JustPearlyThings - June 21, 2023


Instagram Model Wants A Traditional Man

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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Mainly Instagram Gran Canaria Y-G-N-E. Y-G-N-E. Powell Pearl
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9 minutes

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2,051

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287

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14

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15

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In this episode, I sit down with Rado, a full-time model on social media, to talk about what it's like being a woman in the dating world, and how to balance a career and a family life.

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00:00:00.000 When's the last time you cooked for like a dinner party?
00:00:02.260 For a dinner party?
00:00:03.180 Ooh, I would say...
00:00:05.440 Like a group of people.
00:00:07.200 Like a good two months ago.
00:00:09.060 Like I cooked for my family and they enjoyed it.
00:00:11.880 I made some salmon, some roast potatoes, and a nice salad on the side.
00:00:16.800 Can I, I have a couple questions.
00:00:18.100 I'm gonna go, I'm gonna go.
00:00:18.860 Sure, go in, go in hard.
00:00:20.340 I feel like you've got a lot of hard questions.
00:00:21.660 So here's a hard question.
00:00:22.540 So like, first of all, you have a job, you do something for work.
00:00:25.120 How do you make your money right now?
00:00:26.280 So I'm a full-time model right now.
00:00:27.780 Full-time model on which platform?
00:00:30.000 On all the social medias.
00:00:32.060 Mainly Instagram.
00:00:33.300 Mainly Instagram.
00:00:34.020 Understood.
00:00:34.800 There's a few questions as proud from them.
00:00:36.400 Let me keep going.
00:00:36.960 So as a full-time model on Instagram, you probably have some gentlemen that are approaching you pretty frequently and saying,
00:00:41.020 Hey, what's up?
00:00:42.080 Have you dated anybody pretty wealthy?
00:00:45.460 No.
00:00:46.120 Do you travel a lot?
00:00:47.640 Sometimes.
00:00:48.260 How does the travel look?
00:00:49.700 How does the travel look?
00:00:50.600 Yeah, like where do you go and how do you get there?
00:00:54.000 I just be traveling.
00:00:55.400 I get on a plane.
00:00:56.340 Well, I was, when I was 25, like I wasn't going.
00:01:00.000 I was going on a plane and traveling.
00:01:00.880 I didn't have the money.
00:01:01.560 Like, well, I did, but let's say 22, I didn't have the money to go on a plane and just be traveling.
00:01:05.540 How do you be traveling?
00:01:06.280 How does that work?
00:01:06.780 Like who's paying for the travel?
00:01:07.920 Me.
00:01:08.380 So some, of course, I'd be paying for my own travel.
00:01:10.560 Is this like a modeling travel thing or somebody's like, well, come do a shoot.
00:01:13.100 Sometimes I'll get a shoot.
00:01:14.360 I'll get a booking abroad and they sort that all out.
00:01:17.380 Right.
00:01:17.860 Sometimes I'll do it myself.
00:01:19.560 Like I'm very last minute.
00:01:20.820 Like I'm like spontaneous.
00:01:22.880 My friends would be like, you want to go here?
00:01:24.820 Is this this?
00:01:25.620 You got it?
00:01:26.440 Yeah, I got it.
00:01:26.960 What are some places you've gone in the last two years?
00:01:28.280 What are some places you traveled?
00:01:29.020 So I've been like Gran Canaria, like mainly like the European areas, basically like Gran Canaria.
00:01:35.440 I've been Portugal.
00:01:37.120 I literally went there twice since January to now.
00:01:41.060 Just places like that.
00:01:42.400 Same modeling contract in Portugal?
00:01:44.660 I'm trying to venture out, yeah.
00:01:45.620 Same modeling agency in Portugal was hiring you for something?
00:01:48.300 That wasn't, that was just for fun.
