JustPearlyThings - May 18, 2023


High Value Men Find This Repulsive


Episode Stats


Length

11 minutes

Words per minute

189.9806

Word count

2,221

Sentence count

267

Harmful content

Misogyny

32

sentences flagged

Hate speech

25

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Summary

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This is a list of things that men are looking for in a woman, and what they don t want. It's a short list, but it's a good list. I hope you can relate to at least one of these things.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 A couple months ago, I made a list of the things that us as women should stop doing.
00:00:05.240 Now, this is not to say that I am perfect and have never said anything on this list.
00:00:11.100 However, I just felt like this was a very, very good list.
00:00:16.260 So this is the things that men look for, basically, or don't want.
00:00:20.940 It's like want, don't want kind of a combination.
00:00:23.580 No tattoos.
00:00:25.100 Your hobbies cannot be going to the bar every weekend and going out all the time looking like a hoe. 1.00
00:00:29.380 No heavy makeup, eyelash extensions.
00:00:31.740 No super heavy eyeliner.
00:00:33.440 No shopping addiction.
00:00:34.880 No piercing except ears.
00:00:36.340 Be able to get ready in 30 minutes or less.
00:00:39.100 No super long fingernails. 0.69
00:00:40.460 Do not be an idiot.
00:00:41.840 Do not be a beautiful, majestic creature.
00:00:44.440 A girl, she has to have a fitness routine. 1.00
00:00:47.380 Good with kid.
00:00:48.020 Knows how to cook.
00:00:48.900 Coachable.
00:00:49.500 Teachable.
00:00:50.020 Feminine.
00:00:50.860 Do not be a feminist. 1.00
00:00:52.120 Men want women that work hard but not too hard and at the right things. 0.70
00:00:55.860 They do not want a girl that wants a career more than a family. 1.00
00:00:59.420 This is my favorite one.
00:01:00.820 The words we're going to stop saying.
00:01:04.600 Partner.
00:01:05.300 Horoscope signs.
00:01:06.360 Looking for a connection.
00:01:07.520 Energy.
00:01:08.000 Trauma.
00:01:08.580 Toxic masculinity.
00:01:10.340 My truth.
00:01:11.560 Healing.
00:01:12.000 My narcissistic ex-boyfriend.
00:01:13.620 My abusive ex-boyfriend.
00:01:15.380 Grape accusations.
00:01:16.880 Don't judge.
00:01:17.640 Yeah, but.
00:01:18.680 Manifesting.
00:01:19.300 Equals, I want to do no work and still get the outcome I want. 0.97
00:01:22.680 As a woman.
00:01:23.540 We know you're a woman.
00:01:24.460 I did too much and I let him walk all over me.
00:01:28.380 Equals, I like cheaters and toxic men and I will choose them and be toxic as well and 1.00
00:01:32.460 not admit my part that I had any part to play except quote unquote giving too much.
00:01:37.720 Generational trauma.
00:01:38.720 I make the same mistakes that my parents make and I'm too dumb to learn from their mistakes
00:01:42.780 and instead I will make the same mistakes but blame it on them.
00:01:46.140 I'm in my feminine energy.
00:01:48.660 Men always stare and approach me.
00:01:50.540 I will be submissive for the right man.
00:01:54.000 Men are trash. 0.58
00:01:54.860 Equals, I take no accountability for the negative part that myself or any women play in relationships.
00:02:00.540 He needs to make six figures.
00:02:02.120 Equals, I have no emphasis on character.
00:02:04.760 I don't need a man but I want a man.
00:02:06.640 My ring costs this much.
00:02:08.420 Financial abuse.
00:02:09.400 I became feminine.
00:02:10.860 I need a man to maintain you. 0.99
00:02:13.800 We need to vibe.
00:02:14.820 I feel like I'm a traditional when I am single.
00:02:18.140 Manish.
00:02:18.620 I will be submissive for the right man who hurt you.
00:02:21.600 Internalize misogyny.
00:02:23.160 I'm leveling up altogether.
00:02:25.040 I need a man to be on my level.
00:02:28.100 I'm a boss babe.
00:02:29.100 I'm a bad bitch. 1.00
00:02:30.260 These men are broke and dusties.
00:02:32.300 I am the table.
00:02:33.620 I am a 10.
