JustPearlyThings - Liberal and Conservative Women Are Not That Different ｜ Pearl Daily

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00:01:32.000 When things aren't okay or if you're being harmed.

00:01:34.980 So apparently this woman, Leah Aguirre, a contributor and therapist on Psychology Today says,

00:01:44.180 I am often asked, how do I know if I'm in an emotionally abusive relationship?

00:01:50.660 Ladies, I'm sure. 1.00

00:01:52.580 You just would not know.

00:01:54.360 I mean, you got to figure it out.

00:01:55.900 And I always respond with, well, how do you feel in your relationship?

00:02:01.920 This response can be frustrating for those individuals who are looking for a checklist, an itemized list of specific behaviors that can be labeled as abusive.

00:02:11.920 Unfortunately, because emotionally abusive relationships are often complex and more nuanced, the abuse can be hard to detect and put one's finger on.

00:02:20.780 Emotionally abusive relationships often don't start off as abusive.

00:02:26.300 The abuse occurs slowly and gradually, and once trust has been established and the emotions are involved through coercive and controlling behaviors, the emotionally abusive partner creates power and control dynamic that systemically diminishes your sense of self-worth and your ability to trust your judgment and intuition.

00:02:47.520 This can make it hard to see the relationship for what it is, therefore, it's important to focus on how you are feeling in the relationship physically and emotionally.

00:02:59.680 Now, the reason everybody I'm reading you this article is not because I'm trying to shove some BS psychology down your throat, but I want to show you how women, and I guess men sometimes, YouTube, no hate speech, not all, not all, not all.

00:03:17.520 So get into the wrong type of content, and what it does is it rationalizes them leaving relationships and also leaving their husbands, and it supplies a therapist in your city or zip code.

00:03:36.060 So what are they peddling?

00:03:37.620 People to tell your problems to, problems you used to work out with your friends, family, and you would go to close relatives and maybe figure it out as a family.

00:03:46.320 The challenge is now people are having one kid, we don't live by extended family, you know, you're kind of shit out of luck, you're on your own, and half of your parents are divorced anyway, you can't go to them. 0.88

00:03:58.780 And what happens is they have crazy women in colleges that go study psychology, and yeah, they set your wife up within a crazy woman to talk to about her problems and your relations. 1.00

00:04:11.860 Her words, her words, her words, it's based on how you feel, not a checklist of what is abuse.

00:04:22.280 For example, it says healthy relationships offer you peace and security.

00:04:26.860 Now, as you guys know, this isn't always necessarily the case.

00:04:32.040 You are not always going to feel secure in a relationship.

00:04:36.320 I'll give you guys an example.

00:04:38.460 A woman could be in a healthy relationship with a guy that's very high status.

00:04:43.080 She probably will never feel secure completely because that guy can trade her for another 22-year-old. 0.52

00:04:49.120 Do you think Melania Trump wakes up every day feeling secure?

00:04:52.860 Every day?

00:04:53.460 And is the insecurity that we feel, is it their fault?

00:04:58.960 I mean, it's not like they put a gun to our heads, regardless of what they are doing.

00:05:04.040 And so what this therapy website is doing is it's saying the feelings that you have are another person's fault.

00:05:12.540 Now, it also says emotionally abusive relationships are inherently stressful,

00:05:17.340 and your body takes on the stress of your emotionally abusive relationship.

00:05:21.800 Below are examples of how the stress of an abusive relationship can manifest in your body.

00:05:30.820 And what I've noticed is in a lot of these websites that are selling you something,

00:05:35.160 they have a tendency to say that the symptoms are symptoms that most people have or everybody has at some point.

00:05:44.500 Chronic headaches, chronic fatigue, digestive issues, weight loss, hair loss, high blood pressure, muscle tension, back pain,

00:05:52.800 inconsistent or irregular periods, insomnia, poor memory loss, and brain fog.

00:05:57.380 So now they're going to ask you to tune in to how you are feeling.

00:06:01.500 Take some time to connect with your body and ask how you're feeling.

00:06:04.640 Ask yourself the following questions.

00:06:06.220 So I guess these questions will let me know, am I being abused?

00:06:12.560 You know, it's not clear, so I've got to go to my website.

00:06:15.500 And I guess, you know, I'm going to see, based on these questions, if I'm being emotionally abused.

00:06:24.600 Let me see it since being in a relationship.

00:06:26.580 So if I've had any changes in my mood or mental state since being in a relationship,

00:06:35.860 then if I have, I've been emotionally abused.

00:06:41.260 Okay.

00:06:42.700 Interesting.

00:06:44.240 How might I be acting or behaving differently that may indicate that I'm not okay?

00:06:49.100 So if I act or behave differently, hmm, how do I feel around or in the presence of my partner?

00:06:58.660 What feelings come up when I think about my partner or relationship?

00:07:03.560 And have there been any noticeable changes in my body or physical health?

00:07:07.520 So what's actually going on here is oftentimes women are married to a guy that we deem as boring.

00:07:13.860 And what happens is we know that they're a good guy.

00:07:17.260 We know it.

00:07:18.500 But, and that guy provides security.

00:07:22.000 But they have to rationalize a reason to leave.

00:07:25.980 So what she's doing or the person writing this or the people she's consulting with are doing is

00:07:31.780 they're married to good men and they need to rationalize a reason to divorce. 1.00

00:07:37.160 They know he's not actually abusive.

00:07:38.980 So they bring out emotional abuse.

00:07:41.100 And it's really just because they married men that they find boring or they didn't like

00:07:45.700 that much because they wanted a kid and they got whatever they wanted and they need a reason

00:07:50.320 to leave and they don't want to look like they're a bad person.

00:07:53.080 Because if they leave because they're bored, that makes them look like a bad person.

00:07:57.300 If they leave because they were emotionally abused, then that saves their reputation.

00:08:06.620 That is women's driving force, is our reputation. 1.00

00:08:09.480 And when you put it like that, stuff like this makes perfect sense, sort of.

00:08:14.680 You know, I mean, it's still insane.

00:08:16.200 But now, guys, just a quick reminder.

00:08:18.680 If you guys want me to read your comments, questions, concerns, theaudacitynetwork.com.

00:08:25.420 We do have our own chat on here.

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00:08:35.580 And I do read your questions and your comments in the chat.

00:08:38.280 We don't have any yet.

00:08:39.440 So you could be the first one, you know, while we're live every day.

00:08:42.720 And, you know, most of the time on channels, you have to pay for them to read your comment.

00:08:47.420 Every single time you do a $10 super chat.

00:08:49.940 Lucky for you, we're demonetized. 1.00

00:08:51.620 So if you go on to my website and chat in that chat, then it's $10 for the month, $80 for the year.

00:08:57.660 You can put unlimited chats.

00:08:59.960 I mean, please don't put essays.

00:09:01.440 Like, within reason, okay?

00:09:03.520 Nobody's abused it.

00:09:04.660 So we could keep doing it as long as no one abuses it.

00:09:07.320 Okay.

00:09:08.940 So the next story that we're going to talk about is Caitlin Clark.

00:09:13.040 So Caitlin Clark is a woman that is playing in the WNBA.

00:09:16.720 And Caitlin Clark is a phenomenal basketball player.

00:09:19.780 She, but the challenge is she is in a league full of liberal women. 1.00

00:09:28.460 Now, these liberal women are trying to make things political when really it should, I would 1.00

00:09:34.660 argue, be about basketball. 0.77

00:09:36.940 So she was nominated to be the athlete of the year.

00:09:40.040 And at this award ceremony, what did they have to bring up?

00:09:47.680 Sexism and racism.

00:09:49.320 Now, as you guys know, women, we do change over time and we often go with what is trendy. 0.97

00:09:54.520 So if you have a upper class, it seems like conservative woman in a league full of lesbians, 1.00

00:10:05.540 liberals, I'm not surprised when her rhetoric is becoming more liberal. 0.81

00:10:13.720 And the reason this actually relates to the stages that women go through in marriage is oftentimes

00:10:18.940 they start off as a Christian conservative woman.