00:01:52.080 It's like a girl trip. 0.93
00:01:53.300 Yeah.
00:01:53.640 Yeah.
00:01:53.780 So do you have more, your friends are more girlfriends or boyfriends?
00:01:59.400 Girls.
00:02:00.660 Are any of your female friends married?
00:02:04.060 No.
00:02:05.060 So let's say you're in a marriage.
00:02:06.780 Let's think about that.
00:02:07.400 Okay.
00:02:07.720 Sure.
00:02:08.100 And your husband is, as Rado explained here, he's working in his office, like he's not home,
00:02:14.760 maybe he's doing some business traveling.
00:02:17.140 During that time, your friends come to you and ask you to go for a spa night.
00:02:21.980 What will be your answer to that?
00:02:24.680 The girl that's married or me?
00:02:26.400 Your friends.
00:02:27.800 And they wanted me to go for a spa night?
00:02:29.520 With them, yeah.
00:02:30.440 Of course I'm going.
00:02:31.140 Why wouldn't I go?
00:02:32.640 Okay.
00:02:34.560 Hey, I got another follow-up question to that.
00:02:37.160 Sure.
00:02:37.480 You know, you make some money on social media.
00:02:40.700 That's your thing.
00:02:41.280 But what if the guy you're dating, he's like, you know, he's pretty serious about you.
00:02:44.080 And he's like, look, we can take this relationship to the next level, but you got to shut down
00:02:48.080 your social media accounts.
00:02:48.880 I have to shut down my job, basically.
00:02:53.820 Basically, you have to turn off your social media accounts.
00:02:55.340 He's like, look, I know you're a model.
00:02:56.680 I know you're putting yourself out there, but you have to take your Instagram down.
00:02:59.100 You have to take it down.
00:02:59.860 Like, it's just not something.
00:03:00.900 Yeah, these are guys that can pay for everything.
00:03:03.800 So if these are guys that can pay for everything, I would say that is perfectly fine by me.
00:03:09.440 If you're helping me to build another business that's outside of that social media world,
00:03:14.540 that's perfectly fine for me.
00:03:15.400 Why would he be helping you build another business?
00:03:17.460 Because you're taking me away from my business.
00:03:18.980 No, but I would retire.
00:03:19.900 Like, the guy would say, I'm going to retire you.
00:03:20.840 Oh, you want to retire me?
00:03:21.880 Right.
00:03:22.220 Like, you're done.
00:03:23.480 Let's go, baby.
00:03:24.120 We don't need to talk.
00:03:24.820 You want to leave right now?
00:03:25.680 No.
00:03:27.520 I've retired one woman, and that's enough. 0.99
00:03:31.720 No, yeah.
00:03:32.580 Why not?
00:03:33.340 Um, how, have you dated since your last relationship?
00:03:39.800 Yes, I've been on dates.
00:03:41.480 And how, what's the eyes?
00:03:43.180 I'm traumatized.
00:03:44.040 Oh, you're traumatized.
00:03:45.140 Gosh, like I said, these men, maybe it's just the guys I go for.
00:03:49.340 I don't want to put you all in a bracket.
00:03:51.280 How do you find them?
00:03:51.840 Like, do they approach you on Instagram or Tinder?
00:03:54.080 Yeah, they'll be on Instagram.
00:03:54.720 Or where do you guys meet?
00:03:55.920 I'll be on set, on shoots, and they'll be, like, trying to, like, sneak it in.
00:03:59.780 Like, hey, like.
00:04:01.140 What's your Instagram?
00:04:02.120 Can I look at it?
00:04:02.700 Sure.
00:04:03.760 It's my name, S-H-A-N.
00:04:06.200 S-H.
00:04:06.700 It's a hard spelling.
00:04:08.100 Y-G-N-E. 1.00
00:04:09.300 Y-G-N-E. 1.00
00:04:11.040 Powell.
00:04:12.320 I found it.
00:04:13.920 So, yeah, they'll just, like, DM me.
00:04:15.640 You go to Dubai off of 3,000 followers?
00:04:18.940 Dubai?
00:04:19.680 This is crazy.
00:04:20.320 No, I said Europe, babe.
00:04:21.200 No, I'm saying, like, you get to be, you get to work full time.
00:04:24.280 So, for example, for me, I'm very good at networking.
00:04:27.860 So, when I go to on set, like, I like to, I make sure that I network with production or
