JustPearlyThings - How to Identify A Good Woman

00:00:00.000 Even doctors are lying to people now, saying, oh, it's okay to eat a cheeseburger.

00:00:03.920 It's okay to eat pizza.

00:00:04.980 They can't weigh you either.

00:00:05.920 Even that.

00:00:06.640 And it's like, you guys, why are you lying to these people who actually, some people who actually want to be helped are being lied to.

00:00:12.420 Oh, just do the keto diet.

00:00:13.720 Oh, just do the paleo diet.

00:00:14.720 You'll be fine.

00:00:15.520 That's not a long-term solution.

00:00:16.900 That's not a lifestyle.

00:00:18.220 Doctors aren't really even trained in nutrition.

00:00:20.780 They don't know how to help.

00:00:22.360 And the business model isn't set up for them to support their patients.

00:00:27.080 So it's, the whole model is flawed.

00:00:29.120 And we really need to get smart and get responsible and to be clear about what we're putting in our thoughts, in our minds, and in our mouths.

00:00:37.860 Literally.

00:00:38.940 They said, as an African woman, Zimbabwean, we are curvy.

00:00:42.580 There's a big difference between being curvy and overweight.

00:00:45.160 You can be thin and curvy and just big, big.

00:00:50.100 And then there's another one that was from interracial marriages or relationships. 0.97

00:00:54.600 For a black men community, we value bigger women because they make for better sex partners. 0.80

00:01:01.860 Marriage is different requirements than sex. 0.99

00:01:05.180 My thin woman felt like she was too pretty to fulfill my sexual requirements. 1.00

00:01:11.620 Okay, so how, did you say, how does a man identify a good woman?

00:01:17.800 I would say that a man identifies a good woman if she's, one, healthy and fit.

00:01:21.740 That's important.

00:01:22.520 Okay.

00:01:22.860 Especially for childbearing.

00:01:24.580 And I'd say, number two, if she has traditional values, if she believes in being submissive, if she believes in being feminine, she loves.

00:01:33.780 Susan, I might not answer that question.

00:01:35.960 We're going to get to the men.

00:01:37.400 Okay.

00:01:39.100 Don't worry.

00:01:41.220 It was just whoever's sitting, you know.

00:01:43.740 And then I think if she wants to cook, if she's okay cleaning, she wants, she's a homemaker, she would love to, you know, have children and take care of them and be a housewife. 1.00

00:01:51.740 I think that's beautiful.

00:01:53.300 And so that's what I think identifies a good woman.

00:01:55.760 Okay.

00:01:57.080 What about you?

00:01:57.860 Well, identifying as a good woman nowadays is a bit difficult.

00:02:02.840 However, I would emphasize on the values and the morals of the woman. 1.00

00:02:09.940 Primarily, her ability to be a good wife, her ability to raise good children, and even her thoughts and the things she has in mind, because she's going to be molding the next generation. 1.00

00:02:21.860 So how does he know?

00:02:23.920 Well, it can...

00:02:24.860 Because, you know, women lie, like we can just say things, like I'm... 1.00

00:02:28.440 But, you know, if you have a deep conversation with a person...

00:02:31.820 She can still lie.

00:02:33.200 But no, but to an extent...

00:02:35.000 But believe me, throughout time, you can identify.

00:02:39.180 Okay.

00:02:39.440 So how much time?

00:02:43.460 If it's...

00:02:44.560 I would say, I would give it like three months, but it can...

00:02:48.200 Okay, so three months?

00:02:49.660 Of constant meeting.

00:02:53.600 Okay, so you think in three months, he can see if she has traditional values?

00:02:57.980 Yes, she would.

00:02:59.180 I mean, just...

00:02:59.760 So healthy, so he can look, she healthy and fit, cool.

00:03:02.800 Yeah.

00:03:04.500 If she... 0.95

00:03:05.000 How can he test if she's submissive?

00:03:07.740 He can ask something and see the reaction.

00:03:10.180 So ask her to do something and see what she does.

00:03:12.700 For example, you can tell...

00:03:14.220 I mean, if a man tells to a woman, can you please make me a coffee or a meal?

