JustPearlyThings - He Tried To CALL OUT Pearl

00:00:00.000 Question do you think everyone could jump on only fans and make millions if it's that easy if it's the easy way

00:00:05.000 No, no, I'm not saying that every single person can make a ton of money

00:00:08.240 I'm saying it's easier than not doing it because if there was an easier for way

00:00:12.720 If there was an easier way for you to make millions you would have did it

00:00:15.960 But when you say easy don't you think it's difficult having to deal with like people's perceptions of you family judgment social

00:00:21.960 I mean, I think isn't that difficult. That's the trade-off for easy money

00:00:25.860 But it's not easy if it comes with all those complications, is it?

00:00:28.780 It's like selling drugs easy

00:00:30.780 I'm saying it's easier than the other option because otherwise you wouldn't have did it

00:00:34.640 No problem. We can agree to disagree on this point. We don't have to be in union and everything we say

00:00:38.260 You have your point. I have mine. I disagree on that front. That's it simple

00:00:44.320 Who else has been cheated on?

00:00:48.080 Wait, what we disagree on?

00:00:50.080 I don't even know anything.

00:00:51.580 No, actually I thought we agreed to be honest.

00:00:54.880 Who else has been cheated on?

00:00:56.880 I got cheated on when I was little man

00:00:58.880 I got cheated on when I was little man

00:01:00.880 For me personally, when it first happened

00:01:04.880 Can you hear me?

00:01:06.360 Can you hear me?

00:01:07.360 Oh, okay

00:01:08.360 When it first happened

00:01:10.360 I was in my teens

00:01:13.360 It kind of hurt

00:01:15.360 But then I kind of got over it

00:01:19.360 And now I didn't get under another man

00:01:21.360 Before people come for me

00:01:22.360 And be like, yeah, get under another man

00:01:23.360 No, it did hurt

00:01:25.360 I kind of just stayed off the market for a bit

00:01:28.360 Kind of healed from what I went through

00:01:32.360 Because when you're talking about cheating

00:01:35.360 Cheating is in different ways

00:01:37.360 And different forms

00:01:38.360 And like I said

00:01:40.360 When you're in a relationship with somebody

00:01:42.360 And that person is selling you a dream

00:01:46.360 And they're telling you

00:01:48.360 Oh, you're this, you're that

00:01:50.360 And da da da da da da da

00:01:51.360 But then it turns out

00:01:52.360 No, really

00:01:53.360 I wasn't what you wanted

00:01:54.360 I wasn't what you claimed that I was

00:01:57.360 Just go

00:01:59.360 It's better you tell me

00:02:00.360 Look, babe

00:02:01.360 I love you, yeah

00:02:02.360 But I'm going to have to love you from a distance

00:02:04.360 Cool

00:02:05.360 I'm fine with that

00:02:07.360 Do you?

00:02:08.360 But when you go out of your way

00:02:10.360 To specifically hurt that individual

00:02:13.360 Knowing full well that I'm not doing that to you

00:02:16.360 Like I'm not getting numbers on the sly

00:02:20.360 You know, my phone's open

00:02:22.360 Go through my phone

00:02:23.360 I have nothing to hide

00:02:24.360 Because I'm not doing anything inappropriate

00:02:26.360 And the fact that most people that I've actually sat down and asked

00:02:30.360 I'm like, well, why would you like, why cheat?

00:02:33.360 Well, it's because

00:02:35.360 But you understand that men and women are different

00:02:37.360 I get that

00:02:38.360 No, no, no

00:02:39.360 I totally get that

00:02:40.360 I understand

00:02:41.360 Well, two different entities

00:02:42.360 Because right now you're saying like, why would you do that?

00:02:44.360 You're trying to hurt me

00:02:45.360 But they're not trying to hurt you

00:02:46.360 No, well

00:02:47.360 It's just how they're wired

00:02:48.360 No, no, no

00:02:49.360 I don't think it's how they're wired

00:02:50.360 No, no, no, no

00:02:51.360 Essentially they

00:02:52.360 Hold on

00:02:53.360 I disagree

00:02:54.360 The majority of the guys here are going to tell you it's how they're

00:02:56.360 No, no

00:02:57.360 Like if you ask the majority of that

00:02:58.360 No, I understand that

00:03:00.360 But

00:03:01.360 When you actually sit down and have a conversation with somebody that knows themselves

00:03:06.360 What they're about

00:03:07.360 Mentally

00:03:08.360 Strong

00:03:09.360 They've come out of their little boy moments

00:03:12.360 Because a lot of men still have it

00:03:14.360 Whether you're 50, 40, 30

00:03:16.360 I've seen it

00:03:17.360 I've got stories for days

00:03:19.360 But like I said, if that's what you want to do, do that

00:03:24.360 But why get into a relationship?

