JustPearlyThings - Lana Rhoades REGRETS Her Whole Career

00:00:00.000 Okay, so today I wanted to expand on the topic of wives in sheep's clothing. 0.90

00:00:06.640 So these are women that maybe have a husband like a wife, they have a ring like a wife, 1.00

00:00:10.980 they might even look the part of a wife, but they are not wives. 1.00

00:00:14.080 And the reason they are not wives is because they do not have the mentality of wives, 1.00

00:00:18.000 and they typically teach their daughters wrong.

00:00:20.300 Women between the ages of roughly 35 to 55 years old are what I would call the worst 1.00

00:00:26.040 wives we have ever had in history.

00:00:27.840 It is the last generation of women that got married in their 20s and 30s. 0.56

00:00:32.920 And typically, they really all led their daughters astray and gave terrible dating advice.

00:00:38.280 So an example of a wife in sheep's clothing is this woman right here. 0.95

00:00:43.240 What relationship advice would you give the youth?

00:00:46.240 What relationship advice?

00:00:47.660 Yeah.

00:00:48.020 Like romantic?

00:00:49.080 Yeah.

00:00:50.220 Come on, you're what you love.

00:00:53.420 You're what you love.

00:00:54.380 What would you say?

00:00:55.200 You know what?

00:00:56.180 This is what I would say.

00:00:57.260 And I know this is probably what I tell this to my daughter, that you are the love of your life.

00:01:03.220 That's right.

00:01:04.140 And I think that when you start with yourself, loving yourself, creating boundaries, advocating

00:01:08.920 for yourself, being honest with yourself, not being so good that you're not being honest,

00:01:14.100 you know, especially as a woman, then I think everything grows from there.

00:01:18.780 It is the greatest seed you can plant in the world to create great friendships and relationships.

00:01:24.740 It's to love yourself.

00:01:26.320 There's nothing greater than a woman that has confidence.

00:01:29.980 And this one had it.

00:01:31.500 And we've created this relationship that's just beautiful.

00:01:35.680 So we're just thankful.

00:01:37.880 Yeah.

00:01:38.140 It's my dude.

00:01:38.800 OK, so now a lot of people want to come at me.

00:01:43.040 They say, Pearl, you're not married. 0.98

00:01:45.080 And look, fair enough, right?

00:01:47.500 But what I do is I look for patterns and trends in society of what works and what doesn't work.

00:01:53.440 Now, is this woman an expert, the CEO of marriage? 0.94

00:01:57.340 Because she's married, she's been with this guy.

00:02:00.240 Is she now, should she give relationship advice? 0.62

00:02:02.860 My intention is not to say that I have all the answers, but my intention is to show you what doesn't work.

00:02:10.760 This woman had no words about serving her husband and serving her family.

00:02:15.980 Her only words were about serving herself.

00:02:19.160 Self-centered women may be able to have relationships at some point. 1.00

00:02:23.740 However, they typically fail.

00:02:25.980 And they either fail because the man becomes a shell of himself or they fail because they get divorced and nothing will keep her happy.

00:02:34.160 This dynamic does not work.

00:02:36.760 She looks like a wife. 0.99

00:02:37.840 She's married like a wife, but she doesn't have the mentality of a wife. 1.00

00:02:41.560 The husband nods along to this craziness and doesn't guide her.

00:02:45.800 No wonder we are so confused.

00:02:48.100 And it would be interesting to look at what this woman's daughter looks like and her relationship outcomes. 0.93

00:02:52.480 Because if I had to predict, something is going to be off with the kid.

00:02:56.780 When there is a super masculine mother, typically something is out of order with the children unless it is corrected. 0.98

00:03:05.080 But typically, like this type of relationship, I would expect without knowing, without even seeing what her kids look like, her kids to be similar to Will and Jada's children.

00:03:15.040 So the comments weighed in on this.

00:03:17.660 Mindset Mike says a relationship will work best with a masculine and a feminine.

00:03:22.340 It doesn't matter who takes the role.

00:03:23.860 We can see that here.

00:03:25.840 Yeah, and I would argue that it does matter.

00:03:29.060 It really does.

00:03:29.780 I don't think that masculine women make good wives and mothers. 1.00

00:03:33.420 Typically, the kids will be out of order.

00:03:35.280 Bradley says there's a male boomer phenomenon where his wife will emasculate him in front of an entire dinner party, and he'll just chuckle like, she's a firecracker, that one.

00:03:44.660 I married a real pistol.

00:03:46.260 Yes!

