JustPearlyThings - August 04, 2023


High Value Men Are REPAULSED By This


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7 minutes

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1,693

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106

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26

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19

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In this episode, we discuss red flags on a first date and how to avoid them. We also talk about what to look for in a potential partner and what to do if you find a red flag on a date.

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00:00:00.000 Red flag on a first date.
00:00:02.300 If we're talking about surface level red flags,
00:00:05.380 it has to be not taking care of yourself.
00:00:08.380 So the way that would show up on a first date would be drinking, vaping.
00:00:13.420 Yeah, those would be the obvious ones.
00:00:14.680 Okay, and will you ghost after or will you send her a text
00:00:18.520 like you're not interested anymore?
00:00:21.800 Either one.
00:00:23.140 Which one do you do more?
00:00:25.120 I don't really go on dates.
00:00:26.900 You don't go on any dates?
00:00:28.620 It has to break a major barrier to even get to that point.
00:00:32.940 So I'm not even risking, I'll never risk being on a date
00:00:36.420 and then finding out about the red flag.
00:00:38.320 You know what I mean?
00:00:38.640 I have to have a high level of confidence to even.
00:00:41.000 So you have to be friends with her first before you take her on a date?
00:00:44.240 Not to say friends, but be familiarized.
00:00:46.420 Oh, you have to know her.
00:00:47.540 You wouldn't meet her off an app or anything?
00:00:49.580 No.
00:00:50.120 I mean, you could meet, but it'd have to be some investigations
00:00:53.860 and some interrogations.
00:00:55.060 You'll go through her IG or whatever.
00:00:57.060 Speak a good amount, understand, yeah.
00:00:59.420 What is this person about?
00:01:00.700 Okay.
00:01:01.480 And no ghosting?
00:01:03.780 It's like 50-50?
00:01:05.460 Yeah, either one.
00:01:06.220 No affinity to...
00:01:07.960 Could be ghosted, could be very straightforward,
00:01:10.540 and just let them know.
00:01:11.840 Dimitri.
00:01:12.680 Back in the day.
00:01:13.760 Well, so again, it's like how you meet the person matters.
00:01:16.520 Like, for example, today in 2023,
00:01:18.620 I find that some women... 1.00
00:01:20.120 I'm seeing the internet, 1.00
00:01:21.340 and it appears some women have penises. 1.00
00:01:22.440 That would be a very big red flag. 0.99
00:01:24.880 An immediate disqualification.
00:01:27.620 But if I were to be honest,
00:01:29.080 like, because I can talk more honestly now,
00:01:31.440 because, like, I have no skin in the game,
00:01:32.680 it's just be, she's fat? 1.00
00:01:34.040 Like, that's just, like, sorry,
00:01:35.420 but, like, you made a critical error
00:01:37.060 in your decision-making,
00:01:37.940 and I see you as a risk
00:01:39.680 to any potential anything, period.
00:01:42.380 And I can go much deeper into that,
00:01:43.740 but that's, like, a...
00:01:44.440 That's a miscalculation on your part,
00:01:45.780 so it's a no.
00:01:46.700 Okay, so...
00:01:48.160 But you wouldn't know if she was fat 1.00
00:01:49.560 before the date.
00:01:50.480 Well, again, I'm saying it's, like,
00:01:51.720 the context of what do I know,
00:01:53.000 because, like, I can see, obviously,
00:01:55.020 like, you can get catfished into that,
00:01:56.460 so if you misrepresented yourself,
