@JWALLER And Pearl Called Them Out On Their BS
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Summary
In this episode, the boys discuss the importance of mental health and how to deal with it in today's society. They discuss the difference between happiness and fulfilment, and how important it is to have a good relationship with your mental health.
Transcript
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I'm like, the, you know, the currency of the realm.
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I knew someone that was super depressed, but he was like 300 pounds.
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I'd go cry in her shower if I couldn't see my dick.
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Imagine like, you're rich, you've got like good money, good friends, good family.
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People think, oh, if you just give men things, that they should be happy.
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I think people miss the fact that a lot of mental health and mental fortitude and self-esteem
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So when you take that away from people, especially, you see this in affluent kids.
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When you take that away from people, what do you have?
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I wouldn't even describe it as low IQ because I think it's how we're raising people now.
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I think it was, I grew up in a village in Nigeria.
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So I come from a place where like silence was my base.
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In London, growing up here, you don't have silence.
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And from age eight, you're completely exposed to this internet with polarizing views and
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It's how do you expect a young person to navigate that and actually form coherent, rational opinions?
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I feel like London itself is different from the rest of the world.
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And labeling things is also at an all-time high because everybody wants to go on TikTok
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and have their TikTok and talk about, right, I've got this, I've got that, I've got this thing.
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So I think there's almost like a competition for it now.
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Yeah, and I'll tell you what I'd add to what they both said.
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Got great style, great life, great friends, travels, and ask him if he's fucking sad.
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I think happiness and joy is like two complete different things.
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I feel like happiness is like a fleeting feeling that you will feel when you're doing all these things.
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But you know you have true joy when obstacles can come your way and you don't travel no more.
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You're maybe not having sex with all these people, but you still feel this peace within you.
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And that's the difference between that joy and happiness.
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I think especially in today's day and age, we need to walk a bit more in our ignorance.
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We have a problem doing that with accepting that.
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I think a lot of people are walking in their ignorance, to be fair.
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If you really want to learn and you really want to grow cheating.
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I was going to say, says the woman with a high value male.
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Fulfillment and happiness are completely two different things, I think.
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I mean, happiness is a temporary mental state, right?
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I want to get through the rest of the panel because I think the original question was,
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To be honest, I feel like because he, for example, the footballer situation,
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if you're going to go into a marriage, you shouldn't be having to cheat.
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So, then I would leave because I'm expecting a man to be with me.
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Because you cheated on me and that's not what I wanted from you.
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Like, regardless of what you've done or whether you're going to do it or whatever it is, if
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you have those thoughts, you're not happy with me, so.
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I would bet every dollar in my bank account that neither one of you would leave Drake.
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No, but that's just, like, degrading myself because why am I letting a man cheat on me?
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Yeah, while you're flexing on all your girlfriends, going on, living in a mansion, living in a great shelter?
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No, it's not about that because if my girls had happy relationships, completely living
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normal lives, and I was seeing Drake, they'd say, Ru, yeah, you're living this mad life,
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I like how you let your friends define your relationship with your man instead of thinking
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No, as an example, you literally just said, I would disregard how I feel and take in consideration
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It matters how you feel about the situation, not your dumb ass friends.
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Everybody here said they were in a situationship before.
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It's interesting because in this case, you get more.
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And he does the same thing that the guys you have seen before have done.
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Like, just because you've done something before doesn't mean that you're not going to do it.
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Your past counts with a man, I'll tell you that.
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No, but I mean, if it's something that you say you don't want to do, like, you don't
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No, but I mean, like, your past doesn't define you in the point of...
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No, but I mean, like, in the point of, you just said, oh, you've all been in a situationship.
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So, like, why wouldn't you be in a situationship with someone that, you know, is giving you
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Like, it's cap because everyone here has done it.
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Yeah, but then you wouldn't be looking for love in that situation.
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So, I'm saying, I'm saying in a situationship, you guys got less out of it because I'm sure
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in a situationship, you're usually not being taken on crazy dates.
