JustPearlyThings - Heated Debate on Women and Body Count

00:00:00.000 coming up next if you guys want to do this we can do this but what before we

00:00:03.860 can do this it's not even war but I will need everyone to take off the makeup I

00:00:09.880 will need everyone to take out any hair which is not the natural hair anything

00:00:13.500 on your nose which is not yours we need to do that if you've got Botox in there 0.97

00:00:16.280 we have to squeeze it all out yeah I mean serious no no no no so basically and

00:00:24.180 then what no no hold on a second if you're gonna say that's a lie then

00:00:29.880 everything you girls are doing is a blatant lie we can see the lie but yet we 1.00

00:00:33.600 allow it but if you lie about your body count then I find out I don't care if

00:00:36.240 it's five years six years we could have a kid you're going do you know why you're

00:00:38.760 going because my relationship was built upon a lie the same way you slept with a

00:00:43.020 guy that was built upon a lie before you can say to men what you're saying make

00:00:46.200 sure you are not lying about anything and a lot and right now lies no no no no

00:00:49.980 a lie is a lie and right now a lot of you girls are lying on here is there 1.00

00:00:53.660 anything wrong with women sleeping with a man just for his title I feel like no 0.98

00:00:58.620 no there's nothing wrong with it so the man so the man lying is the only wrong in

00:01:03.240 that situation okay sorry my point was so so wait wait let me let me just clarify

00:01:07.500 there's there's two steps here there's two there's two things here number let me I'm

00:01:12.280 gonna give it to her to land she has to finish let her land I'm gonna let her land 1.00

00:01:15.600 let her land so step one is the man the man lied about his status yeah yeah step two is

00:01:23.040 the woman slept with him because of his status are they both wrong or is it is it only the man

00:01:30.120 that's wrong I think he's wrong for lying because I think everyone should be their authentic self we

00:01:35.340 only get one life to a woman should be allowed to sleep with whoever she feels like has a certain 1.00

00:01:41.340 status because men do the same like they don't sleep but I'm saying I'm saying women men don't 1.00

00:01:49.580 sleep with women for status they sleep with they sleep with women for beauty and arguably women 0.98

00:01:54.420 um choose more for beauty than men do um they're they're much more picky on date their weight but

00:01:59.320 they're much more picky on dating apps and like even when they when they study like women on the 1.00

00:02:03.760 chart like women rate 80% of women is unattractive or sorry of men sorry so the equivalent 0.95

00:02:08.340 the equivalent for a man would be is it wrong for a man not to sleep with a woman who's not 0.89

00:02:14.700 beautiful or a woman who hasn't had makeup or a woman who hasn't had surgery do you get I'm saying 0.94

00:02:20.040 to you men look for different things women look for different things I think everyone should just go 0.98

00:02:24.000 for whatever can we can we really say to men be authentic okay wait can we can we really say to men

00:02:32.160 be authentic when again women women the Instagram filters the Botox the lip filler the the chin 0.62

00:02:40.380 implants the cheek implants all the modifications that women tend to do or have done um I feel like 1.00

00:02:46.860 they're very visible and men are aware of them that's the whole difference yeah but guys use steroids 0.92

00:02:50.640 there's a what there's an awareness I feel like there's an awareness when it comes to women because 1.00

00:02:53.640 we're very like forward with certain things men have a bit more strategy when it comes towards how they

00:02:58.440 would like to find a woman or to get what they would like from a woman so that comes down to them 0.99

00:03:02.340 telling them this job or acting like they drive this car or they dress fancy for a specific type of

00:03:07.800 I've seen guys which do you think is more common men lying about something okay so basically if you

00:03:18.000 guys want to do this we can do this but what before we can do this war it's not even war but I will need

00:03:24.600 everyone to take off the makeup I will need everyone to take out any hair which is not the natural hair

00:03:29.460 anything on your nose which is not yours we'll need to do that if you've got Botox in there we'll have

00:03:33.120 to squeeze it all out yeah I mean serious all no no no no so basically basically and then what no no

00:03:41.880 hold on hold on a second if you're gonna say that's a lie then everything you girls are doing 1.00

00:03:47.760 is a blatant lie we can see the lie but yet we allow it because you know I mean this is what I'm trying to

00:03:52.440 say so wait hold on hold on a second I'm so the better question would be the reverse of it if a woman lies 1.00

00:03:59.160 about her body count yeah is that not manipulation and then if I find out you've lied about your body count to

00:04:06.260 me it is equal to that you a man lying about his status or about his job because for men for men body count is

00:04:12.760 way more important so I know a man that got yes I know a man yes it is it is it's very important and the men that say it's not

00:04:18.420 important it's because they don't hang around to be a husband they just run up your body count and give it to the next guy

00:04:22.220 so anyone wondering so I can no no if I'm saying so any any guy that says body counts not important

00:04:26.900 because he doesn't have good intentions for you why would he say it's important when he's about to go to

00:04:30.240 a next girl do you understand but I promise you this the woman he settles with he's gonna find it

00:04:34.200 very important so if we're gonna say that it's a manipulation tactic for men to talk about our

00:04:38.080 to to you know if he's a bin bin guy and he says a footballer but you still sleep with him 0.96

00:04:42.440 like he said why are you sleeping with someone like that but if we're gonna do it the opposite way around

00:04:46.140 then if women lie you need it's like yeah so basically if you lie about your body count 1.00

00:04:51.320 if you lie about your body count then I find out I don't care if it's five years six years we could

00:04:55.440 have a kid you're going you know why you're going because my relationship was built upon a lie the

00:04:59.600 same way you slept with a guy that was built upon a lie before you can say to men what you're saying

00:05:03.780 make sure you are not lying about anything and a lot and right now no no no no no a lie is a lie

00:05:08.960 and right now a lot of you girls are lying on here 1.00

00:05:10.580 who does who does which more do women lie about their body counts more often 1.00

00:05:26.740 than men lie about their jobs 0.84

00:05:28.760 do men have jobs to lie about can we speak on the fact that some men are making things up

00:05:34.440 no men make more than women maybe the men you deal with no I'm talking about personally as a whole

00:05:41.280 like general generalization like as men sometimes they do have like you know like you would say

00:05:47.200 like paid like good work working paying jobs where it's in the council with I don't know

00:05:51.320 they make 10,000 more than women yeah not so they don't but I feel like men do that because they 0.97

00:05:55.320 need to uphold a status like in in a lot of men's minds they look they're meant to be the home bringer

00:05:59.280 right but my point is like who lies about which more everybody lies men what's your body count

00:06:06.120 things what's your body count huh what's your body count okay forget that would you tell somebody

00:06:12.660 that you're just meeting or just beginning today your body count I've never lied to um a boyfriend

00:06:18.540 about it good like I just I feel like you should be honest I agree if it wasn't a boyfriend though

00:06:22.800 if like a guy was like approaching you and he was kind of like you never told no random guy never

00:06:26.020 know if he's your man if he's your man if he's gonna be you tell him but he won't become your

00:06:34.120 man unless you tell him your boy no no no no no so okay okay so listen all right if I'm dating you

00:06:39.200 we're dating for six months seven eight yeah okay no first of all there's another energy that we do

00:06:44.140 you see a lot of times a man we don't have to ask because we can feel the energy you know so you know

