JustPearlyThings - July 25, 2023


Instagram Model Keeps CONTRADICTING Herself


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Length

10 minutes

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203.31412

Word count

2,139

Sentence count

214

Harmful content

Misogyny

12

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Hate speech

9

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In this episode, we talk about cheating, social media, and what we would do if we were in a situation where we had to choose between a relationship and a job. We also talk about the pros and cons of using social media in a relationship.

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00:00:00.000 But I'm saying that in a relationship situation, it has been used as being defined as a crime.
00:00:05.320 But for me, I don't I don't receive coercion well like that.
00:00:09.280 You know, I'm trying to trade off something for something else.
00:00:11.980 How much do you make off of Instagram a month?
00:00:14.760 I don't think I make money off Instagram.
00:00:17.040 So you don't make money off of Instagram?
00:00:18.800 No, no, it's not monetized for me, no.
00:00:20.660 Oh, so you wouldn't even give it up even though you don't make money off of it?
00:00:24.680 Because you said a business.
00:00:25.680 I just assumed you worked.
00:00:26.660 But I put my gallery on there, I'm a photographer, so I put my work on there and it's my personal gallery.
00:00:32.100 So it's my way of putting my work out into the world.
00:00:35.100 It doesn't matter whether it's...
00:00:35.800 What if he got you an art studio and said you can hang him up here?
00:00:41.800 No, I don't think so.
00:00:43.440 What's your price?
00:00:45.680 I just like my own thing.
00:00:47.080 So I think the way you phrased it is very easy for them to like wiggle out of the answer.
00:00:52.300 Okay, so let's make it more interesting.
00:00:54.640 You said you use your Instagram for work.
00:00:56.160 Do you post personal pictures or stuff on the Instagram?
00:01:00.060 Recently, yes.
00:01:00.960 So you definitely don't use it only for work?
00:01:02.840 No, my work was an exhibition, so I put myself...
00:01:05.420 Okay, but the point is, if it's a work thing, that's different.
00:01:08.180 We're trying to say like a personal Instagram.
00:01:10.820 We're not talking about something you use for work or you used to make money.
00:01:13.380 We're saying like the Instagram that you use to post your selfies, when you turn your back,
00:01:17.320 the mirror shots, the bikini stuff, that's the Instagram we're talking about.
00:01:20.520 You won't find me in the bikini on Instagram.
00:01:22.300 No, we're just saying it's a hypothetical.
00:01:24.820 It's a hypothetical.
00:01:25.700 Well, do you have selfies on your Instagram?
00:01:29.060 Yes or no?
00:01:30.200 I did one today.
00:01:31.260 Okay, so you do have personal things on your...
00:01:34.360 It's like you're guys weeding out of this answer.
00:01:38.360 Regardless, the answer is no.
00:01:39.960 I would not delete something if someone asked me to,
00:01:42.300 just because there was a relationship being dangled.
00:01:44.840 Okay, what would you give up for the right man?
00:01:51.500 Nothing.
00:01:55.120 Give me five.
00:01:57.720 Okay, I'm going to go to you.
00:01:59.580 Some more of a girl question.
00:02:00.780 If we go through like personal, like Instagram,
