JustPearlyThings - October 15, 2023


He was ROASTED by The Panel For Saying This


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28 minutes

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5,718

Sentence count

612

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Misogyny

54

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Toxicity

62

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Hate speech

73

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On this episode of the podcast, the guys debate whether or not you should give hoes a chance. They also debate if women should have standards when it comes to dating and what they should look for in a potential partner.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 I get to choose now.
00:00:01.960 I can choose and be like, do I accept your past?
00:00:05.680 Or do I judge you by your past based on your current actions?
00:00:09.560 Because every woman, and just like every man, can be taught. 0.94
00:00:12.940 We can all learn things.
00:00:14.840 We can all change our habits and practice different ways of applying ourselves.
00:00:20.080 Do you see me?
00:00:20.620 That's why you see dudes that will be a gangster on the road and come home religious. 0.97
00:00:24.420 It's the same thing with women. 1.00
00:00:26.060 They can be in that stage until they really take steps to get themselves out of that stage.
00:00:31.540 I get you.
00:00:32.080 And then as soon as they're out of that stage, it's like an unwritten kind of broadcast that goes out.
00:00:37.440 Where it's like, oh, she's wifed up, man.
00:00:38.900 I ain't even going to holler at her no more.
00:00:40.200 Even though you might have hollered at her like a hoe back in the day. 1.00
00:00:43.580 But you can see from your side, man, like you were saying, perspective. 1.00
00:00:47.860 Oh, she's taking her shit serious. 0.99
00:00:49.720 Good luck to you. 0.99
00:00:50.840 Wish you the best.
00:00:52.200 Shout me when you're out of it.
00:00:53.360 Like, that's the reality of it.
00:00:54.860 I'm just saying I feel like people, once you kind of hear this rhetoric all the time,
00:01:00.940 where you generalize based on the common, you know, the average modern woman,
00:01:04.980 which you probably don't want to have a long-term relationship with,
00:01:07.860 I feel like you start to see that all the time.
00:01:10.020 And I think there's a lot more women out here who are intelligent 1.00
00:01:14.400 and who do value their chastity in a way that's sufficient for, you know,
00:01:19.360 whatever standard you may have.
00:01:20.640 But they're not hot.
00:01:21.240 But I think...
00:01:21.740 No, they are.
00:01:22.580 You just have to notice.
00:01:23.340 Alex, I'm just saying, I think most men don't have that high of standards.
00:01:27.100 And that's the problem.
00:01:28.420 I think this is like kind of a crazy argument because men really don't ask for much.
00:01:33.020 I don't even know a single guy that's saying, oh, oh, like maybe one out of the months I've done the show
00:01:40.700 that said five bodies is too many.
00:01:42.520 Maybe one.
00:01:44.340 Like most guys, they say 10.
00:01:45.740 So what do they want?
00:01:46.560 Wait, they say 10.
00:01:48.640 They say 10, but they mean 15 to 20 because like when I press them a little bit,
00:01:52.940 if I say, oh, 20 but really hot with good chemistry, they're like, ah, I'll let it go.
00:01:56.960 Or I'll see who they date and I'm like, ah, it's a little 50.
00:02:02.440 Don't, I'm not lying to you guys.
00:02:04.080 I'm not saying it's common.
00:02:05.440 I'm not saying it's common.
00:02:06.660 But it's like, I just don't know what are you arguing.
00:02:09.360 No, I'm just, I'm just making like a passive point.
00:02:13.640 Yeah.
00:02:13.800 That like you've got to be wary of generalizing people or women based on the women you don't want.
00:02:20.900 Because I found in my life that the more I've heard this rhetoric,
00:02:24.960 the more I see this in people.
00:02:26.340 And I've realized in a lot of cases, they weren't actually like that.
00:02:28.680 Because I was thinking about, you know, all this kind of rhetoric. 0.98
00:02:31.660 I judged them very quickly and later realized, oh, shit, she wasn't actually like that. 0.98
00:02:35.780 But it's a pointless point. 0.99
00:02:36.960 I'm not debating anyone.
00:02:38.320 I'm not disagreeing anyone.
00:02:39.040 I just, I think the point is like, even if you get married, it's still 50-50.
00:02:42.400 So you could say half aren't.
00:02:43.840 It's still half aren't.
00:02:46.240 Like, Alex, what it sounds like to me, Alex. 1.00
00:02:48.220 Half are going to leave your ass. 1.00
00:02:49.640 I was just about to say. 1.00
00:02:51.300 Take your money.
00:02:52.280 But I'm not disagreeing with anyone or check in or anything like that.
00:02:54.940 Like, what it sounds like to me, like I'm trying to decipher what you're saying,
00:02:59.080 is that you should just give hoes a chance. 1.00
00:03:01.560 That's how it's coming across.
00:03:02.900 No, no, no.
00:03:03.220 No.
00:03:03.740 I think we should be wary.
00:03:05.800 Because, bro, like, there's no ugly hoes. 1.00
00:03:09.240 Just the reds. 0.99
00:03:10.040 No, here's what I'm saying.
00:03:14.700 What?
00:03:15.960 I've heard guys say, like, the fours and the threes.
