JustPearlyThings - May 26, 2023


Heated Debate On CHEATING


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Length

9 minutes

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226.44235

Word count

2,194

Sentence count

188

Harmful content

Misogyny

27

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Hate speech

21

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In this episode we talk about cheating and why it's a big no no in our society. We also talk about why cheating is a bad thing to do and why you should be honest with your partner. We hope you enjoy this episode and stay tuned for the next one!

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00:00:00.000 But the effects of a single mother home are worse. 1.00
00:00:02.500 And every stat will tell you you're more likely to commit suicide.
00:00:05.340 You're more likely to make up to be homeless.
00:00:06.820 They're 80% of the prison population.
00:00:08.640 Like, every real problem in society is literally linked to a single mother home. 1.00
00:00:12.980 And so my thing is, like, I just think once you have a family, it's not about you anymore.
00:00:16.840 It's about your kids.
00:00:18.120 And so it's like this, you know, this idea that we can't work through cheating, I just think is silly.
00:00:22.500 You know, it's all about honesty, I reckon, you know.
00:00:24.760 Honesty is, I think, like, cheating wouldn't be a thing if it was for the honesty.
00:00:29.740 Side of things, you know, I mean, depending on what you're looking for.
00:00:32.440 See, like, in 2023 now, yeah, even myself, I've been involved in a throuple, yeah.
00:00:39.120 It was only for a couple of weeks and that.
00:00:42.420 It's a dictionary.
00:00:47.620 Definition, please.
00:00:49.780 I've got a girlfriend.
00:00:51.440 Well, I've got two girlfriends.
00:00:52.820 And my girlfriend's a girlfriend's. 0.99
00:00:54.460 Well, not currently.
00:00:55.340 It's not the situation anymore.
00:00:56.340 I've been hearing it wrong the whole time.
00:00:57.600 Fuck, mate, mate. 0.83
00:00:58.280 So that's a throuple, you know what I mean? 1.00
00:01:01.460 That's the throuple.
00:01:01.580 David Hayden.
00:01:03.120 But it's just a case of honesty, you know what I mean?
00:01:05.640 So I was honest with them.
00:01:07.380 They were honest with me.
00:01:09.000 No one got hurt in the process.
00:01:10.000 How the fuck did you pull that off?
00:01:11.320 Seriously.
00:01:12.700 It was a crafty one.
00:01:14.000 It's like 23% of women are actually open to that, where only 6% of men are.
00:01:17.700 Yeah, I think it can happen if you're, like you said, honest and open.
00:01:20.740 I think it can.
00:01:21.560 Well, I mean, how many women, like, do, like, we all, we all know a lot of women who have 0.86
00:01:26.400 no idea they're being cheated on.
00:01:27.900 But, like, yeah, like, every guy is going back to his girlfriend being like, yeah, he's cheating.
00:01:32.680 Like, a lot of women out there just have no idea they're being cheated on. 1.00
00:01:35.940 So, like, maybe they would be happier if they were just at least honest about it.
00:01:39.300 And the man was like, this is what's up.
00:01:41.040 What goes around comes around, I promise you.
00:01:43.300 I've experienced it myself.
00:01:44.220 I was in the dark.
00:01:45.040 You believe me?
00:01:45.300 I promise you.
00:01:46.460 Exactly.
00:01:47.380 I'm disagreeing.
00:01:48.480 I've seen a lot of nice people get fucked over and a lot of assholes get great lives.
00:01:51.900 Yeah, but you haven't read the end of the chapter.
00:01:54.680 You haven't read the end of the book.
00:01:55.500 Have they died?
00:01:57.320 We all die in the end, though.
00:01:58.560 Yeah, I know, but so long as there's life, there's an opportunity for karma to be inflicted.