00:01:58.060 that's, like, you're immediately
00:01:59.340 an untrustworthy person.
00:02:00.740 What was, like, a red flag on a first date?
00:02:03.220 Like, it's going well,
00:02:04.100 and then she... 1.00
00:02:04.560 But she did... 0.99
00:02:06.460 My goodness, man.
00:02:09.280 I mean, how transparent...
00:02:10.080 I mean, again, like, there's...
00:02:10.900 You could list them all.
00:02:12.000 Go on.
00:02:12.540 Like, the thing for me is, like,
00:02:15.400 transparently, like, I'm a salesman.
00:02:17.080 And, like, I am.
00:02:17.840 I am a salesman.
00:02:18.560 And, like, as a salesman,
00:02:19.580 my goal is always to close.
00:02:21.200 And so when I went on a date,
00:02:22.900 like, transparently,
00:02:24.080 my goal was to get laid, 0.64
00:02:25.180 and it was specifically entirely
00:02:26.580 to get laid,
00:02:27.240 and everything I did
00:02:28.080 and the way I optimized my actions
00:02:29.440 through... 0.90
00:02:30.100 And that sounds like a psychopath,
00:02:31.240 but the way that I optimized my actions
00:02:32.960 through a number of iterations of dates
00:02:34.360 was, like, I want to get laid
00:02:35.300 on this date, right?
00:02:37.220 And, again, I'm going to get, like,
00:02:39.900 super castigated for this
00:02:40.960 in the comments.
00:02:41.540 Good.
00:02:42.080 Great.
00:02:42.480 Like, I had gone on enough dates
00:02:43.820 because I'd started approaching women,
00:02:45.540 and I started, like,
00:02:46.420 hey, what's your name?
00:02:47.240 Hey, I thought you were cute.
00:02:47.940 I wanted to say hi.
00:02:48.560 I'm not at the level
00:02:49.200 as these Rizlex guys now are,
00:02:51.120 but I was very passionate about that
00:02:52.680 because I like to make myself uncomfortable
00:02:54.340 and cross the barrier
00:02:55.320 into the new comfort zones, right?
00:02:57.140 Which is, I'm a salesman.
00:02:58.120 Like, how did I make
00:02:58.800 and how do I make money?
00:02:59.720 I pick up the phone,
00:03:00.460 I cold call,
00:03:01.200 and I learn to iterate, optimize,
00:03:02.720 and then transform time
00:03:03.800 and energy into money, right?
00:03:05.600 And I became extremely proficient
00:03:07.580 at, like, the meet and close.
00:03:09.320 Like, I'm going to meet you,
00:03:10.340 and, you know,
00:03:10.980 within about three hours
00:03:12.360 because I'm going to, you know,
00:03:13.360 just dilute time
00:03:14.340 through taking you to various venues,
00:03:15.980 whatever that stuff was at the time,
00:03:17.580 that's what's going to happen.
00:03:20.080 So I don't know if I could...
00:03:21.340 So maybe she stays the night,
00:03:23.340 but she did something 0.76
00:03:24.880 and made you not call her back.
00:03:26.100 I'm asking, like,
00:03:26.700 what would make you not call a girl back? 1.00
00:03:28.100 I think what happens is over time
00:03:30.820 is if you are successful,
00:03:32.100 that you start to notice
00:03:32.860 some pretty resounding patterns.
00:03:34.840 Like, if a girl says, 0.86
00:03:35.580 I never do this,
00:03:36.180 it means she always does it, you know?
00:03:38.380 So if a girl starts to give me signals 1.00
00:03:40.220 of virtue that I know
00:03:41.220 she's actually covering
00:03:41.960 for the fact that she is promiscuous, 0.99
00:03:44.260 which is very... 0.99
00:03:45.520 Okay, it is incredibly hypocritical
00:03:49.080 of me to say that.
00:03:49.880 Obviously, if I'm optimizing to get laid
00:03:51.560 and I'm saying,
00:03:52.080 well, if you do it,
00:03:52.720 then you're whatever,
