How to Identify A Good Woman
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss what it means to be a good woman, how to identify a good man, and how to find a good wife and mother. We also talk about the importance of a good husband and father.
Transcript
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Even doctors are lying to people now, saying, oh, it's okay to eat a cheeseburger.
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And it's like, you guys, why are you lying to these people who actually, some people who actually want to be helped are being lied to.
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Doctors aren't really even trained in nutrition.
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And the business model isn't set up for them to support their patients.
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And we really need to get smart and get responsible and to be clear about what we're putting in our thoughts, in our minds, and in our mouths.
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They said, as an African woman, Zimbabwean, we are curvy.
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There's a big difference between being curvy and overweight.
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And then there's another one that was from interracial marriages or relationships.
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For a black men community, we value bigger women because they make for better sex partners.
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My thin woman felt like she was too pretty to fulfill my sexual requirements.
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Okay, so how, did you say, how does a man identify a good woman?
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I would say that a man identifies a good woman if she's, one, healthy and fit.
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And I'd say, number two, if she has traditional values, if she believes in being submissive, if she believes in being feminine, she loves.
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And then I think if she wants to cook, if she's okay cleaning, she wants, she's a homemaker, she would love to, you know, have children and take care of them and be a housewife.
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And so that's what I think identifies a good woman.
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Well, identifying as a good woman nowadays is a bit difficult.
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However, I would emphasize on the values and the morals of the woman.
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Primarily, her ability to be a good wife, her ability to raise good children, and even her thoughts and the things she has in mind, because she's going to be molding the next generation.
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Because, you know, women lie, like we can just say things, like I'm...
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But, you know, if you have a deep conversation with a person...
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But believe me, throughout time, you can identify.
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I would say, I would give it like three months, but it can...
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Okay, so you think in three months, he can see if she has traditional values?
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So healthy, so he can look, she healthy and fit, cool.
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So ask her to do something and see what she does.
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I mean, if a man tells to a woman, can you please make me a coffee or a meal?
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And she'd say, hell no, I'm not doing this to you.
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Yeah, it's his ability to identify what he values in a woman.
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I mean, that's going to be subjective to an extent.
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Yeah, so I'm asking, like, what makes someone a good woman?
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I think what you were saying as well, men do test women.
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I've been tested by men, like, with certain things.
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And then he will know, do you know how to cook?
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So I'm just, I want to get it step by step further.
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I'm just curious how it's going to align with what you guys say.
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Okay, so first he's got to see her for three months.
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I think that, honestly, if it's a high-value man, most of the time he's going to know without all of that, honestly.
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There is this, I don't know if it's the right word, but there is this aura.
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There is this sense when you sit with a woman who you know is going to be respectful to you or not.
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I know, but average men nowadays look at high-value men's content more and more and more and try to see.
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So you think, I'm just curious, you think men just know?
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They don't just know, but they should get to a point to just know.
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So how does he get to that point that he just knows?
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Well, slowly, slowly, slowly we're getting to a point where I think they need to go to certain parts of the world to know.
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And certain parts of the world, they will just know that 90% of the women will not be like that.
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Okay, so he needs to travel somewhere else and then experience those women and then compare them to...
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Okay, but for a guy that doesn't travel, like he stays in the West, because remember, most guys don't make a ton of money.
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Like I think half of U.S. men don't have passports.
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So for a guy that's not traveling, how does he know good woman versus bad woman?
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I would say if the first conversation with her is like, oh, so where are we going to dinner?
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I think when you meet a girl, you should take her for coffee and that's it.
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I don't know if she wants to continue the date and get you to buy her dinner.
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Can a man know a good woman from a bad woman without experiencing a lot of women?
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I would suggest that in his 20s he dates as many women as he can.
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Date as many women as possible to tell the difference.
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Because again, remember, I just want to remind everybody the stats.
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38% of women or of kids are born into single-parent homes,
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meaning 38% of the next generation has never seen a functioning marriage.
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Average child, first child is before the average age of first marriage.
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Average number of partners for a woman is between four and eight.
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And that's self-reported, so, you know, take that with a grain of salt.
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But women have a 20% chance of being in a happy marriage if they have slept with more than five people.
