looking lady
00:18:39.480 You're smart
00:18:40.120 Your verbal intelligence is fairly high
00:18:42.520 Like you think fast, you talk fast
00:18:45.240 There's, there's a lot of opportunity
00:18:47.320 A lot of potential
00:18:48.040 You recognize your own potential
00:18:49.560 You know that
00:18:49.960 Yeah, so that's why I'm not involved by competition
00:18:52.680 Or anything
00:18:53.240 Because once you're in your tunnel vision
00:18:55.240 Let him finish
00:18:55.960 Let him finish
00:18:56.760 The delusion
00:18:57.480 Like you don't have to sell us anymore on that
00:18:59.320 We already know
00:19:00.200 But you're smart
00:19:01.000 You're, you're well spoken
00:19:02.520 You're, you're, you're beautiful
00:19:03.640 Like you have a lot of
00:19:04.440 Thank you
00:19:04.840 The potential is incredible
00:19:06.600 The potential is incredible
00:19:08.920 But, but there's the
00:19:10.600 I had this situation
00:19:11.560 This situation, this situation
00:19:12.760 This situation
00:19:13.480 Now, Pearl's dad
00:19:14.600 One of 13
00:19:15.880 Certainly didn't grow up very privileged
00:19:17.320 Right
00:19:17.560 So you guys meet
00:19:18.600 Like real simple
00:19:19.240 Like I grew up as a Jew in the Soviet Union
00:19:21.640 Which was not a happy place for Jews 0.58
00:19:23.880 We immigrated to Canada in 92
00:19:25.880 Which we're eating at the food bank
00:19:27.480 And then
00:19:29.240 Here's what happened to me
00:19:30.200 I'll tell you guys a quick story
00:19:31.160 And I hope it's interesting
00:19:32.120 Right
00:19:33.160 I was rollerblading
00:19:35.160 Like a complete loser
00:19:36.280 Rollerblading
00:19:37.720 Like four or five kilometers
00:19:39.320 To go from my parked car on the highway
00:19:41.640 To my university
00:19:42.680 Because I couldn't afford the 75 cents a day
00:19:45.160 They were charging for parking at my university
00:19:46.840 Because I was paying my own school
00:19:48.440 So I was rollerblading
00:19:49.240 I would park on the highway
00:19:50.600 And I would rollerblade like
00:19:52.120 A good hour to get to my university campus
00:19:55.080 And somebody saw me do that
00:19:56.360 And they go, wow
00:19:57.560 You're so motivated
00:19:58.520 You know, I can see you
00:19:59.320 Like you want to stay in shape
00:20:00.280 Blah, blah, blah
00:20:00.840 And I'm too embarrassed to tell this person
00:20:02.440 I'm just freaking poor
00:20:04.280 Like I can't afford the 75 cents
00:20:06.280 You know
00:20:06.520 But you're motivated
00:20:07.640 But here's the thing
00:20:09.720 I was lucky
00:20:10.360 Because I met a mentor
00:20:11.480 Somebody that said
00:20:12.280 Hey, you know
00:20:13.720 You want to do better than this?
00:20:14.840 I was like, yeah
00:20:15.480 And that's a dangerous thing
00:20:16.520 I was like 19 or 20
00:20:17.720 It's a dangerous thing
00:20:18.440 And this person said to me
00:20:19.240 Hey, I work in this company
00:20:20.280 And what this person was doing
00:20:21.320 Is selling encyclopedias door to door
00:20:23.320 And they said
00:20:24.280 You can go do this
00:20:25.560 And that's what I did for six years
00:20:27.240 How I paid for university
00:20:28.520 And I got like two degrees
00:20:29.720 By selling encyclopedias door to door for six years
00:20:33.400 Luckily, fortunately for me
00:20:35.240 I met a mentor
00:20:36.840 That saw my potential
00:20:38.120 Saw my energy
00:20:38.840 And I was delusional
00:20:39.720 Because whatever I was doing
00:20:40.840 I couldn't afford 75 cents for parking
00:20:43.320 So I knew that I was delusional
00:20:44.760 Because what I wanted
00:20:45.800 Was not what I had in my life
00:20:47.160 Fair enough?
00:20:48.680 I'm going to give a plug
00:20:49.560 So that's what we do at our company
00:20:51.080 53% of our salespeople
00:20:53.000 Make six figures within 18 months
00:20:55.400 53%
00:20:57.160 The reason I plug us here
00:20:58.760 Is lgv.com really simple
00:21:01.400 What you need is like
00:21:02.280 To be around somebody
00:21:03.160 That's actually done
00:21:03.880 What you want to do
00:21:05.720 And not make up stories of how it works
00:21:07.400 Like there are people
00:21:08.040 That have done what you want to do
00:21:09.320 Find those people
00:21:10.360 And they will be so happy
00:21:11.880 Happy to mentor you
00:21:13.480 Because Kirill
00:21:14.200 That's what we do in our company
00:21:15.160 Isn't it?
00:21:15.480 But what makes you think
00:21:16.360 I'm not in those group of people
00:21:18.280 What makes you think
00:21:19.160 I am not evolving around those people?
