JustPearlyThings - June 10, 2023


Her Delusion Knows No Bounds

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Abby Henry Ford Pearl
Things Got HEATED with Pearl And THIS Modern Woman He DESTROYED Her With One TRUTH

Episode Stats


Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

211.98

Word count

2,316

Sentence count

257

Harmful content

Misogyny

2

sentences flagged

Toxicity

1

sentences flagged

Hate speech

2

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about the generational curse of not being a millionaire by the time you're 30 years old, and how to overcome it. We also talk about what it means to be a good parent, and why it's important to have a good relationship with your kids.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Can I just say one thing please? Babe you know you're saying you're not in
00:00:04.320 competition my daughter's gonna be 18 in July so you really think that you're
00:00:08.580 gonna have the same sort of the same energy that's what she's just saying
00:00:12.060 the same energy and the same drive and the same opportunities that my 18 year
00:00:15.660 daughter because you're gonna be in the same gym. But would your daughter be
00:00:19.480 doing the same things that I'm doing now? Probably not if she wants to be
00:00:24.040 successful. She could be you know I mean she could be but we're gonna be in a
00:00:29.240 whole different category. I'm gonna be in the say the 40 to 45 she's gonna be 18 0.93
00:00:34.280 to 25. There is a lot of things a 40 and a 45 year old can do. This is my
00:00:39.260 point though for you it's like you're 39 it doesn't sound like it doesn't it
00:00:43.460 doesn't no no I'm I'm I'm just being honest it doesn't sound like it doesn't
00:00:47.600 sound like you're on track to be a millionaire it doesn't this doesn't
00:00:50.720 sound maybe you could have said that to Henry Ford. Okay okay it doesn't based on
00:00:57.680 the way you could based on your your what you're saying it doesn't sound like
00:01:00.920 you're on track you might be. I don't believe in statistics. Okay okay.
00:01:04.720 Yeah I don't. But business business okay okay I'll give you something business
00:01:10.820 people usually believe in statistics. You're gonna look at your market you're
00:01:15.240 gonna look at the people you're selling you believe in statistics. If you
00:01:18.300 want to be a millionaire you probably should believe in statistics. If you're a
00:01:21.680 kind of evolving person. So now now you're at the point it's like you you want a family with
00:01:26.660 the right guy and I can tell you do but it's like you're curving the guy that
00:01:30.380 you said would be a good relationship for you for 15 years. But attraction is
00:01:34.100 everything. No it's not. It is. It's not it is when you're younger but when you're
00:01:38.060 older it's like you you got to pick your poison. Do you have money that you could be
00:01:46.940 saved for retirement? Like what do we need 1.5 million to retire? Are you on track?
00:01:51.500 We're all working on it because I wasn't around the people that was going for those
00:01:56.120 goals. I had to take myself out of my environment. But this is the generational curse environment. 0.99
00:02:05.060 My dad grew up on the south side of Chicago with 13 kids. He didn't grow up in a good
00:02:11.360 environment. None of his siblings are successful. It's either you're gonna be
00:02:14.360 successful or you're not. And most of the time people that are going to be
00:02:17.300 millionaires are on the way by the time they're your age. Because you'd have to
00:02:21.320 compete with the people that are in their 20s and 30s and have way more energy
00:02:24.560 than you're going to. That does not matter because everybody's going to be
00:02:27.860 evolving differently. The reason I think some of us are a little bit taken
00:02:34.220 back is like you're obviously intelligent.
00:02:36.020 No, I'm just happy with my life.
00:02:38.520 Can I add something?
00:02:40.520 I really feel like with the cost of living, a million pound is nothing as well.
00:02:46.020 And that's the sad part. We're all gonna struggle.
00:02:49.020 Right. Okay. Sorry. Go ahead. Go ahead.
00:02:51.020 So sorry. I forgot your name.
00:02:52.720 Abby.
00:02:53.720 Abby. Abby. Abby, I apologize for that. You're obviously intelligent. Like there's no question.
00:02:59.620 We can tell like your thoughts are there. You look nice. You know, like you're a nice looking lady. 1.00
00:03:05.720 You're smart. Your verbal intelligence is fairly high. Like you think fast. You talk fast.
00:03:11.420 There's a lot of opportunity, a lot of potential. You recognize your own potential. You know that.
00:03:15.920 Yeah. So that's why I'm not involved by competition or anything because once you're in your ton of vision.
00:03:21.720 Let him finish. Let him finish. Let him finish.
00:03:22.720 You're happy.
00:03:23.220 The delusion, like you don't have to sell us anymore on that. We already know.
00:03:26.220 But you're smart. You're well spoken. You're beautiful. Like you have a lot of the potential is incredible.
