JustPearlyThings - November 10, 2023


Her Hypergamy Got EXPOSED In REAL TIME


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Length

8 minutes

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204.19891

Word count

1,741

Sentence count

244

Harmful content

Misogyny

22

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Toxicity

25

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Hate speech

10

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss height and beauty standards in the dating world. We also discuss how to approach women online and in real life, and how to get the most out of a potential partner. We also talk about dating in general and why women find you attractive at a certain height.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Say either your boyfriend now or your last boyfriend, let's say.
00:00:05.000 How tall is he?
00:00:07.440 Just an irrelevant height.
00:00:11.980 Let's say.
00:00:13.160 Come on, come on, be honest.
00:00:15.020 Hypothetically, I would not tend to tip if he go below six foot.
00:00:18.780 Okay, so six foot.
00:00:19.920 How much money does he make?
00:00:21.560 Typically rich, but...
00:00:24.100 Okay. 0.92
00:00:25.840 Hypothetically.
00:00:26.760 Would you say he's good looking?
00:00:29.280 Very.
00:00:29.520 This is the thing.
00:00:30.800 That's very subjective, isn't it?
00:00:32.480 Because for me...
00:00:33.320 But the pause is telling.
00:00:34.360 Okay, okay.
00:00:35.140 I know.
00:00:35.560 It's true.
00:00:36.340 The clarification is telling.
00:00:38.620 I'll tell you why.
00:00:39.140 Okay, fine, fine. 0.99
00:00:39.980 Let's just say he's ugly, even if he's ugly. 0.99
00:00:42.020 Yes, to you. 0.99
00:00:42.860 Six foot.
00:00:43.200 I don't believe he is, but let's just say he is.
00:00:46.440 Just for stats.
00:00:47.560 Possibly, yeah.
00:00:47.900 For stats.
00:00:48.580 Okay, so this, does he make over six figures?
00:00:53.940 You said rich, so I don't know.
00:00:55.300 What is rich to you?
00:00:56.140 This is the thing.
00:00:56.980 He's a ballpark figure, isn't it?
00:00:58.140 To one person's rich.
00:00:59.300 Give me, okay, okay.
00:01:00.240 He's poor.
00:01:00.660 Over six figures. 0.98
00:01:01.640 He's a midget. 1.00
00:01:02.160 He's poor. 0.97
00:01:05.000 She's cupping out.
00:01:06.540 No, come on. 0.85
00:01:07.180 Don't cap out.
00:01:08.060 Be honest.
00:01:08.520 Be honest.
00:01:09.020 Just to say he's of average height and of average income.
00:01:11.020 Let's go.
00:01:11.200 Okay, okay.
00:01:12.140 No, no.
00:01:12.520 I want you to be honest.
00:01:13.540 I don't want to say let's just say.
00:01:14.880 I just want, I want to have an honest, like a real conversation.
00:01:17.220 But we're a hypothetical person, aren't we?
00:01:18.520 No, no.
00:01:19.160 Yeah.
00:01:19.760 Because she's single. 0.99
00:01:20.840 She's a missing person.
00:01:21.500 What's the point?
00:01:22.240 What's the point?
00:01:22.820 I know you're not answering the question because I'm going to prove a point.
00:01:26.400 You said over six foot.
00:01:27.560 Even by that alone, you're only going for 15% of guys.
00:01:30.840 15% of men are over six foot.
00:01:32.560 This is general because I have had partners of different heights.
00:01:37.060 And they're probably top 10% good looking because women find 80% of men ugly.
00:01:42.080 Depends on your perception of good looking.
00:01:44.020 It's not depends.
00:01:44.900 It's not depends.
00:01:45.500 Of course it is.
00:01:46.120 Some people might think I'm hideous.
00:01:47.820 Some people might think I'm attractive. 0.94
00:01:48.860 No, there's nobody thinking you're hideous.
00:01:50.760 No, women tend to, so they've replicated these. 1.00
00:01:53.480 Beauty is more objective than you.
00:01:54.680 Yeah, they've replicated.
00:01:56.020 Oh, thanks, guys.
00:01:57.020 They have replicated these studies and like dating events.
00:02:00.800 So like when people go one-on-one and do like speed dating, you can even see these studies
00:02:06.800 in real time if you watch like The Bachelor or The Bachelorette, if you watch any of those
00:02:10.740 Love Island shows, they're always competing for the same guys.
00:02:14.160 I've had some guys that people think are actually hideous looking and I think they're the sexiest
00:02:19.340 thing, but...
00:02:20.780 Yeah, we can't really go...
00:02:22.520 But that's because they're probably rich.
00:02:24.680 Don't play with us.
00:02:25.540 That's because they're probably rich.
00:02:26.240 Guys, guys.
00:02:26.680 No, but even if there's a little bit of a disagreement, if you think...
00:02:30.800 Oh, he's all right looking, he's still in the top 20% of men.