00:03:25.360 And this is where I don't agree with it

00:03:27.360 Whether it's a male or a female

00:03:29.360 Yeah

00:03:30.360 If you know you cannot be loyal to one individual

00:03:34.360 Don't be in a relationship

00:03:35.360 Do not be in a relationship

00:03:36.360 You can be single and you could be free to mingle all day long

00:03:40.360 Living life

00:03:41.360 Nobody can't come and say nothing to you

00:03:43.360 Because you're not her

00:03:45.360 What if you want that woman? 0.99

00:03:46.360 That's the woman you want 0.99

00:03:48.360 Yeah, but you still just like to have the variety of spices

00:03:51.360 You know, honestly

00:03:52.360 I think women, we need to get off our high horse 1.00

00:03:55.360 We're supposed to be virgins on our wedding day 0.61

00:03:58.360 What percent of women are virgins on our wedding day? 1.00

00:04:00.360 No, because I'm serious

00:04:02.360 You're supposed to bring purity and youth to a marriage

00:04:05.360 That's the exchange

00:04:06.360 They're supposed to give you resources and monogamy 1.00

00:04:09.360 Because they're not doing their mating strategy basically

00:04:12.360 Which is screw as many people as possible

00:04:14.360 We could keep, you know, being like part of the harem, right?

00:04:17.360 Like with a high value guy

00:04:18.360 But we say no, we're not going to do that

00:04:19.360 We're going to give you purity and youth

00:04:21.360 We're not holding up our end of the bargain today

00:04:23.360 I want to give the other side of it

00:04:25.360 Is that okay?

00:04:26.360 No, go for it

00:04:27.360 Because I'm not proud of this

00:04:30.360 But like, you know

00:04:31.360 I want to be honest here

00:04:33.360 And like, you know, my man's given me a bit of honesty

00:04:35.360 I love this guy

00:04:39.360 So this is the thing

00:04:40.360 It's like, in my previous experience

00:04:42.360 When I was at my worst

00:04:44.360 In terms of like, using women and stuff like that 1.00

00:04:48.360 When, you know, I was in my high value man

00:04:51.360 And I'll do what I want phase, as they say

00:04:53.360 Basically, if a girl I'd asked to come and meet me that night

00:04:57.360 Said she was busy

00:04:58.360 I'd be like, cool

00:04:59.360 One of the other ten will say yes then

00:05:02.360 And like, that was none of her knowledge or whatever

00:05:04.360 At the time

00:05:05.360 But she just wasn't there

00:05:06.360 And my selfishness and my childishness was just like

00:05:10.360 Cool, I'll just go through the list

00:05:11.360 The first one to say yes

00:05:12.360 It's your lucky day

00:05:13.360 Let's go

00:05:14.360 And in my head, I'm like

00:05:16.360 If you're not dedicated enough to me to be here

00:05:19.360 Then you can't have any complaints

00:05:21.360 That's the way I was feeling at the time

00:05:22.360 And I think a lot of men go through that

00:05:24.360 When you're not living together

00:05:25.360 And heavy serious

00:05:26.360 But it's dating

00:05:28.360 And I was just like

00:05:29.360 Okay, the first one to say yes

00:05:31.360 That's it then

00:05:32.360 So question for you quickly

00:05:33.360 Have you been on the receiving end of being cheated?

00:05:37.360 Yeah

00:05:38.360 Yeah, it was awkward that one

00:05:39.360 See?

00:05:40.360 There you go

00:05:41.360 How did you find out?

00:05:42.360 So karma is real

00:05:43.360 I was 19

00:05:44.360 I was 19

00:05:45.360 And I remember looking through her text message saying another guy who was like

00:05:49.360 Like I knew through a friend as well

00:05:52.360 And a funny old thing is like

00:05:55.360 We bumped into each other in a bar about a year later

00:05:58.360 Because he found out the hard way whose girlfriend

00:06:02.360 Or whose girlfriend I thought it was anyway

00:06:06.360 And he basically came up to me and went

00:06:08.360 By the way, if I'd known it was you 0.99

00:06:09.360 I would never have fucking gone near her 1.00

00:06:11.360 But we ended up having a pint and laughing about it 0.99

00:06:13.360 Because we just knew what she was

00:06:15.360 And that was the thing

00:06:17.360 I said to him like

00:06:18.360 Imagine she could see us laughing about like 0.98

00:06:20.360 What a skank she is 1.00

00:06:21.360 What was that pain like when you went through the phone? 0.97

00:06:24.360 Oh, when I was 19

00:06:25.360 It hit me right

00:06:26.360 Was you being faithful at the time?