00:10:22.940 And if they're in the wrong friend group, get into the wrong content or get a wrong, the wrong,

00:10:30.800 the wrong people.

00:10:32.040 They go through different phases where, you know, we change.

00:10:36.780 For athlete of the year, like tremendous, yeah, you know, your announcement for athlete

00:10:44.420 of the year, like tremendous, incredible, positive feedback.

00:10:47.660 That's what we've seen across the board.

00:10:49.800 There's always going to be some negativity.

00:10:51.500 And I feel like you have had to answer more questions than anybody about sexuality in sport

00:10:57.620 because of just who you are and you represent the growth of this thing.

00:11:02.220 And even today, earlier today, Megyn Kelly, she was saying that you were apologizing for

00:11:07.720 your white privilege and the fact that you wanted to uplift black female athletes and

00:11:11.560 make sure that they were getting the shine, kind of like your pioneers were getting the

00:11:14.780 shine that they deserve.

00:11:15.540 And I just want to know how you feel or how you respond to some of those criticisms when

00:11:20.940 you have to deal with something that it's really not your problem.

00:11:23.820 Like, I feel like it's them looking in a mirror a little bit, but it still comes down on your

00:11:27.320 shoulders.

00:11:28.000 I feel like I always have had really good perspective on everything that's kind of happened in my

00:11:32.020 life, whether that's been good, whether that's been bad.

00:11:34.160 And then obviously coming to the WNBA, like I've said, I feel like I've earned every single

00:11:38.200 thing that's happened to me over the course of my career.

00:11:40.620 But also I grew up a fan of this league from a very young age.

00:11:43.760 My favorite player was Maya Moore.

00:11:45.580 I know what this league was about.

00:11:47.700 And like I said, it's only been around 25 plus years.

00:11:50.540 So I know there's been so many amazing black women that have been in this league and continuing 0.98

00:11:54.380 to uplift them, I think is very important.

00:11:57.000 And that's something I'm very aware of.

00:11:59.620 And like I said, I try to just be real and authentic and share my truth.

00:12:03.880 And I think that's very easy for me.

00:12:05.320 I'm very comfortable in my own skin.

00:12:07.500 And that's kind of been how it is my entire life.

00:12:11.240 Yes.

00:12:11.360 Now, we have to think about this from her point of view.

00:12:15.920 She recently, like let's put ourselves in Caitlin Clark's shoes. 0.91

00:12:22.100 She knows that the owners of the league are liberal women. 1.00

00:12:27.280 She knows this.

00:12:29.100 She knows that all of her teammates are liberal women. 1.00

00:12:34.140 She knows that if she sprinkles a little bit of liberal talking points here and there, maybe 1.00

00:12:46.220 she'll get beat up less on the court. 1.00

00:12:49.580 Maybe they'll actually put her on the Olympic team. 0.89

00:12:53.180 When I think of the incentives here, I can't really blame her for starting to have this rhetoric.

00:13:04.620 Now, does she believe it?

00:13:05.940 Does she not believe it?

00:13:06.940 I don't know.

00:13:08.820 All I can say is the incentives make sense here.

00:13:14.400 Let's say she has a 20-year career.

00:13:16.660 That's her plan. 0.69

00:13:17.320 She wants to play in the WNBA for the next 20 years. 0.99

00:13:21.760 And it would make her life 10 times easier if she just sprinkled a little bit of liberalism, pandered a little bit.

00:13:34.680 And then she gets better spots on teams.

00:13:38.260 She gets better pay. 1.00

00:13:40.100 I'm not saying it's right or wrong.

00:13:41.780 You know, it's easy for me to say, working in media, just say what you believe, right?

00:13:46.020 I mean, that's easy for me to say.

00:13:48.020 I mean, I made a career out of saying what I believe.

00:13:51.340 But not everybody's in that position.

00:13:55.320 And many times people go through life and they have to make a choice.

00:14:00.540 Say what they believe and get fired from their job, miss out on opportunities,

00:14:07.340 or shut up, pander a little bit, and make more money and have an easier life.

00:14:14.480 And I think a lot of you guys probably relate to that in the chat.

00:14:18.940 I'm sure many of you have been in positions where you've wanted to speak your mind.

00:14:26.280 But you know if you speak your mind, you're going to have consequences.

00:14:31.600 You know, so I'm a little bit more understanding on this.

00:14:37.520 What do you guys think?

00:14:38.680 Let me check the chat.

00:14:44.080 Go along to get along.

00:14:45.500 No, thanks.

00:14:46.160 Yeah, look it.

00:14:47.620 Many of you, I'm sure, will just leave the job.

00:14:52.100 F this.

00:14:52.900 I am not doing corporate America because I'm tired of this BS.

00:14:56.400 But for every one of you that quit, there's someone that said, you know what,

00:15:01.460 I'm going to pander because I would rather do this than go Uber.

00:15:06.300 Choices and trade-offs, right? 0.99

00:15:10.400 Make enough money to tell them to suck my diversity. 0.99

00:15:13.460 Yeah, and you know, you see that with celebrities, right? 0.99

00:15:16.380 So celebrities over the years, what they'll do.

00:15:18.660 So when they're younger, they'll say, you know what, I'm not going to comment on politics.

00:15:27.060 We saw this with, say, LeBron James.

00:15:29.880 When he was younger, I don't, maybe he did, but as far as I remember, I don't remember him being this political.

00:15:35.500 But when he got a lot of money and he got really good, he started saying whatever he wanted.

00:15:39.940 Same thing with yay.

00:15:41.060 You know, I think he's gotten more extreme the more F you money he had.

00:15:45.280 And he could really say what he wanted, you know.

00:15:50.700 So I need you to fix the thing.

00:15:56.800 So I can't particularly, you know, blame her for that.

00:16:03.560 And some of you might say that that's simping.

00:16:09.840 But as most of you know, I've been on the front lines of the simp epidemic for years. 0.59

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00:17:55.240 So next on the agenda, I have another guest that is going to come in and speak about the legal system in India.

00:18:03.020 So as you guys know, this week I did cover a young man who took his life in India because his wife was taking him, 0.99

00:18:11.400 or his ex-wife was taking him to court and abusing the legal system there in order to basically ruin his life. 0.94

00:18:22.120 And he ends up with a hour and a half video detailing all of the abuse.

00:18:27.740 And he ends up taking his life, releasing the video, and has a long suicide letter saying that he did not wish to commit suicide.

00:18:38.120 The only reason he committed suicide was because of the court system.

00:18:41.200 Now, this was much to my surprise because as far as I knew, or at least at one point, I believed this was more of a Western problem.

00:18:51.740 But the more I learn about men's rights and men's issues, I see that across the globe they are discriminated against and having these kind of issues.

00:18:59.860 So when I asked on Twitter about experts that I could bring on the show to talk about the issues in the Indian family court system,

00:19:08.960 one of the accounts that I was referred to was the Save the Indian Family Foundation,

00:19:14.640 the largest men's rights NGO invited by parliament.

00:19:20.640 And today we have him on the show.

00:19:23.200 So let's bring him up.

00:19:24.540 It says R-E-A-L-S-I-F-F is the account on Twitter.

00:19:29.860 R-E-A-L-S-I-F- Yeah. Hi. Thanks. Thanks, Pearl, for inviting me.

00:19:37.640 Hi. Could you tell me a little bit more about your background?

00:19:41.200 I just have the Twitter handle maybe we could start with.

00:19:44.460 Okay. Well, first, we created this NGO 20 years back.

00:19:48.820 Okay. So I joined the movement in 2004, and in 2005 we created this NGO as a website.

00:19:55.960 And, in fact, we came across, immediately we came across Dr. Warren Farrell's work, Paul Ilum, and a lot of American and Western men's activists.

00:20:06.100 We were all, you know, connecting.

00:20:07.980 And, of course, I could meet them only in 2014 in the International Conference on Men's.

00:20:12.600 My personal background is I worked in tech industry.

00:20:16.480 I was an automotive software designer in Bosch, both in India and Germany.