00:03:19.120 Because they're just, like, so happy to be there.
00:03:22.780 Yeah.
00:03:24.080 They're grateful for their attention.
00:03:25.660 Yeah.
00:03:26.280 And they're putting the work.
00:03:27.700 They're like, you don't even have to take her out to dinner.
00:03:29.840 They'll put in the work as well.
00:03:31.620 You don't have to.
00:03:31.980 You just tell them.
00:03:33.220 You know what they say?
00:03:35.360 Literally, they'll put in that work.
00:03:36.920 Like, the girls you're talking about are the bin, like, what we call paper bags, plastic bag girls, where you put the bag on their head. 1.00
00:03:45.840 That's what you're talking about.
00:03:46.860 They're not hoes. 1.00
00:03:47.760 What are they then?
00:03:48.520 They're not hoes. 1.00
00:03:49.060 Let me tell you why they're hoes. 1.00
00:03:49.940 They're not hoes, yeah? 1.00
00:03:50.740 Because they don't have the ability to sell themselves to the entire market.
00:03:56.400 They're like the men.
00:03:57.360 They're like the bottom of the barrel men. 0.99
00:03:59.020 But they're still getting it.
00:04:00.140 Let me finish.
00:04:01.040 Let me finish.
00:04:02.200 They're the bottom of the barrel men who take what they can. 0.99
00:04:06.620 Just like how we know men have sex with who they can, and women have sex with who they want. 0.99
00:04:11.680 You all know a bunch of women. 1.00
00:04:13.420 Then there's a lot of girls that ain't hoes, because the whole point is that most girls have sex for insecurity. 1.00
00:04:17.380 Listen, listen.
00:04:18.240 There's a lot of girls that you know that ain't pretty. 1.00
00:04:21.000 That ain't the prettier of the bunch, but will sleep with anyone and take whatever attention they can get. 1.00
00:04:25.220 But she's still a ho. 1.00
00:04:26.260 Just because she's not in the top thing of beauty, it doesn't mean she's not a ho. 1.00
00:04:30.960 By your standards.
00:04:32.300 So, generalizing.
00:04:33.480 Okay, so we confirm. 1.00
00:04:35.760 You're ugly, and you've had lots of dick in your vagina. 1.00
00:04:38.320 So, you proved my point without knowing. 1.00
00:04:41.240 No, no, you're proving my point in saying that the amount of people that you sleep with makes you a ho. 0.90
00:04:46.000 Because I only just talked about sleeping with a pasta, but you proved my point. 0.98
00:04:49.860 No, you said an ugly girl that sees a lot of people can't be a ho. 1.00
00:04:52.540 I just think we need to move on. 0.81
00:04:53.760 Guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, we're going to move on from this.
00:04:57.400 Okay.
00:04:57.920 I'm going to read Super Chat.
00:04:59.300 So, guys, like the video.
00:05:01.320 There's over 2,000 people watching.
00:05:03.240 I think there should be 2,000 likes on this video.
00:05:06.140 That's a big goal.
00:05:06.880 I don't – I think we've only gotten to 2,000 likes a couple times, so make sure you guys are liking the video.
00:05:12.260 I am going to read some Super Chats. 1.00
00:05:13.900 I'm sorry if they're mean.
00:05:14.860 I'm not saying it.
00:05:15.800 It's just me.
00:05:16.800 Okay.
00:05:17.660 All right.
00:05:18.080 EliteGamer876.
00:05:19.660 Any self-respecting man who would wife up a girl who had a history of long-term relationships, any girl who says, 0.98
00:05:26.100 I needed to heal or find myself has been ran through.
00:05:28.480 You are going to fail miserably in a marriage.
00:05:30.580 Pan-African, B-MigTau, patriarch. 1.00
00:05:33.960 Women don't need to go through heartbreak. 1.00
00:05:35.840 Bachelor for life.
00:05:36.800 Every girlfriend had the opportunity of being one. 1.00
00:05:39.380 Western women are generally the destroyers of legacy. 1.00
00:05:42.340 B-MigTau, men of value. 1.00
00:05:43.620 Blackest Panther.
00:05:44.200 You cannot be a high-value man if you have nothing to delegate to your woman. 0.92
00:05:48.140 You should not – you should be on your mission, and she should be helping you build a legacy.
00:05:53.000 You are not your high-value – you are not a high-value man if your woman is idle doing her thing. 0.97
00:05:58.540 Amen.
00:05:59.140 Dania.
00:06:01.140 Denalva, you should stop advocating for people choosing to have bad relationship experiences.
00:06:05.900 People normally learn what not to do from other people's experiences.
00:06:11.140 That's toxic advice.
00:06:12.360 Give it up already.
00:06:13.000 Just stop.
00:06:14.200 Sameh, Tagan, Denalva, y'all don't need six-foot men but still want them.
00:06:18.800 The UK economist.
00:06:20.100 Many of the problems in the West, such as broken families and dysfunctional communities, could be solved if women waited until marriage. 1.00
00:06:27.080 Traditional values would be restored.
00:06:30.380 I mean, I think that's ideal, but there's always going to be a home.
00:06:34.320 B-Mobliss. 0.96
00:06:36.060 If you don't need experiences – if you don't need to experience stuff to know it's bad, experiences leave you with a scar and trauma.
