JustPearlyThings - March 25, 2023


How pr0n Saves Marriages


Episode Stats


Length

11 minutes

Words per minute

199.93996

Word count

2,220

Sentence count

235

Harmful content

Misogyny

14

sentences flagged

Hate speech

3

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Summary

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This week Pearly and Pearl talk about the perils of watching porn with your partner and how to deal with them when they don't want to watch it. Plus, Pearly gives us some tips and tricks on what to do when your partner wants to watch porn with you.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 I just think a lot of times, like, from the men's point of view, it's like, we want them to be exclusive to us, which is, like, compromising on their mating strategy, which is to spread their seed.
00:00:11.220 But on the same time, like, when they try to watch, and I'm not saying you specifically, I don't know your marriage or whatever, but, like, when you tell them that they can't even watch corn and that's cheating, too, it's like, well, what do you want from me?
00:00:21.880 What can I do?
00:00:23.180 So I just tell them straight, whatever they're doing on their, I would try it with you.
00:00:27.060 Yeah.
00:00:28.940 I would.
00:00:29.560 And he's ready to meet them in the middle.
00:00:31.360 Yeah.
00:00:31.700 I would try it with you, you know what I mean?
00:00:33.040 Like, you want to pick up some tits, but then I'm going to watch it. 1.00
00:00:35.620 Let's have a go.
00:00:36.460 What's another freaky stuff?
00:00:37.600 You know what I mean?
00:00:37.940 Don't slap me either.
00:00:40.140 Yeah.
00:00:44.380 I feel like corn has saved a lot of marriages.
00:00:47.340 I've had a partner show me something and be like, let's try this.
00:00:53.880 Really?
00:00:54.500 Yeah.
00:00:55.120 Were you down or were you mad?
00:00:56.320 She was down.
00:00:56.940 She was down.
00:00:59.200 I was down, but it wasn't a case where I didn't know that he wasn't watching it because I knew he watched it.
00:01:05.600 Or he'd sometimes be like, oh, look at this.
00:01:08.080 Like, he'd send it to me and be like.
00:01:09.400 I don't know how I'd feel if my partner showed me.
00:01:11.340 Really?
00:01:11.980 If he sent you a bit and said, let's try this tonight.
00:01:13.940 I don't know.
00:01:14.440 I feel like I would be like, I'm not saying I would be against it, but I don't know.
00:01:20.080 I think there's, I don't know.
00:01:21.780 Obviously everyone's different, but to me, for me personally, there's boundaries.
00:01:24.880 You could be watching it and doing all this, but if you're putting more attention on that than me, then it's an issue.
00:01:31.180 I think that's a bad reminder to tell me in the first place, because if I find it later on, we're down.
00:01:36.880 I'm telling you, it's just a slippery slope.
00:01:38.160 Yeah.
00:01:38.580 Just tell me who you are.
00:01:41.220 Yeah.
00:01:41.540 Show me.
00:01:42.120 Introduce me to you and I'll choose if I want to be with you or not.
00:01:44.580 Yeah, you should ask for me.
00:01:45.380 I'm going to show you who I am.
00:01:48.000 Yeah, I agree.
00:01:48.860 As long as you're transparent, then there's no issue.
00:01:51.280 What do you want?
00:01:52.180 Just let me know.
00:01:53.720 No freaky stuff either.
00:01:55.180 No.
00:01:57.320 Yeah, it's definitely important to ask what to ask.
00:02:01.380 Which kind?
