JustPearlyThings - April 19, 2023


@JWALLER BREAKS DOWN Male Nature To Modern Women


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12 minutes

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2,676

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243

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Misogyny

9

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Toxicity

31

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In this episode, the guys discuss cheating and why it is a waste of time. They discuss why cheating should never be tolerated and how to deal with it in the dating world. They also talk about why men cheat and why they should never do it.

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00:00:00.000 Do you know the candy store analogy? Can you tell us? Yeah, I've heard Tate say it before.
00:00:06.280 So basically, the way I've heard him explain it, I've never used it, but a man starts his life off
00:00:13.160 at the bottom of a mountain and he fights his ass off and he gets hit by rocks and he gets torn up
00:00:17.820 and his ass handed to him and he gets beat up and he falls down the mountain, has to start over, 0.98
00:00:21.420 goes bankrupt. He finally fights and fights and fights and claws away and he gets to the top of 0.99
00:00:25.420 the mountain and he gets into the candy shop and he eats his first piece of candy and they tell him
00:00:30.280 that's the only piece he can have. And generally, a man that's done all of that work is going to be
00:00:35.580 like, fuck you, I'm going to take over the whole store. Because very, very, very few men will ever 0.99
00:00:41.140 get up that mountain. It's called the 1% for a reason and it is a fucking dogfight. And that's 1.00
00:00:47.080 what he's referring to. It's the thing that drives men. Now, there's a lot of men out there that'll
00:00:52.240 say, oh, that's bullshit. No, using it as a dating strategy. Any man that could love his wife, 0.99
00:00:59.760 tuck his kids in at night, be a good man, provide for his entire family, be there as a father, be a
00:01:05.180 provider, be the hero for his family and sleep with a couple of women every now and then would do it. 1.00
00:01:11.240 And anybody that says otherwise is a fucking liar, straight up. And look, I know that sucks and it's 1.00
00:01:17.960 not fair. It is completely not fair, but it is the reality of the world. And I think sometimes 0.91
00:01:23.680 when we talk about these subjects, we get lost between the realities of the world and the emotions
00:01:28.300 because I know it hurts. It does. But it is absolutely true.
00:01:34.800 Wow.
00:01:37.960 What do you guys think of that?
00:01:39.200 Silence.
00:01:39.480 Silence.
00:01:39.520 I agree to a certain extent.
00:01:43.140 Oh, no, not to a certain extent.
00:01:44.800 Speak into the mic.
00:01:46.400 Sorry.
00:01:48.500 Their silence agrees with me.
00:01:50.800 Their silence agrees. That's what I was going to say.
00:01:52.820 Their silence agrees with me. And look, man, I'm sorry.
00:01:55.100 As much as I don't want that.
00:01:56.020 Yeah. And I get it. And like I said before, if I could pay a million dollars to cut it off,
00:02:02.340 I actually would. I would actually cut it off. I think it's a waste of time.
00:02:07.640 It will haunt a man. It is in us. Just in us.
00:02:12.620 Not all of you.
00:02:13.900 Oh, yeah, it is. It's in us all. It's in every one of us.
00:02:17.660 It's just it's just the fact that a lot of men don't want to climb that mountain.
00:02:21.640 Yeah.
00:02:22.000 And so they'll trade off things that they don't actually want to do to get some piece of candy. 0.99
00:02:28.400 But the men that really want to hustle want the whole fucking store. 0.99
00:02:31.980 And generally, that's the man that you're going to admire and look up to because he has ambition. 0.98
00:02:35.800 He has drive in his life. He's a hard worker.
00:02:38.740 You believe in him. And most of all, you trust him to take care of you.
00:02:42.380 That's all I'm saying. And I don't mean to be disrespectful, but I genuinely want you to hear me
00:02:48.240 because I fear that if young women that are young and beautiful, like you girls are,
00:02:54.060 are taking advice from older women that are not happy, you are going to find yourself in that same position.
00:02:59.960 I'm saying it. Look, as as heated as it got, I'm saying this out of love, not not to put you down.