00:06:42.600 You want to learn from other people's experiences.
00:06:44.680 Dead truth.
00:06:45.220 Don't listen to the dude in the hat.
00:06:46.560 Men judge her past and have standards and build yourself up.
00:06:51.600 Why?
00:06:52.200 Not to be harsh, but divorce rates.
00:06:53.840 Men deleting themselves at a high rate.
00:06:55.780 Child support and custody battles and losing half your resources.
00:06:58.340 All real, not manifested.
00:07:00.560 Fairy tales.
00:07:01.620 Amen, Dania. 0.86
00:07:02.580 People have sex no matter what justification – people have sex no matter the justifications made. 0.93
00:07:08.740 Not everyone goes on to ride the carousel because it's easy to do so.
00:07:12.380 It applies to those to go down the road.
00:07:14.660 Hence, terms like hoe, skeet, public property, just saying. 0.97
00:07:18.480 Moe, blizz, pearl, please let them know.
00:07:20.120 A real man will always know if you've been around.
00:07:22.120 A simp will never know. 0.96
00:07:23.160 It takes activating a certain part of your ego to be able to sleep around.
00:07:27.180 A real man will decode that fast. 0.98
00:07:29.120 Black as panther. 0.55
00:07:30.400 The ladies on the couch have prude friends. 1.00
00:07:32.380 I disagree.
00:07:33.260 If they are friends with you, then they are also 304s. 1.00
00:07:35.560 If you are friends with a woman that defends 304 behavior, then you're also a 304. 0.95
00:07:42.940 Thank you, Elite Gamer.
00:07:43.800 Black as panther.
00:07:45.000 If you meet a man who dished out delicious knuckle sandwiches to his exes on a regular basis,
00:07:51.140 should that matter on whether you stay with him?
00:07:53.100 His past doesn't matter.
00:07:54.120 He said he wouldn't do it again.
00:07:55.780 Kamal, Pearl, you need a black dress, so help me God. 1.00
00:07:58.480 Married lady is the sanest human to ever show up on the channel. 1.00
00:08:02.380 Get her back on again.
00:08:03.200 The other women need to see the other way. 1.00
00:08:05.880 Come to the light, ladies. 0.95
00:08:06.960 Black as panther.
00:08:07.700 Why do women defend being a 304 so much but expect men not to assume that they've also 1.00
00:08:12.540 been a 304? 0.81
00:08:13.360 If your friends are 304s, then by default, you are also 304 unless you are a 304. 0.99
00:08:18.000 Stop defending 304s. 1.00
00:08:19.300 Alistair Horton, here's a question.
00:08:21.140 Would you rather someone protects your ego and not point out a problem letting it linger
00:08:25.400 like a bad fart or have them tell it straight to your ego straight?
00:08:32.480 Let your ego take the damage and improve on it to prevent it again. 0.98
00:08:37.160 Black as panther.
00:08:38.280 Overindulgence in anything that's easy to do is shameful. 1.00
00:08:41.500 If you eat too much, you're a whale. 0.96
00:08:42.880 If you sleep around too much, you're a 304. 1.00
00:08:44.760 If you do nothing too much, you're lazy. 0.70
00:08:47.040 Shame is important. 1.00
00:08:48.840 Kamal, he sounds simpish.
00:08:52.200 Trucking with Tony.
00:08:53.140 Alex is a simp.
00:08:54.040 If she's a 304, it is what it is. 1.00
00:08:55.720 KCF sack.
00:08:57.380 Disrespectful equals unflattering remark towards women.
00:08:59.920 Unflattering remark towards men.
00:09:01.280 It's not disrespectful. 0.98
00:09:02.360 Black as panther. 0.97
00:09:03.440 Sleeping with multiple people is not what makes you a 304. 0.95
00:09:05.860 What makes you a 304 is why you sleep with them and how quickly you move on from it. 0.96
00:09:10.040 C. Dumbledore.
00:09:10.820 Sorry, ladies, but if you get paid to do potty tricks in Dubai, you're both a 304 and you're 1.00
00:09:16.480 never erasing that from your past.
00:09:19.060 All mighty time. 0.98
00:09:20.060 Married chick with spit and fire. 1.00
00:09:21.580 Dennis McKinney. 0.86
00:09:22.320 Notice the married brain thought versus the single woman. 1.00
00:09:25.300 KCF.
00:09:25.860 Another word for 304.
00:09:26.960 Don't forget. 0.95
00:09:27.520 Slag. 0.96
00:09:29.020 Henry Luzi.
00:09:30.860 Tantric practitioners. 1.00
00:09:32.120 Smoke pipe on the side.
00:09:33.260 Work is not just escorting sugar babies.
00:09:35.640 Sugar babies, Instagram models are all essentially professionals.
00:09:40.980 Shells.
00:09:41.520 Shame is needed to hold society to a certain standard.
00:09:43.960 If you want to bring back, if you don't want to bring back shame, you're afraid of accountability.
00:09:48.500 Ryan Thundered of God.
00:09:50.060 1 to 4 is unattractive.
00:09:51.760 5.4 or 4.5 is barely smashed.
00:09:54.760 5 is okay.
