JustPearlyThings - April 19, 2023


@JWALLER And Pearl Called Them Out On Their BS


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12 minutes

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2,759

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258

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In this episode, the boys discuss the importance of mental health and how to deal with it in today's society. They discuss the difference between happiness and fulfilment, and how important it is to have a good relationship with your mental health.

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00:00:00.000 I'm like, the, you know, the currency of the realm.
00:00:03.500 I knew someone that was super depressed, but he was like 300 pounds.
00:00:07.620 I'm like, what do you expect?
00:00:08.700 What do you expect?
00:00:09.220 Right, you can't see your dick.
00:00:10.460 I'd be a depressed too, bro.
00:00:11.920 I'd go cry in her shower if I couldn't see my dick. 1.00
00:00:15.240 All of that to the side.
00:00:17.740 Imagine like, you're rich, you've got like good money, good friends, good family.
00:00:22.240 But in the side, like, you're just happy.
00:00:25.480 You portray your happiness.
00:00:26.800 You're like, you're genuinely happy.
00:00:27.720 But just within yourself, you're sad.
00:00:30.140 Like, would you believe that's mental health?
00:00:32.340 No.
00:00:32.780 Or no?
00:00:33.180 No.
00:00:33.740 So what would you call that?
00:00:34.620 A lack of character building exercises.
00:00:36.600 You've been defeated by your comfort.
00:00:38.840 I would challenge you.
00:00:40.180 I think that's what happens a lot.
00:00:41.540 People think, oh, if you just give men things, that they should be happy.
00:00:44.540 It's not about giving men things. 0.98
00:00:45.860 It's about feeling happy within yourself.
00:00:47.600 Okay, I get what you're saying though.
00:00:49.400 I'm going to land.
00:00:50.340 I think people miss the fact that a lot of mental health and mental fortitude and self-esteem
00:00:55.440 comes from challenges.
00:00:56.220 It comes from overcoming.
00:00:57.720 So when you take that away from people, especially, you see this in affluent kids.
00:01:00.820 When you take that away from people, what do you have?
00:01:02.640 Literally a kid with money.
00:01:03.900 And no purpose.
00:01:04.900 Yeah, no purpose.
00:01:05.760 No goal.
00:01:06.200 So I agree with him on IQ.
00:01:07.720 I wouldn't even describe it as low IQ because I think it's how we're raising people now.
00:01:11.300 I think it was, I grew up in a village in Nigeria.
00:01:13.480 So I come from a place where like silence was my base.
00:01:16.640 In London, growing up here, you don't have silence.
00:01:18.640 You have a phone from age eight.
00:01:19.960 And from age eight, you're completely exposed to this internet with polarizing views and
00:01:25.280 X, Y, Z.
00:01:26.080 It's how do you expect a young person to navigate that and actually form coherent, rational opinions?
00:01:30.580 I feel like London itself is different from the rest of the world.
00:01:32.640 Well, victimhood's at an all-time high.
00:01:35.060 Victimhood's at an all-time high.
00:01:36.140 And labeling things is also at an all-time high because everybody wants to go on TikTok
00:01:40.540 and have their TikTok and talk about, right, I've got this, I've got that, I've got this thing.
00:01:45.360 And, you know, you need to have a label.
00:01:46.800 It's like, right, what's the next thing?
00:01:48.380 So I think there's almost like a competition for it now.
00:01:50.960 Yeah, and I'll tell you what I'd add to what they both said.
00:01:52.920 I challenge you to do this.
00:01:54.340 Go find a man that makes a bunch of money.
00:01:57.180 He's in jam-up shape.
00:01:58.820 Got great style, great life, great friends, travels, and ask him if he's fucking sad. 0.89
00:02:03.760 Find one.
00:02:06.500 I'll find one.
00:02:07.260 But do you know what's funny?
00:02:07.880 I think happiness and joy is like two complete different things.
00:02:11.060 I feel like happiness is like a fleeting feeling that you will feel when you're doing all these things.
