JustPearlyThings - Lessons for Women Who Act Like CEO in their HOME

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00:00:30.160 I will cook.

00:00:30.980 I will clean.

00:00:31.600 I will take care of the kids.

00:00:32.420 I'll take care of the house.

00:00:33.280 And I'll garden.

00:00:34.720 What did you do?

00:00:35.280 Did you quit your job?

00:00:36.460 No.

00:00:37.020 I just.

00:00:37.400 Okay.

00:00:37.660 I was just curious.

00:00:38.640 Well, I guess I did.

00:00:39.320 Total miracle.

00:00:39.980 I flipped two houses last year.

00:00:42.140 And I was like, I don't want to do this anymore.

00:00:43.680 So I just decided to stop doing it.

00:00:45.600 That's cold.

00:00:46.140 Oh, wow.

00:00:46.540 It was a miracle, though, really.

00:00:48.000 Yeah, because I.

00:00:48.680 No, because I was the boss, right?

00:00:51.120 I had to be the provider.

00:00:52.260 I had to be everything.

00:00:53.600 And you didn't have that example.

00:00:54.900 And I think that's another part of where all the good women have gone.

00:00:56.940 Inside of this independence.

00:00:58.100 Inside of this confusion.

00:00:59.900 It's fatherless families.

00:01:01.600 And like Pearl was saying earlier, if you don't have the example, how are you supposed to know?

00:01:05.420 And you haven't had the example, Penelope.

00:01:07.220 So it's a miracle.

00:01:08.740 Purely.

00:01:09.960 How do you find a good woman? 1.00

00:01:11.480 How do I find one?

00:01:12.560 Yeah, identify one.

00:01:14.600 I think a good woman.

00:01:17.080 I can't tell a good woman straight away. 0.92

00:01:19.220 It has to be along the course of time.

00:01:21.960 She needs to be how I want, when I want, when I need her to be.

00:01:26.920 And I won't get that.

00:01:28.280 Just from the first look basis.

00:01:30.060 Do you know what I mean?

00:01:30.900 So I think a first, a good woman to me, is a woman that has good family values.

00:01:38.400 That know how to be around her family.

00:01:41.440 That has a good relationship with her dad.

00:01:44.480 Submissive.

00:01:48.580 Caring.

00:01:49.340 Nurturing.

00:01:52.140 Healthy.

00:01:52.580 That's about it.

00:01:58.260 That's about it for me.

00:02:01.240 And how do you know a good one?

00:02:02.800 So right now, this is what you have to do.

00:02:04.580 You have to see her for three months.

00:02:06.380 Yeah.

00:02:06.560 Ask her to make you a coffee.

00:02:08.440 No, I agree.

00:02:09.480 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:02:09.580 Go for it.

00:02:09.980 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:02:10.300 That three month thing.

00:02:11.460 Yeah, yeah.

00:02:11.940 Three months.

00:02:13.040 Okay.

00:02:13.920 Yeah.

00:02:14.640 This is for the woman you pick to marry. 0.99

00:02:16.940 So like, okay.

00:02:17.960 And you can make edits.

00:02:19.180 So it's okay.

00:02:19.720 Take on a coffee date for a first date.

00:02:23.640 Okay.

00:02:24.460 Date as many women as possible to tell the difference. 0.99

00:02:28.260 Make sure she's not on birth control. 0.58

00:02:31.320 And figure out what her relationship's like with her family and her dad.

00:02:35.420 What do you agree with, disagree with, and what would you like to add?

00:02:43.680 There's loads I need to add to that, man.

00:02:46.140 It's not that simple.

00:02:47.100 Yeah, start that again.

00:02:51.280 She'll tell me that list together.

00:02:52.400 I forget, we can keep going.

00:02:54.520 So you got to see her for three months.

00:02:56.900 So what are you guys thinking?

00:02:57.420 For three months?

00:02:58.060 Yeah, yeah.

00:02:58.580 Cool, cool.

00:02:59.220 I think three months.

00:02:59.760 You think that's enough?

00:03:00.700 You can marry a girl three months? 0.99

00:03:02.020 No.

00:03:02.240 No.

00:03:02.560 No, you can't.

00:03:03.300 Oh, okay.

00:03:03.720 Three months.

00:03:05.100 But you know why you can't.

00:03:06.400 A lot of women are chameleons. 1.00

00:03:07.620 No, 100%.

00:03:08.500 Yeah, trust me, they can.

00:03:10.280 100%.

00:03:10.880 Shape shift.

00:03:11.460 How, how, have you ever dated a girl for three months and she changes completely?

00:03:15.120 Yes.

00:03:15.560 Yes.

00:03:15.860 You know when the biggest change of a woman happens? 1.00

00:03:19.780 Why?

00:03:20.100 When she has a baby.

00:03:21.200 For me, that's when I see the biggest change in a woman. 1.00

00:03:24.120 So you won't even really know your woman until she has a child properly. 0.87

00:03:27.300 That's what I believe.

00:03:27.900 So in order to find a good woman, you have to get her pregnant? 1.00

00:03:30.600 No, you don't have to.

00:03:31.640 But I'm saying.

00:03:32.080 Don't worry about that.

00:03:32.500 No, you don't have to.

00:03:35.720 Because there's certain things you'll see.

00:03:36.920 But I'm saying from my experience, I have three kids in it.

00:03:40.120 So I saw the biggest change when the woman had a child. 1.00

00:03:43.780 Okay.

00:03:44.540 So how long should you see her before you marry her, knock her up, whatever? 0.99

00:03:48.820 I don't know about marry her, knock her up. 1.00

00:03:50.540 Three months is a good time to determine whether she's being genuine.

00:03:53.540 If she's wearing a mask or not.

00:03:54.940 So you got to see her for three months in order to date her?

00:03:57.740 Like, what's the...

00:03:58.380 I mean, I don't think, as he said, you can't really determine anyone as the true person

00:04:02.940 as they're being genuine as they say they are for like the first three months, January.

00:04:07.080 If you've lived with someone, that's different.

00:04:09.500 If you move in with someone, you can see the truth, like, a lot quicker.

00:04:11.980 Actually, can I...

00:04:13.220 I'm sorry.

00:04:14.140 I'm a little ADD sometimes.

00:04:15.420 No, go on.

00:04:15.780 When do you guys expect to sleep with her? 0.94

00:04:19.120 You know what?

00:04:20.520 That's subjective.

00:04:21.680 You see that question there, yeah?

00:04:23.240 It is very subjective, yeah?

00:04:25.460 In general.

00:04:26.380 Are you saying expect?

00:04:27.300 Yeah, expectation is a big word.

00:04:28.640 I don't have an expectation.

00:04:29.720 I don't have an expectation.

00:04:30.860 They expect straight away.

00:04:31.740 You know what?

00:04:33.560 I'll be honest, yeah?

00:04:34.860 I don't think there's too much of...

00:04:36.840 It's not a problem if you sleep with a woman the first night 1.00

00:04:39.020 or you sleep with a woman two months down the line

00:04:41.340 because a man can move different.

00:04:42.480 Man can wait...

00:04:43.180 Sleep with her as soon as you can.

00:04:46.460 You know what it is?

00:04:47.660 Because you can sleep with a woman straight away 0.99

00:04:50.140 and have a great connection and a great relationship with her

00:04:52.500 or a woman can hold out for six months and whatever 1.00

00:04:55.700 and there's a man out here that will sit there for six months

00:04:57.900 and bust out.

00:04:59.400 Do you get what I'm saying?

00:05:00.240 All right.

00:05:00.580 How long is too long?

00:05:02.120 I need hands, okay?

00:05:03.940 How long is too long?

00:05:05.760 No matter how good the girl is, you ain't waiting. 0.98

00:05:08.260 This is ridiculous.

00:05:08.860 I think three months is the max to wait.

00:05:11.340 That's why I want hands for the max.

00:05:13.380 Are you waiting one?

00:05:14.220 All right.

00:05:14.800 Wait, wait, wait.

00:05:16.040 He's coming.

00:05:17.720 I need hands.

00:05:18.860 Are we waiting a week?

00:05:20.180 Is that okay?

00:05:21.220 All right.

00:05:21.640 Yeah, I'll wait a week.

00:05:23.080 I need you to go.

00:05:24.800 Put your hand up when it's too long.

00:05:26.520 Yeah, yeah.

00:05:26.940 All right.

00:05:27.740 Two weeks.

00:05:29.480 Three weeks.

00:05:31.540 So you're putting in three weeks?

00:05:33.240 It depends on the context.

00:05:34.680 I mean, has she made other people wait?

00:05:37.320 You don't know.

00:05:38.300 You'll never know that. 1.00

00:05:39.440 Yeah, that's a stupid point. 1.00

00:05:40.080 You'll never know that. 1.00

00:05:40.740 You don't know.

00:05:41.940 I'm not going to be the one that waits.

00:05:43.820 I'm not going to be the one that waits.

00:05:45.840 I mean, like, how old is she? 0.74

00:05:49.120 I mean, she's some kind of born-again virgin.

00:05:51.960 I don't know.

00:05:53.180 I'm not out of interest.

00:05:54.980 You're getting a girl from first date, like, so you don't know.

00:05:58.560 You've just met her off the street, whatever, dating app, whatever.

00:06:01.860 So you have to determine.

00:06:02.980 All right, so three weeks you can wait.

00:06:04.480 You're not.

00:06:05.800 He's, okay, four weeks.

00:06:07.400 Four weeks too long for anyone?

00:06:09.320 No, five weeks.

00:06:11.140 Okay, two months too long to sleep with her?

00:06:14.740 The two months is the max after that.

00:06:17.560 All right.

00:06:17.920 Two months.

00:06:18.480 I might lose two months for me.

00:06:20.580 Yeah, I get bored easily.

00:06:21.860 So after two months, I might.

00:06:23.240 Two months.

00:06:24.040 Yeah, I'll go with two to three months.

00:06:25.720 Two to three months.

00:06:26.560 All right, so three.

00:06:27.460 All right, so you guys too.

00:06:28.360 You said she could have three.

00:06:28.960 But I don't know, but the thing is, I've done three months when I was young.

00:06:32.120 Maybe when I'm older now, I don't know.

00:06:34.300 That's why I'm in.

00:06:36.040 But when I had the three months, I think that relationship lasted.

00:06:39.220 Now you meet a nice woman. 0.57

00:06:41.900 You think you're looking for a good woman. 1.00

00:06:43.740 If she's the one, then I could wait like a year, but I have to be convinced.

00:06:46.980 Yeah.

