@JWALLER Advice To 21 Year Old Women
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about when do you want to be married, how many kids you want, and how old should you be when you have your first kid. Do you want kids by 21, 25, 30, or 35?
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Marriage in the traditional sense is not really something that bothers me.
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Oh, you want to do the two houses thing, don't you?
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I'd rather have a partnership and I'd rather have a man present in my life,
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but it doesn't have to be overarching and overwhelming
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with the way that people are making it seem nowadays.
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I think that for me to be able to actually take a man very seriously,
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he has to be a man that can actually bring something new to my life,
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you know, with somebody that I can look up to and I can be like,
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Okay, Denalva, I need you to answer the question.
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Marriage is not really what my relationship is.
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Okay, so you don't care about being married on paper,
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In the world of today, I think it's safer to have two.
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Since it's just been about like a year since I've rebuilt my life,
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I'd say maybe like I'll probably pick my husband in about six months.
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Okay, so in the next six months, you're going to find a husband.
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Okay, and so then you're going to, or not, sorry, not get married, be in a relationship.
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I mean, I don't really go into people, to meet people superficially.
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So wait, wait, I'm just giving the introduction.
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No, it just maybe like, it depends on how the relationship is going to be within months.
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No, no, essentially, I'm not going to say I want to have a kid by 31.
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And actually, just being 30 doesn't mean you don't have eggs.
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Especially for me to look for a husband in six months.
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I would like to have my first kid when me and my husband have established that we are ready to do it together.
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Talking out of both sides of the mouth once again.
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Once me and my partner, my hubby, yeah, which not on paper but in life, once me and him establish that we can get on, then we are ready for the thing.
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I'm not going to say I want these kids when he's not ready.
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Okay, so you're going to have the kids when he's ready?
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And then children I want as soon as possible once I'm married.
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I think I've got a major problem because I'm finding it very difficult to find the right person.
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And I don't know if I'm the problem or if it's the men.
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I feel like as if I've gone too far down the career route.
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And then for me to go out there and try to find a man who's able to beat that.
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I do know why because we're surrounded by very weak men, unfortunately.
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It will have to be in like the 40, 45, 48,000 kind of mark.
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Okay, so that's like in U.S. dollars, that's like 55, 60.
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What are the best places for women to find husbands?
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A lot of people Instagram, but I think like you should go put yourself in situations where
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I think the farmer's market, go grocery shopping.
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I think the church, you should go find a guy there.
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A picnic, like a little park, you know, just go to cute places.
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I met a lot of great couples recently in Japan.
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You know, I think that if you are in your feminine nature and you are doing things that
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I hear a lot of females say there's a whole lot of accounts on TikTok that base their content
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off of how to find a successful rich man or how to do this or how to do that.
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And they usually say, they usually target Mayfair, Knightsbridge, go to this bar, go to this club.
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Immediately, you put yourself in the scenario that guys at that level are not looking for.
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Being in your feminine energy, wherever you go, you're going to more likely attract a better
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quality of man because the problem with Mayfair and, you know, Kensington and Knightsbridge
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and these places is you're going to meet a lot of guys who just want to have one night
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stands, but equally, you're going to meet them online as well.
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So it's really about the energy that you put out in terms of what you attract.
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But I think as well, going to some more like chilled out places, going to Borough Market,
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like you said, go to Whole Foods, you know, those kind of places, more likely to meet
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somebody who's a bit more authentic than maybe the more superficial, glamorous.
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Although as long as you don't start filming him and putting it on TikTok.
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It's hard because it depends on what you mean, how you define the man, right?
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So I don't think you're going to find a one percenter in there, but at the same time,
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So I think Sneeko's dead on with the online thing.
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And then it comes down to filtering and asking the right questions, but being respectful inside
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those questions, you know, say, and just be hat in hand, honest, like, look, man, I'm looking
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for this kind of guy, you know, and 50, 60 grand.
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In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if you got a bunch of messages after this show because
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And I think you could, I think, I think you could get higher.
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But, um, you know, also you have to understand that guys that are pretty well to do have
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If I was a girl, I'd be playing golf like a motherfucker.
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Even if you're trash, even if you're trash, you know, so it's like those types of things,
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you know, where, where do, where do guys like that meet up?
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Because you don't want to meet somebody you're going to be with forever in a bar.
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Because the first question you're going to get asked is you have to carry that around
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So I, I would try not to meet a person in the club, honestly.
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So when you say the best place to meet someone is online, how do you portray yourself in
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Ideally, if you want to be wife material, I would make it be known that you had curves
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You know, the woman that's like very clearly built well, but is not showing it, but she's
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And it'll drive men wild because now if you go online and you look at a girl's account
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and first of all, she's got the cleavage everywhere.
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But if you just scroll down a little bit, you can see exactly what her nipples look like.
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Because a man gets a lot of value from other men out of how classy and how beautiful this
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And if she's out there promoting it to the world, number one, that's marketing.
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And then number two, everybody in that group is going to look down upon that man because
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the woman is out there marketing and they've all seen everything he's got.
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So the sacredness, which is one of the most beautiful things I believe that a woman has,
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So I think it's very important to compete because you are competing against BBLs and
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But even if you get a boob job, there's a way to show that you have big poops and a busty
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figure and you're in good shape without actually showing it, if that makes sense.
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What do you think about women that get plastic surgery to attract men?
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If I was a woman, I would have fake boobs for sure.
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If I didn't have, you know, you understand what I'm saying?
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And I'd also be in the squat rack and I'd also be doing all the things that it took to
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The attractive things about a woman, like as far as bust and shape and all those things,
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And although it sounds shallow, it's the basis of the relationship is attraction.
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So if you can be attracted to somebody and then be, and then another thing, I would be
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at least well-read, understand politics, have a strong opinion because you're going to want
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Cause I do, there is nothing more attractive for me than a woman that is based.
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If a woman is based, like we'll have a strong opinion about the right things.
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Like, I mean, I mean, obviously feminists, right.
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Most, most successful men are based in pretty much conservative.
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And then if you get a lefty that's successful, he's probably going to be kind of simply, you're
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probably going to sacrifice some masculinity there, you know?
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So for me, the right hobbies, I like the, I like the whole foods thing, but online and
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then make sure you're the kind of class that a man says, okay, I can take her and like
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turn her and build her and keep developing her.
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Men often pick the wrong cloth as do women, but having a, being the right cloth from the
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jump, you're giving that man a canvas to turn you into a queen.
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