JustPearlyThings - Her Delusion Is UNMATCHED

00:00:00.000 I just still think that men are looking for things they don't have themselves.

00:00:07.040 They don't have the minerals for the things that they want in the women. 1.00

00:00:09.420 So they just pick women based off looks. 1.00

00:00:11.400 They don't know what they want anyway.

00:00:12.600 They think they know what they want, but they haven't even got the minerals anyway.

00:00:15.880 Is it possible that women don't have what they want? 1.00

00:00:18.540 Absolutely.

00:00:19.440 Right.

00:00:19.800 So how would they pick it if the dating pool has like one out of every three women's had an abortion, 1.00

00:00:24.860 one of every three women has an STD, like 38, 40% grew up without a dad.

00:00:30.840 So they don't have that model.

00:00:31.820 Like, how would they wear?

00:00:33.840 How would they know?

00:00:34.660 Yeah.

00:00:34.920 How good women is? 1.00

00:00:36.140 Yeah.

00:00:36.280 Like they've never like what percent of men have like even seen a true traditional woman?

00:00:40.640 I don't think.

00:00:41.220 Yeah.

00:00:41.960 Do you know any women with like recipe books? 1.00

00:00:44.900 Only, only the high, only celebrities.

00:00:47.640 Nice, nice too.

00:00:48.700 But only like the upper class, high celebrity profile people.

00:00:52.260 Yeah.

00:00:52.680 And then these two now.

00:00:53.880 Okay.

00:00:54.100 My whole, and my whole family.

00:00:56.700 And then when I go there, they're like, oh, so modern, you know, everyone still cooks the same meals.

00:01:04.420 But, so I'm just curious, like when you're hearing these stats, like assuming I'm telling you the truth,

00:01:09.320 you don't think like it puts more of the promiscuity on women because we're only sleeping with 20% of men.

00:01:15.740 So like that means 80% of us are sleeping with 20% of men.

00:01:19.840 Wow.

00:01:22.660 That's attacking.

00:01:23.380 Like, okay, I'll give you an example.

00:01:25.340 How, how tall was your last boyfriend?

00:01:28.000 6'1".

00:01:28.680 Okay.

00:01:29.100 Okay.

00:01:29.120 Okay.

00:01:29.140 What percent of men do you think are 6'1"? 1.00

00:01:33.380 Maybe like, it's not, it's not, it's not, it's not 6'1".

00:01:36.180 30%?

00:01:37.900 10.

00:01:38.680 10%.

00:01:39.280 10%.

00:01:39.320 10%.

00:01:39.780 So you had a top, did he, how much money did he make?

00:01:43.620 Well, he had, he had his own houses and a business.

00:01:45.800 He sells cars.

00:01:46.460 Okay.

00:01:47.440 So roughly, how much do you think he made?

00:01:50.460 I didn't, I, she don't know that.

00:01:52.080 Yeah, I'm not one to.

00:01:53.540 The man ain't telling you that.

00:01:54.680 Yeah.

00:01:55.360 But he owned a house.

00:01:55.980 I know about his business and that, you know, and things like that.

00:01:58.480 But I don't know the figures.

00:01:59.960 In London?

00:02:00.740 In Essex.

00:02:01.620 Oh, in Essex.

00:02:02.280 Yeah.

00:02:02.900 Okay.

00:02:03.260 So if he owned a house, he probably made at least like 60, 70, I guess.

00:02:07.620 Who knows?

00:02:07.960 He had a nice range.

00:02:08.780 Okay.

00:02:09.080 So he's, he's probably, I'm guessing, right?

00:02:11.480 I don't actually know.

00:02:12.600 You guys would know London prices more than me, but he's probably still top 20% of income.

00:02:17.060 Probably because buying a house in Essex is cheap.

00:02:19.820 Yeah.

00:02:20.500 Okay.

00:02:20.900 So top 20%.

00:02:22.060 So you had a guy top 10% height, top 20% income.