00:03:53.400 and you're doing that, whatever, right?
00:03:55.300 But yeah, signals of non-purity
00:03:56.880 and non-chastity would be big.
00:03:59.360 One of the things that I absolutely...
00:04:00.360 Give me some examples other than that.
00:04:02.120 So if she says,
00:04:02.920 I never do this, what else?
00:04:03.960 Yeah, like, for example,
00:04:05.420 look, when you're in a context of a date,
00:04:07.260 like, she absolutely knows what's happening.
00:04:09.620 You're just trying to make it,
00:04:10.640 you know, seem like it's not happening,
00:04:12.300 even though it's like,
00:04:12.840 it just happened,
00:04:13.520 but you know, it's clearly happening.
00:04:15.600 You know, if a woman exhibits 0.99
00:04:16.740 more masculine behavior,
00:04:18.660 for example,
00:04:19.340 like, it's very clear that,
00:04:20.500 like, a woman that makes decisions 1.00
00:04:21.660 and acts like a man 0.95
00:04:22.460 is more promiscuous
00:04:23.680 and science has actually proven that 0.66
00:04:25.120 and backed that up as well.
00:04:26.860 But I'll say this,
00:04:27.640 one thing that really attracted me
00:04:28.960 to the woman that became my wife
00:04:31.100 is that it was very apparent to me
00:04:33.340 that she really wasn't
00:04:34.600 that experienced
00:04:35.620 in being seduced.
00:04:37.940 Like, it was very clear to me
00:04:39.480 because, and this is why,
00:04:40.820 this is where I have a divergence
00:04:42.080 with a lot of people
00:04:42.800 that follow your channel
00:04:43.560 because I'm generally
00:04:44.540 a pretty conservative guy, right?
00:04:46.500 But then guys,
00:04:47.420 and then you would say,
00:04:48.000 well, so you're saying
00:04:48.580 you should date to marry.
00:04:49.780 I'm like, no, as a man,
00:04:50.620 you should date to get laid 0.59
00:04:51.540 because you want to learn
00:04:53.060 about the nature of women,
00:04:54.180 understand the patterns
00:04:55.140 that they exhibit
00:04:55.680 and make yourself
00:04:56.540 the best version
00:04:57.220 for the woman
00:04:57.660 you'll eventually marry
00:04:58.500 and be dangerous
00:04:59.380 and have those options.
00:05:00.340 And a lot of guys are,
00:05:01.020 you can't say that,
00:05:01.720 you're just giving out your body.
00:05:02.820 It's like, no, guys,
00:05:03.780 nobody wants your body. 0.86
00:05:05.200 Like, you got to learn
00:05:06.080 how for a woman 0.99
00:05:06.640 to actually want you.
00:05:08.300 Like, that's a really difficult skill
00:05:10.420 to learn and a worthy one.
00:05:12.240 But for me, like,
00:05:13.320 if I can tell 0.80
00:05:14.060 that she's more promiscuous 0.90
00:05:15.360 and you can tell
00:05:16.600 those patterns very quickly
00:05:17.680 once you've seen enough times,
00:05:18.640 obviously that's like,
00:05:19.340 okay, I can't escalate.
00:05:20.660 But I may have kept her around 1.00
00:05:22.220 for other means and purposes, right?
00:05:24.640 Transparently.
00:05:25.200 Tell them about
00:05:25.920 the one girl you dated.
00:05:27.420 Well, so she was,
00:05:28.660 I mean, I got what I deserved. 0.75
00:05:29.900 She was a stripper, 1.00
00:05:30.600 but I was young at the time.
00:05:31.960 Yeah.
00:05:32.880 And she was like,
00:05:34.020 just, she actually approached me.
00:05:35.840 It was at the W Hotel
00:05:37.740 in Dallas, Texas.
00:05:38.740 I was living in Texas at the time
00:05:40.100 and there's a club
00:05:40.880 and like, I think the sub penthouse
00:05:42.080 or the penthouse floor
00:05:42.680 in the W Hotel.