00:21:21.400 The answer is results
00:21:22.280 But my journey actually started
00:21:25.160 Properly at 26 years old
00:21:26.920 When I moved to London
00:21:28.760 That's 13 years ago
00:21:29.320 But I still had to educate myself
00:21:30.680 I came here with 108 pounds in my pocket
00:21:34.040 Tell me how am I going to sort myself out
00:21:36.280 Get my house accrued
00:21:37.080 I kind of understand her
00:21:38.760 I understand her
00:21:40.360 I'm going to let him go
00:21:41.080 I don't think he's talked yet
00:21:42.120 To your point
00:21:44.840 You were talking about how you came here with 100 pounds
00:21:48.280 I immigrated from Bulgaria with my parents
00:21:51.400 And we lived in a single room
00:21:54.520 It was just a single room
00:21:55.640 The three of us
00:21:56.840 And right now I'm 21
00:21:58.600 And just like you
00:21:59.880 I wanted to do better for myself
00:22:01.560 Because I was an electrician
00:22:03.880 And I wasn't happy with how things were going
00:22:06.200 And I joined
00:22:08.040 And all of a sudden
00:22:09.320 I'm meeting high net worth individuals on a daily basis
00:22:13.400 And I'm improving myself
00:22:14.920 And you're here saying
00:22:17.240 I had to take myself from the toxic situations that I had in my life
00:22:21.720 Of course
00:22:21.880 But everyone deals with them
00:22:23.480 So that's really an excuse that you tell yourself
00:22:26.200 That's true
00:22:26.680 But can I say something
00:22:29.080 For you can look like an excuse
00:22:30.520 Yeah, but what you're trying to say
00:22:31.720 Yeah, you had still your parents on your back
00:22:34.280 You came with your parents on a single room
00:22:36.280 But you were with your parents
00:22:38.520 You were not by yourself
00:22:39.960 You were not providing food by yourself
00:22:42.680 You were not paying your bills by yourself
00:22:45.000 You were not looking around for
00:22:48.040 I was
00:22:48.680 Yeah, okay
00:22:52.760 I understand her because
00:22:55.240 I get it
00:22:56.200 She
00:22:57.080 I don't know your past
00:22:58.120 But before moving to London
00:23:00.440 Maybe you didn't
00:23:02.040 Maybe you were just
00:23:03.240 I don't know
00:23:03.800 You're going through life
00:23:04.840 The difficulties of learning
00:23:06.120 I was a recruitment consultant
00:23:07.000 Well, I don't know
00:23:07.720 Yeah, no
00:23:08.120 I'm telling you
00:23:08.760 But you came to London
00:23:09.960 And the thing is
00:23:10.520 I get it
00:23:11.080 Because some people
00:23:12.520 They don't see it as
00:23:13.640 Let's just go for it
00:23:14.280 Some people want to better themselves
00:23:15.560 And educate themselves
00:23:17.320 And so that they know
00:23:18.840 How to intellectually grow
00:23:20.760 But I just think
00:23:21.320 The people that are successful
00:23:23.640 Don't educate themselves
00:23:25.000 They just do
00:23:25.960 Exactly
00:23:26.440 They don't spend time thinking
00:23:27.640 Yes, but some people
00:23:28.840 It takes years to even know that though
00:23:31.480 Yeah
00:23:31.880 Some people don't even know that
00:23:32.680 Yes
00:23:33.080 Yes
00:23:33.640 Hold on, hold on
00:23:34.520 You know what I'm trying to say
00:23:35.240 How am I 21 and I already know this
00:23:37.480 But not everyone is the same
00:23:39.320 Because you have the right education bro
00:23:41.800 Yeah
00:23:42.280 I don't
00:23:43.000 I don't have education
00:23:44.280 No, I'm saying
00:23:44.920 You have the right people around you
00:23:46.600 To educate you
00:23:47.960 Do you know what I'm trying to say
00:23:48.680 Not everyone's got guidance
00:23:50.200 But you choose
00:23:51.800 But okay
00:23:52.440 At 18 that's an excuse 0.83
00:23:54.200 But at 40 you pick who you surround
00:23:56.440 I'll give you an example
00:23:58.040 One time I decided
00:23:59.320 I wanted more rich friends
00:24:00.440 I literally was just like
00:24:01.640 My friends are too broke
00:24:02.600 I'm not a bunch of brokies
00:24:05.160 And so you know
00:24:05.720 I lived in Milwaukee at the time
00:24:08.200 And I worked
00:24:08.920 I worked a sales job
00:24:09.880 So I was like
00:24:10.200 You know what
00:24:10.600 I want to just see
00:24:11.720 If I can call some of these numbers
00:24:13.240 And see if any of these executives
00:24:14.760 Because I definitely
00:24:15.640 I was trying to sell copiers
00:24:16.680 Then I'm going to meet with me
00:24:17.640 But I was like
00:24:18.040 I want to see if they'll get coffee with me
00:24:19.880 And just like
00:24:21.160 And see if they can mentor me
00:24:22.520 Ask them about their success
00:24:23.720 I got three c-level executives
00:24:25.720 Of multi-million dollar companies
00:24:27.640 To literally sit down
00:24:28.600 Spend 30 minutes with me
00:24:29.800 Just by asking
00:24:30.520 And yes
00:24:31.880 And then another time
00:24:33.720 Another time
00:24:34.840 Another time
00:24:35.320 This is for a youtube video
00:24:36.520 Right
00:24:36.760 I was just bored one day
00:24:38.120 And you know
00:24:38.880 People will always
00:24:39.720 You know
00:24:40.040 Say it's because I'm a girl
00:24:41.000 Or because of this
00:24:41.640 Or because of that
00:24:42.260 Whatever
00:24:42.580 But like honestly
00:24:43.860 I feel like I could do this
00:24:45.180 With anyone
00:24:45.640 I did this for a youtube video
00:24:47.900 I didn't have a job
00:24:48.620 Because I quit my job
00:24:49.640 To be a tiktoker 1.00
00:24:50.500 I know
00:24:50.900 And yeah
00:24:52.660 I quit
00:24:53.000 I was working in sales
00:24:53.980 And I was doing quite well
00:24:54.840 But I just quit it
00:24:55.920 To do tiktok
00:24:56.960 And I moved home
00:24:57.560 With my parents
00:24:58.240 And I was like
00:24:59.560 Maybe I'll see if I can
00:25:00.260 Find a job in a day
00:25:01.240 So I went to this
00:25:02.260 Rich neighborhood
00:25:02.960 And it's by Chicago
00:25:04.400 It's like where all
00:25:04.900 The rich people are
00:25:05.760 And I was like
00:25:06.340 I wonder if I go door to door
00:25:07.360 I like snuck into the gated area
00:25:08.720 I know
00:25:09.160 And I was like
00:25:10.500 I wonder if I go door to door
00:25:11.640 In this neighborhood
00:25:12.240 And just ask people for a job
00:25:13.680 Within one day
00:25:14.860 I got an interview
00:25:15.820 For a sales job
00:25:16.740 Now I didn't want the job
00:25:17.960 So I didn't end up taking it
00:25:19.140 Because I was just trying to do youtube
00:25:20.100 But the point is
00:25:21.840 It's all about
00:25:23.460 You have two choices in life
00:25:25.440 Everything can be an excuse
00:25:27.020 I haven't made any excuses
00:25:29.160 You've made excuses the whole time
00:25:30.860 I came here 13 years ago
00:25:32.680 I was learning
00:25:33.340 I only had $100 in my pocket
00:25:34.860 How is that an excuse?
