JustPearlyThings - October 20, 2023


Jada Smith DISRESPECTS Will Smith AGAIN


Episode Stats

Length

12 minutes

Words per Minute

188.04926

Word Count

2,311

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

3

Hate Speech Sentences

5


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 moving on so i'm sure you've heard of the whole jada smith and yeah i've heard of
00:00:06.800 things but i don't really know the full story neither do i i don't think anyone does i actually
00:00:12.800 saw a meme the other day um someone sent me a meme and it was like uh jada smith says she's
00:00:17.920 actually never met will smith um which really tickled me because uh it wouldn't surprise me if
00:00:22.480 that hit the news the next day but from what i know that whole thing happened with will smith
00:00:28.160 punched him chris rock and kind of since then i think all of this stuff has come out about their
00:00:32.800 relationship a lot of people on the internet are calling will smith a simp um it does seem like
00:00:37.680 he's really trying his best to make this relationship work and she just seems to be
00:00:42.400 this kind of tyrannical dictator that's standing above him and just keeping him very much at a
00:00:47.520 distance um but yeah we have a video of jada smith in an interview um discussing this relationship so
00:00:54.880 let's take a look if you find another great love or if will finds another great love there's no
00:01:00.560 finding another great love and i think that's the point it's like we are in a place now that we are in
00:01:06.640 a deep healing space and we are really concentrating on healing the relationship between us so it may
00:01:13.680 not be the divorce on paper there's no divorce i mean not on paper there might not be a divorce in
00:01:18.320 theory anymore yeah no we really have been working hard oh okay well i didn't know that we might i was
00:01:27.040 trying to take well i totally missed that on the hall that that's the whole thing so wait so wait just
00:01:33.120 so i'm 100 clear you were divorced not on paper but now we might be a point where we're back together
00:01:40.000 we are working very hard at bringing our relation yes bringing our relationship together back to a
00:01:48.720 marriage again back to a life partnership yes because here's the thing about tell me husband
00:01:56.320 wife marriage for me for my healing process i came into that with very specific ideas very specific ideas
00:02:05.520 that were blocks to me just seeing will as who he is yeah he can't be this perfect idealized husband
00:02:13.920 yes of course i have to be able to accept him for the human that he is he accepts me for the human
00:02:19.440 that i am and we want to love each other there okay so you might like live in the same house and have
00:02:24.560 this yeah okay oh well and those poor kids i just really want to point out how uh she's
00:02:35.280 all about her and her expectations of the marriage and it seems like she's indicating that he fell
00:02:42.960 short of her expectations um but she doesn't seem to have any concern for what his expectations were
00:02:48.800 and maybe not to be cheated on yep exactly because i heard she's been around yeah i think that's true
00:02:56.320 and it wouldn't really surprise me just going off of off of this it wouldn't surprise me she's the kind
00:03:00.240 of woman that's been around because she definitely seems like the kind of woman that is not
00:03:03.280 hair bonded to her partner so that would suggest that she's been around the block a few times
00:03:07.840 but i i really have a problem with people who air out their dirty laundry i really really don't like
00:03:13.760 it when people as i said they air out their dirty laundry they put all of their problems in the public
00:03:19.680 eye um i just think it's bad taste i think it's tacky it makes me cringe um and even if someone close
00:03:27.120 to me did it i would just have to act like i didn't see it because i'm not going to get involved in
00:03:31.920 that i'm not going to jump on the bandwagon of say a friend post something about her boyfriend
00:03:36.640 she's slagging him off or whatever i'm not going to then jump on that bandwagon and pop up and be
00:03:42.080 like i can't believe he did this because you're just fueling the fire um and really relationship
00:03:47.600 problems should be within the relationship it should be the the couple versus the problem and
00:03:53.440 especially in a marriage because you know that's the whole thing the sanctity of marriage it's
00:03:58.240 yes two people and all problems should be resolved between you two within the context of that yeah
00:04:05.840 and sometimes when you actually go to other people and go against your partner or husband in this case
00:04:11.680 it can actually have a bad effect because some people don't have your best interests at heart and
00:04:15.680 then they can advise you the wrong things and lead you to do to make bad decisions and ruin your
00:04:22.160 marriage so definitely not um the right way to go about it i mean i agree with what she's saying
00:04:27.520 about you know you can't have unrealistic expectations of your husband and you need to
00:04:32.800 love him for who he is because you know in a marriage you're both sinners you're both you're not
00:04:37.200 perfect no one's perfect we're all imperfect so you have to accept that but you know she hasn't actually
00:04:43.600 treated her marriage with that with that same attitude because yeah if you believe that you shouldn't
00:04:48.400 be cheating on your partner i don't understand that like a marriage isn't for that yeah i mean i think
00:04:53.520 it's all very hypocritical and i think it's really important what you said you know when you take
00:04:57.680 problems outside of the relationship you you're really running a real risk because the truth is not
00:05:01.840 everyone does have your best interests at heart and i think especially with the fact that what we're
00:05:06.000 seeing is the half of this relationship that is outsourcing the problems is is the female half and i
00:05:11.680 think it's especially dangerous in this day and age when women go to their friends about
00:05:16.800 relationship problems because the truth is we've we've seen already with the other topics on on
00:05:22.480 today's agenda you know a lot of women out there are messed up right now they've been fed so much
00:05:27.760 by the mainstream media by social media and even with the way that we're raising kids today a lot of
00:05:33.840 women actually don't like it when their friend is in a relationship especially if they're part of
00:05:39.040 today's culture of things like going out clubbing and everything's for the instagram pictures they
00:05:44.080 don't want their friends to be in a relationship because that means oh well i'm i'm not going to
