JustPearlyThings - May 24, 2023


He Tried To CALL OUT Pearl


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Length

13 minutes

Words per Minute

202.01413

Word Count

2,688

Sentence Count

9

Misogynist Sentences

15

Hate Speech Sentences

14


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Question do you think everyone could jump on only fans and make millions if it's that easy if it's the easy way
00:00:05.000 No, no, I'm not saying that every single person can make a ton of money
00:00:08.240 I'm saying it's easier than not doing it because if there was an easier for way
00:00:12.720 If there was an easier way for you to make millions you would have did it
00:00:15.960 But when you say easy don't you think it's difficult having to deal with like people's perceptions of you family judgment social
00:00:21.960 I mean, I think isn't that difficult. That's the trade-off for easy money
00:00:25.860 But it's not easy if it comes with all those complications, is it?
00:00:28.780 It's like selling drugs easy
00:00:30.780 I'm saying it's easier than the other option because otherwise you wouldn't have did it
00:00:34.640 No problem. We can agree to disagree on this point. We don't have to be in union and everything we say
00:00:38.260 You have your point. I have mine. I disagree on that front. That's it simple
00:00:44.320 Who else has been cheated on?
00:00:48.080 Wait, what we disagree on?
00:00:50.080 I don't even know anything.
00:00:51.580 No, actually I thought we agreed to be honest.
00:00:54.880 Who else has been cheated on?
00:00:56.880 I got cheated on when I was little man
00:00:58.880 I got cheated on when I was little man
00:01:00.880 For me personally, when it first happened
00:01:04.880 Can you hear me?
00:01:06.360 Can you hear me?
00:01:07.360 Oh, okay
00:01:08.360 When it first happened
00:01:10.360 I was in my teens
00:01:13.360 It kind of hurt
00:01:15.360 But then I kind of got over it
00:01:19.360 And now I didn't get under another man
00:01:21.360 Before people come for me
00:01:22.360 And be like, yeah, get under another man
00:01:23.360 No, it did hurt
00:01:25.360 I kind of just stayed off the market for a bit
00:01:28.360 Kind of healed from what I went through
00:01:32.360 Because when you're talking about cheating
00:01:35.360 Cheating is in different ways
00:01:37.360 And different forms
00:01:38.360 And like I said
00:01:40.360 When you're in a relationship with somebody
00:01:42.360 And that person is selling you a dream
00:01:46.360 And they're telling you
00:01:48.360 Oh, you're this, you're that
00:01:50.360 And da da da da da da da
00:01:51.360 But then it turns out
00:01:52.360 No, really
00:01:53.360 I wasn't what you wanted
00:01:54.360 I wasn't what you claimed that I was
00:01:57.360 Just go
00:01:59.360 It's better you tell me
00:02:00.360 Look, babe
00:02:01.360 I love you, yeah
00:02:02.360 But I'm going to have to love you from a distance
00:02:04.360 Cool
00:02:05.360 I'm fine with that
00:02:07.360 Do you?
00:02:08.360 But when you go out of your way
00:02:10.360 To specifically hurt that individual
00:02:13.360 Knowing full well that I'm not doing that to you
00:02:16.360 Like I'm not getting numbers on the sly
00:02:20.360 You know, my phone's open
00:02:22.360 Go through my phone
00:02:23.360 I have nothing to hide
00:02:24.360 Because I'm not doing anything inappropriate
00:02:26.360 And the fact that most people that I've actually sat down and asked
00:02:30.360 I'm like, well, why would you like, why cheat?
00:02:33.360 Well, it's because
00:02:35.360 But you understand that men and women are different
00:02:37.360 I get that
00:02:38.360 No, no, no
00:02:39.360 I totally get that
00:02:40.360 I understand
00:02:41.360 Well, two different entities
00:02:42.360 Because right now you're saying like, why would you do that?
00:02:44.360 You're trying to hurt me
00:02:45.360 But they're not trying to hurt you
00:02:46.360 No, well
00:02:47.360 It's just how they're wired
00:02:48.360 No, no, no
00:02:49.360 I don't think it's how they're wired