00:09:55.480 5.5 is cutish.
00:09:57.200 6 is cute.
00:09:58.100 6.5 is attractive.
00:09:59.580 7 is hot.
00:10:00.520 7.5 very hot.
00:10:02.600 8 is smoking hot.
00:10:03.780 8.5 or greater is supermodel territory.
00:10:08.340 C. Dumbledore.
00:10:11.440 Blonde could model the Chanel or the Chunnel? 1.00
00:10:14.780 What is Chunnel?
00:10:15.440 Chanel.
00:10:16.220 Oh, Chanel.
00:10:16.940 And it says C-H-U-N-N-E-L. 1.00
00:10:18.740 Probably a spelling mistake.
00:10:20.660 C-H-U-N-L. 1.00
00:10:21.660 I don't know what that means.
00:10:22.660 Okay.
00:10:22.880 Blonde could model the Chanel with that gap. 1.00
00:10:25.780 Dennis McKinney.
00:10:26.600 Girl in the back. 0.99
00:10:27.480 Sorry.
00:10:28.020 Girl in the back. 0.99
00:10:29.080 It was a compliment.
00:10:30.660 Girl in the back. 0.99
00:10:32.040 Ask the guys what they rate.
00:10:33.500 Girl in the back. 0.99
00:10:34.200 Ask the guys what they rate you.
00:10:35.660 C. Dumbledore.
00:10:36.520 If you have a poop scoop, raptor claws, anti-aircraft eyelashes, and meters of fake hair, you're not an 8.5.
00:10:44.800 Alistair Horton.
00:10:45.840 Most modern women's egos are fragile as silence and it's usually to manipulate people, especially the emotional ones. 1.00
00:10:54.080 Eric Powell.
00:10:55.780 I love Pearl.
00:10:57.440 Dennis McKinney.
00:10:58.500 Please start with the women listening to learn. 0.90
00:11:00.700 Please listen with your ears as a brain, then put your heart in it.
00:11:03.460 Understanding of men will help you turn out better.
00:11:06.440 Okay.
00:11:08.780 So back to the topic.
00:11:10.360 Actually, a question for the men.
00:11:12.500 Not you.
00:11:13.240 You were married.
00:11:15.340 Have you guys had a whole phase and how long did it last?
00:11:19.480 I'm 27.
00:11:20.300 He can tell you about his other month. 1.00
00:11:22.160 Oh, shit. 1.00
00:11:22.720 I thought you were 15. 1.00
00:11:23.740 Oh, okay.
00:11:24.140 Sorry.
00:11:24.940 Maybe you did too.
00:11:26.440 He's a good looking man.
00:11:27.580 I actually want to know, bro.
00:11:28.940 I've known this guy for like 10 years.
00:11:32.020 No, wait.
00:11:32.860 Are we starting with me then?
00:11:33.740 Yeah, let's start with you.
00:11:34.540 All right, cool.
00:11:35.200 So whole phase for me wasn't that long.
00:11:38.200 It was like for when I was thinking like 14, got out of another relationship, started dipping around.
00:11:45.540 And then I very quickly noticed that I kind of had it easy with girls.
00:11:50.840 So then I was just like, all right, cool.
00:11:53.120 I don't need to be chasing like everyone else likes doing.
00:11:56.520 And it was kind of like a stereotype that was put on top of me that I was going to get someone pregnant when I was young.
00:12:01.800 So then I did the opposite and kind of flipped it.
00:12:03.700 And I was just like, you know what?
00:12:04.880 I've got options.
00:12:05.860 Let me take my time.
00:12:07.240 Pick who I want.
00:12:09.080 And then move from there.
00:12:10.460 At least that way I know that whoever's with me is not with me for the success I'm going to have.
00:12:16.680 Obviously, this is me at 15.
00:12:18.680 I knew that I was going to end up being in a good place in the future.
00:12:22.160 But I knew that who I wanted by my side would be someone that I knew was there for me and not for the resources I can provide.
00:12:29.400 Exactly.
00:12:31.080 And that's a good choice.
00:12:32.520 That's what you need.
00:12:33.800 Pick people with the right intentions for you.
00:12:36.500 Masculine thinking.
00:12:38.020 Hey.
00:12:38.860 How long was your whole face?
00:12:41.280 It wasn't long.
00:12:42.040 It was like a year.
00:12:42.780 A year.
00:12:43.320 A year.
00:12:43.620 And what stood out about your wife that made you pick her? 0.95
00:12:47.700 You know what?
00:12:48.300 There was a few things.
00:12:49.520 Some things that I'll keep on the wraps.
00:12:51.580 But it was very clear to see from the get-go that she was going to be there for the long term.
00:12:57.520 And especially with the stuff that I do outside of that professional life.
00:13:01.780 So something that he doesn't.
00:13:03.020 I'm so sorry, my love, that I'm interrupting you.
00:13:04.960 But something that he doesn't want to say in front of people.
00:13:07.260 Just not to. 0.94
00:13:08.720 He's a stripper. 0.88
00:13:09.600 No, no, no.
00:13:10.040 Just not to embarrass my family.
00:13:14.480 Just out of respect, which I appreciate.
00:13:17.040 But I don't mind saying it.