00:25:36.080 Is that not evolving?
00:25:37.140 But it is
00:25:38.000 Because honestly
00:25:38.780 The people
00:25:39.220 And I'm telling you
00:25:39.860 I'm around these people
00:25:40.820 The people that are really successful
00:25:42.040 They don't talk about that
00:25:43.280 They just talk about what they're doing
00:25:44.820 They're so excited about this next project
00:25:46.460 This, this and this
00:25:47.380 Yeah, I'm really excited about all the projects
00:25:49.940 That I've got going on
00:25:50.740 And maybe you are
00:25:51.440 But I'm saying
00:25:51.920 The way you've represented yourself
00:25:53.180 In this conversation
00:25:54.340 Is it's always an excuse
00:25:56.380 It's like
00:25:57.120 No, I wouldn't say that
00:25:58.320 I think excuse is a very harsh word
00:26:00.720 You're actually using
00:26:01.440 But it's describing what it is
00:26:03.700 Because why are you saying it's a bit harsh?
00:26:05.120 It's describing outcomes
00:26:06.800 And it's like
00:26:07.560 You've had 13 years
00:26:08.640 Outcomes I had to deal with?
00:26:11.120 Everyone's got stuff to deal with
00:26:12.720 What did you have to deal with at 26?
00:26:14.740 Did you leave home with nobody?
00:26:17.100 I came to this country by myself
00:26:19.320 Well, okay
00:26:20.180 Alone
00:26:20.360 I didn't know anyone in this country
00:26:21.880 So, I mean
00:26:23.280 Have other people had it harder?
00:26:25.100 Did you have it harder?
00:26:26.120 Sure
00:26:26.380 But I'm telling you
00:26:27.220 I know people in worse situations
00:26:28.780 That made more
00:26:29.640 So
00:26:30.240 I don't know
00:26:30.600 I feel like you're talking from
00:26:32.000 A privileged place
00:26:33.540 Yes
00:26:33.880 To be fair
00:26:34.460 You are
00:26:35.280 I'm talking from
00:26:38.060 This is the thing
00:26:39.220 And I'll tell you
00:26:40.620 I'm talking from
00:26:41.300 A generational place
00:26:42.440 No, no, no
00:26:43.120 I'm talking from a privileged place
00:26:44.960 And being around these types of people
00:26:46.780 So I can tell you
00:26:47.800 The people that have had good outcomes
00:26:49.240 And I know people that have had good outcomes
00:26:50.880 Wait
00:26:51.560 I know people that have had good outcomes
00:26:53.440 From the bottom
00:26:54.280 I've known people that have had good outcomes
00:26:55.960 From the top
00:26:56.660 And I can tell you
00:26:57.780 The way they talk
00:26:58.740 Isn't the way you talk
00:27:00.000 No
00:27:00.320 Because they're not always talking about
00:27:02.180 The reasons they didn't succeed
00:27:03.360 They're talking about
00:27:03.980 The way they're going to succeed
00:27:05.300 You've got to answer questions though
00:27:07.040 You know what I mean
00:27:08.580 You've got to
00:27:09.440 I'm answering the questions
00:27:10.780 That you're putting out there
00:27:12.040 You know
00:27:12.700 Have you got a boyfriend
00:27:13.800 No
00:27:14.180 How old are you
00:27:14.900 39
00:27:15.320 So I'm responding
00:27:17.640 You know
00:27:18.660 If you ask me now
00:27:20.160 Okay
00:27:20.560 What do you do now
00:27:21.840 Nobody's asked me that
00:27:23.560 You're only like
00:27:24.600 Oh you're making excuses
00:27:26.040 I'm not
00:27:27.020 I'm revolving
00:27:28.360 The information you gave you offered
00:27:30.980 It didn't really have much to do
00:27:32.360 With the question I asked
00:27:33.260 A response to the question
00:27:34.200 I believe
00:27:34.660 Did you want to raise your hand
00:27:35.780 Your hand raised
00:27:36.780 Yeah I just wanted to add
00:27:38.560 To her point about
00:27:39.740 You don't have
00:27:40.920 Don't have any bills to pay
00:27:42.600 When you're 18
00:27:43.300 Living with your parents
00:27:44.260 But everyone has their situations
00:27:46.720 And in fact
00:27:47.520 During the coronavirus
00:27:49.020 I was maybe like 19
00:27:50.760 I had to basically
00:27:52.760 Pay for the whole family
00:27:54.720 My mum and dad
00:27:55.420 Went out of business
00:27:56.580 And I was the only man
00:27:58.080 In the house
00:27:58.820 That was earning money
00:27:59.860 And providing for the house
00:28:01.100 So there is different
00:28:02.800 Things that people go through
00:28:04.840 And again
00:28:05.900 You can't judge on them
00:28:07.360 And I'm not trying to judge you
00:28:08.660 And to your point
00:28:10.120 That you had
00:28:10.920 A hundred pounds
00:28:12.240 In your account
00:28:13.620 When you came here
00:28:14.340 To be fair
00:28:15.180 You don't really need money
00:28:16.420 To make money
00:28:17.340 As long as you're willing
00:28:18.820 To do it
00:28:19.240 I feel like
00:28:19.900 In this conversation
00:28:21.040 We're trying to
00:28:22.020 Put the finger on
00:28:23.380 Each person
00:28:23.940 And be like
00:28:24.280 Oh you did
00:28:25.060 Each person is different
00:28:26.780 Each person
00:28:27.420 Is a different character
00:28:28.360 See what I would say
00:28:32.080 Although we're all
00:28:32.800 Having conversations
00:28:33.620 And we're sharing
