IS MARRIAGE A GOOD DEAL FOR MEN IN 2023？ ｜ THE PREGAME SHOW EP150
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Summary
In this episode of the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel, we have a meetup in London where we get to know each other a little bit more and talk about our past, present, and future. We also talk about women shouldn t vote and why women should not be allowed to vote.
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what up guys welcome to the just pearly things youtube channel and welcome to the pregame
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yourself a women shouldn't vote t-shirt today look at if you look at society and just say we're in a
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decline just know we wouldn't be in a decline right now if women didn't get the right to vote
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in 1920 you know every you know the anti-suffragettes you know what they said they said if women vote
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and these were wives and mothers that said this they said if women get the right to vote the family
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unit will be destroyed and they'll spend too much money look where we're at 100 years later take
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that shit away okay guys a couple announcements so the first thing is um we are going to be taking
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already do um that's not like it's got to be something different right guys um okay um i think
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that's all of my announcements we did the meetup guys but if you want to be notified of our next
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meetup in london sign up for our google forms list that should be in the description that way you're
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notified okay guys um welcome to the show thank you all for coming why don't we go around say your name
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your age your relationship status and a fun fact about yourself starting here go around and then
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second row okay laura from london um 30s and uh single 30s yeah 30 what yeah because every time
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you look at me like this oh i don't look at you you know i i think you i actually was surprised the
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first time you look young that was why i looked at you like that all right fine go ahead hi i'm
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ryanne i'm from london and i'm 28 years old hi i'm danika i'm 30 years old and i'm from london as
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well uh troy 47 and i'm from london and i'm a dating coach do you want an interesting fact i'm three
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percent albanian according to my dna wow three percent albanian where are you
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husband what are you saying i'm albanian as well what wow there you go um is it cheaper
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i'm a sheep what's my sheep sheep sheep uh um sheep what's it what are you saying
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adonis i'm 30 years old from new york city informative content creator
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i'll be 41 single and i was gonna say i'm a regular but all these guys car oh this is wicked
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everyone's a regular here oh yeah i don't think i'm new
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i was like oh yeah we do have a lot of repeats today this is great yeah yeah go ahead uh my name
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is neema and uh i have my uh show in new york city on november 17th um at city winery and i also
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yes yes is that dedicated to yourself or to women published on dng is that for men or women that should
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be for men yeah yeah no no why are they giving you a new age men you know it's interesting you know
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that's interesting be a man is seen as a good thing or be a bitch or a woman is seen as a bad
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thing no i don't think i don't think be a woman is seen as a bad thing if you say you're acting like
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a woman right now is that usually is that usually good or bad but if i say you acting like a woman
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right now it's usually a negative behavior it is yeah yeah all right go ahead china
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i mean i feel like i feel like i've my name is china how many shows have you been on at this
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point oh your shows yeah just i don't know like you can't even count right i can't count but
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what am i am i regular my panelists what am i what what am i now i don't know man my name is china
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demandam's voice and yeah everyone i feel like everyone knows me i just keep going viral every
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single day now and and and and yeah it's it's shout out to all the blogs that keep posting me
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um yeah demandam's voice my name is china on on on youtube and stuff so um china i'm so glad you're
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here today why is that i am so glad you're here um i actually decided that we're going to start the
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show with a certain clip that china sent me so you know so you know um china how old are you
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i'm just 10 49 okay so you're 39 so i'm seeing this growing number of older men
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right older like around 30 or late 30s early 40s that have never married no that have been right so
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you're you're 41 right you're 30 47 47 39 all of you guys never married it's interesting right i know
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you're you married but but you got married later too yeah i got married at 42 and so you know a lot
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of times they ask the question to the men why aren't you marrying these women you know so why
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aren't you getting married and china just had the funniest clip you know where he really answered
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the question why aren't why aren't why aren't the guys marion okay go ahead
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why aren't they riot why aren't they riot why aren't they riot
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Did you expect them to go that mental about it, though?
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I was going to answer it completely differently.
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is because women seem to have some idealistic...
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but I just think it's how you're attaching it to money.
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I think it's a shame that we can't marry for love.
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but unfortunately the culture doesn't seem to support that.
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I don't want to be dealing with a woman and thinking,
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because I see love as something pure and something distinct from that.
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I can actually relate to the black people here because many women have told me,
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You can't refer to black people as black people.
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but you just can't refer to black people as black people.
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love is something that comes in and it can eventually go in like a month or a year or two years.
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And the women that I actually believe make money,
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women tend to make terrible financial decisions.
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So are you saying that you're not a good business partner?
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I'm a bit of an exception because I was raised by a guy that's extremely successful.
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what women have had the upbringing with 10 siblings and a bunch of entrepreneurs in the family that were actually like the people that have achieved my dad's level of success is like.
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having a close relationship with a woman can sometimes get in the way of your career aspirations.
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They don't look quite so much like you actually doing the work.
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if you're with a woman that supports you in your business,
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and is like there for you through the growing of the business and is there to support you,
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but I just think you really don't understand the true nature of women because the reality
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I think what you should be asking for is a submissive woman,
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not a business partner because a business partner isn't necessarily a submissive woman.
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She could be submissive and a business partner.
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because you mentioned Beyonce and it's funny that you mentioned Beyonce because you
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have this perception that Beyonce is this business mogul,
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but do you actually believe that Beyonce is the one that has pushed her career to where
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Or do you believe she has a team of men that have helped up?
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but there's a lot of men around her that push her career,
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You want a woman that will literally support you in whatever decisions you choose to make,
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My woman has her own thing that she got going on.
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What happens to the kids if she has her own thing going on?
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you would take out time from your own career to help her out.
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you're telling me that you've never met women who actually do business,
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the like maybe 10 women off the top of my head that I'm like,
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Cause usually like if you ask chicks about how they make money,
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so the women that I've met that I would actually believe,
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I would say the majority of women that are successful are pretty
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I would say the majority probably aren't super submissive.
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One of the things I learned about women in general is that there's a
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If you look for the type of girls that are approved by certain women,
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then that's the type of grade you should be going for.
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You want the women that are approved by other women on the higher.
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it's women that are approved by other women on the hierarchy.
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from what I've learned and let's just give a little bit of background about me.
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I was artist director for a couple of different.
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You can sit down and find different types of women who are visually beautiful,
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But then you'll find another woman who doesn't show her body on social media,
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Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, hold on.
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if we're going to go by the women approved by other women,
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then you have the most followed women are Taylor Swift,
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Let me give you some advice, wait, wait, hold on, wait, wait.
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Do you see how combative girl in the black is and hostile?
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If you all see how combative and hostile the girl in the black is, then, now, if you look
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at the gay guy on that side, who's sitting crisscross applesauce, he's more feminine than
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Okay, okay, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
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Yeah, so what I was saying is exactly what you just explained in regards to the women
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on Instagram and the prim and proper, she literally just named two sets of women, Selena Gomez,
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Either you're trying to understand or you're not trying to understand.
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No, I have to wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, okay, thank you, thank you.
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Okay, wait, wait, let me speak because I'm trying to speak to you, bro, because I got
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You're doing what women do when they try to build a better, like an invisible man, like
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they'll be like, I want a man that's emotionally ready for me.
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So what I'm trying to say to you is, yeah, your job is not to build with a woman like that, bro.
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If you want to do that, you need to pick her in your teens.
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Well, now when you're 30s now, you're supposed to have it built.
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You're not supposed to be talking about I'm supposed to get a woman.
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A woman at this point is not supposed to hold your hand.
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I know it feels like you want it to happen because I want it to happen too.
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But at this point in your life, you need to go build and then have something ready for her to come and she can add on to it.
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You don't need to start saying, you know what, you need to start going because it's sounding like 50-50.
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It's sounding like you want to bring a woman inside to help build your dream, but you're not supposed to do that.
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So when she finds you, you're supposed to lead in her.
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You're talking about I want a woman to build with and build an empire.
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All she needs to do is be a submissive good wife and able to bear you children.
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But right now we're living in 2023 with women a lot more capable than they once were.
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Because you're going to feed the feminism with this, bro.
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Basically, you're saying, this is what the feminists live of.
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Digilence and masculine is two different things.
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I can't come back to two people at the same time.
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All you really need for a woman is to respect you and to see your vision, right?
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But what you don't need to do is start making a woman feel like she needs to build your vision.
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So the language you were using was looking like, you know what?
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All she really has to do is just be with you and believe in you.
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But sometimes, us as men, we need to allow a woman to get into a feminine and be like,
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And then the other half were like, you know what?
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I want her to come and pay the bills and come invest in my business.
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But the majority of the women I engage with, they're already...
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Well, the majority of the women I used to engage with, they're already doing their own thing.
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So that dynamic and that mentality is already instilled.
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I don't want a girl that's just not going to do nothing.
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But on the other hand, I do understand where he's coming from with like, guys don't want a girl that's just doing nothing.
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Like I think, and it doesn't have to necessarily be like a job, but you don't want to ever date someone that's lazy.
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I think the worst thing in the world is to be dating a woman who's just sitting around on her phone and just doing...
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Whenever we do this, this is like when women say like, oh, you know what?
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Like, bro, none of us, never in my life have I ever linked a waste woman of a girl that does nothing.
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Don't make me tell you about my baddies and what they got, bro.
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All they want is a man because they got everything.
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There's a lot of women that are in their bag that are doing their thing, bro.
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All I'm saying is when I meet these women, I don't say to them, you need to invest in my business.
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No, but I'm saying she don't got to do nothing other than be a boss bitch.
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I don't want to say boss bitches, but women, women who are successful.
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Women who are successful, who have their own passion, their own thing that they got.
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You want to be with a woman who's got stuff going on, but in terms of...
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It sounds like you guys wanted a regular degular, chill in the house, wash clean, don't do nothing.
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And even if I do want a regular degular, just chill at home.
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So, I know a chick, these women are rare, but she was homeschooled.
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And what she does is she's at home and she knows about...
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I think she works as like a nanny or something.
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If you bring it back to this question about marriage, because what we're talking about
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here is who would you choose as a life partner you're going to get legally contracted to.
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For me personally, I think it's got to be somebody who's kind of got to just step out the way
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I think they should give you the time and the space and the focus that you need to work on your stuff.
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Now, if she's doing her own thing, you know, in her own right, absolutely fine.
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I don't want to be with some girl who's just doing, you know, sod all and she's just looking at things all day.
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But I do think that the most important thing, and I personally in my own life I've found this quite difficult to find,
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is a woman who will give me that time and give me that space in order to do the stuff that I need to do in order to build myself.
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I think the most important thing is, no matter how much, how successful a woman is,
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no matter how much of a boss woman she is, what is most important is that the moment you're getting married to a woman,
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she needs to be able to, at that moment, put family before her career.
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Because the fact that she's been able to be successful up to that point just shows that yes,
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But there's a problem when, even in marriage, she's still trying to pursue her career to the highest points.
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Because then that affects the children, that affects the good of the home.
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We're not saying we want women that are just lazy and don't do shit.
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But the point is, she needs to be able to understand her role in the family.
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So I want to pull up a clip of me from Piers Morgan yesterday, because it kind of talks about this.
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Pearl, actually, actually, real quick, if I may, just before we start.
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I see your shirt there, and I actually disagree that women shouldn't vote.
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She has some nice tits, and I don't want to call her that.
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I met a girl, woman, and she actually wasn't that stupid.
