JustPearlyThings - November 06, 2023


Is Female Cheating Is Worse Than Male Cheating？


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Length

8 minutes

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164.58882

Word count

1,439

Sentence count

115

Harmful content

Misogyny

28

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Toxicity

21

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Hate speech

23

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Summary

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In this episode, I talk about micro-cheating and why it's a red flag. I also talk about the anti-suffragettes and their advice on how to deal with micro-ch cheating in a healthy relationship.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Decide the best course of action, whatever that may be.
00:00:03.020 You know what's interesting?
00:00:04.000 Whenever it's like a female, because, okay, female cheating is a lot more emotional than 1.00
00:00:08.840 male cheating.
00:00:09.860 You know, a guy will just find a hot chick. 1.00
00:00:15.160 Like, it's just like the hot chick was there, right?
00:00:17.340 But when women cheat, it's much more emotional. 1.00
00:00:19.880 It tends to be with a coworker at work, and they just seem to get their feelings involved
00:00:24.220 a lot more.
00:00:24.820 Um, but it's interesting how when she talks about male cheating, she says it's a red 0.94
00:00:30.800 flag, but things that are more associated with female cheating, she says the relationship 1.00
00:00:35.920 is not doomed.
00:00:37.200 This does not mean the relationship is necessarily doomed, just that it might require a bit more
00:00:41.760 attention.
00:00:42.180 So she's saying you might need to put more attention into the relationship. 0.97
00:00:46.080 Well, you know, men need sex, women need attention. 1.00
00:00:48.800 So she's essentially in this article, bailing out women from female cheating, saying that 0.96
00:00:54.320 male cheating is inexcusable.
00:00:55.980 Now they're both wrong.
00:00:57.100 Okay.
00:00:57.780 Uh, but I'm just really tired about all this psychology mumbo jumbo to just excuse women 1.00
00:01:04.820 from their poor decisions.
00:01:05.840 So we have the conclusion here, understanding and addressing behaviors that border on infidelity
00:01:11.400 require acknowledging that there is not a one size fits all solution.
00:01:15.380 The right solution is unique to you and your partner.
00:01:17.380 If you sent secrets being kept that cause feelings of betrayal, engage in open dialogue with
00:01:23.640 your partner.
00:01:24.220 Um, clear communication rooted in empathy and understanding is the cornerstone of a long
00:01:30.000 term relationship satisfaction.
00:01:31.940 So I had this thought recently.
00:01:34.480 I'm like, is communication that important?
00:01:38.820 Now I know, I know this is like a wild thought and maybe I'm wrong.
00:01:42.100 You know, all of you in the comments, but communication is more of like a female thing. 1.00
00:01:47.220 Like men don't communicate really to feel better, right? 0.93
00:01:50.360 They communicate to fix the problem.
00:01:52.260 Like what is the problem?
00:01:53.980 Let's fix it.
00:01:55.100 Where women on the other hand, you know, we communicate, we just want to let out our emotions. 1.00
00:01:59.600 So, um, essentially when we say clear communication rooted in empathy and understanding is the cornerstone 1.00
00:02:07.300 of long-term relationship satisfaction, what I hear is, listen to your woman bitch. 1.00
00:02:13.740 Yeah, that's what I hear. 1.00
00:02:15.640 Like seriously, this is what I hear. 1.00
00:02:17.320 Listen, basically your woman's feelings about micro cheating are valid, no matter how stupid they are. 0.99
00:02:24.260 So if you see him like an attractive girl's picture on Instagram, your feeling about it is 100% valid. 0.98
00:02:31.200 It is 100% valid to bother him about every feeling that you have.
00:02:37.300 And he must listen with empathy and understanding.
00:02:40.920 This is what I hear when I hear this psychology mumbo jumbo.
00:02:46.000 And that's why, guys, a lot of times I just don't even really, I don't really see therapy
00:02:52.120 as like helping relationships really.
00:02:56.440 Especially when it's a female therapist, it just tends to be do what the woman wants. 1.00
00:03:01.500 Um, but you know, maybe I'm wrong. 0.72
00:03:04.940 I'm just a woman hater, big hater. 1.00
00:03:07.720 So, uh, topic two, topic two.
00:03:11.240 So, um, I was scrolling on TikTok last night and I came across a video of a woman getting
00:03:19.620 marriage advice from the anti-suffragettes.
00:03:21.880 And this is something that I really want to push.
00:03:24.840 And I really want people to understand the anti-suffragettes were not badass women.
00:03:30.460 They were not these, they were not even well liked.
00:03:34.160 They typically were women that hated their husbands. 1.00
00:03:36.880 They typically were, um, the feminists of today. 1.00
00:03:41.720 There was no first wave feminism. 1.00
00:03:43.500 That was good.
00:03:44.540 The, the first, the, the suffragettes, when the Titanic sank, okay, and mind you, most
00:03:51.120 of the people that died on the Titanic were men.
00:03:55.020 Eighty percent of the women survived. 0.65
00:03:57.340 The majority of the men died.