00:03:47.240 And this is what I'm talking about.

00:03:48.720 It's the wives in sheep's clothing. 1.00

00:03:50.740 They look like wives, but they don't have the mentality of a wife. 1.00

00:03:54.240 Guys, true femininity is selflessness. 1.00

00:03:57.180 True femininity is serving the men in your life and your family. 0.67

00:04:01.260 It is not this me, me, me, love yourself idea.

00:04:04.580 And if that worked, then we would see happy relationships left and right because women love serving themselves first in 2023. 1.00

00:04:12.400 Out of the wives in sheep's clothing, I have identified three types of modern mothers. 0.96

00:04:18.260 So, the first modern mother is the you-can-have-it-all mother. 0.79

00:04:22.160 Now, these are mothers that are adamant that they must have a career. 1.00

00:04:27.820 Yes, they cannot not have a backup plan.

00:04:31.200 Their need for comfort and the safety and security of a backup plan overrides their kid's need for a mother.

00:04:40.700 They either want a career for the attention and grandioseness of having a career and being able to say they were successful,

00:04:48.160 or they want the career as a backup plan because they're told often by their mothers that the men will just leave you high and dry and abuse you if you don't have a backup plan. 1.00

00:04:57.340 An example of this, I wanted to draw attention to a woman. 1.00

00:05:00.660 I covered this woman a couple of months ago.

00:05:02.480 Her name is Ursula Burns.

00:05:04.000 She is the first black female CEO of a Fortune 500 company and achieved her success through a combination of career dedication and a supportive family network.

00:05:13.620 She credits her rise to success partly outsourcing children to trusted members of her community, including her husband and her sister.

00:05:20.980 This enabled her to take on numerous leadership roles, including serving as the CEO at Xerox, which that company, I used to work in copier sales.

00:05:30.140 That company is going downhill.

00:05:32.080 If there was, if there was, if I had to sell a copier and they had Xerox, I was like, yes, yes, sign me up because I could, I could steal their customers the easiest.

00:05:40.980 Anyways, that's just anecdotal.

00:05:42.800 I have no idea how they're doing now.

00:05:44.040 This was years ago.

00:05:44.700 Anyways, chairing the White House National STEM Program and holding positions on the board of companies like Uber and American Express.

00:05:54.040 Burns didn't conform to the idea of being a super mom, acknowledging that balancing her career and family required a different approach. 0.98

00:06:00.340 She didn't attend all her children's events and sometimes relaxed, even working on puzzles during their activities.

00:06:05.840 While controversial to some, her use of the term outsourcing sparked debates.

00:06:10.280 While some argued that many parents rely on help from their community, but might not label it as such.

00:06:15.920 However, critics pointed out that Burns' approach might not be feasible or relatable to many Black women, especially considering the challenges faced during COVID.

00:06:25.080 Dawson highlighted the struggles of Black working mothers during the pandemic, emphasizing that the options available to Burns a decade ago differ greatly than what many faced post-pandemic.

00:06:35.420 Despite her successful career, Burns acknowledges a sense of detachment from certain aspects of her day-to-day life due to rapid career ascent, expressing some regrets about not being more present in those moments.

00:06:47.900 Overall, she credits her family's approach to child care as pivotal in raising two well-adjusted kids, though she recognizes the trade-off that it came with her career-focused approach.

00:06:56.740 So, again, this is out of order.

00:06:59.560 Now, why is this out of order?

00:07:01.080 These are women that put their career above their family. 1.00

00:07:03.540 They are not there for the little things.

00:07:05.940 They are not there for their kid in the school play.

00:07:08.260 They are not there for basketball games.

00:07:10.360 They are not there to pick up their kids from school.

00:07:13.440 They are not there to help their kids with homework.

00:07:16.060 These little things matter.

00:07:18.760 And they matter to children.

00:07:21.160 You cannot replace a mother and a father.

00:07:24.060 Typically, these career women have to marry somebody on their level. 1.00

00:07:28.020 Now, I could actually support career women if they accepted what came with it, became the breadwinner, and let the dad stay home so the kids have somebody watching them. 1.00

00:07:38.940 But typically, these women want the career, and they want a husband that makes more than them. 1.00

00:07:44.520 So, who is watching the kids?

00:07:48.000 Who is watching them?

00:07:48.960 Because you cannot outsource parenthood.

00:07:53.100 You cannot outsource being a mother.

00:07:56.020 Many times, I'll often see these women have grandmothers raise the children. 1.00

00:08:02.540 They want a career.