00:03:33.020 The potential is incredible. But, but there's the, I had this situation, this situation, this situation, this situation.
00:03:39.820 Now Pearl's dad, one of 13, certainly didn't grow up very privileged, right?
00:03:43.820 Tell you guys me, like real simple. Like I grew up as a Jew in the Soviet Union, which was not a happy place for Jews.
00:03:49.520 We immigrated to Canada in 92, which we're eating at the food bank. And then here, here, here's what happened to me.
00:03:56.520 I'll tell you guys a quick story and I hope it's interesting, right?
00:03:58.620 I was rollerblading like a complete loser, rollerblading like four or five kilometers to go from my parked car on the highway to my university because I couldn't afford the 75 cents a day they were charging for parking at my university.
00:04:13.120 Because I was paying my own school. So I was rollerblading. I would park on the highway and I would rollerblade like a good hour to get to my university campus. 0.93
00:04:20.820 And somebody saw me do that and they go, wow, you're so motivated. You know, I can see you like you want to stay in shape, blah, blah, blah.
00:04:27.220 And I'm too embarrassed to tell this person I'm just fricking poor. Like I can't afford the 75 cents.
00:04:32.620 But you're motivated.
00:04:33.820 But, but here, but here's the thing. I was lucky because I met a mentor, somebody that said, Hey, you know, you want to do better than this? I was like, yeah.
00:04:41.820 And that's a dangerous thing. I was like 19 or 20. It's a dangerous thing. And this person said to me, Hey, I work on this company.
00:04:46.620 And what this person was doing is selling encyclopedias door to door. And they said, you can go do this. And I, that's, that's what I did for six years.
00:04:53.620 How I paid for university. And I got like two degrees by selling encyclopedias door to door for six years. Luckily, fortunately for me, I met a mentor that saw my potential, saw my energy.
00:05:05.120 And I was delusional because whatever I was doing, I couldn't afford 75 cents for parking. So I knew that I was delusional because what I wanted was not what I had in my life. Fair enough.
00:05:13.920 I'm going to give a plug. So that's what we do at our company. 53% of our salespeople make six figures within 18 months. 53%.
00:05:22.620 The reason I plug us here is lgb.com. Really simple. What you need is like to be around somebody that's actually done what you want to do and not make up stories of how it works. Like there are people that have done what you want to do. Find those people and they will be so happy, happy to mentor you because that's what we do in our company, isn't it?
00:05:41.720 What makes you think I'm not in those group of people? What makes you think I am not evolving around those people? The answer is results.
00:05:48.520 But my journey actually started properly at 26 years old when I moved to London.
00:05:54.520 That's 13 years ago.
00:05:55.520 But I still had to educate myself. I came here with £108 in my pocket. Tell me how I'm going to sort myself out, get my house accrued.
00:06:03.520 I kind of understand her. I understand her. I'm going to let him go. I don't think he's talked yet.
00:06:09.520 To your point, you were talking about how you came here with £100.
00:06:13.520 I immigrated from Bulgaria with my parents and we lived in a single room. It was just a single room, the three of us.
00:06:22.520 And right now I'm 21 and just like you, I wanted to do better for myself because I was an electrician and I wasn't happy with how things were going.
00:06:32.520 And I joined and all of a sudden I'm meeting high net worth individuals on a daily basis and I'm improving myself.
00:06:40.520 And you're here saying I had to take myself from the toxic situations that I had in my life.
00:06:47.520 Of course, yes. But everyone deals with them. So that's really an excuse that you tell yourself.
00:06:52.520 That's true. But can I say something? For you can look like an excuse. Yeah.
00:06:56.520 But what you're trying to say here, you had still your parents on your back.
00:07:00.520 You came with your parents on a single room, but you were with your parents.
00:07:04.520 You were not by yourself. You were not providing food by yourself.
00:07:08.520 You were not paying your bills by yourself. You were not looking around.
00:07:12.520 I was. I was. Yeah. Okay.
00:07:15.520 So I understand her. I understand her because I get it. She, I don't know your past, but before moving to London, maybe you didn't, maybe you were just, I don't know.
00:07:29.520 You're going through life, the difficulties of learning.
00:07:31.520 I was a recruitment consultant.
00:07:32.520 Well, I don't know.
00:07:33.520 Yeah, no, I'm telling you.
00:07:34.520 But you came London and the thing is, I get it because some people, they don't see as, let's just go for it.
00:07:40.520 Some people want to better themselves and educate themselves. And so that they know how to intellectually grow.