00:06:28.360 Was you faithful at that time?

00:06:30.360 I was getting the butt home, you know what I mean?

00:06:31.360 I was struggling at the time

00:06:32.360 But was you faithful at that time?

00:06:34.360 I was more than faithful

00:06:35.360 I was like

00:06:36.360 You know when you're like

00:06:37.360 You're like

00:06:38.360 She's the best thing I've ever thought

00:06:39.360 You know what I mean?

00:06:40.360 Did that change you?

00:06:42.360 Yeah, it's traumatised

00:06:43.360 She was the prettiest girl

00:06:44.360 And I was like 1.00

00:06:45.360 And fuck women! 1.00

00:06:46.360 I told you that 1.00

00:06:47.360 But obviously like

00:06:48.360 You get over it

00:06:49.360 But that was 19 for me

00:06:50.360 Did it put you in a space for a moment

00:06:53.360 Where you felt a certain type of way?

00:06:57.360 How long?

00:06:58.360 Or did you?

00:06:59.360 Are you just?

00:07:00.360 No, the thing that got me to wake up

00:07:01.360 And not cheat ever again

00:07:03.360 Was seeing the pain it caused

00:07:05.360 Okay

00:07:06.360 When I did do that

00:07:07.360 And it made me go

00:07:08.360 Yeah, I can't do this again to someone

00:07:11.360 Like it really

00:07:12.360 Exactly what he said

00:07:13.360 That was

00:07:14.360 It was similar to him

00:07:15.360 It was that awakening of like 0.98

00:07:16.360 I've really fucking hurt someone 0.98

00:07:17.360 Yeah 0.94

00:07:18.360 And I never want to do that again

00:07:19.360 And like

00:07:20.360 I never have

00:07:21.360 Thank God

00:07:22.360 But in that moment

00:07:24.360 Yeah, I was very selfish

00:07:26.360 Okay

00:07:27.360 Okay

00:07:29.360 Can we ask you a question?

00:07:30.360 Oh no

00:07:31.360 Is that off table?

00:07:32.360 Have you ever been cheated on?

00:07:33.360 Just like Chrissy?

00:07:34.360 Mm-hmm

00:07:35.360 You have, yeah?

00:07:36.360 Mm-hmm

00:07:37.360 Okay

00:07:38.360 Have you ever cheated?

00:07:39.360 No

00:07:40.360 Good

00:07:41.360 Would you stay in a married relationship

00:07:42.360 With your husband

00:07:43.360 Happily being cheated on?

00:07:45.360 Would I be happily cheated on?

00:07:47.360 People always ask me this

00:07:49.360 No, I would not be happily cheated on

00:07:51.360 But I think again

00:07:52.360 That the kids are more important than you

00:07:53.360 Once you have kids

00:07:54.360 It's not about you

00:07:55.360 But you would accept it?

00:07:56.360 Yeah, if I have kids

00:07:57.360 You know

00:07:58.360 And you try to work

00:07:59.360 But how many times

00:08:00.360 Is like the limit

00:08:01.360 For them to like go

00:08:02.360 If you have kids

00:08:03.360 I'm gonna try to work it out

00:08:04.360 Thanks

00:08:05.360 Because I just genuinely think

00:08:07.360 That if you put your feelings

00:08:08.360 Above the kid

00:08:09.360 Like I just think you're selfish

00:08:10.360 I think it's not about you

00:08:11.360 I'm gonna talk on my own experience

00:08:12.360 Right now

00:08:13.360 I have a daughter

00:08:14.360 Right?

00:08:15.360 I love her to a bit

00:08:16.360 And I was in a relationship

00:08:18.360 Like a long relationship

00:08:19.360 And I've been cheated on

00:08:21.360 Right?

00:08:22.360 I tried everything

00:08:23.360 It didn't work out

00:08:24.360 I tried it

00:08:25.360 Obviously

00:08:26.360 What would he say though?

00:08:27.360 Well

00:08:28.360 Because you know

00:08:29.360 There's two sides to every story

00:08:30.360 I know

00:08:31.360 I know

00:08:32.360 Let's get them on the show

00:08:33.360 That's true

00:08:34.360 But

00:08:35.360 No, no, no

00:08:36.360 You see?