00:20:23.520 And I was also working as a manager in Dulac Packard in the R&D, the printer department.

00:20:31.420 Yeah. So that is my background.

00:20:33.040 And then, of course, I quit my job and also I joined startups.

00:20:39.160 I mean, I created my own startups, and, of course, I started running this organization, Same Indian Family Foundation.

00:20:45.180 So how did you get involved?

00:20:48.280 Was that something you went through personally?

00:20:50.140 Did you, you were taken to family?

00:20:52.300 I went through something personally, and I got red-filled in getting that reality, what is going on.

00:21:01.120 And I was shocked what was going on, because in those days there were mandatory arrest laws for domestic violence.

00:21:08.080 The man's parents, his siblings, his brothers and sisters, maybe the sister's minor daughter as well.

00:21:13.740 And everything, everybody will be thrown in prison on mere one-line or two-line complaint by a woman. 0.94

00:21:21.240 Okay. And that is, I'm talking about 2004 or 2005.

00:21:24.940 Of course, we got it changed.

00:21:26.880 But here is what you, you know, what I'm explaining here that you said, right?

00:21:31.220 There is a perception that all these radical stuff and feminism work stuff is only a Western problem, 1.00

00:21:37.400 and feminism is really needed in India or maybe China and Africa and Middle Eastern countries. 1.00

00:21:44.520 That is not really true.

00:21:46.220 And the Western media, 50 years.

00:21:48.520 50 years.

00:21:49.460 There are so many fake stories.

00:21:51.700 And then there are so many think tanks also.

00:21:54.520 You know, they churn a lot of fake research about India and Southeast countries or African countries

00:22:00.520 and all these countries.

00:22:01.900 And then they use the United Nations to do all kinds of experimentation.

00:22:06.100 So, for example, there is a big narrative that in India, the women, young women used to be burnt by their in-laws.

00:22:13.680 That's a huge narrative.

00:22:14.720 It was in Oprah in 2001.

00:22:17.840 And they called Bangalore City as the bride-burning capital. 0.99

00:22:22.000 Okay.

00:22:22.640 But then we found that that entire thing was a hoax.

00:22:26.420 That entire thing was a lie and a hoax.

00:22:28.340 So, there are so many, so many wrong stuff or false stuff, narratives are being built.

00:22:34.340 And they are continued even now.

00:22:35.860 Like, India is being called the rape capital and all that.

00:22:38.560 So, there's a lot of narrative going on.

00:22:40.520 And unfortunately, people who are in right wing or conservative, even they are, you know, they buy it because it is so powerful.

00:22:48.160 So, the way, could you tell me more about how the legal system works in India?

00:22:54.640 So, because when I went there like a decade ago, but I didn't know too much about, you guys have different, like, states.

00:23:06.340 Is it similar to the U.S.?

00:23:08.120 Were you at different states?

00:23:09.120 I'll explain to you what way it is similar and what way it is different.

00:23:13.420 Okay.

00:23:13.620 Go ahead.

00:23:14.760 It is similar to U.S. states.

00:23:16.900 However, our federal laws are more stronger.

00:23:20.480 The laws are not state-specific.

00:23:22.800 Okay?

00:23:23.120 The family laws are more federally.

00:23:25.500 The state, whereas in U.S.A., you go to Florida, you have one set of family laws and important things.

00:23:31.020 The other thing is the Indian judges of Supreme Court, they retire.

00:23:35.520 And there is somebody called a chief justice.

00:23:37.760 Okay?

00:23:37.980 They retire at the age of 65.

00:23:39.980 And then we don't call the state top courts as a Supreme Court.

00:23:43.760 We call them high court.

00:23:45.060 That's different.

00:23:46.620 And so, we have a hierarchy, like the smaller courts, then a high court at the state level, only one high court per state.

00:23:52.760 And then we have the Supreme Court.

00:23:54.580 Okay?

00:23:54.840 And you can continue appealing.

00:23:56.580 Even in a matrimonial dispute, you can go to the Supreme Court.

00:24:00.300 You can go to the Supreme Court for a matrimonial dispute. 0.99

00:24:04.380 Yes.

00:24:04.940 Yes.

00:24:05.340 Yes.

00:24:05.520 That's strange, right?

00:24:06.920 Wow.

00:24:07.340 Yeah.

00:24:07.660 So, it's interesting.

00:24:08.860 You guys have different languages in different states, right?

00:24:13.480 Isn't that true?

00:24:13.980 Yeah.

00:24:14.140 Because I don't hear...

00:24:14.500 But English is common. 0.68

00:24:15.380 Yeah.

00:24:15.800 No.

00:24:16.040 But, you know, India is a predominantly English...

00:24:18.920 So, India is...

00:24:19.720 English is an official language.

00:24:21.520 So, its language is not really an issue.

00:24:23.480 So, the real problem is we have 50 million pending court cases.

00:24:28.820 So, it will take us a couple of centuries to clear all the pendency of all those cases, unless we use something like an AI in a really disruptive way, which I think is unlikely to happen.

00:24:42.460 Because the system is also highly current.

00:24:44.460 And we don't have no false divorce.

00:24:46.640 So, a contested divorce can take six to seven years or eight years.

00:24:50.800 And the alimony...

00:24:53.000 India is, by the way, India is actually not a patriarchal country or misogyny, but it is a highly gynocentric country. 0.99

00:24:59.620 That means women and women's... 1.00

00:25:01.640 Women are put at a pedestal. 1.00

00:25:03.140 If you visited India, right, you would see directly, indirectly, women are literally worshipped.

00:25:08.320 You know?

00:25:08.620 Our culture is like that.

00:25:09.700 Of course, there is a balance, but it is not, like, completely one-sided.

00:25:14.920 Now, the narrative often in the society is that if there is a divorce, a woman's life is destroyed.

00:25:23.720 That is that very traditional kind of a narrative.

00:25:26.500 That is why they expect a man to pay a huge sum of alimony.

00:25:31.740 You know?

00:25:32.080 It can be, like, five to six times his annual income.

00:25:35.660 You know, imagine that.

00:25:37.920 Like, five to six years of not saving.

00:25:40.380 It's your annual income.

00:25:41.480 That's what the demands are made.

00:25:43.600 By the society and by the, let's say, social people in the society, the immediate or the courts, right?

00:25:50.160 Now, how can a man pay five to six times of his income, right?

00:25:54.940 It will take, like, maybe 20 years to earn that money.

00:25:57.960 He can't pay.

00:25:58.460 He will be bankrupt, right?

00:26:00.040 Then the man is told, why don't you tell your parents to sell their properties or something and give us money?

00:26:04.960 And why don't you get a loan?

00:26:06.980 Otherwise, they file all these false cases of domestic violence on the man.

00:26:13.480 So it's basically an industry, false case industry that is run by the lawyers and the judges, judicial system.

00:26:21.520 And do you guys have the same immunity for judges and prosecutors there that we have in the U.S.?

00:26:26.700 Yes.

00:26:26.900 We have severe levels of immunity.

00:26:29.220 In fact, it's much more than, you know, I can't criticize a judge, particular judge.

00:26:33.900 I will get contempt of court.

00:26:35.300 I will be going to prison for a month.

00:26:38.800 And then, is that why?

00:26:40.700 Because one thing, when I first started my show, I would have people come on and argue that, like, India was the country I would hear about the most, is they would say they don't have any of these relationship issues because their divorce rate is very, very low.

00:26:56.440 So, is it low because it takes six years to get a divorce?

00:27:01.400 No, no, no, no, no.

00:27:03.040 I will clarify the data because we are doing research for so long.

00:27:07.720 India's divorce rate is around 6%.

00:27:11.480 I mean, divorce and separation rate.

00:27:13.460 Whereas, there is a lot of fake stuff that's going on that is less than 1% because that is 20-year-old data.

00:27:21.880 Let me tell you, I am 52 right now.

00:27:24.880 At the age of 30, you know, in my first 30 years of my life, I only knew two people who were divorced.

00:27:33.320 Okay?

00:27:33.580 I only knew two people who were divorced for 30 years of my life, till the year, let's say, 2001.

