JustPearlyThings - June 21, 2023


Instagram Model Says The Most Delusional Thing EVER!!!!


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Length

7 minutes

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219.1153

Word count

1,737

Sentence count

181

Harmful content

Misogyny

10

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Hate speech

7

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Summary

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In this episode, we have a special guest on the show. She is a 25-year-old college student from the Bay Area. We talk about her experience with dating and relationships and how she has dealt with the pressures of being a woman in her 20's.

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00:00:00.000 How old did you say you are again?
00:00:01.180 I am 25, I'm 26 in July.
00:00:03.140 You said that you have siblings, right?
00:00:04.980 Yes, I do.
00:00:05.340 Are you the oldest?
00:00:06.280 Yes, I am.
00:00:06.800 Okay, so I can tell you that I have younger sisters.
00:00:09.940 If I would see something like that on my sister's account,
00:00:13.340 immediately I'm going there and shut this account off.
00:00:17.140 Of course, and everyone has their different opinions about everything, okay?
00:00:20.540 There's a million opinions on a million things.
00:00:24.700 Would you want your daughter to do that on Instagram?
00:00:27.760 What I'm doing?
00:00:28.500 If you're married and you have a daughter and your daughter starts posting.
00:00:30.700 I would want her to do whatever she feels comfortable doing.
00:00:34.520 I don't post anything.
00:00:36.340 Good answer.
00:00:36.460 Do you think your husband would be okay with that?
00:00:37.840 Your husband would say, hey, I'm okay with my daughter showing her breasts on Instagram. 1.00
00:00:42.040 My husband.
00:00:43.080 Well, if you get married to a high value guy that takes care of you. 0.87
00:00:45.420 Exactly, but I have yet to be married to a high value man.
00:00:48.660 Right.
00:00:49.080 I have not been married before.
00:00:50.120 So let's project.
00:00:50.840 Do you think a high value man?
00:00:51.740 It's hard for me to say what I would be like in that situation when I haven't experienced that situation.
00:00:57.040 Of course, I'm going to take into consideration your thoughts on how I live and how I perceive myself on social media.
00:01:03.920 But at the same time, I'm 1000% going to always be myself.
00:01:08.060 And if you do not like that, then you're clean not the man for me.
00:01:10.940 Well, let me put it this way.
00:01:12.540 And this is, I'm going to be real serious here for a second.
00:01:14.380 Like I got two daughters, right?
00:01:15.440 And if my daughter is on Instagram and I see she posted a picture where you can, you know, see a lot more of her body than you should.
00:01:23.040 I'm going to find the guy that took that picture for that.
00:01:24.920 I'm going to break his freaking legs.
00:01:26.460 And I'm not even like, that's, that's barely an exaggeration.
00:01:28.820 That is just like not okay.
00:01:30.080 I understand.
00:01:30.920 Not even that.
00:01:31.420 Then I can see you're young and you're obviously good looking.
00:01:33.660 And I can see that guys would definitely tell you whatever to sleep with you.
00:01:38.860 And I can also see that you've probably not dated a truly high value guy because you've never had anybody set proper boundaries on you.
00:01:46.060 And that's the only reason you're able to say I'm always going to be me and truthful to myself.
00:01:49.280 And the thing is, if you want a man that would take care of you, he's going to have boundaries that you can't cross.
00:01:56.240 So you're not going to be able to be you and authentic and all that type of stuff.
00:02:00.380 Of course.
00:02:00.980 And I agree with that.
00:02:01.880 Like I said.
00:02:02.460 Because you have all the leverage now.
00:02:03.600 Because you're young, right?
00:02:04.600 I haven't experienced that.
00:02:05.360 Yeah.
00:02:05.740 Like I said.
00:02:06.880 I can tell.