00:03:06.680 I genuinely believe it. And I'm also not manipulating you because I'm not trying to get with any of you.
00:03:11.960 I'm going to get on a plane in a couple of days. You know what I'm saying?
00:03:14.900 But please let me leave this with you or watch it again. Any man that could, would.
00:03:21.960 I often say I'm not doing anything that any other man would not do if he could.
00:03:28.000 All right. I love you all.
00:03:29.360 I'm curious. Did any of you change your opinion on cheating after listening to him or after having this conversation tonight?
00:03:39.600 I hate that it's called cheating in the first place.
00:03:41.260 I hate that. Because the cheating is a triggering part, you know, like if he set you down, like pretty teeth said, you know,
00:03:50.720 she's like, I wouldn't like it, but I would appreciate the truth.
00:03:53.340 Yeah. It's the deceit that really is going to upset you because he's killing himself for you.
00:03:57.940 He loves you more than anything. He'd take a bullet for you and the slags on the side, dude, 1.00
00:04:03.320 he don't even want them in his bed at night. He's in love with you. 1.00
00:04:07.860 Why does he need them?
00:04:09.260 Why?
00:04:09.500 Yeah, because it's, you know how you guys get emotional for no reason?
00:04:15.220 So are you saying it's just like an ego stroke?
00:04:18.240 No, not at all.
00:04:19.900 No, that's the point. It's not about ego at all.
00:04:22.320 It's not about ego at all.
00:04:23.540 Men that sleep with women just to feel better about themselves are super insecure.
00:04:28.940 Yeah, they're lacking something, right?
00:04:30.120 They're lacking something. 1.00
00:04:31.160 No, no, it is more like, it is more like this primal thing inside of you that will not get out of your fucking head. 0.99
00:04:36.860 So is it primal or is it lacking something? 1.00
00:04:38.800 No, it's primal.
00:04:40.000 It's primal. It's completely primal.
00:04:41.340 Does the fact that 8,000 years ago, 17 women reproduced for every one man, does that mean anything to you?
00:04:47.780 Does that show at all that it's primal?
00:04:50.140 That always in history, there's always been more women reproducing for men? 1.00
00:04:53.720 I think historically, yeah, but like, we try and adapt like we're humans, we're, you know, creatures of adaptation.
00:05:01.660 Like, I would try my best to adapt if I didn't, if something didn't sit right with me.
00:05:07.320 Okay, so if in modern society, we're going back to that, like we're trending more towards sharing men?
00:05:15.380 No, that doesn't sound right.
00:05:16.900 No, to be fair, I don't even like to share my food, so best believe I'm not sharing my men.
00:05:22.660 You're wrong.
00:05:23.740 You're wrong.
00:05:24.100 You have, again, because we spoke about you've been in situationships, so you were sharing a guy.
00:05:28.600 Y'all are sharing guys right now, but we're beating a dead horse, right?
00:05:32.480 You're all sharing guys right now.
00:05:33.960 I'm not sharing no one.
00:05:35.020 Well, we keep coming back to the same, we keep coming back to the same point, because you guys, whenever, whenever Justin, whenever Justin makes the, or somebody makes the point and says, well, no, this is how men are wired, this is how they're programmed, these are the things that they want.
00:05:47.020 Then somebody on the couch or wherever says, oh, but not all of them, like, like you did.
00:05:51.420 And it's kind of like, but no, but we keep, we keep beating the same horse.
00:05:54.440 They, they do all want to do it.
00:05:56.560 They, or they, they are all programmed.
00:05:58.520 Not all of them necessarily will act on it, but that's partly down to, okay, there's going to be a few unicorns who aren't going to act on it because they're super amazing, whatever guys.
00:06:06.580 I don't think so.
00:06:07.200 I think so.
00:06:07.900 Repercussions are scared of us.
00:06:08.680 Yeah, yeah, probably.
00:06:09.680 Yes.
00:06:09.920 But for the most part, for the most part, they're not going to act on it because then they don't have the ability to, because they're not high enough in the food chain.
00:06:15.960 Okay.
00:06:16.300 The guys who are at the top, they are going to act on it.
00:06:18.380 And that's just how it is.
00:06:19.500 It's also character as well.
00:06:21.100 Yeah.