00:02:17.360 But you know you have true joy when obstacles can come your way and you don't travel no more.
00:02:22.400 You're maybe not having sex with all these people, but you still feel this peace within you.
00:02:27.640 And that's the difference between that joy and happiness.
00:02:30.080 So, yeah.
00:02:31.180 I think generally we need to.
00:02:33.280 I don't know.
00:02:33.960 I think especially in today's day and age, we need to walk a bit more in our ignorance.
00:02:38.380 We have a problem doing that with accepting that.
00:02:40.980 You know what?
00:02:41.640 Especially at my age.
00:02:42.600 I think a lot of people are walking in their ignorance, to be fair.
00:02:47.360 Ignorance is bliss.
00:02:48.700 If you really want to learn and you really want to grow cheating.
00:02:51.680 I was going to say, says the woman with a high value male.
00:02:57.780 There's fulfillment and happiness.
00:02:59.880 Two different things.
00:03:00.980 Fulfillment and happiness are completely two different things, I think.
00:03:04.200 Fulfillment and happiness.
00:03:05.420 Yeah.
00:03:05.620 Yeah.
00:03:06.160 I mean, happiness is a temporary mental state, right?
00:03:08.300 Fulfillment is a bit more stable.
00:03:10.080 More like joy.
00:03:10.980 I want to get through the rest of the panel because I think the original question was,
00:03:15.580 should the girl have stayed? 0.97
00:03:17.480 Oh, yes!
00:03:18.300 That was my joke.
00:03:19.540 So, I want to get you two.
00:03:20.920 I think you guys both said leave.
00:03:22.360 Yeah, we said leave.
00:03:23.180 Did you say leave?
00:03:24.460 No, I will stay.
00:03:25.800 I'm being treated with honestly.
00:03:30.360 I'm honest to you.
00:03:31.480 You're honest to me.
00:03:32.140 Okay.
00:03:32.760 Let's do something else.
00:03:33.980 You'll stay.
00:03:34.520 Okay.
00:03:34.740 Okay.
00:03:35.620 Me?
00:03:36.540 No, she's next and then you.
00:03:39.940 To be honest, I feel like because he, for example, the footballer situation,
00:03:46.480 if you're going to go into a marriage, you shouldn't be having to cheat.
00:03:52.260 So, then I would leave because I'm expecting a man to be with me. 1.00
00:03:56.500 Even if he's the footballer?
00:03:58.580 What if he told you up front?
00:04:00.880 If he told me up front, like, I'm cheating.
00:04:03.700 Yeah, I'm still going.
00:04:05.140 Okay.
00:04:05.460 Because you cheated on me and that's not what I wanted from you. 0.98
00:04:08.180 Is it cheating if he tells you?
00:04:10.240 Yeah.
00:04:10.740 Cheating is the act.
00:04:11.520 Cheating is the act.
00:04:12.020 Yeah.
00:04:13.100 Cheating is the deceit.
00:04:14.300 Bullshit.
00:04:14.780 Cheating is the deceit.
00:04:15.840 He's going to be having your mouth. 0.99
00:04:17.100 No.
00:04:17.620 Who said that?
00:04:18.600 You're still cheating.
00:04:20.120 Like, regardless of what you've done or whether you're going to do it or whatever it is, if
00:04:24.100 you have those thoughts, you're not happy with me, so.
00:04:26.700 Well, every man's got those thoughts.
00:04:28.920 I would bet every dollar in my bank account that neither one of you would leave Drake.
00:04:32.580 I'm leaving Drake.
00:04:34.900 You're both full of shit.
00:04:35.740 I'm leaving Drake.
00:04:36.000 No, but that's just, like, degrading myself because why am I letting a man cheat on me?
00:04:41.240 Yeah, while you're flexing on all your girlfriends, going on, living in a mansion, living in a great shelter?
00:04:45.040 Oh, I would rather be happy by myself.