00:06:47.440 Yeah, no, I don't care.

00:06:48.580 If she's the one, one.

00:06:49.260 How do you know she's the one, though?

00:06:50.380 But then you have to know.

00:06:51.500 You have to know, you have to be in her life for that whole time.

00:06:55.700 I understand her.

00:06:56.440 How old are you again?

00:06:57.640 I'm 29.

00:06:58.440 Okay, you're 29.

00:06:59.620 So how old women do you usually date? 0.99

00:07:01.920 Around my age.

00:07:02.880 So if she's not a virgin, will you wait for a year for her?

00:07:06.120 If she's not a virgin, will I wait for a year? 0.61

00:07:08.040 If I was, yeah, I could do.

00:07:10.540 I could do.

00:07:11.040 It's not likely.

00:07:12.100 I could do.

00:07:12.760 Are you sleeping with other people at the time?

00:07:14.400 You're waiting.

00:07:14.920 Yeah.

00:07:15.140 I don't know what she's waiting for.

00:07:25.380 I'm saying I don't know what.

00:07:26.200 That's a good question.

00:07:27.100 Okay.

00:07:27.360 Okay.

00:07:27.760 So you got a year.

00:07:29.240 You went from two months' hands to a year.

00:07:31.420 Yeah, but I'm saying it depends on how much.

00:07:33.800 All right.

00:07:36.000 The average, the nice, I don't know, your favorite girl that you've been on a date with.

00:07:41.020 Let's just take her. 1.00

00:07:41.820 You guys can think of.

00:07:42.840 Whoever your favorite ex is, whatever.

00:07:45.140 All right.

00:07:45.360 Would you have waited a year for her?

00:07:48.280 Yeah, I did.

00:07:49.160 Oh, you did.

00:07:49.820 Okay.

00:07:51.160 So you'll wait a year.

00:07:52.780 You'll wait two months.

00:07:53.660 Two months.

00:07:54.460 You'll wait what?

00:07:56.080 When you're saying, now you're saying favorite girl.

00:07:58.760 I would be out.

00:07:59.880 He says you're looking for a wifey. 0.99

00:08:01.820 I'm just, I was just trying to get how you visualize something.

00:08:02.820 But you know what?

00:08:03.060 I would wait.

00:08:03.740 I would wait.

00:08:04.580 But one of the, if you're talking about favorites, it didn't last, it didn't take long.

00:08:08.700 It was first time.

00:08:09.720 No, but how long would you wait for a girl you liked?

00:08:12.120 That's what I'm saying.

00:08:13.660 I just use that as, you know, give you.

00:08:15.680 I don't know.

00:08:16.180 I can't answer that question.

00:08:17.480 Please answer the question.

00:08:18.560 Yeah, but it's hard for me to ask.

00:08:19.580 You're here to answer my questions.

00:08:20.920 No, 100%.

00:08:21.980 This is what you're here for.

00:08:23.080 How long would I wait?

00:08:24.160 Give me an answer, please.

00:08:25.460 It doesn't have to be set in stone.

00:08:26.640 I would wait two months.

00:08:27.280 Yeah, two months.

00:08:27.720 Okay.

00:08:28.040 Thank you.

00:08:28.740 Thank you so much.

00:08:29.640 So you're like three weeks, roughly a month, a month.

00:08:33.140 Yeah, three weeks.

00:08:33.640 So one month, two months, a year.

00:08:35.640 We got to.

00:08:36.360 A year, you know.

00:08:37.460 Okay, so step one.

00:08:39.200 Sleep with her as soon as possible and wait up to. 0.72

00:08:45.520 A year?

00:08:46.500 Up to one month to a year, depending on the guy.

00:08:53.360 A year.

00:08:53.780 Because what if you wait a year and you don't like it?

00:08:55.960 Mm.

00:08:56.440 Mm.

00:08:56.960 Good point.

00:08:57.720 I wasn't only in that one, into that one.

00:09:00.640 So you know what I'm saying?

00:09:01.720 Yeah.

00:09:04.120 Okay.

00:09:04.620 Well, okay.

00:09:05.220 So don't wait.

00:09:05.940 Now we're going back.

00:09:06.880 Don't wait.

00:09:07.640 I don't know.

00:09:08.220 Just for him, though.

00:09:09.240 He's waiting.

00:09:09.800 Yeah, he's waiting.

00:09:10.160 Okay, so next step.

00:09:11.580 Okay, so when should you ask her to make you a coffee?

00:09:15.240 That's what we have.

00:09:16.820 I don't even drink coffee like that.

00:09:18.720 Okay, so what else?

00:09:19.800 How else do you vet for a good woman? 1.00

00:09:22.840 You know what?

00:09:25.140 To vet a good woman, yeah, I think you need, it depends on the communication and the conversation 0.98

00:09:29.040 that you have.

00:09:29.560 So going coffee is, I agree.

00:09:33.200 And the maddest thing is, the girl that I'm seeing now, this is the first time I've ever

00:09:36.380 gone coffee and we had a mad conversation in Costa over coffee.

00:09:39.240 And I've never done that before, which is mad.

00:09:42.440 I'm telling you.

00:09:43.460 But once you have a good, through conversation and through certain things, a man would get

00:09:47.820 an idea.

00:09:48.800 So adding on to what Romans is saying with family values, traditional, maybe even Pharaoh,

00:09:54.100 God, like conversation with her, you will understand a lot more about her.

00:09:57.740 Do you know what I'm saying?

00:09:58.100 If she could, can she even conversate?

00:09:59.640 Can we have a proper conversation together?

00:10:01.420 You know what I'm saying?

00:10:02.940 Okay, so take on coffee date, sleep with her as soon as possible. 0.99

00:10:07.580 Coffee date after I finish waiting.

00:10:10.240 Oh, oh, so that, okay.

00:10:12.680 You're getting on coffee date after you finish waiting.

00:10:14.960 That's a waste of time.

00:10:15.800 Nah, man, you gotta go first.

00:10:17.580 Okay.

00:10:19.260 Go on coffee date, either before or after you sleep with her.

00:10:26.140 Can I just say really quickly, I promise, the reason why you could say that now is because

00:10:31.600 you're in a position to be open, to be receptive to her as well.

00:10:37.020 You know, some guys would be like, what, you know, like we're going clubbing or, you know,

00:10:41.180 it depends on the man as well.

00:10:43.280 Yeah, 100%.

00:10:43.980 I'm not putting blame on the man, but it's a two-way street.

00:10:47.040 A lot of Purley's list man has.

00:10:48.640 So I've probably gone through dating women, gone through this, gone through that.

00:10:52.820 So now when I meet someone, I can analyse a good woman. 1.00

00:10:56.200 Do you get what I'm saying?

00:10:57.180 Yeah.

00:10:57.480 And it's through action.

00:10:58.420 I feel like, to your question of where's all the good women gone here, I feel like a

00:11:02.020 lot of good women don't have the values of back in the day. 1.00

00:11:05.460 So women, I don't know back in the day because I wasn't born back in the day, but I think

00:11:08.600 a lot of women don't want to show wife credentials before they're a wife. 1.00

00:11:12.400 So they will hold things back, expecting you to put a ring on their finger because it's

00:11:17.940 like, oh, I can do this, but I'm not going to do these until I'm your wife.

00:11:21.060 But man, I'm thinking, man, I'm thinking, bro, if you're going to, cool, there's other

00:11:25.140 girl out here that's going to show me what a wife is. 1.00

00:11:27.700 But imagine acting like a wife and doing full throttle, like cooking's different, but full 0.99

00:11:31.060 throttle acting like a wife for you to go and see someone else or play around. 1.00

00:11:34.300 But if you don't do that, the man's gone.

00:11:36.380 So do you want to show him, do you want to show him that you're a wife?

00:11:39.540 Because a man coming into it is showing you're ready, I'm a husband. 0.99

00:11:42.040 If you want a promotion, don't you do the job that he gives you first?

00:11:45.820 Or do you say promote me with no work experience?

00:11:49.100 Because you know what?

00:11:50.480 Okay, one second.

00:11:51.380 Me and you are in a relationship or we're building up a relationship and then we go out

00:11:55.660 and then, I don't know, a gal beat you up or something happens. 0.98

00:11:59.900 I'm here to protect you, but I just stand there and just watch you.

00:12:03.140 When we go home now, what are you going to say to me?

00:12:05.020 No, no one would.

00:12:06.380 No, no, no, don't say no one.

00:12:08.000 You can't say no one.

00:12:09.100 Because there's man out here that's not going to protect you.

00:12:11.360 So our job is to protect someone.

00:12:13.660 A stranger would jump in both and protect someone.

00:12:15.660 Okay, forget the semantics.

00:12:17.140 My job is to protect and provide for you.

00:12:18.940 If I don't protect you when I'm out with you and you're rolling out with me,

00:12:22.000 when we go home, what are you saying to me?

00:12:25.540 As in a fighting situation?

00:12:26.960 That's not a good example.

00:12:28.020 Okay, whatever the situation where you need protecting

00:12:30.860 and I don't protect you in that situation,

00:12:33.420 what are you doing after that situation?

00:12:35.020 I can't answer that question because I don't know what you mean by protecting.

00:12:37.440 You're deciding that he's not the one.

00:12:40.240 That doesn't make sense.

00:12:40.780 It's happened to me before.

00:12:42.060 There was an accident in Costa Rica.

00:12:44.220 There was a canoeing thing, a kayak thing,

00:12:46.540 and he didn't show up.

00:12:48.400 I really questioned my future with this guy.

00:12:51.140 For me, it was done.

00:12:52.240 Done.

00:12:52.700 Of course.

00:12:53.120 Of course it's done.

00:12:54.200 That's different.

00:12:54.960 He didn't show up.

00:12:55.640 I was polite about it.

00:12:56.720 He didn't, but if you don't show your wife credentials to the man,

00:13:00.040 what do you think he's going to do?

00:13:00.820 The thing is, there's an extent, there's a limit.

00:13:02.860 You can't do everything because you don't know if that man's serious yet.

00:13:05.720 You don't know what's going on.

00:13:06.760 So you can't do everything.

00:13:07.960 And I'm not, you're not out here proofing that.

00:13:09.360 He's serious when he approached you.

00:13:10.600 Listen, he needs to prove to you that he's a good husband.

00:13:12.720 But that's fear though.

00:13:13.820 No, he doesn't. 0.96

00:13:14.140 What the hell? 0.96

00:13:14.600 Yes? 0.98

00:13:14.900 Wait, wait, that's fear though.