00:02:50.360 No, no, no, no
00:02:51.360 Essentially they
00:02:52.360 Hold on
00:02:53.360 I disagree
00:02:54.360 The majority of the guys here are going to tell you it's how they're
00:02:56.360 No, no
00:02:57.360 Like if you ask the majority of that
00:02:58.360 No, I understand that
00:03:00.360 But
00:03:01.360 When you actually sit down and have a conversation with somebody that knows themselves
00:03:06.360 What they're about
00:03:07.360 Mentally
00:03:08.360 Strong
00:03:09.360 They've come out of their little boy moments
00:03:12.360 Because a lot of men still have it
00:03:14.360 Whether you're 50, 40, 30
00:03:16.360 I've seen it
00:03:17.360 I've got stories for days
00:03:19.360 But like I said, if that's what you want to do, do that
00:03:24.360 But why get into a relationship?
00:03:25.360 And this is where I don't agree with it
00:03:27.360 Whether it's a male or a female
00:03:29.360 Yeah
00:03:30.360 If you know you cannot be loyal to one individual
00:03:34.360 Don't be in a relationship
00:03:35.360 Do not be in a relationship
00:03:36.360 You can be single and you could be free to mingle all day long
00:03:40.360 Living life
00:03:41.360 Nobody can't come and say nothing to you
00:03:43.360 Because you're not her
00:03:45.360 What if you want that woman?
00:03:46.360 That's the woman you want
00:03:48.360 Yeah, but you still just like to have the variety of spices
00:03:51.360 You know, honestly
00:03:52.360 I think women, we need to get off our high horse
00:03:55.360 We're supposed to be virgins on our wedding day
00:03:58.360 What percent of women are virgins on our wedding day?
00:04:00.360 No, because I'm serious
00:04:02.360 You're supposed to bring purity and youth to a marriage
00:04:05.360 That's the exchange
00:04:06.360 They're supposed to give you resources and monogamy
00:04:09.360 Because they're not doing their mating strategy basically
00:04:12.360 Which is screw as many people as possible
00:04:14.360 We could keep, you know, being like part of the harem, right?
00:04:17.360 Like with a high value guy
00:04:18.360 But we say no, we're not going to do that
00:04:19.360 We're going to give you purity and youth
00:04:21.360 We're not holding up our end of the bargain today
00:04:23.360 I want to give the other side of it
00:04:25.360 Is that okay?
00:04:26.360 No, go for it
00:04:27.360 Because I'm not proud of this
00:04:30.360 But like, you know
00:04:31.360 I want to be honest here
00:04:33.360 And like, you know, my man's given me a bit of honesty
00:04:35.360 I love this guy
00:04:39.360 So this is the thing
00:04:40.360 It's like, in my previous experience
00:04:42.360 When I was at my worst
00:04:44.360 In terms of like, using women and stuff like that
00:04:48.360 When, you know, I was in my high value man
00:04:51.360 And I'll do what I want phase, as they say
00:04:53.360 Basically, if a girl I'd asked to come and meet me that night
00:04:57.360 Said she was busy
00:04:58.360 I'd be like, cool
00:04:59.360 One of the other ten will say yes then
00:05:02.360 And like, that was none of her knowledge or whatever
00:05:04.360 At the time
00:05:05.360 But she just wasn't there
00:05:06.360 And my selfishness and my childishness was just like
00:05:10.360 Cool, I'll just go through the list
00:05:11.360 The first one to say yes
00:05:12.360 It's your lucky day
00:05:13.360 Let's go
00:05:14.360 And in my head, I'm like
00:05:16.360 If you're not dedicated enough to me to be here
00:05:19.360 Then you can't have any complaints
00:05:21.360 That's the way I was feeling at the time
00:05:22.360 And I think a lot of men go through that
00:05:24.360 When you're not living together
00:05:25.360 And heavy serious
00:05:26.360 But it's dating
00:05:28.360 And I was just like
00:05:29.360 Okay, the first one to say yes
00:05:31.360 That's it then
00:05:32.360 So question for you quickly
00:05:33.360 Have you been on the receiving end of being cheated?
00:05:37.360 Yeah
00:05:38.360 Yeah, it was awkward that one
00:05:39.360 See?
00:05:40.360 There you go