00:04:47.680 No, it's not about that because if my girls had happy relationships, completely living 0.97
00:04:53.060 normal lives, and I was seeing Drake, they'd say, Ru, yeah, you're living this mad life,
00:04:59.300 but he's cheating on you.
00:05:00.360 He don't love you.
00:05:01.160 It's not real.
00:05:02.200 It's not real.
00:05:03.120 Well, that's why women keep women saying... 1.00
00:05:04.600 I like how she'll...
00:05:05.640 I'm sorry.
00:05:06.160 I don't mean to cut you off.
00:05:06.580 That's okay.
00:05:07.080 Go ahead.
00:05:07.140 I like how you let your friends define your relationship with your man instead of thinking
00:05:10.800 for yourself.
00:05:11.080 No, not even.
00:05:11.720 No, that's what you just said.
00:05:12.760 It's literally what you just said.
00:05:14.280 No, I'm just saying like as an example.
00:05:15.120 It's literally what you just did.
00:05:16.260 No, I'm just saying as an example.
00:05:17.800 No, as an example, you literally just said, I would disregard how I feel and take in consideration
00:05:24.080 my friend's opinion.
00:05:25.120 But is that not true?
00:05:25.660 And I'm dating Drake.
00:05:26.900 Is that not true?
00:05:27.620 It is not true.
00:05:28.000 It doesn't matter who I'm dating.
00:05:29.140 It doesn't matter.
00:05:29.660 It does matter.
00:05:30.380 It matters how you feel about the situation, not your dumb ass friends.
00:05:33.240 No, but I would feel the complete...
00:05:33.580 We're going to get divorced in three years.
00:05:35.260 I would feel the complete...
00:05:36.440 Yeah, but I would feel the complete same.
00:05:38.420 I'd be betraying myself to say...
00:05:40.340 You know what's interesting?
00:05:41.740 Everybody here said they were in a situationship before.
00:05:44.100 So, you've done it.
00:05:45.100 It's interesting because in this case, you get more.
00:05:48.080 So, you get everything paid for, okay?
00:05:52.000 And you're married to him.
00:05:56.380 And he does the same thing that the guys you have seen before have done.
00:06:00.940 Yeah, but your past doesn't define you.
00:06:02.460 Like, just because you've done something before doesn't mean that you're not going to do it.
00:06:06.240 Your past counts with a man, I'll tell you that. 0.99
00:06:09.000 The past tends to repeat itself.
00:06:11.640 No, but I mean, if it's something that you say you don't want to do, like, you don't
00:06:14.420 have to do it anymore.
00:06:15.560 You're the...
00:06:16.120 You decide.
00:06:16.980 Yeah, but men don't forgive you for your past.
00:06:19.200 Of course not.
00:06:20.180 Yeah, of course not.
00:06:21.560 No, but I mean, like, your past doesn't define you in the point of...
00:06:24.560 No, but I mean, like, in the point of, you just said, oh, you've all been in a situationship.
00:06:30.540 So, like, why wouldn't you be in a situationship with someone that, you know, is giving you
00:06:35.120 more money?
00:06:35.560 No, my point is, it's cap.
00:06:37.500 Like, it's cap because everyone here has done it.
00:06:39.520 That's why I don't believe it.
00:06:40.320 Yeah, but then you wouldn't be looking for love in that situation.
00:06:42.600 So, I'm saying, I'm saying in a situationship, you guys got less out of it because I'm sure
00:06:47.600 in a situationship, you're usually not being taken on crazy dates.
00:06:51.360 You're not...
00:06:51.780 But then you learn from it.
00:06:52.940 So, you choose whether you accept it.
00:06:54.540 That's why I mean, by your positive...
00:06:55.420 Like, the same reason of a man cheating on you.
00:06:57.800 So, I know a boy and a girl that are in a relationship, but he actively cheats on her and he tells her
00:07:06.200 this is what's happening.
00:07:08.700 She chooses to accept it and move on.
00:07:11.820 At the end of the day, that's her choice.
00:07:13.640 She can't come to me and cry about the situation because she accepts it.