00:02:35.800 The reality is, if women really thought beauty was subjective, women won't be swiping right 0.99
00:02:43.220 5% of the time on Tinder.
00:02:45.120 This is the thing, when you give someone, it's more than just looks, yeah.
00:02:48.680 You need to have that sex appeal and confidence.
00:02:50.520 For me, that's what I need, right?
00:02:51.800 But the reality is dating apps tell the truth when it comes to beauty standards.
00:02:55.400 Well, I'm telling you my opinion.
00:02:57.440 I've never been on Tinder.
00:02:58.840 But guys, you could do the same thing with Instagram.
00:03:02.040 You could do...
00:03:02.480 Everyone has Instagram here, right?
00:03:03.720 I'm assuming that's how you got recruited, right?
00:03:05.740 By the way, I would say what they just said is an argument for people doing cold approach,
00:03:10.160 like approaching real life.
00:03:11.180 I mean, maybe you disagree, Paul, because you'll say the real life studies sort of bear out the
00:03:15.640 online stats.
00:03:16.440 But I do think when you approach real life, you tend to get a few additional points as a dude.
00:03:20.200 Yeah, definitely.
00:03:21.200 You're not going to get 100%.
00:03:22.200 You're not going to get 100%.
00:03:23.200 It's a completely different interaction.
00:03:24.960 Because I feel like...
00:03:25.960 In a picture, you might not be...
00:03:26.960 You might not be phylogenic.
00:03:27.960 To that point, any guy who is confident enough to approach a woman in public is probably top 0.92
00:03:33.620 10% of men because he has been doing it.
00:03:35.660 No, not true.
00:03:36.400 I'll tell you why.
00:03:37.720 I'll tell you why.
00:03:38.660 A guy who is not attractive and who doesn't get women is not just going to, out of the
00:03:43.360 blue, approach a beautiful woman. 0.92
00:03:44.880 Lies! 0.92
00:03:45.200 Because I'm telling you, that's the fact.
00:03:47.600 You guys don't live the life of a man, I'm telling you.
00:03:50.720 King, we live the life of women that men approach.
00:03:52.920 Yes.
00:03:53.920 And I'm telling you that the men that approach you have been successful at approaching other
00:04:00.480 women. 0.81
00:04:00.780 I have children.
00:04:00.800 I have men.
00:04:02.280 Allegedly.
00:04:02.880 Uncles.
00:04:03.280 Because sometimes...
00:04:04.320 Okay, okay, okay.
00:04:05.060 Okay, I have a question.
00:04:08.080 So you really think that if a man has approached 100 women and all of them have rejected him,
00:04:12.640 you would accept him?
00:04:13.780 No.
00:04:14.320 It's possible.
00:04:15.200 It's possible.
00:04:16.020 It's actually impossible.
00:04:17.600 Why?
00:04:18.040 I'll tell you why.
00:04:19.040 I never...
00:04:19.440 For the fact that 100 women... 1.00
00:04:21.380 No.
00:04:21.800 Unless you're telling me, think about it, think about it like this.
00:04:24.180 It's not impossible.
00:04:24.760 We get chatted up all the time.
00:04:26.420 King, Pearl wanted to say something.
00:04:27.880 What did you want to say, Pearl?
00:04:30.160 So, question. 0.98
00:04:32.120 I like ugly men, by the way. 0.98
00:04:33.560 Just seen it. 0.99
00:04:33.980 Who here?
00:04:34.360 Who here has had a boyfriend that's cheated on them?
00:04:37.840 Cheat.
00:04:38.560 Okay.
00:04:39.060 Probably.
00:04:39.520 All right.
00:04:40.340 Everyone? 1.00
00:04:41.060 Shit, me too. 1.00
00:04:41.820 All right. 1.00
00:04:42.980 We're sharing...
00:04:43.620 That's the point.
00:04:44.220 We're sharing men.
00:04:45.080 We're literally sharing men.
00:04:46.780 Yeah.
00:04:47.400 But who has cheated on their man? 1.00
00:04:49.340 Mm.
00:04:50.220 Right.
00:04:50.540 When I was young.
00:04:51.380 When I was young.
00:04:52.120 I was young, but I cheated.
00:04:54.180 Look, if we want to argue that women... 1.00
00:04:55.660 I was not young.
00:04:56.580 If we want to argue...
00:04:58.060 If we want to argue that women are promiscuous, this is the show. 1.00
00:05:01.380 I'm just saying everyone cheats.
00:05:02.680 I can actually get to finish my class by the...
00:05:05.340 No, no, no.
00:05:05.900 But the point, the point, the point is, the point is, it's still a small percentage of men
00:05:10.740 that we are going after.
00:05:12.120 That is the point.
00:05:12.980 Yes.
00:05:13.200 And my point is, you are lying to your friend.
00:05:16.060 You're lying to women. 1.00
00:05:17.280 I'm not.
00:05:17.580 I'm not.
00:05:17.900 I'm also lying to you.
00:05:20.340 What's the lie?
00:05:21.120 What's the lie?
00:05:21.560 What's the lie?
00:05:22.120 Right now, with the way society is set up, you can't...
00:05:25.960 It's not...
00:05:26.420 I don't call it lying.