00:02:02.040 Yeah.
00:02:02.740 Which are which kind?
00:02:03.580 Yeah, because there's different levels and you find that women might accept some levels, 0.93
00:02:08.200 but then it goes off the scalability.
00:02:09.460 Yeah, because if you're watching certain stuff, I'm just like, nah.
00:02:14.000 That's who they are as well.
00:02:15.300 Yeah, that's what a sicko who should be in my house.
00:02:17.720 Yeah, yeah.
00:02:18.660 Your interest, I feel like that's a topic of conversation that you talk about, no?
00:02:22.600 Yeah, I know, 100%.
00:02:23.860 Like, I want to know.
00:02:25.360 I've never had that conversation though.
00:02:27.340 Yeah, but how do you have that conversation?
00:02:28.200 I've never had that conversation with a man in my life.
00:02:30.280 I've had it.
00:02:31.480 What, what they're into?
00:02:32.800 Yeah.
00:02:34.100 Not in corn.
00:02:35.440 I'm saying in general, in the bedroom.
00:02:37.880 Oh, yeah.
00:02:38.660 You know what they like and what they don't like.
00:02:40.140 No, I'm up for anything because you're my man, innit?
00:02:42.760 But no freaky stuff.
00:02:44.680 That's different.
00:02:46.280 That's not him copying nobody.
00:02:47.620 That's me getting freaky.
00:02:48.660 There's a big difference.
00:02:49.580 Yeah.
00:02:49.700 I'm going to take a second to read Super Chats.
00:02:53.860 Guys, like the video on your way and subscribe to the channel.
00:02:56.760 Ring that notification bell.
00:02:57.960 Make sure you're subscribed to both of our Clips channels, just Pearly Clips and Pearl Daily.
00:03:03.260 Maggie, the substitute teacher.
00:03:05.160 Oh, I think she's coming on to wife school. 1.00
00:03:07.000 She's going to help us cut. 0.81
00:03:07.760 Can I say something, please?
00:03:08.820 Yeah, yeah, go ahead.
00:03:09.460 Pearly animations.
00:03:10.840 Oh, I forgot about it.
00:03:11.920 Yeah, pearly.
00:03:12.440 We have pearly animations now, which is like, you want to explain it?
00:03:16.520 It's your Clips in animation.
00:03:18.560 Yeah, it's Clips in animation.
00:03:20.120 And you see Shapely Pearl.
00:03:22.260 Oh, yeah.
00:03:22.720 They gave me a good...
00:03:24.120 My cartoon has such a good body, guys.
00:03:27.600 I was like, I do not look like that.
00:03:29.580 I will take it.
00:03:30.500 She's got butt, chest, hips, and everything. 1.00
00:03:33.220 Yeah, it's like...
00:03:34.220 Yeah, I was like, thank you.
00:03:37.940 Okay, Maggie, the substitute teacher. 0.99
00:03:41.440 $30 for a whole week of groceries.
00:03:43.760 Russ, thank you for the super chat.
00:03:47.060 Liberty now.
00:03:47.660 Cheers to England.
00:03:48.440 Hello from America.
00:03:49.420 Question for England.
00:03:50.260 What is the definition of liberty and does it matter?
00:03:52.380 Please be specific.
00:03:54.440 James Pritt.
00:03:55.900 Found the woman of my dreams.
00:03:57.400 Got engaged, but bedroom got cold.
00:04:00.300 Started getting a lot of offers, so I broke things off,
00:04:02.920 but I didn't think I could trust myself.
00:04:05.560 Haven't found anything close to that.
00:04:07.280 Should I have just cheated?
00:04:09.160 No.
00:04:10.160 He did good.
00:04:10.920 He did the right thing.
00:04:11.980 I mean, because if they're already having issues
00:04:14.240 before they're married, it's not going to get better.
00:04:16.900 Be free.
00:04:18.940 Okay, Maggie, the substitute teacher. 0.99
00:04:21.460 New to the show.