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See what model Emily Raduchowski, one of my favorite dimwits, sparked controversy by claiming
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claiming that getting divorced before 30 is chic so it seems that a lot of ladies are getting
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divorced before they turn 30 and as someone who got married at 26 has been separated for a little
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over a year 32 i don't think there's anything better if there is nothing better than being in
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your 30s still being hot maybe having a little bit of your own money figuring out what you want
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to do with your life for all of those people who are stressed or feeling stressed about that about
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being divorced like it's a it's it's good congratulations congratulations god she's
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ridiculous uh well divorce is certainly becoming more common and marriage itself is becoming a
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fierce frontier in the raging culture wars on one side there are feminists rejecting and dating
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concept on the other so-called trad wives who think it binds our societies together well try to why
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spend their days due to the cooking and cleaning or their husbands go to work esther williams who's a
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25 year old trad wife has amassed hundreds of thousands of followers by showing off her trad wife
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life online she even gave up a job to be the perfect wife so is she and others like her saving society
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or are they selling out the sisterhood well joining me now is traditional wife and influencer esther williams
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and in the studio the socialist and author grace blakely and youtuber pearl davis this might be the best
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lineup in the history of television for a debate of this nature so i'm very excited all right esther
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williams let's start with you is the the trad wife sell it to me why do you think we should all go back
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to having trad wives in marriages um well i believe that well i actually don't believe that everyone
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should be a traditional wife i think that it is a choice and i think it's a lovely choice if a woman
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wants to simply be a wife and a mother and that's enough for her and it's it's a simple way of
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living with traditional gender rules um it's balanced and we don't have to do it all as women i think
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we've proven that um it's possible but at what cost right right and and in terms of what being a trad
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wife involves what do you think it means to be a trad wife
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well to adhere to traditional gender roles so what i mean by that is the husband he is the provider
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of the home he goes out he works and he he he knows how to protect his family if need be and
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the wife she's the homemaker she does the cooking she does the cleaning and she takes care of the
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home and children if there are any and um herself of course so that's it's adhering to traditional
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gender roles okay grace i'm sure you thoroughly agree with this look i mean what um what asu's just
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said about the fact that women should be able to choose obviously i completely agree and you know men
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should be able to choose as well i think the feminist critique of traditional gender roles and gender
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ideology isn't that some people like to stay at home and others don't it's that you shouldn't be
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bound to pursue a certain life based on the sex that you were born into at birth the one issue i do
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have is i know actually um someone a friend of mine whose sister got involved in the trad wife
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movement in the u.s basically and she was quite young she got married to someone who was like
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this is what we're doing you're going to be a trad wife and basically came to regret it um she felt
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like she'd been controlled like her life became very small and she couldn't get out she couldn't escape
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because you know she'd lost all her friends and and this has become basically her entire life
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and it concerns me uh that sometimes we see this narrative on social media that women have to be
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a certain way in order to get a husband um so you have to be this like particular model of femininity
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for people to love you and i think that's really sad because i don't think anyone should have to shave
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off any parts of themselves to be loved or to you know find a husband or you know anything like that
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all right pearl what do you think um i think it's i think it's a good that we're seeing a return to
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traditionalism yeah i think it's a good thing how wait wait i keep going how's it gone for you and
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when you look at it and see how women have progressed do you think it's been largely a force for good or do
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you think as the trad wives did it perhaps we've lost that sense of gender rules one of a better phrase
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which actually worked very well i mean i mean we've seen families disappear you know i saw a study
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the other day that said only 25 percent of i mean this is an american step an american household to
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families so um i guess there's positives and there's negatives but it's like at what cost
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you know what's 80 like 85 um 150 years ago the average woman had seven kids 85 percent of people
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were married i mean you know there's also much higher infant mortality and women died very young
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and you know i mean women were more depressed than ever before we're on antidepressants um i mean
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women over the age of 45 are the least happy demographic there are a lot of very the issue the
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issue that's reasons for that and the issue you have is women like emily ratkowski you know marriage
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again i've said this before marriage isn't marriage anymore the average marriage is seven years we have
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things like no fault divorce leave if you're unhappy so what does that mean marriage isn't marriage
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anymore because there have been so many marriages in the course of history where people have been
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very unhappy either the man or the woman has been very unhappy and they've been forced basically to
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stay in a marriage it could have been an abusive marriage it could have been an abusive marriage
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marriage and that would you know we have one life why would you spend it with someone who doesn't make
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this is a problem we have with women like women would you don't tend to be better people than us
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yeah they really do they tend to no no no they tend to do the right thing
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i mean there's a reason we have phrases like a man of his word right yeah a woman of her word
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men will actually stick things out women when she gets hard we just leave and you're proving
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my point what was your first answer my happiness right of course everyone deserves to be happy
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everyone deserves to be love the family doesn't work when it's about you it's supposed to be about
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your kids and that's the problem that's the problem everyone no there's a balance and a compromise
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in relationships am i allowed to talk now what about knowing understanding yourself learning to
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you know no one understand another person eventually potentially if you want to bring children into
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the world and teaching them how to do that as well teaching them to balance a sense of their own
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identity with the love that they have for another person and you know for example i know um an older
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woman actually is a friend of our family who um got divorced at about 60. she had you know this
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lovely family they were together since they were 18 and she said i got to a point after i'd stopped
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being a mother and you know i was just kind of getting on i realized i'd lost my sense of who i was
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and i didn't really feel like i knew who i was anymore because i'd always just been a wife and
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a mother and i wanted to go out and explore that and i think that's fantastic what is traditionalism
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um i don't know what you think traditionalism i would say i would say a modern mentality is me
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before the family i would say traditional traditionalism is the family before me especially
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in women and so and so and so and so what i actually it's interesting you said 60 year olds because
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you know i've interviewed 600 700 people roughly in the past year and a half i've done hundreds of shows
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interviewing people about relationships and what i find is the 60 year olds tend to
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a lot of those women led their daughters astray you know there's a reason we're in this mess right
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a lot of those women had the wrong mentality when it came to marriage and had exactly the mentality
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that you're talking about which is that one should prioritize balancing one's own sense of identity
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with compromise and relationship with someone else it's myself before the marriage but that's again
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and it's really unfortunate because i would say the women of our generation really are are suffering
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because of the advice of the women of the past that's interesting point here right which is that
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we do live in a very individualistic society and we're all told actually i think a lot of the time
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in our relationships as well you have to be a certain way if you want to receive love you have to
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abide by these uh these norms you have to be a certain level of attractiveness you have to earn a
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certain amount of money it's all about you and that's not what love is all right let me bring
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it all right listen it's actually been very interesting this is let me bring it back in
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st so instead of trad values like my wife puts the bins out for example right i don't i've never asked
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her to she's just adopted that role in our house so i never put the bins out i don't know if i should
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feel ashamed of myself i do other stuff but i don't put the bins out as a trad wife do you put your
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bins out is that part of the gender rule of the 50s is that what used to happen or
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does the man supposed to do that i mean how do these rules work in reality
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to be honest it it has nothing it i don't want to say nothing it doesn't necessarily have anything to
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do with the 50s and the 60s um especially in our household i i enjoy the aesthetic um and i think
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that's where people get a little mixed up with my channel but um i well to answer your question
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actually i don't put the trash bins out my husband does that but i think we we have this um this thing
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in our household where he does most of the outdoor work i do all the indoor work of course he works and
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provides and i'm the homemaker that's what works for us but in relation to in relation to what right
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in relation to what pearl said is it's part of a sense of being dutiful and having no problem
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actually with being dutiful in a marriage uh yes i believe that traditionalism can it is putting um
01:03:37.880
your family before yourself and i think it it is um it is having those traditional values that were once
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definitely more in place and um god family and love and we live in a very selfish society now
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you know you see self-love printed everywhere right and um women i'm speaking of divorce and marriage
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women are leaving marriage far more easy easier than uh men and they are um doing it because they
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think there's something better out there for them that the grass is greener on the other side and
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they're finding out that is wrong and they're going through divorce after divorce and um you know
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marriage is a bond and it's a sacred bond where two become one under god and that's beautiful and you
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have to protect that at all costs and and i think part of that is putting your partner's needs before
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your own every single day and i try and do my best and i think of my husband as much as i can and
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what would please him and make him happy so i wanted to we can cut it now sorry i wanted to
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obviously i don't i i wouldn't dare to express i want it you can you know a lovely way to think
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about relationships if it's so i wanted i wanted to cut it there and i wanted to point something else
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out that you might have gone over some people's heads what was the biggest difference between the
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feminists next to me in the trad way we have to answer that question with logic first what makes
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now what makes a traditional life a woman who sucks china okay so now is it now is it anti-feminist
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i'm gonna have to say something for a woman to suck cock i need to say something no exactly
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okay so what right right so so the answer to the question is no okay so what makes a woman a woman
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is an adult but true true true true feminism is a burning desire for cock okay yeah and the same goes
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for the role of a traditional wife wait wait hold on a second guys bro you keep talking over everybody
01:05:55.560
like you don't let other people talk or not like is it just your show or who's show is it bro
01:06:11.560
like eight people it's not okay bro i'm gonna have to answer that first
01:06:14.280
you have a little respect you want me to just keep talking over you
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bro bro bro bro just keeps talking over everybody bro like are we gonna have floor rules
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bro bro bro are we gonna have cop no you don't respect me you don't respect nobody
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you're raising your voice at me bro no but you don't respect nobody
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i'm okay guys guys guys guys guys we need to we need to all right let's let's let's
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you're talking about guys i don't want to have to cut your mics guys let's just have respect for
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you can we can we put it together king king he's being a bully he's being a bully i'm being a bully
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you're bullying guys guys guys bro are you a victim what's wrong with you i'm being china bro there's
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other people like i'll let you talk but you keep calling me a bully bro i keep talking over you but
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you keep talking over me china just let him let him get him no but no no no i'm just saying okay
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guys guys guys guys guys guys guys guys guys guys you're having a man screaming at me you just
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call me a bully and you're cutting off my mic guys guys guys guys guys guys i love how the women are
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nice and quiet and chill loving life this is this is traditional women right here
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all right um can i can i get the room please all right um pearl can you continue to show i think
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we've got a great representation going on here guys i love it
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yeah but but we're trying to call everyone to order so if it's not you i cut his mic on yours so
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it's because both of you no relax it's because both of you aren't trying to listen listen to this i'm
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relaxing it but you've had a man talk listen everybody super chats super chats later yeah
01:08:01.400
we're good wait hold on super chats i want the super chats to to speak about what's happened now
01:08:06.120
because you're gonna have me acting like i'm acting man i'm actually moving very calm bro i'm moving
01:08:10.120
very all right but we need to get to the show that's the problem so if we if if if pearl is calling your
01:08:16.120
both your attention i'm calling both of you are not listening what do you want me to do i respect
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oh i respect the pole a lot good so that's what i'm trying to get back to the show i'm just trying
01:08:26.360