00:06:21.500 I know you think, sorry, go on.
00:06:22.960 It's also character.
00:06:23.780 Like, I think I can personally relate because at a certain point you have a connection that's distinct enough with someone that it takes a long time for that urge to come back.
00:06:33.880 Yeah, sure.
00:06:34.320 It will come back though.
00:06:35.220 Sure.
00:06:35.400 Oh yeah, at about 18 months probably.
00:06:37.520 Yeah, I'm not going to lie.
00:06:39.100 Even for me, I'll be like, you know what, I could like really vibe with someone.
00:06:42.500 Like, she's one in a million.
00:06:44.060 She's got chat.
00:06:44.880 We're cool.
00:06:45.660 But part of me knows that in like a year, maybe two, some people have been together for 20 years.
00:06:50.500 I know eventually two becomes one.
00:06:53.640 Why do you think like that?
00:06:54.920 I know I'm like that.
00:06:56.620 That's one of the reasons I didn't have a relationship when I was younger because I thought, I don't want to do that.
00:06:59.160 I don't want to mess someone up.
00:07:00.020 But I realized, bro, I'm always, it's just human nature, novelty.
00:07:03.540 Yeah, I've tried to fix myself in my 20s. 0.96
00:07:05.520 I thought something was wrong with me and I thought I was all fucked up and I hated myself for a long time. 0.99
00:07:09.560 I broke up with Miss Louisiana in college because I felt like I couldn't do it and I didn't want to be a piece of shit. 0.99
00:07:14.900 And I went and tried to pray about it and do all this church stuff. 0.99
00:07:17.380 And I come to find it was just a pattern that would not leave me.
00:07:20.660 And I was leaving women that I loved.
00:07:24.320 Was that because of something to you with yourself?
00:07:26.600 No, not at all.
00:07:27.480 It was literally what I'm telling you.
00:07:28.860 I wouldn't lie to you.
00:07:29.440 And let me nail it home with this. 1.00
00:07:33.140 It could be an ugly woman. 1.00
00:07:36.300 You know what I'm saying? 1.00
00:07:37.180 True. 1.00
00:07:38.840 An ugly woman. 1.00
00:07:40.640 I could eat for me. 1.00
00:07:42.160 Hungry and horny to a man is pretty much the same thing.
00:07:44.300 I kind of stress this to you.
00:07:45.440 No, do you know what?
00:07:46.040 I do agree with that.
00:07:46.860 I do agree that it's nothing to do with the looks.
00:07:49.540 It doesn't matter.
00:07:50.980 Bro, does it breathe? 1.00
00:07:52.800 Men are disgusting. 0.99
00:07:54.600 No, that is the first thing that I actually 100% agree with you on. 1.00
00:07:58.580 She could be the ugliest girl in the world, but he's still going to do it. 0.94
00:08:02.280 Well, it's like the old thing. 0.98
00:08:03.440 It's like the old steak.
00:08:04.540 You know, you've got steak at home, but sometimes you just fancy going out for a McDonald's.
00:08:07.440 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:08.280 And that's just the reality.
00:08:09.800 Cheap is cheap at the end of the day.
00:08:11.000 It's going to happen.
00:08:11.540 Yeah, it's not even about cheap.
00:08:12.740 It's just about different.
00:08:13.760 And it's like this thing is people demonize it and act like, you know, it is wired into us.
00:08:20.900 It almost comes out of us in a way.
00:08:23.600 And again, I cannot stress this enough.
00:08:26.020 If I could pay to get rid of that feeling, I would absolutely do it.
00:08:30.140 100%.
00:08:30.620 I guess it's nice.
00:08:32.180 Not nice.
00:08:32.980 That's the wrong word.
00:08:33.840 But I guess it's like a bit more, a better feeling for us girls to know that he's sat there saying that if he could get rid of it, he would.
00:08:43.220 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:44.180 Yeah, because it's counterproductive.
00:08:46.200 It's so counterproductive.
00:08:46.860 It's a waste of time, energy.
00:08:48.240 It's reassurance.
00:08:48.720 It's not like a want.
00:08:49.800 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:50.440 It's like if you're saying that you could, I'd get rid of this if I could.
00:08:53.400 I would pay to get rid of it.
00:08:54.500 Yeah, see, that's reassurance for us girls, but you don't probably think that you're reassuring as saying that.
00:08:59.800 That's just something that you personally believe.
00:09:01.660 No, it's generally how I feel.
00:09:02.780 But I'm just saying for us girls, that is reassurance to know that a man wants to do that.
00:09:07.600 I don't know.