00:13:16.660 Like that's the thing.

00:13:17.280 Like you're going into something in bad faith.

00:13:19.120 Oh, I can't do too much for him.

00:13:20.900 Otherwise he might not pick me.

00:13:22.740 Why give him a tough anyway?

00:13:23.780 Yeah.

00:13:24.020 But, but it's like, you're going into things in fear and you don't get anything worth having. 0.99

00:13:28.140 If you go into shit scared, like you can get your heart broke. 0.98

00:13:32.020 Like it happens. 0.99

00:13:33.120 Scared money don't make no money.

00:13:34.540 Yeah.

00:13:34.980 But it's like you have to, in order to, okay.

00:13:37.020 In order to, to start this whole podcast, I had to invest first, but women want all the 1.00

00:13:42.000 outcomes without having to invest anything.

00:13:44.660 I feel like it's a two way thing.

00:13:46.820 You didn't hear what she just said, a husband has to come to her already. 1.00

00:13:49.940 So it's a, it's a two way thing.

00:13:51.320 So then why does the wife have to, why do you have to come? 1.00

00:13:52.880 So don't you think, Paul, it's a two way thing.

00:13:54.320 So if I'm, if I'm, it's 50, 50, and then you're both on the same page, that's different.

00:13:58.800 Of course I can do that.

00:13:59.460 So are you going to show your wife?

00:14:00.320 I'm not going to do the most and you're doing the least.

00:14:01.960 Okay.

00:14:02.160 So I have a question.

00:14:03.020 Do you, when you go on dates, who pays?

00:14:05.300 He does, but I will pay.

00:14:06.460 I can pay.

00:14:07.140 No, I didn't say you can pay.

00:14:08.320 I said who pays?

00:14:09.420 The guy will.

00:14:10.340 Okay.

00:14:10.620 So why does he have to invest in you before you, before you've slept with him?

00:14:13.880 But can I tell you something, Paul?

00:14:14.940 Why?

00:14:15.200 Why?

00:14:15.440 He has to, he has to, no, no, no.

00:14:16.680 Like we have to think about this.

00:14:18.120 Why does he have to invest in you before you've slept with him? 0.71

00:14:20.380 But I've done that before to men.

00:14:21.640 I've paid on first dates before.

00:14:22.920 I've offered like, you know, because I have the kindness of my heart.

00:14:25.120 Is that about offering?

00:14:25.640 Is that about offering?

00:14:27.180 I've done it.

00:14:28.060 Offered and done it.

00:14:28.700 I'm not talking about what you have done.

00:14:30.120 I'm talking about what typically happens.

00:14:31.880 You're a pretty girl.

00:14:32.580 I know these, I know these men pay for you.

00:14:34.520 I feel like men, I feel like men are in a stereotypical mindset where they feel like they're the big,

00:14:40.900 they're the big man.

00:14:41.560 They have to be responsible for paying for a first date and stuff like that. 1.00

00:14:44.740 So I feel like that's why they do it automatically.

00:14:46.600 Because men are traditional.

00:14:48.320 Men are more, you're, you're, you're, you're right.

00:14:50.020 Men are in more traditional roles than women.

00:14:52.860 So it's like the men are coming to you in a traditional role.

00:14:55.660 They're taking you on a date.

00:14:56.600 They're paying.

00:14:57.500 But you're, you're saying I can't be a traditional woman for him.

00:15:00.260 I can't give him wifely duties. 0.93

00:15:01.480 When off the bat, before he even knows if he's going to get sex from you, which is what men want, right? 0.90

00:15:08.080 He's paying.

00:15:09.280 £200, eight nothing to a man.

00:15:11.000 Let's be honest.

00:15:11.760 £200, eight nothing to a man.

00:15:13.320 Yes, it is.

00:15:13.800 Let's be honest.

00:15:15.160 £200, eight nothing to a man.

00:15:17.860 Hold on, hold on.

00:15:18.480 Let me just, a show of hands here.

00:15:20.760 Is £200 nothing to you guys?

00:15:24.000 Raise your hand if £200 is nothing to you.

00:15:25.500 If the investment goes right, it's great.

00:15:27.000 If it doesn't go right, it's a lot.

00:15:28.580 Okay, okay.

00:15:28.900 If one is £200 and nothing.

00:15:31.700 So none of these men are men?

00:15:34.260 Of course they're men, but there's different calibers of men.

00:15:36.480 Okay, they're not the right calibers of men.

00:15:38.200 Yeah, what's the calibers?

00:15:39.300 Yeah, what's the calibers?

00:15:40.420 What's that about?

00:15:41.100 No, but I just, you know, I have a certain type of man.

00:15:45.200 Like, I like a man that's, you know, I want a man that's like a leader in a high position.

00:15:50.620 That can teach me because I want to be in that place too.

00:15:52.940 And you're willing to show him nothing.

00:15:55.640 No, listen, like I said, £200 ain't nothing to a man.

00:15:59.320 You could show him everything and he would just, and he could possibly not be serious

00:16:03.160 of you and be speaking to another girl or sleeping with someone else. 0.75

00:16:05.920 And that's the only reason.

00:16:07.960 Until I know that you're serious, I can surrender to you.

00:16:12.080 So you're not even respecting a man's pocket on the first day? 0.84

00:16:14.780 Like I said, £200 is nothing to a man that has to do.

00:16:17.540 You don't respect the money because you just said it's nothing.

00:16:20.000 Because you're looking at it like, bro, man is going to show the bread.

00:16:21.980 Unless he states he's not able to afford to go on a date or whatever.

00:16:25.820 No man is going to state anything.

00:16:28.220 Man could have his last £200 and spend at the last...

00:16:30.120 Bro, you don't date when you're broke.

00:16:31.020 No, no.

00:16:31.620 You don't date when you're broke.

00:16:32.540 Wait, one second, one second.

00:16:33.240 You can't say that because man are dating when they're broke.

00:16:35.480 Well, that would never be me.

00:16:37.400 What do you mean?

00:16:37.960 If he doesn't want to spend £200 on a date, like what?

00:16:41.700 No, I mean...

00:16:42.400 You need £200 on a first date?

00:16:44.400 I tell him I'm here.

00:16:45.100 For what?

00:16:46.020 But that's...

00:16:46.740 I didn't ask.

00:16:47.900 No, you said...

00:16:49.140 I didn't ask for it.

00:16:50.640 No, you said £200 ain't nothing to a man.

00:16:53.280 To a man, yeah. 0.97

00:16:53.720 And then when all of these guys said, no, that is something to me, you shat on them. 0.96

00:16:59.020 You said they're not a high enough caliber of man.

00:17:01.680 No, personally, but I'm saying from my experience, people have paid.

00:17:06.960 And I've been on dates and I've never spoke to a person again after and they've spent

00:17:10.120 a lot of money.

00:17:10.740 Do you know what I mean?

00:17:11.300 What I'm saying is, yeah, you're not valuing their time and money because you think that

00:17:15.380 every single one of them that's spending that money, whether it's £100 or £200, you

00:17:18.800 think all of them have got it.

00:17:20.160 There's some man that probably have taken you out on a date and that's their last date

00:17:22.480 of money.

00:17:22.640 Probably, but I'll never know.

00:17:23.520 Exactly.

00:17:24.040 So then, but you're still not respecting their money.

00:17:25.960 I don't think about it like that.

00:17:27.540 Exactly.

00:17:28.100 Because you're still saying that you can't give them too much, but they're spending £200 on

00:17:32.940 you on a first date.

00:17:33.780 But I don't think, the way guys go on, they act like money's nothing to them and they're,

00:17:37.960 do you know what I mean?

00:17:38.540 So why would I be so conscious?

00:17:40.360 Like, unless I love you and I know about your financial situation, it'll be completely different.

00:17:43.720 No, okay, but this is the thing, you're just not appreciative.

00:17:46.100 Because you're saying, no, you're not, I'm listening to you speak.

00:17:49.220 Does she come off appreciative to anyone?

00:17:51.120 No, no, not at all.

00:17:51.940 I'm not an ungrateful person, like for real, for real.

00:17:53.720 Okay, but I'm listening to you speak.

00:17:55.980 If I liked a guy and I spoke to him on a level and he came to me and said, I can't even afford

00:18:00.380 to take you out in a certain place, I would not have a problem with that, believe me.

00:18:03.620 No man is going to do that.

00:18:04.160 Believe me.

00:18:04.620 But you just said, it ain't nothing to a man.

00:18:07.900 And when all the guys in here said, no, that is something to me.

00:18:13.100 To them.

00:18:13.860 You said they are not the caliber of man.

00:18:16.360 You insulted them.

00:18:17.500 No, not really.

00:18:18.700 No, I said broke men don't date.

00:18:21.940 That's what I said.

00:18:22.480 Okay, so a man's broke if he doesn't want to spend 200 pounds.

00:18:25.480 Again, I'm from a 1% top earning family.

00:18:29.800 Broke men can just not want to spend 200 pounds on someone they don't know.

00:18:33.640 They don't have to, yeah, but I don't ask for it.

00:18:35.440 It's not that bad.

00:18:35.800 But you know what?

00:18:36.560 If a man really likes you and he's into you, he would spend his last 200 pounds on you

00:18:40.580 without you knowing.

00:18:41.520 But I would not have known that.

00:18:42.540 Because they have money and they go on like, oh, everything's fine.

00:18:45.760 No, but it's not like a man's going on like anything.

00:18:49.080 A man's just not going, we're not going to openly say, oh, we're going to the dinner table. 0.95

00:18:52.500 The bill comes out.

00:18:53.240 Oh, you know what?

00:18:53.660 I can't afford this.

00:18:54.500 But some man, I don't know.

00:18:55.020 I've never been in a situation.

00:18:56.240 You're never going to be in that.

00:18:57.260 I've never been.

00:18:57.980 So I can't relate to that.

00:18:58.920 What's your name?

00:18:59.540 Royal.

00:19:00.140 Royal.

00:19:00.900 You're never going to be in that situation where a man's going to be at the table and 1.00

00:19:03.300 tell you, yo, I haven't got money to pay for this.

00:19:04.120 I had one guy say to me that, like, go for coffee.

00:19:06.880 And, you know, I think he was testing me.

00:19:09.280 But I was fine with that because I actually liked him.

00:19:11.100 Like, it's not an issue.

00:19:11.760 I don't care about the money.

00:19:13.420 No, he never.

00:19:13.860 But he said that, you know, I'm not in a great position right now.

00:19:16.580 And that's fine because I knew he was intelligent.