00:06:47.380 you can feel the energy right a lot of times when a girl's had a lot of bodies they come of a lot of 0.54

00:06:50.820 trauma and it and it comes out in the way they interact with men you can feel it the room can feel it the

00:06:55.780 energy it is so when we feel this we know so we already know this is not gonna be a long-term

00:06:59.440 thing but then there's other ones you can't necessarily and you're like you're gonna give

00:07:03.180 the girl the one opportunity and I say I want to feel like Kanye this the reason I say I want to

00:07:06.620 feel like Kanye is because when Kanye married Kim he knew egg listen he knew exactly what he was getting

00:07:12.200 into this is why I don't if you cry if he's crying now you're crying what you're crying for bro you

00:07:15.700 know what he's doing yeah so that means that he could not step into a room and he did not know

00:07:19.760 nothing about about her so no one could come and embarrass her a lot what a lot of girls do is 1.00

00:07:23.500 they like a guy and then they don't want to tell the full truth so they start the relationship

00:07:27.600 built upon a lie but the thing about lies is you know what you know I'm trying to say to you what's

00:07:31.860 done in the I'm trying to work out who these women are because I'm not that no I'm not calling you 0.96

00:07:35.660 that but most women okay okay okay some women a lot of women lie about the body counts due to the 1.00

00:07:40.840 fact that they don't want to be seen as men do as well okay so but why is it whenever men make a

00:07:46.580 statement about women we have to say but men no I'm saying but we do like so it's just you know

00:07:53.640 it's true what I mean is it's equal okay so equally we do the same thing okay so I don't think I don't

00:08:00.680 think men like maybe if anything if anything men will lie up about their body count so so so the thing

00:08:08.280 about is yeah women control access to sex men control access to relationships so I'm filled with a 0.99

00:08:14.140 beautiful panel of guests right I'm sure any one of you guys will not have problem getting men to

00:08:19.000 sleep with and if you say you what you're capping because I can just know that already right because

00:08:22.440 you're all beautiful women right but I don't have I won't be able to have as much sex as you 1.00

00:08:27.260 were able to have all you have to do is literally say to a guy you can go on social media now say to

00:08:32.460 a guy yeah well there you go right do you know what I have to do to no come on I have to put in that

00:08:38.540 work in that finance right all I gotta do is walk outside yeah well that's why they say women get what 1.00

00:08:45.300 they want and then get what okay so so if we deal with that yeah that means you are having sex 0.55

00:08:51.800 whenever you want with whoever you want versus I'm having sex whenever I can get with whoever give 0.55

00:08:56.140 it to me completely different thing right so if we look at that then well women's body count can be 1.00

00:09:01.340 so going back to your point about you said about the body count thing right so someone that I used

00:09:09.200 today he said to me that it only matters to him as long as I haven't got with his friends what do

00:09:15.100 you think about that that's can I give you a quick just um I ask guys this question on my show all the

00:09:21.000 time would you rather have a girl that has five bodies but you know two three of them or a girl with 1.00

00:09:26.100 20 but but a girl with 20 but you don't know any of them and they all say 20 bodies yeah yeah they

00:09:31.560 all say 20 and I don't want to anybody because well it's just more like guys don't want to be

00:09:37.400 embarrassed like the biggest thing they want to be able to own it well it's just like it's kind of

00:09:41.660 embarrassing for a guy to walk into a room and know let three of his friends hit or like exactly

00:09:46.560 yeah it's embarrassing so you have to remember center personal body count doesn't matter in a lot of

00:09:51.720 situations it's so sex is invasive right I don't think I don't think body counts the only thing

00:09:57.200 but but it um but it matters and that's that's the thing like if you go from if you're a virgin and

00:10:03.020 there's different studies that I'll give slightly different numbers but I'm just going to use them

00:10:06.780 this one just as an example um if you slept with if you're a virgin on your wedding night you have an

00:10:12.120 80 chance of a happy marriage it drops down to 25 percent if you've slept with more than five most

00:10:16.840 guys would pray for five nowadays and and and there's some studies that say as a virgin

00:10:21.460 it's 60 70 percent I know people will come for me on that but but the the point is still the same

00:10:26.320 you're more likely to have happy marriage if you're a virgin than if you're than if you slept with more

00:10:30.300 than five it's like five to seven seems to be when you're ruined as a woman statistically is that because 1.00

00:10:34.760 you don't know any better due to experience yeah yeah no it's because basically like like the guys that

00:10:41.760 are the you know the guys that are the best most girls can't lock down because how did they get to be

00:10:46.540 the best they have a lot of girls and if they're and if they're good in bed like how many girls you 1.00

00:10:51.280 think are calling them and so like that's why the the equivalent like that's why I say that they

00:10:56.620 women swipe right five percent of the time and they hate men because they're all sleeping with the same 1.00

00:11:00.580 one because it's again a hundred percent of women want twenty percent of men and sometimes some 0.96

00:11:05.500 people argue it's five percent of men like what person if you want a guy that's over six foot what 1.00

00:11:10.180 percent I need you to cough out of the mic I'm sorry like what percent of men do you think are

00:11:15.680 over six foot fifteen percent but don't you think that's creepy because as us females in general get 1.00

00:11:21.340 older of course we're gonna have more experiences so why is it you have to have this completely pure

00:11:26.800 image like we're not a little girl but why of course but the the problem is is that you are not

00:11:31.720 satisfied and the older you get you can't keep those guys anymore so by 30 you've lost 50 percent of

00:11:37.660 the options that you had at 20 so on dating apps like though they'll say this many guys swiped right

00:11:42.460 on you it goes down by 50 percent at 30 and so the guy that the guy so the guy the not really the guy

00:11:50.440 because guys will filter you out based on age because they just think the women their age like

00:11:53.860 they don't want to deal with they don't want like kids they don't want an ex-husband they don't want

00:11:57.460 that stuff and so it's like then the guy at 20 that you know or 25 whatever it was that that you keep

00:12:05.860 thinking about you can't keep I think it's just double standards honestly no you're right it is

00:12:12.340 a double standard but it goes back in biology you can't change the things that men want like like

00:12:17.200 the reason that a low body count matters is because historically they had to ensure paternity so if a

00:12:22.260 girl was sleeping around like paternity tests are new I think that's a new phenomenon that that wasn't 1.00

00:12:27.460 there throughout history so if they didn't want to pass on resources to a kid that wasn't theirs the

00:12:33.480 same way like most women want a guy their height or taller I would any of you date a guy five inches 0.98

00:12:38.280 shorter than you no two two one okay okay possible but but not common right with the most most women 1.00

00:12:49.680 like if they dated a guy shorter than them it was one to two inches it wasn't significant and so that's

00:12:55.020 because historically you needed a guy to protect you and you can't get rid of that like but you can't

00:12:59.820 get rid of your biology yeah but pearl look how easy it is for girl to say I won't date a guy that's 0.87

00:13:04.820 um five inches smaller than me but if I say I don't want to date a girl that's fat people start getting 0.99

00:13:09.360 mad but no you're entitled to your own no no but generally people be like oh you're fat shaming but

00:13:14.400 I'll be but you can change your weight you cannot change your height like you're born that way so if