00:03:17.960 And she'd say, hell no, I'm not doing this to you.

00:03:19.840 I mean, that's easily...

00:03:20.700 All right, see her for three months.

00:03:21.940 Ask her to make him a coffee.

00:03:25.180 Okay.

00:03:29.980 I'm just writing...

00:03:31.100 I'm writing...

00:03:32.120 What?

00:03:33.940 Okay, what else can he do?

00:03:35.920 How does he...

00:03:36.580 Does he...

00:03:38.420 Like, what else?

00:03:39.140 What else does he do?

00:03:41.020 I mean, well...

00:03:42.780 Because I was here, just find a good woman. 0.80

00:03:44.720 So I'm just trying to get from the women. 1.00

00:03:46.720 How do the men just find a good woman? 1.00

00:03:48.520 Yeah, it's his ability to identify what he values in a woman.

00:03:54.020 Okay.

00:03:54.500 I mean, that's going to be subjective to an extent.

00:03:57.580 Yeah, so I'm asking, like, what makes someone a good woman? 0.95

00:04:00.340 And how does he identify that?

00:04:02.480 I think what you were saying as well, men do test women.

00:04:04.980 I've been tested by men, like, with certain things.

00:04:07.360 How does he test a woman?

00:04:08.260 So, like, can you cook for me?

00:04:09.580 Can you make me food?

00:04:10.380 Or, like, on the spot, though?

00:04:12.320 Ask to cook on the spot.

00:04:15.800 But it really happens, you know?

00:04:17.280 It's a good test.

00:04:18.040 It really happens, for real.

00:04:20.060 And then he will know, do you know how to cook?

00:04:22.420 Can you cook properly?

00:04:23.380 Do you know what I mean?

00:04:23.800 Can you season that properly?

00:04:24.680 Even your presentation.

00:04:26.380 How you deliver the food.

00:04:27.560 Dropping the gravy on the side of the plate.

00:04:29.240 So I'm just, I want to get it step by step further.

00:04:31.860 We're going to let the men talk.

00:04:33.120 I'm just curious how it's going to align with what you guys say.

00:04:35.700 From the women and the men. 1.00

00:04:37.360 Okay, so first he's got to see her for three months.

00:04:40.400 Ask her to make him a coffee and ask to cook. 0.90

00:04:43.540 Oh, I disagree with all of that.

00:04:45.700 I think that, honestly, if it's a high-value man, most of the time he's going to know without all of that, honestly.

00:04:54.840 Most of the men nowadays.

00:04:56.680 How does he know?

00:04:57.280 There is this, I don't know if it's the right word, but there is this aura.

00:05:03.360 There is this sense when you sit with a woman who you know is going to be respectful to you or not. 0.87

00:05:09.880 I honestly feel that.

00:05:11.480 You think that average men just know this?

00:05:13.860 Because you're talking about high-value.

00:05:15.040 Yeah, I know.

00:05:15.860 That's like 5% of men.

00:05:17.340 I know, but average men nowadays look at high-value men's content more and more and more and try to see.

00:05:24.700 So you think, I'm just curious, you think men just know?

00:05:29.620 They don't just know, but they should get to a point to just know.

00:05:35.020 So how does he get to that point that he just knows?

00:05:39.140 Well, slowly, slowly, slowly we're getting to a point where I think they need to go to certain parts of the world to know.

00:05:46.320 And certain parts of the world, they will just know that 90% of the women will not be like that. 1.00

00:05:51.640 Okay, so he needs to travel somewhere else and then experience those women and then compare them to... 1.00

00:06:00.240 Exactly, exactly.

00:06:00.920 Okay, but for a guy that doesn't travel, like he stays in the West, because remember, most guys don't make a ton of money.

00:06:06.640 Like I think half of U.S. men don't have passports.

00:06:10.780 So most men aren't traveling like that.

00:06:13.000 So for a guy that's not traveling, how does he know good woman versus bad woman?

00:06:16.580 I would say if the first conversation with her is like, oh, so where are we going to dinner?

00:06:23.360 Are we having drinks?