00:28:34.220 Experience and stuff
00:28:35.180 About our own lives
00:28:36.100 We feel like
00:28:36.600 We're being vulnerable
00:28:37.200 Because we're sharing information
00:28:38.300 Actually I don't see
00:28:39.500 That anybody here
00:28:40.260 It might feel like
00:28:41.160 People are being
00:28:41.660 Personally attacked
00:28:42.620 But it's not
00:28:43.580 And I'm hearing like
00:28:44.420 I can hear that
00:28:45.320 You're feeling a bit
00:28:46.020 Maybe getting a bit defensive
00:28:47.060 No because
00:28:48.220 Words are powerful
00:28:49.520 Yeah I agree
00:28:50.460 Words are powerful
00:28:51.140 But it's also
00:28:51.720 Words are down to interpretation
00:28:53.160 So somebody could say to me
00:28:54.280 That I'm making an excuse
00:28:55.240 I'm not going to be defensive
00:28:56.720 At somebody saying
00:28:57.320 I'm making an excuse
00:28:58.180 That might make me think
00:28:59.540 To myself
00:29:00.760 Okay
00:29:01.160 Could I have done something more
00:29:03.480 Could I have done this
00:29:04.340 It's all how we
00:29:05.900 How we take it
00:29:06.720 And how we understand it
00:29:07.700 So everyone's circumstances
00:29:09.360 Are their own
00:29:10.360 There's no competition
00:29:11.160 As you said
00:29:12.260 Maybe you felt like
00:29:13.180 Pearl was talking
00:29:13.740 From a place of privilege
00:29:14.640 Somebody else might think
00:29:15.760 That you're talking
00:29:16.300 From a place of privilege
00:29:17.220 You know
00:29:18.260 Everyone's circumstances
00:29:19.320 And situations are their own
00:29:20.560 All you have to do
00:29:21.440 Is know that you're doing
00:29:22.380 The best that you can do
00:29:23.780 But it's also very important
00:29:25.380 That you need to be realistic
00:29:26.560 I think
00:29:27.300 I think as soon as we start
00:29:28.580 Being honest with ourselves
00:29:29.820 And truthful with ourselves
00:29:31.320 About where we lack
00:29:32.280 Where we could do more
00:29:33.580 Where we need to be more disciplined
00:29:35.080 Or the changes that we need to make
00:29:37.160 Then you will really see
00:29:38.700 Like a propel of energy
00:29:40.900 And you will go into the area
00:29:42.760 That you want to go in
00:29:43.760 But I think that people spend
00:29:45.080 A lot of time procrastinating
00:29:46.280 And hesitating
00:29:47.040 And I'm not saying
00:29:47.760 That you're doing that
00:29:48.780 But people do spend
00:29:50.700 A lot of time procrastinating
00:29:51.720 Hesitating
00:29:52.280 They're not in the right circles
00:29:53.540 They're not having
00:29:54.420 The right influences
00:29:55.340 But they still believe
00:29:57.080 That they're going to achieve
00:29:58.220 The things that they want to achieve
00:29:59.320 That's okay
00:30:00.220 You can still believe that
00:30:01.780 But I don't think that you
00:30:03.620 I don't think that the word
00:30:05.060 Excuse was supposed to be
00:30:06.220 An attack on you
00:30:06.980 I think excuse is what
00:30:08.260 A lot of people do
00:30:09.400 In general
00:30:09.920 Yeah
00:30:10.200 It is a lot
00:30:11.300 What people do
00:30:12.540 But you've got to
00:30:13.540 You've got to
00:30:14.120 You've got to look at the timeline
00:30:15.920 You know
00:30:16.840 The timeline
00:30:17.440 But that's just for your personal
00:30:18.620 That's for your personal
00:30:19.880 I could have probably done this a bit more
00:30:22.060 I could have done this
00:30:23.000 I could have went to college earlier
00:30:24.100 But at the end of the day
00:30:25.920 You don't know the challenges
00:30:27.280 One has to face
00:30:28.600 To make me end up
00:30:30.020 And sit next to you guys today
00:30:32.160 You know what I mean
00:30:33.000 You know Pearl right
00:30:33.880 You now know Pearl
00:30:34.500 You've met
00:30:34.900 There she is
00:30:35.480 Now I've met her today
00:30:36.040 You have a wonderful example
00:30:37.980 Of somebody that came to a new country 1.00
00:30:39.640 That has created
00:30:40.660 A significant following
00:30:42.280 And this is why
00:30:42.500 I've met you today
00:30:43.680 Hang on
00:30:44.160 Because now I'm evolving
00:30:45.640 Around these type of people
00:30:46.700 Significant following
00:30:47.420 Significant future
00:30:48.540 But yeah
00:30:49.120 But it's like
00:30:49.600 I give you
00:30:50.220 I tell you something
00:30:51.140 And you argue
00:30:51.840 And you argue
00:30:52.340 It's like no
00:30:52.780 I have to stand my ground
00:30:54.120 Because I know my heart
00:30:55.760 And if you're saying
00:30:57.140 Oh you make excuses
00:30:58.400 And I'm like
00:30:59.560 But that has never occurred to me
00:31:01.560 I've had successful people
00:31:02.800 Tell me that before
00:31:03.960 And my reaction is
00:31:05.300 Oh shit
00:31:05.660 You're probably right
00:31:06.640 Because they know something
00:31:07.740 You don't
00:31:09.060 You have to be open to it
00:31:10.220 Yeah
00:31:10.640 And so it's like
00:31:11.640 It's not an attack
00:31:12.140 It's not an attack
