Jada Smith DISRESPECTS Will Smith AGAIN
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss Jada Smith and Will smith, cheating on your spouse, and what it means to be a narcissist. We also talk about how to deal with cheating on a spouse and what to do about it.
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moving on so i'm sure you've heard of the whole jada smith and yeah i've heard of
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things but i don't really know the full story neither do i i don't think anyone does i actually
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saw a meme the other day um someone sent me a meme and it was like uh jada smith says she's
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actually never met will smith um which really tickled me because uh it wouldn't surprise me if
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that hit the news the next day but from what i know that whole thing happened with will smith
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punched him chris rock and kind of since then i think all of this stuff has come out about their
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relationship a lot of people on the internet are calling will smith a simp um it does seem like
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he's really trying his best to make this relationship work and she just seems to be
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this kind of tyrannical dictator that's standing above him and just keeping him very much at a
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distance um but yeah we have a video of jada smith in an interview um discussing this relationship so
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let's take a look if you find another great love or if will finds another great love there's no
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finding another great love and i think that's the point it's like we are in a place now that we are in
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a deep healing space and we are really concentrating on healing the relationship between us so it may
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not be the divorce on paper there's no divorce i mean not on paper there might not be a divorce in
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theory anymore yeah no we really have been working hard oh okay well i didn't know that we might i was
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trying to take well i totally missed that on the hall that that's the whole thing so wait so wait just
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so i'm 100 clear you were divorced not on paper but now we might be a point where we're back together
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we are working very hard at bringing our relation yes bringing our relationship together back to a
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marriage again back to a life partnership yes because here's the thing about tell me husband
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wife marriage for me for my healing process i came into that with very specific ideas very specific ideas
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that were blocks to me just seeing will as who he is yeah he can't be this perfect idealized husband
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yes of course i have to be able to accept him for the human that he is he accepts me for the human
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that i am and we want to love each other there okay so you might like live in the same house and have
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this yeah okay oh well and those poor kids i just really want to point out how uh she's
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all about her and her expectations of the marriage and it seems like she's indicating that he fell
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short of her expectations um but she doesn't seem to have any concern for what his expectations were
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and maybe not to be cheated on yep exactly because i heard she's been around yeah i think that's true
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and it wouldn't really surprise me just going off of off of this it wouldn't surprise me she's the kind
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of woman that's been around because she definitely seems like the kind of woman that is not
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hair bonded to her partner so that would suggest that she's been around the block a few times
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but i i really have a problem with people who air out their dirty laundry i really really don't like
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it when people as i said they air out their dirty laundry they put all of their problems in the public
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eye um i just think it's bad taste i think it's tacky it makes me cringe um and even if someone close
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to me did it i would just have to act like i didn't see it because i'm not going to get involved in
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that i'm not going to jump on the bandwagon of say a friend post something about her boyfriend
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she's slagging him off or whatever i'm not going to then jump on that bandwagon and pop up and be
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like i can't believe he did this because you're just fueling the fire um and really relationship
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problems should be within the relationship it should be the the couple versus the problem and
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especially in a marriage because you know that's the whole thing the sanctity of marriage it's
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yes two people and all problems should be resolved between you two within the context of that yeah
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and sometimes when you actually go to other people and go against your partner or husband in this case
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it can actually have a bad effect because some people don't have your best interests at heart and
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then they can advise you the wrong things and lead you to do to make bad decisions and ruin your
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marriage so definitely not um the right way to go about it i mean i agree with what she's saying
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about you know you can't have unrealistic expectations of your husband and you need to
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love him for who he is because you know in a marriage you're both sinners you're both you're not
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perfect no one's perfect we're all imperfect so you have to accept that but you know she hasn't actually
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treated her marriage with that with that same attitude because yeah if you believe that you shouldn't
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be cheating on your partner i don't understand that like a marriage isn't for that yeah i mean i think
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it's all very hypocritical and i think it's really important what you said you know when you take
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problems outside of the relationship you you're really running a real risk because the truth is not
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everyone does have your best interests at heart and i think especially with the fact that what we're
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seeing is the half of this relationship that is outsourcing the problems is is the female half and i
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think it's especially dangerous in this day and age when women go to their friends about
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relationship problems because the truth is we've we've seen already with the other topics on on
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today's agenda you know a lot of women out there are messed up right now they've been fed so much
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by the mainstream media by social media and even with the way that we're raising kids today a lot of
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women actually don't like it when their friend is in a relationship especially if they're part of
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today's culture of things like going out clubbing and everything's for the instagram pictures they
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don't want their friends to be in a relationship because that means oh well i'm i'm not going to
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be able to go out and get drunk with you as much yeah of course they're going to encourage you to