00:13:18.360 It's because we had a problem with race.
00:13:21.580 So my family didn't accept him being black.
00:13:24.520 And I chose him over my family.
00:13:26.780 And we moved out.
00:13:28.240 So I think from a very young age, we were like 16. 1.00
00:13:32.500 He knew that, okay, shit. 0.99
00:13:34.500 Like, she's, like, he was so close with his family. 1.00
00:13:37.720 Like, his mom, his aunties, his grandparents.
00:13:40.300 And I can't imagine someone standing.
00:13:42.620 He broke up with me like three times.
00:13:44.080 I was like, hell no.
00:13:45.240 I was showing up outside his house.
00:13:46.560 I was like, look me in the eyes.
00:13:48.060 Tell me you don't love me.
00:13:48.760 And then I'll leave.
00:13:50.020 And he couldn't do it.
00:13:50.940 She proved it.
00:13:52.340 And I think that was the biggest thing.
00:13:54.920 I'm shaking.
00:13:55.680 I'm shaking, guys.
00:13:56.920 One of the biggest things.
00:13:57.860 But hey, we didn't want to go to the...
00:13:59.140 You go back and answer your question.
00:14:00.820 No, mine's been unimpressive.
00:14:02.460 You're still in her face.
00:14:06.420 Mine started when, I think, I lost my virginia when I was 14.
00:14:10.400 When I just turned 14.
00:14:12.580 And I would say it went on for until I was about... 0.99
00:14:15.960 Damn. 0.99
00:14:16.960 Like, seven years. 0.99
00:14:18.200 Until I was about 21.
00:14:19.240 But I went hoeing the whole seven years. 0.86
00:14:22.160 I was like, you might be...
00:14:24.640 Obviously, I attracted a lot of girls. 0.99
00:14:26.200 Because I was popular in my area.
00:14:28.340 And I chilled with a lot of people.
00:14:30.360 And that was popular.
00:14:31.240 And obviously, just going to parties.
00:14:33.440 And the man on the party, whatever.
00:14:35.340 There will be a couple months in where I won't even do nothing with a girl. 0.55
00:14:39.940 And then there will be, like, maybe five months where I'm just doing...
00:14:42.680 I'm just going crazy.
00:14:44.720 And then, yeah.
00:14:45.400 And then when I hit about 21, 22, kind of started to chill down.
00:14:49.440 And then my mind kind of got a bit stronger.
00:14:51.540 I was like, I don't really need to do that.
00:14:52.900 And you kind of...
00:14:53.900 Because you got used to it.
00:14:55.020 It's like, you don't really need to do that.
00:14:56.500 And then you just kind of want to look for someone.
00:14:58.900 If you know what I mean.
00:14:59.780 Yeah.
00:15:00.460 Literally.
00:15:02.040 So about seven years, how about...
00:15:03.760 Seven years.
00:15:04.820 Okay. 1.00
00:15:05.700 Shit. 1.00
00:15:06.900 Me? 1.00
00:15:07.400 Yeah.
00:15:09.260 I don't know.
00:15:09.980 I don't even really like...
00:15:11.640 I don't even really like to call what men do a whole phase.
00:15:15.480 I don't really think it's a whole...
00:15:17.640 I mean, okay, but we could say sour and they're wild oats.
00:15:21.120 Come on, bro.
00:15:22.380 Spreading.
00:15:23.660 Can we just deal with the reality?
00:15:27.040 Yeah, yeah.
00:15:28.440 Different standards for the...
00:15:29.900 Stop talking about objectivity.
00:15:32.460 Nah.
00:15:33.200 I guess, like I said, probably like my brother, when I lost my virginity.
00:15:37.740 And, you know, you kind of know from seeing how women interact with other men,
00:15:44.700 where you kind of sit in the spectrum.
00:15:46.740 And I was, like, I didn't really have problems sleeping with women. 1.00
00:15:53.400 Do you know what I mean?
00:15:53.900 Coming up as a young guy.
00:15:56.880 So I guess my whole phase is paused when I was in relationships.
00:16:02.220 Like, I've been in, like, three serious, serious relationships in my whole life.
00:16:07.320 And in those periods, I proactively tried to be, you know,
00:16:12.000 everything that you would want in that relationship.
00:16:14.000 But because the people who I was with didn't make that same commitment,
00:16:19.100 it just fell through.
00:16:20.120 So, like, you know, if I found something like your wife,
00:16:21.660 where she's pulling up outside your house,
00:16:23.100 I probably would have been, you know, more inclined to actually ride it out.
00:16:27.660 And the person I actually had the longest and the deepest relationship with
00:16:30.960 was somebody who proactively pursued me as well, in a sense.
00:16:34.960 Do you see what I'm saying?
00:16:35.600 Whereas everybody else, I kind of, you know, made them my girlfriend type stuff.
00:16:40.180 Do you know what I mean?
00:16:40.480 Because, again, I make that choice.
00:16:42.600 So, I don't know.
00:16:45.140 I don't think I've left.
00:16:47.320 I'm single now.
00:16:48.160 So, you know, I guess I'm back.
00:16:50.400 You're home. 0.98
00:16:51.020 He's got balls being made. 0.97
00:16:52.440 Alex, what about you? 0.94
00:16:54.120 Probably about two or three years.