00:13:19.620 you shame a man for his height what can he do but if we say to you lose some weight you can actually go

00:13:23.220 and do something so I just think like a lot of times women's you can earn more money but you can't 1.00

00:13:29.500 reduce your body count okay I'll be honest if you're judging a woman by her body count yeah you can't 0.99

00:13:37.980 she can't change that yeah what's happened has happened but you can earn more money so the same

00:13:42.980 argument that you're saying that a woman can lose weight but a man can't grow taller it's the same 0.94

00:13:48.020 thing there's certain things that are restricted but we're still judged upon no but based on the

00:13:52.620 biology of what we want no but your body count is your choice yeah so like that that you had a

00:13:58.640 choice and men don't have a choice in the height he's born he's not necessarily true though okay so

00:14:04.740 we're not talking about great okay okay just in terms of like okay I need you to if you're going

00:14:09.640 to talk I need you to talk into the mic because it's just okay we're just saying with a body count

00:14:14.080 like essay like what if you okay we're talking about the rule not the exception yeah so whenever so if

00:14:21.300 that happens we're never talking about that just you know we know about those scenarios we know about

00:14:25.800 that but but like when we speak about this we're talking about consent consent yeah so we can take

00:14:30.220 essay out of that because we're not speaking about that we we understand that right because if we do

00:14:34.780 then we'll just keep going everywhere we're talking about consenting if we're talking about a consenting

00:14:38.680 woman that chooses to sleep with 20 men cool versus a man who is born that way and cannot change it

00:14:44.300 you chose to open up your legs to 20 men he cannot choose his height so it's not the same

00:14:48.720 i feel like maybe some women maybe some women maybe a little bit you have to tell the mic sorry

00:14:55.480 sorry guys i feel like maybe some women may be a little bit bitter or upset because obviously 1.00

00:15:00.760 um men will advertise men will advertise one thing but want something different would give

00:15:07.440 attention to one thing but want something different like i've witnessed personally like

00:15:12.060 guys putting up loads of captions every day or every other day about loyalty

00:15:17.960 hoes hoes loyalty hoes but they like i know of certain people they are attracted 1.00

00:15:27.600 which they may know or not know to the hoes for one night stands not for a wife i'm not i'm not 1.00

00:15:35.020 saying to wife but they're but like the attention they're giving this ho yes yeah i was gonna say 0.95

00:15:41.060 the effort they're giving this ho the attention they're giving this ho the entitlement yes it's 0.99

00:15:48.300 for the pumps i understand pearl um yes it's for the for the one hit whatever but as wifey me watching

00:15:57.380 that pursuit and then watching him pursue me i'm just gonna be like do you know what you're doing

00:16:04.980 no your wifey he's so women have to understand women have to understand the difference between 0.98

00:16:09.300 men wanting sex with you versus wanting actual commitment with you yeah i understand the

00:16:13.540 difference but sometimes it looks i know i know i know but it's not the same trust because the

00:16:17.420 outcome is i'm saying it's been put out the presumment might be but the outcome is different so

00:16:22.020 when men all chase after these girls yeah versus you you're like oh man he said he don't like her but 0.87

00:16:27.100 why is he liking the pictures why is he doing these sorts of things that's because he wants one thing

00:16:30.500 what you need to do is you need to separate yourself from those girls so we get a lot of good girls that 0.99

00:16:36.180 chase the top 20 or bad boys right so when you're a good girl what actually happens is when you chase

00:16:41.480 these boys you don't actually become a good girl anymore you just become the same as one of these

00:16:44.600 hoes because what you're doing is you're putting yourself step by step next to hoes and you're saying 1.00

00:16:49.220 oh why won't he pick me or why is he treating that these are hoes they're always going to be hoes and this 1.00

00:16:53.740 is what they're going to do and good girls have always been on the other side and hoes have always been 1.00

00:16:57.120 on that side but the problem is good girls are now looking at hoes and be like 1.00

00:17:00.300 why they get why the hoes get in love they're hoes that's it we staying strong well it's like it's 1.00

00:17:06.560 a mating strategy for men it's like men are men are like they're biologically predisposition to

00:17:12.200 like screw as many girls as possible so like they're it's it's crazy if you talk to like men 0.93

00:17:17.780 about their attraction floor and like what girls they find like there'll be girls that like i do not

00:17:22.460 think like a guy would find attractive but like their attraction floor if you got one thing if you got

00:17:28.600 one body part that's good they're into it like it's just yeah have you guys seen any procedures

00:17:34.360 or policies put in place to put more female leadership in place where you work 1.00

00:17:38.980 i had to think about it and i was like oh well at my workplace i'm a senior waitress which is like

00:17:48.440 head wait waitress or waiter in in the front house of um front of house there's other women that also 1.00

00:17:54.980 um have well there's another lady should i say that is also a head waitress as well but apart from 1.00

00:17:59.660 that it's males and just males and there's only other one female manager and i believe that she's

00:18:04.240 being combated by two other males so are you even relevant we're not sure but um i just feel like

00:18:10.140 women are given are being given more um positions but i'll be being trusted with the positions that 1.00

00:18:16.600 we've been given that's the problem imagine giving me a job and you've employed me knowing that

00:18:21.940 this is the um this is my experience and then still somehow questioning my experience it's like

00:18:27.240 do you not know what you employed me for did they employ you or whoever it was because they were a

00:18:32.140 woman or because they were qualified um i feel like they employed employed me myself because they needed

00:18:38.220 someone to be like of that level of you know experience and caliber in their um establishment and

00:18:42.340 they had a lot of male counterparts already so they wanted to even out and obviously i'm black and you

00:18:48.140 know the hierarchy you know you have to have like gender fluid so was it to fill a quota i feel like

00:18:52.740 yeah there was making you know filling out the stuff but at the same time they needed it to be in

00:18:56.860 the hierarchy they already had a male one so it was like to even it out but like i said them giving me

00:19:02.440 that position for me felt like okay they're trying to make it more fluid to the other ladies there that 1.00

00:19:07.760 okay you know it's possible because i feel like before they employed me there was someone that they

00:19:11.160 could have given it like you know pay rise they could have gave them a you know a little job rise

00:19:15.560 whatever but they didn't they put a new person there so at times yeah i feel like women are being 0.99

00:19:20.220 given extra you know position but just i'll be being trusted with the position that we're being given

00:19:25.120 okay what about you um they want to hear you speak um what was the question again um oh have

00:19:32.860 there were there any policies put into place to put women in more leadership positions where you work 1.00

00:19:37.260 um the last job that i had like actual nine to five um one girl wanted to go as a business manager 1.00

00:19:45.260 but they made her work for it for about two years and they kept giving it to other men while she was 0.96

00:19:52.580 waiting for it so i feel like it's less chance that you're going to get a higher position as a woman 1.00

00:19:58.880 because of the things that we discussed so no policies at your work i'm glad that sounds like

00:20:05.760 there weren't any where i was no there wasn't it wasn't really not really applied to me because i

00:20:12.780 work for myself and i've only worked for the one woman so i'm not sure but cleo i'm sure has

00:20:17.120 i mean in short yes i feel very blessed where i work they do open it up for different creeds colors

00:20:26.300 ages demographics and they like to have a 50 50 gender split within our meetings and leadership