00:27:42.460 So, divorce is a very recent phenomenon.

00:27:45.220 I mean, last two, three decades, like that.

00:27:47.820 So, however, it is rapidly increasing.

00:27:50.460 Okay?

00:27:51.000 And I will tell you, in certain groups or families or regions, divorce rate is as high as 33%.

00:27:57.600 Okay?

00:28:01.100 Okay.

00:28:01.620 Okay.

00:28:01.840 So, the data is old.

00:28:03.580 And so, you're saying, you know, the first half of your life, you only knew two people that got divorced.

00:28:08.560 Wow.

00:28:09.040 What was that cultural shift?

00:28:10.920 That had to have been, because, I mean, I've seen it in America, but my whole life, you always knew someone that was getting divorced.

00:28:18.180 So, it wasn't, I can't imagine going through life.

00:28:21.820 Let me put it this way.

00:28:22.420 Yeah, go ahead.

00:28:22.980 Let me put it this way.

00:28:23.920 You know, you heard of the fraud stuff, right?

00:28:26.440 The traditional.

00:28:27.080 You heard of the fraud stuff, right?

00:28:29.260 Yeah.

00:28:29.400 We have lived that life.

00:28:30.540 We have seen our parents as the fraud.

00:28:32.840 Okay?

00:28:33.580 So, I have lived that life.

00:28:36.380 You know, I know how it feels.

00:28:38.280 However, those people, in those days, they were not getting divorced.

00:28:42.320 Not because, you know, the divorce laws were not friendly.

00:28:46.520 It was not easy to get divorced or go to court.

00:28:49.000 The other problem was that the man and the woman were financially dependent because, you know, you are surviving on each other for money, right?

00:28:57.880 You don't want to end up destitute, okay?

00:29:00.900 It can happen, right?

00:29:01.980 So, so, so, so, so that's how the country becomes more affluent.

00:29:06.920 You know, people will, will have more choices.

00:29:09.340 Yeah.

00:29:11.260 Got it.

00:29:11.880 so i'm curious have dating apps affected india at all has um like are people oh no okay not really

00:29:21.900 whether it's an arranged marriage or it is a love marriage or a dating marriage the risk of divorce

00:29:27.320 and separation is equal oh it is okay so can you tell me a little bit more about the this case that

00:29:34.920 we've been covering so it's received in or now i mean i'm covering and i'm in america so um do you

00:29:41.340 see it being effective at like has it gotten attention in india like what like what has

00:29:47.680 been the ramification of this video it has got massive attention in print media tv media the top

00:29:54.520 tv channels uh let's say republic or india today and uh times now these are all top uh uh top tv

00:30:03.140 channels and and cnn's equivalent cnn 18 and all that they all have covered it several days so it's

00:30:09.980 like a top story going on for last and right now apply for anticipatory bail which may get rejected

00:30:14.940 but you know generally uh you know for men this is not that stringent and they are quite lenient so

00:30:22.100 the consequences for this kind of a woman are not right okay and what and there is one more ironic 1.00

00:30:30.240 point all the false cases we filed on the on the man they will continue running against his back for

00:30:38.680 next couple of years wow because all these false domestic cases are filed on the parents as well

00:30:45.740 so their son is dead but the parents will be running around those codes and that's because of the dowry

00:30:51.940 law right the there's some law with the domestic indian domestic violence law they consider the whole

00:30:59.020 family you know because india used to have a joint family system so even india has two domestic

00:31:04.920 violence laws by the way so one is the law related to dowry or cruelty which was actually before the

00:31:11.180 american domestic violence law this law was passed in 1983 the american domestic violence law vava was

00:31:18.020 passed in 1994 so we are ahead of usa and then in 2005 india got more joe biden style domestic violence

00:31:27.200 you know law which joe biden drafted so we have two domestic violence laws okay one is one one has 0.51

00:31:33.680 restraining orders and all that which is recent but the earlier one which is more related to dowry and

00:31:39.040 cruelty which is 1983 yeah are are you guys seeing the same trends there when it comes to like women not

00:31:48.160 having india okay i mean the the age of marriage of women in every decade it has shifted by four or five years

00:31:57.600 so let's say 15 years back i will be surprised if i hear people marrying after 30 people used to get

00:32:05.280 married i mean women used to get married around 24 25 now average woman marries 28 30 kind of so the so

00:32:13.240 the age age of marriage of women is shifting due to a lot of government policies as well because to 0.54

00:32:19.260 control the population they are encouraging women in this way to you know because indian population they

00:32:25.060 are trying to control just like what they did in china okay well is there anything else that you

00:32:31.380 think an american audience should know about india um or about this case that you think is important

00:32:39.620 yeah about this case i would like to say that just half an hour before committing suicide he

00:32:45.380 tweeted to elon musk and donald trump so he felt that there is some hope for men as long as

00:32:52.740 there is elon musk and trump doing something so just imagine in a distant place like india

00:32:58.820 there are men who are counting on them so that tweet is there in the in the i will share it so and he's

00:33:05.780 he uploaded a video that entire video in rumble uh because he believed that no nobody will there

00:33:11.380 will not be any censorship so so this censorship issue free speech is true and all these are universal uh

00:33:17.940 i mean that is what we are all facing and we were all you know banned and shadow banned and

00:33:24.180 de-platformed from many of the social media so so that's what i can say that is the problem is same

00:33:30.340 same that we are facing you know one of our supreme court chief of justice which

00:33:34.420 who just retired just now he said indian constitution is a feminist document

00:33:39.780 he said that needs a what a feminist what indian constitution is feminist the constitution is

00:33:49.620 feminist wow

00:33:54.660 well thank you very much he was a harvard educated he was a harvard educated you know he's a he had a

00:34:00.660 harvard phd okay so he was completely he had one really always yeah yeah he had the that's what we

00:34:08.020 see wow well thank you very much for coming on um we'll definitely have you back um for different

00:34:14.900 cases so thank you very much um and where can can you tell them where they could find you your youtube

00:34:22.500 website whatever uh we have our website saveindianfamily.org that is where most male victims land to get

00:34:30.740 support so we have telegram groups and all and our twitter id is uh real safe real s-i-f-f

00:34:38.820 uh real is real just like real donald trump and s-i-f-f uh you know s for san francisco and i and f-f

00:34:48.180 well thank you so much

00:34:51.700 okay guys so you know a lot of times i i think that the passport bros

00:34:58.180 can sell dreams this is the commonality i've gotten from people across the world is that these

00:35:04.820 issues thing i'm going to react to was i saw an old clip from jesse lee peterson and i just thought it

00:35:11.380 was hilarious oh i hope oh i don't know if they'll copyright me dr phil mm okay guys i'm gonna do it

00:35:22.740 i'm gonna do it but if they pull the stream i'm gonna start another one i think they warn you i do

00:35:27.940 i think they warn you has been tweeting about the earth's alleged underpopulation crisis but should

00:35:34.740 we be concerned we've agreed that it's not birth rate that's kiver at least that's for sure you think

00:35:43.620 it should be people should qualify and be tested you think people should be tested you think we should

00:35:50.340 just feed them and let them age out voluntarily yeah right i mean so as a society i mean we value

00:36:00.740 freedom and the you know reproductive choice is one of those freedoms and i think the better approach

00:36:08.340 is to try to educate people um so that they're responsible when they have children and they can

00:36:14.580 care for them but i mean i think having the government getting involved in anything like

00:36:19.780 this i mean china's done that it's a disaster over there i completely agree with you about 1.00

00:36:24.900 reproductive freedom i think that's the most important thing we need today hundreds of millions

00:36:30.580 of couples are denied their right to not procreate but we uh you were mentioning how's that go ahead

00:36:37.220 how are they denied that right they do not they do not have the uh contraceptive services reproductive

00:36:43.780 health services that they need those are not uh provided and maybe people should supply their own but

00:36:51.860 they can't afford it because they're having more offspring that they can't feed where's that 1.00

00:36:57.140 just about everywhere try to get a uh sterilization here in america when you haven't had kids and you're only