00:02:03.560 because I use mine for work and I don't post personal stuff,
00:02:06.140 I don't post my family, friends and things like this.
00:02:08.580 And if it was just personal, I would give it away,
00:02:11.420 because I think nowadays it's hard to get a relationship,
00:02:13.740 but it's even harder to protect and maintain it.
00:02:16.940 And if it gets to the point,
00:02:18.420 like nowadays with the mindset I have,
00:02:20.180 I'll give like my password or something like this
00:02:22.340 to give the person like the trust, you know,
00:02:24.980 because nowadays I think people are not willing,
00:02:27.360 they want the relationship,
00:02:28.180 but they're not willing to do sacrifices to maintain it.
00:02:32.520 So would you delete it?
00:02:34.440 He says, I'll pay you what you're getting paid now.
00:02:37.160 If he's the guy I intend to marry and have kids with,
00:02:41.560 I would do that.
00:02:42.380 You'd get rid of it.
00:02:43.060 I would do that.
00:02:44.000 Because nowadays, like for me,
00:02:45.300 like family and protect family
00:02:47.020 and my relationship is a priority.
00:02:48.880 And if he can cover like the cost and things like this,
00:02:51.420 okay, you don't need to work or things like this.
00:02:53.480 I would do that in order to protect.
00:02:55.200 Would you be willing to go down in lifestyle
00:02:57.060 for the right guy?
00:03:01.240 Not down, because I will find a way to put him up.
00:03:03.700 I think work as a woman is also like too many. 1.00
00:03:06.520 What do you mean?
00:03:07.160 You got kids,
00:03:08.020 so you got more expenses,
00:03:09.180 so it goes down.
00:03:10.120 No, but you're saying like before or with the guy.
00:03:16.700 So you go down in lifestyle for the right guy.
00:03:19.980 After marriage.
00:03:20.940 Yes.
00:03:22.120 It can happen, of course.
00:03:23.260 Okay, so you would.
00:03:24.580 Yeah.
00:03:24.840 Okay, cool, cool.
00:03:25.980 What about you?
00:03:26.840 Would you delete your Instagram for the right guy?
00:03:28.720 I'm not even on social media like this.
00:03:32.000 I don't even have full time.
00:03:33.760 I don't even have full time Instagram.
00:03:35.940 Would you stop cheating for the right guy?
00:03:41.180 All right.
00:03:42.980 No, but this is exactly what I was saying.
00:03:45.560 Okay, it's just because me,
00:03:46.840 I say like,
00:03:47.640 I do say yes,
00:03:48.780 I do cheat.
00:03:49.720 It doesn't make me,
00:03:50.680 it doesn't make me the wrong person.
00:03:52.600 Like all of these people that they don't say.
00:03:55.420 Look, I'm not judging.
00:03:58.380 I'm just asking the question.
00:03:59.720 Would you stop cheating for the right?
00:04:01.480 You meet Mr. Wonderful.
00:04:03.560 He's tall.
00:04:04.740 Whatever you look for,
00:04:05.820 you're tight.
00:04:06.600 Okay, the reason I'm not in a relationship,
00:04:08.820 it's just because there is no one deserving me not to cheat on.
00:04:14.160 Doesn't make sense?
00:04:15.600 So every guy you meet deserves,
00:04:19.240 so if you dated any of these three guys here,
00:04:21.620 four guys,
00:04:22.460 five guys in this room,
00:04:24.020 they all should be cheated on. 0.87
00:04:25.560 I really believe that relationship is very simple.
00:04:28.700 You say what you want,
00:04:29.700 you like it.
00:04:30.700 Like,
00:04:30.980 it just,
00:04:31.840 you talk,
00:04:32.700 you just need to talk.
00:04:33.520 You just need to be honest with each other.
00:04:35.060 Okay.