00:19:18.340 And I knew that he was someone I could build with because he's very smart.

00:19:21.260 He just wasn't in the right place at the time.

00:19:23.180 Now, I didn't have an issue with that.

00:19:24.580 Unfortunately, it didn't work out.

00:19:25.840 Why didn't it work out?

00:19:26.560 Well, he's Muslim.

00:19:29.740 Bro, it's not about money.

00:19:30.800 Like, I'm not a shallow person.

00:19:32.560 So please, let's not do that.

00:19:34.020 Like, I know I'm not a shallow person.

00:19:35.220 We're just repeating back what you're saying.

00:19:36.960 But I'm speaking from my own experience so far.

00:19:39.260 I can't say anything else but what I've experienced.

00:19:40.720 But there could have been at least two of them.

00:19:42.280 So I've never had a man that's not been able to pay for something that I'm aware of.

00:19:45.860 And he has.

00:19:46.580 I've never had that.

00:19:47.060 Yeah, no, that you're aware of.

00:19:48.360 There could have been at least one man that took you on that date that was his last dime.

00:19:51.720 Yeah, and I would never have knew.

00:19:53.280 And I'm compassionate about that.

00:19:54.800 No, you have to respect that.

00:19:55.580 I do respect that.

00:19:57.100 If you think broke men shouldn't date, then should fat women not date? 0.54

00:20:03.340 Why does Bill always talk to that?

00:20:06.500 I just don't know if we have the same energy.

00:20:08.260 Do you know what it is?

00:20:08.880 I feel like beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

00:20:11.040 No, you can't change up your eye of the beholder.

00:20:12.560 Sorry, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, period.

00:20:14.740 So there's a guy that might be attracted to an overweight woman. 0.99

00:20:17.120 Money is in the eye of the beholder.

00:20:20.260 Listen.

00:20:20.760 Money is in the eye of the beholder. 1.00

00:20:22.320 Listen, if your mentality is above average and you're broke, I fuck with you. 1.00

00:20:27.280 Because I know you've got potential and that we can build together. 1.00

00:20:29.800 We can be power couple.

00:20:30.880 But what is potential?

00:20:32.120 It's money later.

00:20:33.200 Like, that's all it is.

00:20:34.380 Potential is money later.

00:20:35.640 It's more about life.

00:20:36.940 Okay, if you meet Brokey at 25 and you're with him for five years, he's still Brokey, unemployed.

00:20:44.620 What, you're staying?

00:20:45.500 Say that again, sorry.

00:20:46.360 Brokey, he meet a Brokey guy, 25, and he's unemployed.

00:20:50.020 And now he's 30.

00:20:52.240 You're still with him.

00:20:53.160 He's unemployed.

00:20:53.760 Are you staying or going?

00:20:55.040 No, because you're not pushing me to my limit.

00:20:56.780 No, I wouldn't.

00:20:57.740 What, five?

00:20:58.180 You wouldn't ride out five years?

00:20:59.340 If he is unemployed and broke for five years and doesn't want to make a move, I can't be with you.

00:21:03.540 How long does it take to create a proper business and be successful in life?

00:21:06.160 But if you're unemployed, not doing nothing.

00:21:08.440 Girl, I don't think you should.

00:21:10.680 Like, don't let him.

00:21:11.360 I forgot I'm unemployed for five years now. 0.96

00:21:13.760 What the hell?

00:21:13.920 No, not unemployed. 0.96

00:21:15.500 I said unemployed.

00:21:16.280 Oh, you said unemployed.

00:21:16.960 Okay, yeah.

00:21:17.360 So if he's stagnant.

00:21:18.960 I'm with you.

00:21:20.560 But my point is you're lying.

00:21:23.660 Like, it's lying.

00:21:25.260 Yeah, you're just lying.

00:21:26.160 Why?

00:21:26.420 Because you're like, oh, if he has the right mentality, I don't care about money.

00:21:29.600 Okay, but I said, like, all that ambition translates to is money later.

00:21:33.940 So when women say, oh, I don't care about money. 1.00

00:21:36.140 Yes, it does.

00:21:37.160 Because women do leave if the men don't make enough money. 1.00

00:21:41.600 If women out earn the men, they leave. 1.00

00:21:43.580 The average woman.

00:21:44.380 But I feel like the average woman will leave. 0.99

00:21:47.020 But you are the average woman. 0.99

00:21:48.740 I mean, the average mindset woman. 1.00

00:21:50.340 The average mindset woman. 0.99

00:21:51.540 You have the average mindset.

00:21:52.280 No, I don't.

00:21:52.980 I don't.

00:21:53.360 I definitely don't.

00:21:54.200 I definitely don't.

00:21:54.980 You just said that.

00:21:55.840 And everyone tells me I don't.

00:21:57.040 I'm different.

00:21:57.480 You just said that.

00:21:58.460 No, I'm telling you.

00:21:59.860 You're different.

00:22:00.640 I promise you.

00:22:01.380 Okay, what makes you different?

00:22:02.560 Because I'm just, I feel like I'm very deep.

00:22:05.340 And I've just learned.

00:22:07.100 I've really taken time out to study life.

00:22:09.340 And to understand how life is.

00:22:11.460 How old are you?

00:22:12.240 I'm 32 now.

00:22:13.180 Okay.

00:22:14.020 Last month.

00:22:14.720 So I feel like I've taken time out to go inwards and to learn about life and to just, you know, be more, not logical, but be more on point.

00:22:24.420 I don't know how to explain it, but I don't think my mindset's average.

00:22:27.120 I don't think I will ever be average.

00:22:28.480 And I really believe in myself.

00:22:30.080 So I'm a different.

00:22:30.920 Okay.

00:22:31.260 So you're, you're a hundred percent average.

00:22:33.440 You're a comedian.

00:22:34.220 No, no, no.

00:22:35.200 No, she's a comedian though. 1.00

00:22:36.520 No, no, no.

00:22:37.000 Look at me.

00:22:37.420 Look at me.

00:22:37.780 Dead serious.

00:22:38.820 Average.

00:22:39.460 Average.

00:22:39.760 Girl.

00:22:39.920 And that's not an insult.

00:22:41.060 I think I'm an average chick.

00:22:43.240 I don't think you are.

00:22:44.320 Because I even said before I came on the show, she's a, she, she's a badass. 1.00

00:22:47.340 Like she's built all this.

00:22:48.280 See, you're lying again.

00:22:49.240 No, but Romeo, didn't I say that to you?

00:22:50.980 I've been talking about that stuff before I met you.

00:22:53.320 But, but I'm saying, I'm saying like the way you speak, okay.

00:22:57.000 And I'm telling you, I've met women with a top 10%, 20. 0.98

00:22:59.900 Do you know how many women I speak to? 0.97

00:23:01.760 Hundreds.

00:23:02.560 Hundreds.

00:23:03.160 And I'm saying like, I've met women with a top 10, 20% mindset.

00:23:06.140 I'm not saying it's horrible, but I'm saying an average chick when it comes to mindset.

00:23:10.200 Do you know what I think?

00:23:10.860 I just think it's because I don't, I don't, I think money's not, I don't,

00:23:13.120 I don't think money is important.

00:23:14.940 So it's nothing to me.

00:23:16.020 But see, you've contradicted yourself like 20 times in this conversation.

00:23:19.480 It's very chaotic to like speak to you.

00:23:21.780 Like it's very chaotic because I don't really understand what you're saying.

00:23:24.540 Okay.

00:23:24.940 Because on one hand, you kind of, we're speaking down to the men in the room

00:23:28.800 because they don't want to spend 200 pounds on a date.

00:23:30.960 Then you're saying money is nothing.

00:23:32.580 Do you see how that's confusing?

00:23:33.440 I mean, money is nothing.

00:23:33.960 So paying 200 pounds, what is that?

00:23:35.560 I don't, that's fine.

00:23:36.760 Okay.

00:23:37.060 It's nothing.

00:23:37.700 That's some money.

00:23:38.500 Because they said I don't appreciate it.

00:23:39.980 And I do, but it's not, it's not, I don't think about it.

00:23:42.660 Because it's money is money.

00:23:43.880 It's what it is.

00:23:45.040 Because you don't have to.

00:23:45.720 That's what I mean.

00:23:46.440 Okay.

00:23:46.960 Do you get what I'm saying?

00:23:47.720 Can you spend.

00:23:48.160 I understand.

00:23:48.640 Do you get what I'm saying?

00:23:49.680 I know.

00:23:50.580 I understand what you're saying.

00:23:52.020 I just don't think you understand how it sounds.

00:23:54.200 And it sounds really unappreciated.

00:23:56.360 Then it is what it is.

00:23:59.220 I can't change my opinion.

00:24:00.680 It is what it is.

00:24:01.340 Can you spend 200 pounds every night on dinner on yourself?

00:24:04.760 Me, I spend a lot of money.

00:24:05.840 Not every night on yourself.

00:24:07.640 No, I can't.

00:24:08.260 Why?

00:24:08.900 Because that's irresponsible.

00:24:11.540 But his money is nothing.

00:24:12.200 I invest my money.

00:24:13.300 My money is nothing.

00:24:14.020 I invest my money.

00:24:15.160 I invest money.

00:24:16.520 So what about the man that invests money?

00:24:18.560 That's his business.

00:24:18.980 I didn't ask him to take me out and take me to a place that cost 200 pounds.

00:24:21.780 I didn't ask for that.

00:24:22.700 So it's not my problem.

00:24:24.200 You don't care about the man's money.

00:24:25.520 The thing is, well, I don't ask for money.

00:24:28.020 I don't ask a man for money.

00:24:28.960 I've never asked him.

00:24:29.540 I've never had a man.

00:24:30.600 Well, I've had a long-term relationship where we live together.

00:24:33.160 But I've never relied on a man for anything in my whole entire life.

00:24:36.400 So wait, can I ask you a question?

00:24:38.180 Okay.

00:24:38.460 So, all right.

00:24:40.780 You've never been proposed to, not really?

00:24:43.620 Not like that, no.

00:24:44.700 Okay.

00:24:45.160 Okay.

00:24:45.480 So if you had this amazing mindset, you're 32.

00:24:50.480 Do you have kids?

00:24:51.600 No.

00:24:52.280 Okay.

00:24:52.640 So do you know your chance is below 50% of having a child?

00:24:56.360 Possibly.

00:24:56.760 If you're single at 30, your chance is like 40% of having a kid.

00:25:00.820 So you're more likely to never have children.

00:25:02.580 That's statistically.