00:08:37.360 Matthew do some digging

00:08:38.360 Matthew do some digging

00:08:39.360 I'm saying

00:08:40.360 If we asked him

00:08:41.360 Is he gonna say

00:08:42.360 She tried everything?

00:08:43.360 I think he will

00:08:44.360 Because he knows deep down

00:08:46.360 And he told me that too

00:08:48.360 But

00:08:49.360 My story is similar to yours

00:08:51.360 Hold on

00:08:52.360 But what was

00:08:53.360 What was the limit for you?

00:08:55.360 What made you realise

00:08:56.360 That you had to walk away?

00:08:59.360 Er

00:09:00.360 I don't know if I'm allowed to say that or not

00:09:02.360 But abuse

00:09:03.360 Oh

00:09:04.360 That was my limit

00:09:05.360 Physical abuse

00:09:06.360 Okay

00:09:07.360 When it comes to the cheating thing though

00:09:09.360 Yeah?

00:09:10.360 What is it that actually

00:09:11.360 You're hurt by?

00:09:13.360 Are you hurt?

00:09:14.360 Are you hurt by the physical?

00:09:15.360 No, but I mean

00:09:16.360 The same thing you'd be hurt by

00:09:17.360 No, it's

00:09:18.360 I'll tell you

00:09:19.360 Women and men cheating 0.99

00:09:20.360 Is two different things

00:09:21.360 We've established that

00:09:22.360 Those believe it or not

00:09:23.360 I know we like to pretend that

00:09:24.360 A woman is from Venus 1.00

00:09:25.360 And men are from Mars

00:09:26.360 But we're not that different

00:09:27.360 We go toilet

00:09:28.360 We poo

00:09:29.360 We cry

00:09:30.360 But that's a good book

00:09:31.360 We're the same

00:09:32.360 But men don't forget it 1.00

00:09:33.360 I've got it

00:09:34.360 I've got it

00:09:35.360 It's a good book right?

00:09:36.360 It's a very good book

00:09:37.360 It will make you understand the opposite gender 1.00

00:09:38.360 The reasons why we cheat are different

00:09:40.360 Between men and women 1.00

00:09:41.360 For men it's a physical thing 0.96

00:09:43.360 A lot of the time

00:09:44.360 That's why

00:09:45.360 He wants to experience more probably

00:09:47.360 Yeah

00:09:48.360 Like I say

00:09:49.360 Variety is the spice of life

00:09:50.360 Yeah but do that

00:09:51.360 Out of a relationship

00:09:52.360 However, what I will say is

00:09:53.360 Are you

00:09:54.360 Is it just sort of like a one-off thing

00:09:55.360 Or

00:09:56.360 Is it an affair?

00:09:57.360 Yeah

00:09:58.360 Those are the two

00:09:59.360 You know what I mean?

00:10:00.360 Okay

00:10:01.360 See when you have an affair

00:10:02.360 That's when it's like

00:10:03.360 That's different right?

00:10:04.360 You know what I mean?

00:10:05.360 It's true

00:10:06.360 But some people would still class an affair

00:10:08.360 And cheat in as two of the same things

00:10:09.360 Nah they're not

00:10:10.360 They're definitely

00:10:11.360 Definitely not

00:10:12.360 I said some

00:10:13.360 Don't come for me

00:10:14.360 Don't shoot the messenger

00:10:15.360 I'm just saying for some

00:10:17.360 Cheating

00:10:19.360 It hurts the person

00:10:21.360 Because like I said

00:10:22.360 I don't know what

00:10:23.360 You're telling that individual

00:10:25.360 When you're laying

00:10:26.360 And you're doing your pillow talk

00:10:27.360 Yeah?

00:10:28.360 That's where a lot of people go wrong

00:10:30.360 And this is what I'm saying

00:10:31.360 If you know that you're not

00:10:33.360 You're not ready to give up

00:10:35.360 Your bachelor life

00:10:36.360 Yeah?

00:10:37.360 And you're not ready to like

00:10:38.360 Submerge that ego

00:10:39.360 And say you know what?