00:20:31.800 and they try to um okay they try to make it 50 50 okay go ahead yeah i think her mic i think is

00:20:39.840 muted blessing um yep on okay i think with my previous one it's it was a thing where like in meetings

00:20:48.820 we did talk a lot about okay when the next event happens we need more female leaders to speak up and 1.00

00:20:56.940 like kind of take control a bit more so it's not as male dominated so yeah i think it's getting a

00:21:02.340 bit more evened out okay um so what they were specifically trying to get women in yeah so in a

00:21:08.440 lot of the meetings they would say yeah we want a lot more females to speak up like when we do events 1.00

00:21:12.680 and whatnot okay okay um but let's start on that side or um china go and then anywhere you've worked

00:21:20.340 have they tried to put policies in place to get more women yeah in the past i've um because yeah

00:21:26.260 in the film and security industry they've tried to get women into more um and security yeah in the 1.00

00:21:32.920 film because not represented enough you need to have a certain amount of women women there yeah 1.00

00:21:37.260 but it's not yeah yeah yeah yeah i have i have a friend yeah yeah yeah yeah men can't men can't

00:21:44.940 search women so obviously women obviously like if it's a scenario in a woman's toilet or something like 0.98

00:21:48.920 you need you need to have women's security yeah it doesn't mean they're going to do the same thing 1.00

00:21:52.140 that men are going to do you'll be surprised oh you're right just search okay

00:21:55.500 yeah especially fast okay um go ahead um like i said i'm not that experienced in like the working

00:22:02.960 industry but it's always been 50 50 okay there's always women and men so okay are there any policies

00:22:09.640 in place i've never been aware i've heard that there are some but i've never been aware okay yeah i'm

00:22:15.700 very limited also okay any policies that were put in place these policies must be invisible i ain't

00:22:20.480 seen them i ain't seen them pearly i don't know maybe they're in the back i ain't seen them

00:22:24.860 um go ahead um in my industry of work um they mainly employ or women mainly employ for like 1.00

00:22:37.700 go forward for those roles so if anything it's about equality and diversity so evening out and

00:22:43.540 looking for men potentially okay um because there are policies put into place to put women in

00:22:51.000 leadership can we say there's anything holding women back from doing any job in 2022 no okay no kids 1.00

00:22:59.880 that's it no that's yeah okay what about you guys who said yeah i said yeah but i would say i'm personal

00:23:06.860 life choices i feel like what you want to do in your life and where you want to go is what you

00:23:11.260 fluctuate more towards so some women don't have much ambition not to say that you know anyone's 1.00

00:23:16.520 ambition is but some people just want to do the mainstream they don't want to exert themselves

00:23:19.880 further or broaden the horizon that's what i feel okay go ahead you too yeah i think mostly women 1.00

00:23:29.040 don't really want to do those roles because this is like generalized because they're harder jobs

00:23:35.240 and women prefer the easier life what was the question again exactly sorry can we say that

00:23:44.740 women are held back from doing any job in 2022 when there's specific policies to help women and 0.99

00:23:50.720 there's nothing stopping us from applying from any job i was just going to say i think if the only

00:23:55.060 thing nowadays especially in like the western world the only thing that hold women back is 1.00

00:23:59.860 themselves maybe you know whatever their home life is or you know whatever limiting beliefs they

00:24:05.280 have around having such a high paid job yeah i i've always done what i wanted in my career i've

00:24:14.180 always as a edit turned every no into a yes so i take it as a challenge personally if they tell me no

00:24:19.600 then i'm like watch me yeah great um second row girl i kind of just um to defend probably another 0.97

00:24:31.140 side of it sorry just to just to just to defend another side of it i think maybe some women may 1.00

00:24:37.960 find it they may think it's unattractive to another man to make more money or be more successful

00:24:44.520 so they may not want to go for those job roles because they may want the man to feel like the

00:24:50.840 man in the household and um yeah making a lot of money is as scary as a woman and having your own 1.00

00:24:58.660 shit and not needing shit much shit um can be disgusting can be very i've been told um scary or 0.91

00:25:08.280 i think it's just the attitude that comes with it i agree yeah you can come all sugary and sweet

00:25:14.500 with it and just kind of chill but some women want to throw it in the man's face like look at me 1.00

00:25:19.300 i'm a worker i make money money me like if you if you're the breadwinners is your money his money

00:25:24.920 can you make the financial decisions or is your money your money um a few because like i said i

00:25:30.300 put back to my point before i trust men's decision making i agree with you but i don't think that's

00:25:36.720 common right yeah it's common to me because i live in my own world um but yeah i trust male

00:25:43.020 decision making so i would be like oh babe i made this whole heap of money maybe i'll

00:25:47.900 say all of the money i made juicy can i ask you yeah why do you trust men's leadership um

00:25:53.700 and i haven't i haven't even grown up with my daddy and i still do um

00:25:59.820 like from visual experience it's less hassle it's got less layers it's clear cut it's less time

00:26:10.760 consuming and obviously i generally feel like men are protective to me if obviously the ones i'm

00:26:18.680 attracted to and i feel safe around um if i feel safe around you then i'm gonna trust you're gonna make a

00:26:23.840 protective decision make like you're gonna make a decision that's going to protect both of us

00:26:29.960 not saying i won't but i'm gonna protect you in the uh subconscious i'm gonna protect your emotions

00:26:35.580 i'm gonna protect how you may not be seeing things looking at things but on the physical

00:26:39.720 baby go get it is there any other girls that feel like her on the panel can you just put your hands up 1.00

00:26:44.320 oh sorry and can i just ask like can i just ask you like can i ask you basically why do you feel

00:26:51.300 like that what trusting men yeah why do you trust him in the man's leadership um i think men are more

00:26:57.500 logical women there's a lot of problems that come along with their decision making like emotion 1.00

00:27:02.600 and i don't know i just have always looked up to men more than women generally speaking because i

00:27:10.100 feel like the decisions they make pay off better quicker decision making and i don't know i just

00:27:16.560 think the results are the results show off much better than the decisions that women make 1.00

00:27:22.140 kush um i would say that my brain this is on topic just just to start this is on topic but i'm

00:27:28.900 going to start it sounding a bit off topic my brain's a bit more um animated so i see the way

00:27:33.700 men think as a waffle you know like squares women think like spaghetti okay i'm with you yeah so 1.00

00:27:43.920 i'm hungry yeah do you get it a bit of food for thought but um you know like when you tell a man 0.84

00:27:49.940 something they will execute it box by box a female might be because we're on the spaghetti route we've 1.00

00:27:55.440 probably gone down up like we've done sticks and ladders on you where you've just done ladder

00:27:58.880 do you get my point so women we tend to add a bit more sauce to the mixture but men keep it in line 0.88

00:28:04.280 so if i had money not to say i couldn't spend it wisely but you might already have something in place

00:28:08.100 because you've been doing a box box box i've done a scribble here scribble there i've done it all over

00:28:13.120 the place you've done it look babe look put the money here flip it there maybe i thought about it but

00:28:19.740 in a different manner you probably put into a better perspective for me so i would give my trust more

00:28:24.180 to a man not to say that i don't trust myself but i would rely or be open to rely on his judgment