00:04:01.000 And the, the anti-suffragettes came out and said, if a woman had built the ship, that wouldn't 1.00
00:04:07.560 have happened.
00:04:08.680 Now, does that sound like reasonable women? 1.00
00:04:11.420 And then you, you see the common arguing tactics.
00:04:16.000 Not all anti-suffragettes were like that.
00:04:18.900 That was just some, no, they were planning assassinations.
00:04:22.240 They were planning bombings. 0.99
00:04:24.100 Um, they were really just whores, um, man haters and women that hated their husbands. 1.00
00:04:31.260 And you can see it if you really look at their writings, which we're going to show now. 0.97
00:04:36.320 So this is marriage advice from an anti-suffragette.
00:04:39.400 Now, let me, you guys be the judge.
00:04:41.840 Let me, let me know if this is good.
00:04:44.120 This is 105 year old marriage advice for young women from a suffragette. 0.93
00:04:49.680 You know, the bad-ass women who fought for our right to vote. 1.00
00:04:52.340 And let me tell you, they had jokes.
00:04:55.640 And I don't know what her husband did, but it could not have been good.
00:04:59.040 Let's get into it.
00:05:00.160 Starting off strong with, do not marry at all.
00:05:03.400 But if you must, avoid the beauty men, flirts, and the bounders, tellers, dummies, and the football enthusiasts.
00:05:10.540 Look for a strong, tame man.
00:05:13.440 A fire lighter, coal getter, window cleaner, and yard swiller.
00:05:17.320 Don't expect too much. 0.99
00:05:18.800 Most men are lazy, selfish, thoughtless, lying, drunken, clumsy, heavy-footed, rough, unmanly brutes, and need taming. 1.00
00:05:27.800 All bachelors are, and many are worse still. 1.00
00:05:30.380 If you want him to be happy, feed the brute.
00:05:33.240 And the same remark applies to dogs.
00:05:35.920 And you would be wiser not to chance it.
00:05:38.120 It isn't worth the risk.
00:05:39.560 So I noticed one choice of words that the woman used in that video, the woman who wrote it, right?
00:05:48.620 She said, a man that's easy to tame.
00:05:52.400 And it really goes back to, feminists always want to mess up the natural order of the world. 1.00
00:05:58.040 Because what does it mean when you tame a guy?
00:06:00.940 As you guys know, I believe there's a natural order in the world.
00:06:03.660 It goes God, men, women, children.
00:06:05.720 And when women try to tame men, that means he's following you. 0.89
00:06:10.180 You're not following him.
00:06:11.720 And you see her describing what she wants.
00:06:13.820 She wants a weak guy that she can control. 0.99
00:06:16.200 And she says, don't expect much.
00:06:18.880 And it's so funny because she named some pretty, like, difficult jobs, I would say, especially back then.
00:06:26.460 And then goes on to say that the men are lazy.
00:06:29.900 Well, she's what? 0.99
00:06:30.960 Like, writing about women voting?
00:06:32.660 It's so funny.
00:06:33.460 I just think women project a lot of the time. 1.00
00:06:37.440 So it's like a lot of times the words that we use to describe men and what men want are really words that would be better used to describe women and what we want.
00:06:47.940 So I'll give you an example.
00:06:49.360 How many women have said they've dated a narcissist?
00:06:52.460 But in all honesty, guys, look at, like, open your eyes.
00:06:56.260 And it doesn't really matter what the studies say or whatever.
00:06:59.800 I really think we need to focus on what we see. 0.96
00:07:02.340 Who is more narcissistic, men or women, when most women have an Instagram account with butt pics on it? 0.99
00:07:10.460 And most women are very self-absorbed. 1.00
00:07:13.480 And you really see this where women were addicted to social media. 0.66
00:07:17.220 And what is social media?
00:07:18.360 Everyone's talking to you.
00:07:19.920 Everyone's commenting on your information. 0.84
00:07:22.040 So, again, I really think women are much more narcissistic than men, yet we call men narcissists. 0.98
00:07:29.560 I think women are much lazier than men, yet she's calling the guys lazy. 0.95
00:07:34.020 A lot of times the left will come and study, study, study.
00:07:37.780 And I'm not saying research isn't important, but we can't discount what we see in front of our eyes.
00:07:45.180 And the modern chick is very entitled. 0.98
00:07:47.960 The modern chick is self-obsessed. 1.00
00:07:51.160 And this goes back 100 years.
00:07:53.520 These suffragettes were not well liked. 1.00
00:07:55.400 And there's more women that were opposed to women voting than were for it. 1.00
00:08:00.740 And it's really funny because if you guys look up these writings, the women of the time,
00:08:05.420 they talk about how they didn't like the anti-suffragettes.
00:08:08.940 And they talk about how this was the beginning of the breakdown of the family unit.
00:08:12.940 And 100 years later, what have we found?
00:08:15.700 I think a third of kids now are born into single mother homes.
00:08:19.020 And half eventually grow up in a single mother home.
00:08:21.980 The family unit is so broken that couples can't even stay together until they actually have the child. 0.70
00:08:28.440 Couples will be broken up when the kid is born.
00:08:31.140 And, you know, that's supposed to be like, you know, a good time.
00:08:34.820 You're excited.
00:08:35.600 You have the kid.
00:08:36.340 And it's like in this modern era, everything is so different.
00:08:40.940 And the anti-suffragettes predicted this.