to move on i'm trying to what was it like i understand you can you repeat what you just said
01:08:31.960
excuse me excuse me excuse me can you guys literally just stop please like i'm trying to
01:08:36.680
i'm trying to like make a point okay so it's okay so so the one the one thing that i was going to say
01:08:42.520
that i i noticed with that clip you guys remember the clip that we just watched okay you guys remember
01:08:47.960
it so um i the biggest thing that i noticed was female narcissism because the one woman was
01:08:54.600
thinking about her husband and the other woman couldn't like like she literally thought that i
01:09:00.280
was interrupting her when when she was interrupting me the whole time yeah i mean and the first thing
01:09:06.760
she said was i can only give if it's reciprocal i think it was but when you're in a traditional family
01:09:13.160
unit it's not about you right you just do right and when you think of the most like feminine like
01:09:18.680
who you i'm sure you guys have a grandma aunt whoever is she counting like oh i did this much for him
01:09:24.120
and that's why like so usually when women say oh i can only do it like it can't be unreciprocated like
01:09:29.000
it says more about her i think he was a very sad thing really i mean i think i think grace is actually
01:09:33.320
very attractive she's probably more attractive than the the trad wife but i'm not a big fan of trad wives
01:09:37.640
generally i think the whole thing's a little bit corny i think it's a bit cheesy i don't really buy it i don't
01:09:41.800
really buy it having said that i think that the um the trad wife on that clip i think she was talking
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a lot of sense and i think what grace was saying it was actually really sad i mean the story about
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the 60 year old woman who just ditched her husband because she felt like she wanted to go
01:09:53.080
and find herself i think that's a terribly terribly sad story i really do and and equally the whole
01:09:58.280
emily razikowski thing it's just sort of like i mean even putting families aside what about the
01:10:03.400
bond between the man and the woman right you've fallen presumably fallen in love with this woman
01:10:06.920
you're like right this is us we're together it's ride or die you and me babe and then five years
01:10:11.480
seven years later the woman's just like oh actually do you know what there's a whole like
01:10:15.080
green pastures out there so sod you and then she just buggers off and then and then you wonder why
01:10:19.800
people are guys aren't getting married but why would i get married when the likely prognosis of that
01:10:24.520
marriage is that in seven to ten years the woman's just going to go do you know what actually chad the
01:10:28.520
pool boy's quite cute i think i'll just uh i think i'll just ditch this i think yeah why would i make
01:10:32.760
a why would i make a legal contract around that depending on how long they've been together prior to
01:10:37.720
them obviously getting married i would like to think that not necessarily i want to hear what
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she said would say that again um yeah so i would like to think that how long that you're together
01:10:48.280
before the engagement for the marriage plays a big part so a big part in what big part in actually the
01:10:54.520
whole marriage like staying together for a certain period of time um knowing like for the lady for
01:11:00.920
example she's just said after what five years she just said yeah no forget basically yeah clearly
01:11:07.720
to me that seems like you weren't you you haven't been with your partner for a long time it might be
01:11:12.200
worse it might be worse if you've been together before because then you've got more time to get
01:11:15.080
bored of each other there's a main problem because i i mean i've got a master's degree in psychology so
01:11:21.800
i'm kind of just kind of dissecting a lot of things all that we're seeing is very self-centered very
01:11:26.920
egoistic conversations either this either there's a lot of expectations
01:11:30.920
expectations and the whole picture pictured on you know the image of what a perfect man or woman
01:11:35.240
should be the problem that we're having is no one's turning around to be like how can i improve
01:11:38.640
myself how can i better myself what can i do to be a better person today or a better wife or a
01:11:43.600
better husband there's a lot of external factors instead of internal factors well i guess the trad
01:11:47.920
woman's doing we need to i guess the trad woman's trying to do that isn't she the trad woman is trying
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to be doing that yeah but do you see how do you see do you see how that instills like a form of
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anxiety between all men this whole idea like that you can be in a relationship for 10 years and then
01:12:02.620
next thing you know she ups and leaves in the world tomorrow but it works both ways guys but women
01:12:08.640
divorce more than men yeah women divorce more than men hold on hold on hold on women divorce you've had
01:12:14.680
your say let me just say something because i haven't said anything for the whole like um so
01:12:19.620
basically yeah and then you can reply uh basically women yes maybe divorce is more with women however
01:12:27.280
what about we were talking earlier about um when a woman sort of helps build with a guy and then when
01:12:32.740
the guy dumps her and he's successful and then he finds someone else or he's like toy girl or whatever
01:12:38.260
you know the next the the next young pretty thing he that girl so that's that's like that's like
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propaganda to be honest no i've seen even i mean you might have seen exceptions but no no exception no
01:12:50.140
i'm telling you like the numbers don't back you up i mean women are women are women you can actually
01:12:56.360
you can you can you can you can no no i'll give you i'll tell you i'll tell you you can actually you
01:13:00.900
can actually look up like the age that like people divorce on average yep and who files but when women
01:13:07.300
actually even i mean you can get it's usually like you can get them divorce websites you can get
01:13:13.320
well you you can i'm telling you you can get them from the uk the u.s they're they're usually quite
01:13:18.240
similar yeah yes yes yes so i mean but i mean we can also just look in normal reality when women
01:13:25.280
go on tiktok and talk about why they got divorced you know i'm the i'm the biggest one to not believe
01:13:30.400
stats but i i think you kind of have to look at what you see in reality and and and the truth of the
01:13:36.000
matter is you could even look at numbers um like from before the 60s and you could also because
01:13:40.640
another way you can like look at what's going on in the times is you take eyewitness accounts
01:13:44.500
so like um people that were alive during the time what they wrote about and it women were more
01:13:50.160
likely to divorce even before no fault divorce like when i have to that actually can i add to that
01:13:54.780
before i mean when we're comparing to 100 years ago and today let's look a lot of factors like let's
01:13:59.920
look at the food that we're eating the products the hygiene products that women are using
01:14:03.560
there's a lot of chemicals we've got a lot of in imbalance in our chemicals in our bodies today
01:14:07.980
which function our perspective our mentality well yeah i mean we're both well we're both kind of
01:14:13.660
messed up yeah men and the women i totally agree that's why we're so fat we're so fucked in their
01:14:18.120
head maybe yeah yeah no i totally i totally i totally agree you know but but but food our air
01:14:23.880
everything is right right but but my point is women tend to file for divorce and the idea that like
01:14:29.940
men tend to leave for younger women women file uh 70 80 of the time so women like men aren't really
01:14:36.940
filing for divorce like that and then if you just want to look in like reality there's reasons that
01:14:41.640
men say it's cheaper to keep her happy wife happy life it's because they're not really divorcing like
01:14:45.920
that you know why emily ratikowski divorced uh uh well just the same yeah i don't agree that she just
01:14:56.120
is like uh glamorizing um divorce i because i think it is a contractual agreement i've said this before
01:15:03.000
and and actually that trad wife woman said it as well if you are going into a legally binding contract
01:15:08.540
a marriage you are you must be thinking about it you can't you have to have some kind of discernment
01:15:13.520
that you're like this has to be like someone that i want to build a future with otherwise what are
01:15:18.760
you doing unless you're a gold digger or um or you're marrying for some kind of trust fund or
01:15:23.700
whatever it is other than that like exactly and i mean i mean it was mia khalifa who said something
01:15:28.600
similar wasn't it a couple of months ago made it similar to cut a video and i think i think where
01:15:32.480
grace was was wrong is to say if you're actually marrying somebody and then seven years down the line
01:15:37.900
you just change your mind i think that's wrong because you've entered into a legally binding
01:15:40.920
like illegally and morally and morally binding contract if you're just dating them that's a
01:15:46.060
different thing if you guys are just dating okay fine but why actually get married but that's right
01:15:50.880
and the other thing too is she said what about your happiness but it's like why are you relying on
01:15:56.740
someone else to make you happy exactly never do that you know the problem with the problem is life
01:16:02.540
is is very long and there's a lot of ups and downs and i mean you're not going to be happy the whole
01:16:06.140
time and the issue is that i think some women you know they get into the relationship it goes a
01:16:10.040
little bit flat for a while and then they're like oh shit the grass is greener okay let's let's just
01:16:13.980
check out of this and we'll go and go and try over there and like the trad wife said i mean the grass
01:16:17.780
isn't always greener you know yeah um but i think there's external factors as well that can come into
01:16:23.020
play i mean the economy that the financial state that somebody is living in does that deter someone's
01:16:29.600
well if he's a bro if he's a broke boy she should leave him
01:16:31.760
let's just let's just let's just let's just ask a hypothetical hypothetical question let's say there's
01:16:36.640
someone that's very wealthy and then all of a sudden the economy crashes and then what
01:16:40.060
build again okay build again you gotta build again i'll tell you i'll tell you so we actually
01:16:47.700
we actually take um this is why i say men are better people yeah okay yeah because like when women
01:16:53.800
for example when women win the lottery women tend to leave their husbands where men tend to stay with
01:16:58.600
their wives when women get promoted they're they're more likely to divorce like i mean it's
01:17:04.920
the same that's why i say women are the same we have the same trends and patterns not i mean not
01:17:08.840
every woman does the same thing but every woman has an inclination to do is that ego do you think we
01:17:14.400
have more of an ego than men um a materialistic maybe ego i mean i just think we're hardwired to
01:17:19.560
want men that provide for us yeah yeah and i and i think a lot of times when we start to out earn them
01:17:24.240
we think they're better that we're better than them usually we're in useless jobs
01:17:27.600
yeah yeah yeah because you i mean i'll even use myself as an example it's like i talk into a
01:17:32.380
microphone and but i see like i saw a woman with my same job she was like a tv presenter i don't know
01:17:38.780
if you guys ebony williams maybe you know she's a 39 40 year old tv presenter which is what talking
01:17:45.060
into a microphone so like and she was talking about she wouldn't date a bus driver but when you think
01:17:50.720
about it a bus driver is a more necessary job than the girl talking into a mic you know
01:17:55.440
um so the last the last thing i wanted to bring up today actually was um so back to like the
01:18:03.580
narcissism point right and what i see is this extreme narcissism and men just telling us what
01:18:08.420
we want to hear and one of the themes i just kind of think of things as like patterns and trends
01:18:13.780
and one trend i see is men convincing women that we're just young forever and hot for a lifetime
01:18:20.040
yeah so um i wanted to show you guys a tweet that i had that just really ruffled some feathers and you
01:18:26.720
guys can tell me if you think it's too offensive or don't don't feel like you have to hold back
01:18:31.240
okay um so i said should we pull this up the the do the last one i sent you i think it's the
01:18:43.980
the the no yeah okay okay so i had i had a tweet and this tweet had wives and mothers tweeting me
01:18:54.500
their selfies i said no 35 year old women aren't that hot ouch none will compete with the average
01:19:02.240
in shape 21 year old don't shoot the messenger so i want to know and so this is the response i'm
01:19:10.840
so basically she just gave us the keys on how to get the women okay okay so so no wait wait guys
01:19:18.480
please please guys wait i want to ask the women this question am i wrong it's debatable for me
01:19:25.960
it is you know why it is i've seen some really good looking 35 year old women on twitter okay as
01:19:33.920
well i have i have you've seen some good looking 35 year old women yeah and they typically are more
01:19:39.100
good looking than the average 21 year old like we go to a college campus and those 35 year old women
01:19:45.880
i mean well it's going to be two different things though isn't it because at the end of the day
01:19:49.880
where 35 year old woman is probably going to be more wrinkled no not at all spending more money
01:19:56.160
no no no no no but they're gonna look they're gonna and again i have a question are the 35 year
01:20:02.460
old women more wrinkled than the 21 year old women
01:20:05.200
i'm gonna go i'm gonna go with the women first then i'm gonna come to the guys please
01:20:10.800
i personally feel like it depends okay yeah obviously that's all right cool we're not talking
01:20:16.680
about going out to do anything to your face if i let's let's yeah yes let's look at the 21 year
01:20:21.380
old woman okay okay can i just say so i work with clubs and and also i do some stuff around like
01:20:28.400
student stuff right and um i've seen students and i've seen the young kind of girls going to clubs
01:20:34.480
at the moment no because they don't look after themselves they're not hot they're not remember i
01:20:39.900
said wait wait wait let's read it again go back i know i know the average can i just no no no no i
01:20:45.420
said the average in shape because it doesn't count if we're like like fatties they don't count you know
01:20:50.880
what i mean like fatty like we all know a fatty at 35 and a fatty at 21 and don't want like like we're
01:20:57.020
not like fatties don't count so i said the average you know because it's like they would be hotter
01:21:02.680
they just ruin their beauty right but also there are a lot of like um sort of 21 year olds that
01:21:07.620
haven't got like a style yet they haven't got this yeah they haven't found themselves they don't
01:21:11.460
so i have a question i have a question i have a question do men usually really care about your style
01:21:16.800
yes no do they how you do they yeah okay okay do you agree until they want to take the clothes off
01:21:23.300
yeah i mean are men usually is that the determining factor your style well it's the whole package isn't
01:21:30.340
no i don't want to see if your ass looks fat in a sundress exactly okay okay okay so so okay so
01:21:36.440
you don't care about wrinkles you just want ass basically let's go guys guys trying to wait wait
01:21:43.000
so so so we go back to am i am i wrong is this is this go back please go back up no i don't think
01:21:49.300
you are i think i love the fact that you've got reality and humor in one tweet and i appreciate that
01:21:55.080
so you know we always they always bring me up j-lo but it's like bitch are you j-lo
01:21:59.620
and it's like i don't you know like i mean come on okay sure a 9.5 in her prime is gonna be a 7 at
01:22:09.280
35 but like you know and you know what i you know and i i got such a visceral reaction i had a very
01:22:16.780
similar one where i had wives and mothers tweeting their selfies at me and then and then pictures of
01:22:22.800
myself to prove that they were hotter that they were just hotter than me and there and then i had
01:22:30.360
women calling me bitter and just evil when really my only point is 35 year old women used to have a
01:22:38.220
family and they cared more about their character rather than their looks and it wasn't the end of
01:22:44.560
the world that there was a new round of 22 year olds yeah yeah and so to me this spoke more to female
01:22:50.700
narcissism because we can't hear you know i'm i'm 26 right and at 26 100 years ago they would have
01:22:59.840
said you're an old maid now i understand i understand we're in 2023 where that's not the
01:23:07.440
norm but i'll still say you know the average 20 year old chick is gonna be hotter and that's okay
01:23:13.160
it's not you know i didn't say bad person i didn't say ugly and i also put i was very specific i said
01:23:18.720
that hot because what does that hot mean that's like pretty sexy by 35 you should be more beautiful
01:23:24.800
why your ass out there's women that are really hot and then they open their mouths and it's like
01:23:29.740
it's like it's like at 35 you know you're supposed to kind of put it away like we're supposed to like
01:23:34.440
age you know like dress a little less slutty yeah it's getting the opposite now yeah but you know
01:23:41.440
it was so very interesting every time we have this episode here i always learn something new from
01:23:46.480
listening to women speak and they always tell on themselves it's just like you said it women are
01:23:52.360
really actually all the same yeah they might be very it varies they are worse and they are better but
01:23:58.500
they all have the same programming think about it like this i'm very sure now that most women don't
01:24:03.620
actually know what men want from women because the reality is the men that women claim they want
01:24:09.360
that's the top quality men those kind of men are not looking for your total package in fact those
01:24:16.100
kind of men want to be the men that discover a gem that's hidden yes so if you're someone that
01:24:22.600
already knows all your style you already know this that only signals to the man that you want that
01:24:27.240
you've been around the block but men like the journey as well the whole process no but you're
01:24:32.540
literally telling me what men want or what men like i'm telling you the fact that the kind of men you
01:24:37.120
want the kind of men that you would look at and be like yes i'm glad i got this man he's not looking
01:24:42.300
for some woman that is completely packaged and she knows her style she's in her baby girl era no
01:24:49.500
that's not what they want they want to literally discover a gem that no one has found yeah diamond
01:24:53.840
in the rough so nema you had your thoughts on this yeah i mean so women are tweeting their
01:25:00.900
selfies to you to prove they're hot because you publicly said younger women are hotter how dare i
01:25:07.200
wow um okay so uh younger women have prettier pussies my twitter is at nema yamini
01:25:20.220
how old are you wow this guy how old are you 43 so why do you need to be worrying and
01:25:28.340
and also why do you want to see other people exactly things are you not married exactly are you not
01:25:34.640
married this is this is a bad example of a guy that i wouldn't want to marry i'd rather be on my
01:25:39.940
own with cats well i mean statistically you're gonna be
01:25:43.240
bring it home bring it home if that's my choice i'm done i mean statistically only one of us is
01:25:50.200
gonna make it so you know look around you're right though pearl it's about the narcissism of the age
01:25:56.900
isn't it the narcissism of women specifically in this case where it's like why is it so why is it
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that these days every woman has to be hot why is it i've got to be hot i've got to be fucking sexy
01:26:06.320
i've got to be like what's wrong with cute why not just be cute why not just be cute why not be
01:26:10.400
why is it not acceptable to be introverted or bookish or a little bit nerdy or whatever what
01:26:14.860
is every single woman it has to be about this hotness and not just when they're young but as
01:26:19.320
they go into their 30s their 40s their 50s you know it just seems like yet what happened to growing
01:26:25.060
old gracefully or just accepting the the point in your life that you are at they don't want to lose
01:26:30.220
control they don't want to lose control i think that women get to a point where you know they're the
01:26:35.020
hottest they've ever been maybe 1920 and every guy's talking to them they can't walk down the