00:06:24.540 This is not a right way to meet.

00:06:27.180 I think when you meet a girl, you should take her for coffee and that's it.

00:06:31.200 Even if you like her so much that you...

00:06:33.940 Take on a coffee date.

00:06:36.420 And see what she's like and see if she's...

00:06:39.900 I don't know if she wants to continue the date and get you to buy her dinner. 0.97

00:06:43.900 Can a man know a good woman from a bad woman without experiencing a lot of women? 1.00

00:06:50.800 Not really.

00:06:51.840 Okay, so in order to identify, he has to what?

00:06:56.640 I would suggest that in his 20s he dates as many women as he can.

00:07:01.300 That's what...

00:07:01.680 Okay, okay.

00:07:03.320 So how many women should he date?

00:07:07.560 As much as you can.

00:07:08.640 Yeah, as much as you can.

00:07:10.600 I'm not saying sleep with all of them.

00:07:12.600 You guys have given numbers, you know.

00:07:14.460 Date as many women as possible to tell the difference. 0.99

00:07:20.520 Because again, remember, I just want to remind everybody the stats.

00:07:23.660 One out of three women has an STD.

00:07:25.780 One out of three women has had an abortion.

00:07:28.460 38% of women or of kids are born into single-parent homes,

00:07:32.600 meaning 38% of the next generation has never seen a functioning marriage.

00:07:37.380 Average child, first child is before the average age of first marriage.

00:07:42.480 So the first kid, 26.

00:07:44.440 First marriage, 30. 0.77

00:07:45.800 Half of marriages will end in divorce.

00:07:48.080 Average number of partners for a woman is between four and eight.

00:07:52.220 And that's self-reported, so, you know, take that with a grain of salt.

00:07:56.240 But women have a 20% chance of being in a happy marriage if they have slept with more than five people. 0.93

00:08:01.500 So, yeah.

00:08:03.720 And if men get divorced, they can be financially ruined and their kids can be taken from them.

00:08:09.600 70% of women are overweight. 0.80

00:08:11.280 So basically there's a lot riding on them picking the right woman.

00:08:13.980 So I'm trying to give them a foolproof plan.

00:08:16.160 That makes sense.

00:08:17.760 There's a book that I read called Sex at Dawn.

00:08:20.500 And in this book they were making a case basically for polyamory and polyamorous relationships,

00:08:26.700 which I don't resonate with personally.

00:08:28.580 But I was trying to convince myself because everyone else seems to think that's a good idea except for me.

00:08:32.520 So I thought, well, I've got to read this book.

00:08:33.900 But at the end of the book they had a very interesting fact about the olfactory sense, right?

00:08:38.920 Your nose.

00:08:39.520 Like actually we sniff each other out.

00:08:41.080 A woman can tell if a man will complement her differences genetically. 1.00

00:08:47.580 I've heard that, yeah.

00:08:48.720 But a woman actually can't if she's taking birth control. 1.00

00:08:52.140 Oh.

00:08:52.940 It's disabled.

00:08:53.980 But a man can actually sniff her out. 0.99

00:08:56.820 He can genetically identify through his olfactory sense, through his nose, whether or not she'll complement his genetic weaknesses.

00:09:05.120 So how does he know?

00:09:06.060 What does he have to smell for?

00:09:07.260 I don't know.

00:09:07.860 That's a good question.

00:09:08.820 I wish I knew.

00:09:09.400 That's what I was thinking.

00:09:09.800 But apparently it's like a deep, very primal thing about this attraction.

00:09:13.880 So maybe make sure she's not on birth control. 1.00

00:09:16.040 Yes.

00:09:16.360 Right?

00:09:16.800 For example.

00:09:17.960 Not on birth control.

00:09:19.960 I think that works both ways.

00:09:21.240 I wonder what percent.

00:09:22.720 Hold on.

00:09:23.200 I just want to look up because I'm curious.

00:09:25.660 What percent of women are on birth control? 1.00

00:09:29.660 Also, who here is on birth control?

00:09:31.300 Raise your hand.

00:09:32.320 No one?