00:04:22.220 Just saying hello to Pearl, Blessing, and Auntie Jenny.
00:04:24.100 Appreciate you all.
00:04:26.060 Eugene Steele.
00:04:26.920 I am not considering myself a passport bro,
00:04:29.580 but I wouldn't mind traveling to the UK
00:04:31.020 to meet the woman in olive green.
00:04:34.120 Oh, you have a...
00:04:34.720 You have a...
00:04:34.980 You have a...
00:04:35.800 You have a...
00:04:36.980 She's single.
00:04:37.780 Sentience.
00:04:42.740 Men are required to be gentle with women
00:04:44.880 because they're not the same.
00:04:46.180 Well, the...
00:04:46.660 Oh, I think I read this one already.
00:04:48.180 Okay, let me refresh it really quick, guys.
00:04:51.580 Also, guys, I think we're going to do...
00:04:53.640 I know...
00:04:54.420 I know I announced that I was going to do
00:04:56.780 our one million party next month.
00:04:59.860 I was too ambitious.
00:05:01.280 Okay, I was very ambitious.
00:05:02.660 I was like, let's do it next month.
00:05:03.860 We can do it.
00:05:04.540 It's happening in June.
00:05:05.380 And I think June 10th.
00:05:06.320 I'm going to finalize it this week.
00:05:09.020 But yeah, yeah, it's not happening next month.
00:05:11.060 Sorry, guys.
00:05:12.120 Too much planning.
00:05:13.400 Yeah, well, I...
00:05:14.240 Underestimated how much work it is.
00:05:16.140 Yeah, I didn't realize how much, like,
00:05:17.860 it takes to throw an event together
00:05:19.480 and, like, the tickets and everything.
00:05:20.820 Yeah.
00:05:22.260 So that was my fault.
00:05:25.280 Okay.
00:05:27.760 I'm trying to think of my next question, actually.
00:05:33.500 Oh, no.
00:05:34.160 When they get married,
00:05:35.480 what kind of wife do they think they're going to be? 1.00
00:05:37.980 Oh, that's a good question, Auntie.
00:05:40.200 Go ahead.
00:05:40.860 Start there.
00:05:45.420 Definitely a calm wife. 1.00
00:05:48.480 I know that sounds like,
00:05:49.400 what is a calm wife? 1.00
00:05:50.600 Just someone who, like,
00:05:51.800 keeps their home peaceful,
00:05:53.540 no outside dramas,
00:05:54.820 and just a loving,
00:06:00.020 nurturing place.
00:06:01.780 Like, I want...
00:06:03.380 Like, I know in the UK you get, like, that,
00:06:05.300 I think it was, like,
00:06:05.960 10 to 12 months or something
00:06:07.100 for your maternity leave.
00:06:09.280 I want at least the two...
00:06:10.560 The first two and a half years
00:06:12.280 just with my kids at home.
00:06:15.100 And I kind of want them close in age
00:06:16.780 and just...
00:06:17.820 I know it sounds so, like,
00:06:20.600 cliche and, like,
00:06:21.440 the cooking and the cleaning,
00:06:22.480 but I just want it to be a place
00:06:23.900 where my man can feel like he can be a man
00:06:25.680 and, like, he's in his role
00:06:27.340 and he's masculine
00:06:28.400 and I can be in my feminine
00:06:29.600 and just be a mother and a wife. 1.00
00:06:32.240 That's literally what I want.
00:06:35.680 What do you think you're going to get?
00:06:37.520 That's what I'm going to get.
00:06:38.660 Okay.
00:06:39.220 Yeah, that's what I'm going to get.
00:06:41.480 But I need a man
00:06:42.900 who wants to be a husband
00:06:45.480 and wants to do that role.
00:06:46.720 I can't have a man 1.00
00:06:47.940 who wants me to also be like...
00:06:49.760 So what would your, like,
00:06:50.660 day-to-day, like, life look like
00:06:52.740 if you were in that role?
00:06:53.660 Like, what would you be doing?