01:26:39.100
street without a guy coming to say hello to them and then once you get over to 35 you stop getting
01:26:43.440
those compliments they're always competing with the guys aren't they yeah without compliments my life
01:26:48.600
is still blessed i don't need someone else to give me validation if you're so secure within yourself
01:26:52.660
appearance can only do so much for you darling the fact that you had to reply to that the fact that
01:26:58.000
you had to reply to that well some might see otherwise can i ask you a question if you got dressed up
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yeah and you went out yeah for whole i'm talking about in a general perspective okay if a woman's
01:27:06.420
dressing up for a special occasion and she's feeling a sound way fine but not on every single
01:27:10.400
day if no one ever recognized you see if when you walked out and you was like invisible and like you
01:27:14.940
just no one saw you at all how would that make you feel even better you would like it's giving pretty
01:27:19.800
privilege you're missing my point here i'm just saying we don't always need um outside kind of
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validation okay the fact of the matter sorry the fact of the matter is you can go out like honestly
01:27:33.280
if you've ever seen me walking the street i look like a homeless person and you still get people
01:27:37.120
talking to you because there are just random people that are going to do that it doesn't matter who
01:27:41.460
you are that's happened forever do you think that's a bad thing or a good i don't really like
01:27:46.680
it how often do you talk to guys i don't exactly exactly hold on look what you just said i don't
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like in the street no freaking way i'm going somewhere if they don't shoot your shot in the
01:27:57.280
street hold on hold on if they don't shoot your shot you never will no yeah but in the street
01:28:03.720
but what if he thinks his future wife and you shouldn't then he then he then we'll meet in
01:28:08.660
a place that is like wow that's crazy i can't relate it could be tesco's it could be anyway like
01:28:16.320
okay okay tesco could be kind of fun like i got a question when's the last time when's the last time
01:28:23.180
you when's the last time you asked the guy out oh well no that's not i know you know right so you
01:28:29.780
basically saying guys don't interact with me because i don't ask you out so don't interact
01:28:34.040
when i'm walking in the street and i look like a homeless person let me be what can i can i wait
01:28:39.560
guys guys i'm going somewhere i just want to point i want to point something out here i want to point
01:28:43.460
now don't take this person women will always whine imagine imagine someone comes up to you and says
01:28:51.540
you're beautiful you want to go out now most people would just take it as a compliment you know i might
01:28:57.120
not be interested but i mean hey that's a not that's a nice thing women we just always have
01:29:02.860
this tendency to complain you know someday someday you're still cute you know what i mean not that hot
01:29:08.660
but you know you're you're pretty you're pretty woman right one day you're gonna be old and ugly
01:29:18.380
and you will miss we'll miss the we'll miss the guys no i know seriously you know and
01:29:22.940
over 45 it's like half of us get on antidepressants we're gonna be all alone
01:29:27.860
refuse you know okay but yeah i hope for you you know i'm just saying statistically right
01:29:32.300
yeah and then it's like um you know i think that will miss the attention on some level
01:29:38.560
no i really do i do you'll be like and i've heard amy schumer joke about this where she's like
01:29:43.560
yeah when i was younger i was like oh i can't believe they're approaching me and now i'm older i'm
01:29:47.340
like please that's a certain mentality that's a certain type of person but i think it's all
01:29:54.600
depends where you are so like if you're i don't know in a more sociable area fine i wouldn't shoot
01:30:00.980
someone down if i was say at a bar or at a cafe or something so but if i'm walking and i and i well
01:30:05.960
he's like there's less competitors let me go now
01:30:08.740
this is why men don't approach anymore it's so wild because it's like it's like confusing for men
01:30:16.760
to like how are they supposed to know when to not exactly yeah they do get a bit scared this is like
01:30:21.280
like then guys are like forget it this is too much i think it's just ungratefulness that's what it
01:30:25.760
comes down to it i literally feel like yeah because i'm gonna tell you why hold on i'm gonna tell you
01:30:30.540
i'm gonna tell you why because you guys haven't put yourselves out there we had to get numb to
01:30:34.780
rejection we had to constantly get rejected and get numb to it you guys can't take rejection as
01:30:39.140
a lot as a i've been a model most of my life oh no interesting being interested in somebody and
01:30:45.380
being a model is two different things is part of the job that's different that's different it's
01:30:49.460
completely different it's the same thing you build a thick skin no no it's not you've never walked up
01:30:54.080
to it hold on you just to clarify you just said that you don't walk up to strangers and say hey
01:30:58.500
you're beautiful i want to talk to you so you would never be able to look at somebody's face and
01:31:01.940
them say what you know how in front of everybody imagine being on the street you some girl says
01:31:07.700
don't touch me leave me loud and you're trying to whoa whoa whoa someone's trying to touch you in
01:31:11.740
the street that's a red flag but not even but not but not but not but not even just to attempt to
01:31:16.000
get to know you you automatically say don't you know like i said it just comes down to ungratefulness
01:31:21.220
it's creepy it's creepy okay wait wait wait wait wait wait wait okay okay creepy right
01:31:26.960
wait wait wait wait please wait please wait guys um so so it's creepy but what if what if he looks
01:31:34.640
so who's who's your celebrity crush i don't really have a celebrity please please give me an answer
01:31:41.120
please a real answer let's not do the woman thing come on no honestly um okay i'll say matt rife as
01:31:47.760
a comedian okay so okay do you find him but you find him attractive he's attractive okay so if he
01:31:54.560
comes up to you you still find it creepy maybe it depends no you wouldn't like don't do the woman
01:32:01.280
thing don't lie like we're not liars okay if he's hot maybe give him extra time okay but see but do you
01:32:08.320
see how confusing this is but he has to be really freaking hot otherwise i'm just i'm not because honestly i
01:32:14.800
i want to go where i'm going and i'm if i'm looking like this i don't but how does he know that he's
01:32:18.640
hot for you how does he know he doesn't well how does he know like what you think is looking like
01:32:23.440
this because men just kind of find women hot you know they're like yeah exactly they don't even see
01:32:29.680
like that's like like fashion like men don't even see it well i've got some input i've got some
01:32:33.680
input on this because i do i do dating coaching and we get we actually get guys to you know to approach
01:32:38.000
women in real life and i i personally think that's a good thing because i think what is
01:32:41.600
about this society is that we're all on our phones we're choosing potential partners by
01:32:45.440
swiping on a phone which seems to me to be really weird but i would agree if somebody's like super
01:32:51.040
busy and they're they're obviously in a rush or whatever yeah it's it's bad for them to approach
01:32:54.720
that but i i still don't think even in 2023 even in the west even in woke london i still don't think
01:33:00.800
it's a bad thing if you think somebody's nice to walk up and say hey listen i just saw you i thought
01:33:04.880
you looked really nice i wanted to come over and say hello now if she's not interested she says no
01:33:08.400
sorry i've got a boyfriend i'm not interested whatever absolutely fine have a great day see
01:33:12.640
you later if she is interested or at least there's a glimmer of you know kind of reciprocation there
01:33:18.000
carry on the conversation i don't think that's a bad thing and i think it's bad i think it's
01:33:21.440
unfortunate in this society that it's becoming prescribed behavior and when you travel outside
01:33:26.400
the west you go to latin america or even parts of eastern europe actually it's a lot more acceptable
01:33:30.640
it's only in these countries like america because now because now you're giving your dating
01:33:34.640
selection up to these apps no no yeah your whole thing really if no guy if no guy walks up to you
01:33:40.880
in real life and interacts with you your whole dating experience will be under the control of
01:33:44.960
majority of these apps so depending on that algorithm determines what type of guy you get
01:33:49.600
and then you're gonna have to compete with all women from all age groups yeah i just think it's
01:33:53.760
the same if people can't talk to each other anymore yeah but i just think i think there's a time and a
01:33:57.840
place is all i'm saying and i think when you're walking and you're in a rush and you definitely look like
01:34:02.160
you're not just hanging about waiting to have a conversation with a stranger i think i think
01:34:07.760
i think women just like don't know what they want and i think i mean no i think i think this
01:34:13.200
sounds like craziness i've known laura for like years and yeah that's a thing not on the street but
01:34:22.160
we're actually quite social yeah so we're always at events and yeah different parties and all that
01:34:27.680
and that's when i meet she will allow people like yeah i will interact i'm not i'm not an animal i
01:34:33.120
just think it's like crazy to expect the men know when you want or don't want to i think if you're
01:34:38.000
walking down the street i just think if you're like if you're all right well if you're in starbucks
01:34:42.400
what if you're in starbucks you're in the queue and then there's a guy behind you in the queue and
01:34:45.280
he starts talking to you would that be okay i mean yeah that's happened okay it's okay because you have
01:34:51.360
time can i point something else can i point something i think the disconnect here is the fact that what you feel is
01:34:57.680
perfectly okay like it's okay to have that as as in like you don't like it when people approach
01:35:01.760
you in the street but the problem is when you look at it as when a man approaches you then you
01:35:07.200
have this visceral reaction because like we're saying men don't know if that's your preference
01:35:12.560
or that's what the other girl's preference is we just know that some girls like it some girls don't
01:35:16.640
so if we're going to be scared and say we don't know if she's gonna like it then we're not
01:35:20.560
gonna approach anyone at all but king that's what i do i've said it before and i've said to men men
01:35:25.920
stop approaching women stop it i agree 2023 stop it stop approaching women do not go up to them
01:35:31.360
when you go outside do not entertain them a woman so women can let you know if they're interested in
01:35:35.680
you i don't believe in that one when a woman's walking past you should just try to grab first
01:35:39.040
of all never touch a woman that's not your woman don't even touch her first of all yeah well 2023
01:35:42.960
this is how you catch a case right no i'm like like like what is my advice going to be to men and
01:35:48.960
young men especially at work i've said before do not speak to no women at work because what pearl
01:35:53.280
proved is what one man is creepy but another man actually is not so creepy right he becomes a crush
01:35:57.840
right no but but so if a guy moves to you at work and you don't like him it becomes oh work workplace
01:36:03.840
misconduct but if you find him cute you're not complaining yeah but so but how does a man know
01:36:08.240
so it's basically a man's not going to know that till he goes through so my thing is to men is
01:36:11.760
men stop we need to like so it's 20 i keep saying it's 2023 right and the reason i keep saying it's because
01:36:16.560
it's very dangerous for us men as single men we need to protect ourselves at all times you keep seeing
01:36:20.720
you saw what's happening with the russell brand scenario as well like men women need to outline
01:36:25.520
it and make it intentions very very very clear to you so women can a woman can look at you she can
01:36:31.040
smile at you she can drop something she can they subtle things that you women language yeah indication
01:36:36.480
eye contact but a lot of guys don't know those things but you yeah they do it's okay so you lean
01:36:41.680
in a little bit and i can't and i come the rest of the way exactly but a lot of guys don't know those
01:36:45.600
names hold on that's only comes but that only comes to experience men i want to i want to bring
01:36:50.160
up the other tweets that i had oh yeah i want to see you guys i had some more so i wanted good
01:36:57.840
well i look at here's the thing i never say it individual person if the shoe fits it's not my fault
01:37:05.040
it is not my fault i do not make you be alive so i said all these fitness chicks are cope because i
01:37:11.840
would see all these women that were like in shape and they'll tweet me their bodies i'm like thank
01:37:15.920
you for that all these fitness chicks are coping that they're still as hot at 35 no ladies you can't
01:37:23.840
be that hot at 35 22 year olds will out compete you don't shoot the messenger and i had some more
01:37:32.720
um you know then they'll say pearl this is out of hand then i said then i said the delusion is so sad
01:37:39.680
that you guys think you're still as hot at 35 no not really sorry to break the news now did i say
01:37:48.480
ugly no did i say unattractive no but i mean i i think that this is and i'll tell you how i had
01:37:58.240
this thought i thought about the most beautiful 35 year old women that i knew and i thought i could
01:38:03.280
find a hotter chick on any college campus it just wouldn't be that hard like it but you could also
01:38:09.120
find a lot of really ugly chicks on college it's true it's true but unfortunately unfortunately the
01:38:13.440
harsh the harsh reality is that is that men are in part attracted to to youth and fertility that's
01:38:19.680
that's you know and if you look at there's that famous uh chart isn't there i think it was taken
01:38:23.440
from ok cupid where it looks at men's ages as they get older and who they're attracted to and it's
01:38:28.000
it's around the 23 year old mark you know and men are getting into like 30 40 50 60 and they're
01:38:33.200
still attracted to 23 years with women it shifts slightly the other way as they get older they're
01:38:37.200
attracted to somewhat older guys so you know and and i'm not saying it's right i'm not saying it's
01:38:42.160
good but it's a bio it's a biological factor we can't really escape and you can't you cannot compete
01:38:47.520
i'm sorry at 35 you will not out compete a 22 year old so you could get a mid 22 year old yeah and
01:38:53.360
she's theoretically oh she's absolutely hotter and and men are practical if they want marriage and
01:38:58.880
children what the 30 years so you know so paul the difference between men and women is is like
01:39:03.360
so for men it would be it would be fitness and physicality so so an older man will understand
01:39:08.960
that a younger man would have better physicality and fitness than him if it's football or something
01:39:13.200
like that right and they wouldn't try to really bully yes you will get some men are older that
01:39:17.040
they keep themselves in shape and they're gonna have a better metabolism yes i get it but
01:39:21.280
the general rule will be the younger men will be fitter and will be stronger right um and we get that
01:39:26.560
we understand that that's fine but why is it so hard for women to understand that if you're 35 that are
01:39:32.240
21 even an average one is probably gonna have a tighter bum than you probably gonna have more
01:39:36.560
subtle breasts than you firmer figure and it's okay because guess what guess what they still beauty
01:39:41.920
as you get older like this thing where and when we talk about aging gracefully you're about to enter
01:39:45.680
a whole different life why are you trying to compete with people in your 21 22 and us men we don't
01:39:52.000
try to compete with younger men we don't we we actually see ourselves in younger men whereas women
01:39:56.640
tend to hate on younger women you know why because they see the women that they used to be you know why
01:40:00.960
because their trophy is their visual look women walk around and them looking this way and having
01:40:06.960
this is their trophy for men it's more about for men it's more about how much money we got how much
01:40:11.840
properties we own how much assets we have but for women it's more about the way i look how beautiful
01:40:17.360
i am how many men want me well it used to be a family talk talk now oh yeah now i forgot about
01:40:25.200
that thing actually i want to actually i want to actually i want to actually point out um this other
01:40:32.400
chick i'm gonna i'm gonna send this to you king now i think there's very few women that live in reality
01:40:37.600
i wanted to point out something that you said and i want to point this out you have a gut reaction women
01:40:42.160
in general we just have a gut reaction to cope yes that's what i call cope where i said where i said
01:40:47.280
um i wish i wish you were gonna have to pull it back so i remember um where you i said oh but the 22
01:40:53.440
year olds are gonna out compete you and you said but yeah and then you said something about them being
01:40:59.040
uglier fatter you said the one hot 22 in the campus yes but there's a whole load of others that are not
01:41:06.400
hot but i but in all honesty i don't compete with 22 year olds um i just do my own thing i don't
01:41:12.240
well see you don't know you are well i'll tell you i'll tell you so i'll tell let me let me let me
01:41:17.840
explain you as a you as a woman you only find 20 of men is attractive if you told me the last guy
01:41:23.920
you dated whatever showed me his picture guarantee he's in the top 20 of men i've never had any woman
01:41:29.920
prove me wrong on this okay i've never never never never he's probably top 20 percent of height
01:41:34.640
income something so knowing that you are competing with 22 year olds we just don't know it because
01:41:41.360
half of those men got hella bitches you know so you know and and but the problem is that's another
01:41:49.840
thing um why do i want a guy that's gonna be with hella bitches i want one man i'll answer this
01:41:58.640
question because you pick them now i know you might say i'm different and i'm an exception but i
01:42:04.400
don't believe you i think i think if you showed me yeah you could show me the last guy you you
01:42:11.360
dated whatever you know he would likely be in the top 20 of men and that's the thing women don't know
01:42:16.800
the reality of the people they're dating so we we think we're the only one and we're special and we're
01:42:22.160
not competing but it's a competition baby y'all's fair and love and war you know you know what tall
01:42:28.160
short big small it really doesn't matter i found that when it comes to women only one thing really
01:42:44.960
i'm screwed i'm screwed but i'm screwed or a small one yeah that's good pause yeah exactly
01:42:55.680
okay i was in new york um i must have hit london yeah can you pull up can you pull up the next tweet
01:43:03.280
that no not that one the next one i sent you on instagram she's getting bare views right now i
01:43:07.840
know yeah yeah you look good though yeah stop simping stop simping like this is it's not simping
01:43:14.560
she goes keep it real she's trying to keep it real you don't want me to say you don't want me to
01:43:19.920
say what i was going to say i don't want to throw you underneath the bus my guy all right cool i don't
01:43:23.040
want to say all right cool i'll let you out don't send me up she looks okay she looks okay in that
01:43:29.920
short but it's probably filters and stuff no i sent you another one king just now just now it's the last
01:43:35.120
one but yeah and these women and so then it's like they'll they'll it's really weird women have this
01:43:42.720
thing where they start to like psychoanalyze me you know that's why i did my therapy video you know
01:43:48.480
but i feel like you're gonna come up way more messed up after that therapy session i know i know
01:43:53.440
i know that's a therapy sessions usually due to women i mean when i saw that you come through the
01:43:59.120
door and i was like no not did you tell me you was doing that i just started laughing i was just like
01:44:03.920
okay yeah so i had um this this chick on twitter she seems like the only one that lives in reality
01:44:09.920
you guys should follow her because everyone she's a woman in her 30s she's in her 30s this woman
01:44:15.920
and um she doesn't cry when i say that the 30 something year olds are less hot than the 20
01:44:23.360
something you're i love her i'm a fan and so she tweets men are most attractive at 30 than at 80.