00:28:29.520 based on the fact that i i you know believe that he's got this on board like he's it's with it

00:28:33.940 i hear that what what what about you what why do you trust in men's leadership

00:28:37.300 um i just think men are better at certain things in general um like i'll give you an example i'm one

00:28:43.800 at 10 so it's a pretty big sample size just like kids and most of my brothers are engineers

00:28:50.040 and like most of um me and my sisters um actually most of my sisters don't have jobs yet but they 1.00

00:28:56.380 won't be engineers like i i just know them um but i don't know i just think like with money like

00:29:02.620 especially with money um i think just men tend to make better decisions and the data supports it so

00:29:07.380 like women make 70 to 80 percent of consumer buying decisions and like we have more debt even though we

00:29:12.580 make less money and so to me that's just says like women as a whole we make impulsive emotional 1.00

00:29:17.060 decisions in general and there's some women that can kind of turn that off but i don't think it's 0.98

00:29:21.600 like natural to us and that's why like they most ad campaigns are targeted towards women um so i think

00:29:26.480 it's like a mixture of just like data i've seen an anecdotal experience where like male coaches i have

00:29:32.680 um had overall you know there's the one creepy one but oh one not 90 percent um but overall have just

00:29:40.740 been like better i don't have to deal with like the drama of you know the the female coaches would 1.00

00:29:46.760 almost get involved in the team drama and the males would just i don't know i just think men are

00:29:51.220 better at certain things so is it like because you think for men it's their they find it easier to

00:29:58.660 separate like emotions and yeah and i can see it in my because i one thing um i talk about is i

00:30:04.520 outsource decision making sort of like i have a manager um you might have saw me in the back and

00:30:09.660 like even my dad like those are the two people i talk to about decisions um and i i honestly like trust

00:30:15.400 them with it because it's it's like okay if you have to fire someone in a business a woman's gonna 1.00

00:30:21.300 typically typically be more emotional oh i don't like their family i don't want to do it i don't

00:30:26.640 want to fire them like but a man's just gonna be like he's not doing the job he's got to go

00:30:31.320 and and i had to have like that conversation with my dad at one point he's like you should have been

00:30:35.800 done this already and it's kind of like like that i don't know i just think men can like make

00:30:42.640 decisions quicker where like women will drag it out how much men would call that woman that can 1.00

00:30:47.840 make the decision real fast attractive they wouldn't i i because yeah no i i agree with you

00:30:55.980 but yeah imagine being that woman imagine being that number of women i'm not gonna even look at

00:31:00.420 it's not it's not it's not it's not really because of the decision making it's because of like the

00:31:04.880 traits that are generally associated with it so like like men want to come home and they just want

00:31:09.800 to feel like they're at peace like they've been arguing with people all day like they've been

00:31:13.580 battling all day they just want to come home and they want to they want to have a woman that just 0.99

00:31:17.060 makes them feel good and be nice to them but like those women tend to be disagreeable they tend to 1.00

00:31:22.680 want to argue and they tend to want to disagree and any decision he has to make like she's going to

00:31:27.080 fight you on it like the woman that wants to make decisions like they're not quick to let their men 1.00

00:31:31.220 make decisions and like men want to be with a woman that feels like like she trusts him 0.66

00:31:36.760 so um i said like for for for us men when you trust in the man's leadership it's the ultimate

00:31:43.360 um for us we feel like it's the ultimate we think it's the ultimate um showing of love

00:31:50.100 and submission and a lot of times when people hear submission so they want me to just today sorry

00:31:56.680 yeah so they want me to use cooperative because submission tends to rub people up the wrong way but

00:32:00.860 i'm going to use submission by cooperative because when you submit to a man it doesn't mean that

00:32:06.000 it makes you demeans you as a woman it doesn't mean that you can ask a random question because

00:32:10.120 this is based on what you're saying about okay i was asked yesterday randomly someone's like i don't

00:32:14.320 think you'll be submissive like how you're saying before women will submit someone said to me they

00:32:17.820 don't think i'll be submissive and i was like why is that because i probe questions and i was like you

00:32:21.240 just i just don't feel like if i woke up in the morning you'd make me breakfast where have you got

00:32:24.240 this analogy so you looking at me on that question do i look like someone i wouldn't cook breakfast

00:32:27.960 no it's not it's not that you don't it's not i don't know what a breakfast cooker looks like in

00:32:32.180 the morning maybe i would like that and i don't you don't look like the person that would do that

00:32:37.020 and i'm like where's this coming would you i i think i don't know you personally but it's sometimes

00:32:42.380 like like girls that give off like the 50 50 mindset where it's like well why don't you cook me 1.00

00:32:48.300 breakfast or like they feel like it should be 50 50 like i don't know maybe you said something that

00:32:53.460 when i came off as like 50 50 so so however experience you on this platform today like

00:32:59.480 obviously you're opinionated and you're not you're not scared to to part your views and it's fine on

00:33:03.480 a platform you should you should do that but like what pearl said men we just really want peace like

00:33:08.560 you can be the most intelligent woman i know you're intelligent i know you could listen you could be

00:33:12.560 the top debater you could be doing but when i just come home i beg you just but why would i give

00:33:15.920 you this when we come home we wouldn't be this actual no no no but what i'm trying to say to you is is is we

00:33:20.040 don't know we just take you for how it is so we say right if she if i experience in a setting like

00:33:25.580 this then what's it gonna be like in a relationship setting what's it gonna be like we don't know what

00:33:30.080 it is but the bit that would attract me to you to maybe get your number whatever you would miss

00:33:34.360 past that i know i know i know i know but what's my loss what's your loss it's all about whatever it's

00:33:43.020 not you know i'm trying to say to you but it could be avoided by you know i'm like oh you know what i

00:33:46.480 wanted this platform and you know she was a little bit but actually liked her energy like it's

00:33:50.380 something i have to like because i debate for a living but like it's something i have to kind of

00:33:55.660 like turn off sometimes with guys where i'm like oh i know you're wrong but i just need to like

00:34:00.120 like because men don't want to do that they just want you to shut up and be silent i think there's

00:34:06.380 nothing there's nothing wrong with telling someone when they're wrong whether they're man or woman but

00:34:11.400 but in in this scenario you know if you're going to tell a man that they're wrong it's not about

00:34:16.800 telling them they're wrong that's that's fine it's just it doesn't need to be done with like the you

00:34:21.460 know the attitude much of him but even even even if you're smart like you know you know what sometimes

00:34:27.080 the power in a woman is black you know what i'm smarter than him but i just let him have that and 1.00

00:34:30.640 you're just laughing with your friends you're like i just feel like guys like like if he says something

00:34:37.160 that's not statistically accurate like he doesn't really want me to like come in and give you all

00:34:42.000 the steps like i just don't think he's good oh what if there's a situation where like because i just

00:34:48.580 men and women we're opposite so the man's been battling all day battling battling verbally physically

00:34:55.200 and going against it now he wants to get home and just feel woosah the woman may have been

00:35:00.900 it's like suppressing suppressing all day suppressing suppressing so for me i've been

00:35:07.020 all day trying to not be that angry black girl now i come home i can dash my bag take off my wig

00:35:11.240 do you know what this woman said to me and i had to smile between my teeth and he's probably thinking