00:07:18.820 You'll choose him.
00:07:19.220 She chooses it.
00:07:19.860 She chooses that lifestyle.
00:07:21.400 But if she didn't choose that lifestyle, she wouldn't be with him.
00:07:24.520 You don't think it's a choice by dating a footballer?
00:07:27.040 Yeah, it is a choice.
00:07:27.800 So, that was my point.
00:07:29.040 When the question...
00:07:29.620 I agree with the choice.
00:07:30.920 In the question, I'm saying, was she wrong to leave or should she have stayed?
00:07:34.720 And I'm saying she picked that lifestyle by picking a guy that is going to cheat more 1.00
00:07:38.560 than likely.
00:07:38.900 Yeah, well, at the end of the day, as you said, maybe all ballers and all rappers and all these
00:07:43.040 people, maybe they might not cheat, but that's a maybe.
00:07:45.940 The majority of them do cheat and do this.
00:07:48.700 So, what about them individuals that don't cheat that are rappers or things?
00:07:52.000 You still have to get to know people as they are.
00:07:53.560 Right, but it's like, this is what women do. 1.00
00:07:55.620 It's like, you're looking for a lottery ticket that doesn't exist because it's not you.
00:07:59.280 Like, the majority of you, it's not going to be you.
00:08:01.800 You're not like the magical woman that's going to change this guy that has always cheated.
00:08:05.960 I don't believe that is change men.
00:08:07.100 What if Chief Keef doesn't cheat on me?
00:08:10.680 What if I'm the one who he keeps for life?
00:08:12.560 I'm going to change Drake.
00:08:15.780 How come, like, what makes, like, I know some of our opinions differ, but like, how come
00:08:22.620 you think like this?
00:08:24.180 Like, what?
00:08:25.620 Yeah.
00:08:26.080 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:26.600 Like, why do you think like that?
00:08:28.640 Why do I think that cheating is natural to men?
00:08:30.780 Because 8,000 years ago, 17 women reproduced for every one man. 0.91
00:08:34.980 So, I think it's actually really common for them and natural for them to be non-monogamous.
00:08:38.780 I'm not saying that every guy is going to cheat on you.
00:08:42.080 I don't believe that.
00:08:43.120 But what I do believe is that women go after the men that will cheat and then they cry about 1.00
00:08:47.640 it later.
00:08:49.260 And I just don't have a lot of sympathy.
00:08:50.580 Like, if you're going after the top 20% of men, if you're going after basketball players,
00:08:55.480 entertainers, rappers, and you're going to cry later that you got cheated on.
00:09:00.020 I got no...
00:09:00.420 You can't be surprised.
00:09:00.960 Yeah.
00:09:01.400 Or even the top 5% of men.
00:09:03.840 It's like these men have worked their whole lives to get to a certain point.
00:09:06.380 You weren't with them when they were broke.
00:09:08.180 And now you walk in and say, oh, be faithful to me.
00:09:10.840 Why would he?
00:09:11.700 Again, it's the problem of looking at it in a Disney-fied way as opposed to looking at
00:09:16.540 it in this sort of more harsh Darwinian sort of economic marketplace kind of a way, which
00:09:22.060 is what it really is, where the people who are at the top who have the more opportunities
00:09:25.460 are going to act on those opportunities.
00:09:27.760 You know, these high-value dudes are going to act on the opportunities that they have because
00:09:31.060 any guy would.
00:09:32.500 And this is what we're saying.
00:09:33.540 Every guy would want to act out in that way.
00:09:36.100 Not every guy has the opportunity to do so, but those at the top absolutely do.
00:09:39.500 And they're going to utilize that for the most part.
00:09:41.660 And I'll tell you another thing.
00:09:42.600 Any girl would take the opportunity to be of a guy like that for the most part.
00:09:44.900 Exactly.
00:09:45.820 Exactly.
00:09:46.140 Exactly.
