JustPearlyThings - J Waller DEMOLISHES This Modern Woman

00:00:00.000 i'm out of curiosity what do you what do you think that men want me personally 0.99

00:00:09.280 i think men want an outlet an emotional outlet when they come home you know and when they've

00:00:16.800 had a shitty day and whatever i think they want an emotional outlet i think they want

00:00:21.440 someone that they can like it's it's difficult you need to burn that book burn that book on your bedside 0.95

00:00:30.320 can you can you listen i need you five things five things that i think that you think that

00:00:38.160 no i'm gonna have you do it and then i'm gonna have alex do it so i'm gonna pick two yeah so

00:00:43.680 an emotional outlet what else emotional outlet loving

00:00:48.400 i think they want a mother you want a mother i think they want

00:01:01.200 i do i will go as far and stay say stability i think they do want stability i i know they do

00:01:09.200 silly things but i do deep down believe they want stability somewhere what's what's one skill that

00:01:15.200 a girl would have to have or like trait watching for yeah for a man that would like what would he value 0.96

00:01:23.200 don't say ironing do you know what today's days i'm just gonna say it being be his mother be his

00:01:28.400 mother that's what men just get rid of this book listen okay this is the most delusional i've ever

00:01:35.280 heard in my life you were describing a child i think she's describing a child i think there's

00:01:41.200 also the undertone of disrespect to say to a man that you're going to be his mother i think it's

00:01:47.040 that where you see like the modern feminism that ego come in yeah that like you look at she's 1.00

00:01:51.680 definitely because if you want to play the mother then you must on some level look at him as your

00:01:54.720 son right which is a disrespectful to do you date men that are children no no but you just said

00:02:00.960 i think that men want a mother so how would you know i think i think she's dated italians 0.95

00:02:07.520 i think that a lot of men do have some really deep-rooted issues that stem from the family

00:02:13.200 environment and where they've grown up and who's been around and if they've had a father figure if

00:02:17.600 they've had a mother figure i think a lot of issues that they deal with in their present modern day

00:02:22.080 relationships does stem from that the type of men you've dated no i'm not saying that but i'm just

00:02:26.880 saying i'm asking you from seeing my girls and how i've seen other people's and other people's

00:02:31.600 relationships so what about the men you've dated so they don't have those issues so i'm asking about

00:02:36.240 you in the past yeah but that's something that i've recognized like my mom um she's a lawyer and

00:02:44.000 she deals a lot with like narcissistic relationships and stuff so i've learned how to kind of navigate

00:02:49.120 through that so why do you why do you think you attract those men do you know what i'll tell you why

00:02:55.360 i attract those men because i'm a fixer that's what type of person i am i like to fix people

00:03:01.440 and you've got that motherly you've got that motherly yorkshire accent as well 1.00

00:03:11.040 there's nothing of it's it's just that you're a fixer i just think i'm a fix i naturally like to

00:03:16.080 tend to people and tend to people's emotions and i like to know that you're all all right and that's

00:03:20.400 just naturally who i am if i can't fix you but if you keep giving me problems i'll try and fix and

00:03:26.160 fix and fix and fix and fix and fix and if i can't fix can i have an example of a problem um

00:03:35.760 let me think let me think i just you kept saying and fix and fix i thought there's like this would be 0.98

00:03:41.920 easy the first problem is coming home and crying to you in the first place what the hell are you 0.74

00:03:51.040 going to do about it right not crying like that but i mean emotional outlet a man's job is to be

00:03:55.920 the mountain that a woman's emotional waves crash into if he needs you to be strong enough to go to

00:04:00.640 work the next day you need to find a new man or find a man in general but then that bleeds into toxic

00:04:04.880 masculinity don't it does it a man has emotions himself okay yeah cool so how about he keeps

00:04:12.480 him to his self and maybe talks to his colleagues at work about fixing the problem not coming home 0.99

00:04:16.400 like a little bitch to his wife if he can't make her feel safe truly feel safe you think him coming 1.00

00:04:21.840 home and telling you about his problems at work is gonna make you feel safe and protected you're gonna 1.00

00:04:26.720 feel safe and protected i see what he's supposed to be the fucking hero he's supposed to have charge of 1.00

00:04:30.720 the situation coming home and crying to you like a little bitch is gonna do nothing but dry your 1.00

00:04:34.160 pussy up i'm telling you right now you're wrong not crying yeah crying to his mother i think a 1.00

00:04:39.840 man has to be comfortable enough to be able to tell me if he's not comfortable i'm not saying that you 0.98

00:04:45.760 don't have i'm not saying that you don't tell me but i'm just saying that i want you to know that you

00:04:49.760 can talk to me exactly but it's a double it's like a double-edged sword because you also said that

00:04:56.320 you're mothering him and that you keep having to fix these problems so why would he bring the problems to you

00:05:00.880 because you're the first a man should never bring his problems no but i'm saying based on your that's

00:05:06.720 what you said you said you kept having to fix the problem and fix and fix and fix no i'm saying like

00:05:11.440 within me like if i can't feel like you don't have a problem and maybe that is the man i attract i don't

00:05:16.720 know but like i i that's who i naturally am i'm a fixer like if i can see a problem i'll just try and try

00:05:24.480 and chip away at it chip away until i get to the root of it and then it started see i i personally

00:05:31.520 i interpret what you say with like such an undertone of disrespect because to fix someone you must think

00:05:36.400 that they are broken on some level and to to think of yourself as their mother you must think of them

00:05:40.560 as a son i i feel like i hear a lot of undertones of like i don't really rate this guy and he's kind of

00:05:46.320 my project when i look at him as like something that i kind of add new bits onto a garage workshop and

