High Value Men DESIRE This Kind Of Woman…
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the age difference between men and women in relationships and what comes with age. What does it mean to be a man in a relationship? How old is too old for a woman and what does that mean for a man?
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things in a relationship looks will fade because if you ask me if women have an expiration date
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so do men like just because you can keep going like but but the difference is men don't expire
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the same way women do i would argue if men have an expiration date it's maybe 55 50 but if you
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look on dating apps what if you want the most swiped right age on um i think it's like plenty
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of fish or something for women guess what it is 18 18 and guess what it is for men probably 60
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because it's not for love not that no no but it's what we're attracted to don't okay are you attracted
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to a guy that has a good career he's hard working okay then what does that come with age that's true
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this is true but yeah you and are you are you are you attracted to a guy that's wiser than you that
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knows more about the world than you yeah in general yeah but men don't care about that they
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don't care about what you do for work they don't care about how wise you are about the world like
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they can they can men are kind of attracted to girls that are naive and and that comes with youth so
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we're just not attracted to the same things that's this is true and i feel like i'd say teachable
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instead of naive okay yeah well multiple multiple has like a manipulative flavor to it yeah but like
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if i can teach her about the reality of the world and she's gonna she's gonna like learn it
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conform way better if she's on my like if i can get her on my game plan we're all gonna win
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right if she's like combating me and fighting it because you've got all this other programming in
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her head already yeah we're gonna be fighting each other the whole way that's it and if she's like
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30 going on 40 so many other people have tried to teach her stuff so by the time she comes around
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to me but it's just oh i got to teach you you're gonna tell me everything but then that also
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comes down to obviously we're not talking about age but when you're having a partner one of my
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things is um i say to my friends before we got here do you have the desire to want to unlearn
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some of your bs behavior do you have that desire as a friend as a family member as a whatever because
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some things may not be serving you the way you think it does so for example the young lady over there
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said um communication effective communication the way she receives the way she delivers he may
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decide that you know what i'm not saying he needs to conform to um her throwing her toys out the car
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to want an argument whatever but he understands that maybe that is means that she just wants a bit
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of attention so i'm not even going to feed into that i'm going to go and uh um give her a hug
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whatever it is that he knows gets her to a place of comfort where she feels safe whatever it is that
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so that again you're understanding her communication that is the worst advice ever
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what to unlearn bad behavior no like when you said um if if she's doing all of that then he just
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i'm not saying he needs to give a hug i'm just saying whatever works for her no but whatever works for
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her is not what he should do because because what happens is is just like the child analogy
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when a child through tantrum and then you suit their just give them what they want you literally
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tell them that whenever they want something they can get it by doing that so yeah literally teaching
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her bad behaviors right so then back to my original point was do we have the willingness to unlearn
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so perhaps it's the open conversation that needs to happen at a later stage or there and then if
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he wants to have that conversation can he effectively communicate that can they both take it in and
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understand because you can listen and hear something but you may not understand it so you can just say
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yes okay did you hear me yeah did you understand me but then if i drill that into you then maybe that's
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what she meant it's a nag no you know so again unlearning bad behavior or unlearning bad habits that
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were installed programmed society outside social media whatever it is that's one of the things we
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have to be willing to unlearn things that don't serve you or serve the purpose of whatever the
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relationship is i'll just say though i'll just say though there are some things that men can actually
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tolerate in women but the worst thing is is that particular behavior of wanting to nag or argue it's
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even in the bible it's better for a man to live on the corner of his roof than to live in a house
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with a quarrelsome wife if that's in the bible then like every religion on earth has actually
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have something to say about things like this so it goes to tell you that there are just some things
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that women should actually work on and this is the problem a lot of women don't want to work on
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some issues and they just want to like we said they feel entitled and they feel like they deserve this
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but the reality is you can only get what you earn and what you work for so i don't know
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um king could you pull up the video i sent you i don't know if you have it i'm gonna ask them one
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more thing though um did you guys give your icks you did you did did you give your ick okay what's
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your ick it's mainly like a lady that is always negative and it's always moment i'm a very positive
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individual but you know what it is for me it's all about understanding each other and i could be
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as happy as ever and be around someone that is so not at peace with themselves and they use another
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person to lean on for comfort and this is why i always try and tell people even like with men and
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women everybody like work on yourself from the core from inside to then develop an understanding
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about yourself have a relation with yourself to then put yourself out there to know that you're
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uncomfortable getting into a relationship because the negativity will consume and they always say
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when you're around somebody like you then become like that and i can't deal with it so i was like
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out with one lady one time and just nagging they're talking about someone else and negative about the
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ex and what he did and i'm like maybe you know i think i gotta go home i'm tired i got a migraine
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you get it so yeah that's it for me though that's that's the ick for me just the negativity and the
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the non-passion of wanting more for yourself and positivity so yeah um what do you think men should
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get out of marriage um out of marriage i think they should get companionship um but why you can
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get that out of a girlfriend why what a wife why a wife um okay so for me i'm kind of with her on the
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fact of like marriage is kind of like a gray area because that's kind of determined by the person
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because some people consider like relationships some people consider like a marriage as just a
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legal document so i think it's based on like kind of what you believe or feel about that sort of
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thing but i just feel like in a serious relationship or like um y'all are in a household together
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married whatever that's what i'm kind of referring to so i guess like the difference of companionship
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in a relationship versus a marriage is like you're being a homemaker you know we're making
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decisions together about children and you think men should make decisions with the wife um i think
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the that there should be a conversation but i definitely i think like i personally i would like
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a man who can lead so yeah like but i do want somebody who is not just going to like because i'm
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not your child so i don't want somebody who's like making every making decisions for me well why would
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he consult you if he's going to make the final decision anyway um because maybe as your wife i
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could offer you a different insight different perspective um you know i'm a grown woman too so
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you know i have some wisdom what if he doesn't want your advice he just he wants to make the decision
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then is that okay um yeah i would have to respect that but you know from there then you will
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understand that there might be a conversation or communication had to follow up it's just like
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any other decision that's made okay so he gets someone he can talk to about decisions he gets
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companionship he gets someone who's nurturing going to take care of your kids okay