JustPearlyThings - High Value Men DESIRE This Kind Of Woman…

00:00:00.000 things in a relationship looks will fade because if you ask me if women have an expiration date 1.00

00:00:04.980 so do men like just because you can keep going like but but the difference is men don't expire

00:00:12.100 the same way women do i would argue if men have an expiration date it's maybe 55 50 but if you

00:00:18.260 look on dating apps what if you want the most swiped right age on um i think it's like plenty

00:00:23.620 of fish or something for women guess what it is 18 18 and guess what it is for men probably 60

00:00:32.880 because it's not for love not that no no but it's what we're attracted to don't okay are you attracted

00:00:38.560 to a guy that has a good career he's hard working okay then what does that come with age that's true

00:00:45.080 this is true but yeah you and are you are you are you attracted to a guy that's wiser than you that

00:00:49.600 knows more about the world than you yeah in general yeah but men don't care about that they 1.00

00:00:54.300 don't care about what you do for work they don't care about how wise you are about the world like

00:00:59.960 they can they can men are kind of attracted to girls that are naive and and that comes with youth so

00:01:04.920 we're just not attracted to the same things that's this is true and i feel like i'd say teachable

00:01:09.700 instead of naive okay yeah well multiple multiple has like a manipulative flavor to it yeah but like

00:01:16.900 if i can teach her about the reality of the world and she's gonna she's gonna like learn it

00:01:20.920 conform way better if she's on my like if i can get her on my game plan we're all gonna win 0.99

00:01:27.100 right if she's like combating me and fighting it because you've got all this other programming in

00:01:31.300 her head already yeah we're gonna be fighting each other the whole way that's it and if she's like 1.00

00:01:36.200 30 going on 40 so many other people have tried to teach her stuff so by the time she comes around

00:01:39.960 to me but it's just oh i got to teach you you're gonna tell me everything but then that also

00:01:44.040 comes down to obviously we're not talking about age but when you're having a partner one of my

00:01:50.380 things is um i say to my friends before we got here do you have the desire to want to unlearn

00:01:57.400 some of your bs behavior do you have that desire as a friend as a family member as a whatever because

00:02:04.720 some things may not be serving you the way you think it does so for example the young lady over there

00:02:11.900 said um communication effective communication the way she receives the way she delivers he may

00:02:19.280 decide that you know what i'm not saying he needs to conform to um her throwing her toys out the car

00:02:24.460 to want an argument whatever but he understands that maybe that is means that she just wants a bit

00:02:29.480 of attention so i'm not even going to feed into that i'm going to go and uh um give her a hug

00:02:34.660 whatever it is that he knows gets her to a place of comfort where she feels safe whatever it is that

00:02:41.200 so that again you're understanding her communication that is the worst advice ever

00:02:46.040 what to unlearn bad behavior no like when you said um if if she's doing all of that then he just

00:02:54.580 i'm not saying he needs to give a hug i'm just saying whatever works for her no but whatever works for

00:02:59.360 her is not what he should do because because what happens is is just like the child analogy

00:03:04.540 when a child through tantrum and then you suit their just give them what they want you literally

00:03:11.160 tell them that whenever they want something they can get it by doing that so yeah literally teaching

00:03:16.360 her bad behaviors right so then back to my original point was do we have the willingness to unlearn

00:03:21.980 so perhaps it's the open conversation that needs to happen at a later stage or there and then if

00:03:27.820 he wants to have that conversation can he effectively communicate that can they both take it in and

00:03:33.660 understand because you can listen and hear something but you may not understand it so you can just say

00:03:38.680 yes okay did you hear me yeah did you understand me but then if i drill that into you then maybe that's

00:03:46.700 what she meant it's a nag no you know so again unlearning bad behavior or unlearning bad habits that 0.98

00:03:53.140 were installed programmed society outside social media whatever it is that's one of the things we