00:04:32.600 I make good professional relationships with people so that they're able to just reach out
00:04:37.400 to me.
00:04:38.080 Do you want to be a wife? 0.98
00:04:40.240 Yes.
00:04:40.960 Do you feel like you present yourself like a wife?
00:04:45.320 Yes.
00:04:48.260 Girl, what is this?
00:04:49.760 My wife.
00:04:50.460 Can I see?
00:04:51.360 Can I see?
00:04:51.420 Can I see?
00:04:51.660 Pearl, could you pass it?
00:04:53.380 It's black and white.
00:04:55.240 And I'm just saying, have a look.
00:04:56.980 Let me take a look.
00:04:58.380 You wouldn't say that that's a wife. 1.00
00:05:00.680 You would get my, like, very.
00:05:01.840 Okay, what do you want in a mother? 1.00
00:05:04.020 In a mother?
00:05:04.400 Like, what would a guy want in a mother? 0.98
00:05:07.100 Someone that's there for them that's loving, that's caring.
00:05:11.460 Okay, but.
00:05:13.040 What else would you want in a mother? 1.00
00:05:14.660 No, I'm saying, like, when he's picking a wife, he wants a wife and a mother, right?
00:05:18.040 Okay.
00:05:18.260 So, when we're marketing.
00:05:19.800 Down.
00:05:20.160 I hate that question.
00:05:21.800 Yeah, so I'm saying, when we're marketing or, like, when you're trying to, you know, 0.99
00:05:25.100 He's like, what the fuck is this? 1.00
00:05:28.080 Like, do you think it's good for a wife and a mother to have her, like, her tits out on 1.00
00:05:32.140 Instagram? 0.99
00:05:32.520 I mean, I feel like, I feel like people forget.
00:05:36.240 Okay, so.
00:05:37.040 No, they don't.
00:05:37.780 The internet never forgets.
00:05:39.180 No, no, no, not forget, but, like, not forget the pictures.
00:05:43.020 I don't mean things like that.
00:05:44.440 But, for example, like, there's a difference between the old-fashioned way and the new
00:05:49.740 fashion.
00:05:50.620 Now, everyone's on Instagram and on social media doing these kind of.
00:05:54.060 But you still want the traditional guy to take care of you.
00:05:56.980 And a lot of people.
00:05:58.940 You still are looking for a traditional guy to take care of you. 0.90
00:06:02.560 Yeah.
00:06:02.920 So, you can't have both. 0.93
00:06:04.320 You can't be modern with the tits out. 1.00
00:06:05.980 But I didn't say no to saying if he was to retire me and saying stuff.
00:06:09.200 But why would he want that when that stuff's out there?
00:06:11.940 I've never had any.
00:06:13.680 3,000 guys.
00:06:14.600 I'm trying to help you.
00:06:15.800 So, it's like.
00:06:16.620 No, I'm serious.
00:06:17.560 No, I know.
00:06:18.260 I hear it.
00:06:18.680 Because it's like, how are you going to get that outcome?
00:06:21.000 So, right now, like, today.
00:06:22.140 Right?
00:06:22.340 You're in a room with guys that make millions of dollars.
00:06:25.080 So, this is an opportunity for you.
00:06:26.680 Yeah, absolutely.
00:06:27.200 And we don't walk down the street and that doesn't happen, right?
00:06:31.360 No, I know.
00:06:31.900 I know.
00:06:32.000 And so, but it's like when you have a chance like that.
00:06:34.420 Yeah. 0.98
00:06:34.560 And they look at your Instagram and see your boobs out. 0.99
00:06:36.860 Do you think that screams like wife, mother? 0.94
00:06:38.540 I mean, to be honest, for me, if you want to judge me by that, that's fine.
00:06:43.240 Kind of.
00:06:43.640 You know what I mean?
00:06:44.660 I understand that that's a part of what you see.
00:06:48.340 Because that's what I'm putting out there.
00:06:49.700 Actually, that's more than a part.
00:06:51.020 That's your.
00:06:52.180 It's more than a part.
00:06:52.980 It's always better in person, babe.
00:06:54.640 It's always better in person.
00:06:56.140 Well, no, it's not anything about who you are as a person.
00:07:00.660 No, I know.
00:07:01.340 Exactly.
00:07:01.680 But that's what I'm showing, basically, is what you're saying.