00:31:13.180 I don't feel attacked
00:31:15.520 Or anything
00:31:16.080 But I'm a very strong woman
00:31:18.220 And I will stand my ground
00:31:19.860 And I would like to be heard
00:31:21.800 And I'm going to be heard
00:31:23.120 Regardless
00:31:23.600 You know
00:31:24.140 I want you to understand
00:31:26.120 Not even understand
00:31:26.980 I want you to overstand
00:31:28.240 Like the way you did
00:31:29.420 You know
00:31:29.840 You know
00:31:30.500 The type of background
00:31:31.720 I'm coming from
00:31:32.520 If I tell you some horror stories
00:31:34.720 That I've done
00:31:35.520 Yeah
00:31:36.040 It will
00:31:37.040 It will
00:31:37.880 I had to change
00:31:39.640 My mentality
00:31:40.460 I had to deprogram
00:31:42.800 And reprogram
00:31:44.380 My mind
00:31:45.040 You know
00:31:45.400 I actually get you
00:31:47.400 Basically
00:31:48.000 You know
00:31:48.640 I don't know
00:31:49.140 Not everybody's going to get it
00:31:51.060 Not everybody's going to get it
00:31:52.060 I don't know
00:31:52.360 Okay
00:31:53.220 I don't know
00:31:53.640 I don't want to share something
00:31:54.460 But
00:31:54.680 I get the process
00:31:56.960 And I get how
00:31:58.380 And it's different
00:31:59.340 For different people
00:32:00.460 It's upbringing
00:32:01.360 And how we've also been taught
00:32:04.120 How to deal with certain situations in life
00:32:06.480 If we're not taught
00:32:07.380 Initially
00:32:08.340 Just by not sorting out certain situations
00:32:10.300 We go back
00:32:11.080 So
00:32:11.380 That's where people get some advantage
00:32:13.720 Some where people get disadvantage
00:32:15.320 And it is what it is
00:32:17.280 Journeys are journeys
00:32:18.400 Simple as
00:32:19.000 And imagine you changing your mentality
00:32:20.940 And you're going back to your friends
00:32:23.100 That you used to speak to in 16, 18, 20
00:32:26.700 And you're telling them the journey
00:32:28.420 Who don't even understand it
00:32:30.140 And you think to yourself
00:32:31.040 You know what
00:32:31.700 I need new friends
00:32:33.320 I need
00:32:34.040 I ain't going to lie
00:32:35.060 Her
00:32:35.360 You know
00:32:36.360 You know how
00:32:36.940 So I can speak to them
00:32:38.580 Do you know what girl
00:32:39.160 And they understand
00:32:40.280 Just being plus size right
00:32:42.100 I'm not even going to lie
00:32:42.860 In different weight changes
00:32:44.020 I was being treated differently
00:32:45.620 So
00:32:46.380 That just goes to show
00:32:48.120 Like when I
00:32:49.240 So pre-pandemic
00:32:50.600 I became 28 stones
00:32:51.680 I got ill
00:32:52.320 So I was 28 stones
00:32:53.640 And
00:32:54.760 I'm not going to lie
00:32:56.220 People were really being mean to me
00:32:58.240 And I'm a person
00:32:59.160 Who I'm quite a happy
00:33:00.100 Cheering person
00:33:00.820 I love speaking to elderly people on the tube
00:33:03.040 And just talking to people
00:33:04.020 And making conversation
00:33:04.920 But when I lost that weight
00:33:07.060 I'm telling you
00:33:07.920 After pandemic
00:33:09.220 I lost 8 stones
00:33:10.540 And people treated me differently
00:33:12.640 And I'm not even going to lie
00:33:13.480 Even business
00:33:14.160 A lot of people come up to me
00:33:15.880 Like oh my god
00:33:16.700 You've got something
00:33:17.460 And we'd like to work with you
00:33:18.860 So it just goes to show
00:33:19.860 How sometimes by looks
00:33:21.660 And how you are
00:33:22.780 People also
00:33:24.240 You have to be the change
00:33:25.940 That people will believe
00:33:27.680 Yeah honestly
00:33:28.840 You know
00:33:29.140 What do you mean
00:33:29.660 Be the change
00:33:30.480 You've got to be the change
00:33:31.860 See I just
00:33:32.740 Sometimes you guys are saying things
00:33:34.600 And I feel like they mean nothing
00:33:36.240 No
00:33:36.600 That's because
00:33:37.540 If you feel the hardship
00:33:39.120 And if you feel the
00:33:40.920 If you've been through the hardship
00:33:42.660 And you've gone through the cycle
00:33:44.140 Of actually okay
00:33:45.420 Getting out from this hardship
00:33:46.760 Then you'd
00:33:47.480 You'd understand the feeling
00:33:49.020 If you don't understand the feeling
00:33:50.640 And if you haven't gone through the process
00:33:51.880 It's really hard to understand
00:33:53.640 But I'm not saying
00:33:53.900 It's not about the feeling
00:33:54.980 Like if we're talking about success
00:33:56.760 Right
00:33:57.160 Business success
00:33:57.540 If we're talking about business success
00:33:58.940 It's what are you doing
00:34:00.280 So I'll give you an example
00:34:01.520 When I first started this
00:34:02.800 It was just me
00:34:03.760 I was in a living room
00:34:04.940 In a small apartment
00:34:06.220 In East London
00:34:07.000 And I was running to the gym
00:34:08.980 Trying to get people
00:34:10.080 To get the gym
00:34:11.040 To come on my podcast
00:34:11.960 And then I could say
00:34:13.320 This is what I'm doing
00:34:14.240 But it's like
00:34:15.480 When we talk about