00:37:04.340 22 that's true we're we're not allowing people to not breathe people like that all the time and

00:37:10.740 you can put an iud in a copper iud is effective for 10 years it's inert have you ever worked in a

00:37:16.420 grocery store and seen a a lady with a bonnet on her head with eight kids walking behind her you think

00:37:22.420 that she's being responsible you think that she's really taking into consideration what she's supposed

00:37:27.940 to do responsibly you think that she's not on section eight housing you don't think that we paying

00:37:32.660 for her to house her kids was probably going to grow up and steal my wheels off my car i uh i disagree 1.00

00:37:38.820 with all this crap that i hear i grew up with six brothers and seven sisters at a time when you know 0.63

00:37:46.820 i grew up on a plantation in alabama and we grew up in a little hut house bathroom outside and we my family 0.88

00:37:54.100 uh raised an amazing family children but what the difference was then and it is now is that you have

00:38:02.100 the father and the mother in the home and while the fathers are earning a living the mother was watching

00:38:07.460 over his children and so you were able to raise decent children we didn't have government in our 0.93

00:38:12.660 lives at the time and so we were able to do that and in america we were not allowing all these illegal 0.98

00:38:19.620 aliens and refugees to come into our country so our government we're not taking care of folks from 1.00

00:38:27.460 other parts of the world and the families in america we took care of ourselves i think you've pretty much

00:38:38.420 i don't know jesse lee peterson kills me oh he's so funny i'm gonna keep going hold on pissed off 0.83

00:38:45.060 everybody um but you you said you said there's not anything you've heard that you don't think is 0.73

00:38:53.140 crap so what do you think you said what you don't think what do you think i know that we need to 0.80

00:38:58.500 restore the family we need a smaller government because government don't make anything work they 1.00

00:39:04.500 screw you up we need to stop taking care of women who are having these babies out of wetlock right 1.00

00:39:09.540 we need to stop taking care of these women who are coming from other countries we need to stop 1.00

00:39:14.180 taking care of their babies but you need to take care of american families first by getting them 1.00

00:39:19.140 away from the government and restoring order you're a pastor right yes and you're a radio host yes okay

00:39:26.500 and you said you believe white people should have more children we definitely need white babies and i 0.87

00:39:33.620 tremble at the idea that white babies that the white uh group is going down in numbers because if you 0.96

00:39:42.100 lose white folks america it's over for america because if you notice white people tend to be more 0.87

00:39:48.260 innovative they're more creative they have ideas about things all these other races don't do nothing but 1.00

00:40:00.180 they destroy

00:40:05.140 they don't build

00:40:08.340 they destroy

00:40:23.220 i said you'd piss off everybody i was wrong now you piss off everybody do you have a story or a 0.99

00:40:28.740 question my favorite thing was just the face of everybody in the room was so mad

00:40:42.260 my producer says the face of the white dude was like what did i do

00:40:46.020 i'm just saying being white's awesome we don't we don't get i don't i

00:40:56.580 he's funny he's funny okay so the next thing i wanted to give you guys an update on yeah but then

00:41:04.740 they can get to is apparently this woman now the new so i got a text this afternoon

00:41:11.300 afternoon and you guys know the woman i've been telling you about that she had sex with a hundred 0.88

00:41:17.780 men now she's looking to have sex with a thousand men well apparently she was on my show last year 1.00

00:41:26.100 and mind you sometimes these panels i really try to block out because they were really exhausting but

00:41:33.380 i actually do remember this show um i don't know why i literally forgot about her so she must not

00:41:39.460 have been that entertaining um but this was her on my show a year ago yeah but then they can get 1.00

00:41:46.500 to know the new 22 year old yeah yeah but not all guys not all guys fancy fresh me sure they'll

00:41:53.940 they'll get to know the 40 year old no some guys have vegetables for older women like i'm curious 1.00

00:42:00.020 what do you guys make a month on only fans personally i don't like to say same okay is it over six figures

00:42:06.100 a month yeah okay is it over six figures i just said i'm not saying okay um so did you you don't

00:42:13.940 want to why does every time i come on a podcast everyone always asks me asks that question don't

00:42:18.500 they we want to know we want to know what i'm actually quite amazing yeah yeah it's it's enough

00:42:24.260 i wouldn't do it if it wasn't enough like charges more than she does per month the brunette charges more 1.00

00:42:28.660 than the blonde per month so if she's working six figures she's got to be in it logically it depends on 0.99

00:42:33.220 like following and stuff like that and like obviously you do a little bit less like that

00:42:38.180 it just depends um i mean i don't face my arsehole but if you want to see that subscribe 0.90

00:42:46.820 i had enough i spoke to enough hookers in a year that i think i'm permanently traumatized you know 0.94

00:42:52.900 what go to my go to the audacity network.com because i did that for you i love you guys you

00:42:59.140 know i really like to put in an entertaining show but my god that was a long year of my life so go to

00:43:06.180 the audacity network.com monthly or your yearly membership pearl you got blackpilled i really did

00:43:14.260 i really did you know i'll tell you what because we have this idea that these are special women this 1.00

00:43:22.740 will never happen to anybody you know none of the people in your life this is just crazy city behavior

00:43:30.100 but most of these women were from small towns and good families lily phillips 0.72

00:43:36.740 her she her parents talk to her every day she's from upper class family in england

00:43:42.420 and i would just see woman after woman that would be christian muslim small town big town

00:43:52.340 and yeah blackpilled me it really did um okay so next on the agenda uh we are going to be

00:44:01.780 reacting to a debate that i saw on youtube and what i noticed is

00:44:09.220 hold on guys um what i noticed is oftentimes we think there's a big difference between

00:44:21.300 conservative and liberal women and i don't really see much of a difference in the two 1.00

00:44:33.060 and many times we think that there are these special women that are different but when it comes to life 0.98

00:44:40.820 choices it's pretty much the same thing um let me where did i get this

00:44:50.260 oh here okay so let me pull okay this is the debate i wanted to react to okay

00:45:10.180 know where i'm coming from on this and i'm very excited for this break this is our final episode

00:45:14.500 of season two so sit back relax and let's dive into one last memory also for a second i'm going to

00:45:21.460 react to the youtube comments uh one says thanks pearl pearl for bringing on siff by the way

00:45:27.540 ai engineer was paid was by his wife to pay 2400 per month per maintenance besides paying 360

00:45:36.100 thousand dollars one-time payment fazelle says jesse lee peterson says nothing about the truth if

00:45:41.780 you guys have a question comment or concern go to the audacity network dot com ten dollars a month

00:45:46.260 80 bucks a year just be a part of the live chat thank you memorable opposing views discussion together

00:45:50.980 and it's a really good one you guys stay tuned for updates on what's coming next for season three

00:45:55.300 by hitting the subscribe button and the notification story and what led you to

00:45:59.140 being passionate about this topic i'll ask you first yeah so um right now i'm a physician but

00:46:06.100 when my content started and i started being a lot more vocal about feminism women's rights kind of 0.94

00:46:12.420 that whole sphere um it started because of the texas um sb8 which was the um six-week abortion ban

00:46:21.460 and i woke up one day as a med student at the time and just like really frustrated and really angry about it

00:46:28.740 and tiktok is the place that people go to vent those kinds of opinions um and so i just was like you

00:46:34.660 know what i have an opinion and i have to say something and it was a good outlet um and that

00:46:38.980 video went viral and i was not expecting it to at all um because i didn't have a platform at all and

00:46:44.660 so then i kind of just fed off of um comments and interaction and i was like well i have opinions if

00:46:51.140 y'all want to hear them and so then it kind of just snowballed and now i'm really passionate about

00:46:55.220 being as good as a advocate as i can be awesome my name is isabel brown i am a full-time content creator

00:47:02.260 and i host a live stream every day where we talk about a whole host of issues not just women's

00:47:07.140 related topics and conversations but what's going on on tiktok politics uh religion dating the whole

00:47:13.620 nine and i never expected that this would be something i did for a career i too actually was