01:44:31.200
now tell me why don't i have male selfies now where are the men arguing and saying
01:44:40.240
you know where mine got millions of views this only got 8 000 where where was the
01:44:46.240
why why is it that men can accept like i i would say men maybe peak around i don't know 45 35 depending
01:44:54.080
on the because the 80 year olds don't have the internet that's true
01:45:04.320
or or if i said you know women prefer rich men to poor men do you think they'd tweet me their bank
01:45:10.560
it counts the men just excited they say well i know this one poor man to be fair i mean i think
01:45:20.640
80 is like is pushing it a bit but i mean certainly i i have seen debate on twitter recently about like
01:45:25.360
this this whole older guy thing because a lot of women and some some sort of simply guys are pushing
01:45:30.000
back on the idea that men you know get better with age oh they they get better with age that well
01:45:34.880
there's there's a lot of women uh women who are trying to sort of redress the balance of the wall
01:45:39.520
and saying like oh it's it's complete bs to say that women get better in their 30s and 40s what age
01:45:44.080
do you think men peak at 47 i'll i'll be honest okay so okay so i've said this last time like and i think
01:45:53.040
there seem to be something that as you get older it gets worse because because i think we had an image
01:45:57.360
of what older men looked like when was younger yeah and i'll be honest with you like if you looked at your
01:46:01.520
teacher if you looked at certain people that are overweight they didn't have a good life but this
01:46:05.680
when i look at you know some of the men in the men of the world today in their 50s 60s and how they
01:46:10.880
live and what they've done they look crazy crazy really enjoying right and me as a man that's going
01:46:15.440
to be my 40s in the next decade right everyone's oh you look so young you've got a young spirit it's
01:46:19.120
because the world hasn't crushed me bro yeah yeah i think i think it's very i think it's very dependent
01:46:24.000
on the guy to be honest i think a lot of men become crushed by the time it's like if the world hasn't
01:46:29.360
crushed you if you haven't felt that like i don't have any kids i haven't had like no
01:46:33.360
women take me to court taking my kids no baby mama drama like i enjoy the things that i do my personal
01:46:37.600
life i'm not struggling like you're not going to feel but a lot of men by the time they get to this
01:46:41.200
they have been beaten up yeah it's crazy because because when you said when you said that she was
01:46:46.320
like 39 yeah you know me as 30 i looked at you was like he looks great i'm gonna look great at 39
01:46:52.960
so question what on average what age do you think men peak at well i i think
01:46:58.800
i think 30s and definitely late 30s i think are really good i mean late 30s for me were really
01:47:03.120
really good i have to say better than my 20s a lot better than my 20s i think i enjoyed yeah
01:47:09.200
but it's only now i'm getting my gears like i'm starting i'm really enjoying now so i don't even
01:47:14.160
so i'm kind of confused and all the things that i want to do and plan to do it's going to come with
01:47:18.720
time so it's only going to get better right that's what i think oh how old is andrew tate 36.
01:47:25.040
okay so i have a question just raise i'm just curious raise your hands who thinks men peak
01:47:29.280
at 25. definitely not who thinks men peak at 30. i think it can begin just raise it please raise
01:47:37.360
hands okay let's who thinks men peak at 35 30 35 okay who thinks men peak at 40.
01:47:45.520
who thinks men peak at 50. i still think that too yeah okay so we've gotten like 47 49. i mean i
01:48:01.600
i didn't i didn't i didn't meet my wife until my late 30s and uh i'm 43 and to to you know his point
01:48:08.320
earlier i'm i'm pretty happily married i pearl and i were having this discussion earlier that you know i
01:48:13.440
actually don't feel bitter bitter towards women because i have a woman a wife that respects me
01:48:18.160
she admires me she's not beating me she's not hitting on me she doesn't have guy friends she
01:48:22.800
goes meets for drinks she doesn't happy though she's not well she's not high maintenance she's
01:48:29.680
a great mother she's a great mother so there are a portion of men who were able to get a lot of women
01:48:35.040
they were ladies men they were great with getting women and they're actually able to get a wife that
01:48:39.840
respects them and loves them and honestly for i would say that as art the second oldest guy in
01:48:44.640
the room i really do think that marriage and starting a family is the happiest way in existence
01:48:50.080
for a man and being with a bunch of women and then be loyal to your wife and have her be loyal to you
01:48:54.560
if you find a good woman yeah and that's the closest you'll be to god how long have you guys been married
01:48:59.840
for i've been i've only had one woman since my late 30s okay nice have you ever cheated you know
01:49:12.400
i mean how many times have you cheated sorry no no no because because because honestly like all jokes
01:49:17.360
aside i don't like to joke around about you know three things one is uh homosexuality the other
01:49:22.640
marriage about pedophilia and the other is about adultery so once i got once i you look here this is my
01:49:27.600
my finger if you can see it i can see it once i got that ring on i i get on you and i have a
01:49:32.880
daughter so you know i don't want my daughter to grow up without a father yeah okay good did you
01:49:39.120
that's adultery in mainstream society in our cinema in the united states we've normalized adultery that's
01:49:44.560
a top ten commandment as a man of faith i'm against that i have a very strong view on that when you
01:49:49.600
when you met her how did you know that she was the one how did you know right this is this is this is
01:49:54.560
it for now you know you know when i met her i was doing private equity deals and despite having
01:49:59.760
a you know pretty good income she didn't know that i was successful i met her at an airbnb i was
01:50:04.960
staying like a hippie in a tiny room in in on a spanish island and the the host said to me there's
01:50:11.760
two german girls in the other room and when i got on the balcony i saw the way her eyes lit up when she
01:50:16.880
saw me i honestly feel like as a man that one of the best things you can do is not show flash if you
01:50:24.080
can't if you can't get a woman driving a regular car if you can't get a woman without showing like
01:50:29.120
whatever is the best woman you can get without showing off anything just off you yeah that is
01:50:35.920
that is the real you that is a woman that really really loves you for who you are and to your point
01:50:41.760
when you said earlier is she with you on a day that's bad my wife was with me when i got sick once
01:50:48.480
or for example one day i was bleeding and i couldn't stand on my feet my wife held me my wife
01:50:53.840
held me you know what i'm saying and i met the world to you to this day you still would never forget
01:50:57.840
that moment i'll never forget that yeah yeah exactly and to your point you know you you're very mature
01:51:04.240
to understand that in your 20s um it's because i've been around i've literally been in the clubs i've
01:51:09.600
been around i've had i've had fun across the world and then eventually men get to this point where
01:51:15.520
it's always cold like it's just cold you could be around as many girls as you want but until you
01:51:20.960
find the right woman that can actually i think emptiness yeah it's a it's a empty lonely road for
01:51:27.520
men you know why bro because there seems to be something like i said this before um like for men
01:51:33.760
women tend to think that being single for men is lit like it can be lit it can be lit let me not let me
01:51:39.360
let me let me let me let me know it can be lit but everything gets boring after a while right and
01:51:46.960
everything becomes empty and especially with age like you start understanding done i want to start
01:51:52.720
sounding like all these spirits energy and a transfer of energy and i really don't want to be transferring
01:52:02.080
my energy with someone that i just don't want you know what i mean that's very that's a very good
01:52:05.760
point and that's one of the that's one of the problems with if you're leading a lifestyle that's
01:52:09.280
a bit more promiscuous because what you're actually doing is is you're bringing a lot of different
01:52:13.680
energies into your life and some of those energies are not necessarily very good so yeah so essentially
01:52:18.800
right so when you so people forget so when you sleep around right cool you sleep around people you
01:52:22.960
got from remember whatever you're sleeping around with you become and so if she's trash girl then
01:52:28.960
technically if you allow her access to you then you become trash and i know sometimes men don't want to
01:52:32.640
think like yeah i think right what are you what are you thinking no no sleep around no no no no
01:52:38.880
because she might no because she might sleep with some guy that's my up and he's got bad energy now
01:52:43.920
i come and lay down with her and now his energy is transferring to me and now i've got bad luck in
01:52:47.840
my life like there's certain times you link certain girls and all of a sudden once you your whole life
01:52:52.560
is going to be ruined now yeah i believe those because those are demon going demon time bro you're
01:52:56.400
a hundred percent on point because i got to this point where i like i literally my mentality changed my
01:53:02.160
mentality changed as a guy just stopped interacting with like if i see a whole bunch of guys talking
01:53:06.560
to one girl and she comes over to talk to me i'm just like nah you go talk to those guys and engage
01:53:10.800
with those guys yeah i like but what if she's not interested in those guys and she's interested in
01:53:14.960
you i think that's like sure i i i'm interested in what your your face was just kind of funny when
01:53:20.080
he was talking about the energy so what were you no i kind of i i kind of agree with him on the energy
01:53:27.200
scene look here's the thing right i think there's there's two sides to this right i think on the one
01:53:30.880
hand you know your story beautiful story and i'm i'm glad you know i'm really happy for you man
01:53:34.720
because that sounds brilliant and that's the kind of woman that's the kind of woman that i think we
01:53:38.400
would all we would all like to meet i do i do think though it's not necessarily easy in this day and age
01:53:43.520
to meet a woman of that caliber and the other the other issue that i've got is that i yeah it's sleeping
01:53:49.360
around it kind of gets old on the one hand but in another way it kind of doesn't you know what i mean
01:53:53.760
and i think guys are always going to have that and it's great you know you can make you can make that
01:53:57.520
value you can make that commitment to yourself and to your wife that you're not gonna you're
01:54:00.800
gonna be monogamous and that's absolutely fine people can absolutely make that choice but for
01:54:04.800
me i think that would be difficult because i would you know that moment be honest be honest you know
01:54:11.600
that moment no because that will be going against you know my fundamental belief male male no not beliefs
01:54:17.840
my fundamental male drive which is basically variety i think we all want security and we all want variety
01:54:23.040
at the same time but that's the problem i can be honest with you yeah like listen at this point
01:54:27.440
where i can have as much variety as i want i can do whatever i want i can have variety every single
01:54:31.840
day i want and live my best life but the whole point of when you have all this variety in actual
01:54:35.920
fact you don't want can i can i that's true that's true wait wait wait but it's like you've only
01:54:41.920
you're 39 you're not married so you've never even really tried monogamy what do you mean like what
01:54:46.960
what's real true monogamy well how long is it no so so so i mean if you think about true monogamy
01:54:55.200
is one partner for a lifetime yeah but it's like people are monogamous for like two years and then
01:55:00.560
they hear like oh that's not my fault i'm not i'm not i know i'm not saying like but i'm saying like
01:55:06.480
it's interesting because people push monogamy but i really like what is true have you really done it
01:55:11.680
like seven years eight years no no really because a true marriage is like 50 years if you like
01:55:17.840
typically right we live to be 80 90 so it's like you know it's it's interesting because i have a hard
01:55:24.560
time believing that if you were 10 20 30 years in you would have zero drive to do anything okay okay
01:55:33.520
okay you're talking about 10 20 30 years in yeah okay i'm not going to talk about that i want to talk
01:55:38.240
about right now yeah no because i because she's saying i don't know okay we can't look into the
01:55:42.160
future i would say that's that's the path i want to go along pearl's not so convinced cool what's that
01:55:47.120
what's i'm not convinced the monogamous um no no no i'm not i'm not saying you don't mean it i i think
01:55:56.160
i think i'm just i'm a bit more of like a realist right so wait wait wait please don't
01:56:01.040
let me finish let me finish yes and i think men will always have the drive to cheat yeah that's true
01:56:18.160
please don't please stop okay so so and i'm saying that i think that in a 20 30 40 year marriage
01:56:25.920
you would have that drive not every man acts on it but like this idea that like you you're just
01:56:32.880
going to only want monogamy for a lifetime really because he's trying to get this point on for a
01:56:39.920
minute now i've been trying to get this one i agree with you can i make can i make one point you see
01:56:44.480
you're saying at the moment you're saying yeah it gets old it gets you know and the bad energies and
01:56:48.320
blah blah blah and that's fine but like paul said what if you're what if you're 20 years in with some
01:56:52.960
some part of the sexist like like you're you're living in the lap of luxury let me just say one
01:56:59.440
thing i think two things i think the two things could be true at the same time i think i think monogamy