00:16:58.420 Because, so, I lost my virginity in second year of uni,
00:17:03.080 which is extremely late.
00:17:04.220 Oh.
00:17:04.840 But I didn't really like people in school. 0.99
00:17:08.680 I thought everyone was dumb. 0.97
00:17:09.780 I didn't understand the reason to get in relationships. 0.99
00:17:11.600 I thought they were vacuous.
00:17:13.100 These guys running around talking about whose hand they held.
00:17:15.840 And then there was the town bike over there. 0.99
00:17:18.200 And it was just dumb. 0.97
00:17:19.260 I was like, I don't understand. 0.82
00:17:20.080 And I still don't really understand most relationships of like, why should I like spend so much time talking
00:17:25.260 and building up some emotional relationship, especially when, you know, if it ends,
00:17:29.720 then you're distracted for like two months until you reset or whatever.
00:17:33.020 So, uni, I've always been extremely picky though.
00:17:36.460 So, maybe a hoe for me is different, but I have high standards of myself. 0.98
00:17:39.600 So, like the idea that like some guys will sleep with someone because she's up for it is disgusting to me.
00:17:44.340 It's like, no, no.
00:17:45.660 So, it's not me sleeping with you.
00:17:48.000 You're also sleeping with me in it.
00:17:49.300 So, you're also in my space, my energy.
00:17:51.480 And that's kind of nasty if you just pick anyone. 0.97
00:17:53.380 That's disgusting. 0.98
00:17:54.120 Especially if women who kind of are like that tend to be not very picky in general. 1.00
00:17:58.580 I'm not narcissistic enough to believe that like I'm special.
00:18:01.560 This girl in the club saw me and realized that I had an aura and wanted to know.
00:18:06.820 She's probably gotten with the other three Nigerian guys.
00:18:09.360 So, I have a follow-up question.
00:18:13.680 Do you guys feel like men end up with the girl that met them at the right time?
00:18:21.580 Like that was there when they were done with their hofays and ready to settle down? 0.98
00:18:25.660 Or the woman that they love the most?
00:18:27.480 The one that I think the one that met them because I was with my son's dad for nine years.
00:18:32.960 And he's ended up with the one that kind of he cheated and then he cheated and she then was like the last cheat.
00:18:41.320 If that makes sense.
00:18:42.120 So, like he cheated on each person with each person and then he's ended up with the one that would.
00:18:46.760 And maybe she accepted it.
00:18:48.320 That's weird.
00:18:49.400 I mean, so what do you, so guys, what do you, what do you think?
00:18:55.240 I think it depends on the guy and where their headspace is at.
00:19:00.120 Because, I mean, I know that I'm an anomaly so I can't really talk for all guys.
00:19:04.140 But I know that when we met, I kind of already made that conscious choice.
00:19:09.520 And I remember having that conversation with my mom when I was 16 and I'm being like, yeah, I think if I start with this one, that's going to be it.
00:19:17.320 But I can understand why most guys until later in life won't really get to that stage.
00:19:22.700 So I think it's where they're at in their headspace.
00:19:25.880 I don't think it's about the time.
00:19:28.580 So you think it's, it sounds like you said more at the right time?
00:19:31.960 No, no.
00:19:32.340 Well, where they are.
00:19:34.180 Yeah, where they are.
00:19:34.920 So the girl that's there at the right time.
00:19:36.560 Yeah.
00:19:36.780 Okay.
00:19:37.240 Would you guys agree with that?
00:19:38.400 Anyone disagree with that?
00:19:40.120 No, I don't disagree with that.
00:19:41.380 I agree with that.
00:19:42.100 And most men won't even commit into a situation if they ain't where they want to be in their head.
00:19:47.520 Do you know what I mean?
00:19:48.260 If you, if I meet somebody, because I can meet somebody anywhere and at any time, but I've always got a master plan, pinky in the brain plan in my head that I've had from since I was young that where I'm going to achieve in life.
00:19:59.480 So if somebody comes in and shows attributes that they're going to add to that journey, they're more likely to keep that person around because they're not taken away from where I'm trying to go.
00:20:12.240 They're adding to it versus if it's somebody who's got their own life going on and they don't really want to, you know, involve themselves in your life so much.
00:20:20.120 It will, it's kind of an easy choice to me.
00:20:21.720 Be like, all right, I'll hook up with you, but I don't see this going beyond where it's at now.
00:20:26.900 It feels more like men is whichever one comes first.
00:20:30.400 If the right one comes first, they'll settle for the right one.
00:20:33.020 If the right one doesn't come first, they'll settle for the right time.
00:20:35.740 But then you think that's because they can, if, if a girl's adaptable to their lifestyle and they get on with the program, then they can, they can mold them into what they want from their life. 1.00
00:20:50.560 Do you think, do you think the, I'm just saying true or untrue, can the right girl make a guy settle down when he's not ready? 0.94
00:20:56.480 Untrue.
00:20:57.300 Yeah.
00:20:57.660 No, it's true.
00:20:58.140 It's true.
00:20:59.780 Respectfully, I'm asking the man.
00:21:01.340 This is like, quite like.