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And if men get divorced, they can be financially ruined and their kids can be taken from them.
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So basically there's a lot riding on them picking the right woman.
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And in this book they were making a case basically for polyamory and polyamorous relationships,
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But I was trying to convince myself because everyone else seems to think that's a good idea except for me.
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So I thought, well, I've got to read this book.
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But at the end of the book they had a very interesting fact about the olfactory sense, right?
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A woman can tell if a man will complement her differences genetically.
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But a woman actually can't if she's taking birth control.
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He can genetically identify through his olfactory sense, through his nose, whether or not she'll complement his genetic weaknesses.
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But apparently it's like a deep, very primal thing about this attraction.
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I mean, clearly one out of three are having abortions.
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The majority, oh, 90% of women have used contraceptives throughout their reproductive years and have used more than one in their lifetime, 76%.
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Sorry, can I just add one more thing that came to my mind?
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Sometimes I do understand that not all of the parents can stay together, of course.
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So if a girl, even if a girl is not on good terms with her dad, but she disrespects him by talking trash to a guy, that's not a girl that you should marry, honestly.
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And if, I don't think you can disagree with this because there's no.
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But even if you haven't got a great relationship with your, or your father's absent, it doesn't mean that the woman is going to be a wreck.
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No, no, I'm not saying that, but I'm saying she shouldn't trash him.
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Well, yeah, but why do we have the phrase daddy issues if it doesn't mean anything?
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A lot of people that have daddy issues, and we don't know who they are, I'm one of them, but I'm not a disrespectful person to men, like I'm not.
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Well, yeah, but we're not talking about you, but in general, like, I think.
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Like, I think if you've never, if you've never seen a healthy relationship, how would you know how to do it?
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Like, if I've never seen anyone ride a bike, how would I learn to ride a bike?
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If it was common, then why do half of relationships end in divorce?
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And why is the older generation known for being so unhappy in their marriages?
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Because men pick women based off the, off the surface.
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They don't actually get, get to find a deeper meaning.
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If women swipe right on dating apps, which is the most superficial,
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only 5% of the time, and men swipe right 50% of the time.
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One out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past year.
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One out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past year.
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So I'll tell you, a lot of women do sleep around.
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Yeah, so it's like 20% of men are fucking all the girls, essentially, in their 20s.
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Like basically, like women typically go for looks in their 20s.
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Women pick, like when women, this is the first time in history where women have been the sexual selectors.
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But now this is the first time where women have been 100% in control of reproduction because we have birth control.
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And it's funny because the more freedom women get, the more we screw the same people in our prime, which is like 22 to 24.
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And they said, when do you find women most attractive?
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So when women have the most choice, it's interesting because we pick non-monogamy.
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Which is why you see so many women sleeping with so many men and making decisions on the spot that aren't responsible, like abortion.
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So if the majority of women are going for men that's not monogamous, then why do they fight for a man to be monogamous?
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They see a man, obviously because they're going for the top 20% or whatever, which they know is, they can tell that he gets a lot of girls or whatever.
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So they want to try and lock down that one man so you don't.
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I mean, I think that's like every girl's, you know, has a, you know, what Cinderella was sitting at home and the prince like came and picked her out of all the princesses.
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They want to say I was the one who changed him.
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Does that change your perspective a little bit?
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I just still think that, um, men are looking for things they don't have themselves.
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They look, they don't have the minerals for the things that they want in the women.
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They think they know what they want, but they haven't even got the minerals anyway.
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Is it possible that women don't have what they want?
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So how would they pick it if the dating pool has like one out of every three women's had
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an abortion, one out of every three women has an STD, um, like 38, 40% grew up without
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Like how would they, where, how would they know who a good woman is?
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Like they've never, like what percent of men have like even seen a true traditional woman?
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But only like the high, upper class, high celebrity profile people.
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And then when I go there, they're like, oh, so modern, you know, everyone still cooks the
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Um, but so I'm just curious, like when you're hearing these stats, like assuming I'm telling
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you the truth, you don't think like it puts more of the promiscuity on women because we're
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So like, that means 80% of us are sleeping with 20% of men.