00:47:17.940 pre-med way back in the day and have a few degrees in biomedical sciences in graduate school more on

00:47:22.900 the public policy side women in the process it's why you're watching women become so controversial in 1.00

00:47:29.220 and of itself we have a supreme court justice in the united states who can't answer the question

00:47:33.700 what is a woman uh you're watching women's rights advocates claim that the best trajectory for women 1.00

00:47:39.860 moving into the future is in fact disintegrating what we would understand women okay so i want you guys

00:47:45.460 to pay attention the non-feminists claim to care about family but they refuse to take away the 1.00

00:47:55.220 incentives or argue about the incentives that are destroying the family they'll go back and forth

00:48:00.740 about abortion the men in the women's locker rooms all this bs that let's be honest abortion's going 1.00

00:48:11.300 nowhere uh the ladies did that to themselves the men in the women's locker rooms i mean the ladies 1.00

00:48:18.820 they're the ones who pushed that so i i don't feel bad at all movements applaud men taking over women's 0.98

00:48:24.100 spaces and calling it inclusivity in society rather than what it is which is just frankly misogyny so

00:48:30.180 i wouldn't necessarily identify with the post-modern fourth wave feminist movement we find ourselves in

00:48:35.780 today but feminism historically has done amazing work for women and truly brought us to the now the early feminists 0.99

00:48:44.500 bombed places specifically appreciate and would identify with fourth wave feminism because i think it's 1.00

00:48:50.900 essential to recognize that we are three white privileged women sitting here having this conversation 0.99

00:48:56.500 and a really big part of fourth wave feminism is the recognition of intersectionality and so sure 1.00

00:49:02.420 there might not be legal barriers to opportunities to us now but there are still very much different

00:49:10.020 prejudices and stigmas against women especially when it comes to being working moms and things like that

00:49:15.220 um and when it comes to again different identities when it comes to women of color um women in poverty

00:49:21.940 it's recognizing that they also need to be supported and they also need to be seen and when it comes to

00:49:29.140 things like our unpaid way feminism is really trying to bring awareness to because it's so much easier to 1.00

00:49:34.660 ignore what do you think about that that's an interesting thought i'd be curious to know how you are seeing

00:49:40.660 these prejudices continue to exist against women if in fact they're not legally structurally in in 0.98

00:49:46.660 place in america today how are those manifesting from your point of view yeah so things like the

00:49:52.260 gender wage gap so women are still um earning less than men with the same degrees with the same positions 0.52

00:49:59.780 um women also get questioned more often when they try to balance work and parenthood um things like 0.94

00:50:05.460 that when it comes to just the opportunity to do what you want to do with your life you want to

00:50:09.380 have the same opportunities as men both financially and from the perspective of just like the societal

00:50:15.860 appearance of what you're choosing where men have a lot more freedom to not be constrained by gender

00:50:22.420 norms when it comes to their life choices if they don't want children or they don't want to be married

00:50:26.820 a lot of people don't question that a lot of people are just like yeah that makes sense you know but

00:50:30.420 when a woman chooses that there's a lot of that sort of stigma behind it of like oh well surely like 0.99

00:50:35.940 you'll change your mind surely that's what everyone would want and so that's what i mean when i say

00:50:40.820 there's that stigma and there's that pressure pushing against women who want to go outside the 0.89

00:50:46.420 traditional gender norms of what we would think women should want for ourselves that's so interesting

00:50:51.140 because truthfully i encounter the exact opposite in spending my time online or on college campuses

00:50:56.580 or with women's organizations if anything i think our postmodern society has built a very strong

00:51:01.940 stigma against traditional gender norms you look at every headline in cosmopolitan magazine for example

00:51:08.500 encouraging women to not have children to not get married notice the language the language is still

00:51:13.700 society's making me do this it's almost as if we're children right well society is shaming us for

00:51:23.060 choosing this or society's encouraging us to do this no nothing's stopping us three percent of gen z women 1.00

00:51:32.260 are married and isabella you know she just got married in her late 20s okay not wrong not wrong not

00:51:41.780 good not bad but it's not traditional right to be as promiscuous as possible and never to be committed

00:51:49.300 and the other girl i'm pretty sure she's engaged during a long-term living relationship i i don't

00:51:54.980 know her as well um i just know isabella's because i made um a spreadsheet collecting data from

00:52:01.780 conservative women to track if their age of marriage number of kids was any different than liberal and it's 1.00

00:52:07.620 pretty much it's it's the same it's the same their personal dating relationships uh the surgeon general of

00:52:16.340 the united states of america a few weeks ago actually issued an official declaration that parenting is

00:52:22.740 theoretically hazardous for your health because it might make you more lonely than if you never had

00:52:28.660 children to begin with which was an odd train of thought to begin with and not incredibly logical so

00:52:34.180 you're watching the establishment media you're watching establishment health care and physicians

00:52:39.140 you're watching college campuses your favorite celebrities hollywood influencers all strategically

00:52:44.740 peddle this narrative for women that the only way to be an empowered enlightened woman in 2024 0.97

00:52:51.300 is to abandon tradition to abandon gender norms to abandon femininity in many ways uh and certainly

00:52:58.500 to never get married or have children so that is interesting that there is that tug of war still in america

00:53:03.300 but i certainly think today gender norms are what the stigma happens to be rather than buffing gender

00:53:09.940 i wish we could talk less in the abstract and i could get more specifics right like what what does that mean

00:53:17.140 in real life like what does that mean in your life like when were you pushed one way or another

00:53:26.980 who pushed you so okay let's say it was your school who picked the school

00:53:34.100 um you don't have to go to college right that's a choice

00:53:41.300 i understand maybe under 18 but after 18 it's you're an adult

00:53:48.820 your norms but it's interesting you bring up the gender wage gap you know this is a conversation we've had for years

00:53:54.980 and years and years in the united states and certainly historically has been true decades and decades and decades ago

00:54:00.020 but there have been countless studies proving that the gender pay gap does not exist when you account

00:54:05.060 for different career choices working full-time versus part-time uh the census data that typically

00:54:10.500 accounts for this 84 cents on the dollar 84 percent figure even goes so far as to skew the numbers that

00:54:16.180 teachers you know first primary and secondary teachers who are overwhelmingly three-quarters female

00:54:21.380 who work 38 weeks out of the year they do the math that they work 52 weeks out of the year to make

00:54:26.580 it seem like they're earning substantially less money than men uh but that all is obviously so 0.91

00:54:33.860 i understand there's a time and a place for data i'm not saying

00:54:42.020 i'm trying to be careful with my words i'm not saying data is wrong or bad to use

00:54:47.860 but when making a point i always like to use real life examples that other people can

00:54:53.700 think about if they're true or not in their life and the challenge we're going to get is she's going

00:55:02.740 to cite a study and it's going to say her point and the other woman's going to cite a study and it's 1.00

00:55:09.060 going to say her point and the challenge with data is a lot of times they get their funding from either

00:55:15.620 traditional conservative organizations that's where you get all the michael knolls

00:55:19.540 um daily wire stats that are pushing uh marriage right because they're institutes that again that's

00:55:27.460 their thing they're like christian organization then the liberals they have their left-leaning organizations

00:55:35.460 and if you get results that go against your ideology

00:55:40.900 um that's the challenge i have with data right i'm not saying it's bad or good we can look at each

00:55:50.740 study but i prefer to know how it's affected your life right not true has been proven to be wrong over

00:55:59.460 and over again and interestingly is statistically dramatically changing because when you look at the

00:56:04.740 careers women are choosing in the norms of 2024 let's look at medicine for example you're a physician a 1.00

00:56:10.660 first-year resident historically in the 1960s only eight percent of med students were females

00:56:16.180 today over 50 percent of medical students are females and that's terrifying 1.00

00:56:24.660 that's terrifying

00:56:29.620 that's i'm bad

00:56:33.220 i'm not saying medicine's gonna go downhill i'm not gonna say that because i can't

00:56:40.660 i'm not i'm not yeah so i've actually read the complete opposite studies from the studies that

00:56:46.820 i've read um specifically when people men and women are in the same role so a managerial role or

