He Got Fat Checked On Body Positivity
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Summary
In this episode, the lads talk about height, height shame and why women should or shouldn t date someone who is shorter than them. Also, we discuss the difference between being chubby and obese, and whether or not they should be dating someone with bigger bones.
Transcript
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I have been in a relationship with a person that is shorter than me.
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Is it so bad to ask you how many relationships?
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He's the first person I dated I was in a relationship with.
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Because no one's going to call us out for height shame.
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It's a bit awkward, though, especially if a woman wears heels at that height as well.
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That, like, listen, if this clip goes out and I was weight shaming someone, I'd be cancelled.
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For some reason, they keep going under the radar.
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Do you find it weird if a woman's taller than you?
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Why is that between men and women we have, like...
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Okay, obese is extremely overweight for your height, BMI, whatever it is, even though everyone
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No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, obese is extremely
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So you're not just a little bit chubby, a little bit of a few pounds.
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Your BMI could be, like, X, and then you're literally, like, two specks above the X.
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The confidence to be that unhealthy and encourage other people...
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Now, listen, if you are this person and you are shaped like this...
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I think there's a bad food-to-mouth ratio, but there's not much that I can really say,
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What you're about to do is you're about to say, oh, there's some complications and blah,
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The vast majority of people that are overweight...
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The vast majority of people that are overweight, from what I understand, it's just a bad food-to-mouth
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If you're happy within yourself, do your thing.
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So your philosophy is that if you're happy in yourself, then that's okay.
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So would you then encourage someone who, say, has an unhealthy drug addiction?
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Oh, but they're happy in themselves, so you do you.
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If you're happy within yourself, I'm not going to give you any advice in regards to it.
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What about if it's a friend or someone you love?
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If it's my friend, that's someone I care about, then of course I'm going to take an actual
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If the man were overweight, I would tell the man, my bro, your belly kind of hanging over
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But we're then going to go to the gym together, and we're going to bang it out.
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And we're going to make sure you get to where you need to be.
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We're not just going to leave you and be like, oh my gosh, body positivity, you look
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This doesn't surprise me that a male is giving this answer, so I want to hear what the girls
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So whatever's going on that doesn't benefit them, I will say it to them.
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If there's something going on, if you're drinking too much, if you're doing this too much, if you're
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eating too much, you're not looking good too much, I will say it for their own
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And the reason why I call CAP is because you actually didn't answer the question.
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You didn't have to start saying, well, there's a way to...
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Your friends tell you when they think you look ugly?
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I was actually initially finished since we need just to give a short answer.
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But if I need to elaborate, if a person, if my friend is fat, I will not tell her that
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But if she is unhealthy and I know that she has a health condition that is related to
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her weight, I'm going to make my way to let her know that we need to get her to work
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I think most women, the thought of telling another woman, you're fat.
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But, okay, let me rephrase it in a feminine way.
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Perhaps when she wears a crop top, half of it's hanging out a bit.
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You know, she's starting to get the whole arm wings shit going on.
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Are you letting her know, hey, I've noticed that you're gaining a bit of weight?
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Or, let's say, let's add another context in here.
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And she's one of these body positivity advocates.
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And she has loads of fans telling her, you go, girl, body positivity, right?
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She's continuing to gain weight because she's being body positive.
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I think as a good friend, you obviously need to be like, look, like friend to friend.
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I think, you know, you've, you know, like respectfully and like not, you can't just be like you're fat.
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If you're a good friend, yeah, of course you can.
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I'm sure if I started getting fat, Pearl would say to me, girl, you're getting fat.
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But I don't think most girls would put it like that.
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Because people get, like people sensitive, especially women, they're quite sensitive.
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So obviously tell them in a way that, you know, respectfully, look, I think, you know, you need to slow down, whatever you may say.
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But then at the same time, you give them what you give them.
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But if they're deciding to listen to other people and do this whole thing, that's up to them.
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I know it's feminine nature to put it nicely, right?
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If I'm this girl and I'm getting fat, and I see no problem with it.
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She says, look, I've noticed you're gaining weight.
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That's not really going to prompt me to change.
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Actually, if my friend came to me and went, you are fat.
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So actually, as women, are we actually harming each other with this feminine niceness?
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Would it not be better for us if we were more harsh, like how men are with each other?
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Would it not be actually better for us if we were able to speak to each other the same
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Can I just say, yeah, you lot would never survive a Call of Duty lobby in 2012.
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See, I'm Albanian, I'm surviving, I'm good, yeah.
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Yeah, you're built different still, we understand that, man, it's a little bit different.
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But listen, when you go into these lobbies, and you're being called everything under the
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sun, listen, you don't even know I'm black, but I'm being called the N-word before I've
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What I'm trying to say is, I feel like, if I'm coddling you, and I'm like, oh my gosh.
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That's not going to motivate you to do anything.
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So you never know the reason to why somebody is gaining weight.
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I've had thyroid problems, which affect my hormones, which then can affect our weight,
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So somebody might not know what's going on, but they are putting on weight, and they are unconsciously
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a bit scared maybe to talk about their health problems, or whatever it is.
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But then when you talk about a situation where someone's deliberately doing the same behavioural
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pattern, eating the same crappy foods, and carrying on with that behaviour, and you don't
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address it, you're a shit friend, in my opinion.
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If you deliver it in a certain way to understand what the root cause is, and you understand the
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root cause is them just eating crap, then maybe have a different approach.
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I see what you're saying, but I want to argue the point that at the end of the day,