00:25:02.960 And at 32, that means you're three years away from geriatric pregnancy.

00:25:07.160 Whoa.

00:25:07.680 So that means if you're single today, you've got to find a guy in three years to agree to marry you

00:25:13.760 and agree to get in a long-term relationship, marry you, and then have a kid or just get pregnant.

00:25:20.540 So the odds.

00:25:21.640 Statistically.

00:25:22.420 Statistically.

00:25:23.020 Right, right, statistically.

00:25:24.180 Statistically.

00:25:24.860 Okay, okay, okay.

00:25:26.200 Based on facts.

00:25:26.860 So, and based off of like, so the last, you've been dating since, what, you were 18?

00:25:31.460 No, well, yeah.

00:25:32.840 Okay, so, so 10, 12, 14 years, you've been unsuccessful.

00:25:37.600 Wow.

00:25:38.860 Right?

00:25:39.620 Yeah, so you're single, right?

00:25:41.840 And I'm not claiming to be the all, like, I know everything, but I'm saying, how, how can

00:25:46.020 you say you're in the top?

00:25:47.120 Like, you have this amazing mindset if no men have picked your mindset.

00:25:50.800 And it's not looks, you're pretty.

00:25:52.460 My mindset changed at age 28.

00:25:54.760 So before that, I was a different person to who I am now.

00:25:56.980 So you, so you've had.

00:25:57.660 Four years ago.

00:25:58.360 Okay, so you've had four years to try out this mindset.

00:26:01.520 I haven't been dating.

00:26:02.540 And, and, okay.

00:26:03.460 I've been going through stuff.

00:26:04.740 Okay, so, and you've been accum, you've been going through things, so you've been accumulating

00:26:08.500 more trauma.

00:26:08.780 But I've been in one relationship, kind of, whatever you want to call it.

00:26:11.480 Okay, okay, where, where you were problematic.

00:26:14.140 I don't think that.

00:26:15.000 Because he's, because he's still on my phone to this day, so I must not have been that problematic. 0.89

00:26:17.900 Okay, for sex. 0.81

00:26:19.340 And like, I don't think he realized. 0.98

00:26:20.680 No, no, no.

00:26:21.340 But I'm not, but I'm not, but hold on. 0.56

00:26:22.820 I'm not easy to have sex.

00:26:23.860 I'm a pro, I'm really, really busy. 0.98

00:26:25.500 Okay, did he have sex with you? 0.88

00:26:28.260 Not, not straight away. 0.95

00:26:29.280 No, did he, did he ever have sex with you?

00:26:31.180 Yeah. 1.00

00:26:31.640 He's back for sex. 0.99

00:26:33.240 Okay, it's like, this is how men, this is how men, no. 0.99

00:26:36.000 No, no, no.

00:26:36.020 No makes things worse, you know.

00:26:37.260 No, okay, no.

00:26:38.200 No, no, no.

00:26:38.600 I'm telling you, girl, this is how guys see it.

00:26:40.460 Like, I've talked to so many dudes. 0.65

00:26:41.980 If they've had sex with you once. 0.55

00:26:43.360 But he can stick with other girls.

00:26:44.480 Maybe he's got money. 1.00

00:26:45.440 Maybe he liked having sex with you. 1.00

00:26:47.300 He's got money. 1.00

00:26:47.440 Okay. 1.00

00:26:47.760 Yeah, because my pussy's tight. 1.00

00:26:49.960 Wow. 1.00

00:26:50.320 Okay, okay.

00:26:50.980 Is this?

00:26:52.820 No.

00:26:54.280 No, I'm sorry, you're really, you're really.

00:26:56.580 You're in the danger zone.

00:26:57.800 What's that?

00:26:58.580 Sound like the book.

00:26:59.060 Can I just say, it wouldn't take three months to come to a decision on this one.

00:27:05.600 And you're so lovely.

00:27:06.960 Honestly, you have so much going for you.

00:27:08.760 I really like you.

00:27:09.760 Thank you.

00:27:10.240 But don't say things like that.

00:27:11.700 Like what?

00:27:12.340 No. 1.00

00:27:12.900 My pussy's tight. 1.00

00:27:13.820 Right. 1.00

00:27:14.240 Keep it for yourself.

00:27:15.780 I'm playing around that.

00:27:16.880 I'm just like, that's my current zone.

00:27:17.980 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

00:27:18.900 I'm just really outspoken.

00:27:19.860 I don't think you understand.

00:27:21.040 Okay, okay.

00:27:21.400 How is a husband going to hear that?

00:27:23.020 Yeah.

00:27:23.480 You just damped your chances even more.

00:27:25.320 But I'm not a hoe. 0.98

00:27:26.080 But I'm not a hoe. 1.00

00:27:27.200 Because loads of men now know your pussy's tight. 1.00

00:27:29.460 Wait, wait, wait, wait. 1.00

00:27:30.180 Can I ask you something?

00:27:31.940 Who did it?

00:27:32.480 Okay, okay.

00:27:33.140 Tell me who did it.

00:27:33.680 Okay, listen, listen, listen, listen.

00:27:35.500 Okay.

00:27:35.940 And I'm genuinely trying to help you.

00:27:37.680 I'm trying to help you.

00:27:38.640 So, seriously.

00:27:40.180 So, those are fake eyelashes?

00:27:42.400 Yeah.

00:27:42.560 Do you know what those stand for?

00:27:44.640 Oh, yeah.

00:27:45.140 Do you know what the history of those are?

00:27:46.520 No. 0.98

00:27:46.860 It's literally what hookers used to use to keep cum out of their eyes. 1.00

00:27:50.380 I could probably believe that. 0.99

00:27:51.800 Yeah, for sure.

00:27:52.460 Yeah, okay, okay.

00:27:53.220 Okay, so, and when men see that, they, like, hoop earrings, that signals to guys.

00:27:57.640 Yeah, yeah.

00:27:58.360 And yours aren't too bad.

00:27:59.880 But I'm saying, when you're saying, like, my tight, like, is that what you want your

00:28:03.700 wife and the mother of your kids to see? 0.98

00:28:06.180 But the thing is, that's my character.

00:28:07.700 I'm just a funny person.

00:28:08.720 Like, I'm really, like, outspoken.

00:28:09.900 I just, do you know what I mean?

00:28:10.680 And I know, I'm a, I like to think I'm funny, you know, a comedian.

00:28:14.520 But, like, there's some things that you really shouldn't say publicly if you want to be taken

00:28:18.520 seriously from a guy.

00:28:20.640 I think that, you know, if it's meant to be, it's meant to be, he's out there somewhere

00:28:25.940 and he'll appreciate who I am.

00:28:27.120 Do you think, do you think a broke, do you think a broke fat guy should say, oh, if it's

00:28:30.620 meant to be, women will like me? 0.99

00:28:33.300 Or do you think he should improve?

00:28:35.320 I personally would definitely improve, but.

00:28:37.820 Okay.

00:28:38.260 Yeah, of course.

00:28:38.740 So, if you're, if your mindset is off, do you think we say it's meant, if it's meant

00:28:43.080 to be, it's meant to be?

00:28:44.420 Or do we try to improve?

00:28:46.020 Always try to improve.

00:28:47.000 Never stop.

00:28:47.480 So, so how do we improve as women if we can't even admit there's a problem? 0.98

00:28:51.600 Right.

00:28:52.140 And so right now it's like, it's like you're kind of living in, in delusion.

00:28:55.400 Everyone's like, you know, maybe it's not a good look.

00:28:57.140 And you're like, well, it's just how I am.

00:28:59.180 But. 0.99

00:28:59.500 But I feel like me saying, my pussy's tight, it doesn't determine, it doesn't determine 1.00

00:29:04.380 how many men I've slept with. 1.00

00:29:05.500 If I'm a hoe, do I go out and suck dick every week? 1.00

00:29:07.460 No, but it doesn't. 1.00

00:29:08.340 Okay.

00:29:08.840 Let me, let me, let me ask. 1.00

00:29:10.380 I mean, a virgin, a virgin could be like, my pussy's tight. 1.00

00:29:12.640 What does that mean? 1.00

00:29:13.440 You're a hoe. 1.00

00:29:13.760 I don't look good.

00:29:14.520 Okay.

00:29:14.800 Sorry.

00:29:14.960 I want to, I want to, I want to hear from the men.

00:29:17.360 What do you, hey, blessing.

00:29:19.500 What do you, blessing as a guy, you're, I would say you're a more traditional guy.

00:29:26.140 You want to be married, right?

00:29:27.260 Bring me in this one.

00:29:28.100 All right.

00:29:28.480 All right.

00:29:28.740 What do you, what do you, what do you think when a woman says that? 1.00

00:29:31.960 Canceled.

00:29:33.000 Okay.

00:29:33.600 What do you, what do you think when a woman says that? 1.00

00:29:35.620 Pretty much the same.

00:29:36.500 And they'll probably just want to sample it just to see if it's tight.

00:29:38.960 But imagine you could never though.

00:29:39.980 That's the thing.

00:29:40.660 And that's just the difference between, do you know what I mean?

00:29:42.480 If you don't, you don't, isn't it?

00:29:43.780 But like I'm saying, if you're saying that out there, man, I'm going to be like, all right,

00:29:46.380 let me test it and see if it's true.

00:29:47.300 And they could never.

00:29:48.040 That's the thing.

00:29:48.460 That's why I'm so confident.

00:29:49.560 Because I'm not like that.

00:29:50.160 But the thing is, if guys, if guys see signals that you're a hoe, they're not going to investigate 1.00

00:29:54.640 to find out.

00:29:55.440 They're just going to think, hoe, hoe.

00:29:57.040 Like, they're not going to go and do these deep dot.

00:29:59.300 Like, no, they're just going to, they're just going to write you off.

00:30:01.540 I agree with that.

00:30:02.260 But I think it takes an individual to take time to actually get to know the person.

00:30:05.820 See, they're really like that.

00:30:06.680 Do you know what I mean?

00:30:07.260 And they can find out.

00:30:08.080 But the men you want don't have time because they're working. 0.97

00:30:11.420 And what happened to waiting for marriage?

00:30:13.540 Like, where did that go in all of this conversation?

00:30:16.460 Wait, wait for what I'm going to do.

00:30:17.940 Sorry, go ahead.

00:30:18.580 Where did that, where did waiting for marriage come in this conversation?

00:30:21.640 Like, where did that go?

00:30:22.480 Like, why did that leave the world?

00:30:25.220 Women. 0.81

00:30:26.400 Yeah, why?

