JustPearlyThings - June 17, 2023


He Was SHOCKED When Pearl Said THIS


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Harmful content

Misogyny

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Hate speech

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In this episode, we discuss the role of women in the modern world and how they play a key role in society and society's perception of what it means to be a Muslim woman. We also talk about the importance of being a good Muslim woman and the role that women play in society.

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00:00:00.000 do you guys believe in evil eye what do you mean evil eye so people could do it i believe in it
00:00:05.380 um they couldn't even in our religion we believe in it basically you can do it intentionally or
00:00:10.800 unintentionally for example like you just see someone that looks great or they have this nice
00:00:15.220 thing we we when we say that we say mashallah so we don't jinx it accidentally not intentionally
00:00:20.460 but it can accidentally be like wow and then we can accidentally jinx that person so that's
00:00:24.220 actually a thing so what happens in these big weddings is you're getting all these people
00:00:28.740 involved they're all seeing who you're marrying what you don't are able to afford you are causing
00:00:34.300 a lot of attention and it could be evil eye as well intentionally or non-intentionally regardless
00:00:38.840 yeah and then now you don't have all this burden people people used to just go to the courthouse
00:00:43.120 and it was fine but now and like the other thing is other women ruin it because they're like oh well 1.00
00:00:47.880 my man got me this my man got me that exactly a lot of the times the girl's saying that it's because
00:00:53.360 something's wrong but when you say as well that like you know how you said that it's it's also about
00:00:58.660 being a wife yeah like i'm looking at like my my generation as well like i'm 23 in it and i'm
00:01:03.700 and i like i have fans which are like much younger than me a lot of them don't focus on the individualized
00:01:09.100 person like a lot of them yeah they'll because let's say that someone you can take someone that
00:01:13.140 wants to be a perfect housewife and someone that wants to be a perfect house husband put them
00:01:16.740 together and it still probably won't work and i think the reason why is because of the way they
00:01:19.940 romanticize the idea they'll say okay cool i i'm i've been trained by my mom to become a wife
00:01:26.380 so i can be ready for a husband then she finds out that you've got a habit that just puts her off 1.00
00:01:31.080 and gives her the ick now she doesn't want the marriage anymore but let's say that the moment
00:01:34.500 the the romanticism came with her saying but i really like the way he smiles i really like the
00:01:40.100 way he is the really i really like the way he thinks that let's say that she grew the idea of
00:01:44.700 building towards marriage alongside with his personality involved as well that's when i believe that
00:01:49.440 she'd know what type of end product she's going to get with is it to do with i think i think you look
00:01:53.380 more at the families and their values more than personality i think women get wooed by personality 0.98
00:01:58.760 come on you know you know that guy that's a sweet talker right you know that guy that's a sweet
00:02:04.160 talker and those girls those girls keep on getting finessed and finessed look at her nod in her head 1.00
00:02:10.400 yeah and i'm a guy that lives in tokyo talking about this and there's a girl here in the uk agreeing
00:02:14.520 with me but equally they get finessed again and again master mind manipulators
00:02:19.840 no no no no she's not meeting manipulator after manipulator she's an idiot 0.77
00:02:26.340 but equally equally i think all these master manipulators are not out there
00:02:33.100 equally i think some women can can be i mean i dated a woman some years ago and she was in her 1.00
00:02:39.960 later 20s english girl right and i just felt like and she was really pushing things towards
00:02:44.520 towards marriage you know she really wanted marriage she really wanted commitment and quite
00:02:47.700 quickly as well and i just felt right my sense of it my spidey senses were tingling i felt that
00:02:53.900 i was sort of irrelevant really it could have been me but equally it could have been some other dude
00:02:58.980 anybody you know she really wanted that's the point i was yeah yeah you're wanting to want you for
00:03:03.540 you yeah and i'm sure she i don't agree of course she liked i'm sure she you know she liked me to some
00:03:08.540 degree whatever but but equally it was sort of like she wanted the instagram pictures she wanted
00:03:13.860 you know the idea of a boyfriend yeah exactly but can you see like that's the only element you see that's
00:03:19.380 the only element i'm trying to avoid with yes the ideology of your marriage fair play but i'd also want
00:03:25.540 her to grow with me as a person whilst liking what i can provide as a man because i'm not saying that
00:03:30.780 oh you should just like me and that should overcompensate with me being lazy i do think
00:03:34.900 that all men should be working i do think that well if you if yeah but in my opinion i think i think we
00:03:40.560 sell guys a dream that guys girls like them for them yeah i know but this is my balance though i'm
00:03:46.000 saying that balance it i'm not saying now don't work i'm saying be the best version of yourself
00:03:50.380 so so forth but also make sure that the person you're selecting also likes you can i ask you bro so wait
00:03:55.460 what what did you mean by that i just mean like i i think we tell guys just be yourself and like
00:04:00.340 women will come and i just think that that's not particularly true so do you think it is really
00:04:05.140 transactional you don't think like a girl look at a guy i think nowadays it is i think it may be it
00:04:09.260 used to be different you know we look more at families and values but now it's like girls will 1.00
00:04:13.420 just ask how much money you make a girl i mean what if someone's naturally ambitious though like let's
00:04:17.920 say that they've got an absolute desire to get back on their phone and hustle because that's their
00:04:22.280 routine before they even was in a relationship and let's say that's part of my natural
00:04:25.200 personality another girl could look at that and be like oh this guy never has time for me 1.00
00:04:29.400 yeah yeah yeah it's ironic though it's ironic because women want the the end fruits of the 1.00
00:04:35.120 success but actually they can sometimes i mean sometimes and i maybe you've had different
00:04:39.080 experiences but sometimes um they could also sort of impede you know if you're like right i want
