In this episode, I sit down with my girl next door, Kaitlyn, to talk about how she s grown up in a masculine environment and how it s impacted her as a woman. We talk about her struggles with being the only girl in the office and how she overcame them.
00:05:14.620The, okay, we got the marriages. Let's, you ready to watch some Kevin Samuels?
00:05:20.620Let's do it. Let's watch some Kevin. Oh dear. So what I'm good at is I'm coachable.
00:05:26.620You are. My cooking is coming. Yes. You fed the, the crew yesterday. I actually feed them a decent
00:05:32.620amount. I feel like it's good practice actually. It's really good practice. Having them around.
00:05:36.620So I'll just like, it depends on the day because sometimes it's like, I'll run out of food too quick.
00:05:42.620They like me. But, um, I do give them food a lot cause I'm like, I get feedback and I can see what is
00:05:50.620good and what isn't. And so it's kind of like a family, you know, so it's sort of is good practice.
00:05:56.620That's another thing you do really well at. You actually seek out feedback because I noticed y'all
00:06:00.620yesterday when Pearl was cooking and she made a whole like days worth of food. She asked everybody
00:06:06.620after they ate, okay, rate me on a scale of one to 10. And she had some really high marks, but even if it was
00:06:10.620nine or 9.5, she's like, what do I need to do to make it a 10? I was like, Whoa, Pearl wants that perfect score.
00:06:20.620And that's a good thing. You know, that, that try that want to that drive. I think that's good.
00:06:26.620What should we watch? See, actually, I'm going to go over this really quick. Okay.
00:06:35.620It was just, I'm going to go over with the audience. Okay. Guys. Um, this is what we put together.
00:06:39.620Okay. Just if you guys were not here, I'm just going to show you. So this is what women should
00:06:45.620have on their wife resume, meal prep or cooking experience, babysitting or love for children,
00:06:52.620ability to manage money or stick to a budget, family relationships. So what kind of family do you guys want?
00:07:00.620And are you on the same page? Who is your family? Were your parents married? Do you have an example, small or big nuclear family?
00:07:07.620Do you think, um, when looking for, I shouldn't say looking when, when, you know, vetting suitors,
00:07:15.620do you think it's good to look? Cause I always try if I can.
00:07:21.620Do I think it's good to finish the sentence?
00:07:23.620Oh, sorry. Do you think it's good to look at their family structure to see if like they had a two parent home?
00:07:29.620And if they are, that they'd had marriage experience or longterm relationship experience.
00:07:34.620Absolutely. This is a wife resume, but I think wives should not only be ready to discuss this for themselves,
00:07:40.620but these are the questions that we have to ask. I mean, I love, love, and I know sometimes we get in that feeling
00:07:45.620and it's just like everything they do is wonderful. But if their mom is a battle ax, you need to know that you're signing up for that.
00:07:51.620And is he going to protect you or is he going to leave you exposed? It's so much.
00:07:57.620I've never thought about that. That's crazy. I've thought about the two parent home,
00:08:03.620but I've never thought about how does their, cause moms with sons can over time be overbearing.
00:08:11.620Yeah. And wow. I've never thought of that.
00:08:14.620I've had that experience. I mean, being the daughter-in-law, you know, I, I want to be, you know,
00:08:20.620accepted into the family and it's hard if that doesn't happen. And especially if it's nothing that you did,
00:08:26.620that's just how she is, you know, that can be devastating. So you need to know,
00:08:30.620how is your husband going to handle that? You know, I know we always talk about, you know,
00:08:33.620mama's boys or whatever, but we are assuming, or I am assuming that you're dealing with the caliber of man
00:08:39.620that is ready to be a husband. So you need to know what you're getting yourself into.
00:08:43.620We have to choose wisely and that properly. And just because we feel good with someone,
00:08:48.620that doesn't mean he's going to be a great husband. But yeah, that's, that's important to know.
00:08:53.620You're going to spend holidays together. You're going to do like family traditions,
00:08:57.620you know, weddings and births and funeral. Like you need to know when,
00:09:01.620when these two groups come together, what is that experience going to be like?
00:09:05.620And I have one more that I can already hear my mom saying, I didn't talk about faith.
00:09:09.620Yeah. Yeah. Thanks mom. But yeah, it's important. And it's not about, you know, I'm a believer.
00:09:19.620And I do, I am a Christian and that's important to me, but it has to be something that you all are on the same page about.
00:09:28.620You know, I go to church every Sunday. If he doesn't, am I okay with that?
00:09:32.620If it's just like, you know what, this is the way that I worship. You don't have to go. That's fine.
00:09:36.620But if it's, you know, the other way around, if he's active in the church and you just want to sit at home,
00:09:41.620you know, that could cause an issue. So whatever it is, that's something you need to be ready to talk about.
00:09:46.620That's I was just thinking about this the other day because I grew up Catholic and then I went to the Christian church for a couple of years.
00:09:54.620And then I moved to England and I got really overwhelmed and I just kind of stopped going the last, I don't know, year or two, maybe two years.
00:10:01.620And I was trying to think like, what do I want to do now? You know, cause now I have, you know, stuff has been outsourced.
00:10:07.620Like other people are doing shows. I have a bit more time than I did like last year.
00:10:11.620And it's, it's a good question. Like what would I want my kids to be raised as?