00:06:55.140 Wait, from the time you wake up
00:06:56.400 in the morning with the two kids
00:06:57.700 at six o'clock in the morning,
00:07:00.160 what's your day going to be like?
00:07:01.820 Well, I have my own daily structures
00:07:03.960 and then that can just put me
00:07:05.320 in the mind frame of doing
00:07:06.780 what I need to do.
00:07:07.980 And with kids, you know,
00:07:09.680 it's never going to...
00:07:10.400 No day is going to look the same.
00:07:12.440 But...
00:07:12.880 What do you mean?
00:07:14.740 Like, what does it look like?
00:07:15.440 Like, feeding them,
00:07:16.640 cooking, cleaning...
00:07:17.880 Give us your rota.
00:07:19.100 Yeah.
00:07:19.560 Like, all right,
00:07:20.120 then you wake up
00:07:20.620 at five o'clock in the morning,
00:07:21.700 one baby's screaming, right?
00:07:23.100 You've got to get your husband 0.98
00:07:24.000 ready for work.
00:07:24.860 So you have a guy across from you
00:07:26.360 who makes $250,000 a year.
00:07:28.120 He says, you know,
00:07:28.860 you could be my housewife. 1.00
00:07:30.460 What are you going to do for me?
00:07:31.420 Go.
00:07:32.840 Cook, clean, 0.78
00:07:34.400 make sure the kids are looked after.
00:07:36.080 And when I say...
00:07:37.600 And also keep myself together.
00:07:39.420 So, describe your normal day
00:07:41.180 from start to finish.
00:07:42.560 Okay, so I wake up,
00:07:44.040 I VJ,
00:07:45.760 like,
00:07:46.480 get stuff out of my journal,
00:07:48.520 meditate,
00:07:49.600 do my, like,
00:07:50.540 seven self-care pillars,
00:07:52.480 cold shower.
00:07:53.700 If that means I've got to wake up
00:07:54.880 at four because the kid
00:07:55.640 wants to scream at five,
00:07:56.600 then I've got to do that.
00:07:58.900 One, two kids.
00:08:00.640 One might be on school,
00:08:01.600 one might be nursery,
00:08:02.560 or two under two.
00:08:03.540 I don't know.
00:08:04.040 So, um...
00:08:06.400 Homeschooled.
00:08:08.300 Homeschooled.
00:08:08.680 Until what age?
00:08:10.000 Ever.
00:08:10.880 Me doing it,
00:08:11.720 or, like,
00:08:12.020 someone comes in?
00:08:12.740 You do it.
00:08:13.400 Oh, I,
00:08:13.960 do you know what?
00:08:14.420 I've never, um,
00:08:16.060 actually thought about,
00:08:17.120 like,
00:08:17.220 what that would look like.
00:08:18.480 But I would be happy to.
00:08:20.420 I've never thought about
00:08:21.380 what that would look like.
00:08:22.120 I've always just kind of
00:08:23.320 had in my head
00:08:24.200 that my kids would be at home
00:08:25.480 until about three, four.
00:08:27.060 I personally don't want my kids
00:08:28.360 going to nursery at two.
00:08:29.480 I know that's, like,
00:08:30.160 this kind of standard age,
00:08:31.540 but I want to be at home
00:08:33.480 with my kids
00:08:34.080 at two years old.
00:08:35.320 So about three, four,
00:08:36.480 they can, like,
00:08:37.100 start going to
00:08:38.700 other people.
00:08:40.160 I, okay,
00:08:41.100 my kids can't be looked after
00:08:42.880 by other people
00:08:43.760 until they can put
00:08:44.740 a sentence together.
00:08:46.040 Yeah.
00:08:46.760 Like,
00:08:47.140 that's it.
00:08:48.760 Until they can understand,
00:08:50.200 like,
00:08:50.840 their body
00:08:51.480 in terms of, like,
00:08:52.960 for that age,
00:08:53.860 they're not being looked after
00:08:55.820 by anyone.
00:08:56.420 And I need a man
00:08:57.320 who gets that,
00:08:59.080 who says,
00:08:59.480 do you know what?