00:05:44.360 And she came up to me 0.93
00:05:45.340 and we started talking.
00:05:46.100 I was just like,
00:05:46.620 oh my God, she's so hot. 0.98
00:05:48.160 And she was like,
00:05:48.920 to me, she was a 10.
00:05:49.960 Like, she just looked like,
00:05:51.340 I was like,
00:05:51.700 I was blown away
00:05:52.460 that she's talking to me.
00:05:53.760 And then I find out
00:05:55.160 she's a sports fan.
00:05:56.000 We go to a sporting event
00:05:56.980 and there's all these,
00:05:57.680 you know, players
00:05:58.520 in the arena playing,
00:06:01.340 whatever,
00:06:01.600 the sport.
00:06:02.440 And there was,
00:06:03.540 I think,
00:06:04.360 10 players on,
00:06:06.200 it was a hockey game
00:06:06.980 and she had like gone through
00:06:07.940 and she had slept
00:06:08.500 with eight of them.
00:06:09.580 No way.
00:06:10.320 Dude.
00:06:10.880 No way.
00:06:11.920 And then she started like,
00:06:13.260 this was after a few months
00:06:14.300 that we'd been like,
00:06:14.980 kind of seeing each other.
00:06:15.820 I was young
00:06:16.220 and then,
00:06:16.560 but she was so hot 1.00
00:06:17.520 and sexually, 0.95
00:06:18.160 she helped me grow so much
00:06:19.160 because she was so sexually,
00:06:20.500 like,
00:06:20.980 she was just like
00:06:21.660 taking me on a ride.
00:06:22.500 I was like,
00:06:22.760 this is,
00:06:23.080 I'm calling my friends,
00:06:23.920 guys,
00:06:24.140 this is the greatest thing
00:06:24.880 I've ever experienced.
00:06:25.700 It's amazing.
00:06:26.640 And she owns a house. 0.98
00:06:27.700 I don't know how she owns a house. 0.99
00:06:28.700 And it turns out,
00:06:29.080 I mean,
00:06:29.260 I was inexperienced.
00:06:30.120 This is what made me wake up.
00:06:31.160 I'm like,
00:06:31.400 I thought this was the greatest chick ever.
00:06:32.840 It's like,
00:06:33.080 no,
00:06:33.340 she owned a house
00:06:34.220 in the early 20s
00:06:35.080 because she was a stripper. 1.00
00:06:36.240 And then,
00:06:36.720 and then it came out
00:06:37.340 all the famous,
00:06:38.180 because she's asking me one time,
00:06:39.000 did you ever sleep with anyone famous?
00:06:40.200 So my other time,
00:06:40.780 I'm like,
00:06:41.060 no,
00:06:41.340 at that time I hadn't.
00:06:42.560 And then she's like,
00:06:43.340 oh,
00:06:43.620 I should tell you,
00:06:44.200 no,
00:06:44.340 I was this guy.
00:06:44.980 And then I realized that for her, 0.80
00:06:47.120 she was one of those groupie chugs 1.00
00:06:48.260 that like her,
00:06:49.120 her confidence grew
00:06:50.640 because she was able to get guys 1.00
00:06:52.100 that other women couldn't 1.00
00:06:53.620 because these guys actually
00:06:54.540 could reject women,
00:06:55.440 right?
00:06:55.980 And then I'm like,
00:06:56.840 and I'm like, 0.77
00:06:57.300 holy crap, 0.86
00:06:57.940 man, 0.98
00:06:58.160 like, 0.97
00:06:58.380 no wonder she's blowing my mind sexually. 1.00
00:07:00.120 And I realized right away,
00:07:01.200 I'm like,
00:07:01.400 oh,
00:07:01.520 I can't take her seriously anymore.
00:07:02.600 But I was infatuated
00:07:03.500 because I just,
00:07:04.260 you know,
00:07:04.440 I was in my early 20s.
00:07:06.240 And when a woman that's that hot 1.00
00:07:07.940 that she can sleep with
00:07:08.740 eight-less celebrities
00:07:09.520 is giving you some,
00:07:11.040 you're just like,
00:07:11.560 oh,
00:07:12.040 I'm living in a movie.
00:07:13.980 But,
00:07:14.380 but obviously like,
00:07:15.160 no,
00:07:15.400 as a wife,
00:07:16.100 like that,
00:07:16.420 that would be a terrible decision.