00:30:27.260 Because I think women, well, because I think women, we're in control of the, like, sex. 1.00

00:30:31.700 So we're in control of the chastity of the sexual marketplace.

00:30:34.280 I think virgins have a hard time nowadays because, like, one, why would a man wait for a woman 1.00

00:30:40.340 that's not a virgin?

00:30:41.980 They wouldn't.

00:30:42.840 They wouldn't.

00:30:43.680 So, and the problem I think that virgins are going to have is how does he know she's 0.99

00:30:47.200 a virgin with how much women lie nowadays? 0.99

00:30:50.320 Yeah.

00:30:50.740 And how does he know, like, even if he gets a virgin?

00:30:53.540 And this, I've spoken to guys with this, like, about virgin, and I'm not saying guys

00:30:57.020 don't want it, but I think it's more difficult because of the marketplace.

00:30:59.560 Because even if you get a virgin, like, she could still go on social media and leave. 1.00

00:31:03.700 But I still think it's a valuable value to have.

00:31:05.920 I agree with you.

00:31:06.900 And if you're needing somebody to marry them, then you should, like, just wait.

00:31:09.040 Simply.

00:31:09.800 That's what I believe.

00:31:11.660 Do you think that, so what about the women that, okay, so, again, the average woman here, 0.99

00:31:18.140 one out of three women has an STD, one out of three women's having an abortion.

00:31:21.260 Do you think they should say, we're going to wait until marriage?

00:31:24.540 I mean, I think they should stop doing what they're doing because if they keep doing that,

00:31:28.080 they are going to further their likeliness of not getting a man, not being married, not

00:31:31.960 having kids, and being miserable in their 70s.

00:31:33.640 No, and it's hard because it's, like, part of me agrees with you.

00:31:36.920 I think it's idealistic, but I think, like, telling a single mother, wait until you're 1.00

00:31:40.820 married, good luck.

00:31:41.840 I mean, that's what I think.

00:31:42.840 Or a girl that slept with, like, 20 dudes, good luck. 1.00

00:31:45.640 But stop.

00:31:46.180 At least stop because if you're going to keep sleeping with dudes, you're going to, when you're

00:31:48.600 30, you're going to be, like, 100 guys, you know, so at least stop now.

00:31:51.820 And I think it comes from family values, like how you're raised.

00:31:54.900 You didn't raise me that way.

00:31:55.900 I know.

00:31:56.380 That's what's so shocking.

00:31:57.260 Before, when I told my grandmother I was marrying your dad, she was like, well, I hope

00:32:00.840 you've slept with him.

00:32:01.860 And I was shocked because she was a hardcore Christian and her upbringing was in the church

00:32:06.180 100%.

00:32:06.880 But she's like, if you don't know, then, you know, you could be getting yourself into trouble.

00:32:09.820 Yeah.

00:32:10.440 And I'm not saying that was right, but I was shocked when she said that.

00:32:13.580 I just think, like, from a guy's point of view, like, if a girl's not a virgin, like,

00:32:17.480 a guy shouldn't wait.

00:32:18.960 Like, I think.

00:32:19.780 Like, why would a guy?

00:32:20.900 So I think that's the tough thing, like, for those women.

00:32:24.120 It's like, what are they, like, what you're going to, because I think a guy that does that

00:32:27.960 is a simp, to be honest, if she's not a virgin.

00:32:31.360 You're going to buy a used car for new prices?

00:32:34.940 Yeah.

00:32:35.580 No.

00:32:35.780 And I'm in a relationship that's dating to marry and we're waiting for marriage.

00:32:38.880 And I think that's a beautiful thing.

00:32:40.220 I think that's a beautiful thing and I just want more women to fall into that role, fall 1.00

00:32:45.200 into that, that place, because it's such a beautiful thing to have with somebody and

00:32:49.020 to sleep with 20 guys and 50 guys and say, like, my is tight.

00:32:51.940 Like, that's not cute.

00:32:53.060 Like, that's not.

00:32:53.520 What do you think?

00:32:54.180 What do you think of the women that say you're missing out? 1.00

00:32:56.180 Like, you just need to see what's out there.

00:32:57.820 I think that they're missing out on what?

00:32:58.560 Getting drunk and, like, having with a bunch of guys and, like, my body's a temple.

00:33:03.160 Like, my body is precious.

00:33:04.580 Period.

00:33:04.800 Anything that goes on it or in it is very, like, it has to be pure.

00:33:08.720 I believe in purity.

00:33:10.180 And if it's not pure, it's not right.

00:33:12.160 Period.

00:33:13.280 So your mind's a virgin right now?

00:33:16.960 I'm not going to say, like, but that's, like, very personal.

00:33:20.020 But obviously, I was talking to Pearl about this conversation.

00:33:23.220 So obviously, that's my answer.

00:33:25.300 Yeah, but I get that.

00:33:26.240 But the pure thing, you can't be pure.

00:33:28.140 Yes, me and my partner are pure.

00:33:29.960 But both virgins then?

00:33:31.700 Because you can't be pure if you're virgins.

00:33:32.360 What is the definition of pure?

00:33:34.680 Clarity.

00:33:35.560 Just give clarity.

00:33:36.700 Are you both virgins?

00:33:37.500 If you're pure, that means nothing has touched your body.

00:33:41.660 Your body, that temple that you have is pure.

00:33:44.600 That means nobody can touch you.

00:33:45.680 None of you two.

00:33:46.740 I'm not going to expose his life.

00:33:48.040 No, obviously, I'm not saying expose.

00:33:49.160 It's okay.

00:33:49.440 She doesn't have to.

00:33:50.220 It's okay.

00:33:50.440 It's okay.

00:33:50.820 It's okay.

00:33:50.840 It's okay.

00:33:50.920 It's okay.

00:33:51.020 It's okay.

00:33:53.940 Where were we in the freaking?

00:33:56.320 All right.

00:33:56.740 Hold on.

00:33:57.200 Sorry.

00:33:57.580 Let's read some super chats now.

00:33:58.520 Oh, super.

00:33:59.240 Thank you for reminding me, Blessing.

00:34:01.140 Guys, guys, guys, make sure you like the video.

00:34:06.320 Subscribe to the channel.

00:34:08.080 And also, let's see.

00:34:12.720 We're going to go to the supers.

00:34:14.760 Guys, like the video.

00:34:15.840 We know it had 1,000 likes.

00:34:17.100 We need 1,000 likes in there.

00:34:18.260 Yeah, 1,000 likes to open the chat.

00:34:20.140 Oh, we're so close.

00:34:21.300 765.

00:34:22.080 Guys, guys, by the way, I have these opinions.

00:34:26.220 Do not reflect me.

00:34:27.620 But when people give me money, I will read them.

00:34:30.160 All right.

00:34:30.440 Black Moses. 0.66

00:34:31.460 She's acting very childish. 0.87

00:34:32.780 She refuses to grow up, return back to the streets where she belongs.

00:34:36.280 Josh, depends how many opportunities we've had relationships.

00:34:38.960 For real, I respect her after three, done after two.

00:34:43.340 If you're not attractive, I'll wait after three.

00:34:46.380 If she's a good woman, I'll just wait for her. 1.00

00:34:49.500 D, I love how you ask the right questions and they just tell themselves,

00:34:52.800 Black top, ma'am.

00:34:53.740 I'm 32 and 35.

00:34:55.000 I'm embarrassed for you.

00:34:55.920 Please stop.

00:34:57.420 Josh, depending on how many opportunities we have relations, for real, for real,

00:35:01.980 I respect her after three.

00:35:04.180 I think you sent the same one twice.

00:35:05.800 It done after two.

00:35:06.760 If you're not attractive, I'll wait for three.

00:35:08.740 If she's a good woman, just wait for her. 1.00

00:35:10.660 Deonti, Royal, please remove all that makeup. 1.00

00:35:12.840 I bet you are a four out of ten.

00:35:14.660 You are in the wall.

00:35:15.840 Lol.

00:35:17.220 Guys, remember, it has to be over a $5 super chat in order for me to read it.

00:35:21.520 Royal needs to go back to the streets.

00:35:23.360 Can't fix all of that.

00:35:25.940 Sonny, $200 isn't a lot.

00:35:29.920 You're not even worth 20.

00:35:32.480 Brighton, two weeks.

00:35:34.020 Two weeks, I'm taking into account her actions, which will give a hint to body count,

00:35:38.660 and then I'll ask around and know her body count.

00:35:42.260 Lawrence, woman with the eight tattoos is giving off narcissism vibe like she's never the problem if the relationship doesn't work out. 1.00

00:35:50.800 Harshima, can you stop gaslighting and accept that the men you want only use you for a booty call?

00:35:56.720 I'll stop saying I don't want anyone nod, just pump and dump, not going to lie.

00:36:02.680 Rice, pure Michigan chaos.

00:36:07.640 Full Wee Todd, the body positivity movement exists to make money off of women because big girls get money too. 1.00

00:36:13.160 You don't see any plus-size male models.

00:36:16.200 Doug MPA, Pearl, please list the things that high-value men don't want in women.

00:36:22.580 Remember, you came up with on a live a couple months ago.

00:36:26.340 I will read.

00:36:27.200 That is my favorite list to read.

00:36:30.280 Scout and Bradley, being submissive doesn't mean do whatever I say, but listening and not fighting to everything Southern Bells do.

00:36:36.500 This can't wait to see Pearl on Unapologetic.

00:36:40.420 Trigger, statistically, after the age of 65, the percentage of obese people drops drastically because they die.

00:36:46.100 Glenn Lawrence, all men need to do is read Rolo's The Message is the Median blog post. 0.75

00:36:54.060 All men need to do is read Rolo's The Median is the Message blog post and see if her words and actions match. 1.00

00:37:00.920 Interracial relationships.

00:37:01.500 For black men, we value bigger women because they make for better. 0.93

00:37:08.740 Oh, I read that already.

00:37:10.160 Let me refresh it really quick.

00:37:14.280 Let me double check.

00:37:16.220 How many likes are we at, Blessing?

00:37:19.980 Almost 900.

00:37:21.380 900?

00:37:21.980 Guys, 100 more likes.

00:37:24.980 Black Moses, she's acting very childish. 0.96

00:37:27.860 Oh, I read that already.

00:37:28.580 Oy, $5, you think I'm made of money.

00:37:32.540 Well, you said $2, so you're halfway there, you know.

00:37:36.420 Okay, guys, I'm going to find this Google Doc.

00:37:41.200 A couple months ago, I made a list of the things that us as women should stop doing.