00:04:35.320 If there is something you don't like,
00:04:36.820 you just move on.
00:04:37.980 If,
00:04:38.740 like I said,
00:04:39.560 like I said,
00:04:40.140 so I'm asking you if you liked everything about the guy.
00:04:43.260 Yes,
00:04:43.580 I wouldn't cheat.
00:04:44.420 Okay,
00:04:44.880 thank you.
00:04:45.340 I wouldn't cheat.
00:04:46.180 Would you delete your Instagram?
00:04:47.480 I don't even have Instagram,
00:04:48.620 but like full time.
00:04:50.380 I have,
00:04:50.580 how do you get recruited on here?
00:04:53.880 Don't they recruit people through Instagram?
00:04:55.600 Through a friend,
00:04:56.400 a friend,
00:04:57.080 you know.
00:04:57.660 Would you delete your Snapchat?
00:04:59.740 My Snapchat is new.
00:05:01.180 I just delete my Snapchat all the time.
00:05:03.900 I even change when I'm like,
00:05:05.380 there is no way to find me.
00:05:07.000 Just for him.
00:05:07.740 Yeah,
00:05:08.340 for him.
00:05:08.660 Because I know you have Snapchat,
00:05:10.040 so would you delete it?
00:05:11.000 Yeah,
00:05:11.200 but it's new anyway.
00:05:12.600 Yes,
00:05:12.860 I will do.
00:05:13.800 Good.
00:05:14.040 And I will stop cheating if it's the right one.
00:05:17.440 Wow.
00:05:18.460 Yay.
00:05:21.220 What if a guy said this?
00:05:23.560 I don't think it'd be the same reaction.
00:05:25.260 No,
00:05:25.460 and it's going to be like,
00:05:26.580 it's going to be,
00:05:27.060 oh,
00:05:27.220 it's fine.
00:05:27.780 You know,
00:05:28.180 oh,
00:05:28.400 he just cheats.
00:05:29.160 It's okay.
00:05:29.680 But just because I have to,
00:05:31.360 I was to say,
00:05:32.220 oh yeah,
00:05:32.900 she's a cheater. 1.00
00:05:34.080 She's so much.
00:05:34.900 No,
00:05:34.920 no,
00:05:35.160 I'm sorry.
00:05:35.800 I'm saying I don't think like women would clap and laugh as much if it was a guy saying that.
00:05:40.540 I don't think it would be the same.
00:05:42.020 I think you get more leeway because you're a chick. 1.00
00:05:44.800 Hmm.
00:05:46.480 Okay.
00:05:47.000 What about you?
00:05:47.680 Would you delete Instagram?
00:05:48.580 I don't know.
00:05:49.260 It depends.
00:05:49.820 Like,
00:05:50.320 in what stage you are.
00:05:51.240 If a guy,
00:05:51.640 if I start to date a guy,
00:05:53.100 and he's like,
00:05:53.880 oh,
00:05:54.100 I want to continue dating you,
00:05:55.340 I want to get serious,
00:05:56.020 but I don't want you to be on Instagram.
00:05:57.140 I'll be like,
00:05:57.460 yeah,
00:05:57.540 but when you met me,
00:05:58.880 you would see what I do of like,
00:06:01.080 and if I put,
00:06:01.880 what if when you met him,
00:06:02.740 he was sleeping with other chicks, 0.99
00:06:04.420 but you want him to stop sleeping with other chicks? 1.00
00:06:06.720 I wouldn't be,
00:06:07.280 I wouldn't be going with him.
00:06:08.360 If I would be sleeping with other, 0.56
00:06:09.700 or like,
00:06:10.260 how,
00:06:10.540 how do relationships start nowadays?
00:06:12.500 Oh,
00:06:12.640 what do you mean?
00:06:13.220 Say it again.
00:06:13.720 How do,
00:06:13.960 how do relationships start nowadays?
00:06:16.500 In,
00:06:16.720 in a relation,
00:06:17.440 is it typically you start with the relationship or a situation ship first?
00:06:21.660 All right.
00:06:21.860 A situation ship.
00:06:22.560 Right.
00:06:22.920 So,
00:06:23.080 so,
00:06:23.500 so what does that mean?
00:06:24.340 He's probably sleeping with other chicks. 1.00
00:06:25.740 Yeah,