00:34:16.260 Oh this feeling
00:34:17.160 Revolving mentally
00:34:18.440 It's like
00:34:18.820 What is
00:34:19.660 That's what I'm saying
00:34:21.920 You've come from a privileged place
00:34:23.440 Where your mindset
00:34:24.280 Has been amazing for you
00:34:26.420 I had to change my mindset babe
00:34:28.840 I had to change it
00:34:29.640 You're 39
00:34:30.140 This is like a conversation
00:34:31.580 With a 60 year old 0.64
00:34:32.440 I started changing my mindset
00:34:33.600 Say about 27, 28
00:34:35.720 When I realized
00:34:36.560 That I had to deprogram
00:34:37.920 Your new mindset
00:34:38.860 As a teenager
00:34:39.560 Like
00:34:41.260 So but
00:34:43.140 But what are the results
00:34:44.400 Like that's my thing
00:34:45.540 The results is
00:34:46.740 The results is
00:34:47.080 You still can't have a conversation
00:34:48.920 Without getting defensive
00:34:50.560 No
00:34:51.040 And it's like
00:34:51.420 I need to be
00:34:51.980 I'm telling you
00:34:52.400 When you're being attacked
00:34:53.500 From people that don't know
00:34:55.220 Your life story
00:34:56.180 Or know your current
00:34:57.600 You're taking it
00:34:58.740 Oh not attack
00:34:59.320 Not attack
00:35:00.020 Okay not attack
00:35:00.840 What's the word
00:35:01.840 What's the word
00:35:02.680 Give me the right word then
00:35:03.800 Give me the right word
00:35:05.120 You're coming across a little bit defensive
00:35:06.800 Defensive
00:35:07.320 And the topic was
00:35:08.540 Yeah
00:35:08.820 You got to be
00:35:09.760 The subject was about
00:35:10.960 Profession
00:35:11.720 Like in business
00:35:12.920 Being successful
00:35:13.820 In business
00:35:14.420 Yeah
00:35:14.440 We want to be
00:35:15.000 Yeah so
00:35:15.540 But what you
00:35:16.700 But the conversation
00:35:17.900 Has gone into like
00:35:18.700 A spiritual journey
00:35:19.860 It has to
00:35:21.120 Yeah but that's not business
00:35:22.740 That's totally separate
00:35:23.700 Logic and emotion
00:35:24.540 Are two completely different things
00:35:25.920 I feel like
00:35:26.340 I know that
00:35:26.880 Need to change
00:35:27.760 Okay wait
00:35:28.600 Wait I'm gonna let them go
00:35:29.720 I can see
00:35:30.520 Basically
00:35:31.240 I get what you're saying
00:35:32.860 Everything's about feelings
00:35:34.000 Emotions
00:35:34.460 But that's not what business is about
00:35:35.960 But sometimes people
00:35:37.460 Actually don't know business
00:35:39.000 And they need to learn their lessons
00:35:40.580 And then they get business
00:35:42.240 And then they flourish
00:35:43.560 And I think
00:35:44.140 That's where she's coming from 0.91
00:35:46.560 And I get your point as well
00:35:47.880 Because I get it when you say
00:35:49.260 But you're talking about feelings
00:35:51.080 And things
00:35:51.580 But feelings get involved
00:35:53.300 When you learn a lesson
00:35:54.400 And then you need to try again
00:35:56.380 Get back up
00:35:57.160 Fail
00:35:57.740 Try again
00:35:58.680 So is that what happened to you
00:36:00.920 I don't know
00:36:01.740 You don't need to answer
00:36:02.380 Actually don't answer
00:36:03.080 I had to reprogram
00:36:04.080 So probably did
00:36:05.600 Okay I'm gonna read
00:36:06.660 Superchats really quick
00:36:08.140 Okay guys
00:36:10.400 Thank you for the Superchats
00:36:11.440 Blessing
00:36:11.820 What are we saving for right now
00:36:13.220 We're doing a third studio
00:36:14.360 What do you want in it
00:36:15.600 What's your dream wish list
00:36:16.880 Yeah we need more cameras
00:36:18.720 Blessing
00:36:19.920 I've given you so many cameras
00:36:21.760 How many more do you want
00:36:24.060 More
00:36:24.560 Oh my gosh
00:36:26.240 Fine guys
00:36:29.900 We're gonna get blessing
00:36:30.600 In another camera
00:36:31.400 Do you guys see how many cameras we have
00:36:33.040 There are so many
00:36:34.320 He's a camera
00:36:36.080 That's what I said
00:36:36.860 He's a camera addict
00:36:38.000 He's lucky he's talented
00:36:40.980 Okay Chris
00:36:42.360 Abby prioritizes winning an argument
00:36:44.920 Over learning from others
00:36:46.260 Stand your ground and be wrong
00:36:47.520 You were being heard
00:36:48.240 But you were still broke and alone
00:36:49.740 Amelia
00:36:50.480 Have her back in a year 0.93
00:36:51.400 To see if she made it
00:36:52.300 Zoroslaw
00:36:52.880 Notice how masculine men in suits
00:36:55.700 And feminine women 1.00
00:36:56.520 Left to the couch
00:36:57.700 Listens to understand
00:36:58.920 But masculine women 1.00
00:36:59.760 And feminine men 1.00
00:37:01.300 Listen to respond with emotion
00:37:02.860 Zoroslaw
00:37:03.820 Thank you
00:37:05.400 39 years old
00:37:06.340 You're a prime example
00:37:07.200 That I've made a great decision
00:37:09.220 To invest in
00:37:10.240 Nimmel food
00:37:11.360 Wine and IVF
00:37:12.480 Fellas
00:37:12.860 Let's make our monies
00:37:14.240 Johnny
00:37:15.200 Dimitri is king
00:37:16.160 I need to afford a maid 0.99
00:37:17.560 You're something
00:37:20.460 Some women only believe 1.00