00:02:25.740 Was he attractive?

00:02:26.920 Was he good looking?

00:02:27.520 Yeah, he was.

00:02:28.080 Yeah. 0.99

00:02:28.200 So in women, so, you know, women, we find 80% of men is ugly. 0.53

00:02:32.400 So if he, if you find him attractive, that means he's top 20%. 0.67

00:02:35.420 Right.

00:02:35.920 You should maybe call him.

00:02:37.040 Is he still single?

00:02:37.600 No, he's been trying to holler at me, to be honest.

00:02:39.360 I don't have to block him.

00:02:41.180 Girl, you should.

00:02:41.420 So what?

00:02:41.940 Why not?

00:02:42.700 Because he's not, he's not the one for me.

00:02:44.400 What is, what is the one?

00:02:45.600 So it seems like he has a good job.

00:02:47.020 He's not the one for me.

00:02:47.760 He's attractive and tall.

00:02:48.980 It doesn't matter.

00:02:49.600 His personal.

00:02:50.200 I think that's the daddy issue.

00:02:51.420 No, no, no, it's not.

00:02:52.540 I'm very smart.

00:02:53.320 Trust me.

00:02:53.620 Like, he was wearing a mask when we first met and then his true colors came out and

00:02:57.940 I saw in certain behaviors that he was portraying.

00:03:00.580 What true colors?

00:03:01.800 So like, you know, he was very aggressive sometimes and he, I felt like his moral.

00:03:07.080 What do you mean aggressive?

00:03:07.920 Did he hit you?

00:03:09.340 No, no, he didn't hit me.

00:03:10.700 No.

00:03:10.860 Okay.

00:03:11.000 So he didn't hit you. 0.94

00:03:11.420 Well, he, he pushed me, he, he shoved me very hard and it was for a very pathetic reason 1.00

00:03:15.860 and he's a liar. 0.99

00:03:16.900 Did you shove him at all? 0.99

00:03:17.900 No.

00:03:18.040 Or he was just one sided?

00:03:19.060 No, I don't like to be aggressive. 1.00

00:03:20.060 I don't believe in that shit no more. 1.00

00:03:21.440 I've grown up, you know? 1.00

00:03:22.360 Okay.

00:03:22.540 So he, he shoved you one time and then you died.

00:03:24.660 Yeah.

00:03:24.680 And it was very, and it was petty and he lied at the time as well.

00:03:27.180 And I knew he was lying about picking up his kids when he wasn't going, he, he changed

00:03:31.560 his story.

00:03:31.980 Like I'm very observant when people speak.

00:03:33.580 He lied about picking up his kids?

00:03:34.620 So I spent a couple of days with him and he, and I was supposed to say the last day and he, and

00:03:38.220 he, all of a sudden he's got to go and pick up his kids, but he, you're lying.

00:03:41.240 And so it's like, you're making me feel like you don't want to see, you don't want to, you

00:03:44.460 don't want me to stay anymore.

00:03:45.440 So, and then that happened.

00:03:46.820 And then we broke up and now he wants me back.

00:03:49.220 How do you know he wasn't picking up his kids?

00:03:50.540 I know he wasn't because his story changed.

00:03:52.080 He told me something.

00:03:52.760 We planned something from the get go.

00:03:54.680 So I know.

00:03:55.260 So, so you didn't, you don't have no physical evidence of that.

00:03:58.440 So you wanted his time over the kids.

00:03:59.760 I do.

00:04:00.040 I do.

00:04:00.160 It's very, it's very technical, but it's long.

00:04:02.140 You'd think I'm crazy if I go into it right now.

00:04:03.780 How did the shoving happen?

00:04:05.040 Like what, what, what led up to that?

00:04:06.620 Cause he wanted me to leave.

00:04:07.980 Okay.

00:04:08.280 So you literally, and he tried to drag me for, okay.

00:04:11.460 So would you, were you refusing to leave?

00:04:13.500 Yeah.