00:04:43.840 to spend 12 hours hustling she's like no no i want to go to the store you know like
00:04:46.920 yeah like yeah there's a difference between like women who want a high value guy and women who know 0.99
00:04:55.640 how to deal who will support a high value yeah who know how to deal with the reality the day in day out
00:05:00.340 of a high value guy like i was i was dating a girl and one time she was like you know we need more
00:05:04.820 quality time together i'm like what do you mean you're over here all the time you know i was like
00:05:09.800 you're like the fact that i even let you into my life is a quality in itself yeah but they want you
00:05:16.380 to really give them an extreme amount of attention but you know you have to convey to these women like
00:05:22.900 look that's not how this is gonna work you you you can go find another guy maybe he's good at guitar
00:05:29.020 he can play you a song yeah but you guys gonna fly economy but if you want a high value dude and you
00:05:34.740 want a guy that is dedicated to something bigger than the both of you put together you're gonna have
00:05:39.600 to make some compromises yes but you'll be compromising in business class so like you got
00:05:44.540 to choose your you know choose your fortune that you want to go for is the love and the romanticism
00:05:49.500 and all this shit that is eventually going to fade away or something that's going to last a little bit 0.66
00:05:53.520 longer but i think right now ultimately because in the western world right because i live in in asia
00:05:58.860 and so in the western world they're just constantly lying to women saying you can have it all
00:06:06.880 you can be a ceo and a mother and have the perfect guy and never have relationship problems and you'll
00:06:13.140 be debt free and you're not going to be fat and everybody's going to love you and you're never
00:06:16.560 going to stop losing attention from men you're going to be beautiful into your 50s like j-lo
00:06:20.040 and that's just not the reality that's actually partially what got me into this content was
00:06:25.100 because i would hear women talk about how they wanted to date a high value guy and i'm just like
00:06:29.720 thinking and i think of like my dad working growing up and i'm like you think you're gonna have date
00:06:33.160 nights every friday with a guy that's working 80 hours a week good luck like i hope i hope it
00:06:39.760 works out for you but it's just not realistic i have a question for you based on what you're
00:06:43.760 saying earlier i gotta take off do you um do you do you believe that you can learn to love someone
00:06:48.660 do you believe you can learn to love someone i think they can grow on you i think you learn to
00:06:53.800 love every person you ever love because every person you love you never love because you know
00:06:58.200 because you know how you're like you were saying about oh a girl kind of you know meets with a guy who could be a
00:07:02.500 perfect husband but then he does something that's her ick and she's like nah i'm out yeah yeah so
00:07:06.280 in my in my i would say to that i'd be like she is not wifey material oh yeah she's not the perfect 1.00
00:07:13.300 wife because if if something that he's doing that isn't a jeopardy to the relationship like he's got
00:07:17.940 a weird snore or something yeah yeah right and she's like i can see he's a great quality guy he's
00:07:22.200 committed and i could have a good future with him but because of this one thing i'm going to jeopardize
00:07:26.480 all of that i would say she's not serious about the marriage what i would say to that is that in
00:07:30.520 general yeah every relationship you get into you're going to find things that you love about
00:07:34.420 your partner and things that you dislike about your partner like very naturally in it and what
00:07:38.140 what i'd also say to that is that like if if let's say that okay cool we can all in our own heads
00:07:44.760 pick what we deem as important and not important so the way she could deem you don't need to be on
00:07:49.600 your instagram dming people so much that you could be like no this is my bread and it's really about
00:07:54.540 how you like balance whilst growing with each other because i really think that a lot of these red flags
00:07:58.800 people act like they can't see red flags they act like like they'll see all these
00:08:02.820 no men will admit men will admit there's red flags women are the ones they're like oh he changed as 1.00
00:08:08.060 soon as we started dating yeah when it's like okay but but the question you have to ask is did your
00:08:12.460 parents like him yeah you know what you said earlier on um about women rushing to get married
00:08:21.360 because they like the idea of marriage and wedding but they're not thinking the actual concept of
00:08:25.740 becoming a wife yeah the responsibilities of it i've actually have i've actually had a friend that
00:08:31.520 literally got married because of the idea of marriage and kids quickly and then within being
00:08:37.440 a wife process the man was like asking her to cook every night because she's at home taking care of the 1.00
00:08:42.860 baby he's working so of course she should be like at least patterning the house cooking and cleaning 0.98
00:08:46.880 she didn't want to do it she didn't want to do it he was like what he went to his mom's house
00:08:51.500 complained and his mom's food came back and she's on the phone to me saying oh he's expecting dinner
00:08:57.100 tonight and i'm telling her girl i'm not married and i'm single even i know that you have to be in
00:09:02.020 that kitchen well i'm just thinking like doesn't doesn't she have to eat so she has to cook for 1.00
00:09:06.420 herself anyway yeah it's like just make it a little extra you know what she said she said
00:09:10.880 i'd rather eat something quick or maybe a takeaway like i can't be arsed and i told her like i'm not
00:09:17.440 gonna lie this is your responsibility your man is completely right in this if you don't if you want
00:09:22.560 if you care for your marriage and you want to stay married you better be in that kitchen and make sure 0.95
00:09:26.720 that food is ready before eight o'clock well it's a it shows a modern mindset because she cares about 0.86
00:09:30.860 what she wants not what's best for the family it's not good for a family to have these quick meals like
00:09:35.040 it's good for the family to have to sit down sit down yeah but that's the thing that lowers like
00:09:39.500 depression anxiety feelings of worthlessness that don't let it's a gigantic important thing for a
00:09:46.260 family to sit down and have regular meals i was just happy that she called me to ask me i said
00:09:51.120 you called the right person go in that kitchen as many of you know i was just banned on tiktok
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