01:57:04.400
um is a desirable thing i get why people want it i get why people want that security but i also think
01:57:09.280
that you can't just wish your way around the desire for for for variety so be honest be honest right
01:57:17.280
now be honest you know that moment that everybody goes through when they all when they're single for a
01:57:22.000
long time and you get home after hooking up with a girl whatever yeah and it's just quiet in your
01:57:26.800
house yeah and you just feel that emptiness yeah empty you you know what i'm talking we've all been
01:57:31.600
at that position where you're sitting here you have all these girls in your phone but as soon as you
01:57:34.640
get home the house is just empty yeah can i can actually can i well that's like every sunday for me
01:57:43.120
i'd also like to point out that there's no guarantee that you wouldn't feel lonely in a marriage i know
01:57:48.000
many men i interview men all the time that felt extremely lonely in a marriage so this idea that
01:57:54.480
like you get married and like all of the sudden you'll never feel lonely again if you're lucky
01:57:59.680
yeah but that's why but that's the reason i tell people all the time don't don't focus so much on
01:58:05.680
the love of your marriage build something outside of your marriage so you have one two most people just
01:58:10.720
get in love and have relationships they get it together and then the love is what keeps them together
01:58:14.320
well i just think yeah at this stage right i at this stage you're looking to settle down
01:58:19.280
no no no no i will yeah i will look to settle down but i'm not chasing it yeah
01:58:25.520
can i just say women always want men that experience so how do you think they're going
01:58:28.480
to get the experience unless they fuck about oh whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa at 30 right
01:58:33.440
because women will complain to be like oh they don't know how to have sex properly
01:58:36.400
i like this i like that they have to go out and actually experiencing it she's right yeah she's
01:58:41.120
right but the point can i just can i just say the point the point that these guys are making
01:58:47.200
about this sort of the emptiness of the loneliness and the x the existential gloom of the the bachelor
01:58:51.840
you know playboy lifestyle is absolutely true but that doesn't mean that monogamy is brilliant
01:58:56.160
either true so in the end do you have to choose your own poison no no i think listen to this i'll be
01:59:01.760
honest with you that's our life i mean i think there's there's winners and losers in life i think
01:59:06.320
there's some bachelor content yeah yeah i mean i think there's some bachelors that but i don't
01:59:10.960
think we should be i don't know i think there's some family men that have an amazing like it just
01:59:15.440
but i don't think we should be i don't know like i i don't think we should be shooting it down because
01:59:19.200
you know you don't you don't you don't you don't sound like you got faith in me like pearl
01:59:23.840
i'll tell you i'll tell you what what i don't have faith in what i do have i
01:59:30.000
i i think in general most men like yourself would like to settle down and have a family yeah yeah i think
01:59:36.160
in general, the men that want to and find the right girl will do it. Okay. Um, whether, you
01:59:41.440
know, I think that's increasingly tougher in today's market. I think there's going to be a
01:59:45.140
lot of guys that don't find a girl that's worth the risk in all honesty, but I think it's selling
01:59:51.180
a dream to say that men will be happy monogamous for a lifetime. I typically find that the men
01:59:56.820
that say that have not been married long enough for me to really consider it monogamy. It's one
02:00:03.140
thing to say it in your thirties and your forties, but fifties sixties seventies, you know, life,
02:00:10.080
life is long. So, you know, true monogamy, I think we've almost lost what true monogamy
02:00:15.460
is because how many people have been with one partner for a lifetime? And then you get to
02:00:20.640
60 and then your wife decides to leave because she hasn't lived in full life yet. This is
02:00:27.480
not to hate on anybody. This is not like I genuinely, I love, I love it when like I get stories all
02:00:32.600
the time of people sending me like they're, oh, I'm so happy. I used to work and I did
02:00:36.980
like, I watched your show. I stopped working. I stayed home or like I did, you know, I get
02:00:41.200
these stories all the time and it's like, it warms my heart a little bit, especially, especially
02:00:45.460
when I like find out there's like women that, you know, think kind of the same way. I get
02:00:49.300
a little, you know, but, but it doesn't, what? I know I will in a second, but it doesn't,
02:00:54.400
you know, discount reality. Yeah. And I feel like every time I come here, a little bit
02:00:59.260
or my marriage dream gets crushed. I'll tell you what I believe will be the
02:01:03.640
future. And this isn't, I don't say this in a happy way, but I think we're going to
02:01:07.700
see birth rates similar to Japan. Japan is at 0.52. That's their birth rate.
02:01:12.700
Wowza. It's gone down. Yeah. Yeah. Um, I, you know, um, there's different reasons. The
02:01:18.480
women, yeah, I think we're going to see the people that are sexless go up. Is that a government
02:01:22.800
thing though? Well, yeah, I mean, there's a lot of things going on. I don't, I don't, I don't really
02:01:26.380
know. I don't know Japan's like culture economy like that. I just, if I had to
02:01:30.680
guess South Korea is similar, I think the trends seem to start there and then
02:01:35.860
they come here. You've got a big incel culture though as well, haven't you? In
02:01:39.720
Japan. So I think maybe, well, I think that's going to, I think that's going to
02:01:43.540
increase too. I think there's going to be more incels here. I mean, the quality of
02:01:47.360
life is going downhill anyway. So there's a lot of factors. I think you're going to, I
02:01:50.720
think men just naturally weigh the risks and the rewards. And I think right now the
02:01:54.960
women are less rewarding than ever. And the risks are higher than ever. Some
02:01:58.860
guys will find their unicorn and I think that's beautiful, but I'm not in the
02:02:02.080
business of selling. I'll be honest with you, my worst nightmare, I've said it
02:02:05.720
before, and I don't know if I said it on this platform, but my worst nightmare is
02:02:09.060
being a baby daddy on a weekend dad. And the reason why I said it is because
02:02:14.600
first of all, I need my weekends. I've got stuff to do. I get busy, but nothing more
02:02:19.580
expensive than paying for a child outside of, basically you're financing two
02:02:22.560
homes. But more importantly, it's like, what can I do within that day and a
02:02:26.160
half? There's nothing I can do, right? And because of that, and because I'm
02:02:29.820
passionate, you guys, I'm a very passionate person. And I know what girls
02:02:33.180
can do to me. Like, no girl can do anything unless you have leverage over me
02:02:37.480
so I can walk away. The moment you have my child, I have to call you back.
02:02:40.600
I have to call. Every single time I have to call. Well, some men don't.
02:02:42.980
You're right. And that's, that's the issue is even if you don't get married, you
02:02:46.500
still are entered into a system where the women automatically have
02:02:50.580
leverage. And when women get leverage, for some reason, we do the wrong thing.
02:02:54.620
Now, I'm not, I'm not saying that there aren't women that are awesome and
02:02:58.200
special, but I just think if I had to predict 10 years in the future, I don't
02:03:02.720
say that I'm, I'm not in the business of selling dreams. I'm not a Steve Harvey
02:03:06.180
type of chick. You know what I mean? I just think I would predict that
02:03:10.300
marriages will go down. I would predict there's going to be less children and
02:03:14.060
families. And I would predict that half of the women will be single, a quarter
02:03:18.260
divorced and a quarter married. And out of the married ones, it's like kind of
02:03:23.100
half and half with happiness, you know? So I'm just, you know, I'm not happy
02:03:28.980
about this, but you know, until I see, I would really love to see Elon Musk. I see
02:03:34.220
him pushing for families and I would really love to see him pushing for family
02:03:38.440
court reform. Cause I think that's when you'll start to see men saying, okay, you
02:03:42.980
know, yeah, she did only fans, but now she can't steal my children, you know?
02:03:47.820
You know, and I don't start, not only, I'm just only fans is a joke, but, but you
02:03:53.700
guys get the idea. Like, yeah. Okay. The women, they have problems, but we can work
02:03:57.620
with them. She can't leave me and take my shit.
02:03:59.820
Yeah. Although I think, was it even Matt Walsh? I mean, the one thing that Matt
02:04:03.140
Walsh was probably right about, um, when he was on, he did his little segment about you
02:04:07.620
recently on his show pub was that the family court reform is going to take so
02:04:11.400
long, you know, it would take a long time, wouldn't it, to change those laws.
02:04:15.320
And so that is the question of, well, what did the dudes do now? You know, that's
02:04:19.020
the issue. It's not really necessarily what I tell people to do. I'm just saying
02:04:23.620
this is going, if we, if the laws do not change, this will happen. Like there is no,
02:04:29.080
there, I don't see any evidence to suggest otherwise. Yeah. But it's very
02:04:33.420
interesting to see a guy like China, who's from a completely different culture to me,
02:04:37.220
completely different side of the world. And we have similar values about, I don't
02:04:40.640
want to be a Debbie dad. I don't want to be the baby daddy. I, that's.
02:04:44.300
Can I tell you something you said to me, come from a single part of me from a
02:04:46.940
single, um, mother home. Right. And it's, so you have the men that are raised from a
02:04:51.920
single mother. You said you saw a struggle, right? You saw those things, right?
02:04:54.540
Yeah. And it's funny that you would think that most men that would see that
02:04:58.220
their mother struggling would go out to become the best version of themselves.
02:05:01.380
And, you know, to be the man that their dad wasn't around, but they tend to go and
02:05:04.340
recreate the exact same thing they come from. So, but then you
02:05:07.180
get the other hand, men like you that won't get that, but they will see their
02:05:11.020
mom's struggle and they're actually going to be like, right, I want to become
02:05:13.420
married and they haven't seen it. And it's weird because I have friends on the
02:05:17.560
other side and have also friends on the other side, on the other side. And, and
02:05:20.980
when I just hear it, it's just makes me think that why is it that men want that?
02:05:25.840
Why is it that you, why do you feel that's something that you need to provide?
02:05:28.420
Is that something, is it because you didn't have it? Is it because you saw your mom struggle?
02:05:31.180
I would never want any child to feel the way I felt when I was younger.
02:05:34.180
Sorry, what was that? It was basically my father would call me. He called me one time
02:05:39.020
on my birthday. He said, what you want? What you want for your birthday? By that time,
02:05:41.420
50 Cent was popular. Yeah. He's like, yo, I could buy you this new 50 Cent game that
02:05:44.960
just came out. And I'm like, nah, I just want to hang out with you. Bulletproof. Yeah.
02:05:47.720
But yeah, you know, I was like, no. Bulletproof is fire. Finished it. But still got the game.
02:05:54.460
But yeah. And I said, I just want to hang out with you. He says, okay, I'll come, I'm
02:05:59.060
come pick you up and get some ice cream. Okay. I'll be sitting downstairs waiting. Hour
02:06:03.560
past, still waiting. My mother come downstairs. Hey, you want to go get some ice cream and
02:06:08.220
go do these different type of things? So it's people handle it differently. You know,
02:06:12.260
everyone goes through trauma. Every single person has some kind of form of trauma, maybe
02:06:16.360
from their childhood. Everyone goes through trauma. But as a guy, you adapt from it. You
02:06:20.720
use that as a shrink. Yeah. But as a guy, for me to see that into, you know, me and my brother
02:06:25.820
went through the same thing. Our mentalities are completely different. But to see that
02:06:28.960
and to see how hard she worked, to see how she had us like 15, 16 years old. It's not
02:06:33.180
why you want a strong woman, because you saw your mom being a strong woman. So you want
02:06:36.140
a strong woman to build her? I knew if she had somebody as diligent as her next to her,
02:06:40.280
it would have been even more epic. You know what? But you know, it's possible that because
02:06:45.740
she was a strong woman, that's why she didn't have a stable relationship. I think that she
02:06:50.020
was just too young, too immature at the time. And this is just like from interviewing
02:06:54.380
like hundreds of people. Because I find that... But that is true. That is true. She was very...
02:06:58.780
I kind of find like when I find men that like, and this isn't like a personal thing, but like,
02:07:03.660
but it's like when I find that guys that want the strong women tend to come from single
02:07:08.720
mother homes. Not really. I don't want to use the word strong. Let's use digitally.
02:07:12.340
Yeah, but when they use traits that tend to describe more masculine, it's because they usually
02:07:17.500
had a masculine mom. Hey, you know what, Pearl? Actually, you know, I have a theory. It's like,
02:07:21.780
you know, Deion Sanders, I think his father wasn't there. His uncle wasn't really there.
02:07:26.580
And he's just this amazing father. He's an amazing family man. So, you know, with me,
02:07:30.720
I grew up with a single mother who was very strong. And, you know...
02:07:35.420
Well, hold on. Well, my wife gives me something I never had. And my mom was very loving to me.
02:07:43.740
It almost seemed like it might have been a chore for my mom to love me, man. She didn't have that warm,
02:07:49.160
warm love towards me. So, you know what I did? Hold on. You know what I did? I picked a wife
02:07:53.060
that, by disposition, is very warm, cuddly, friendly, patient. Just the nicest, sweetest woman.