00:06:25.800 but I think that's a very different thing.
00:06:27.160 If you're sleeping with other chicks or you have Instagram,
00:06:29.040 that's two completely different things.
00:06:30.600 I would argue it's very similar because women, 1.00
00:06:33.500 and Instagram is an open profile for any man to message you.
00:06:38.120 How have women survived historically? 1.00
00:06:40.600 They got the attention of high value men or the best guy they could get.
00:06:44.180 See,
00:06:44.360 I gotta,
00:06:44.580 I gotta stop you there.
00:06:45.340 Wait,
00:06:45.480 wait,
00:06:45.620 wait.
00:06:46.020 Have men reproduced historically by screwing a bunch of chicks? 0.66
00:06:49.460 Women had to get the attention from the best guy they can't could men had to 1.00
00:06:53.760 screw as many chicks and impregnate them and protect them. 1.00
00:06:57.140 Okay.
00:06:57.640 That's why,
00:06:58.080 that's why I think it's similar because it's,
00:07:00.420 but you're,
00:07:00.640 you're fulfilling both of your mating strategies when it comes to like a,
00:07:03.840 your biological level.
00:07:05.940 Okay.
00:07:06.620 Yeah.
00:07:06.900 Yeah.
00:07:07.080 So,
00:07:07.340 so that's why since Instagram's the number one dating app and if,
00:07:10.900 if he wanted Drake,
00:07:12.640 Kanye,
00:07:13.180 any of them could message you,
00:07:14.120 I'm not saying they will,
00:07:15.400 but I'm saying they could,
00:07:16.520 right?
00:07:17.280 That's,
00:07:17.600 that's why I'm saying it's,
00:07:18.560 it's basically an invitation for any guy to message you at any point during
00:07:22.420 your relationship.
00:07:23.840 Good.
00:07:24.220 But like,
00:07:24.500 for example,
00:07:24.940 I think it depends as well.
00:07:25.780 My,
00:07:25.960 my,
00:07:26.220 my Instagram account is private.
00:07:28.140 Like I don't accept people.
00:07:29.320 If I don't know you,
00:07:30.240 a lot of people I don't know,
00:07:30.940 I won't accept you on it.
00:07:32.460 That also has to do with my job whatsoever.
00:07:34.260 Blah,
00:07:34.360 blah,
00:07:34.440 blah.
00:07:34.640 Do you have your,
00:07:35.380 do you have your face on it?
00:07:36.420 Oh yeah,
00:07:36.640 absolutely.
00:07:37.100 Okay.
00:07:37.400 So,
00:07:37.760 but the people that follow you,
00:07:39.340 yeah,
00:07:40.280 they can still message you,
00:07:41.480 right?
00:07:41.660 They could.
00:07:42.140 Yeah.
00:07:42.320 Okay.
00:07:42.520 And,
00:07:42.920 and there's probably men that you've liked in the past that follow you.
00:07:47.180 Yeah.
00:07:47.800 Okay.
00:07:48.340 So that's,
00:07:48.760 that's the whole point.
00:07:49.720 Yeah.
00:07:49.760 Yeah.
00:07:50.080 They can still message you.
00:07:51.560 Absolutely.
00:07:52.140 Correct.
00:07:52.420 Correct.
00:07:52.780 That's what I'm saying.
00:07:53.740 Yeah.
00:07:54.100 I think it's similar.
00:07:56.880 That's,
00:07:57.340 that's why I think it's similar because I think that sex,
00:08:00.300 um,
00:08:00.780 sex is to men like attention is to women. 0.72
00:08:03.460 But that is of course your opinion.
00:08:05.900 Yeah.
00:08:06.420 That's true.
00:08:06.960 That's true.
00:08:07.580 That's true.
00:08:08.200 But my,
00:08:09.680 my point though,
00:08:10.940 is that that's how we survived.
00:08:12.920 We could not survive unless we got the attention of the best guy we could,
00:08:16.620 that could protect us.
00:08:17.880 Men could not pass on their genes without screwing a bunch of chicks. 1.00