00:37:46.520 Now, this is not to say that I am perfect and have never said anything on this list.

00:37:51.340 However, I just felt like this was a very, very good list.

00:37:57.700 So, this is the things that men look for, basically, or don't want.

00:38:02.360 It's like want, don't want kind of a combination.

00:38:05.020 No tattoos.

00:38:06.680 Your hobbies cannot be going to the bar every weekend and going out all the time looking like a hoe. 1.00

00:38:11.160 No heavy makeup, eyelash extensions.

00:38:13.160 No super heavy eyeliner.

00:38:14.860 No shopping addiction.

00:38:16.220 No piercing except ears.

00:38:17.640 Be able to get ready in 30 minutes or less.

00:38:20.560 No super long fingernails. 1.00

00:38:21.920 Do not be an idiot. 1.00

00:38:23.300 Do not be a beautiful, majestic creature. 1.00

00:38:25.900 A girl, she has to have a fitness routine. 1.00

00:38:28.820 Good with kid.

00:38:29.460 Knows how to cook.

00:38:30.420 Coachable.

00:38:30.940 Teachable.

00:38:31.460 Feminine. 0.91

00:38:32.340 Do not be a feminist. 1.00

00:38:33.580 Men want women that work hard but not too hard and at the right things. 0.70

00:38:37.600 They do not want a girl that wants a career more than a family. 1.00

00:38:40.760 This is my favorite one.

00:38:42.240 The words we're going to stop saying.

00:38:44.120 Partner, horoscope signs, looking for a connection, energy, trauma, toxic masculinity, my truth,

00:38:53.000 healing, my narcissistic ex-boyfriend, my abusive ex-boyfriend, grape accusations, don't judge,

00:38:58.960 yeah but, manifesting, equals I want to do no work and still get the outcome I want.

00:39:04.140 As a woman, we know you're a woman.

00:39:06.380 I did too much and I let him walk all over me, equals I like cheaters and toxic men and

00:39:11.840 I will choose them and be toxic as well and not admit that I had any part to play except

00:39:16.460 quote unquote giving too much.

00:39:19.160 Generational trauma. 0.99

00:39:20.140 I make the same mistakes that my parents make and I'm too dumb to learn from their mistakes 0.99

00:39:24.220 and instead I will make the same mistakes but blame it on them. 0.98

00:39:27.600 I'm in my feminine energy.

00:39:30.120 Men always stare and approach me.

00:39:32.440 I will be submissive for the right man. 1.00

00:39:35.460 Men are trash, equals I take no accountability for the negative part that myself or any women 1.00

00:39:40.140 play in relationships. 1.00

00:39:42.060 He needs to make six figures, equals I have no emphasis on character.

00:39:46.220 I don't need a man but I want a man.

00:39:48.100 My ring costs this much.

00:39:49.860 Financial abuse, I became feminine.

00:39:52.080 I need a man to maintain you. 0.99

00:39:55.260 We need to vibe.

00:39:56.260 I feel like I'm a traditional when I am single.

00:39:59.580 Man-ish, I will be submissive for the right man who hurt you.

00:40:03.020 Internalized misogyny.

00:40:04.480 I'm leveling up altogether.

00:40:06.460 I need a man to be on my level.

00:40:09.380 I'm a boss babe. 1.00

00:40:10.540 I'm a bad bitch. 1.00

00:40:11.720 These men are broke and dusties. 1.00

00:40:13.740 I am the table.

00:40:15.060 I am a 10.

00:40:16.440 He needs to add to what I have going on in my life.

00:40:19.500 Not all women equals that is a problem with women but I won't admit it's a problem. 0.98

00:40:25.520 I need someone to match my energy.

00:40:29.780 I still don't really know what that means.

00:40:32.320 I am his peace.

00:40:33.980 Broken men.

00:40:35.500 Men are F boys. 0.66

00:40:37.020 My body, my choice. 0.60

00:40:38.140 He hit me harder than I hit him.

00:40:40.700 Body positivity, a manifest.

00:40:43.440 I am not fat.

00:40:44.600 I am plus size or thick.

00:40:46.760 Small D energy.

00:40:47.940 My ex was a narcissist. 0.88

00:40:49.380 I am a queen who hurt you. 0.98

00:40:51.280 No respect for my own mother.

00:40:53.360 Yeah.

00:40:53.800 I mean, how is that?

00:40:55.060 Those are all the words that you can't say.

00:40:56.580 Yeah.

00:40:56.900 What can we say then?

00:40:58.320 I have a list.

00:41:01.600 Don't worry.

00:41:02.860 I am so here to help.

00:41:06.200 All right.

00:41:06.760 And this is collaborative.

00:41:08.660 So if you guys have anything you want to add to it, you know, feel free.

00:41:12.520 Phrases to add.

00:41:13.340 I trust you.

00:41:14.040 I support you.

00:41:15.080 Whatever you say, honey.

00:41:16.460 Thank you.

00:41:16.960 I have your back.

00:41:17.780 I'm making this for dinner tonight.

00:41:19.600 I believe or I think.

00:41:21.040 What can I do for you?

00:41:22.400 How can I help?

00:41:23.100 I'm proud of you.

00:41:23.760 I believe in you.

00:41:24.480 I couldn't do this without you.

00:41:25.660 I need you.

00:41:26.220 I love you.

00:41:26.740 I miss you.

00:41:27.240 I care about you.

00:41:27.940 I want you.

00:41:28.800 I admire you.

00:41:30.380 Oh, gosh.

00:41:30.840 I always forget this one's odd.

00:41:32.060 I'm not reading that.

00:41:33.080 You inspire.

00:41:33.560 Don't do that.

00:41:34.620 Don't do that, pal.

00:41:35.480 I read that.

00:41:36.340 I do this every time.

00:41:37.420 I hate reading this one.

00:41:38.660 Get in the bedroom and drop your pants before you go to work.

00:41:41.580 Yeah, man.

00:41:42.020 You inspire me.

00:41:43.880 I get so red.

00:41:45.440 Thank you for working so hard.

00:41:47.440 Babe, I know you didn't mean it.

00:41:48.580 I'll let it go.

00:41:49.100 It's not a big deal.

00:41:50.300 I love that.

00:41:50.860 I love that.

00:41:51.460 I actually love that.

00:41:52.280 That list there was short.

00:41:53.100 I like that.

00:41:53.920 I like that.

00:41:53.980 I like that.

00:41:54.560 Well, you know, we can add more if you have things.

00:41:56.960 You want to add to it.

00:41:57.980 It's really collaborative.

00:41:59.160 I've worked with a lot of people on this.

00:42:00.860 Okay, cool.

00:42:01.880 I think that whatever you say, honey.

00:42:03.860 You want a head massage?

00:42:04.600 That's the only thing.

00:42:05.740 That depends on the context.

00:42:07.880 Exactly.

00:42:08.220 And I was thinking that as well, yeah.

00:42:09.180 It can be a little bit like, oh, you know, like, oh, I have to do it again.

00:42:13.900 I just, you know, it depends on the context.

00:42:17.560 See, this is where the good women are gone. 1.00

00:42:19.020 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:42:19.580 You don't want to do that.

00:42:20.200 If you're with the right woman, that won't happen. 0.99

00:42:22.620 If you're with the right woman, if you're with the right man, that won't happen. 1.00

00:42:24.800 It depends on the context.

00:42:27.720 She's right.

00:42:28.400 It does.

00:42:29.020 But it doesn't matter.

00:42:29.540 Okay, I have to be honest.

00:42:31.100 I think women that say this, because I hear this a lot, it typically means I am disagreeable

00:42:37.080 and I don't want to listen.

00:42:38.460 Come on.

00:42:38.760 Okay.

00:42:38.940 I don't want to say that.

00:42:40.520 I don't want to say that because then you're going to be like feminine. 1.00

00:42:55.920 No, like to you know, like she's not feminine enough. The man is really masculine

00:43:02.580 She's in her feminine most of the time, but sometimes she's like see I see the language in her feminine 1.00

00:43:12.040 I just think it's like nonsense

00:43:15.220 I get just like these women that go on Instagram and they'll say oh, I'm a feminine. I don't know if it's you 0.61

00:43:21.680 I hope that's not what you do

00:43:23.680 But like it's like I'm now a femininity coach and there's some genuine ones 0.98

00:43:28.400 I'm not gonna say there's not there are genuine ones that help do this to masculine feminine energy 0.99

00:43:33.120 There's the ones that I see that are full of shit because men actually look to solve problems 0.99

00:43:38.900 So if you look at like men's improvement, it's very practical 0.99

00:43:42.200 So it's very much like go to the gym

00:43:44.740 Screw a bunch of girls. So you know how to or do you know 1.00

00:43:48.300 I got even there's an ex corn star that's been on my show. He has very practical, you know tips

00:43:53.280 I'm not my thing right, but like and or they'll do

00:43:57.680 Like go to the gym make more money women. It's very like broad like like soft life 0.99

00:44:04.560 I'm gonna sit at home

00:44:06.720 And it's never like concrete steps

00:44:09.440 I've only had one like femininity coach give me like real concrete steps that isn't just like journaling or 1.00

00:44:15.600 Actually, I have something to say about uh feminine feminine feminine coaches

00:44:21.440 um

00:44:22.320 They operate from um

00:44:25.680 Again energy, but like what is to be feminine?