00:05:41.360 How did you find out?
00:05:42.360 So karma is real
00:05:43.360 I was 19
00:05:44.360 I was 19
00:05:45.360 And I remember looking through her text message saying another guy who was like
00:05:49.360 Like I knew through a friend as well
00:05:52.360 And a funny old thing is like
00:05:55.360 We bumped into each other in a bar about a year later
00:05:58.360 Because he found out the hard way whose girlfriend
00:06:02.360 Or whose girlfriend I thought it was anyway
00:06:06.360 And he basically came up to me and went
00:06:08.360 By the way, if I'd known it was you
00:06:09.360 I would never have fucking gone near her
00:06:11.360 But we ended up having a pint and laughing about it
00:06:13.360 Because we just knew what she was
00:06:15.360 And that was the thing
00:06:17.360 I said to him like
00:06:18.360 Imagine she could see us laughing about like
00:06:20.360 What a skank she is
00:06:21.360 What was that pain like when you went through the phone?
00:06:24.360 Oh, when I was 19
00:06:25.360 It hit me right
00:06:26.360 Was you being faithful at the time?
00:06:28.360 Was you faithful at that time?
00:06:30.360 I was getting the butt home, you know what I mean?
00:06:31.360 I was struggling at the time
00:06:32.360 But was you faithful at that time?
00:06:34.360 I was more than faithful
00:06:35.360 I was like
00:06:36.360 You know when you're like
00:06:37.360 You're like
00:06:38.360 She's the best thing I've ever thought
00:06:39.360 You know what I mean?
00:06:40.360 Did that change you?
00:06:42.360 Yeah, it's traumatised
00:06:43.360 She was the prettiest girl
00:06:44.360 And I was like
00:06:45.360 And fuck women!
00:06:46.360 I told you that
00:06:47.360 But obviously like
00:06:48.360 You get over it
00:06:49.360 But that was 19 for me
00:06:50.360 Did it put you in a space for a moment
00:06:53.360 Where you felt a certain type of way?
00:06:57.360 How long?
00:06:58.360 Or did you?
00:06:59.360 Are you just?
00:07:00.360 No, the thing that got me to wake up
00:07:01.360 And not cheat ever again
00:07:03.360 Was seeing the pain it caused
00:07:05.360 Okay
00:07:06.360 When I did do that
00:07:07.360 And it made me go
00:07:08.360 Yeah, I can't do this again to someone
00:07:11.360 Like it really
00:07:12.360 Exactly what he said
00:07:13.360 That was
00:07:14.360 It was similar to him
00:07:15.360 It was that awakening of like
00:07:16.360 I've really fucking hurt someone
00:07:17.360 Yeah
00:07:18.360 And I never want to do that again
00:07:19.360 And like
00:07:20.360 I never have
00:07:21.360 Thank God
00:07:22.360 But in that moment
00:07:24.360 Yeah, I was very selfish
00:07:26.360 Okay
00:07:27.360 Okay
00:07:29.360 Can we ask you a question?
00:07:30.360 Oh no
00:07:31.360 Is that off table?
00:07:32.360 Have you ever been cheated on?
00:07:33.360 Just like Chrissy?
00:07:34.360 Mm-hmm
00:07:35.360 You have, yeah?
00:07:36.360 Mm-hmm
00:07:37.360 Okay
00:07:38.360 Have you ever cheated?
00:07:39.360 No
00:07:40.360 Good
00:07:41.360 Would you stay in a married relationship
00:07:42.360 With your husband
00:07:43.360 Happily being cheated on?
00:07:45.360 Would I be happily cheated on?
00:07:47.360 People always ask me this
00:07:49.360 No, I would not be happily cheated on
00:07:51.360 But I think again
00:07:52.360 That the kids are more important than you
00:07:53.360 Once you have kids
00:07:54.360 It's not about you
00:07:55.360 But you would accept it?
00:07:56.360 Yeah, if I have kids
00:07:57.360 You know
00:07:58.360 And you try to work
00:07:59.360 But how many times
00:08:00.360 Is like the limit
00:08:01.360 For them to like go
00:08:02.360 If you have kids
00:08:03.360 I'm gonna try to work it out
00:08:04.360 Thanks
00:08:05.360 Because I just genuinely think
00:08:07.360 That if you put your feelings
00:08:08.360 Above the kid
00:08:09.360 Like I just think you're selfish
00:08:10.360 I think it's not about you
00:08:11.360 I'm gonna talk on my own experience
00:08:12.360 Right now
00:08:13.360 I have a daughter
00:08:14.360 Right?
00:08:15.360 I love her to a bit