00:09:08.100 I think modern women don't really hear these things, though.
00:09:11.720 I think it's hard for us.
00:09:13.800 There's not many men that can say it and get away with it.
00:09:16.440 There's no spaces, to be honest.
00:09:17.880 I think party things is a safe space in some ways.
00:09:20.900 That's controversial.
00:09:21.520 But let me tell you something else about you guys.
00:09:27.240 I have a platform, right?
00:09:29.620 Women see my content. 0.98
00:09:30.760 Women that I see will see me say this, and they'll see me anyway. 0.99
00:09:35.860 You understand what I'm saying?
00:09:36.820 Yeah.
00:09:37.360 I'm not trying to bully y'all.
00:09:40.660 I understand completely.
00:09:41.940 Many, many, many men cannot say what I'm saying and get away with it.
00:09:45.540 Oh, yeah.
00:09:46.080 And so I know you're not used to hearing it.
00:09:49.520 And for that reason, I'm trying to be graceful right now because I feel like earlier it got heated.
00:09:54.020 But truly, if I could get rid of it, yeah, if I could get rid of it, I truly mean that.
00:09:59.640 You have a new man up here.
00:10:02.360 For the ladies, what questions do you guys have for men that you don't understand about men?
00:10:08.980 I think my confusion is what does the man that fights through all these battles and gets to the candy store and tries to take it over, what does that look like in today's world?
00:10:27.280 I think that's the problem with us younger women. 1.00
00:10:32.080 I don't know.
00:10:32.700 It's not like back in the day where it was clear.
00:10:35.000 We live in a different world.
00:10:36.480 You know, the social media, it confuses us.
00:10:39.320 You know, so we're just like, the words like rappers and footballers and, you know, Drake get thrown into these conversations.
00:10:47.100 And it's like, oh, yeah, that's what a high-value man is.
00:10:49.880 But it's like, what's your question?
00:10:51.500 It's like, what does that guy look like in today's society?
00:10:55.200 Or is it the same?
00:10:56.160 Well, she read it off.
00:10:57.660 But I don't think you have to be Drake to be high value.
00:11:00.840 As I said, I don't like the word.
00:11:03.300 You know, I don't like the alpha, the beta, the high value.
00:11:05.540 I don't like any of those things.
00:11:06.640 But I think a man that completely takes care of business and can give you a life that you would have never had otherwise.
00:11:12.480 And he can be the hero to you.
00:11:13.800 And he takes pride in that.
00:11:15.540 Not by belittling you, but by loving you and empowering you to level up to where he's trying to go.
00:11:22.940 So you can be on his arm when he's at that event.
00:11:25.240 Yeah, that's the right way.
00:11:26.340 You know what I'm saying?
00:11:27.080 It's the belittling that gets you.
00:11:28.700 It's not about belittling.
00:11:30.300 It's about building up.
00:11:31.540 And that's why I asked you the question I asked you earlier.
00:11:34.060 That's what bothers me.
00:11:34.640 That's what bothers a lot of women. 1.00
00:11:35.220 Yes, ma'am.
00:11:35.800 I know.
00:11:36.060 But when you have a real man in front of you, he wants to build you up.
00:11:41.600 That's why we can't even say that people are high value men until you actually like that.
00:11:45.360 Like Drake, to be honest, I've never really seen him in a proper relationship.
00:11:51.540 Right.
00:11:52.000 And that's a placeholder situation.
00:11:54.320 Now, I will say that it's probably smart to protect the queen in that regard.
00:11:59.240 Yeah.
00:11:59.780 If Drake is smart, he'll never let you see her.
00:12:02.420 Yeah.
00:12:02.760 Yeah, that makes sense.
00:12:04.400 Of course.
00:12:04.800 But hopefully, if that woman exists, he's building her up. 0.96
00:12:09.420 He's almost doing everything he can to put every amount of knowledge in her so she's qualified to be with him at the Grammys.
00:12:16.340 Yeah, she understands.
00:12:17.820 Listen, baby, you gotta, you gotta dress like, you can talk like this when they do this, do this.
00:12:21.960 Start with the forks here.
00:12:23.120 Like, he loves her.
00:12:24.740 He's, I pick you so I develop you and I protect you from the world.
00:12:28.440 Like, I'm here to protect you from this, me and you.
00:12:32.000 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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