00:05:49.760 be able to go out and get drunk with you as much yeah of course they're going to encourage you to
00:05:55.040 bin off a relationship because they they don't actually care about your happiness they care about
00:06:00.640 what you mean in relation to them yeah so yeah i think that's a really important point jealousy
00:06:05.840 exactly well they they want it they pretend they don't want it that's it they want it because they know
00:06:11.200 they can see how happy you are and they don't seem to understand that because maybe they've never
00:06:15.440 had that before yeah so they try and discourage you from um pursuing something meaningful yeah um
00:06:22.480 and they try and make you trade it for something which is you know less meaningful definitely because
00:06:28.080 they know that they can't attain that for themselves but i know there's a there's a continuation from
00:06:33.840 this interview so so let's see what else it has so in the comments we've got their relationship
00:06:38.400 sounds like a trauma bond oh this term this time is driving me nuts i like to say that trauma bond uh
00:06:47.040 is um the excuse that people use for being with someone who doesn't make them happy i've never heard
00:06:55.840 so a trauma bond is this idea that uh so say you get with a gentleman and this gentleman starts breaking
00:07:05.440 your heart maybe you unfortunately go through some kind of abuse it's not working the relationship is
00:07:11.200 dysfunctional the idea of a trauma bond is that the reason you stay is because psychologically you're
00:07:18.400 kind of addicted to the stress of it so it's this whole idea of like chasing the highs and lows the
00:07:24.000 roller coaster of a relationship and how you know movies and everything will tell young girls to go after
00:07:28.720 the toxic guy because that's where the roller coaster is yeah um yeah but you know and we've told
00:07:34.880 kids that having a healthy relationship is boring and that it's better to have a toxic relationship because
00:07:40.160 at least then it's thrilling but yeah i think it's just an excuse trauma bond is just a way to go
00:07:45.840 i don't like my circumstances i'm too addicted to it to change them i actually used to believe that myself
00:07:52.000 um but i've woken up to that as well and i now know that you can always remove yourself from
00:08:00.080 something like if you always have that choice like you're in complete control of your actions and yeah
00:08:05.280 yeah making excuses isn't going to get you out of anything and it's just going to make you more
00:08:09.840 unhappy and yeah lead to bad things i don't agree with that i'm not even denying the psychology behind
00:08:17.040 it because you know when you look at things like addiction why do people get addicted it is because
00:08:22.480 of things like a release of oxytocin a release of dopamine and i think when you are in a toxic
00:08:27.440 relationship that definitely can be the case that you kind of get maybe it's similar to addiction maybe
00:08:33.360 it is an addiction but you can very you can very much get lost in the ordeal of it all you can get
00:08:39.840 lost in the roller coaster to the good parts and you keep wanting the good parts to come and you chase the
00:08:45.440 highs no matter how low the lows are however like you say whether or not we can always set ourselves
00:08:55.600 free you know because some people may argue well what about crackheads and heroin addicts you know
00:09:01.760 i just think it's better to at least perhaps it's delusional but if you can tell yourself that no
00:09:07.760 matter what you can always change your circumstances chances are you're going to be better off in life
00:09:12.240 because even when the odds are completely against you if you have that mindset of i can always change
00:09:16.880 my circumstances you're going to try harder to do that so it's just a better mindset to have in general
00:09:23.600 but yeah another comment says i saw a tick tock of a therapist who dissects how narcissistic people speak
00:09:28.960 and how they speak on both sides so that they are never wrong right or can be caught in a lie
00:09:37.040 i dismissed the tick tock until i saw this video she is choosing her words so very delicately so very
00:09:44.960 delicately yeah i can kind of see that she just looks a bit psychopathic i mean i just think it's
00:09:52.240 you're obviously chasing something if you have to constantly go on tv and talk about your relationship
00:09:58.720 and she she just constantly seems to be slandering will like it just seems like all the time she's just
00:10:04.640 shitting on him and sometimes she disguises it as she's trying to say oh we're like this one we're
00:10:11.040 healing and we're working together it's like but don't act like you haven't done all of these other
00:10:16.000 interviews previously where you've been making him look like a weak man like you've really damaged his
00:10:22.000 reputation but it probably helps her because then she feels stronger she feels stronger you can tell
00:10:27.600 she's very masculine like yeah the way that she presents herself the way that she speaks the way
00:10:32.560 that she talks even you can tell that she has full control in that relationship and he's just like
00:10:38.320 hopelessly in love with her and like trailing behind her like a little dog um and yeah sadly he hasn't
00:10:46.480 realized that he can break himself through from that but 100 agree i do also think that because of
00:10:52.160 marriage and like the sanctity of it i do believe that you know once you marry someone you've made
00:10:58.160 that you stick by them yeah so i think will is keeping up with that yeah i think will is keeping
00:11:03.840 his side of the agreement um and i i don't know if will is a religious man but maybe that comes into
00:11:10.080 it maybe that's probably isn't i mean i don't know they're quite the opposite of religious i think they
00:11:15.440 yeah worship something else we we've got to do an episode on that because yeah i i agree with you
00:11:28.880 there but look something's keeping him there whether it be you know the sanctity of marriage or maybe just
00:11:36.000 pure embarrassment something's keeping him around and i can't help but feel bad for the guy perhaps
00:11:40.720 that's because i'm a woman so i'm empathetic and emotional about it i'm sure a lot of guys would
00:11:46.320 sit here and say he needs to leave her um and i agree but i can't help but feel bad for him because
00:11:51.920 he's just like you say trailing along like a a lost puppy another comment says why is she always
00:11:58.000 speaking in riddles and avoiding the truth entanglement working hard to bring our relationship together
00:12:03.360 divorce but not divorced i'm tired honestly she reminds me of boris we're on youtube so we'll say
00:12:12.640 no more if you know what i mean you know what i mean i know what you mean