00:02:02.020 I'm telling you, if you are a man who breaks people's hearts and you boast about it and you're proud and you look in the mirror and you feel more of a man, then there's something...
00:02:09.080 No, I agree with you.
00:02:10.360 Put it this way, put it this way, right?
00:02:12.680 Guys, let's ask this question, get straight to the chase.
00:02:14.840 Your mom gets cheated on.
00:02:16.060 How do you feel?
00:02:17.320 Yeah, you'd feel bad.
00:02:18.280 You'd feel bad.
00:02:19.020 Why would you feel bad about something that's normal?
00:02:21.100 No, it's normal in society, however...
00:02:23.260 Well, we did.
00:02:23.740 We said a majority of people cheat, so it's normal now.
00:02:26.900 No, no, I said throughout history, the top 15% of men have always cheated.
00:02:31.380 Women cheat more than men nowadays. 1.00
00:02:33.040 Yeah, yeah, but still, regardless of the statistics and where they sway, it's a wrong thing to do.
00:02:37.200 It's a wrong thing to do.
00:02:37.540 You know what it is?
00:02:38.840 The side of cheating, which is wrong, is the emotional damage which provides to the other person.
00:02:43.700 That's what we feel every time around, you know what I mean?
00:02:47.020 So when you're in a relationship with a person that you love, like, for instance, I've been in a relationship, a long-term relationship.
00:02:52.980 I cheated on a missus, you know what I mean? 0.93
00:02:54.840 And to me, personally, it was nothing to do with whether I love her or not, you know what I mean?
00:02:59.440 I just found out in later life that I like different types of varieties of pom-pom.
00:03:04.160 That's just how I roll, you know what I mean?
00:03:06.660 But at the same said time, that doesn't mean that I didn't love my girlfriend.
00:03:11.440 Dave, I definitely agree.
00:03:12.800 Yeah, no, for real.
00:03:13.460 You can still love your girl, but it's just the excitement of another female. 1.00
00:03:18.980 It's just the excitement.
00:03:20.060 Then you're not ready to be in a relationship.
00:03:21.240 No, no, but you can be, you can still love that female. 0.83
00:03:23.840 You're still going back to that girl.
00:03:25.240 You're still willing to take her up.
00:03:26.640 You're still willing to do everything.
00:03:28.380 That's not that.
00:03:29.160 Basically, what you're saying is, as a woman, if you want to get in a relationship, we have
00:03:34.340 to expect the men to cheat on us.
00:03:36.420 I don't think that's cool.
00:03:37.420 No, no, no.
00:03:37.700 That's not what I said.
00:03:38.800 It's a possibility.
00:03:39.380 No, no, no.
00:03:40.220 If you drive the car, you might crash.
00:03:42.760 It's the same thing.
00:03:43.960 What, pal?
00:03:45.180 You're saying like the top 15 to 20 men cheat, right?
00:03:48.300 So I feel like as women, we do need to take the more responsible role of choosing better
00:03:53.060 men because we have that 80 whole percent of men that don't.
00:03:56.100 But my thing is-
00:03:56.900 What better man means?
00:03:58.060 And I've learned that.
00:03:59.160 Like for the last actual couple of months, only recently.
00:04:02.400 And I've learned that.
00:04:03.400 And that's big from watching your show is actually.
00:04:05.960 And it's opened my mind a lot because it's just like, we have a whole 80 percent.
00:04:09.400 And we don't want to generalize men because not everyone cheats, right?
00:04:12.500 Well, and when you think about it, so like women used to select for resources, right? 1.00
00:04:17.680 More so than looks because when, because we, like we didn't work and usually you would
00:04:22.600 live at your dad's house and then you would go to your husband until about the 20s
00:04:25.440 when women started to go to work. 0.78
00:04:26.520 So what happened is when that, when women started being the like selectors of mates, 1.00
00:04:31.860 our first choice is looks in our 20s.
00:04:35.880 And so, but what percent of men do we find attractive?