00:09:32.720 Not anymore.

00:09:33.880 I mean, clearly one out of three are having abortions. 0.85

00:09:36.140 I'm like, it can't be that high.

00:09:37.260 The majority, oh, 90% of women have used contraceptives throughout their reproductive years and have used more than one in their lifetime, 76%.

00:09:50.480 Wow.

00:09:51.760 Okay.

00:09:52.340 We just have a good room, I guess.

00:09:54.040 I'm going to add that to my stats.

00:09:55.120 Sorry, can I just add one more thing that came to my mind?

00:10:01.180 Ask her about the family, you know.

00:10:03.080 Sometimes I do understand that not all of the parents can stay together, of course.

00:10:08.000 There are special situations.

00:10:10.380 But just see how she talks about her family.

00:10:13.880 What is her relationship like with her family?

00:10:16.180 And her dad, too, you know.

00:10:18.680 Nah, I don't believe in that.

00:10:20.560 So if a girl, even if a girl is not on good terms with her dad, but she disrespects him by talking trash to a guy, that's not a girl that you should marry, honestly. 0.92

00:10:31.640 And if, I don't think you can disagree with this because there's no.

00:10:36.600 But even if you haven't got a great relationship with your, or your father's absent, it doesn't mean that the woman is going to be a wreck.

00:10:44.480 It's not necessarily true.

00:10:45.600 No, no, I'm not saying that, but I'm saying she shouldn't trash him.

00:10:48.200 Well, yeah, but why do we have the phrase daddy issues if it doesn't mean anything?

00:10:52.820 But some, most people, well, not, okay.

00:10:54.880 A lot of people that have daddy issues, and we don't know who they are, I'm one of them, but I'm not a disrespectful person to men, like I'm not.

00:11:00.880 Well, yeah, but we're not talking about you, but in general, like, I think.

00:11:04.000 It's your dad, no matter what.

00:11:05.260 Like, I think if you've never, if you've never seen a healthy relationship, how would you know how to do it?

00:11:09.740 Exactly.

00:11:10.300 Like, if I've never seen anyone ride a bike, how would I learn to ride a bike?

00:11:13.260 I feel like it's common sense.

00:11:14.960 I feel like it's like morality.

00:11:17.060 If it was common, then why do half of relationships end in divorce?

00:11:20.920 And why is the older generation known for being so unhappy in their marriages?

00:11:24.660 Because men pick women based off the, off the surface. 0.99

00:11:27.740 They don't actually get, get to find a deeper meaning.

00:11:30.620 If women swipe right on dating apps, which is the most superficial, 1.00

00:11:33.740 only 5% of the time, and men swipe right 50% of the time.

00:11:36.920 Who's more superficial, men or women?

00:11:38.960 Women. 0.93

00:11:39.720 But most women are hoes. 1.00

00:11:41.260 For real.

00:11:41.800 No, for real, for real.

00:11:42.680 They are.

00:11:44.220 No, that's incorrect.

00:11:45.860 One out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past year. 0.98

00:11:48.140 I feel like a lot of women sleep around. 1.00

00:11:49.620 One out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past year. 0.99

00:11:52.720 Wow. 0.99

00:11:53.640 I think a lot of women sleep around. 1.00

00:11:55.780 So I'll tell you, a lot of women do sleep around. 1.00

00:11:58.100 I do think that.

00:11:59.580 So what?

00:12:00.180 So you're saying we're the same set of men. 0.99

00:12:00.940 Yeah, so it's like 20% of men are fucking all the girls, essentially, in their 20s. 0.99

00:12:04.760 And then when women hit 30, they'll expand it. 1.00

00:12:07.220 Like basically, like women typically go for looks in their 20s. 1.00

00:12:10.720 Women pick, like when women, this is the first time in history where women have been the sexual selectors. 1.00

00:12:16.000 So like pick, historically, think about it. 0.99

00:12:17.760 You had to get along with the dude or you die.

00:12:19.980 Like they would pick you.

00:12:21.240 You wouldn't pick them.