00:02:07.220 I can only give you my judgment on what I've experienced.
00:02:11.520 So like I said, if I've been in a situation like that, I would be able to give you like my boundaries on that.
00:02:18.100 And if I would or things on I would and wouldn't do.
00:02:21.400 Do you think that men judge women on their past?
00:02:23.880 Yes.
00:02:25.080 I feel like there's a big standard on, oh, men have a thousand women they've slept with.
00:02:31.040 Yeah, women. 1.00
00:02:31.760 No, most men are sexless.
00:02:33.480 Most men are miserable and sexless. 0.97
00:02:35.180 Very few men actually have access to that, right?
00:02:38.640 Yeah, I guess.
00:02:39.960 It's just you guys are going after the same guys.
00:02:43.920 And then you don't really see the rest of them.
00:02:45.360 Yes, I agree.
00:02:45.640 You don't see 80% of them.
00:02:46.860 I 1,000% agree with that.
00:02:49.440 You know what the regular guys do?
00:02:50.600 They complain about all the other guys that are paying money for the dates.
00:02:52.980 You said that.
00:02:53.440 I just said that.
00:02:54.220 Right.
00:02:54.580 Exactly.
00:02:55.240 They do.
00:02:56.040 And that's what I'm saying.
00:02:56.920 Like I don't put myself in a bracket in a specific type.
00:03:02.060 I vibe with, if I vibe with you, I vibe with you.
00:03:05.400 And if I want to feel like I want to get to know you more than I will, but.
00:03:08.720 Do you think that, do you think that.
00:03:10.020 You really should take some of these pictures down.
00:03:12.480 Relax.
00:03:13.240 Show me one, babe.
00:03:14.620 Okay.
00:03:14.900 No, I'm going to.
00:03:15.520 I want to see one.
00:03:17.000 We can see both.
00:03:17.780 Just the first one picture, you can see both.
00:03:20.780 No, no.
00:03:21.360 It's actually sad to me because you're probably, I'd probably put you top like 20% of beauty to be honest.
00:03:26.660 Like you're a very, very attractive girl.
00:03:28.740 And I'm like, you have the power to be a housewife. 1.00
00:03:31.780 Yes.
00:03:32.120 Not every girl's born that hot.
00:03:34.040 I know.
00:03:34.240 Not every girl can do that. 1.00
00:03:35.580 Yes.
00:03:35.960 And you put this.
00:03:37.740 So, so it's like, it's like you have this inherent value that could get you this amazing outcome.
00:03:43.080 Yes.
00:03:43.700 That not everybody, it's like this amazing opportunity.
00:03:46.540 Okay.
00:03:46.880 Literally throwing it in the bin.
00:03:48.380 And you throw it away because it's like you have, you're in lingerie.
00:03:52.160 Yes.
00:03:52.920 I, I definitely hear that.
00:03:54.780 Like you're twerking here.
00:03:56.080 What are you?
00:03:56.660 Do you like the attention that you get from those pictures?
00:03:59.140 Obviously.
00:03:59.960 Um, for me, what it does is it gives me more work opportunities, you know, but they're not always, I'm not always naked.
00:04:10.160 Why don't you take more pictures like this?
00:04:11.360 Thank you very much.
00:04:12.640 Oh no, your boobs are out there too. 1.00
00:04:15.260 But they're not even that big.
00:04:16.880 If they were Katie Price boobs, I would understand.
00:04:19.640 There's barely anything there.
00:04:21.240 It is not that deep.
00:04:23.300 I can't find any that are okay, actually.
00:04:25.540 Real, real, real, real, real, I'm going to, I'm going to, I'm going to keep it real.
00:04:29.000 That's why.
00:04:30.340 Keep it real, real question.
00:04:31.700 Um, like, you know, you're, you're, do you consider, first of all, do you consider yourself a high value woman?
00:04:37.400 Um, as a 25 year old woman, I would say, I see myself on the way to be in there.
00:04:46.220 Okay.
00:04:46.860 Um, have you ever been with anyone famous?
00:04:49.040 No.
00:04:51.100 Have you?
00:04:52.800 I'm married 10 years, four kids.
00:04:54.700 Oh, nice.
00:04:55.640 I don't remember anything before that.
00:04:57.800 I love that.
00:04:58.740 I love that for you.
00:04:59.700 Um, I aspire to be married for 10 plus years.
00:05:04.120 Maybe she's proud of you.
00:05:05.080 Sis, get off the page. 1.00
00:05:06.020 Okay, okay, but how do you, how do you, no, I'm serious, like, I just, I'm trying to, okay.
