JustPearlyThings - December 29, 2022


How Much Does Brittany Renner Get In Child Support


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

205.31674

Word Count

1,694

Sentence Count

2

Misogynist Sentences

2


Summary

In this episode, I sit down with my good friend and co-parent advocate, to talk about what it's like being a single mom, divorce, and custody issues. We talk about the process of divorce and how it affects us and how we've dealt with it so far.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 adding me to that um when i am in a group setting especially like that that type of panel i'm an
00:00:06.320 active listener so when somebody's talking you be quiet you don't talk so i think that's why for me
00:00:12.080 when people are going around and there's three people that have made a point whatever i had to
00:00:16.080 say i was like i kind of didn't get to say it because again i believe in just listening and
00:00:20.080 let people letting people talk and then when it's my turn to talk i'll talk so i didn't have a lot
00:00:23.440 of times where it was my turn to talk yeah and when i did i thought i kind of had to like hey
00:00:27.920 actually you know so yeah it wasn't like like i and again i liked a lot of the stuff that we talked
00:00:32.480 about you know yeah i think if i had to do it again but something tells me you know there may be
00:00:38.800 another one in the future yeah do you want to get married
00:00:45.200 and are you okay would you be okay with a long-term relationship without marriage
00:00:50.800 yes i've actually thought about this because i would i don't even think it's really the paper
00:00:56.720 that i want i think it's just the commitment and like i would love i think i like the idea of
00:01:01.520 a wedding more than we have to go sign this and then when we divorce the courts are in our business
00:01:07.280 because of like what i'm going through with the child support custody stuff um getting out of that
00:01:11.440 contract is going to be hard right um so yeah i would be i would want like still i want to ring
00:01:18.400 still want a wedding but i wouldn't have to i don't think we would have to do it in front of the
00:01:22.720 courts yeah it would just be a commitment to each other and i've like i said i've actually thought
00:01:26.400 about that because i think i was watching one of your videos where a lot of women just want the
00:01:29.920 celebration the wedding and they and they don't actually care to get married um so yeah i would
00:01:35.280 be open to that would you be okay with like because i always say i would be cool with just i want to
00:01:40.160 say a courthouse wedding okay but you know i then i'm like you know if he doesn't want to do the
00:01:46.000 contract that's fine but yeah i was thinking like just like a small thing with like my parents and my
00:01:50.480 immediate family like i i think that sounds nicer than like this big like who needs 300 people at
00:01:56.080 a wedding yeah i don't even know 300 people that would show up so no i i love the idea of just like
00:02:01.440 the ceremony and reception and people just celebrating your your guys's union and it doesn't have to be
00:02:07.440 in front of like i said on paper so that's kind of where i have changed my views a little bit where
00:02:11.600 i'm like it's not even really the contract that i'm wanting because like whatever who gives a
00:02:16.000 book i just want you and like all the fun stuff that comes along with it that you know
00:02:23.360 sorry i just know how the guys are gonna see they're like the fun stuff that comes with it
00:02:27.680 they're like they've been sold a fairy tale i mean it is what it is but it's like yeah i mean
00:02:33.360 because it's not just about like i want to be able again if especially if i'm marrying someone who has
00:02:39.680 all of this i've always been open to prenups like because it's never about like oh i want to take half of
00:02:44.800 everything um even when i was with my ex like we had talked about prenups like whatever you know
00:02:50.800 i'm cool with that but i think that's just where it's like yeah you you want the the cute stuff that
00:02:56.080 comes with marriage but i don't even really know if people actually want to go through the process
00:02:59.520 especially of getting out of it i don't think people really want can i ask you because um i was just
00:03:04.080 thinking can i ask you about child support and like that so yeah they're they're saying you have you
00:03:10.000 get 10 000 a month no on child support no i don't i do not i don't get 200 000 i don't get 10 000
00:03:16.320 and right now we are going through the process of child support and custody so unless we can work
00:03:23.600 something out between us we will be going to trial probably in a few months right now i'm getting 2500