00:05:52.080 then i i think women a lot a lot of the time use that as a defense mechanism because when they break 1.00

00:05:55.600 up they say oh he had all these issues you know he couldn't do anything he was always crying xyz

00:06:00.960 i think if you're going to support someone you have to respect them and if you respect them you

00:06:05.280 wouldn't you wouldn't say i think an old school woman wouldn't say oh i'm always fixing my husband's

00:06:09.360 issues yeah i mean he cries to me at night i'm definitely his like mother figure you would never

00:06:15.200 say that because you'd respect him as a man completely if you were such a high-value man then you

00:06:18.800 wouldn't even have to have those problems to fix exactly everyone everyone has problems everyone's

00:06:24.320 having problems that's how they fix them of course but then you saying that you can't come home and

00:06:27.840 like if you came back to your girl and saying oh babe there's something there's something that you're 0.98

00:06:32.240 automatically a bitch like everybody has problems yeah but i was saying that based on what you said 1.00

00:06:37.680 because you said that you kept having to fix these problems that's what you said no that's what so so 0.99

00:06:43.600 i'm saying based on that why would a guy bring you his problems if you you you said yourself you

00:06:48.480 don't like that you keep being a fixer no i'm not saying that i don't like being a fixer i'm just saying

00:06:54.240 that's who i naturally i'm like that's the energy i vibrate is i'm just a fixer like but that's not

00:07:02.320 even like in relationships that's like every part of my life that's my friendship like if if i'm having an

00:07:08.880 argument with one of my girls and her kind of vibe is like okay i need to step back and

00:07:14.400 shut myself out of this i don't work like that i'm like come on bro we need to try this we need to

00:07:19.520 fix this i'm gonna i'm gonna give you some advice real quick and i hope you don't take this 0.99

00:07:23.600 disrespectfully i think you should burn whatever that book why men love bitches but burn that on a 1.00

00:07:28.720 bonfire and read a book about divine feminine etc because i think you have a naturally strong feminine 0.99

00:07:35.040 energy but what's gonna happen is you're gonna get used up you're gonna go to the club and give

00:07:38.560 all this feminine energies to guys who go to the club every day and run through girls and after 0.95

00:07:42.720 you've finished using that up you're going to convince yourself that men are trash men ain't 0.99

00:07:47.280 shit and that you need to change and you're going to adapt more and more toxic behaviors until at 28 0.99

00:07:52.560 none of no trace of the woman the woman right here who says she's a fixer exists because you've been used 0.99

00:07:57.840 up and disrespected for about five six years so i would say work on your strengths and develop that

00:08:02.480 feminine energy for sure but like i would say don't put yourself in situations yeah but like are men

00:08:08.960 we never cry to you about his problems he's gonna go to someone else because like trust me i had so

00:08:13.600 many men's then that they were crying in my shower and i was like all right what i what what am i doing

00:08:17.680 now real men don't cry in prostitute showers either no they don't they don't bro no like they don't

00:08:27.120 okay you know them because like everyone comes from trauma everyone has trauma i've got trauma she

00:08:37.280 has trauma she has trauma she has trauma probably he has trauma and you have but a man but but a man

00:08:42.480 has a responsibility i don't claim no i want to say i don't claim trauma i'm so sick of hearing about

00:08:47.120 this trauma i don't know trauma trauma is supposed to be coming back from war that's what trauma is

00:08:52.560 supposed to be it's supposed to be i had a real traumatic situation not my ex-boyfriend cheated on me

00:09:00.160 not my parents weren't around enough and i have some attachment style that nobody gives a 0.71

00:09:04.480 shit about because nobody cares about your problems like it's just i'm so tired of hearing about this 0.88

00:09:09.120 trauma do you know how do you call it then because like people call it problems i mean problems but 0.99

00:09:14.240 it's not trauma like issues they used to they used to use the word trauma when men came back from war

00:09:19.360 yeah for pts and now women have claimed the word and use it for freaking everything 1.00

00:09:25.200 do you agree with do you agree with that term mental health is that something you don't believe

00:09:31.680 in that i i think there are exceptions but i think in 2023 the majority of people that claim mental

00:09:37.200 health do not have mental health oh that i agree with today in today's day and age a lot of people do

00:09:42.720 claim it i think that everybody everybody's depressed everybody's anxious everyone's this and i feel like

00:09:47.680 it's just all on the internet they believe everything they read it's like a trend

00:09:51.520 if a lot of people if a lot of people if a lot of people turned off their phone lived in the real

00:09:57.840 world went outside spoke to people they would be a lot happier these girls are on tick tock 1.00

00:10:03.680 get fake dopamine and yeah and then they convince themselves that they are depressed anxious 1.00

00:10:10.480 and feminists yeah it's not mental health is low iq it's low iq because they're too stupid to 1.00

00:10:17.680 realize that they're getting lied to nobody here pearl's dead on if you put your phone down and 1.00

00:10:22.240 had a real life and have real things going for you mental health will go out the window wait so are

00:10:26.160 you relating bad mental health with a low iq i think a lot of the people that buy into

00:10:36.080 people that buy into the and they get told that they have a health problem when really they're just

00:10:40.320 fat and have a life if they turn their life around their mental health problems would likely 0.91

00:10:44.480 go away no i mean bad like someone so say someone says like yeah i'm dealing with depression if

00:10:50.720 someone came along and said that would you relate that then to low iq no that's something you're

00:10:55.520 saying no i think falling for it and believing that yeah of course but you're not you're not putting

00:11:02.880 a bad mental health state and a low iq i would call that person probably lazy right because they're

00:11:08.880 depressed because they have a life as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are

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JustPearlyThings - April 19, 2023

J Waller DEMOLISHES This Modern Woman

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