00:08:03.920 They need to go for this.

00:08:05.440 So, the grandmother raises the kids. 0.91

00:08:07.320 And what I see these women often reference is that usually, there would be tribes, and all these women would come together and raise the kids. 0.98

00:08:16.380 Now, I'm not discounting that that happened at times, but those mothers were still more involved than you will be working 40 to 60 hours a week.

00:08:27.780 In 2023, there are so many at-home jobs that there really is very little excuse to not be there to raise your children.

00:08:37.320 Children need parents, and these women prioritize money, and they think if they have money, that the kids will be okay. 1.00

00:08:45.020 Oftentimes, what you see with these parents are Jada and Will type kids, where they're very left, very liberal, very free spirit, and don't typically go on to be happy, healthy, and married.

00:08:56.960 So, the next wife in sheep's clothing that I see is women that put sexuality above their children. 1.00

00:09:05.900 These women care about getting sexual attention and validation from men more than they care about their children because they don't stop to consider their children's feelings from their mom posting thirst traps on the internet. 1.00

00:09:20.340 Many of these women will have OnlyFans. 1.00

00:09:22.620 Many of these women will chase after athletes, actors, and entertainers to be their stepdaddy for a lifetime. 1.00

00:09:30.540 These women will have random men in and out of the house constantly with no regard for the safety of their children. 1.00

00:09:38.880 The most likely person to abuse a child is actually the stepfather.

00:09:43.680 But these mothers do not care because what they care about is getting sexual attention and gratification from men. 1.00

00:09:50.880 An example of this mother is Lana Rhodes. 1.00

00:09:53.300 I saw Lana Rhodes on a podcast recently talking about how much she loved being a mother.

00:09:58.140 What was your experience like with OnlyFans?

00:10:01.480 Yeah, so I think OnlyFans is great.

00:10:05.500 Having come from professional porn, I think it's great that so many sex workers now have mostly the control handed back to them.

00:10:16.860 Obviously, there's still going to be an exploitatory people in that industry as well. 0.53

00:10:20.600 But in most cases, it's a lot better for the girls. 0.97

00:10:25.180 And so I just, you know, I was doing it for so many years at this point.

00:10:28.380 There wasn't anything wrong with OnlyFans.

00:10:31.020 I just was like, I don't want to show my tits right now anymore.

00:10:35.020 Like, I'm just tired of it.

00:10:35.840 And I really wanted to have a kid.

00:10:37.440 And so I was trying to figure out a way to make income without doing any type of sex work.

00:10:43.280 So when I got the opportunity to work with Logan and Mike, it just made sense.

00:10:49.140 And it helped us all tremendously at the life point that we were in.

00:10:52.780 And so it was sort of that was the transition and the avenue away from any type of sex work.

00:10:56.880 Yeah.

00:10:57.320 And I'm about to go back into OnlyFans.

00:11:00.360 Okay.

00:11:01.600 But I have not done any type of OnlyFans or any type of sex work really for three years now.

00:11:08.900 Was it scary to leave it behind or did it feel good or was it both?

00:11:13.540 What was that like for you?

00:11:14.800 I had other goals like having a kid.

00:11:17.140 So when I finally was able to supplement my income without having to show myself or be sexualized in any way, it was really relieving.

00:11:27.040 I am not a very sexual person.

00:11:28.820 So having to put myself out there in that way is generally uncomfortable for me.

00:11:34.820 Okay.

00:11:35.160 So notice how she says her goal was to have a kid and now she's a single mother. 0.96

00:11:41.700 It was not to find a husband.

00:11:43.800 It was to have a kid.

00:11:45.000 Like think about how out of order that is.

00:11:47.120 Okay.

00:11:47.780 She takes three years off of sex work. 1.00

00:11:50.160 Then she gets the opportunity to be an influencer.

00:11:53.800 These women never want to do hard jobs. 1.00

00:11:55.640 They never want to actually do what it takes to not put their ass on the internet.

00:11:59.540 And they always go back to it.

00:12:00.900 That's why men get so frustrated when you get these girls that do these hoe apology tours because they always end up going back when they actually have to do work. 1.00

00:12:09.540 Half of these chicks are just too lazy to work a normal job. 1.00

00:12:12.580 McDonald's is hiring.

00:12:14.160 You could waitress.

00:12:15.500 You could serve.

00:12:16.940 You could.

00:12:17.620 I'm sure there's a library hiring down the street from you.

00:12:21.340 But they want easy money.

00:12:22.940 They've never had to do what it takes to earn hard money because they've always monetized their beauty in some way.