00:04:14.040 Well, because I was in my feelings because I knew he was lying.

00:04:16.660 Like, come on.

00:04:17.380 I don't.

00:04:17.720 Okay.

00:04:18.020 Okay.

00:04:18.660 But you kind of, you kind of frame this.

00:04:20.460 Yeah.

00:04:22.680 Why do, why do a lot of women, they like, they, they accuse a man of being like the bad guy, 0.99

00:04:26.560 the guy that hurts them, the guy that beats them.

00:04:28.360 But then the reason they, like they made, they caused the reason.

00:04:31.520 Cause if you physically don't move in certain spaces.

00:04:33.840 No, sorry.

00:04:34.860 It's the way you, it's the way you speak to someone.

00:04:37.320 It's the way you conduct yourself in that situation.

00:04:39.540 But if you're in, this has happened to me before.

00:04:41.180 I've been, Esther, you know, you know, no, there was a girl here and I asked her to leave 1.00

00:04:48.860 and she didn't like the way I asked her to leave. 0.97

00:04:50.900 Right.

00:04:51.300 And then she starts yelling at me. 1.00

00:04:53.180 Um, and then, um, well, we didn't have security then, but my security would have just picked

00:04:57.900 her up and taken her up and taken her out. 1.00

00:04:59.100 No, how?

00:04:59.560 But then it's like the way you're saying this, it's like, what other options do you have?

00:05:02.840 I wouldn't have done that.

00:05:03.780 How do you say that?

00:05:04.180 See, the thing, I wouldn't have done that.

00:05:05.260 But when it's an emotional, sexual connection, you've got other feelings, like you feel rejection,

00:05:09.500 you feel like you're being violated.

00:05:10.860 It just feels, it's kind of different.

00:05:12.220 You're kind of, so you're kind of making yourself, so basically like you were kind of overbearing

00:05:17.060 because he, you thought he did something and you had no proof he did it.

00:05:21.000 No, I did because he said what, he changed his story.

00:05:24.100 But you've never said two things that contradicted yourself ever.

00:05:27.340 I have.

00:05:28.940 I just, it just happens when you talk.

00:05:31.480 It's very easy to say the wrong thing if you've been cross-examined.

00:05:35.760 Because you know what, when you say earlier on where men are analysing women and women are

00:05:39.600 analysing men, he's looking at you like, rah.

00:05:41.760 So you're going to argue against me picking up my kids.

00:05:44.660 But I knew he wasn't.

00:05:45.700 It doesn't matter whether you know he's not, or it is, yeah.

00:05:48.920 In his head, rah, hold on, I'm telling you something about my kids and you're arguing

00:05:53.460 against my kids.

00:05:55.380 To him, the kids are the main priority.

00:05:57.820 Does he have a right to privacy?

00:06:00.740 Of course.

00:06:01.660 I'm not a possessive person.

00:06:02.980 Maybe there is something that he just didn't want you to know.

00:06:05.160 Maybe he was private with the mud. 0.70

00:06:06.880 Like, you know, I mean, like baby mama situations can be tricky.

00:06:10.280 Like, sometimes guys don't want to get you in on all the drama.

00:06:13.860 But it's like, you're going into it in bad faith, so you're assuming the worst, when maybe

00:06:17.820 it wasn't the worst.

00:06:18.940 No, I'm saying.

00:06:19.160 But I also feel like, it's just the way you conduct yourself in a sensitive situation as

00:06:22.560 well.

00:06:23.100 Like, I just feel like it's just a shot.

00:06:24.460 But couldn't we say that to you, though?

00:06:25.740 Because it's the way, like, you didn't listen when he said leave.

00:06:27.980 So it's kind of like, as women, like, we kind of have this double standard where we make

00:06:31.820 him the bad guy when it's like, you kind of started it.

00:06:34.280 But then, oh yeah, I remember now.

00:06:35.700 Also, the reason was, like, I've stayed in the house by myself before, and at this point,

00:06:39.200 he didn't want me to stay.