00:37:21.860 In spousal abuse statistics
00:37:23.600 Matt Butcher
00:37:24.420 Ladies 0.99
00:37:25.080 If you're in a good man's shoes
00:37:26.320 Men lose half their shit
00:37:27.800 In kids
00:37:28.260 Women very very rarely 1.00
00:37:29.420 Go through that
00:37:30.040 I've seen men
00:37:31.040 Go through that repeatedly
00:37:32.060 Men get effed 0.99
00:37:32.860 It's extremely disappointing
00:37:34.540 90 frito pie
00:37:35.660 Women cannot be honest 1.00
00:37:37.520 Because they always have
00:37:38.460 Someone in mind
00:37:39.440 They don't want to hurt
00:37:40.840 You can't be honest
00:37:41.960 About relationships
00:37:42.720 Until you've realized
00:37:43.540 The truth about your own parents
00:37:45.220 Have you done that
00:37:46.140 Fast, Clara
00:37:47.880 Women don't like numbers 1.00
00:37:49.180 And they don't paint
00:37:50.200 A pretty picture for them
00:37:51.340 Say this
00:37:52.120 Women are beautiful 1.00
00:37:52.960 You know what you
00:37:54.820 You know what you're worth
00:37:57.180 Not really
00:37:57.940 Reality is harsh
00:37:59.320 Only women and children 0.90
00:38:00.840 Are allowed to live in delusion
00:38:02.160 90 frito pie
00:38:03.160 Pearl
00:38:03.880 Scream for peace
00:38:06.860 Successful wives 0.90
00:38:08.320 Of wealthy men
00:38:09.220 Are like good dance partners
00:38:10.720 And know how to lead
00:38:12.320 And when to back lead
00:38:14.020 Interracial relationships
00:38:15.600 Coming from a sex positive
00:38:18.500 Lifestyle trauma
00:38:19.600 A life changing experience
00:38:21.140 When changes your entire
00:38:23.020 Core belief
00:38:23.660 And or personality
00:38:24.560 Do women understand 1.00
00:38:25.600 The importance of sex 0.98
00:38:26.880 Men require for commitment 1.00
00:38:29.760 Matt Butcher
00:38:30.500 Can you wife a 304 0.99
00:38:31.760 Unstable people
00:38:33.000 Seek out enablers
00:38:34.020 To validate their behavior
00:38:35.200 Thus a downward spiral
00:38:36.260 Identify it
00:38:37.020 Don't get sucked into it
00:38:38.380 Great job reading
00:38:39.140 Super chats today
00:38:40.100 Pearl
00:38:40.560 Dion Dimitri
00:38:43.060 Is the godfather
00:38:43.800 Of this show
00:38:44.420 The others need to
00:38:45.100 Pay attention to him
00:38:45.860 And listen to him
00:38:46.480 He knows his stuff
00:38:47.280 Doug MPA
00:38:48.380 The panel
00:38:49.200 Doesn't deserve to
00:38:50.360 Share the room
00:38:50.940 With Dimitri
00:38:51.720 He has so much knowledge
00:38:53.120 And you are squashing
00:38:54.120 This opportunity
00:38:54.820 Listen and learn
00:38:55.660 Y.T. Silk
00:38:57.860 Is a woman
00:38:58.580 A woman who overlooks 1.00
00:39:00.240 Red flags 0.52
00:39:01.060 Trustworthy
00:39:01.740 Matt Butcher
00:39:02.620 50s to 60s
00:39:04.720 Ladies 0.99
00:39:04.940 I want someone
00:39:05.520 To grow old with
00:39:06.500 Equals
00:39:07.220 I want someone
00:39:07.780 To fund my retirement
00:39:08.760 Okay
00:39:09.420 So
00:39:09.940 Back to the wife of hope
00:39:11.780 Yeah me too
00:39:12.760 Can someone please
00:39:13.680 Fund my retirement
00:39:14.760 As well
00:39:15.980 Yeah
00:39:17.260 Me too
00:39:18.220 Nothing by the way
00:39:19.380 Gives me more pleasure
00:39:20.180 Than like to provide 0.98
00:39:20.960 For my wife
00:39:21.520 That like
00:39:21.940 It's so
00:39:22.820 Fun because
00:39:24.620 Man I went to the airport
00:39:26.260 This morning
00:39:26.760 And I'm stupid
00:39:27.520 I forgot my passport
00:39:28.360 I called my wife
00:39:29.860 She's like
00:39:30.620 Did you forget passport
00:39:31.280 I'm like
00:39:31.500 Yes I did
00:39:31.940 She's like
00:39:32.880 I'll be right there
00:39:33.600 She literally
00:39:34.260 Dropped everything
00:39:35.740 Like got
00:39:37.060 Whichever kid
00:39:37.740 Was at home
00:39:38.140 In the car
00:39:38.560 And drove straight
00:39:39.620 To the airport
00:39:40.220 And I
00:39:41.080 As I said
00:39:41.860 It's her 10 year
00:39:42.460 Wedding anniversary
00:39:43.240 And I said
00:39:44.260 I'm so glad
00:39:45.520 You know
00:39:45.760 If I wasn't married
00:39:46.420 To you for these
00:39:46.780 Last 10 years
00:39:47.340 I would be missing
00:39:48.040 A flight right now
00:39:48.780 That's
00:39:49.960 But you know
00:39:50.760 But there's so many
00:39:51.520 There's so many
00:39:52.140 Little things
00:39:52.800 That she'll do
00:39:53.560 To like actually
00:39:54.260 Make my life easier
00:39:55.320 Because she's
00:39:56.220 Because she's actually
00:39:57.040 Figured
00:39:57.440 That's beautiful
00:39:57.900 But it wasn't
00:39:58.540 But it wasn't
00:39:59.080 Because like
00:39:59.640 She figured out
00:40:00.580 That like
00:40:00.960 Because she loves you
00:40:01.800 As well
00:40:02.280 Well of course
00:40:03.580 I hope
00:40:04.060 I mean I would
00:40:04.620 I would hope
00:40:05.200 She loves you
00:40:06.040 And she knows
00:40:06.700 That you love her
00:40:07.860 But you know
00:40:08.800 It's like
00:40:08.980 I'd love to find
00:40:09.580 Somebody to fund