00:21:03.060 That's true.
00:21:03.580 Should have to be, should have to be like seriously, like capable to like serious.
00:21:09.820 Okay.
00:21:10.200 So you guys all think that's true?
00:21:11.700 Absolutely.
00:21:12.300 May I ask a question?
00:21:13.560 What is it that makes a man not be wanting to settle if she's the right one?
00:21:18.900 What makes us don't want to settle?
00:21:21.920 If she's the right one, why would you pass on the right one?
00:21:24.580 The girl that is actually has nothing wrong.
00:21:26.440 She likes you, like her, everything's good.
00:21:27.940 I don't know.
00:21:28.660 Why would you say no?
00:21:29.860 I don't know.
00:21:30.340 Maybe some man don't want to give up that lifestyle that they're living or, or she, I don't know.
00:21:36.100 Like, or they just, they just.
00:21:37.540 What's the lifestyle saying that is better than finding the woman? 1.00
00:21:39.820 I don't know.
00:21:40.200 Some guys are just addicted to the girl's attention or getting girls or doing things with girls and they don't want to settle down.
00:21:47.880 I don't know.
00:21:48.280 Some guys just like the streets.
00:21:49.760 Yeah.
00:21:50.060 You know what I'm saying?
00:21:50.820 Some guys just love their love.
00:21:52.280 They're stuck in the streets and they don't know how to get out.
00:21:54.320 So, so like, I'm just saying like, obviously some, the, the situations we need to not also take accountability because the right woman will sometimes come across the right, the man.
00:22:05.900 And because he's not in the right place in his mind because he likes the streets too much because he doesn't want to make the right decision.
00:22:11.060 That's it.
00:22:11.360 I'm the woman.
00:22:11.800 But that's, but, but that's not the, the point is not that because if she picked him and he has now a position of choice, he's not making the right choice.
00:22:18.900 So we can't continue to make the right decision.
00:22:20.640 They all make bad decisions.
00:22:21.740 But then that's his loss.
00:22:22.980 That's it.
00:22:23.940 But who are you to say?
00:22:24.760 So why are we calling girls a hoes all the time because they make good decisions like that? 1.00
00:22:27.580 It's got nothing to do with that though.
00:22:28.720 Denalva, Denalva, what are you talking about?
00:22:30.800 I'll tell you what I'm talking about.
00:22:32.180 Isn't it just at that point he's not seen?
00:22:34.040 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:22:34.940 Who are you to say it's the wrong decision?
00:22:36.900 Maybe it's the right decision.
00:22:37.920 Like sometimes it's the best thing that ever happened and sometimes it wasn't.
00:22:41.400 Okay.
00:22:41.920 And then, so I said, so this, this was what I said.
00:22:44.840 I said, whichever comes first. 0.93
00:22:46.180 So when you settle at the right time that you feel like it's the right time, but you've missed out on the right one, it's likely to be the case where you're going to actually pick somebody that's probably not going to be the best for you.
00:22:55.320 So I would just say, instead of you always trying to think about the right time, if the right person comes along, that's the first priority.
00:23:01.560 That's it.
00:23:02.480 That's it.
00:23:02.900 You shouldn't pass on on the right person.
00:23:04.980 Denalva, Denalva, I think that's a female point of view. 1.00
00:23:06.680 That's definitely, I don't know.
00:23:07.740 I might seem like the right person at the time.
00:23:09.760 Because if we, if we find the right guy, we'll drop everything.
00:23:13.200 But like men just aren't built like us.
00:23:14.620 But they all said if there's an extremely exceptional woman, they'll do it. 0.82
00:23:17.820 Yeah.
00:23:18.180 And so.
00:23:18.760 It's just, you ain't that girl.
00:23:20.240 If you, no, if you, no.
00:23:22.080 If this is the thing, and that is also one of the issues that I have, because we like to point out problems, but then when the solution comes into the table, everybody rejects it.
00:23:32.420 How is it that we can sit here and complain about men or the girls, this, girls make bad decisions. 1.00
00:23:37.760 Men make bad decisions.
00:23:39.000 And we're saying, oh yeah, if I'm not in the right space, I'll let the right one go.
00:23:42.600 And then you're happy to say something like that.
00:23:44.300 I know, but we pick that, like okay, okay.
00:23:46.980 Women pick men that clearly aren't in the space of their lives to settle down. 1.00
00:23:50.860 Like I'm sorry, I'm 26.
00:23:53.280 If I, if I date a 26 year old, he's probably not ready.
00:23:56.640 Women try to date their age and then they're confused why he's not ready to settle down. 0.69
00:24:00.560 This is why I want to date younger.
00:24:01.700 Yeah, yeah, I mean, and there's like, and also, I mean, some, some guys are right, but it's usually pretty obvious which ones are and which ones aren't.
00:24:10.700 And if you ask, they'll usually tell you, but we don't listen.
00:24:14.000 Okay.
00:24:14.940 So then let me ask you another question.
00:24:17.140 And so since we always keep talking about youth, right?
00:24:20.260 I don't think youth in a woman means it's the right time for, for you to be with her, which means all these men that high value in their 30 going for younger women.
00:24:27.100 You don't get to pick it.
