JustPearlyThings - April 19, 2023


J Waller DEMOLISHES This Modern Woman


Episode Stats

Length

11 minutes

Words per Minute

199.79897

Word Count

2,319

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

14

Hate Speech Sentences

10


Summary

In this episode, we discuss toxic masculinity, toxic masculinity and toxic masculinity in modern day relationships. We discuss what toxic masculinity is, what it means and how toxic masculinity affects modern day men and women. We also discuss the importance of a good relationship with your partner and how to deal with toxic masculinity.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 i'm out of curiosity what do you what do you think that men want me personally
00:00:09.280 i think men want an outlet an emotional outlet when they come home you know and when they've
00:00:16.800 had a shitty day and whatever i think they want an emotional outlet i think they want
00:00:21.440 someone that they can like it's it's difficult you need to burn that book burn that book on your bedside
00:00:30.320 can you can you listen i need you five things five things that i think that you think that
00:00:38.160 no i'm gonna have you do it and then i'm gonna have alex do it so i'm gonna pick two yeah so
00:00:43.680 an emotional outlet what else emotional outlet loving
00:00:48.400 i think they want a mother you want a mother i think they want
00:01:01.200 i do i will go as far and stay say stability i think they do want stability i i know they do
00:01:09.200 silly things but i do deep down believe they want stability somewhere what's what's one skill that
00:01:15.200 a girl would have to have or like trait watching for yeah for a man that would like what would he value
00:01:23.200 don't say ironing do you know what today's days i'm just gonna say it being be his mother be his
00:01:28.400 mother that's what men just get rid of this book listen okay this is the most delusional i've ever
00:01:35.280 heard in my life you were describing a child i think she's describing a child i think there's
00:01:41.200 also the undertone of disrespect to say to a man that you're going to be his mother i think it's
00:01:47.040 that where you see like the modern feminism that ego come in yeah that like you look at she's
00:01:51.680 definitely because if you want to play the mother then you must on some level look at him as your
00:01:54.720 son right which is a disrespectful to do you date men that are children no no but you just said
00:02:00.960 i think that men want a mother so how would you know i think i think she's dated italians
00:02:07.520 i think that a lot of men do have some really deep-rooted issues that stem from the family
00:02:13.200 environment and where they've grown up and who's been around and if they've had a father figure if
00:02:17.600 they've had a mother figure i think a lot of issues that they deal with in their present modern day
00:02:22.080 relationships does stem from that the type of men you've dated no i'm not saying that but i'm just
00:02:26.880 saying i'm asking you from seeing my girls and how i've seen other people's and other people's
00:02:31.600 relationships so what about the men you've dated so they don't have those issues so i'm asking about
00:02:36.240 you in the past yeah but that's something that i've recognized like my mom um she's a lawyer and
00:02:44.000 she deals a lot with like narcissistic relationships and stuff so i've learned how to kind of navigate
00:02:49.120 through that so why do you why do you think you attract those men do you know what i'll tell you why
00:02:55.360 i attract those men because i'm a fixer that's what type of person i am i like to fix people
00:03:01.440 and you've got that motherly you've got that motherly yorkshire accent as well
00:03:11.040 there's nothing of it's it's just that you're a fixer i just think i'm a fix i naturally like to
00:03:16.080 tend to people and tend to people's emotions and i like to know that you're all all right and that's
00:03:20.400 just naturally who i am if i can't fix you but if you keep giving me problems i'll try and fix and
00:03:26.160 fix and fix and fix and fix and fix and if i can't fix can i have an example of a problem um
00:03:35.760 let me think let me think i just you kept saying and fix and fix i thought there's like this would be
00:03:41.920 easy the first problem is coming home and crying to you in the first place what the hell are you
00:03:51.040 going to do about it right not crying like that but i mean emotional outlet a man's job is to be
00:03:55.920 the mountain that a woman's emotional waves crash into if he needs you to be strong enough to go to
00:04:00.640 work the next day you need to find a new man or find a man in general but then that bleeds into toxic
00:04:04.880 masculinity don't it does it a man has emotions himself okay yeah cool so how about he keeps
00:04:12.480 him to his self and maybe talks to his colleagues at work about fixing the problem not coming home
00:04:16.400 like a little bitch to his wife if he can't make her feel safe truly feel safe you think him coming
00:04:21.840 home and telling you about his problems at work is gonna make you feel safe and protected you're gonna
00:04:26.720 feel safe and protected i see what he's supposed to be the fucking hero he's supposed to have charge of
00:04:30.720 the situation coming home and crying to you like a little bitch is gonna do nothing but dry your
00:04:34.160 pussy up i'm telling you right now you're wrong not crying yeah crying to his mother i think a
00:04:39.840 man has to be comfortable enough to be able to tell me if he's not comfortable i'm not saying that you
00:04:45.760 don't have i'm not saying that you don't tell me but i'm just saying that i want you to know that you
00:04:49.760 can talk to me exactly but it's a double it's like a double-edged sword because you also said that
00:04:56.320 you're mothering him and that you keep having to fix these problems so why would he bring the problems to you
00:05:00.880 because you're the first a man should never bring his problems no but i'm saying based on your that's
00:05:06.720 what you said you said you kept having to fix the problem and fix and fix and fix no i'm saying like
00:05:11.440 within me like if i can't feel like you don't have a problem and maybe that is the man i attract i don't
00:05:16.720 know but like i i that's who i naturally am i'm a fixer like if i can see a problem i'll just try and try
00:05:24.480 and chip away at it chip away until i get to the root of it and then it started see i i personally
00:05:31.520 i interpret what you say with like such an undertone of disrespect because to fix someone you must think
00:05:36.400 that they are broken on some level and to to think of yourself as their mother you must think of them