00:02:34.980 He needs to add to what I have going on in my life.
00:02:38.060 Not all women equals that is a problem with women but I won't admit it's a problem. 0.98
00:02:42.340 I need someone to match my energy.
00:02:48.320 I still don't really know what that means.
00:02:50.880 I am his peace.
00:02:52.520 Broken men.
00:02:54.060 Men are F boys. 0.66
00:02:55.600 My body my choice.
00:02:56.940 He hit me harder than I hit him.
00:02:59.240 Body positivity manifest.
00:03:02.000 I am not fat.
00:03:03.160 I am plus size or thick.
00:03:05.300 Small D energy.
00:03:06.480 My ex was a narcissist.
00:03:07.960 I am a queen who hurt you. 0.96
00:03:09.840 No respect for my own mother.
00:03:11.920 Yeah.
00:03:12.360 I mean how is that?
00:03:13.620 Those are all the words that you can't say.
00:03:15.160 Yeah.
00:03:15.520 What can we say then?
00:03:16.860 I have a list.
00:03:20.100 Don't worry.
00:03:21.400 I am so here to help.
00:03:24.660 All right.
00:03:25.340 And this is collaborative.
00:03:27.220 So if you guys have anything you want to add to it, you know, feel free.
00:03:31.080 Phrases to add.
00:03:31.880 I trust you.
00:03:32.580 I support you.
00:03:33.560 Whatever you say, honey.
00:03:35.020 Thank you.
00:03:35.500 I have your back.
00:03:36.340 I'm making this for dinner tonight.
00:03:38.000 I believe or I think.
00:03:39.640 What can I do for you?
00:03:40.960 How can I help?
00:03:41.680 I'm proud of you.
00:03:42.320 I believe in you.
00:03:43.040 I couldn't do this without you.
00:03:44.220 I need you.
00:03:44.780 I love you.
00:03:45.340 I miss you.
00:03:45.840 I care about you.
00:03:46.480 I want you.
00:03:47.340 I admire you.
00:03:48.920 Oh, gosh.
00:03:49.400 I always forget this one.
00:03:50.480 I'm not reading that.
00:03:51.540 You inspire.
00:03:52.140 No, no, no.
00:03:52.640 Don't do that.
00:03:53.200 Don't do that, pal, man.
00:03:54.160 Read that.
00:03:54.900 I do this every time.
00:03:56.020 I hate reading this one.
00:03:57.240 Get in the bedroom and drop your pants before you go to work.
00:04:00.120 Yeah, man.
00:04:00.520 You inspire me.
00:04:01.920 Thank you for working so hard.
00:04:06.000 Babe, I know you didn't meet it.
00:04:07.160 I'll let it go.
00:04:07.680 It's not a big deal.
00:04:08.860 I love that.
00:04:09.440 I love that.
00:04:10.000 I actually love that.
00:04:10.380 That list there was shorter than that.
00:04:11.920 I like that.
00:04:12.520 I like that.
00:04:13.080 It was shorter, you know?
00:04:13.800 Well, you know, we can add more if you have things you want to add.
00:04:16.420 It's really collaborative.
00:04:17.720 I've worked with a lot of people on this.
00:04:19.420 Okay, cool.
00:04:20.040 I think that whatever you say, honey, that's the only thing.
00:04:24.340 That depends on the context.
00:04:26.460 Exactly.
00:04:26.780 And I was thinking that as well, yeah.
00:04:27.740 It can be a little bit like, oh, you know, like, oh, I have to do it again.
00:04:32.480 I just, you know, it depends on the context.
00:04:36.020 See, this is where the good women are gone. 1.00
00:04:37.580 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:04:38.520 If you're with the right woman, that won't happen. 0.99
00:04:41.200 If you're with the right woman, if you're with the right man, that won't happen. 1.00
00:04:44.680 It depends on the context.
00:04:46.300 She's right.
00:04:46.960 It does.
00:04:47.580 But it doesn't matter.
00:04:48.100 Okay, I have to be honest.
00:04:49.660 I think women that say this, because I hear this a lot, it typically means I am disagreeable
00:04:55.640 and I don't want to listen.
00:04:57.040 Okay.
00:04:57.820 Typically.
00:04:58.700 Or the men I pick aren't worthy.
00:05:01.560 Or, like, something, like, I like bums, basically, is the other, like, it's like a trend.
00:05:05.720 Well, some women pick men who are, I think, for their character, too masculine.
00:05:12.200 I don't want to say that, because then you're going to be, like, feminine. 1.00
00:05:14.780 No, no, no.