02:08:00.980
One of the nicest, sweetest women I've ever met. And you know what she does for my daughter?
02:08:04.120
She'll wake up at three, five, six. It doesn't matter. She is an outstanding mother and extremely
02:08:10.460
warm to my daughter. And I just want to say something to you, man. I can buy a lot of things
02:08:14.540
as a high net worth individual. But I can't buy a warm, loving mother from my daughter.
02:08:19.420
And that's the one thing I can't buy. So that's what I got from my daughter.
02:08:22.240
It's crazy that you say that because that's literally the one thing my mother said to me
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I wish I hugged you more. You know, she said... She literally looked at me.
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But she probably got that from her mother. It's normally generational...
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Her mother... That's deep. That's deep. She said that, man.
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Yeah. You know? And I was just like, yeah, but I got the point.
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Young. Like, I don't know. She's about to be 50, 49, 48, around that age.
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That's like the age. That's what I call like the age of shitty wives, to be honest.
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It's like 40 to 60 because it's like they either like fucked up.
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They either got divorced, had a kid out of wedlock.
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No, she was married. My mother was married. She just had us at a very young age.
02:09:05.820
She got married. She got divorced though, right?
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No, they're just not together, but she's still married.
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Okay, but they're not... They're not... Okay, so why'd you... What was the point of that?
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But, like, the technicality. All right, so 40 to 60, like, it's the generation I call, like, shitty wives
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because the 60 to 80-year-olds told their daughters to always have a backup plan, go to work.
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They were the ones that had the careers and, like, were kind of the more masculine ones
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because they had the wrong information from their moms.
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What is this obsession with the Western world and this...
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We need hugs and cuddles and all this unfettered love from our parents.
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Your parents go through a lot to provide for you to make sure you don't die, to make sure you literally survive.
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And then people grow up and they're complaining, oh, my mom didn't hug me enough.
02:10:20.720
I think African and Middle Eastern culture do have some similarities, especially in particular because of Islam.
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So, as a Middle Eastern man, my father was Iranian, my mother's Jewish, but my father built the toughness in me.
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And I think that a lot of Middle Eastern fathers have that in common with African fathers.
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And one last thing, I live in a German village, basically, in a German city.
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And in the German city that I live, almost the little village that we are, so many people are happily married.
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When you come to these big cities, you see this ratchetness, this gutterness.
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And some places, I would say, are 20 years behind.
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But if you look at birth rates, promiscuity rates, it's all spreading.
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Sorry to be doom and gloom and join the decline.
02:11:23.040
So, King's bringing some, like, alpha masculinity into the dialogue here.
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Because, actually, if you go back generations, if you go back to my grandparents' generation and then my great-grandparents' generation,
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also, actually, the parental role, particularly the father, you know, the father was often kind of absent.
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The father was out doing his stuff, you know, going and doing his business.
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He wasn't – fathers were often these very remote, distant figures.
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And motherly love, you know, sometimes it would depend on the woman.
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But is it a case that we've become – and I'm not saying it's a bad thing, but are we becoming somewhat softened, you know?
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So we feel this need for this great love for our parents.
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I mean, back in the day, kids in Britain, you know, in the upper classes, you'd just get sent away to school at the age of seven.
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True, but I do believe there's a certain amount of love that young men need, young boys need, man.
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Especially in the pivotal point when they're dealing with their masculinity, with testosterone in the teenage years.
02:12:11.940
And, once again, I don't want to keep talking about that, you know, that issue with the girl that got stabbed at R.I.P., Liana.
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But, you know, she was stabbed by a 17-year-old boy.
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And one of the things I do want to ask is who raised him is because – like, one of the things I said, when you have teens that are struggling in their masculinity without a male role model in the house,
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to teach them how to deal with it, I was quite – I went through the same thing.
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I didn't – obviously, didn't end up on the wrong way of things.
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And I was quite fortunate to have my father in my life.
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But my dad was a diplomat, and he spent half of his life away traveling.
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So then you still get the same effect because my mom raised me.
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And when your mom raises you, you pick up some of the traits or reaction quick or whatever.
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Where my dad is – actually, my dad is very calm, man.
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It comes down to one particular thing is my mother said, you have no empathy for people.
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You need a cat or a dog to take care of people because especially growing up in these inner cities, you grow up in these inner cities, you start to become very vicious.
02:13:10.440
Do you feel your dad was very loving even though he had a – he traveled a lot?
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Like, the only thing that – one of the things that I regret, not even regret, is just that he made so many – we were the first generation,
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so he made so many sacrifices because of his job, right?
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And it's just that – and I saw what my mom did as well.
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My mom – all my sisters are business, like, bosses, and they're right, but they're all married, right?
02:13:34.840
She bought houses, did everything, but she always submitted to my dad.
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But I just couldn't do that because out of everything my dad did, all I ever think is that I wanted more time with him.
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But in order for me to be here and have opportunities, he had to make that sacrifice.
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I just feel like – I just feel like – because my dad was gone a lot growing up, like, working.
02:14:00.400
Yeah, but it's true because the one difference I notice is, like, in Africa, the reason why a lot of kids don't have this same kind of reaction –
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Yeah, it's because from when you're young, if you're in the lower class, if you're born into a lower class, what tends to happen is you start to work from a very young age.
02:14:21.800
If you're born into a higher class, you get put into a lot of activities.
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You're not sitting around waiting for your dad to come and hug you or your mom to come and do all of that crap.
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Because reality is, the way we show love in Africa is by providing.
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It's not by them telling you, oh, come, let me give you a hug and all that.
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And, you know, I bet you your father missed you a lot, man.
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I bet your father missed you even though he was traveling.
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You can see your, you can get on the phone and you can see me.
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You had to wait for the line to get, no, it was, you know, it was, it was those days.
02:15:15.520
And I just, it's only now, Pearl doesn't, Pearl, like, you know, Pearl had, Pearl, I had brothers and sisters, but it's only now I realize how limited time I've had with him.
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Like, and because he lives in African travel still a lot, it's just that I realize the sacrifice is made.
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I just think as you get older, you just start to see when everyone keeps talking about me, me, me.
02:15:37.040
I look at what my mom and dad did, and I don't think I, I couldn't be away from my woman or my woman be away from me just for our kids.
02:15:45.660
So I'm going to, I'm going to read Super Chats for a second, guys.
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So Doug MPA says, who needs OnlyFans when you can follow Pearl on Instagram?
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Keep calling out these old birds so they can keep sending pictures for research purposes.
02:16:16.000
If women didn't care what their friends thought of their boyfriend, they would be happier.
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But the fact remains, they have to have their cake and eat it, too.
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A beautiful 35-year-old will never be an ugly 19-year-old.
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It's hard to explain in text what women like, but it's too simple for men to get.
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But FS Claire, when we are watching why men shouldn't get married, reality is questionable
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In no other instance would we support people signing a contract rate or a contract with
02:16:55.460
Men don't care about their partner's finances or ability to provide.
02:17:00.900
Yeah, guys, that's why I say men are better people because when they get, yeah, yeah, yeah,
02:17:06.500
I know people think I troll, but like, I mean, you know, sometimes I might make jokes, but
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usually you can tell when I say men are better people, I mean it to its entirety.
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And the reason I mean it is because I look at what women have done when we've gotten
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power and leverage and it's usually something along the lines of abusing men in the court
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system, in the marriage system, at work, the women will cry and whine that the men harass
02:17:49.360
And men, when they get money, they tend to provide for a wife and their kids.
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When women get money, they tend to keep it for themselves, divorce their husbands.
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And, you know, I'm not saying there aren't exceptional, amazing women.
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But when I look at us as a whole, yeah, they're better people.
02:18:07.220
Now, and, you know, and then I know the one argument I get is, well, the men commit the
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And I'm like, well, that's like saying a woman that can't commit a crime.
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But when we look at infants and the elderly, you know who kills them the most?
02:18:30.800
He says nothing of substance and is crass for no reason.
02:18:46.820
New York black dude would build an empire with a woman?
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Women are more likely to delete children if the woman loses custody.
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And every time, at first, I didn't actually think like this, but I kept looking at data
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And I was like, goddamn, ladies, this is not good.
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The problem with modern marriages is the fact that women expect to be taken care of for the
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rest of their lives while men only have a wife until she finds better options or time
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Doug MPA, follow Pearl on Twitter, not Instagram.
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There's a difference between a wife and a woman who is married.
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A wife represents a family and a husband by letting people know the world that she is married.
02:19:58.080
Do you think the majority of married women today are wives?
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I'm talking about like future wives or traditional wives.
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So I think there's a difference between someone who's married and a wife.
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So, you know, when I think of a wife, this is what I think of personally.
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But I think the number one thing as a wife that you need to do, it's actually not cooking.
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I think it's obeying your husband and submitting to his authority.
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I know women that I would consider traditional and they put the family first too.
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But I consider them traditional and they don't know how to cook.
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But they literally outsource everything and she works where her husband tells her to work.
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And I would still consider her traditional because she's still putting the family first.
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They just have a different strategy of how to do it.
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And submit to his authority and put the family first?
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I mean, we really should not scold women for being narcissistic, selfish, terrible, or bad.
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I think a lot of women, certainly that I've come into contact with in London, it's a cliche to say it, but they want the wedding.
02:21:52.640
I think they like the actual business of being married less than they like the idea of it.
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So it's more of a sort of a box-ticking exercise where it's like, right, I'm 28, right, okay, I better get a ring on it and, you know, do all the stuff.
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And then five, six years later, you know, go south, they get divorced, and that's it.
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I actually forgot one thing I wanted to add for the wife.
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Now, this is not to say that I am the epitome, right?
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Well, but I am saying I do little tests to, like, kind of see where women's heads are at.
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And how does she respond when you say that she's not the greatest thing since sliced bread?
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Because women are some wives are kind of supposed to have humility.
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So when women are tweeting at me their selfies because I say they're not that hot, I think, well, this woman's married, but it's kind of weird.
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I think a lot of men make the mistake of even marrying women that are on social media doing stuff like that.
02:23:03.580
People say to me, oh, how do you make these jokes?
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But not only that, she's not really on social media.
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Like, when you're on your phone, you can see how long you're actually on social media.
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A lot of people are not on social media like that.
02:23:19.060
A lot of you guys can actually avoid a lot of this by just marrying a woman who has a good relationship with her dad and her mom.
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Now, if I'm going to stay here, say, oh, my relationship, my marriage is perfect.
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No, sometimes she makes me wait 20, 25 minutes to go somewhere.
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I get pretty pissed off if you want to know the truth.
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Do you want your hard work to be your marriage and having a family and being closer to God?
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What is natural for a man is to start a family, get married, become a father.
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And the woman's natural role is to be a loving, nurturing mother.
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Why do you want to be involved in this degeneracy of banging a bunch of women and promiscuity?
02:24:16.940
Every woman you bang, every woman you bang, you lose a piece of yourself, man.
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If you bang a lot of women, you know, if you bang a lot of women, man, you start losing a piece of yourself.
02:24:30.860
How many women you go to sleep with before you disappear?
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I know my testosterone is pretty high because I just got tested about a month ago.
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It took me to my late 30s to really understand, can I be with this woman?
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This is the biggest problem I have with social media.
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The guys in their 20s and 30s, they're so obsessed with, am I fucking, am I fucking, am I getting pussy, am I getting pussy?
02:25:08.500
Let me tell you, when I see my daughter's eyes and the way she smiles at me, my heart melts.
02:25:13.280
My life is way more important than me just going and fucking a woman.
02:25:16.420
First of all, it's about being, when you see the love, you know, your father, he's so happy when you're going to go in a few weeks to see him for his birthday.
02:25:23.900
When he's in bed with his mom, with your mom, and no one's there.
02:25:27.000
And he talks about all the gifts his 10 kids give him.
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I guarantee he's going to say the number one gift was my princess.
02:25:43.340
But I know your father, without even meeting him, he's going to say, my princess Pearl came.
02:25:53.900
He's going to watch this now and call you princess when you get into it.
02:25:57.160
But, um, no, what was I going to, so, how old, your wife's in her 30s, though, right?
02:26:02.920
So, the thing is, with this new generation, they're all on social media.
02:26:07.980
Like, you can't, and the data is going to indicate this, too.
02:26:14.500
Like, there's less with licenses, less with real, everything's online.
02:26:21.200
Like, teenagers now are less risky than they were in the last generation.
02:26:27.260
And it's because, and I could see this totally with my little sisters.
02:26:30.260
Like, my, it's funny, my youngest sister, she's 10 years younger than me.
02:26:35.200
And, oh, my gosh, yeah, she's, like, on her Discord all the time.
02:26:38.800
She's, like, a little gamer, you know, but they're all, like, totally online.
02:26:44.360
So, what percentage, let me ask you, what percentage of women and men in marriages do you think are actually happy?
02:26:59.960
I would say people are generally happy in their 30s, early 40s.
02:27:06.060
I think something seems to switch in their, like, mid-40s to 50s.
02:27:11.380
How long does someone marry before they get unhappy?
02:27:16.340
I mean, if we're going to look stats, it's, like, seven to eight years before they divorce.
02:27:27.720
So, if I had to guess, and the reason I would say this is I think most men aren't happy with an overweight wife.
02:27:40.020
I would say out of 100 marriages, half will divorce, so that at least indicates that they were unhappy.
02:27:49.340
Out of the half that stay, I would say it's 50-50.
02:27:53.340
So, I would say if you get married, it's a 25% chance.
02:27:58.640
You know, it's interesting because I dated fashion models in New York that were very skinny,
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and I had a hard time actually getting erection to skinny women.
02:28:07.360
And I know on Twitter somebody said, oh, simps say they like thick women.