00:07:46.520 And I can see her doing that.
00:07:48.520 The people that are successful don't educate themselves. They just do.
00:07:51.520 Exactly.
00:07:52.520 They don't, they don't spend time thinking.
00:07:54.520 Some people.
00:07:55.520 Some people.
00:07:56.520 Some people.
00:07:57.520 Some people don't even know that though.
00:07:58.520 Some people don't even know that.
00:07:59.520 Yes.
00:08:00.520 Yes.
00:08:01.520 How am I 21?
00:08:02.520 And I already know this.
00:08:03.520 But not everyone is the same.
00:08:04.520 Because you have the right education, bro.
00:08:07.520 Yes.
00:08:08.520 I don't, I don't have education though.
00:08:10.520 No, I'm saying you have the right people around you.
00:08:12.520 To educate you.
00:08:13.520 Do you know what I'm trying to say?
00:08:14.520 No, everyone's got guidance.
00:08:16.520 But you, but you choose, but okay.
00:08:18.520 At 18, that's an excuse.
00:08:20.520 But at 40, you pick who you surround yourself with.
00:08:22.520 I'll give you an example.
00:08:24.520 One time I decided I wanted more rich friends.
00:08:26.520 I literally was just like, my friends are too broke.
00:08:28.520 I'm a bunch of brokies.
00:08:29.520 Yeah.
00:08:30.520 Me too.
00:08:31.520 And so, you know, I lived, I lived in Milwaukee at the time.
00:08:34.520 And I worked, I worked a sales job.
00:08:35.520 So I was like, you know what?
00:08:36.520 I want to just see if I can call some of these numbers and see if any of these executives,
00:08:40.520 because I definitely, I was trying to sell copiers, then I'm going to meet with me.
00:08:43.520 But I was like, I want to see if they'll get coffee with me.
00:08:45.520 And just like, and see if they can mentor me, ask them about their success.
00:08:49.520 I got three C-level executives of multimillion dollar companies to literally sit down,
00:08:54.520 spend 30 minutes with me just by asking.
00:08:56.520 And then another time, another time, another time, this is for a YouTube video, right?
00:09:02.520 I was just bored one day.
00:09:03.520 And, you know, people will always say it's because I'm a girl or because of this or because
00:09:07.520 of that, whatever.
00:09:08.520 But like, honestly, I feel like I could do this with anyone.
00:09:11.520 I did this for a YouTube video.
00:09:13.520 I didn't have a job because I quit my job to be a TikToker. 1.00
00:09:15.520 I know.
00:09:16.520 And yeah, I quit.
00:09:18.520 I was working in sales and I was doing quite well, but I just quit it to do, to do TikTok.
00:09:22.520 And I moved home with my parents.
00:09:24.520 And I was like, maybe I'll see if I could find a job in a day.
00:09:27.520 So I went to this rich neighborhood and it's by Chicago.
00:09:30.520 It's like where all the rich people are.
00:09:31.520 And I was like, I wonder if I go door to door.
00:09:33.520 I like snuck into the gated area.
00:09:34.520 I know.
00:09:35.520 And I was like, I wonder if I go door to door in this neighborhood and just ask people for
00:09:39.520 a job.
00:09:40.520 One day I got an interview for a sales job.
00:09:43.520 Now I didn't want the job.
00:09:44.520 So I didn't end up taking it.
00:09:45.520 So I was just trying to do YouTube.
00:09:46.520 But, but the point is like, it's all about like, you can, you have two choices in life.
00:09:51.520 Everything can be an excuse.
00:09:53.520 I haven't made any excuses though.
00:09:55.520 But you have, you've made excuses the whole time.
00:09:56.520 I came, I came here 13 years ago.
00:09:58.520 I was learning.
00:09:59.520 I only had a hundred dollars in my pocket.
00:10:01.520 How is that an excuse?
00:10:02.520 Is that not involving?
00:10:03.520 But it is because honestly the people, and I'm telling you, I'm around these people.
00:10:06.520 The people that are really successful, they don't talk about that.
00:10:09.520 They just talk about what they're doing.
00:10:10.520 They're so excited about this next project, this, this, and this.
00:10:13.520 Yeah.
00:10:14.520 I'm really, I'm excited about all the projects that I've got going on.
00:10:16.520 And maybe you are, but I'm saying the way you've represented yourself in this conversation
00:10:20.520 is it's always an excuse.
00:10:22.520 No, I wouldn't say that.
00:10:23.520 I think excuse is a very harsh word you're actually using.
00:10:27.520 But it's, it's, it's, it's describing what it is.
00:10:29.520 Because why are you saying it's a bit harsh?
00:10:30.520 It's describing, wait, wait.
00:10:31.520 It's describing outcomes.
00:10:32.520 And it's like, you've had 13 years.
00:10:34.520 Outcomes I had to deal with?
00:10:36.520 Everyone's got stuff to deal with.
00:10:38.520 What did you have to deal with at 26?
00:10:40.520 Did you leave home with nobody?
00:10:43.520 I came to this country by myself.
00:10:45.520 Well, okay.
00:10:46.520 Alone.
00:10:47.520 I didn't know anyone in this country.
00:10:48.520 Mm-hmm.
00:10:49.520 So, I mean, have other people had it harder?
00:10:51.520 Did you have it harder?
00:10:52.520 Sure.
00:10:53.520 I know people in worse situations that made more.