00:05:14.960 No, like, too, you know, like, she's not feminine enough. 1.00
00:05:18.720 The man is really masculine.
00:05:21.020 So she's in her feminine most of the time, but sometimes she's like, oh. 1.00
00:05:25.640 See, I see the language.
00:05:26.920 In her feminine. 0.92
00:05:28.220 Yeah, I knew you were going to pick that up, girl.
00:05:30.940 I just think it's, like, nonsense.
00:05:34.040 I know.
00:05:34.200 It's just, it's like these women that go on Instagram, and they'll say, oh, I'm a feminine. 0.94
00:05:39.400 I don't know if it's you.
00:05:40.360 I hope that's not what you do, but, like, it's like, I'm now a femininity coach.
00:05:45.380 And there's some genuine ones.
00:05:47.000 I'm not going to say there's not.
00:05:48.300 There are genuine ones that help.
00:05:49.480 They do this, too.
00:05:50.560 Masculine, feminine energy. 0.85
00:05:52.260 There's some.
00:05:52.980 There's, yeah.
00:05:53.740 The ones that I see that are full of shit, because men actually look to solve problems. 1.00
00:05:57.540 So if you look at, like, men's improvement, it's very practical.
00:06:01.240 So it's very much, like, go to the gym, screw a bunch of girls so you know how to, or do, 0.90
00:06:06.660 you know, like, I don't even, there's an ex-corn star that's been on my show.
00:06:09.880 He has very practical, you know, tips.
00:06:11.840 Not my thing, right, but, like, or they'll do, like, go to the gym, make more money.
00:06:18.360 Women, it's very, like, broad, like, soft life. 1.00
00:06:23.240 I'm going to sit at home.
00:06:25.480 And it's never, like, concrete steps.
00:06:27.920 I've only had one, like, femininity coach give me, like, real concrete steps that isn't 1.00
00:06:32.300 just, like, journaling or.
00:06:34.180 Actually, I have something to say about feminine coaches. 1.00
00:06:39.260 They operate from, again, energy, but, like, what is to be feminine? 0.90
00:06:47.100 They tell you be creative, like, focus on things that make you tap into that traditional
00:06:53.020 woman.
00:06:53.580 That's what they are all about.
00:06:55.740 Like, try to, I've been in touch with some of them.
00:06:59.400 They tell you, like, listen to music, dance, or create something with, like, a painting
00:07:05.400 or something tangible with, like, artistic.
00:07:09.680 Yeah.
00:07:10.240 And to me, this sounds like nothing useful to a guy.
00:07:14.320 Go listen to, like, go listen to some music.
00:07:19.040 But, like, I can't.
00:07:20.100 Like, I'm just, I just have, yeah, there's only been one femininity coach that, like, actually
00:07:25.980 talked about real stuff.
00:07:27.180 And she helped me write most of these, like, words to add.
00:07:30.280 In the short term, it might seem that it's not helping, but imagine on the long term,
00:07:35.480 rather than a woman being in her, as I say, masculine energy, which is, like, shouting 0.96
00:07:40.040 and confronting.
00:07:41.440 She learns to be submissive, but, like, step by step.
00:07:44.900 First of all, by tapping into these skills, then to be comfortable just doing, even something
00:07:51.740 such as cooking, they tell you cooking makes you tap into your feminine energy more and 1.00
00:07:56.500 more.
00:07:57.040 So maybe by building those little habits.
00:08:00.580 I think cooking, yeah, I don't think cooking's bad, but I just, you can't convince me.
00:08:08.060 Do you know why we need these now?
00:08:09.920 We, I agree with you.
00:08:11.240 I agree that it shouldn't matter, but we need these now because a lot of women and men as 1.00
00:08:16.500 well forgot that natural state, you know, what's your natural state as a woman? 1.00
00:08:22.420 I don't know, because I get really confused, because I hear these, like, women talk about 1.00
00:08:26.140 soft life, right?
00:08:27.460 But, like, our great-grandmothers really didn't have a soft life. 0.99
00:08:31.700 They were milking, like, at least I'm from the U.S., they were milking cows.
00:08:34.840 Like, have you seen Amish people?
00:08:36.160 That's where they used to live.