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Like, the same reason of a man cheating on you.
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So, I know a boy and a girl that are in a relationship, but he actively cheats on her and he tells her
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She can't come to me and cry about the situation because she accepts it.
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But if she didn't choose that lifestyle, she wouldn't be with him.
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You don't think it's a choice by dating a footballer?
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In the question, I'm saying, was she wrong to leave or should she have stayed?
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And I'm saying she picked that lifestyle by picking a guy that is going to cheat more
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Yeah, well, at the end of the day, as you said, maybe all ballers and all rappers and all these
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people, maybe they might not cheat, but that's a maybe.
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So, what about them individuals that don't cheat that are rappers or things?
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You still have to get to know people as they are.
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It's like, you're looking for a lottery ticket that doesn't exist because it's not you.
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Like, the majority of you, it's not going to be you.
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You're not like the magical woman that's going to change this guy that has always cheated.
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How come, like, what makes, like, I know some of our opinions differ, but like, how come
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Why do I think that cheating is natural to men?
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Because 8,000 years ago, 17 women reproduced for every one man.
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So, I think it's actually really common for them and natural for them to be non-monogamous.
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I'm not saying that every guy is going to cheat on you.
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But what I do believe is that women go after the men that will cheat and then they cry about
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Like, if you're going after the top 20% of men, if you're going after basketball players,
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entertainers, rappers, and you're going to cry later that you got cheated on.
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It's like these men have worked their whole lives to get to a certain point.
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And now you walk in and say, oh, be faithful to me.
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Again, it's the problem of looking at it in a Disney-fied way as opposed to looking at
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it in this sort of more harsh Darwinian sort of economic marketplace kind of a way, which
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is what it really is, where the people who are at the top who have the more opportunities
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You know, these high-value dudes are going to act on the opportunities that they have because
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Not every guy has the opportunity to do so, but those at the top absolutely do.
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And they're going to utilize that for the most part.
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Any girl would take the opportunity to be of a guy like that for the most part.
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And another thing that happens, because I see this quite a bit myself in my inbox,
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is the average guy that's coming home every night, when he gets cheated on, he gets cheated
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And he's sitting there being loyal and being a good man, et cetera.
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And if he bites, and she's foolish enough to believe it'll be anything more than just
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sex, then she'll probably just do the sex and, at the same time, she would leave him
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And I'm not saying I like it, but it's absolutely true.
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It's the huge majority, but it's not the whole of females, the whole of males.
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I'm just saying when that guy gets cheated on by, because women cheat too, yeah.
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And when they do, they're generally not going downstream to do it.
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They're going at least across, but mostly they're going up.
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That's why when he says Darwinistic, it's very Darwinistic in that way.
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But it's an important message, because nowadays people idolize celebrities in such a way that
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I think a lot of women don't think about stuff like this.
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You think they're thinking for love when you're going for a man like that?
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Like, a lot of, I feel like the woman is not thinking, oh, like, this man's going to love
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I'm using rappers, athletes, and ballers as an example, but I see it with girls going
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after the same guys at school, or girls going after the same, like, it doesn't necessarily
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mean they have to be famous, but I see girls date the same guys or go after the same guys
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all the time and then cry and whine when they cheat, when it's like, you're getting the
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And my issue is not, it's one, we're trying to make men into something they're not.
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When at the end of the day, most men, if they had women pursuing them, like, the top
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So, these are, like, there's, um, athletes have girls on the side that will, like, the
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most beautiful women you've ever seen, nines and tens, begging them to have threesomes.
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You don't think any man, like, in 20 years, a man is going to turn that down, or is going
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to turn that down every, even a good godly man.
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Like, even a, nah, nah, he ain't a good godly man.
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Even a man that is godly, like, he's still a man.
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And so, my issue is when we go after these men that all the women want, and then we're shocked
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when they cheat, when it's like, okay, well, why don't you go lower?
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That's why, that's why I think, that's why I think.
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I was just banned on TikTok, and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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