00:08:16.360 And I was in a relationship
00:08:18.360 Like a long relationship
00:08:19.360 And I've been cheated on
00:08:21.360 Right?
00:08:22.360 I tried everything
00:08:23.360 It didn't work out
00:08:24.360 I tried it
00:08:25.360 Obviously
00:08:26.360 What would he say though?
00:08:27.360 Well
00:08:28.360 Because you know
00:08:29.360 There's two sides to every story
00:08:30.360 I know
00:08:31.360 I know
00:08:32.360 Let's get them on the show
00:08:33.360 That's true
00:08:34.360 But
00:08:35.360 No, no, no
00:08:36.360 You see?
00:08:37.360 Matthew do some digging
00:08:38.360 Matthew do some digging
00:08:39.360 I'm saying
00:08:40.360 If we asked him
00:08:41.360 Is he gonna say
00:08:42.360 She tried everything?
00:08:43.360 I think he will
00:08:44.360 Because he knows deep down
00:08:46.360 And he told me that too
00:08:48.360 But
00:08:49.360 My story is similar to yours
00:08:51.360 Hold on
00:08:52.360 But what was
00:08:53.360 What was the limit for you?
00:08:55.360 What made you realise
00:08:56.360 That you had to walk away?
00:08:59.360 Er
00:09:00.360 I don't know if I'm allowed to say that or not
00:09:02.360 But abuse
00:09:03.360 Oh
00:09:04.360 That was my limit
00:09:05.360 Physical abuse
00:09:06.360 Okay
00:09:07.360 When it comes to the cheating thing though
00:09:09.360 Yeah?
00:09:10.360 What is it that actually
00:09:11.360 You're hurt by?
00:09:13.360 Are you hurt?
00:09:14.360 Are you hurt by the physical?
00:09:15.360 No, but I mean
00:09:16.360 The same thing you'd be hurt by
00:09:17.360 No, it's
00:09:18.360 I'll tell you
00:09:19.360 Women and men cheating
00:09:20.360 Is two different things
00:09:21.360 We've established that
00:09:22.360 Those believe it or not
00:09:23.360 I know we like to pretend that
00:09:24.360 A woman is from Venus
00:09:25.360 And men are from Mars
00:09:26.360 But we're not that different
00:09:27.360 We go toilet
00:09:28.360 We poo
00:09:29.360 We cry
00:09:30.360 But that's a good book
00:09:31.360 We're the same
00:09:32.360 But men don't forget it
00:09:33.360 I've got it
00:09:34.360 I've got it
00:09:35.360 It's a good book right?
00:09:36.360 It's a very good book
00:09:37.360 It will make you understand the opposite gender
00:09:38.360 The reasons why we cheat are different
00:09:40.360 Between men and women
00:09:41.360 For men it's a physical thing
00:09:43.360 A lot of the time
00:09:44.360 That's why
00:09:45.360 He wants to experience more probably
00:09:47.360 Yeah
00:09:48.360 Like I say
00:09:49.360 Variety is the spice of life
00:09:50.360 Yeah but do that
00:09:51.360 Out of a relationship
00:09:52.360 However, what I will say is
00:09:53.360 Are you
00:09:54.360 Is it just sort of like a one-off thing
00:09:55.360 Or
00:09:56.360 Is it an affair?
00:09:57.360 Yeah
00:09:58.360 Those are the two
00:09:59.360 You know what I mean?
00:10:00.360 Okay
00:10:01.360 See when you have an affair
00:10:02.360 That's when it's like
00:10:03.360 That's different right?
00:10:04.360 You know what I mean?
00:10:05.360 It's true
00:10:06.360 But some people would still class an affair
00:10:08.360 And cheat in as two of the same things
00:10:09.360 Nah they're not
00:10:10.360 They're definitely
00:10:11.360 Definitely not
00:10:12.360 I said some
00:10:13.360 Don't come for me
00:10:14.360 Don't shoot the messenger
00:10:15.360 I'm just saying for some
00:10:17.360 Cheating
00:10:19.360 It hurts the person
00:10:21.360 Because like I said
00:10:22.360 I don't know what
00:10:23.360 You're telling that individual
00:10:25.360 When you're laying
00:10:26.360 And you're doing your pillow talk
00:10:27.360 Yeah?
00:10:28.360 That's where a lot of people go wrong
00:10:30.360 And this is what I'm saying
00:10:31.360 If you know that you're not
00:10:33.360 You're not ready to give up
00:10:35.360 Your bachelor life
00:10:36.360 Yeah?
00:10:37.360 And you're not ready to like
00:10:38.360 Submerge that ego
00:10:39.360 And say you know what?
00:10:40.360 Cool
00:10:41.360 I've had my time running the streets