00:08:37.440 Like, they do not have a soft life.
00:08:39.360 And soft life, to me, is living off a man. 0.90
00:08:41.880 That's what I see as a soft life.
00:08:44.540 Maybe.
00:08:45.060 Yeah.
00:08:45.280 Well, when you ask where all the women, good women, went, I mean, to me, they went to confusion 0.87
00:08:48.980 and independence.
00:08:50.300 Right.
00:08:50.800 And this confusion is a diffused awareness, because of primal nature, right?
00:08:55.640 A man is hunting.
00:08:56.800 He's directive in his focus.
00:08:59.580 And a woman is diffused, because she only has a certain amount of daylight hours to get as 1.00
00:09:03.100 many berries as she can.
00:09:04.320 And she's very skilled at it. 0.99
00:09:05.580 She can do it way quicker than a man, apparently. 1.00
00:09:07.820 And it's part of our survival mechanism.
00:09:10.280 And so, it is kind of obtuse and broad when we think about how we go back into our
00:09:15.100 feminine nature. 0.99
00:09:16.120 So, we're not, you know, in this CEO role of our families, of our relationships, of
00:09:22.720 our businesses.
00:09:23.760 And then we got to come home and then deal with the reality of, like, you know, being
00:09:27.920 a partner, which is a totally different energy.
00:09:30.240 It's not, you're not directive.
00:09:31.920 Like, yeah, you've got to get the meal on the table.
00:09:34.520 And my grandmother and my mother, they worked really hard as homemakers.
00:09:37.880 It was, like, taboo for them to work.
00:09:40.080 Yeah.
00:09:40.400 But my generation and our generation now, that's very, it's a lot of confusion.
00:09:45.400 And we're still growing into that.
00:09:47.440 You know what it is?
00:09:47.900 How do we balance that?
00:09:49.300 It's Beyonce's fault.
00:09:51.840 I'm being serious.
00:09:52.700 She made a tune called Single Ladies, all of these things, with a ring on her finger. 1.00
00:09:56.900 I think we're very capable.
00:09:58.360 You know what I'm saying?
00:09:59.060 But I think there's a lot of confusion.
00:10:00.140 Yeah, but from the night, to be honest, you'll say you're right.
00:10:02.680 From the 90s, 2000s, whatever, there's been a lot of independence, independence, do your
00:10:07.900 thing, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:10:09.160 Cool.
00:10:09.940 You can do your independence.
00:10:10.940 But if you don't need a man, then cool.
00:10:13.700 Someone said modern-day gathering has turned into shopping.
00:10:19.900 Yeah, but why do you think women are having burnout, endocrine disruption, cancer, depression? 1.00
00:10:25.940 I mean, there's all these issues with women's health because they're trying to be a man. 1.00
00:10:30.160 Because they're trying to, exactly.
00:10:31.220 No, I spoke to, like, a hormone doctor about this.
00:10:34.020 He said, like, women and men don't handle stress the same.
00:10:37.000 And it really messes up our hormones being, like, high-stress positions.
00:10:41.220 And you know, Madison, if you stay in your feminine energy and you come home and you 0.83
00:10:44.240 look after your partner, your man is going to want to look after and do everything in
00:10:48.000 his power to make sure you're good.
00:10:49.940 Yeah.
00:10:51.340 That's as simple as I can explain it.
00:10:53.480 Like, as long as you stay in your feminine and you look after that man, he's going to 0.99
00:10:56.620 do everything for you, regardless, like, naturally.
00:10:58.760 But earlier with what I was saying, if you're not showing certain things to him, he's going
00:11:02.960 to see that.
00:11:03.420 All right, cool.
00:11:04.120 She's not really, my kind of, I'll sit back.
00:11:07.100 I'm there, but I'll sit back a little bit.
00:11:08.860 But if he sees you're making effort, like, even cooking, cooking is, if you want to
00:11:13.100 get through to a man's heart, it's through his belly. 0.96
00:11:14.760 A hundred percent.
00:11:15.140 As simple as that, you get what I'm saying?
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