00:04:38.240 Only 20 percent.
00:04:39.240 Women find 80 percent of men is ugly. 0.99
00:04:41.260 So back in the day, the dad would like, like say, oh no, he's going to cheat on you.
00:04:45.020 Stay away from that boy.
00:04:45.960 And then he would like pick the provider guy.
00:04:48.680 Maybe we need to be with an ugly guy. 1.00
00:04:51.300 But then women in their 30s, they'll switch because it's like they need a kid, time's running 1.00
00:05:00.000 out.
00:05:00.680 And so they'll switch from selecting for looks to selecting for more provider first.
00:05:05.300 But it's like, if you did that in the beginning.
00:05:08.180 But this is the thing though.
00:05:09.080 These, these men, we're sitting here going, right?
00:05:11.200 The top 20 percent cheat.
00:05:12.580 Why do they cheat?
00:05:13.440 Because they can't.
00:05:14.580 You're going to tell me the other 80 percent, if they had it on the table, they wouldn't
00:05:17.980 do the, men or just men, you know, like us labeling these 20 percent as arseholes just 0.84
00:05:23.060 because they have the height, the resources.
00:05:24.920 Could we agree that all men cheat then?
00:05:26.980 No, I think there's, there's definitely exceptions to the rule.
00:05:29.880 Like, and like, I think me and my guy over here have a similar story in that, you know,
00:05:35.000 unfortunately, like we have this thing where we're very immature and we mature later on
00:05:40.220 in life as men.
00:05:40.960 I agree.
00:05:41.340 So yeah, we, we go through this period where like, let's be real.
00:05:44.900 You want to experience more.
00:05:46.640 We want to try everything on the menu, you know, we don't want to be sitting 50 year old
00:05:50.720 wondering what was, what would that have been like?
00:05:53.200 Like we want to know, and actually you kind of have to get that out of your system before
00:05:56.540 you go, you know what?
00:05:57.700 This is actually childish.
00:05:58.720 And one woman who looks after you, who's got your back and really cares about you is 0.98
00:06:03.120 the real deal.
00:06:04.080 But you're not going to come to that when you're in your childish state of mind.
00:06:07.120 So yeah, we have to go through that.
00:06:08.720 And unfortunately, some of you girls are victims during that period.
00:06:12.460 And that's, it's collateral.
00:06:14.800 But I also think like women, like we should know what we're getting ourselves into.
00:06:18.060 Like if you go for the guy that's rich, he's got money, he's tall, like, you know,
00:06:21.140 it's a, it's a strong possibility he's going to do that.
00:06:23.540 So what are you going to do?
00:06:24.480 If he does don't have a kid and then cry cheating later. 0.95
00:06:27.600 If you know, that's going to be a possibility.
00:06:29.600 Facts.
00:06:30.400 Cause girls are going to central London, for instance, they're looking for the guy with 0.94
00:06:33.660 the Lambo.
00:06:34.380 They're looking for guys with the Mercedes.
00:06:36.080 They want a guy with this, this, this, these big chains.
00:06:38.480 I've seen it all the time.
00:06:40.220 Why do you think you're wearing a chain?
00:06:41.540 That's what girls are playing. 1.00
00:06:47.480 But like, that's what girls, that's what girls are intrigued to. 0.96
00:06:50.940 Girls like that stuff. 1.00
00:06:51.660 We tell women like, you can have everything. 0.96
00:06:55.540 You can be tall.
00:06:56.640 You can have money.
00:06:57.880 He can be good looking.
00:06:59.080 And he's going to be monogamous to you.
00:07:00.940 Good luck.
00:07:01.480 That's it.
00:07:02.020 But girls will still cry over this guy. 0.81
00:07:04.100 They'll still run into the guy.
00:07:05.480 So girls, you girls, like men are only as faithful as their options, but are women really any 0.99
00:07:11.480 different?
00:07:11.880 Like, let's, let's, let's say you meet two guys at the same time.