00:05:10.480 How do you get there, like, this?
00:05:13.060 Do you know what I mean?
00:05:13.620 If you want, like, if you want.
00:05:14.960 I feel like it comes with social media, like, for me wanting to be a model, it comes with social media and how people.
00:05:21.960 No, not a model, a mother.
00:05:23.360 A mother.
00:05:23.980 A mother.
00:05:24.360 So, yeah, how do we get to, because you know that 90% of your eggs are gone by 30.
00:05:29.560 Are they?
00:05:30.140 Yeah, so if you, if you, if you're single, if you're single at 30 years old, you're more likely to not have a child than to have one.
00:05:36.580 So your, your chance of having a kid drops below 50%.
00:05:39.120 Okay.
00:05:39.820 So, like, you know, we, we know we're on, like, a bit of a time crunch here as women, right? 1.00
00:05:44.400 Yes.
00:05:44.880 Because you have to convince a guy to, they say, you have to first find the guy you like, which is, like, impossible because every woman's picky. 1.00
00:05:51.860 I don't care who you are.
00:05:52.960 Yeah, so you got to find one.
00:05:55.200 You got to find one that likes you.
00:05:57.080 And then you also, you also have to convince him that you are trustworthy enough that he can marry you and have children with you.
00:06:05.260 Exactly.
00:06:05.780 And you, you do, and it's like, how do we, how do we get there?
00:06:08.880 If this is, I mean, like I said, I'm still young, I think, in my brain, um, not a lot of them.
00:06:17.320 And I feel like.
00:06:19.080 Not for the men you want, to be honest.
00:06:21.380 For the men you want, they like girls 22, 23, like 25, 26. 0.96
00:06:25.460 And I'm 26.
00:06:26.380 So, like, we're old.
00:06:28.300 We're not old.
00:06:29.180 I hate when people say that, babe.
00:06:30.880 We're not old.
00:06:31.400 No, okay.
00:06:32.080 We're not old in the grand scheme of things.
00:06:34.140 Like, in life, we're young.
00:06:35.440 Right?
00:06:35.700 But, to the men that we want, the men that want to be, like, be fathers, the men that want to be husbands, the men that want multiple kids, we're not young.
00:06:44.700 Yes.
00:06:45.480 And that's what I'm saying.
00:06:46.560 Any guy that's for me, I would hope that you wouldn't see that and just judge me by that.
00:06:51.300 Of course, that is the first thing.
00:06:52.860 If you saw me on social media, that would be the first thing that you say.
00:06:55.880 Do you judge guys based on what you see?
00:06:57.360 Like, if a man is 5'4", you're like, I don't care. 0.99
00:06:59.560 Why would you laugh?
00:07:01.780 Interesting.
00:07:02.400 Why you gotta say 5'4"?
00:07:04.020 Why not?
00:07:05.140 I mean, that's what you see.
00:07:06.020 Are you gonna judge him?
00:07:06.900 Maybe he's got good character.
00:07:08.460 Exactly.
00:07:08.780 But I give people the benefit of the doubt.
00:07:12.420 I always give people the benefit of the doubt.
00:07:14.240 Have you ever dated a guy shorter than you?
00:07:15.540 Nope.
00:07:17.060 Would you?
00:07:17.800 Would you marry a guy shorter than you?
00:07:20.720 I would.
00:07:21.780 I wouldn't rule it out.
00:07:23.120 It depends how you treat me as a person.
00:07:24.820 Are you picky?
00:07:26.020 Yes.
00:07:26.480 Okay.
00:07:26.900 I don't want to lie to you.
00:07:27.840 So you judge men all the time and you rule them out all the time?
00:07:30.140 It's okay.
00:07:30.460 I do too.
00:07:31.020 Stop it.
00:07:31.680 Can we stop?
00:07:32.360 Not all the time.
00:07:33.500 People, I've had, for example, I've shown a guy who's been a guy who's been a guy who's been a guy.
00:07:38.780 A girl, like one of my friends, a guy, and they were like, Sinead, like, what are you doing?
00:07:43.180 Like, where do you see?
00:07:44.120 And I'm like, but it's not about, it's not all just about that.
00:07:47.120 Okay.
00:07:47.400 Just because your friends see him as ugly, it doesn't mean he is ugly.
00:07:51.020 I know.
00:07:51.480 So single women, they keep us single. 1.00
00:07:53.260 They do.
00:07:53.640 They do.
00:07:54.180 That's why I don't go to them friends.