00:05:40.560 as a son i i feel like i hear a lot of undertones of like i don't really rate this guy and he's kind of
00:05:46.320 my project when i look at him as like something that i kind of add new bits onto a garage workshop and
00:05:52.080 then i i think women a lot a lot of the time use that as a defense mechanism because when they break
00:05:55.600 up they say oh he had all these issues you know he couldn't do anything he was always crying xyz
00:06:00.960 i think if you're going to support someone you have to respect them and if you respect them you
00:06:05.280 wouldn't you wouldn't say i think an old school woman wouldn't say oh i'm always fixing my husband's
00:06:09.360 issues yeah i mean he cries to me at night i'm definitely his like mother figure you would never
00:06:15.200 say that because you'd respect him as a man completely if you were such a high-value man then you
00:06:18.800 wouldn't even have to have those problems to fix exactly everyone everyone has problems everyone's
00:06:24.320 having problems that's how they fix them of course but then you saying that you can't come home and
00:06:27.840 like if you came back to your girl and saying oh babe there's something there's something that you're
00:06:32.240 automatically a bitch like everybody has problems yeah but i was saying that based on what you said
00:06:37.680 because you said that you kept having to fix these problems that's what you said no that's what so so
00:06:43.600 i'm saying based on that why would a guy bring you his problems if you you you said yourself you
00:06:48.480 don't like that you keep being a fixer no i'm not saying that i don't like being a fixer i'm just saying
00:06:54.240 that's who i naturally i'm like that's the energy i vibrate is i'm just a fixer like but that's not
00:07:02.320 even like in relationships that's like every part of my life that's my friendship like if if i'm having an
00:07:08.880 argument with one of my girls and her kind of vibe is like okay i need to step back and
00:07:14.400 shut myself out of this i don't work like that i'm like come on bro we need to try this we need to
00:07:19.520 fix this i'm gonna i'm gonna give you some advice real quick and i hope you don't take this
00:07:23.600 disrespectfully i think you should burn whatever that book why men love bitches but burn that on a
00:07:28.720 bonfire and read a book about divine feminine etc because i think you have a naturally strong feminine
00:07:35.040 energy but what's gonna happen is you're gonna get used up you're gonna go to the club and give
00:07:38.560 all this feminine energies to guys who go to the club every day and run through girls and after
00:07:42.720 you've finished using that up you're going to convince yourself that men are trash men ain't
00:07:47.280 shit and that you need to change and you're going to adapt more and more toxic behaviors until at 28
00:07:52.560 none of no trace of the woman the woman right here who says she's a fixer exists because you've been used
00:07:57.840 up and disrespected for about five six years so i would say work on your strengths and develop that
00:08:02.480 feminine energy for sure but like i would say don't put yourself in situations yeah but like are men
00:08:08.960 we never cry to you about his problems he's gonna go to someone else because like trust me i had so
00:08:13.600 many men's then that they were crying in my shower and i was like all right what i what what am i doing
00:08:17.680 now real men don't cry in prostitute showers either no they don't they don't bro no like they don't
00:08:27.120 okay you know them because like everyone comes from trauma everyone has trauma i've got trauma she
00:08:37.280 has trauma she has trauma she has trauma probably he has trauma and you have but a man but but a man
00:08:42.480 has a responsibility i don't claim no i want to say i don't claim trauma i'm so sick of hearing about
00:08:47.120 this trauma i don't know trauma trauma is supposed to be coming back from war that's what trauma is
00:08:52.560 supposed to be it's supposed to be i had a real traumatic situation not my ex-boyfriend cheated on me
00:09:00.160 not my parents weren't around enough and i have some attachment style that nobody gives a
00:09:04.480 shit about because nobody cares about your problems like it's just i'm so tired of hearing about this
00:09:09.120 trauma do you know how do you call it then because like people call it problems i mean problems but
00:09:14.240 it's not trauma like issues they used to they used to use the word trauma when men came back from war
00:09:19.360 yeah for pts and now women have claimed the word and use it for freaking everything
00:09:25.200 do you agree with do you agree with that term mental health is that something you don't believe
00:09:31.680 in that i i think there are exceptions but i think in 2023 the majority of people that claim mental
00:09:37.200 health do not have mental health oh that i agree with today in today's day and age a lot of people do
00:09:42.720 claim it i think that everybody everybody's depressed everybody's anxious everyone's this and i feel like
00:09:47.680 it's just all on the internet they believe everything they read it's like a trend
00:09:51.520 if a lot of people if a lot of people if a lot of people turned off their phone lived in the real
00:09:57.840 world went outside spoke to people they would be a lot happier these girls are on tick tock
00:10:03.680 get fake dopamine and yeah and then they convince themselves that they are depressed anxious
00:10:10.480 and feminists yeah it's not mental health is low iq it's low iq because they're too stupid to
00:10:17.680 realize that they're getting lied to nobody here pearl's dead on if you put your phone down and
00:10:22.240 had a real life and have real things going for you mental health will go out the window wait so are
00:10:26.160 you relating bad mental health with a low iq i think a lot of the people that buy into
00:10:36.080 people that buy into the and they get told that they have a health problem when really they're just
00:10:40.320 fat and have a life if they turn their life around their mental health problems would likely
00:10:44.480 go away no i mean bad like someone so say someone says like yeah i'm dealing with depression if
00:10:50.720 someone came along and said that would you relate that then to low iq no that's something you're
00:10:55.520 saying no i think falling for it and believing that yeah of course but you're not you're not putting
00:11:02.880 a bad mental health state and a low iq i would call that person probably lazy right because they're
00:11:08.880 depressed because they have a life as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are
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