00:56:53.460 supervising role women make less than men in the exact same roles same with people who have advanced 0.92

00:56:58.580 degrees so masters or doctorates women who have the same degrees as men will statistically make less 0.90

00:57:03.700 money than men with those same degrees so we're reading different studies and living in different

00:57:07.780 realities it seems but when i want to really go back to what you were saying about the media and

00:57:14.180 everyone pushing women to not get married and not have children and demonizing this sense of tradition and

00:57:21.780 to be clear i'm pro-choice in all different ways and i believe when i see the media pushing these things

00:57:27.940 i don't see it demonizing the traditional way of life i don't see it demonizing you know people who want

00:57:33.700 to homeschool or who want to be stay-at-home moms i see it as them opening the you know opportunities 0.95

00:57:39.860 for women to choose what they want to do because historically women have been told that if you don't 1.00

00:57:45.300 want to be a stay-at-home mom if you don't want to dedicate your entire life and being to your children

00:57:49.860 and family then you are wrong and you're going to be unhappy and so now the media is kind of

00:57:54.340 swinging that pendulum which like admittedly pendulums swing a little bit too far before they normalize

00:57:59.060 right and i'm not saying i have anything wrong with it but i think that what the media and what

00:58:03.380 okay this idea that things are going to swing back it's them selling you hope and that's a whole

00:58:13.060 business it's selling you hope right no usually trends just is in the united states 90 percent of people

00:58:22.900 were farmers up until the 1900s like it i actually have it on here hold on i pulled this up earlier um

00:58:36.580 so i don't know what they they keep saying that you know they supported men's dreams or whatever

00:58:42.900 you know i don't think most of men's dreams was to be a farmer because the the day they got the option

00:58:48.820 to not be farmers a lot of men said i'm not doing that anymore so that's the detail they keep skipping

00:58:58.420 over is that you know yes the women stayed home with the kids but they had more kids to help on the farm 0.99

00:59:10.180 so i don't know what like his other option was factory worker and coal miner

00:59:18.820 what dreams was he if he wasn't born into an aristocratic class and or ran for office

00:59:28.420 what dreams did he have okay i'm gonna continue

00:59:40.660 people are really trying to portray is that you do not have to fall into this historical role

00:59:46.180 you can date around you can choose to not get married you can choose to not have kids and all

00:59:51.380 of those things are valid and for the longest part of history women were seeing the exact opposite

00:59:56.820 messaging we're encouraged to you know marry whoever and have kids because that's what makes you happy

01:00:02.740 and a lot of our grandmothers and mothers were like oh guess what it didn't make me happy and they're

01:00:07.460 encouraging the younger generation now this is something that conservatives think is untrue when

01:00:14.900 they say my mother and grandmother um told me or the the women of the past weren't as happy as they say

01:00:26.820 i have to agree with them and i'll tell you why so when i was doing my shows i would get people that

01:00:34.180 came from seemingly more traditional countries um nigeria was one i could think of zimbabwe is another um

01:00:45.860 countries that were a little bit more traditional say than the west as we saw before

01:00:53.300 gynocentrism is a problem among everywhere but one thing that i often heard from

01:01:00.900 the daughters that migrated to the uk because a lot of immigrants came to the uk in the last like

01:01:08.180 50 years so a lot of them were second generation

01:01:12.100 they would tell me that the reason that they chose to go to school and not prioritize marriage was

01:01:19.060 because their mother told them not to and i just heard that too many times from women that didn't know

01:01:26.260 each other the mothers would be married 30 40 50 years and they would still tell their daughters to 0.99

01:01:32.340 wait to get married or not to do it at all uh so what am i supposed to do with that i don't know i

01:01:39.940 don't think that's like a nice conclusion i think a lot more women trashed their husbands than we like 1.00

01:01:45.700 to admit but it kind of lines up with what we're seeing now i don't think people of the past were so

01:01:50.980 different than the people of today there's just more incentives and choice now so

01:01:59.140 yeah okay i'm gonna keep going to make whatever choices make them happy

01:02:04.500 namely because statistically even today married women with children are overwhelmingly self-reporting

01:02:09.700 themselves to be the happiest in society we're over correcting in so many ways for maybe potentially

01:02:15.940 flawed narratives of the past or incomplete narratives of the past now again i gotta look at choices i don't

01:02:24.900 think women are as monogamous as we once thought and the reason i think that is because the second that 0.94

01:02:32.980 women got to choose non-monogamy too many women chose it you know if you pull men and women on 0.95

01:02:39.540 if waiting till marriage for example is important to them more men rank that as important than women

01:02:48.740 um

01:02:50.820 so

01:02:53.220 are married women with children the happiest probably but

01:02:58.740 it doesn't really i don't think that stat shows fully because you're not taking into account the

01:03:10.260 women that were married and had children and chose to leave right like the divorcees so it's almost like

01:03:16.180 a cheater stat i don't i don't know i don't know if i'm making sense but okay the past which we call

01:03:22.020 a pendulum shift but honestly looks a whole lot more like propaganda to me when we're inventing

01:03:26.580 right and this is the thing they both have propaganda they both do the right and the left

01:03:31.380 it's equal okay the left has a little bit more pull so you know the left has more but

01:03:37.140 the right wants men to get married and they want men to fix society because again it scares them what

01:03:45.780 they're going to do with all these single women and if men don't keep taking bad deals society will fall 0.99

01:03:51.700 apart um you know if men are treated poorly by the military let's say and enough men say you know

01:03:59.300 what i'm not doing this that becomes a problem for everybody if men say you know what i'm not getting

01:04:05.780 married anymore well that becomes a problem for businesses because women love to spend so men make 1.00

01:04:13.780 the money women spend it this isn't even discounted because we have tick tocks of men and women saying my

01:04:20.500 money is my money his money is our money so this isn't even discounted right then on top of that

01:04:29.220 politicians need the birth rate to come up they don't know what to do if men say you know what i'm not 0.98

01:04:35.780 having kids with these late they're terrified so both sides have incentive to lie realities that don't

01:04:46.180 reflect indicative in normal society the family stability society i can't remember the exact

01:04:52.420 group that ran this study but from 2023 found that 40 percent of women who are married with children

01:04:58.420 self-report their lives to be incredibly overwhelmingly happy only 22 percent of unmarried women with 0.66

01:05:04.340 children feel the exact same way so well and the question i have is at what age

01:05:09.700 at what age are they pulling the women because a 25 year old hot woman i can't think of anybody on the 1.00

01:05:19.220 planet that has a better life a 55 year old ex-hot women woman i can't think of anybody else that has a 1.00

01:05:28.500 worse life because she had that amazing life and now it's gone forever and she'll never get it back 0.96

01:05:34.900 it's not really manifesting in society the exact same way that we're seeing overwhelmingly portrayed

01:05:40.980 in these headlines in movies and tv shows and studies conducted by academia and what's said by

01:05:45.700 presidential candidates of the united states so it seems to me this isn't so much of a societal pendulum

01:05:51.300 shift as it is an overwhelming narrative that is being pushed onto the next generation to convince them

01:05:58.100 hey i know this is what's being proven in society this is probably what's going to make you happy

01:06:03.060 just because that's how we've done things in the past we can never consider that moving into the

01:06:06.740 future because we have to be progressive for the sake of being progressive trust me we can all use a

01:06:11.700 little support when it comes yeah you are not plugging your ad on my stream hell no we're reading different

01:06:19.460 statistics because again i've read many statistics that show that typically mothers and people again

01:06:26.020 this is why i don't love statistics because they're gonna go back and forth my stats your stats how did

01:06:36.580 you conduct this study da da da da da i prefer good faith conversations about what we've seen in our

01:06:43.620 actual lives so you know my question is are your parents married and are they happy did you have

01:06:49.860 friends growing up are they still married and are they happy did they have a relationship that you would

01:06:56.420 want now does everyone want to answer that honestly on camera i don't know but yeah data can be manipulated

01:07:06.980 and what generalizations do people which i can't make on youtube um can people relate to you know