00:35:16.860 lord god no that's well that's but we're opposite so that's maybe why it could clash yeah no i've like

00:35:24.840 talked to guys about this and they just need like a decompression time like they need like 30 minutes

00:35:30.060 like straight in the door yeah like to just and and honestly if we can i think they preferred if we

00:35:35.640 go to our friends about like about little stuff but like big problems it comes back to the trust and

00:35:41.640 the decision making uh-huh well i'm saying if most of my friends are female which is highly yeah

00:35:47.160 but i want to trust a man right now it's going to be mine well i'm saying like okay does he really

00:35:53.500 need to know that tracy at work was giving you the side act no okay i need a man to tell me i'm

00:36:03.260 basically going to my man saying babe what should i do should i punch her should i chill obviously 0.84

00:36:07.260 sometimes i do know the better option but i just need your support so i i i do think guys you guys

00:36:14.680 could correct me but if you say like how do i address this situation i think guys are problem

00:36:18.880 solvers so they'll help you fix it but i think as women we don't want them to fit like we just want 0.98

00:36:23.080 them to listen so so it confuses them because we'll be like yeah this bitch at work she did this 1.00

00:36:28.300 this and this you won't believe it and then he's like okay this is how you solve it and we're like

00:36:32.440 well no i just like she still did this this yeah why aren't you agreeing with me

00:36:36.480 i'll give you an example my dad like i'll say oh this person i did this this this and he'll be like

00:36:44.640 well just don't deal with them anymore yeah excuse me

00:36:48.300 like literally what you're saying but i like so what pearl said is like us as men we we want to

00:36:57.780 listen to your problems but we don't really want to listen to your problems so i get that so so we

00:37:02.120 want you to offload but after a certain amount of time we're going to write we're going to want to

00:37:05.620 give you a strategy to fix this boss right but you don't want to actually fix it you just want to

00:37:09.860 moan about your boss so at that point it's kind of like you have to go to your girls after that

00:37:15.500 because all you really want to do is just talk right but us as men we don't want to spend an

00:37:19.480 hour talking about the same thing we want to get to an end of it and we want you to resolve it but

00:37:22.880 you're going to go back to your boy and say to me the next oh you know what i like my boss again

00:37:26.220 give you one example there's some men that will ostracize a woman from their friends their family get

00:37:32.140 them to their selves not saying there's some get them to their selves um some men can do this

00:37:37.940 without being abusive they could just be selfish and just i love my woman i love my woman cool like

00:37:42.940 you do you baby um some people like them obsessed some people don't and like now you've ostracized

00:37:48.680 her you're actually her number one go-to and now you're telling me i just want peace after you

00:37:54.040 ostracized me i don't think those types of men i think okay if you're going to talk about that i don't

00:37:57.400 think those types of men you told me tracy's a whole you told me my mom ain't good you told me that

00:38:02.040 that's kind of on the woman like sometimes i think like women kind of like that drama 1.00

00:38:11.140 because it's like you put up with it if you if you're you you picked him you don't have to stay

00:38:17.060 like why'd you let him ostracize you and i've been i've been in a i've been in a similar situation

00:38:23.180 but i'll take accountability i think i did that i think now i'm older i can see the ostracization

00:38:28.340 coming in but being for younger females you don't have that much perception on life i i think though

00:38:35.760 like sometimes guys just want to get you away from your hoe friends 0.99

00:38:38.920 i see all of that i see all of that but there's i'm talking about come on guys we're not but then

00:38:44.680 your mama as well we're talking about like guys that make you feel like you shouldn't be talking

00:38:51.720 to anyone else but me you know someone's very like obsessive like almost obsessive like they

00:38:55.220 wouldn't need to be the only thing when i've made you know my only thing we'll be doing

00:38:59.400 i don't think you should do that like i he shouldn't do that yeah but you see how you said the

00:39:05.220 same demographic of women that um would rubberneck are the same that thing i'm just giving that 1.00

00:39:11.000 example like a lot of guys not all but a lot of guys that will be like a lot of guys that would find

00:39:17.740 uh like oh she's just bad telling me stuff she's always coming to me telling me about her this and

00:39:24.940 that and that and this most of those guys have ostracized that woman and now they're asking for

00:39:31.040 peace or some men don't know how to create a peaceful environment for the female and then expect 1.00

00:39:37.220 peace oh i just want peace no you want someone to shut the fuck up so do you wait did this did this 0.92

00:39:41.960 happen to you yeah yeah this sounds really specific probably somewhere subconsciously i'm not gonna

00:39:48.820 lie maybe maybe there's a little vim or maybe i just it may be a little bit of me and a little

00:39:53.580 bit of observation because i love to observe i just think like you pick who you're in a relationship

00:39:57.820 with and i think there's there's a group of girls that like to be controlled like they just 0.94

00:40:01.500 like it happened to me it almost did like i i was like hold on why don't i check my mom's

00:40:08.120 okay like i had to ask myself was it the d a little bit was it the energy so so juice but then

00:40:15.500 i realized he actually cursed everybody out of my life everybody like my friend he had a problem with

00:40:20.420 this person had a problem with and obviously but it's a red flag so so going on so so so going on

00:40:25.460 so going on for me me as a man i have no problem in in calling out a man's bull or red flags or

00:40:32.280 anything like that like i would it's not something i would have my sister entertain it's not something i

00:40:36.040 recommend it's not something i recommend any woman to do um so if a man is trying to ostracize 0.99

00:40:40.920 you trying to alienate you from your friends yeah these are these are all types of controlling

00:40:44.980 behaviors so yeah it's not something i would support but a man trying to get you away from 1.00

00:40:49.180 that whole friend tracy nah that's that's a good man i'm being real that's a good man

00:40:54.180 anyone's name who's tracy is like excuse me sorry tracy you're a good girl

00:40:59.780 i feel like most of this leads back to communication they're like if you want to vent to the guy that

00:41:05.660 you're with just ask him there's nothing wrong with that same with like your friends like say

00:41:09.020 if i want to vent to my friends i'll be like can i open up to you right now like are you in the right

00:41:12.460 mind frame to hear from me type thing there's nothing wrong asking for communication the guy

00:41:16.320 will let you know and if it's not today then it might be tomorrow or it might be the day after like

00:41:20.020 yeah it kind of goes back to reading the room and being socially aware like you can come and know

00:41:24.080 that your partner is like he's he's not with it so he needs to chill so would you would you um any of

00:41:29.380 you girls would you would you mind if your man cried to you came to cry to you cry yeah i wouldn't

00:41:34.540 mind i've had i've had my partner of like nine years cry i'll be like yes my baby

00:41:39.380 needs me

00:41:40.240 wait wait wait who said that who said that you yeah i said i'll be like yes my baby needs me

00:41:46.820 wait your partner of nine years

00:41:48.060 no no no i said that oh who said that you said that yeah i've had i've been with someone for nine

00:41:51.660 years okay so i have a question um you're not with him anymore no i'm not who broke up with who

00:41:56.820 i've also i broke up with him you should have cried every time every time it wasn't for the

00:42:01.340 crying though it's not just look at it stop stop i i know it's i i know it's like every girl that

00:42:07.700 it's again it's not you yeah statistically proven no no i'm just anecdotal no stats i've had girl