00:03:58.760 have to be willing to unlearn things that don't serve you or serve the purpose of whatever the

00:04:03.060 relationship is i'll just say though i'll just say though there are some things that men can actually

00:04:08.780 tolerate in women but the worst thing is is that particular behavior of wanting to nag or argue it's 1.00

00:04:13.860 even in the bible it's better for a man to live on the corner of his roof than to live in a house 0.51

00:04:18.100 with a quarrelsome wife if that's in the bible then like every religion on earth has actually

00:04:26.920 have something to say about things like this so it goes to tell you that there are just some things

00:04:31.220 that women should actually work on and this is the problem a lot of women don't want to work on 1.00

00:04:36.640 some issues and they just want to like we said they feel entitled and they feel like they deserve this

00:04:42.060 but the reality is you can only get what you earn and what you work for so i don't know

00:04:47.760 um king could you pull up the video i sent you i don't know if you have it i'm gonna ask them one

00:04:54.540 more thing though um did you guys give your icks you did you did did you give your ick okay what's

00:04:59.820 your ick it's mainly like a lady that is always negative and it's always moment i'm a very positive

00:05:07.380 individual but you know what it is for me it's all about understanding each other and i could be 0.97

00:05:13.200 as happy as ever and be around someone that is so not at peace with themselves and they use another

00:05:19.160 person to lean on for comfort and this is why i always try and tell people even like with men and

00:05:25.120 women everybody like work on yourself from the core from inside to then develop an understanding 1.00

00:05:31.540 about yourself have a relation with yourself to then put yourself out there to know that you're

00:05:35.640 uncomfortable getting into a relationship because the negativity will consume and they always say

00:05:41.000 when you're around somebody like you then become like that and i can't deal with it so i was like

00:05:46.180 out with one lady one time and just nagging they're talking about someone else and negative about the

00:05:51.700 ex and what he did and i'm like maybe you know i think i gotta go home i'm tired i got a migraine

00:05:59.500 you get it so yeah that's it for me though that's that's the ick for me just the negativity and the

00:06:04.500 the non-passion of wanting more for yourself and positivity so yeah um what do you think men should

00:06:11.320 get out of marriage um out of marriage i think they should get companionship um but why you can

00:06:21.040 get that out of a girlfriend why what a wife why a wife um okay so for me i'm kind of with her on the

00:06:27.540 fact of like marriage is kind of like a gray area because that's kind of determined by the person

00:06:32.560 because some people consider like relationships some people consider like a marriage as just a

00:06:38.060 legal document so i think it's based on like kind of what you believe or feel about that sort of

00:06:44.660 thing but i just feel like in a serious relationship or like um y'all are in a household together

00:06:50.120 married whatever that's what i'm kind of referring to so i guess like the difference of companionship

00:06:57.020 in a relationship versus a marriage is like you're being a homemaker you know we're making

00:07:01.920 decisions together about children and you think men should make decisions with the wife um i think 0.59

00:07:08.080 the that there should be a conversation but i definitely i think like i personally i would like

00:07:13.060 a man who can lead so yeah like but i do want somebody who is not just going to like because i'm

00:07:18.140 not your child so i don't want somebody who's like making every making decisions for me well why would

00:07:22.560 he consult you if he's going to make the final decision anyway um because maybe as your wife i

00:07:27.800 could offer you a different insight different perspective um you know i'm a grown woman too so

00:07:33.460 you know i have some wisdom what if he doesn't want your advice he just he wants to make the decision

00:07:39.640 then is that okay um yeah i would have to respect that but you know from there then you will

00:07:45.440 understand that there might be a conversation or communication had to follow up it's just like

00:07:49.600 any other decision that's made okay so he gets someone he can talk to about decisions he gets

00:07:55.220 companionship he gets someone who's nurturing going to take care of your kids okay

00:08:00.400 you

JustPearlyThings - October 27, 2023

High Value Men DESIRE This Kind Of Woman…

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