00:12:29.360 She even talks in this episode about how much she loves being a mom.

00:12:33.280 Okay.

00:12:33.640 And do you like being a mom now?

00:12:35.380 I love it.

00:12:36.220 It's the best, the best thing that's ever happened to me.

00:12:41.520 Besides, like I still have some of the health issues, which obviously sucks, but I wouldn't ever take it back.

00:12:47.960 Like, my son has changed my life in the best way as possible.

00:12:53.140 I wouldn't ever even go back to the person that I was before.

00:12:59.660 So I guess it did lead me in all directions to where I like where I am now better.

00:13:07.020 That's great.

00:13:07.820 A lot of things have changed for me mentally over the past few months.

00:13:10.340 I recently started medication.

00:13:12.220 I got proper diagnoses.

00:13:13.800 I've been doing a lot of work on my mental health, but since having my baby, I have struggled probably from the worst mental health issues that I have in my entire life.

00:13:23.240 Just like debilitating.

00:13:24.620 I've spent the past, since becoming pregnant, like over two years just in bed and not living life or functioning like a normal person.

00:13:35.240 And besides, when it comes to my son, I always show up for him and I always do everything that I'm supposed to do and make sure that his life is great.

00:13:43.740 I always give him the childhood that I wish that I had and above and beyond so that he doesn't grow up with the traumas that I had or the personality disorder that I had, which comes from people not validating your emotions or punishing you.

00:14:00.680 I'm sorry, I'm getting so emotional.

00:14:03.560 Oh, it's okay.

00:14:04.320 Yeah, no, that's beautiful.

00:14:06.780 Oh, thank you.

00:14:07.440 But it's also really remarkable what you've been through.

00:14:10.960 Thank you.

00:14:12.000 And it's amazing that you're taking care of a child and also trying to take care of yourself.

00:14:16.400 Yeah.

00:14:16.720 It's really difficult.

00:14:18.220 Okay, there's so many contradictions.

00:14:20.060 She just said that's really difficult, but then just admitted that she's been in bed for three years.

00:14:24.600 You know what's crazy?

00:14:27.160 Men aren't allowed to have mental health issues like this because they'll just be homeless.

00:14:31.880 They're not allowed to be in bed for three years.

00:14:33.960 The other interesting thing, she says she had a personality disorder.

00:14:37.020 So why does she have custody of the kid? 1.00

00:14:40.500 I don't, from what I understand, I think she got pregnant off of an NBA guy.

00:14:44.840 I think she basically got a kid out of one because I don't think that the dad is too active in their life.

00:14:53.840 And it's interesting because she said she'll do everything for a boy not to have trauma, but she won't not do OnlyFans.

00:15:01.100 I mean, what's more traumatizing for a kid than having a mom that's on OnlyFans?

00:15:06.560 I don't even think sex workers should have kids.

00:15:08.680 I mean, shit, you made your bed.

00:15:10.500 Lie in it.

00:15:11.040 And why, if you had a personality disorder, was your number one goal to get a kid?

00:15:17.380 Why would you want to bring a kid into that?

00:15:20.040 And then you have the other woman validating her. 0.98

00:15:22.360 But see, this is what I mean.

00:15:23.680 She is addicted to sexual attention from men.

00:15:26.460 She will never stop, and she's just going to go nuts. 1.00

00:15:28.760 So again, this is a woman that puts sexual attention above the welfare of her kids. 1.00

00:15:33.920 So that's the modern mother number two.

00:15:36.660 Modern mother puts her career above her kids. 1.00

00:15:39.160 Modern mother number two puts attention from men. 1.00

00:15:43.460 You'll also see these women dressing very provocatively, going out to clubs and bars, which leads me. 1.00

00:15:50.580 And a lot of times there's overlap.

00:15:52.180 Like I would say Lana Rhodes is a combination of two and three, which the third type of modern mother is the mother that is addicted to lifestyle. 1.00

00:16:00.880 And a lot of times, does it affect her health Alternatively?

00:16:15.060 Like I said dude.

00:16:17.380 What about one?

00:16:17.680 Like I said, A Factor hat's head?

00:16:19.220 How about that?

00:16:20.200 You know, what about a different today?

00:16:21.300 What's the way?

00:16:22.360 Like you can watch.

00:16:23.480 Be sure.

00:16:24.000 Like there's a differentiroamen and the other people who are kind of anything. 1.00

JustPearlyThings - November 21, 2023

Lana Rhoades REGRETS Her Whole Career

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