00:03:30.560 a month okay could you do just like 50 50 custody with him would he want to do that because of his career
00:03:38.400 he most likely would not be awarded that because he played he's on the road so much um i'm very
00:03:44.720 open-minded whenever he wants to see our son and come get him like he's getting him from the the 29th
00:03:51.280 to the 7th like because he's traveling on this two-week period right now so anytime he wants him i let him
00:03:56.160 see him like i mean he's i i love pj that's why i had a baby with him so despite like all our that's
00:04:03.920 been out there and how hard it has been transitioning from romantic to like basically
00:04:09.040 strangers that we got a co-parent now um i still love him i love him to death you know but um yeah
00:04:14.560 so with the custody stuff i'm very open-minded i just think with his career it would be hard for a
00:04:19.680 judge to like award him 50 50 just because he travels so much because in my head like isn't it
00:04:26.080 something that could be worked out like outside of court it is but hearts don't break even and he
00:04:33.920 i think in his mind he has a number which i won't say but he has a number that he wants to stick to
00:04:40.160 and basically when you're going through this process for north carolina law because it's
00:04:43.600 very different other places you don't get a percentage if you both combined make a
00:04:48.880 annually over 300 000 you're considered off the charts off off grid so then at this point you have
00:04:54.080 to prove how much you need in child support so any bills that my son occupies rent car note cable
00:05:00.880 groceries those are things that my son occupies and in charlotte um the least amount that i could
00:05:07.360 that i could get would be 50 of each of those expenses right the most depending on his career and
00:05:13.520 what the judge sees fit it could be up to 97 so whatever bills he occupies would be covered whatever
00:05:20.400 for his clothes and diapers and all that and then that's accumulated in a financial affidavit is what
00:05:24.880 it's called right and then you present it to him his team if he wants to settle outside if he's like
00:05:31.440 actually no that's too high i don't want to do that i'd rather try my chances in court then that's when
00:05:35.200 you go to trial do you do you think that he would give you nothing if it was up to him for the first
00:05:41.040 two months he gave me nothing do you think that moving forward he would continue to i think he would
00:05:47.360 would just give me 2500. um you don't think that's i think that's plenty to raise a kid
00:05:53.600 well when you go based on the laws for north carolina it's all the bills that my son occupies
00:05:59.520 so my car note is i think it's 2000 um our rent is 2750 um all these bills so i'm saying it's those
00:06:12.240 two bills alone are already around but so this is just like the way the men are going to see this is
00:06:18.880 like it's like you're almost becoming an entitled and i'm not trying to offend you it's just like
00:06:24.640 because to me i'm like 2500 a month auntie said she could do it on like 200 a month no that's that's
00:06:30.080 fine but in in reality she doesn't have a baby with an mba player right so what also is it well let me
00:06:35.920 finish though so what's why it's entitled it's law it this isn't like my personal opinion and i've learned
00:06:42.080 actually a lot about the law in charlotte for child support um my mom got a hundred dollars for me
00:06:47.840 and uh my brother but again it goes off based on your income and what the child would be accustomed
00:06:53.760 to so that's where all of the the opinions don't matter because if my son is getting picked up in a
00:06:59.920 lamborghini it's like he has to be in a equivalent like the judge doesn't want there to be too big of a
00:07:06.080 gap and that is law so people can be upset and feel how they want but take it up with your judicial
00:07:11.680 system like this is what it is yeah but like the whole point is you don't have to go to court over
00:07:16.400 it no i would like to settle it outside but that that is i you can't if i can't let me finish that
00:07:24.080 i have tried to settle this outside and there's still a chance that we could right i have given
00:07:30.480 my financial affidavit they've subpoenaed my stuff they know what's going all in my business they know
00:07:36.080 what's going on it is i do not have the final say okay so if he doesn't want to settle he does not
00:07:43.200 have to we can have a judge tell us who should be awarded what and leave it up to chance as many of
00:07:50.960 you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform if you
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