Her feelings got hurt after she learnt this
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about why men tend to like younger women and why women like older men. We also talk about how dating apps are changing the dating game and why you should be in touch with someone younger than you.
Transcript
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You were saying people are swiping 18-year-old girls.
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Women are attracted to a guy that can protect and provide.
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A man hits his financial stride in his, like, 40s or 50s.
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Men tend to be attracted to fertility in youth.
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I don't think most guys, like, want to date an 18-year-old super.
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Like, I don't talk to a lot of guys in real life that say, like,
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Like, it seems to be more like 22 to 28 seems to be what guys I talk to
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But, yeah, I mean, typically men go for fertility in youth.
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That's why they call it forever 21, not forever 50.
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But I think as society becomes more perpetuated on how people look,
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younger girls aren't going for us old guys because I know in myself,
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like, I wouldn't go for someone super old because I couldn't take
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And I think society is becoming feminized in that aspect.
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I couldn't believe it because I was like, I don't know how many girls
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that want to date 50-year-olds, but that's what they're swiping on.
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But if it's on Tinder, then we have to consider that.
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So who do you get it for just to be a sugar baby?
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So you've got a bare foot here who's swiping on 18-year-olds.
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But it's because of the way people are using dating apps.
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People don't actually use dating apps to get married.
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But it's actually the number one way people meet today.
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Ladies and gentlemen, that's why we have issues.
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But I'm saying like, if that's the number one way long-term relationships are forming nowadays,
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and that's what men and women are swiping on, that says something.
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And some apps are a little different, but they're only different by like a couple years.
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When you're going on dating apps, you can actually be in touch with an 18-year-old,
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where in reality, if you're a 50-year-old man hanging around an 18-year-old, you're a weirdo.
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But the point is, in general, men tend to like younger women.
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But the exaggeration of the 18 is just showing it, that it's not very good.
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Because I think that these stats are things that they're part of what I would say a certain fantasy
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and idealization of what people think dating is.
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If we ask the married people, how did you meet your spouse?
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And then we go to the dating apps and say, okay, what ages are people swiping on?
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No, what that is doing is just showing how twisted it is.
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So, basically, there's a lot of men that are going looking for young girls online.
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It does matter because it's the same thing that keeps saying.
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If you've taken anything from this conversation, guys don't really care about age.
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Like, I think what you're trying to emphasize is that, like, for women, there's a lot more
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Like, when it's with men, it's not as attached.
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Like, as women get older, a lot of people think, oh, they're not as smart.
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In a way, because it displays that you're not as fertile.
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But actually, the average woman knows that herself.
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Because, I mean, it's just clear that you guys obviously put so much more attention,
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We spend $300,000 more in a lifetime on beauty products.
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Why do we get all of this stuff to look younger?
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But beautiful women get better men that pay for a nicer lifestyle.
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Also, are these guys even looking at their age?
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Because they could just be seeing young, good-looking, swipe right?
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You're more likely to be hot if you're younger.
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I mean, we all know those people that peaked in high school.
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And, like, you know now they look like a mini whale or a legal whale.
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So, like, this, you keep on saying the younger a girl is, the hotter she is.
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So, it's like, I genuinely don't think in hotness there's a massive, like, I actually think girls in their 20s, like, mid, like, just early 20s, mid-20s, late 20s, they look better than 18-year-olds.
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They know how to do, like, this idea that 18-year-olds, yeah, 18-year-olds look better than any girl in it.
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Yeah, but the date in that profile picture would just be, like, a boo-hoo dress or something.
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And, honestly, if you date an 18-year-old that doesn't look great, you can just influence her to dress how you think is better?
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I mean, they say it's, like, 18 to 28 is, like, when a woman's sexual peak is.
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And it's kind of, it seems to be kind of similar with the answers that the guys gave for the girls that they love.
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I mean, according to this date, like, it depends who you ask.
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But this said 50 was the number one age swiped right on.
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Anecdotally, I would guess mid-30s, early 40s, I would say.
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Because then, I mean, because you have all the girls that are younger than you.
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But I feel like the data is skewed, though, in the sense that from personal experience,
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So, there's probably, like, a smaller pool of, like, people probably above 25, 30,
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who are looking for certain serious, and there's a lot more, like, you know,
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you've got your computer and people in universities.