00:08:59.920 Yeah, I agree.
00:09:00.500 I don't want a man to think,
00:09:02.000 oh,
00:09:02.940 you doing that means
00:09:03.880 you're going to live off of me.
00:09:05.000 No,
00:09:05.240 I'm doing this because
00:09:06.220 of the nurturing
00:09:07.340 and the foundation
00:09:08.060 I want for my kids
00:09:09.200 and them going into the world.
00:09:10.980 If the child is really ill
00:09:12.500 and you go to bed at midnight,
00:09:13.740 are you still going to get up
00:09:14.520 at four o'clock in the morning
00:09:15.460 to go through your whole...
00:09:17.620 Yeah.
00:09:18.160 I'm just thinking to myself,
00:09:19.100 you would love to have
00:09:19.740 that couple of hours
00:09:20.600 in the morning
00:09:21.100 to do all of that,
00:09:22.660 all of that stuff.
00:09:23.860 It just sounds amazing.
00:09:25.860 If they're sick,
00:09:27.160 sorry,
00:09:27.540 sorry,
00:09:28.160 I'm...
00:09:28.280 No, I mean,
00:09:28.820 because you're going to say
00:09:29.520 you're going to get up
00:09:30.020 at four o'clock in the morning.
00:09:31.100 If I had to.
00:09:32.180 Because, um,
00:09:33.280 I heard you're doing a lot of talking
00:09:34.240 but I heard you say
00:09:34.920 about your day, yeah.
00:09:36.180 It's been a lot of...
00:09:38.020 I don't know...
00:09:39.020 I want to hear,
00:09:39.140 I want to...
00:09:39.720 I'll tell you what I want to hear,
00:09:40.620 right?
00:09:41.020 Like you said,
00:09:41.640 you get up at four o'clock
00:09:42.320 in the morning,
00:09:43.460 you do all of your stuff,
00:09:44.760 your...
00:09:45.160 for you.
00:09:46.580 What time does that finish?
00:09:49.420 45 minutes to an hour.
00:09:50.700 All right then.
00:09:51.260 So five o'clock
00:09:52.040 are you going to do that?
00:09:53.860 I mean,
00:09:54.460 I'm not a mother
00:09:55.340 so I don't exactly know
00:09:57.040 what that looks like
00:09:57.940 but I know that I'm prepared
00:09:59.160 to do whatever it takes
00:10:00.860 to be the mother
00:10:01.740 that I know that I want to be.
00:10:03.400 So I can't...
00:10:04.280 How have you prepared?
00:10:06.920 What do you mean?
00:10:07.580 No, I said I'm prepared to do it.
00:10:09.800 Oh, okay.
00:10:10.200 So he would have to teach you.
00:10:12.300 What do you mean?
00:10:14.040 So...
00:10:14.400 I'm saying
00:10:14.900 so then he would have to teach you
00:10:16.100 you're prepared to do it
00:10:17.320 but you're not telling me
00:10:18.180 what it is.
00:10:18.760 Yeah, I don't know exactly...
00:10:22.020 I know it takes a lot
00:10:23.080 emotionally,
00:10:24.360 mentally,
00:10:25.320 physically
00:10:25.680 and I'm ready to...
00:10:27.540 and I'm prepared to go through it
00:10:28.720 and I want to go through it
00:10:30.240 because I want to be a mother.
00:10:31.360 Have you got nieces and nephews?
00:10:33.340 I do.
00:10:34.300 Do you babysit a lot?
00:10:35.760 Not like that, no.
00:10:37.920 Would you be able to
00:10:38.700 if you could?
00:10:39.580 Yeah, I could.
00:10:40.320 It's half term this week.
00:10:41.300 Try it, try it for a day.
00:10:42.980 Yeah.
00:10:43.500 All of them.
00:10:44.600 Try having them for a day.
00:10:46.440 Yeah, I would be...
00:10:47.680 And let me know how you can.
00:10:48.520 I would be down for it.
00:10:49.540 Let me know how you can.
00:10:50.360 Many of you know
00:10:51.020 I was just banned on TikTok
00:10:53.140 and we are demonetized
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