00:24:29.920 The men get to pick what they want. 0.97
00:24:32.220 That's what men find is valuable.
00:24:34.180 It's like me going into a shop and like, oh, I want to buy this t-shirt.
00:24:36.780 No, you can't buy this t-shirt.
00:24:37.620 You go buy this t-shirt.
00:24:38.380 Okay, because if a man, if a man wants four kids, why on earth would he pick a 30 year old?
00:24:43.800 Okay.
00:24:44.080 That makes no sense.
00:24:45.040 Well, yeah, I'm 35 and there's no way I would date somebody who wants to have multiple children.
00:24:49.780 I got two.
00:24:50.640 I am not ready to walk around with a big old belly and have a baby on my baby. 0.96
00:24:55.060 Yeah, and probably you would be in geriatric pregnancy.
00:24:59.140 I mean, I think my eggs are good, but I mean, you think, but you think, yeah, but it's still a risk.
00:25:06.260 Yeah, and I'm not willing.
00:25:07.260 So why would a man pick that? 0.91
00:25:08.440 I'm explaining the simple fact that you cannot be complaining about women, saying that women doing this and women doing that when you're picking them at the wrong time.
00:25:17.420 That's what I'm saying.
00:25:18.340 Well, no one knows when to pick them.
00:25:20.020 Exactly.
00:25:20.780 So then, so then why are we talking about age?
00:25:23.080 And then you're coming up with a whole different timeline anyway.
00:25:25.820 That's why I like that.
00:25:27.420 I feel like you're getting too old, Donava.
00:25:30.260 I just want to understand this because it doesn't make sense.
00:25:33.120 It does make sense.
00:25:34.000 Men prefer younger women. 0.65
00:25:36.920 There's less trauma, less baggage, and they look better.
00:25:40.720 Okay, the same way that women prefer the top 1% and actually a lot of the time they look the right one. 0.98
00:25:47.700 But the difference, the difference is what men want is attainable.
00:25:51.280 What women want isn't. 1.00
00:25:52.660 But that's what I'm saying.
00:25:53.280 Well, I don't know if that's attainable in the way that we're talking about now.
00:25:56.880 What men want isn't crazy.
00:25:58.140 It's usually not crazy.
00:25:59.660 Under 30, under 30, roughly, maybe, you know, most guys will even be generous.
00:26:03.880 They'll give you like 33, 34, whatever.
00:26:05.800 How about 35?
00:26:07.060 35.
00:26:07.440 Okay, now I'll tell you why it's also crazy.
00:26:18.160 Because this is, again, another problem with men.
00:26:20.540 Men, why are you picking just based on the fact that a woman is under 30? 0.96
00:26:24.000 Go and pick the vibe right now.
00:26:25.540 Because they're more fertile.
00:26:27.320 But that's not the point.
00:26:28.660 And this is why there's divorces. 1.00
00:26:31.680 Update your skincare routine and you'll pass for younger, all right?
00:26:34.920 That's okay, but that's not what I'm saying.
00:26:36.380 All I'm saying is.
00:26:37.640 Dineva, Dineva, Dineva, if a man wants kids, you're 30.
00:26:40.600 90% of your eggs are gone.
00:26:42.280 That's okay.
00:26:42.740 Gone, Naiski, Nada, gone, gone, gone, gone, gone.
00:26:46.020 So, so it doesn't matter.
00:26:47.560 It doesn't matter what you want or what you think.
00:26:50.340 Your eggs are gone.
00:26:51.480 Okay.
00:26:52.260 So let me explain something to you.
00:26:53.820 Wait, wait, wait.
00:26:54.380 Before you explain something, let me cut you off completely forever.
00:26:57.040 Okay, forever.
00:26:57.420 Okay, so.
00:26:58.320 I take back the fact that I like you.
00:26:59.620 I don't like you no more.
00:27:00.360 Continue.
00:27:01.580 My answer was, so I always, uh, have you seen Rum Diaries with Donny?
00:27:06.380 Step.
00:27:07.180 No.
00:27:08.160 So he, I like that kind of lifestyle of like being a well-traveled dude who's experienced
00:27:13.560 things.
00:27:13.880 So it depends on the guy.
00:27:14.800 Some guys are very conservative and they want to settle down straight off the university.
00:27:18.340 I always, I always wanted to, I always wanted to experience the world and to come back and
00:27:22.340 have experiences of value that would allow me to add an engaged relationship in a certain
00:27:26.560 way, which is why I'm a little bit more tolerant than the conservative guys and some of these
00:27:30.760 standards.
00:27:31.120 So I would say it depends on the guy because I'm not really driven by, oh, I'm going to
00:27:34.640 meet someone, I'm going to connect so much, I'm going to drop everything.
00:27:37.020 Um, it has to be a point where I've decided in my mind that like, all right, I've seen
00:27:40.700 enough.
00:27:41.200 This is getting long.
00:27:42.340 Let me start like preparing to chill out, you know?
00:27:45.700 I do think that, um, like older men and younger women do just go really well together.
00:27:52.600 Yep.
00:27:53.080 Like, cause men aren't ready to like put the streets down so early and stuff.
00:27:58.400 Like women do tend to want to stop their high phase a lot earlier than men do. 0.84
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