00:10:43.360 Let me just kind of fix up
00:10:44.360 And do what I've got to do
00:10:45.360 What I've got to do
00:10:46.360 When you're having like
00:10:48.360 You know like I said
00:10:49.360 When you're at home
00:10:50.360 And you're alone with that individual
00:10:52.360 Whether it's you talking to a woman
00:10:54.360 Or your woman talking to a man
00:10:56.360 It's you not say certain things
00:10:59.360 So it will hurt a woman
00:11:01.360 As well as it will hurt a man
00:11:03.360 Especially if they believe
00:11:05.360 And this is where I come back to my point again
00:11:08.360 You are being sold a dream
00:11:11.360 Okay
00:11:12.360 And you know full well
00:11:13.360 If you cannot commit to what you're telling me
00:11:15.360 Why tell me that?
00:11:17.360 Because you're comfortable
00:11:18.360 Because we're in a situation where
00:11:21.360 You're comfortable
00:11:22.360 I know you
00:11:23.360 You know me
00:11:24.360 Because it works
00:11:25.360 Yeah it works
00:11:26.360 It works
00:11:27.360 That's why women will
00:11:28.360 You guys will say
00:11:29.360 Oh be honest to me
00:11:30.360 But you pick the guys that sell you a dream
00:11:32.360 So you don't pick the ones that are honest
00:11:33.360 No, no, no
00:11:34.360 But you can still be honest
00:11:37.360 But you have to understand
00:11:39.360 You can't say
00:11:40.360 I'm not going to sit here and say
00:11:41.360 Oh, I'm picking people
00:11:42.360 That's selling me a dream
00:11:43.360 No
00:11:44.360 Can I add something?
00:11:46.360 I'm being me
00:11:47.360 So if I'm coming to the table
00:11:48.360 And I'm saying to you
00:11:49.360 Look
00:11:50.360 I really like you
00:11:51.360 We've gone out for a few dates
00:11:53.360 You know
00:11:54.360 We've come to a point now
00:11:56.360 Where we're like
00:11:57.360 Okay
00:11:58.360 Let's come together
00:11:59.360 Rather than just call in
00:12:00.360 Let's come together
00:12:01.360 And do what we've got to do
00:12:02.360 But
00:12:03.360 I'm not going to
00:12:04.360 I'm not going to just
00:12:06.360 Say
00:12:07.360 Oh well
00:12:08.360 You know
00:12:09.360 I should pick a different guy
00:12:10.360 No, because I've been in that situation
00:12:11.360 And I've got friends
00:12:12.360 That's been in that situation
00:12:13.360 Where
00:12:14.360 You don't say
00:12:15.360 You don't think you should pick a different guy?
00:12:17.360 No, you can pick a different guy
00:12:19.360 But that doesn't mean to say
00:12:20.360 That
00:12:21.360 You picking a different guy
00:12:22.360 Okay, you've got some women that like
00:12:24.360 You know
00:12:25.360 Bad boys
00:12:26.360 And then you've got women that like
00:12:28.360 Corporate men
00:12:29.360 Yeah
00:12:30.360 If it's in you to cheat
00:12:31.360 You're going to cheat
00:12:32.360 It doesn't
00:12:33.360 It's not like
00:12:34.360 But my point is not
00:12:35.360 Like a very small percentage of men can cheat
00:12:37.360 So if you find yourself getting cheated on
00:12:39.360 Cheated on
00:12:40.360 Cheated on
00:12:41.360 And you're the common denominator
00:12:42.360 It's like
00:12:43.360 Well, no, not really
00:12:44.360 Because if you really sit down and ask somebody
00:12:46.360 Why are you cheating?
00:12:47.360 Like the guy in the back said
00:12:49.360 I like pom pom
00:12:50.360 And they want to sample it
00:12:51.360 I do
00:12:52.360 It's not always like
00:12:53.360 Right
00:12:54.360 That's right
00:12:55.360 No, I said
00:12:56.360 I was going by what he said
00:12:57.360 I'm not saying all
00:12:58.360 Okay
00:12:59.360 But that was his argument
00:13:00.360 Right
00:13:01.360 I like doing whatever
00:13:02.360 So what I'm saying is
00:13:04.360 It's not about
00:13:05.360 Well, you're the
00:13:06.360 If I've gone
00:13:07.360 And I've changed my line of
00:13:09.360 Who I'm putting
00:13:10.360 The energy out there to catch
00:13:12.360 If you're going to cheat
00:13:13.360 You're going to cheat
00:13:14.360 And that's how I look at it
00:13:16.360 I can't tell everybody
00:13:17.360 You.