00:08:22.980 So my,
00:08:23.960 you,
00:08:24.140 you said he did that,
00:08:26.020 like that you were doing that when you met him.
00:08:28.660 And I'm,
00:08:29.060 and my point is that he was sleeping with other people when he met you.
00:08:31.900 Yeah.
00:08:32.340 So that he,
00:08:32.840 should he not stop?
00:08:33.700 Because that's how you found him.
00:08:36.420 Careful.
00:08:38.140 Yeah.
00:08:38.700 No,
00:08:39.140 I know.
00:08:39.520 I'm just,
00:08:39.980 I'm just thinking.
00:08:40.700 I'm just like,
00:08:42.240 I'm saying Pearl,
00:08:43.220 Pearl,
00:08:43.460 you're using too much logic here.
00:08:44.560 No,
00:08:47.660 I'm just still thinking like,
00:08:49.340 I don't know.
00:08:51.060 I'm just still seeing it very differently.
00:08:52.100 But that's exactly what I said.
00:08:53.640 This is exactly what I said.
00:08:55.080 When you go and decide to have a relationship,
00:08:58.320 you just say,
00:08:58.940 okay,
00:08:59.160 you're willing to do this.
00:09:00.240 You're willing to do that.
00:09:01.240 You don't need to push.
00:09:02.560 That's why cheating comes.
00:09:04.160 That's why toxic comes. 0.65
00:09:05.400 My point is he's asking you,
00:09:08.900 this is the right guy.
00:09:10.120 This is Mr.
00:09:11.000 Wonderful.
00:09:12.260 And he says,
00:09:13.140 I just need the Instagram to go.
00:09:15.800 I just want to know why.
00:09:16.820 If you have a valid reason,
00:09:18.680 if you have a proper valid reason,
00:09:19.900 why you want me to get off it.
00:09:21.040 He doesn't have a reason that's valid to you.
00:09:23.180 I would need to have a reason.
00:09:24.280 He just said,
00:09:25.000 lady,
00:09:25.500 this is my program.
00:09:27.080 I like you.
00:09:27.960 I just need the Instagram to go.
00:09:29.620 Please don't argue with me.
00:09:30.820 And if you want a relationship,
00:09:32.260 you just do it.
00:09:33.020 I will argue.
00:09:33.520 If you actually want it.
00:09:34.440 And Pearl said,
00:09:35.580 he has the reason,
00:09:36.720 but it's not valid to you.
00:09:38.940 No,
00:09:39.340 she just said he doesn't have a reason.
00:09:40.400 No,
00:09:40.560 he has a reason,
00:09:41.360 not valid to you.
00:09:42.040 I said it's not valid to you.
00:09:44.840 I think we're putting too much power
00:09:46.300 on Instagram,
00:09:47.080 no?
00:09:47.620 Yeah.
00:09:49.320 I don't know.
00:09:50.060 I don't know.
00:09:50.440 I would have to be in a situation.
00:09:53.060 I think with a lot of things,
00:09:54.060 when you say it's like,
00:09:54.600 would you,
00:09:54.980 would you?
00:09:55.480 I don't know if you can always say,
00:09:57.200 I would,
00:09:57.700 or I would not,
00:09:58.600 if you're not actually in that situation
00:10:00.500 yourself.
00:10:01.080 I think that's a no.
00:10:04.100 Thank you.
00:10:05.180 Personally.
00:10:05.500 Is the guy allowed to keep their Instagram?
00:10:08.120 Oh,
00:10:08.360 if he doesn't want you to have Instagram,
00:10:10.340 I wouldn't,
00:10:10.620 I reckon he doesn't have Instagram himself.
00:10:13.880 He's allowed to keep it.
00:10:15.500 No,
00:10:15.740 you know what?
00:10:16.580 You know what?
00:10:18.480 I'll tell you something.
00:10:19.380 I'd like to change my answer.
00:10:21.500 If you ask a guy,
00:10:23.840 will you delete the Instagram for me?
00:10:26.440 And he does that,
00:10:27.540 automatically he lost your respect.
00:10:31.000 Wow.
00:10:31.160 Wow.