00:42:14.440 after girl come on my podcast and everyone that says their boyfriend cried to them i have a second

00:42:19.500 question who broke up with who it's always them but it always depends on what way he didn't cry in a

00:42:22.940 way of like he was actually being emotional i was telling him listen i don't know what you're doing right

00:42:26.020 you know i gave him some facts basically a situation happened and i presented him with facts

00:42:29.240 and i was like this is what's going on that's your business and he the only way he knew how to

00:42:33.400 communicate was to break down at this point the only thing i can do is you know didn't cry when you

00:42:38.920 broke up with him is that what it was no no no no this was before i broke up with him due to the fact

00:42:42.920 that i just feel like where you're trying to go and where i'm going are two different angles now

00:42:45.520 before we was on the same train you jumped off and hanged out the window like what are you doing

00:42:48.460 like you're doing your own thing but he cried based on him trying to be emotional and kind of be like

00:42:53.180 effed up kind of thing and he couldn't control his emotions so his you know what i'm saying

00:42:57.480 i think and how long after did you know it was years like we were okay i would say that he cried

00:43:02.240 within the first year or two of us being together and we spent another four years if not five together

00:43:07.040 do you get it but he was doing up other things so that's that's the reason i don't know i just don't

00:43:12.500 think it's a coincidence but it depends on how long you cry though that's how i'm trying to say that

00:43:15.800 but i think a lot of times like women we don't know what we want because it's like 1.00

00:43:19.140 it's kind of like how many times can a guy cry till you like you know you didn't cry that sometimes

00:43:23.740 you're gonna at some point no we'll give you one

00:43:27.500 but if you but if you wait but if you wait come on that's cap if he's crying every day you're leaving

00:43:33.940 that's what i'm saying like every person's different and so you know at some level like

00:43:41.380 you're going to leave at some point no for me i feel like if a guy cries it shows me that you have

00:43:45.840 a level or consciousness consciousness of emotion i mean i can't be with someone that's heartless

00:43:50.460 just cold roofless man you'll just be like i don't cry just what is that i think it's just human how

00:43:55.860 would you guys feel how would you guys feel if your boss started crying has that ever happened to

00:44:00.500 you female boss male boss yeah no no yeah i i didn't feel sorry for you because you done 1.00

00:44:11.780 fucked up and you been spending too much people damn business in this place and yeah what goes 0.95

00:44:17.620 around comes around and i looked at you and threw you a very small napkin because i wanted to see

00:44:22.500 you fold it up and let you be no no that's not what we're about to do victim nope i've never i've never

00:44:29.380 seen it i've just heard that's like a phenomenon like i've just heard like girls and high stress 1.00

00:44:34.020 yeah yeah yeah yeah it is from my managers break down i feel like we get emotionally like what's

00:44:39.460 what overwhelmed women get overwhelmed whereas men get angry i feel like men cry from a part of their

00:44:44.660 body which they're not used to hitting do you know what i mean that emotional comes from a part of

00:44:48.020 their body they've never hit before like no one's ever hit you there so you're like what what feeling is

00:44:51.300 this no men can cry like men men bug out inside before they cry before your body before your body

00:45:01.220 creates those tears you're bugging out internally like trying to understand what am i feeling and

00:45:04.980 then your body's put into perspective no but if someone died and he's crying then that's an

00:45:09.060 expressing an emotion but like if he's crying because you won't let him hit it then he's a pussy 0.99

00:45:13.780 it's kind of like how many times can he cry like i mean i think women i think at some point you get

00:45:23.300 one a year jesus that's a lie no but you know what life is hot no but pearl for the crisis no for the

00:45:30.420 first time you've been honest for the first time we've got a woman that said exactly what you can do

00:45:34.260 you can get one a year it's like what tends to happen is women will say you can cry i'll give you one 1.00

00:45:38.500 every other year i'd like okay no realistically though it depends on the topic like it's like

00:45:44.580 if if he like if he's going through it like a lot and like he is like going through that emotion and

00:45:50.900 if he's crying i don't i think vulnerability can be attractive in a way but then if he doesn't fix

00:45:56.420 his problems and he's still crying over it that's that's what i was gonna ask i was gonna ask you so

00:46:00.660 if he's crying like he's like oh the first time he's going through that he's crying every month

00:46:04.260 two um february's crying wednesday's um you know what i mean i'm just crying at the same time

00:46:08.980 i've offered him counseling i've offered him counseling i'm gonna i'm gonna i'm gonna let

00:46:13.780 you haven't talked go ahead well i was just gonna say yeah like obviously if they're crying a lot over

00:46:18.180 like something small like tracy was being horrible to me it worked fair enough you know it's like

00:46:22.260 ridiculous like all right i'm done with this but in reality if it's a traumatic experience someone's

00:46:26.900 going through or like something's happening and it's a constant and sometimes their reaction is to

00:46:32.820 cry i don't think that is a sign of weakness and it's sometimes vulnerability is strength

00:46:37.700 i have a question i have a question so let's say he he has whatever the situation is how how long can

00:46:44.740 he cry about it so he cries monday can he cry tuesday well can he cry wednesday yeah honestly yeah if it's

00:46:50.580 something like it's like if you're just crying about it and if you can do something to change it it's like

00:46:55.940 yeah no let's say he's stuff up let's say he's depressed yeah monday how how many days in a row can he

00:47:02.100 cry well this is the thing though i think if it was anybody if they were relying on me and they

00:47:06.740 were constantly crying to me for something that they're going through internally i am happy to be

00:47:11.700 someone's shoulders crying however if you are constantly crying and it's like they yeah it's just

00:47:20.900 it's like we can do these things to help you this is a different way of going through it it's just

00:47:26.420 if it's only crying nothing's happening then it can be difficult on the other person who's having to

00:47:32.100 help them and support them so objection listen where's the camera

00:47:42.020 this is for men

00:47:45.300 a loss in your family loved one friends cool

00:47:50.020 a movie that hit you deep and your eyes were okay that's it

00:48:01.060 that's a lot of pressure on men listen listen listen listen listen this is real life yeah you have to be

00:48:11.540 a rock a rock you must you must don't ever ever ever or do you respect or do you respect your lovely

00:48:21.860 girl we spoke before men do not listen to that okay listen to me yeah one second one second one second

00:48:31.860 one second this is for the men i'm gonna hand it back i'm not gonna talk too much this is for the men

00:48:36.660 real talk i'm not trying to make people laugh life is real you most of you know that already you know

00:48:44.500 the struggles you know what's going on you know what you gotta do you don't have that time you can't be

00:48:50.500 doing that stay focused stay on your purpose a loss cool a sad movie that hit you somewhere cool

00:49:00.580 get back on job that's it so i'm gonna just as a man let me just add on to what another man said

00:49:06.900 so yeah guys like this is to the men out there um do not cry to you don't cry bro because women

00:49:13.540 they find it very hard to explain to you what it's okay to cry about so the best thing to do is not to

00:49:18.420 cry so she said you can cry once a year pearl said once every two years and she basically said

00:49:24.740 you can cry for about three or four days but by the fifth day if you're still crying i'm not too

00:49:28.820 sure so this is a lot of mixed signals for men so the best thing to do is like what alex says it's