00:05:27.880 It's the way that society is set up, you can't tell somebody that they're unattractive or you
00:05:32.420 need to go and use weight or...
00:05:34.160 Because, no, you can't do...
00:05:35.160 But she's not unattractive.
00:05:36.280 She's beautiful.
00:05:36.820 But the problem...
00:05:37.500 Yeah, exactly.
00:05:38.320 And that's the problem.
00:05:39.460 Because you tell everybody they're beautiful.
00:05:40.980 But the problem you're having is...
00:05:44.020 But I'm saying, like, you need to be honest with women.
00:05:46.980 And I'm saying, I don't understand why you keep arguing for the exception.
00:05:49.680 No, but I was honest. 0.91
00:05:50.540 I told her she's fat. 1.00
00:05:51.720 I said that.
00:05:52.360 Okay, but would you also be able to tell her that the majority of men...
00:05:56.160 Oh, you're beautiful.
00:05:56.760 If a man sees you on your Tinder and he sees your body shape, because you show it on your
00:06:02.240 pictures, and he wants to go on a date with you, when he sees you and he'll laugh, he'll
00:06:05.780 be like, oh, she's fat. 1.00
00:06:06.760 No, you can see you're fat. 0.87
00:06:08.140 But her pool of potential dudes would be bigger if she slimmed down a bit. 1.00
00:06:13.100 And that's by the by.
00:06:14.300 But the point I'm making is when she... 1.00
00:06:16.060 If she wants to maximise her opportunities...
00:06:18.540 Her question to me was, do you think when they meet me, they'll be like, oh, she's fat? 0.99
00:06:21.940 And I said, no, because they can see you're fat from your pictures.
00:06:24.680 And if...
00:06:24.980 Sorry, babe. 0.99
00:06:25.240 And they've still chose to go on a date with you, so they must like fat girls. 0.98
00:06:29.440 No, no, but that's not what I was... 0.59
00:06:31.440 I was referring to during this show. 0.87
00:06:33.880 I keep saying that men don't like fat chicks, and you keep arguing with me. 0.98
00:06:37.480 I said some men like fat chicks. 1.00
00:06:39.020 You're right. 0.97
00:06:39.400 You keep arguing with me for the exception, and I'm saying that's dishonest.
00:06:44.100 So if I say that...
00:06:44.860 If I say that, and I'll tell you why.
00:06:46.420 If I say that women like rich men, you know, you could say, but some women like broke men. 0.95
00:06:52.500 You know, that would be...
00:06:54.060 I've been the breadwinner in relationships.
00:06:57.040 I don't know if that's a flex.
00:07:00.260 But my question is, are you with them now?
00:07:03.840 No.
00:07:04.080 Exactly, exactly.
00:07:05.860 I'm not with rich guys.
00:07:06.880 I didn't either.
00:07:08.000 But my point, if they had the things you were looking for, you'd be with them.
00:07:13.060 Women don't leave the men that have the things they want. 1.00
00:07:15.260 Yeah, but money wasn't the thing.
00:07:16.260 And lack of money wasn't the thing.
00:07:17.760 It was obviously something...
00:07:18.480 And weight wasn't the thing.
00:07:18.940 It obviously was something else.
00:07:20.700 Because I'd still be able to...
00:07:21.280 Okay, tell me, what was it?
00:07:22.780 What was it?
00:07:23.720 What was it?
00:07:24.340 Okay, I know I want to hear.
00:07:25.260 What was it?
00:07:25.600 So the last main relationship I was in, I just found him a little bit emotionally detached.
00:07:30.500 Emotionally detached.
00:07:31.620 So this is what I call things women make up when they don't like the guy. 1.00
00:07:35.700 Because he doesn't do well enough.
00:07:38.040 I'm very tactile.
00:07:39.140 I'm very emotional.
00:07:40.260 I'm very loving.
00:07:41.160 And I just found him not to be that type of person.
00:07:43.120 Doesn't make him a bad person.
00:07:44.480 Just makes us very different people.
00:07:46.320 And that's okay.
00:07:47.380 You can come to that conclusion.
00:07:48.880 Without knowledge.
00:07:51.520 Yeah.
00:07:52.000 How long were you together for?
00:07:53.240 Doesn't make him come to that conclusion without knowledge.
00:07:55.180 Yeah.
00:07:55.520 Okay.
00:07:56.460 I gave it a good run.
00:07:58.400 We gave it good innings.
00:07:59.400 It didn't work.
00:07:59.960 It's okay.
00:08:00.520 So obviously, come on stripper, how long was you... 1.00
00:08:03.860 How long has been your longest relationship?
00:08:09.600 About six hours.
00:08:11.840 Do you like...
00:08:12.800 About six hours, 49 minutes when I was flying from New York to London.
00:08:17.660 And most of it was conducted in the...
00:08:20.560 Toilets.
00:08:21.040 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:08:25.700 The physical intimacy didn't last for the six hours, by the way.
00:08:28.220 I think it's just that.
00:08:31.180 But...
00:08:31.520 But...