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bin off a relationship because they they don't actually care about your happiness they care about
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what you mean in relation to them yeah so yeah i think that's a really important point jealousy
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exactly well they they want it they pretend they don't want it that's it they want it because they know
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they can see how happy you are and they don't seem to understand that because maybe they've never
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had that before yeah so they try and discourage you from um pursuing something meaningful yeah um
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and they try and make you trade it for something which is you know less meaningful definitely because
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they know that they can't attain that for themselves but i know there's a there's a continuation from
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this interview so so let's see what else it has so in the comments we've got their relationship
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sounds like a trauma bond oh this term this time is driving me nuts i like to say that trauma bond uh
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is um the excuse that people use for being with someone who doesn't make them happy i've never heard
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so a trauma bond is this idea that uh so say you get with a gentleman and this gentleman starts breaking
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your heart maybe you unfortunately go through some kind of abuse it's not working the relationship is
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dysfunctional the idea of a trauma bond is that the reason you stay is because psychologically you're
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kind of addicted to the stress of it so it's this whole idea of like chasing the highs and lows the
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roller coaster of a relationship and how you know movies and everything will tell young girls to go after
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the toxic guy because that's where the roller coaster is yeah um yeah but you know and we've told
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kids that having a healthy relationship is boring and that it's better to have a toxic relationship because
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at least then it's thrilling but yeah i think it's just an excuse trauma bond is just a way to go
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i don't like my circumstances i'm too addicted to it to change them i actually used to believe that myself
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um but i've woken up to that as well and i now know that you can always remove yourself from
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something like if you always have that choice like you're in complete control of your actions and yeah
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yeah making excuses isn't going to get you out of anything and it's just going to make you more
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unhappy and yeah lead to bad things i don't agree with that i'm not even denying the psychology behind
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it because you know when you look at things like addiction why do people get addicted it is because
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of things like a release of oxytocin a release of dopamine and i think when you are in a toxic
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relationship that definitely can be the case that you kind of get maybe it's similar to addiction maybe
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it is an addiction but you can very you can very much get lost in the ordeal of it all you can get
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lost in the roller coaster to the good parts and you keep wanting the good parts to come and you chase the
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highs no matter how low the lows are however like you say whether or not we can always set ourselves
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free you know because some people may argue well what about crackheads and heroin addicts you know
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i just think it's better to at least perhaps it's delusional but if you can tell yourself that no
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matter what you can always change your circumstances chances are you're going to be better off in life
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because even when the odds are completely against you if you have that mindset of i can always change
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my circumstances you're going to try harder to do that so it's just a better mindset to have in general
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but yeah another comment says i saw a tick tock of a therapist who dissects how narcissistic people speak
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and how they speak on both sides so that they are never wrong right or can be caught in a lie
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i dismissed the tick tock until i saw this video she is choosing her words so very delicately so very
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delicately yeah i can kind of see that she just looks a bit psychopathic i mean i just think it's
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you're obviously chasing something if you have to constantly go on tv and talk about your relationship
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and she she just constantly seems to be slandering will like it just seems like all the time she's just
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shitting on him and sometimes she disguises it as she's trying to say oh we're like this one we're
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healing and we're working together it's like but don't act like you haven't done all of these other
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interviews previously where you've been making him look like a weak man like you've really damaged his
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reputation but it probably helps her because then she feels stronger she feels stronger you can tell
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she's very masculine like yeah the way that she presents herself the way that she speaks the way
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that she talks even you can tell that she has full control in that relationship and he's just like
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hopelessly in love with her and like trailing behind her like a little dog um and yeah sadly he hasn't
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realized that he can break himself through from that but 100 agree i do also think that because of
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marriage and like the sanctity of it i do believe that you know once you marry someone you've made
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that you stick by them yeah so i think will is keeping up with that yeah i think will is keeping
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his side of the agreement um and i i don't know if will is a religious man but maybe that comes into
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it maybe that's probably isn't i mean i don't know they're quite the opposite of religious i think they
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yeah worship something else we we've got to do an episode on that because yeah i i agree with you
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there but look something's keeping him there whether it be you know the sanctity of marriage or maybe just
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pure embarrassment something's keeping him around and i can't help but feel bad for the guy perhaps
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that's because i'm a woman so i'm empathetic and emotional about it i'm sure a lot of guys would
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sit here and say he needs to leave her um and i agree but i can't help but feel bad for him because
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he's just like you say trailing along like a a lost puppy another comment says why is she always
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speaking in riddles and avoiding the truth entanglement working hard to bring our relationship together
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divorce but not divorced i'm tired honestly she reminds me of boris we're on youtube so we'll say
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no more if you know what i mean you know what i mean i know what you mean