00:49:34.180 just to be a rock and i i'll be honest with you i'm gonna cry no movies because because no no and but

00:49:40.820 he can give that to you family i pray that we don't have to go through that stuff but at that point

00:49:45.300 you know men can show emotion but i just think it's a lot safer for men just don't cry bro

00:49:50.500 can i say something okay um i i personally think as a man if you go to a woman and you're crying me

00:49:57.460 i'll lose respect for you it depends what you're crying about like um if it's a loss or something

00:50:02.820 really bad like of someone dying then yeah but as a man i feel like it takes you off of your purpose

00:50:08.900 when you spend too much time crying about things that you're just wasting time and energy and i think

00:50:14.020 men really value respect and if my man's crying often i'm gonna lose respect for him i don't

00:50:20.260 feel like that's a real man like don't cry to me about it all the time that's but that that goes

00:50:25.620 towards both genders realistically don't sit and cry about everything all the time women cry all 1.00

00:50:32.820 the time over everything yeah but if that's all you're doing for it where do you outlet other than

00:50:39.220 the gym and appointments where are you gonna let these that's what i was gonna say wait wait wait

00:50:44.260 men can men can talk to other men yeah but like women and men don't and men don't really care if 0.99

00:50:51.380 their girl's crying over stupid like they're kind of used to it we cry over dumb like yeah i cry over 0.79

00:50:56.420 dumb all the time i don't think can men tell me where the outlet is this is where i struggle as

00:51:01.700 somebody as i personally i'm a little bit hesitant with men when it comes to outlet like i'm i just i just

00:51:10.900 think it's other men like i think men should go to other men i think like women try to be mad 0.97

00:51:15.140 that's you and your woman minds which i appreciate is a beautiful place where is a man going to i'm

00:51:21.540 gonna go to the gym and where's alex going alex gonna go to me and this is what and then and

00:51:27.460 this is what's going to happen and then if i don't feel like i can speak to alex i'm going to speak to

00:51:31.380 bless and then blessing don't feel like he can speak to um to me he's going to speak to davante that

00:51:35.220 the idea of this is we're not supposed to speak to every single man or cry to every single man

00:51:39.860 but if if my if alex comes and cries to me i know this is a very serious situation because he's never

00:51:46.580 cried and men don't cry like that so i won't look at it like how you look at it i will look at this

00:51:51.860 my boy's got to a a level where he's crying to me now we need to figure out what's going on we

00:51:56.660 we need to come to a resolution so crying to women it i will not lose respect for him in actual fact

00:52:02.980 i'm gonna gain so much more respect for him because i know he's showing me emotion he's never saw

00:52:06.820 what we've gotten from you guys is that he can cry but he he has to know when to cry and he can't

00:52:12.980 cry too much and if he cries too much he needs to so that's too many slight caveats right you're right

00:52:18.180 i just gotta be able to cry to you and you can't tell me what i can cry about and how long i cry

00:52:22.340 about if you tell me i could be emotional to you you don't get to tell me what i can be emotional about

00:52:26.020 this is why i just say just don't cry bro alex can cry to me talking talking sorry just quickly so

00:52:31.380 sorry sorry just talking about um earlier we're talking about leadership and 50 50 and bosses and

00:52:36.020 this that and the other if you're if you're a man and you cry over you know not a loss or what i said

00:52:44.500 before um to your partner you've demonstrated the the inability to be stable you've demonstrated that

00:52:54.420 you can't be trusted you've demonstrated that you can't be a leader you can't be followed

00:52:59.060 because if i'm if if if you'll be if you're being followed and then it gets peak and then you're

00:53:05.620 depressed or whatever the situation is and you're crying how can someone follow we don't see we don't

00:53:14.980 see presidents crying like you don't see leadership you don't see the ceo of a company crying well unless

00:53:20.580 it doesn't mean he doesn't because he doesn't because you don't see it doesn't mean they're not

00:53:24.100 crying no you're right but that's what i'm saying they don't do it in front of the people they're

00:53:27.620 leading men are supposed to wait wait matt wait men are supposed to lead women so you don't you don't

00:53:33.220 see the ceo going to a company meeting and start crying it's the same thing with like if you're if you

00:53:38.580 know i know some people do the 50 50 thing but if you if you want to be in a more traditional

00:53:42.100 relationship where you follow the man you're with then he shouldn't go to the people the person he's

00:53:46.820 leading and cry of course not i wouldn't agree 100 understand your point but i feel like she was

00:53:52.500 saying like yeah you're allowed to be vulnerable until yeah you're human until it's time for you to

00:53:57.460 pick yourself up like i feel like in a relationship depending on yours and guys's you know boundaries

00:54:02.100 obviously like if you follow more traditional methods and et cetera et cetera like you're allowed

00:54:06.500 to be vulnerable if your partner says that's okay with you you can be vulnerable for that time

00:54:11.220 being and then pick yourself up like it's cool yeah but but the whole point is wait the whole

00:54:16.100 point is that each girl is different and so it's kind of like rolling the dice like like look at this

00:54:21.060 from a guy's perspective you know me i said every two years she said you know you could do it three

00:54:26.260 days four days whatever whatever it is everybody but wait but every girl is different and so it's like 0.93

00:54:32.340 for one girl you know she might be okay with it this long for another girl she might be okay with it this

00:54:36.580 long so it's like why risk it even the girls that say it's okay listen that sounds nice that sounds

00:54:45.860 nice and it's very emotionally intelligent and it's beautiful though the girls don't even know that

00:54:53.460 they've lost something for you they've lost it's called the the the attraction i didn't get the yeah

00:54:58.980 they get the it whatever that thing is that made them feel comfortable in your leadership or your

00:55:05.700 presence or your even partnership whatever whatever that thing is they've lost it they

00:55:10.740 don't they didn't they didn't even know it happened men stay focused on your purpose

00:55:19.140 with a bunny ear bunny ear over like a baby does it and i'm just like ick he's never coming near me

00:55:24.260 so now you see the problem we have right so like it's it's it's but why would he risk that like why

00:55:30.180 why wouldn't he just say you know what in general i'm going to try not to cry in front of her if it

00:55:33.700 happens it happens but in general unless it's super serious i'm just i'm not gonna generally

00:55:38.340 we all have that rule like i don't walk into a room expecting to be upset and cry i just think if

00:55:43.220 it happens it happens it's just like you know if someone pees themselves you don't make a big deal

00:55:46.980 you're like go off of there you can cry just suddenly consume you realistically and that's where

00:55:52.580 communication comes in again you can literally discuss this before you go through it but the problem

00:55:56.580 is women don't know what they want i know exactly but a woman that does and a woman that's got her you know 1.00

00:56:02.740 piratey straight can communicate that with a man and obviously if that's not the case then that's

00:56:06.420 not the case guys i just quick question for the men do you think women know what they want in general 0.99

00:56:11.380 no how many wait how many women have you dated is it over or under 20 over or under no over okay 0.77

00:56:17.540 okay over under so i'm just the only reason because the the next question is what type of women do you 1.00

00:56:21.620 date at least 20 that's a good sample size do you think in general women know what they want do you 1.00

00:56:26.740 think they cap about what they want yeah okay that's my only point

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JustPearlyThings - July 06, 2023

Heated Debate on Women and Body Count

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