00:40:10.260 My retirement
00:40:10.820 Well actually
00:40:11.480 Let's just say
00:40:11.960 That's true
00:40:12.340 Of course you would
00:40:13.000 Of course you would
00:40:13.860 Who wouldn't want that
00:40:14.600 Right
00:40:14.780 But it's like
00:40:15.280 Are you the person
00:40:16.020 Like are you a person
00:40:16.880 That guy picks
00:40:17.660 And that's
00:40:18.120 That's a question
00:40:19.280 We talk about this
00:40:19.980 In business
00:40:20.620 It's like
00:40:20.920 You see a prospect
00:40:21.800 He doesn't buy
00:40:22.500 It's like
00:40:23.540 Like that prospect
00:40:24.460 Is going to buy
00:40:24.940 That product
00:40:25.400 Somewhere at some point
00:40:26.220 But are you
00:40:27.240 Are you being the person
00:40:28.460 That that prospect
00:40:29.320 Wants to buy from
00:40:30.440 You know
00:40:31.380 Like and so
00:40:31.880 It shifts the responsibility
00:40:32.980 On me
00:40:33.860 To better my
00:40:35.020 And so
00:40:35.400 I'll tell you guys
00:40:36.340 That's
00:40:36.880 Sorry
00:40:37.320 I was 20
00:40:38.080 I was 22
00:40:38.680 I was 22 years old
00:40:39.680 I was sitting down
00:40:40.180 With a mentor of mine
00:40:40.960 Who had like
00:40:41.320 A massive impact
00:40:42.020 On my life
00:40:42.480 He was about
00:40:42.820 40 years old
00:40:43.640 Like extremely successful
00:40:45.280 With women 0.51
00:40:45.920 With finances
00:40:46.860 Everything
00:40:47.240 The guy was just
00:40:47.820 A stud
00:40:48.220 Went on to become
00:40:49.460 A VP of a public company
00:40:50.600 That sold for like
00:40:51.220 A billion dollars
00:40:51.900 Just crazy
00:40:52.480 Private company
00:40:53.340 It was crazy
00:40:54.120 And I asked them
00:40:55.480 And I was really
00:40:56.120 Really frustrated
00:40:56.700 I was 22 years old
00:40:57.840 I hadn't got laid
00:40:58.980 In about a year
00:40:59.840 That's 22
00:41:01.360 Sorry
00:41:01.560 22
00:41:02.100 I was 22
00:41:03.000 I hadn't been laid
00:41:03.520 In about a year
00:41:04.060 Wow
00:41:04.580 Was it a bad choice
00:41:05.440 Because
00:41:06.560 Because look
00:41:07.280 I didn't kiss a girl 1.00
00:41:08.220 Until I was 20
00:41:08.920 That's why
00:41:09.340 Because I needed
00:41:10.140 I didn't understand
00:41:11.240 The reality
00:41:11.820 Of what I was dealing
00:41:12.440 With
00:41:12.620 I had delusions
00:41:13.140 In my mind
00:41:13.660 Like I thought
00:41:14.360 I would meet a girl
00:41:14.860 At 20
00:41:15.160 And marry her 0.57
00:41:15.600 Because my grandparents
00:41:16.280 Were both married
00:41:16.900 Until everybody died
00:41:17.620 All both sets
00:41:18.480 Of grandparents
00:41:18.940 Dimitri
00:41:19.520 You can ask you something
00:41:20.600 Yeah
00:41:21.060 Like
00:41:22.100 What's your thoughts
00:41:24.160 Obviously you're a married man
00:41:25.380 And I've always wanted
00:41:26.540 To ask
00:41:27.080 Samandis
00:41:27.800 Obviously of your level
00:41:29.780 And it's like
00:41:30.860 What do you think about
00:41:32.360 What's it called again
00:41:33.960 The pre-nut
00:41:35.160 Yeah
00:41:35.720 What do you think about that
00:41:37.040 Does it go against
00:41:37.820 The marriages
00:41:38.360 Of this girl
00:41:38.920 I have some really
00:41:40.780 Controversial opinions
00:41:41.680 On this
00:41:42.100 And if you'd like me
00:41:42.720 To share
00:41:42.940 I'll share
00:41:43.260 I had two conditions
00:41:47.060 Three conditions
00:41:48.160 For getting married
00:41:49.520 The first condition
00:41:50.880 Was my wife 0.99
00:41:51.380 Has to take my last name
00:41:52.380 It wasn't a religious choice
00:41:54.440 It was that a mentor
00:41:55.280 Of mine told me
00:41:56.060 That it signified something
00:41:57.240 My mom didn't take 0.98
00:41:58.000 My dad's last name
00:41:58.780 And they got divorced
00:41:59.440 And I saw that my mom
00:42:00.420 Didn't respect my dad
00:42:01.280 Like I felt he deserved
00:42:02.080 The respect
00:42:02.500 Even though he suffered
00:42:03.480 He suffered with dignity
00:42:04.400 That was number one
00:42:05.940 Number two
00:42:07.420 No prenup
00:42:07.900 That was a decision
00:42:09.560 I made principally
00:42:10.500 I made the decision
00:42:11.380 No prenup
00:42:12.360 Like I told my wife
00:42:13.760 Like I didn't know
00:42:14.500 If I was ever gonna get married
00:42:15.620 As many of you know
00:42:16.640 I was just banned
00:42:17.860 On TikTok
00:42:18.760 And we are demonetized
00:42:20.500 On a daily basis
00:42:21.740 On this platform
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00:42:24.880 Please consider
00:42:25.760 Sending a super thanks
00:42:27.140 Below
00:42:27.600 Every donation helps
00:42:29.400 And it helps make
00:42:30.220 What we do
00:42:31.100 Possible
00:42:31.840 And the purpose core
00:42:38.960 It helps and
00:42:41.620 Should we
00:42:42.860 Can we
00:42:44.960 Can we
00:42:45.140 And
00:42:45.420 If
00:42:45.860 Can we
00:42:45.880 Can we
00:42:46.980 Can we
00:42:47.820 Can we
00:42:48.360 Can we
00:42:48.480 Now