00:06:40.480 So it's like, if you love me, why can't I stay here while you go and pick up your child,

00:06:44.620 do what you need to do, and I'll stay here tonight, and you come back.

00:06:46.500 Yeah, because that's entitlement.

00:06:49.480 It's not your house.

00:06:51.420 Like, if I own this apartment, if I want anyone to leave at any time, I have the right to do

00:06:58.120 that.

00:06:59.360 Absolutely.

00:07:00.060 But that wasn't the issue.

00:07:01.300 Honestly, I didn't have an issue with that.

00:07:02.680 It was just the way it happened, and the things that he was saying, and the way he was speaking

00:07:05.700 to me.

00:07:06.080 It's just kind of like...

00:07:06.600 But this is like a lot of problems with women in relationships. 1.00

00:07:09.120 We want men to emote like women. 0.99

00:07:11.200 But he's not a woman. 0.64

00:07:12.300 He's a man.

00:07:12.920 Men don't speak like women do. 1.00

00:07:14.380 They're much more stern.

00:07:15.520 And so a lot of times, like, we think something's aggressive, but men are just more aggressive

00:07:19.380 than women. 0.99

00:07:20.640 Maybe you might want to call him.

00:07:21.780 But we're not aggressive.

00:07:22.280 He seems like a hard man to replace.

00:07:23.860 Can we just say that?

00:07:24.840 And say sorry.

00:07:25.620 And you said in the beginning that the men that like you, you don't want.

00:07:29.260 So that means the men you want don't want you.

00:07:31.220 Wow.

00:07:31.640 I haven't met the one, I think.

00:07:32.640 No, but that's what...

00:07:33.720 Any girl that's single, it just means the men you want don't want you. 1.00

00:07:36.720 And it's not meant to be offensive.

00:07:37.700 The thing is, it's actually crazy, because there's no one I actually want.

00:07:41.300 Apart from...

00:07:41.980 There's...

00:07:42.340 Okay, but...

00:07:42.820 Okay, come on.

00:07:43.780 There's nobody in the world that you would want.

00:07:45.700 I'm attracted to like someone, but he's like a celebrity.

00:07:49.620 You know, like sex appeal, but there's no one I actually want.

00:07:52.340 Okay, do you think you're on like the level of a celebrity?

00:07:55.180 Yeah.

00:07:56.720 You're not on the level of a celebrity.

00:07:58.520 I think I am.

00:08:00.020 I think I am.

00:08:01.100 I think I am.

00:08:02.500 I think I am.

00:08:03.480 No, you're a pretty girl. 0.79

00:08:04.640 I think I'm an amazing person if I'm being honest.

00:08:07.540 Celebrity's like top 10, 20% of beauty. 1.00

00:08:09.860 Yeah, but remember, I think I'm beautiful without the Botox, without the money, without

00:08:15.780 all that money, to do myself up.

00:08:17.280 So, I think I'm great.

00:08:18.460 I know.

00:08:18.660 This is like a cope I see women do. 1.00

00:08:20.880 Like, it's like, you think because they have money, they're beautiful when they got there.

00:08:25.920 Money helped.

00:08:26.640 But if you look at Margot Robbie before Fame, that girl was a 10. 1.00

00:08:29.500 I don't know who that is.

00:08:30.380 But then you're doing selectiveness because there's enough girls that go there and the 1.00

00:08:33.420 money glows them up only.

00:08:35.420 I disagree.

00:08:36.220 Not the girls that get there for looks alone. 1.00

00:08:38.460 Top 20% of beauty.

00:08:40.040 You can look at exceptions like that, like Kylie Jenner.

00:08:44.120 She's not beautiful.

00:08:46.040 She wasn't beautiful before.

00:08:47.580 She was cute, but yeah. 1.00

00:08:48.580 I mean, she wasn't that beautiful.

00:08:50.080 No, she gets fixed up. 0.99

00:08:50.680 She wasn't.