00:09:46.700 And another thing that happens, because I see this quite a bit myself in my inbox,
00:09:50.200 is the average guy that's coming home every night, when he gets cheated on, he gets cheated
00:09:57.680 on with a guy that's that other dude.
00:10:01.120 And he's sitting there being loyal and being a good man, et cetera.
00:10:04.280 Yeah.
00:10:04.780 And she's sliding in some footballer's inbox.
00:10:08.540 Yeah.
00:10:08.800 And if he bites, and she's foolish enough to believe it'll be anything more than just
00:10:12.740 sex, then she'll probably just do the sex and, at the same time, she would leave him 1.00
00:10:19.060 for that footballer.
00:10:20.120 Yeah.
00:10:20.920 It's ugly.
00:10:21.780 It is ugly.
00:10:22.840 And I'm not saying I like it, but it's absolutely true.
00:10:25.120 It's the huge majority, but it's not the whole of females, the whole of males.
00:10:28.640 Look, I'm not shitting on women.
00:10:29.740 I'm just saying when that guy gets cheated on by, because women cheat too, yeah. 1.00
00:10:32.660 Yeah, of course.
00:10:33.200 And when they do, they're generally not going downstream to do it.
00:10:36.580 They're going at least across, but mostly they're going up.
00:10:40.520 Yeah.
00:10:41.120 So, I mean, it is the harsh reality.
00:10:43.640 That's why when he says Darwinistic, it's very Darwinistic in that way.
00:10:47.560 Yeah.
00:10:48.060 But it's an important message, because nowadays people idolize celebrities in such a way that
00:10:53.300 I think a lot of women don't think about stuff like this. 1.00
00:10:56.320 Really?
00:10:57.000 Like, if I'm just hearing you talk right now.
00:10:59.460 You think they're thinking for love when you're going for a man like that?
00:11:02.220 Like, a lot of, I feel like the woman is not thinking, oh, like, this man's going to love
00:11:07.800 me like I need to be loved.
00:11:09.060 I think she's thinking I want money.
00:11:10.580 You'd be surprised.
00:11:11.580 I'm using rappers, athletes, and ballers as an example, but I see it with girls going 1.00
00:11:17.180 after the same guys at school, or girls going after the same, like, it doesn't necessarily
00:11:22.000 mean they have to be famous, but I see girls date the same guys or go after the same guys 0.98
00:11:26.600 all the time and then cry and whine when they cheat, when it's like, you're getting the
00:11:31.700 same result every time.
00:11:32.580 It's like, everybody, do you know what?
00:11:34.500 It's true.
00:11:35.260 And my issue is not, it's one, we're trying to make men into something they're not.
00:11:39.980 When at the end of the day, most men, if they had women pursuing them, like, the top
00:11:44.880 percentage of men do.
00:11:46.420 So, these are, like, there's, um, athletes have girls on the side that will, like, the 0.92
00:11:52.440 most beautiful women you've ever seen, nines and tens, begging them to have threesomes. 1.00
00:11:57.060 You don't think any man, like, in 20 years, a man is going to turn that down, or is going
00:12:01.360 to turn that down every, even a good godly man.
00:12:03.900 Like, even a, nah, nah, he ain't a good godly man.
00:12:06.180 He's just a godly man in his Instacup shit.
00:12:07.920 I'm so sorry about that.
00:12:09.380 That's not god, that's not god.
00:12:10.960 No, but that's my point.
00:12:12.300 Even a man that is godly, like, he's still a man.
00:12:15.660 Yeah, no, I hear you.
00:12:16.580 And so, my issue is when we go after these men that all the women want, and then we're shocked 0.99
00:12:21.840 when they cheat, when it's like, okay, well, why don't you go lower?
00:12:25.260 He doesn't have to make that much money.
00:12:26.580 He doesn't have to be that cute.
00:12:27.860 Oh, well, I can't do that.
00:12:29.060 Well, but you know what it is?
00:12:30.480 That's why, that's why I think, that's why I think.
00:12:32.440 I was just banned on TikTok, and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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