00:10:40.360 Cool

00:10:41.360 I've had my time running the streets

00:10:43.360 Let me just kind of fix up

00:10:44.360 And do what I've got to do

00:10:45.360 What I've got to do

00:10:46.360 When you're having like

00:10:48.360 You know like I said

00:10:49.360 When you're at home

00:10:50.360 And you're alone with that individual

00:10:52.360 Whether it's you talking to a woman

00:10:54.360 Or your woman talking to a man 0.99

00:10:56.360 It's you not say certain things

00:10:59.360 So it will hurt a woman 1.00

00:11:01.360 As well as it will hurt a man

00:11:03.360 Especially if they believe

00:11:05.360 And this is where I come back to my point again

00:11:08.360 You are being sold a dream

00:11:11.360 Okay

00:11:12.360 And you know full well

00:11:13.360 If you cannot commit to what you're telling me

00:11:15.360 Why tell me that?

00:11:17.360 Because you're comfortable

00:11:18.360 Because we're in a situation where

00:11:21.360 You're comfortable

00:11:22.360 I know you

00:11:23.360 You know me

00:11:24.360 Because it works

00:11:25.360 Yeah it works

00:11:26.360 It works

00:11:27.360 That's why women will 1.00

00:11:28.360 You guys will say

00:11:29.360 Oh be honest to me

00:11:30.360 But you pick the guys that sell you a dream

00:11:32.360 So you don't pick the ones that are honest

00:11:33.360 No, no, no

00:11:34.360 But you can still be honest

00:11:37.360 But you have to understand

00:11:39.360 You can't say

00:11:40.360 I'm not going to sit here and say

00:11:41.360 Oh, I'm picking people

00:11:42.360 That's selling me a dream

00:11:43.360 No

00:11:44.360 Can I add something?

00:11:46.360 I'm being me

00:11:47.360 So if I'm coming to the table

00:11:48.360 And I'm saying to you

00:11:49.360 Look

00:11:50.360 I really like you

00:11:51.360 We've gone out for a few dates

00:11:53.360 You know

00:11:54.360 We've come to a point now

00:11:56.360 Where we're like

00:11:57.360 Okay

00:11:58.360 Let's come together

00:11:59.360 Rather than just call in

00:12:00.360 Let's come together

00:12:01.360 And do what we've got to do

00:12:02.360 But

00:12:03.360 I'm not going to

00:12:04.360 I'm not going to just

00:12:06.360 Say

00:12:07.360 Oh well

00:12:08.360 You know

00:12:09.360 I should pick a different guy

00:12:10.360 No, because I've been in that situation

00:12:11.360 And I've got friends

00:12:12.360 That's been in that situation

00:12:13.360 Where

00:12:14.360 You don't say

00:12:15.360 You don't think you should pick a different guy?

00:12:17.360 No, you can pick a different guy

00:12:19.360 But that doesn't mean to say

00:12:20.360 That

00:12:21.360 You picking a different guy

00:12:22.360 Okay, you've got some women that like 1.00

00:12:24.360 You know

00:12:25.360 Bad boys

00:12:26.360 And then you've got women that like 1.00

00:12:28.360 Corporate men

00:12:29.360 Yeah

00:12:30.360 If it's in you to cheat

00:12:31.360 You're going to cheat

00:12:32.360 It doesn't

00:12:33.360 It's not like

00:12:34.360 But my point is not

00:12:35.360 Like a very small percentage of men can cheat

00:12:37.360 So if you find yourself getting cheated on

00:12:39.360 Cheated on

00:12:40.360 Cheated on

00:12:41.360 And you're the common denominator

00:12:42.360 It's like

00:12:43.360 Well, no, not really

00:12:44.360 Because if you really sit down and ask somebody

00:12:46.360 Why are you cheating?

00:12:47.360 Like the guy in the back said

00:12:49.360 I like pom pom

00:12:50.360 And they want to sample it

00:12:51.360 I do

00:12:52.360 It's not always like

00:12:53.360 Right

00:12:54.360 That's right

00:12:55.360 No, I said

00:12:56.360 I was going by what he said

00:12:57.360 I'm not saying all

00:12:58.360 Okay

00:12:59.360 But that was his argument

00:13:00.360 Right

00:13:01.360 I like doing whatever

00:13:02.360 So what I'm saying is

00:13:04.360 It's not about

00:13:05.360 Well, you're the

00:13:06.360 If I've gone

00:13:07.360 And I've changed my line of

00:13:09.360 Who I'm putting

00:13:10.360 The energy out there to catch

00:13:12.360 If you're going to cheat

00:13:13.360 You're going to cheat

00:13:14.360 And that's how I look at it

00:13:16.360 I can't tell everybody

00:13:17.360 You.

JustPearlyThings - May 24, 2023

He Tried To CALL OUT Pearl

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