00:07:03.960 That's like the first, like, thing that you would get from me is my social media.
00:07:10.680 What do you think guys would assume when they see that?
00:07:13.320 What they would assume?
00:07:16.680 Your personality?
00:07:18.600 I'm a hardworking guy.
00:07:19.620 Her personality is a better person.
00:07:23.060 I don't know.
00:07:24.140 For me, I do not judge people by their social medias.
00:07:28.660 People portray one thing on there, and then they're different in real life.
00:07:32.340 I don't really go off that.
00:07:33.440 I like to go off how you are in person.
00:07:35.060 You just said it's better in your life.
00:07:37.000 Like, rather than mitigating that, you just accentuated more. 0.99
00:07:39.360 Like, well, you've seen my tits. 1.00
00:07:40.340 They're even better in real life. 0.99
00:07:41.540 If you get the chance to get that close, babe.
00:07:44.100 I mean, it's fine.
00:07:47.660 That's cool.
00:07:48.420 I understand.
00:07:49.160 Like, you're obviously confident in yourself.
00:07:51.320 That's a great thing.
00:07:52.500 But the signaling, you know, it's like, I don't know about you guys, but, like, would you feel comfortable, let's say, considering taking a woman seriously?
00:07:59.220 When I say seriously, I don't mean, like, taking her on a trip and, like, having some fun.
00:08:02.220 I mean, like, would you consider a woman to introduce your parents to get married to if 3,000 guys have liked her boobs on Instagram? 0.54
00:08:09.560 I actually was going to ask. 0.98
00:08:10.900 Like, she said that you said that you were dating Leslie with, like, really bad guys, like douchebags and stuff.
00:08:17.980 Do you think that a guy like us or someone outside that has a lot of possibilities will see that and will say, okay, I want to date her?
00:08:30.380 Yeah, because that's me.
00:08:32.880 Anyhow, you know, social media is more like the dating platform these days, isn't it?
00:08:37.760 Do you think they will consider when they're looking at those pictures to date you for a long-term relationship?
00:08:43.340 Yes, because I feel like there's more people out there that put out more...
00:08:47.480 Can I be, like, super honest?
00:08:49.220 Yeah, sure, go ahead.
00:08:49.900 Can I be very honest?
00:08:50.740 Is that okay?
00:08:51.500 Yeah, absolutely. 0.97
00:08:51.820 Like, if I see that, I see kind of expensive date, easy sex. 0.86
00:08:58.000 That's what I see. 0.88
00:08:58.960 Yes, yeah.
00:08:59.580 That's how I would treat you off of that.
00:09:02.940 And then what they're trying to say is this is what you're portraying and then maybe this is why that's the treatment you're getting.
00:09:10.060 So this is what I'm saying.
00:09:11.040 People don't court these days.
00:09:12.380 They don't date.
00:09:13.040 But they always want to get straight to that.
00:09:15.740 So instead of you saying, okay, I see...
00:09:18.400 No, they don't court you. 0.90
00:09:20.340 I really don't have a problem getting courted.
00:09:23.000 Like, women that don't, like, dress like this on social media, it's not hard to get courted in 2023. 1.00
00:09:28.020 Of course.
00:09:28.420 And so I'm saying, like, if you keep putting this stuff out there, like, that's what you're going to get.
00:09:32.820 No, it's very true.
00:09:34.040 And I understand that.
00:09:34.980 Sometimes you have to kiss a thousand frogs to get your prints.
00:09:37.840 No, you don't.
00:09:37.860 Well, you don't.
00:09:38.860 You don't.
00:09:39.180 You actually don't.
00:09:40.120 I hear that.
00:09:40.580 That's just a reference I've heard.
00:09:43.320 But at the same time, like I said...
00:09:45.140 That's an excuse for kissing frogs. 1.00
00:09:47.440 No, it's a reference.
00:09:49.140 It's a reference that leaves us single.
00:09:51.460 It's like older single women. 1.00
00:09:54.020 And it's like they tell us that we can do this stuff and it's going to turn out okay.