00:12:22.460 But now this is the first time where women have been 100% in control of reproduction because we have birth control. 0.79

00:12:27.320 We're in control of abortion. 0.68

00:12:28.720 So we are 100% in control of who's born.

00:12:30.900 And it's funny because the more freedom women get, the more we screw the same people in our prime, which is like 22 to 24. 1.00

00:12:37.320 They surveyed men between like 20 and 80.

00:12:39.540 And they said, when do you find women most attractive?

00:12:41.500 It's like roughly 22 to 24.

00:12:43.180 All the ages think that.

00:12:44.540 So when women have the most choice, it's interesting because we pick non-monogamy. 1.00

00:12:49.180 And we tend to go for looks.

00:12:52.440 And women react out of emotion. 1.00

00:12:54.600 Solely out of emotion a lot of the time.

00:12:56.520 Which is why you see so many women sleeping with so many men and making decisions on the spot that aren't responsible, like abortion. 1.00

00:13:04.200 So if the majority of women are going for men that's not monogamous, then why do they fight for a man to be monogamous? 1.00

00:13:10.460 I mean, I think they want him to be.

00:13:12.280 So they want to change the man, basically.

00:13:14.140 They see a man, obviously because they're going for the top 20% or whatever, which they know is, they can tell that he gets a lot of girls or whatever.

00:13:21.880 Yeah.

00:13:22.560 So they want to try and lock down that one man so you don't.

00:13:25.060 Yeah.

00:13:25.640 Okay.

00:13:25.920 I mean, I think that's like every girl's, you know, has a, you know, what Cinderella was sitting at home and the prince like came and picked her out of all the princesses.

00:13:35.100 Exactly.

00:13:35.820 They want to say I was the one who changed him.

00:13:38.560 They've been selling us this dream forever.

00:13:40.540 Exactly.

00:13:42.180 Exactly.

00:13:42.580 Um, so what do you, what do you think of that?

00:13:45.880 Does that change your perspective a little bit?

00:13:48.000 Um, not really, kind of, not really.

00:13:51.220 No.

00:13:51.540 Okay.

00:13:51.760 Why, what does it not change?

00:13:53.580 I just still think that, um, men are looking for things they don't have themselves.

00:14:00.720 They look, they don't have the minerals for the things that they want in the women. 1.00

00:14:03.140 So they just pick women based off looks. 1.00

00:14:05.100 They don't know what they want anyway.

00:14:06.140 They think they know what they want, but they haven't even got the minerals anyway.

00:14:09.640 Is it possible that women don't have what they want? 1.00

00:14:11.640 Absolutely.

00:14:13.140 Right.

00:14:13.820 Absolutely.

00:14:14.100 So how would they pick it if the dating pool has like one out of every three women's had 1.00

00:14:17.860 an abortion, one out of every three women has an STD, um, like 38, 40% grew up without

00:14:23.980 a dad, so they don't have that model.

00:14:25.540 Like how would they, where, how would they know who a good woman is? 0.98

00:14:29.820 Yeah.

00:14:30.020 Like they've never, like what percent of men have like even seen a true traditional woman?

00:14:34.360 I don't think, yeah.

00:14:35.660 Do you know any women with like recipe books? 1.00

00:14:38.840 Only, only the, the high, only celebrities.

00:14:40.880 Nice, nice too.

00:14:42.420 But only like the high, upper class, high celebrity profile people.

00:14:45.960 Yeah.

00:14:46.380 And then these two now.

00:14:47.600 Okay.

00:14:48.020 My whole, and my whole family.

00:14:50.400 And then when I go there, they're like, oh, so modern, you know, everyone still cooks the

00:14:55.860 same meals.

00:14:56.600 Um, but so I'm just curious, like when you're hearing these stats, like assuming I'm telling

00:15:02.180 you the truth, you don't think like it puts more of the promiscuity on women because we're

00:15:06.820 only sleeping with 20% of men.

00:15:08.660 So like, that means 80% of us are sleeping with 20% of men.

00:15:12.720 Yeah.

00:15:13.160 Yeah.

00:15:13.700 And then.

JustPearlyThings - May 12, 2023

How to Identify A Good Woman

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