02:28:11.060
No, my father, the most alpha men, one of the most alpha males I know, Middle Eastern Iranian man,
02:28:19.000
We value big tits, big thighs, you know, big ass.
02:28:25.700
So, you know, the idea of what's beauty to one man is not necessarily beauty to another.
02:28:33.140
I've got friends that, like, in my group of friends, right, there's dudes,
02:28:37.580
You would think that there would be one standard, and there really isn't.
02:28:41.860
Yeah, but I think there's a difference between thick and obese.
02:28:46.460
And there's a lot of women that just get crazy.
02:28:51.020
Like, and I think if you took, so out of the 50% that stay married, right,
02:28:55.020
I think if you took out the cheaper-to-keeper, which is a good percentage of men that are just like,
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I think there's a good percentage of men that stay together because of, you know, religion, right?
02:29:07.540
Not saying that's necessarily a bad thing, right?
02:29:09.700
But I think, like, what would you count as a successful marriage?
02:29:12.940
I would say people that look back and say, you know, I'm happy I signed that paper.
02:29:22.980
I would guess that half, you get the women that gain weight,
02:29:30.060
the ones that stay together for religion and the cheaper-to-keepers.
02:29:38.140
So what would you say is the best thing for, based on your stats, based on everything that we just said,
02:29:42.960
what do you think is the best thing for a guy to do in this modern-day age about marriage and kids and stuff like that?
02:29:49.700
No, no, so I don't really, I just think it depends what your outcome is and what level of risk you want to take on.
02:29:57.100
So, like, my thing is I just don't like men making decisions without informed consent.
02:30:02.620
And most men have no idea what they are signing up for when they sign that paper or have that child.
02:30:12.120
Like, the factory worker is going to have a different answer than, say, the plumber.
02:30:15.760
But, like, a woman like you, you're successful, you're progressive, you do a lot of different things, you're highly intelligent,
02:30:23.100
How would you think a guy should handle a woman like you?
02:30:30.540
That's a broad, that's a broad, how should I be handled?
02:30:35.120
Oh, I didn't take you as one of those type of women.
02:30:38.760
That's the question, I'm like, I think typically, you know, the, the, how do, that's, like, not a really good question, you know what I mean?
02:30:47.320
Should he ask you to marry him on the first date?
02:30:55.420
Hold on, I really want to know, because you're very opinionated, you have a lot of different perspectives, and I want to know.
02:31:06.100
I didn't take you as one of those type of women, but okay.
02:31:10.380
Everyone's going to watch this video for how to pull up on Pearl now.
02:31:14.600
I just, I just think that, I just think, you know, every guy has to pick for himself.
02:31:19.220
I think there's men like Nima who go to Germany and find what sounds like an exceptional, awesome chick.
02:31:25.680
And I'd say for guys like that, you know, sounds great, sign up.
02:31:29.840
I think there's some men that never find a woman that's worth the risk, you know?
02:31:38.000
I think you've got to make an informed decision.
02:31:39.840
I think if you do get married, you've got to make sure that you, you know, you vet as much as you can.
02:31:43.660
And I'm a little bit skeptical about vetting, because I think it's very hard to know how somebody's going to behave 15, 20 years down the line under pressure.
02:31:50.520
But nevertheless, you know, you've obviously got to make sure you're with the right woman.
02:31:54.300
And you've got to be prepared to go the hard yards with that.
02:31:57.240
But I think if that's, if that's not something that you're feeling in the depths of your soul, if there's guys who are thinking, well, I'm just not sure if that's really what I want to do with my life.
02:32:06.160
I think that now in 2023, going into 2024, if you want to remain single, you know, I'm just saying, if you want to remain single, if you want to continue dating, if you want to have a different sort of life, that is perfectly possible.
02:32:18.280
Now, I think the whole, Rollo talked about this years ago, the whole lonely old man myth, I think is a myth.
02:32:27.900
So all of these trads on Twitter who say to yourself, oh, you're going to die alone and all this sort of shit.
02:32:31.280
But men have always died alone, so it's not a business.
02:32:33.260
Even I was thinking, like, if you're going to sell, if you're going to, so if someone says, what car should you buy?
02:32:44.580
Do you have, like, I grew up, my parents had a 16-passenger van.
02:32:53.920
There's some men that honestly don't make enough money, aren't good-looking enough that women will respect them.
02:33:02.520
And the problem with some of these trads and the Matt Walshes of this world and people like that is what they're basically saying is just wife, sub, chick up.
02:33:15.740
And they just, any sort of objection or any sort of potential problems that you might bring up, they'll hand wave them away and say, yeah, that doesn't matter.
02:33:23.320
And I think that's problematic for young women.
02:33:28.540
And the truth of the matter is, remember, 100 years ago, 85% of women were virgins.
02:33:38.280
So what does that tell you about female nature?
02:33:40.060
There's a reason that we buy the stupidest fashion trends.
02:33:48.320
Like, we all, well, it's because women tend to go with trends.
02:33:51.780
And if being single is trendy, women tend to do it.
02:33:55.340
Perpah, as literally the only married man here and a dad, I think that a lot of you young men have this really dark image of marriage.
02:34:07.500
I spent 10 years working in New York City nightclubs fucking a lot of women.
02:34:12.520
Nothing brings me happiness and more close to God than when my little princess looks at me in my eyes in the morning in bed next to me.
02:34:22.900
And I feel that all of you young men are better off being sober, not smoking, not drinking, praying, being married, having a family, being loyal to your wife.
02:34:32.360
This is the way of the highest level of fulfillment and happiness in life that I have found.
02:34:37.680
I would be dishonest and lying in a fraudulent charlatan to tell you fucking bitches is the best way for the deepest sense of happiness and purpose in your life.
02:34:49.320
But Nima, Nima, I think you're conflicting the issues and you're kind of minimizing the point.
02:34:59.400
I get what you're saying and what you're saying is true for a man like you.
02:35:02.840
But you're forgetting that the average man, which is the majority, is not the man like you.
02:35:08.360
The average man doesn't have access to the kind of resources you have, doesn't have, would probably never get access to the kind of respect that women can give to you.
02:35:18.040
So no matter how hard he works, no matter how much he wants to be married, if he gets into a marriage, he's more than likely going to be faced with disrespect than respect.
02:35:28.460
Do you think that the fact that you've met a woman who is, you know, sounds like an outstanding woman, do you think you were helped in that by the fact that you spent that playboy period of time in New York City?
02:35:38.920
You're obviously a very articulate, intelligent, you know, good-looking guy, et cetera, et cetera.
02:35:44.140
So if there's an average guy who's like 22 and he's reading Matt Walsh tweets and he's like, oh, okay, I'm just going to wife up Sheila from the office, his outcomes may not be as favorable as yours.
02:35:55.540
I mean, I was the last one out of my social circle to get married.
02:36:04.000
So now that I'm with one woman, is it hard for me when I go out?
02:36:09.780
And when I'm at the boxing gym yesterday, you know, I saw a woman and she was showing me her fat ass.
02:36:19.060
But when I look at my ring, you know, I realize what's most important to me.
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And that's what my grandma, before she passed away, my grandma looked at me in my eyes.
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And she said to me and my wife, a few weeks before she died, she said, be good to each other.
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My grandma didn't raise me to cheat on my wife and be degenerate.
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She raised me to be a man of faith and be a good father and a good husband and be sober, don't drink, don't smoke, be a good man, be a man of honor and integrity and character.
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I would be dishonest if I said, in an awful role model for any young man, if I promoted that sort of degeneracy, this is the problem in our society.
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Many of you don't have loyal fathers, loyal mothers who love each other and lead by example.
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What we do have in society is the shit economy, the world going completely south.
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Because it's not only, do you know what I mean, the relationships we have with one another.
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And I think what you're saying sounds really nice.
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But I'm just not in the business of selling dreams.
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But I think a lot of times men are very naive to family court and what it's like for an average man in America.
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And the average man makes about $45,000 a year.
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But most men are average earners and will be average earners for a lifetime.
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And the truth of the matter is that none of these podcasters that are the success hustlers, whatever, could do what we do without the average men that build this country.
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And unfortunately, average women do not respect average men.
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How strong would you say, and I ask this respectfully, and you know, I got a lot of love for you.
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I would say there's better Catholics and there's worse Catholics.
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But I honestly don't really like when people use their faith to win an argument.
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It's just like, I don't think it's like, I don't really like to make it part of like a brand.
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No, because I, no, but you know what it is, Pearl?
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As a 43-year-old talking to an educated 26-year-old woman, I think that if more people prayed on a daily basis and they married someone that had also had faith, we would avoid a lot of these.
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But the question is, what's our standard for a faithful woman?
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So, and the issue is, so I looked at the numbers because all these trad cons will say, oh, just find a good woman, just find a good woman.
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One out of four are still divorced of people that attend church.
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So what, what is my standard for a faithful woman?
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Because those women that really take their faith seriously will wait till they're married.
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So, you know, I'm just not in the business of selling dreams.
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Pearl, but look at, but look at the attitude there.
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And I want all the young men to hear me when I say this.
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You can look at it like that, but you can also look at it as three out of four.
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Well, I, and I think, and I think that maybe attitude, but I think that's maybe from your point of view,
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because I've seen, I've seen, wait, wait, wait, wait.
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I have interviewed men on the other side of this.
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And I don't think, you know, the death that goes through a man's eyes when he knows that he cannot see his daughter or his son for years.
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How about, have you interviewed happily married men?
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And I, and the, and the thing is like the trad cons often get triggered by, by these stories or whatever.
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But my point is they are not uncommon and they are not rare.
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And so, and so there are women that manipulate, like they haven't seen their kid in years.
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Any person that has worked in father's rights, fathers getting custody of their children knows that those men,
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And this isn't like, if you took a pill and there was a 5% chance of dying, you would never take it.
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Everybody's going on and on and on about all the people that died from the COVID shots.
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But we don't go on and on and on about all the men that die from marriage every year.
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And I don't say this to, to, you know, I don't say this to be a doom and gloomer,
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but we have to look at what the reality of the situation is and inform men of what it actually is.
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Because a 22-year-old that gets married because he wants to be religious and do the right thing,
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Besides, I was going to add on the faith thing, because I'm also Catholic.
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Prayer is not a good indicator of someone's faith.
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And this is what I notice a lot of religious people don't even realize.
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What actually tells how religious someone is is their character,
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what they do on a day-to-day basis outside of prayer.
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Because the reality is prayer can literally just be a way that someone can use to deceive you.
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King, I would say, as literally the only, it seems like,
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maybe I'm not, I don't know the soul of everybody here,
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but as a man of faith, I'm definitely isolated here.
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Well, if you're so pure, you can sense that in other people, then, you know.
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I'm also about 15, 18 years older than you, right?
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So I say this, you know, I want to tell you on the other side of your 40s,
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there are a lot of men that are happily married and fathers, man.
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What I'm saying is prayer has nothing to do with someone's faith.
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Even in Catholic, in our Christian religion, it says it in the Bible,
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So you can have all the faith, all the prayer in the world,
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but if you don't go out into the world and actually put action to your stuff,
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I just want to emphasize to people that are watching,
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I know a lot of guys in their 40s that are happily married.
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Most people would never be around the kind of people you're around.
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And the kind of people you're around are a minority,
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And I had this similar, I had a very similar view
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when I first came into Red Pill because I'm from an upper class area.
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That's why you're like, oh, have you seen happily married people?
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Yeah, like, yes, most people I grew up around were married.
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And that is not the same situation for working class America.
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So just become, that's what they'll say, just become 1%.
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But even them, Paul, I mean, I know plenty of people,
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like upper class people here, and they're suffering the same issues.
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Because, again, I'm on the other, like, because growing up,
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and you actually start to hear about some of their issues,
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Like, you're seeing a lot of, like, people, like,
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growing up, 20-year marriages, 30-year marriages,
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And, you know, I don't say this in a happy way.
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I really don't see anything changing until you switch the laws.
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I think we need, like, you should have billionaires,
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And I'm like, the only way average men are going to sign up
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is if we change the laws to make them more fair.
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Like, it should be at least 50-50 default custody.
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Yeah, because that's one of the things that makes me, like,
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petrified as a guy to be in a, like, committed relationship
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We've grown up seeing the fallout of how men get treated
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and we get divorced, she takes half of everything I own.
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I have no responsibility, no control of anything.
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So to see you, and this is one of the things I've seen
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because we've had access to engage with the type of woman
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this is not something that I'm actually lustful for anymore.
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and listen to your story about how you look at your daughter's eyes
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me at this level where I already had my plenty of women and stuff,
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But to the average person, that's probably unrealistic
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because they haven't even engaged with about half
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or even 2% of the type of women you've engaged with, you know?
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is Pearl ignores the fact that you have the same risks
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And I think what they typically do is they'll conflate,
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like men commit suicide that aren't married as well.
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Yeah, but the thing is those men, if I had to guess,
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But if you're going to say you're not at risk, you're-
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that you are taking on when you sign that legal document, isn't it?
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I just know that they're going to be together forever.
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I've just noticed when people tell me about these couples,
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I mean, you're supposed to be with someone for a lifetime.
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Like how long do you need to be in a relationship
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with a woman or a guy to even think about that?
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Okay, so I think that women are a roll of the dice.
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They're like, they will find a way to like around it.
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And so, but I really, even like what Troy was saying,
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I have talked to men that vet girls for 10 years,
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I have talked to men that dated women for six months
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I think it's really difficult to talk about this issue, isn't it?
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with their wives and their children mean everything to them.
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And it's incredibly moving to hear those stories.
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and you have to hear some of the anecdotal stuff
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I think like before marriage used to be something
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Do you understand what I'm trying to say to you?
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But I'm not going to give it to you straight away.
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But the leverage a lot of women will use though
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I'm trying to figure out a new way for men, right?
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But I'm just not in the business of selling dreams.