00:07:15.000 One guy's sweet and lovely.
00:07:16.260 And the other guy has all of these things.
00:07:18.440 You're, you are going to also be a bit more drawn like to this guy who's the provider, the,
00:07:23.300 the, the alpha.
00:07:24.720 I mean, I'm not sure about that one.
00:07:26.200 We're more accessible this day and age.
00:07:27.700 I think I feel like, you know, years ago, it wasn't so much accessible.
00:07:31.060 Well, judging by Instagram and the way women post anything that is like, like I've sat 1.00
00:07:37.160 in restaurants before where a woman has literally had a guy taking pictures of her, eating her 0.97
00:07:41.680 fucking dinner for 15 fucking minutes, wondering why is she taking a picture in this restaurant? 0.98
00:07:46.120 Cause she wants everyone to know what restaurant she's in and he's the one paying for it.
00:07:49.860 And he's getting laid based off of that.
00:07:51.580 So let's not add like women don't value this because it's literally all over London every
00:07:55.780 week.
00:07:55.980 But what sort of what we, when we keep using this term, sorry, it's really irating me.
00:07:59.340 Women, what, what, a real woman doesn't do that. 1.00
00:08:01.560 My mom would never in a million years go to Nobukov and take a picture and be like, Hey,
00:08:05.100 real woman probably don't even have social reasons. 1.00
00:08:06.660 It's what's happening in reality.
00:08:10.180 But no, but no, you can't, we can't speak of women as a general woman. 0.68
00:08:12.540 But you also didn't know your mother 20 years old.
00:08:14.700 Okay.
00:08:14.900 Can you, can we make a general consensus that the women in their twenties today are different, 1.00
00:08:19.820 are of a different cloth than the women, let's say in their fifties today? 0.87
00:08:22.980 Yeah.
00:08:23.980 Yeah.
00:08:24.980 Yeah.
00:08:25.980 Yeah.
00:08:26.980 The women in their fifties are more traditional than the women in their twenties. 0.81
00:08:30.980 I have best friends who like, who openly say to me like, Oh yeah, he's got a girlfriend
00:08:36.980 or he's got a wife and they're happily ready to break a happy home.
00:08:40.340 I don't condone in that.
00:08:41.340 No.
00:08:42.340 I don't condone.
00:08:43.340 No.
00:08:44.340 I think it's wrong.
00:08:45.340 Again, it's all the emotional damage.
00:08:46.340 You know what I mean?
00:08:47.340 And I put myself in a category of, um, I'm like an honest fuck boy.
00:08:52.340 Does that make sense?
00:08:53.340 You know what I mean?
00:08:54.340 I'm an honest.
00:08:55.340 At least you're honest.
00:08:56.340 Yeah.
00:08:57.340 At that point, you know, when I'm, when I'm honest about my, my, my linkups and whatnot,
00:09:03.340 other women tend to be more attracted to the situation. 1.00
00:09:06.340 You know what I mean?
00:09:07.340 They tend to, they tend to be more attracted.
00:09:09.340 First of all, they go away a little bit hurt and whatnot.
00:09:11.340 Like, Oh, Dave, you shouldn't have done that.
00:09:13.340 But then they come back after a while and be, you know, they're reasonable.
00:09:16.340 You know what I mean?
00:09:17.340 Yeah.
00:09:18.340 Okay.
00:09:19.340 You do get a little bit of pum pum over there.
00:09:20.340 That's no problem.
00:09:21.340 You were honest about it.
00:09:22.340 And then, yeah, it just seems more appealing for some reason.
00:09:25.340 I don't know why.
00:09:26.340 If you're addicted to pum pum like that.
00:09:27.340 Yeah.
00:09:28.340 Why not just be out here prowling and sleeping with a new girl every other day? 0.99
00:09:31.340 I've done that before.
00:09:32.340 But at least you're not hurting another individual.
00:09:34.340 There is nothing nice.
00:09:35.340 I don't care whether we're talking about the 20th century or the 19th century.
00:09:38.340 There is nothing nice about harming another individual.