00:08:51.260 But I'm just saying, in general, guys, can we just talk in general instead of exceptions?

00:08:55.580 Most celebrities are top 20% of beauty in general.

00:08:58.220 Like, we could talk about, there's some exceptions, like Kylie Jenner did her lips, whatever.

00:09:03.320 But most people in Hollywood were the top 20% of beauty wherever they're from. 1.00

00:09:08.780 I still don't agree, but yeah.

00:09:10.260 Okay, I feel you.

00:09:11.140 I feel you.

00:09:12.700 I don't know.

00:09:13.180 Maybe you should call him.

00:09:14.220 No, definitely not.

00:09:16.420 He might.

00:09:17.080 Oh, I'm an apology.

00:09:18.240 I don't know.

00:09:18.800 No, we had a closure, but he's not the one for me.

00:09:21.980 He's not my soulmate.

00:09:22.920 What's the definition of the one?

00:09:24.740 I just feel like there's a difference in behavior.

00:09:27.440 And the way you feel as well, I can accept, I'm not a possessive person.

00:09:30.820 I can accept, I really like my independence, but I just know there's a certain way that

00:09:35.200 you will handle someone in those situations.

00:09:37.560 Are you your only child?

00:09:38.060 That just wasn't, I'm not, no, I've got loads of brothers and sisters.

00:09:39.820 You know what it is, though?

00:09:40.760 You know what it is?

00:09:41.200 Sorry, I just know within myself.

00:09:42.720 Sorry, are you your only child?

00:09:43.980 No, I've got brothers and sisters.

00:09:44.900 Are you the youngest?

00:09:45.840 I'm in the middle.

00:09:47.040 Oh, okay.

00:09:47.620 So, growing up, did your mum have a partner?

00:09:53.580 Did you have a stepdad around?

00:09:54.840 None.

00:09:54.960 Yeah, like, no, but not permanently.

00:09:57.780 So, in terms of looking up, do you know how to look after a man?

00:10:02.120 Of course.

00:10:03.020 No, because you're saying certain things that in a relationship, it's like, if you saw a

00:10:08.180 relationship with your mum and dad growing up, then there's certain things you wouldn't

00:10:11.280 do in a relationship, you get what I'm saying, to keep the man.

00:10:13.660 Listen, every man, every man that's been my boyfriend has returned, and they haven't

00:10:20.300 found better.

00:10:21.120 No, it's not.

00:10:21.740 Definitely not.

00:10:22.360 Have you ever been married?

00:10:24.200 Have you proposed to?

00:10:25.160 Yeah.

00:10:26.100 You've been proposed to?

00:10:27.340 Well, not like, on one knee.

00:10:29.840 I haven't had that experience yet, but I've had similar.

00:10:32.000 He bought you a ring?

00:10:32.580 Yes.

00:10:33.000 Oh, promissory.

00:10:33.520 I've had similar, but not like that.

00:10:35.040 We was young, so.

00:10:35.860 Promissory?

00:10:37.100 Basically, kind of like that.

00:10:38.060 Do you know what I mean?

00:10:38.900 You promised.

00:10:39.640 Okay.

00:10:40.380 It is, it's the same thing.

00:10:41.620 It's rare for a man to do that.

00:10:43.300 Promise rings don't count.

00:10:44.500 No, it does, because it's rare, because.

00:10:45.660 That does not count.

00:10:46.240 Do you think that men go out and buy promise rings?

00:10:48.900 It's just a line with a gift.

00:10:50.020 I'll be honest.

00:10:51.420 Girl, I've had one.

00:10:52.420 It's not that big.

00:10:53.080 All right, pal, pal, let me have.

00:10:54.900 But he has to really like you to be, because he's not going to do that to everyone.

00:10:57.860 No, no, I'm not going to lie.

00:10:58.820 Man will buy promise rings still.

00:11:00.300 It's never going to happen.

JustPearlyThings - July 19, 2023

Her Delusion Is UNMATCHED

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