01:07:16.580 what generalizations can we make and people say oh i relate with that who give birth are more likely

01:07:24.020 to suffer from mental health conditions than women who do not because it is more of a stressor there's

01:07:31.540 all of that unpaid work unpaid labor and unseen mental load that women have to carry and we also have 1.00

01:07:37.220 to look at the way that these surveys are asked because a lot of times the questions that are asked

01:07:40.980 are asked in a certain way that want to get a certain answer from them and if you don't believe me right

01:07:48.100 look at all the traditional conservatives on twitter begging lily to find god

01:07:58.820 the stuff is biased right both ways you um but i think again when you see progression and you see

01:08:06.740 progressive ideas you see it as people pushing that idea as the only correct way where i just view it

01:08:12.340 differently i see it as opening up opportunities for people and recognizing that all of the these

01:08:17.620 different ways of life are valid and again through history like historically women have been given these 0.91

01:08:24.100 very narrow options and told and when we talk about propaganda right i see that as propaganda i see

01:08:30.420 it as propaganda to say that you will not be happy unless you have a family and children because

01:08:34.900 for a lot of people that is not true and that's also not necessarily a choice if you don't meet

01:08:39.140 the right person or you get stuck with the wrong person you know it's it doesn't necessarily mean

01:08:44.340 that you are going to be happy and so many of our mothers and grandmothers have told us this did not

01:08:50.180 make me happy it wasn't the marriage itself it was the person so ensure that you are you know aiming

01:08:55.780 for an equal partnership and what we found to be by our dang selves i i don't make the rules i didn't make

01:09:02.260 this world okay but all the data that's what it indicates and you know make sure that you are

01:09:09.460 choosing your partner wisely because women have not been given that opportunity women have not been

01:09:15.220 you know encouraged to really make those intentional choices it's always been about checking a box

01:09:20.660 instead of living life intentionally yeah and look i think the spectrum of human happiness obviously

01:09:26.580 is a subjective conversation to have it depends on the individual it certainly depends on one

01:09:31.060 and that's the other thing i don't like is um

01:09:36.340 in one day i could feel happy in the morning and mad at night so am i happy person or an unhappy person

01:09:45.700 um like happiness is a feeling i don't think it's a state so i don't really like studies that use

01:09:55.860 happiness because how do you measure it um and like what does that even mean

01:10:06.340 circumstances i hope joy is something people continue to choose no matter what their circumstances

01:10:11.460 are but that speaks more largely to the mental health of our population what i what i do have a

01:10:15.700 problem with is not the expectation that people can make different decisions for their life based on

01:10:20.660 their individual circumstances or their own personal autonomy it's this idea that the narrative we are

01:10:26.260 being pushed every single day by the machine whatever you want to call that government health

01:10:32.260 care uh media and everything in between seems to be overwhelmingly convincing you in whatever way

01:10:39.780 shape or form that what we understand to be traditionalism is wrong that marriage is wrong 0.97

01:10:46.340 in fact having children is wrong that we're sitting here in los angeles filming the los angeles times a few

01:10:51.780 weeks ago had a headline saying you are an inherently selfish person if you want to have a child and they were

01:10:58.340 making this claim because even now seems like it's going to get worse not better i don't want to say worse but

01:11:07.780 like it's going to continue going that way there's no data that indicates it's going any other way

01:11:14.420 so anybody that's saying that's an option for most people is selling dreams that's what they're doing

01:11:22.100 and i think it's tough because you know it's not something it's tough to accept right because that's

01:11:30.180 what we've seen on tv that's what you know we grew up around but the world is changing unfortunately the

01:11:36.580 cat's out of the bottle i don't see anything that indicates it's going the other way i see zero evidence

01:11:42.820 to indicate it's going to go that way not this way okay um rob said i can't say there's a certain

01:11:52.900 someone who isn't as bright as men not gonna say it um i can't rob also said on the website which if

01:11:59.700 you guys want to comment um question comment or concern you go to the audacity network.com links

01:12:05.060 in the description 10 bucks a month 80 bucks a year you get me to read your comments during shows

01:12:09.940 rob says i knew a coal miner that later became a medical transcriber i worked with residents and

01:12:16.500 nurses almost continuously specifics are important alexander said the dadvocate and roma army said

01:12:22.660 on stream they would be fine with porn stars and of chicks becoming the teacher of their kids because 1.00

01:12:27.940 they wouldn't want to judge a woman based on her sexual history even some of the most based women in 1.00

01:12:32.100 the space still have feminist tendencies modern society because it's viewed as the opposite of 1.00

01:12:38.100 progressivism when in reality that's just not making people happy we're in the midst of the biggest

01:12:42.580 mental health crisis of all time in western society certainly within the context of gen z and for the first

01:12:49.300 time ever young women are actually struggling with more mental health conditions okay notice

01:12:56.980 right there they she took a man's problem and made it about women if i google who commits suicide more 1.00

01:13:06.420 teenage men or women

01:13:11.380 males die by suicide more frequently this discrepancy is known as the gender paradox in suicide

01:13:19.940 so again you have both the both women right one's claiming traditionalism but they make all of the problems 0.98

01:13:29.460 that affect men they make about women they completely do it so if there's a men's mental health

01:13:36.340 crisis it's what about women's issues and young men they are statistically much more likely to be

01:13:41.860 anxious to be depressed the cdc found that in 2021 one in three teenage girls seriously contemplated

01:13:48.660 taking her own life i want to see how bad the discrepancy is because

01:13:52.580 male versus fail female men make up 80 percent of suicides we're talking about women's mental health

01:14:07.940 80 percent of suicides and we're saying but women have the mental health issues it's women women women 0.95

01:14:13.300 like it drives me nuts drives me crazy and it's so and i don't like she probably just memorizes

01:14:20.020 talking points i don't i don't know how much like in debt like the stuff she's saying is stuff

01:14:25.460 conservatives really cared about traditionalism they would get rid of the systems that punish men

01:14:31.700 for being traditional they would and that would be their number one issue but they do not care about

01:14:36.900 it they don't because they spend a million hours talking about men and women's sports abortion all this

01:14:46.420 white noise that distracts from the real issues because they make money off of women so you have to 1.00

01:14:56.420 pander and say oh but women's mental health women's because the female even conservatives get paid by women 1.00

01:15:04.740 i'd have a million subscribers on the you know i would have a billion subscribers on the website if

01:15:11.380 i just pandered to women you guys are lucky i have integrity because if i steve harveyed it oh my gosh

01:15:19.380 you would be rich you would be rich hard for me to wrestle with this idea that we claim to live in

01:15:26.340 the most progressive society in human history where anything is possible and you can do whatever you

01:15:31.140 want and there are no consequences to your actions and you can make your life brick by brick exactly

01:15:36.100 what you want it to be yet we're devoid in society of purpose and meaning and fulfillment entirely

01:15:42.820 which is why we end up feeling so lost now all right you go ahead and reply and then i have another

01:15:47.060 question for you guys yeah so i actually disagree that we're devoid of purpose because i think the entire

01:15:52.980 purpose of deviating from this idea that motherhood and wifehood are the key identifiers of a woman

01:16:00.820 i feel like that is what devoids women of purpose and this idea that you can achieve whatever you 0.98

01:16:06.820 want and you can be whatever you want is the intention of that is to help women find their 0.66

01:16:11.700 purpose because so many people had to put their dreams and desires aside to lift up the men in their

01:16:17.220 life and now we're saying first coal miners and factory workers i think by the 1940s 40 of men were

01:16:25.460 factory workers but 1800s at one point 90 of men were farmers

01:16:36.340 i think we see i think we see things on tv sometimes and we just think all the like a man's

01:16:42.260 life is just easy they just put on a suit go to work wolf of wall street it but they gotta stop

01:16:50.580 giving us movies they gotta we we see the movies and we just we think it's nothing that the men just

01:16:58.020 go to work don't do anything and get a bunch of money and status yeah the opportunity and we want

JustPearlyThings - December 12, 2024

Liberal and Conservative Women Are Not That Different ｜ Pearl Daily

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