Wives in sheep's clothing are women who look like a wife but don't have the mentality of a wife. In this episode, we discuss what it means to be a Wives in Sheep's Clothing and why they are not good wives.
00:02:48.100And it would be interesting to look at what this woman's daughter looks like and her relationship outcomes.
00:02:52.480Because if I had to predict, something is going to be off with the kid.
00:02:56.780When there is a super masculine mother, typically something is out of order with the children unless it is corrected.
00:03:05.080But typically, like this type of relationship, I would expect without knowing, without even seeing what her kids look like, her kids to be similar to Will and Jada's children.
00:03:29.780I don't think that masculine women make good wives and mothers.
00:03:33.420Typically, the kids will be out of order.
00:03:35.280Bradley says there's a male boomer phenomenon where his wife will emasculate him in front of an entire dinner party, and he'll just chuckle like, she's a firecracker, that one.
00:03:50.740They look like wives, but they don't have the mentality of a wife.
00:03:54.240Guys, true femininity is selflessness.
00:03:57.180True femininity is serving the men in your life and your family.
00:04:01.260It is not this me, me, me, love yourself idea.
00:04:04.580And if that worked, then we would see happy relationships left and right because women love serving themselves first in 2023.
00:04:12.400Out of the wives in sheep's clothing, I have identified three types of modern mothers.
00:04:18.260So, the first modern mother is the you-can-have-it-all mother.
00:04:22.160Now, these are mothers that are adamant that they must have a career.
00:04:27.820Yes, they cannot not have a backup plan.
00:04:31.200Their need for comfort and the safety and security of a backup plan overrides their kid's need for a mother.
00:04:40.700They either want a career for the attention and grandioseness of having a career and being able to say they were successful,
00:04:48.160or they want the career as a backup plan because they're told often by their mothers that the men will just leave you high and dry and abuse you if you don't have a backup plan.
00:04:57.340An example of this, I wanted to draw attention to a woman.
00:05:00.660I covered this woman a couple of months ago.
00:05:04.000She is the first black female CEO of a Fortune 500 company and achieved her success through a combination of career dedication and a supportive family network.
00:05:13.620She credits her rise to success partly outsourcing children to trusted members of her community, including her husband and her sister.
00:05:20.980This enabled her to take on numerous leadership roles, including serving as the CEO at Xerox, which that company, I used to work in copier sales.
00:05:32.080If there was, if there was, if I had to sell a copier and they had Xerox, I was like, yes, yes, sign me up because I could, I could steal their customers the easiest.
00:05:44.700Anyways, chairing the White House National STEM Program and holding positions on the board of companies like Uber and American Express.
00:05:54.040Burns didn't conform to the idea of being a super mom, acknowledging that balancing her career and family required a different approach.
00:06:00.340She didn't attend all her children's events and sometimes relaxed, even working on puzzles during their activities.
00:06:05.840While controversial to some, her use of the term outsourcing sparked debates.
00:06:10.280While some argued that many parents rely on help from their community, but might not label it as such.
00:06:15.920However, critics pointed out that Burns' approach might not be feasible or relatable to many Black women, especially considering the challenges faced during COVID.
00:06:25.080Dawson highlighted the struggles of Black working mothers during the pandemic, emphasizing that the options available to Burns a decade ago differ greatly than what many faced post-pandemic.
00:06:35.420Despite her successful career, Burns acknowledges a sense of detachment from certain aspects of her day-to-day life due to rapid career ascent, expressing some regrets about not being more present in those moments.
00:06:47.900Overall, she credits her family's approach to child care as pivotal in raising two well-adjusted kids, though she recognizes the trade-off that it came with her career-focused approach.
00:07:21.160You cannot replace a mother and a father.
00:07:24.060Typically, these career women have to marry somebody on their level.
00:07:28.020Now, I could actually support career women if they accepted what came with it, became the breadwinner, and let the dad stay home so the kids have somebody watching them.
00:07:38.940But typically, these women want the career, and they want a husband that makes more than them.
00:08:07.320And what I see these women often reference is that usually, there would be tribes, and all these women would come together and raise the kids.
00:08:16.380Now, I'm not discounting that that happened at times, but those mothers were still more involved than you will be working 40 to 60 hours a week.
00:08:27.780In 2023, there are so many at-home jobs that there really is very little excuse to not be there to raise your children.
00:08:37.320Children need parents, and these women prioritize money, and they think if they have money, that the kids will be okay.
00:08:45.020Oftentimes, what you see with these parents are Jada and Will type kids, where they're very left, very liberal, very free spirit, and don't typically go on to be happy, healthy, and married.
00:08:56.960So, the next wife in sheep's clothing that I see is women that put sexuality above their children.
00:09:05.900These women care about getting sexual attention and validation from men more than they care about their children because they don't stop to consider their children's feelings from their mom posting thirst traps on the internet.
00:09:20.340Many of these women will have OnlyFans.
00:09:22.620Many of these women will chase after athletes, actors, and entertainers to be their stepdaddy for a lifetime.
00:09:30.540These women will have random men in and out of the house constantly with no regard for the safety of their children.
00:09:38.880The most likely person to abuse a child is actually the stepfather.
00:09:43.680But these mothers do not care because what they care about is getting sexual attention and gratification from men.
00:09:50.880An example of this mother is Lana Rhodes.
00:09:53.300I saw Lana Rhodes on a podcast recently talking about how much she loved being a mother.
00:09:58.140What was your experience like with OnlyFans?
00:12:00.900That's why men get so frustrated when you get these girls that do these hoe apology tours because they always end up going back when they actually have to do work.
00:12:09.540Half of these chicks are just too lazy to work a normal job.
00:13:13.800I've been doing a lot of work on my mental health, but since having my baby, I have struggled probably from the worst mental health issues that I have in my entire life.
00:13:24.620I've spent the past, since becoming pregnant, like over two years just in bed and not living life or functioning like a normal person.
00:13:35.240And besides, when it comes to my son, I always show up for him and I always do everything that I'm supposed to do and make sure that his life is great.
00:13:43.740I always give him the childhood that I wish that I had and above and beyond so that he doesn't grow up with the traumas that I had or the personality disorder that I had, which comes from people not validating your emotions or punishing you.
00:15:52.180Like I would say Lana Rhodes is a combination of two and three, which the third type of modern mother is the mother that is addicted to lifestyle.
00:16:00.880And a lot of times, does it affect her health Alternatively?