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So, there's, like, if there's going to be, like, I don't know, 40% of the total 100 in university,
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then chances are the 18-year-old, kind of, that makes more sense.
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I'm saying, in terms of people going for that, because I used, I think, Hinge, like, a couple months ago,
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I think my lower end was, like, 23, and you run out of options.
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But then, when you drop it down to 22, all of a sudden, it's just flooded, do you know what I mean?
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So, I think there's also some sort of skewing in terms of that statistics,
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because all the men here, for me, is just generally, like, 20.
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At the age that I'm at, I know that nearly every man that I know is going to be 22, 23,
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22 is a bit too young, but, like, 23 is, like, the ideal age.
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And then, the older you get, I guess, it just kind of stays around there and then goes up a bit.
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Completely, like, I don't know, like, more people that are young use dating apps.
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Like, more 18 to 21-year-olds use dating apps more than, you would say, like, a 28 to 32-year-old,
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because they're looking for, like, people roughly that age.
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And, like, I don't know, people that are younger use the internet more often and stuff.
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Like, you don't get, like, many 40-year-olds, like, on dating apps, I don't think, personally,
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It doesn't show, like, a complete, like, representation of all the different ages.
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I just think the point is that men tend to like younger women and women tend to like older men.
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Even if the data is a bit off by, like, five years, like, let's give it five, ten years,
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it's still, it's still the general conclusion is still going to be the same when it's 18 and 50.
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I kind of, let me tell you a truth that I must admit I agree with you now, Pearl.
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I always said that I want my man to be older than me, even if it's by one year,
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because that one year alone will be able to give this nice room where I can give him another sort of respect above me,
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So I need to find different ways to add to respect.
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It's not because I want his money, but because it will allow me to actually give him the respect that he is looking for as a man,
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Women tend to, like, a guy is five to seven years older than them.
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And then there's another study, which was closer to 22, where they asked men, like,
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when they found women the most attractive between the ages of, like, 18 and, like, 70,
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So it's, you know, different studies will give it, but it's generally for women between 18 and 25, roughly.
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Like, um, actually, it's more directed to my man at the back.
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Just on this whole, the baggage thing, like, you were like, oh, when they're older, there's baggage,
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And it's kind of like, and you were like, she's got issues, she's got life experiences and whatnot.
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And it's just from the perspective of, like, let's accept issues or quake baggage.
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Like, most of people's issues come from, like, in their younger years,
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like, their relationship with their parents, like, abuse that happens with, like, extreme cases,
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Like, just so you can get, I suppose my point is, you're here, you look for a younger girl
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because she's, I suppose, more of a clean slate.
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But what happens when you get, like, a younger girl and she's, like, gone through that sort of stuff
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or, like, has mental health problems or, do you get what I mean?
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And what I would say to that is to think of it like this.
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Let's say even if the case that they do experience that at a younger age,
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the more time I give them, they're going to still be in the dating pool.
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They're still going to have other experiences added on top of that.
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So I think of more, I think it more of, like, let me catch it at the shortest point.
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Because, sure, you could go through all those different traumas, whatever, whatever.
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But then I could be that cutting point for you.
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Instead of you going into five other different relationships,
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But it's, like, the more time I give you, the more that's going to be added on to that.
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So it's, like, let me just cut it while it's short.
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Because men will get more baggage the longer they live.
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I don't really think you, like, originally, I don't think you guys really care about that
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in the sense, like, because I think we have two, we have different type of baggage.
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That's what you would think, but that's not true according to the data.
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You know, felons, violent felons reproduce more than non-violent felons.
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I feel like when the guys are talking about baggage and when the women are talking about baggage,
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I feel like the word, the definition of that word is slightly different.
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Yeah, when you're saying baggage, I feel like I understand you.
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But when you're saying baggage, I feel like you're talking about something else.
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I'm saying kids, I'm saying a lot of past relationships, I'm saying trauma that I could
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I don't think, I don't personally think that men with kids is baggage, but I think women
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with kids are baggage for men because you guys got to provide for the kid, the path to
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I just don't think if a man's in a certain position that you want him to be, and if he's
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