00:44:28.400 They tell you be creative like focus on things that make you tap into the woman like that traditional woman 1.00

00:44:35.040 That's what they are all about

00:44:37.040 Like try to for

00:44:38.320 I've i've been in touch with some of them. They tell you like listen to music dance or create something

00:44:44.880 uh with uh like a painting or something

00:44:48.000 uh tangible with like artistic yeah, um, and to me this sounds like nothing useful to a guy

00:44:58.000 Go listen to some music

00:44:59.840 Like I'm just I just have yet there's only been one femininity coach that like actually talked about real stuff

00:45:08.560 And she helped me write most of these like words to add in the short term

00:45:12.400 It might seem that it's not helping but imagine

00:45:15.680 On the long term rather than a woman being in her as I say masculine energy, which is like shouting and confronting 0.80

00:45:22.880 She learns to be submissive, but like step by step

00:45:25.840 Mm-hmm first of all by tapping into these skills then to to be comfortable just doing uh

00:45:32.240 Even something such as cooking they tell you cooking makes you tap into your feminine energy more and more 0.99

00:45:38.480 So maybe by building those little habits, uh, I think cooking yeah, I don't think cooking is bad

00:45:44.880 but

00:45:46.880 I just

00:45:48.880 You can't convince me. Do you know why why we need these now we I agree with you

00:45:52.560 I agree that it shouldn't matter, but we need this now because a lot of women and men as well 0.99

00:45:58.720 Forgot that natural state, you know, what's your natural state as a woman? 1.00

00:46:04.000 I don't know because I get really confused because I hear these like women talk about soft life, right? 1.00

00:46:08.960 But like our great grandmothers really didn't have a soft life 0.99

00:46:12.960 They were milking like at least i'm from the u.s. They're milking cows 0.75

00:46:16.160 Like have you seen amish people so they used to live like they do not have a soft life 1.00

00:46:20.240 Yeah, and soft life to me is living off a man. That's what I see as a soft lie

00:46:25.920 maybe

00:46:26.400 Yeah, when you ask where all the women good women went I mean to me they went to confusion and independence 1.00

00:46:32.320 And this confusion is a diffused awareness because the primal nature right a man is hunting

00:46:38.080 He's directive in his focus

00:46:40.240 And a woman is diffused because she only has a certain amount of daylight hours to get as many berries as she can and she's very skilled at it 1.00

00:46:46.960 She can do it way quicker than a man apparently and it's part of our survival mechanism 0.99

00:46:51.600 And so it is kind of obtuse and broad when we think about how we go back into our feminine nature 0.95

00:46:57.680 So we're not you know in this ceo role of our families of our

00:47:02.720 relationships of our businesses and then we got to come home and then deal with

00:47:07.440 The reality of like, you know being a partner, which is a totally different energy. It's not you're not directive

00:47:13.280 Like yeah, you got to get the meal on the table and my grandmother my mother. They worked really hard as homemakers 1.00

00:47:19.440 It was like taboo for them to work. Yeah, but my generation and our generation now

00:47:24.960 That's very it's a lot of confusion and we're still the growing into that. You know, how do we balance that?

00:47:30.400 It's Beyonce's fault

00:47:33.280 I'll be serious. She made a tune called single ladies all of these things with a ring on our finger. I 0.99

00:47:38.400 Think we're very capable. You know what I'm saying?

00:47:40.400 But I think there's a lot of confusion. Yeah, but from the night to be honest, you'll say all right from the 90s 2000s, whatever

00:47:46.320 There's been a lot of independence independence. Do your thing blah blah blah blah blah cool

00:47:51.280 You can do your independence, but if you don't need a man 1.00

00:47:54.400 Then cool

00:47:56.400 Someone said modern day gathering is turned into shopping

00:48:01.520 But why do you think women are having burnout endocrine disruption cancer depression? 1.00

00:48:07.280 I mean, there's all these issues with women's health because they're trying to be 1.00

00:48:12.880 I spoke to like a hormone doctor about this

00:48:15.280 He said like high strike women and men don't handle stress the same and it really messes up our hormones being like high stress positions 0.79

00:48:22.160 And you know the medicine if you stay in your feminine energy and you come home and you look after your partner

00:48:26.480 Your man is going to want to look after and do everything in his power to make sure you're good

00:48:31.280 Yeah, it's it's that that's as simple as I can explain it like as long as you stay in your feminine 1.00

00:48:36.640 And you look after that man. He's gonna do everything for you regardless like naturally

00:48:40.080 But earlier with what I was saying if you're not showing certain things to him

00:48:44.000 He's gonna see that cool. He's not really my kind. I'll sit back. I'm there

00:48:49.200 But I'll sit back a little bit

00:48:50.240 But if he sees you're making effort like cook like even cooking cooking is that if you want to get through to a man's heart

00:48:55.520 It's through his belly

00:48:56.640 Simple as that you go. I'm saying yeah

00:48:58.480 And I also I fell into the boss babe culture for a long time when I was obese and I and I started losing weight

00:49:03.680 But I was still in the boss babe culture. I was like, oh, I don't need a man 1.00

00:49:06.480 Like I'm fine and it was when I had the daddy issues when I wasn't I didn't have a good relationship with my father

00:49:10.880 And it wasn't until I held my relationship with my father that I was like, oh

00:49:15.120 Okay, I actually you know, it's really important that I I don't have to work like a man. I was so stressed

00:49:20.880 I was so anxious all the time and then I just let it go

00:49:23.200 I was like, I don't need to do that

00:49:24.480 My future husband will provide for me my future husband will do these and I'll fall into my feminine roles 0.99

00:49:28.320 I will cook I will clean. I will take care of the kids

00:49:30.560 I'll take care of the house like that and I'll garden. What did you do? Did you quit your job?

00:49:34.720 No, I just okay. I was just curious

00:49:36.640 I just I flipped two houses last year and I was like, I don't want to do this anymore

00:49:41.760 So I decided to stop doing it. That's cool. Oh, wow. It was a miracle though. Really? Yeah, because

00:49:47.520 No, because I was the boss, right? I had to be ever the provider I had to be everything

00:49:51.920 And you didn't have that example

00:49:53.040 I think that's another part of where all the good women have gone inside of this independence inside of this confusion 0.99

00:49:58.160 It's fatherless families and like Pearl was saying earlier if you don't have the example

00:50:02.400 How are you supposed to know and you haven't had the example Penelope? So it's a miracle 0.87

00:50:06.880 Purely purely, you know, it is and it was it was like growing up with you as my mom

00:50:10.720 Like you played both roles the dad and the mom and so that was very interesting because I grew up thinking

00:50:14.720 Oh, I I don't need men like men are terrible and I even thought my dad father was terrible, but you know

00:50:19.360 He's like my best friend

00:50:20.480 I think where the good women are going is they think that it's a bad thing to be feminine 1.00

00:50:25.040 I think that the mindset of women today feel like

00:50:27.760 I'm not not and now if you're feminine and traditional online people are like you're you know, you're not a feminist 0.99

00:50:33.120 You hate women. You are terrible. You are a disgrace a society. You should go die 1.00

00:50:37.040 And it's like, wait, wait, what like women are the most beautiful things on planet 1.00

00:50:40.560 They create human beings men cannot create human beings. So why are women putting women down? Well, I think it's probably because 1.00

00:50:47.200 Women want women to fail and see that I think I think it's because we're not supposed to be competing with our moms 1.00

00:50:52.800 Generation because the thing is like if you have a 45 year old and you have like a 25 year old girl

00:50:59.280 It's like you're a lot of times the guys you might want are the same age because women like 45 tend to want guys like 0.82

00:51:05.440 It's like five to seven years younger where women 1.00

00:51:08.160 25 want guys five to seven years older this crossover and I think bitter older women that don't want you to win 1.00

00:51:14.400 Will tell you the wrong information

00:51:16.960 And and it's because like if they're if they're being a hoe, right? 0.99

00:51:20.160 Like what's the worst feeling when you take a test and you fail?

00:51:23.120 What's the worst feeling when everyone else succeeded?

00:51:26.720 Yeah, right

00:51:27.120 But if you turn around and they say I failed too, it's like you feel a little bit better

00:51:30.720 So it's like these women want other people to be miserable in their negative decisions 1.00

00:51:36.400 People because of it because of succeeding in in my relationship and having a healthy relationship with my father

00:51:40.880 People dislike me because of that and it's like why do you hate me for having a healthy relationship with my family?

00:51:45.760 Am I am I so would you would you say and especially I'm like they don't want you to win 0.93

00:51:52.400 Divorce miserable sad fat on your phone on tiktok dying. I mean, so would you say that this is like 0.54

00:51:59.680 Technically just a woman's problem then because it's women that it's not technically men that put down women 0.99

00:52:04.000 You know it's women that put down women the woman trying to be men hurt are hurting the the feminine 0.99

00:52:09.200 Not not the feminine the beta men right there that that's hurting beta men 1.00

00:52:12.560 That's why we have beta men is because of the masculine. Well, I think it becomes a problem because you have eighty percent of women screwing 1.00

00:52:19.040 Twenty percent of men so then women don't respect the average guy 0.99

00:52:22.160 I did a show the other day and like most women said they wouldn't date a bus driver 1.00

00:52:26.480 They're above a bus driver average chicks 1.00

00:52:28.800 And it's why you have average chicks saying they're at the level of a celebrity no offense 1.00

00:52:33.200 But like it's like you have average chicks thinking they're they're so great when it's like literally you are average 0.91

00:52:38.560 You're average looking even average mindset most people are average and men will accept this but women won't it's like an insult for us to be 1.00

00:52:45.440 Normal, so then you you won't see normal women dating normal men 1.00

00:52:49.120 But do you feel like that that is because see social media has a lot to play for it? They feel like there's a lot more

00:52:54.000 I think it's social I think it's social media and dating apps

00:52:57.200 They got they feel like they've got more accessibility to higher people

00:53:01.600 They do like because they have an issue nowadays because this is what made me think about this

00:53:05.680 I'm like, how would you find a good woman? And I was thinking about this and I made a chart and I had like the body count of a woman 0.86

00:53:11.520 On one hand and I had the looks of a woman on a one hand and so I was like a woman

00:53:16.480 That's eight to ten with a high or a low body count 0.80

00:53:20.320 Good luck keeping her 0.95

00:53:21.280 Do you know what the list is gonna be for a girl that that's like that hot with like like the competition is crazy 0.99

00:53:27.200 and so it's like you could be dating a woman and

00:53:30.880 If there's high competition for her drake could slide in your girls dms or maybe it's not drake 0.98

00:53:35.280 It's the town whoever right and then I was thinking about it

00:53:38.800 And I was like unless a guy sleeps with a lot of women 1.00

00:53:41.360 How is he gonna know the difference between a woman that's been at with everybody and a girl that does it has it they never do 1.00

00:53:47.360 They can't know they can't know unless they've been with a lot of girls and i'm like it's kind of unfortunate

00:53:52.480 Because it's like the only

00:53:54.480 Solution for the men seems to be to sleep around which I don't think is you know great for society 0.99

00:53:59.840 But it's like it's women's fault because we're the ones doing the sleeping 1.00

00:54:02.800 Do you think that men should have more than one woman? 0.98

00:54:06.080 Um, I I think that

00:54:08.720 It's silly

00:54:10.080 To date certain men and expect monogamy

00:54:13.520 So I think it's silly to date say jason derulo chris brad

00:54:17.040 These are extreme examples, but there's certain men

00:54:19.680 That it's very silly to expect it because he's never been monogamous and they never will be

00:54:24.800 I think monogamy in general is better for a society

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JustPearlyThings - August 12, 2023

Lessons for Women Who Act Like CEO in their HOME

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