JustPearlyThings - Logical Woman SHUTS DOWN This Delusional bimbo

00:00:00.000 The problem is, is his issue isn't other multiple women.

00:00:04.080 His issue is he's not where he wants to be financially.

00:00:06.660 I think, again, society puts pressure on men to have to be millionaires.

00:00:10.560 Like there's this idea that men have to be.

00:00:12.500 So what would happen if you just said, I don't care about the money.

00:00:15.880 Like I will, I will work with you.

00:00:17.620 Like you can do your side piece thing.

00:00:19.720 I'm cool with that too.

00:00:20.880 No, I think, but it's more him believing in him accepting that.

00:00:24.880 It's not, I can say it all I want.

00:00:26.020 Was it because in like the relationship before, was it like, did you,

00:00:29.020 is that something you got on him for?

00:00:30.960 No, never.

00:00:31.760 Okay.

00:00:32.000 But it's his, his concept of women is women will stay with you if you have money. 0.99

00:00:36.820 Because a lot of men now, especially like the Andrew Tate lovers,

00:00:40.620 believe that if you don't have enough money, a woman would leave you. 1.00

00:00:43.780 100%.

00:00:44.260 So this is the problem is me.

00:00:47.380 I will stick by his side regardless.

00:00:48.660 Yeah, but you're his, can I just interrupt you not to be rude,

00:00:51.600 but you're his wife.

00:00:52.820 He chose you, you chose him. 0.59

00:00:55.000 So what everybody else outside of that is doing is none of your concern.

00:00:59.020 And what gets my brain is when you're in a marriage,

00:01:02.440 everybody else really doesn't matter in the respect of like,

00:01:06.160 you know, your parents' opinion, they can add whatever,

00:01:08.800 but it literally doesn't matter.

00:01:10.520 So Andrew Tate, social media, all these factors,

00:01:14.040 they don't matter.

00:01:14.640 They actually don't matter.

00:01:16.760 Take them away and then work on your,

00:01:19.000 your marriage or relationship together.

00:01:21.820 That's what it's like.

00:01:22.400 But, and this is the thing, I can say it to him all I want,

00:01:25.200 but again, as a man, he has to believe in himself.

00:01:27.820 I can't believe that a guy would leave a full-blown marriage

00:01:31.580 just because he doesn't think he's financially stable.

00:01:34.340 No, no, no, no.

00:01:34.760 A lot of men.

00:01:35.320 You're already married.

00:01:36.360 No, it's not even that.

00:01:37.320 It's not even that.

00:01:38.040 It's men also overthink what we like.

00:01:40.440 The way we overthink things.

00:01:41.680 Have you ever, have you ever called him,

00:01:43.840 like got on your knees, begged and apologized?

00:01:46.480 Got on your knees and said, I was wrong.

00:01:48.000 Like you were right.

00:01:50.360 Yeah.

00:01:51.280 We've had conversations.

00:01:52.700 We've had conversations for sure.

00:01:53.840 Have you apologized?

00:01:54.200 He's not, yeah, I've apologized.

00:01:55.440 I think, generally, I don't know,

00:01:57.200 but there must be another reason why he's not getting back.

00:01:59.180 I've apologized and he's apologized

00:02:00.680 and we've both agreed that when he is,

00:02:03.980 it's more, he needs to be,

00:02:05.600 he needs to accept where he is in his life.

00:02:07.660 And I can't impose, for example,

00:02:09.540 I think a man, when he knows he's got a responsibility,

00:02:11.560 especially a father, a child and a woman,

00:02:14.040 he wants to now make sure he's got enough money to support.

00:02:17.020 And again, his dreams, his dreams are the average dream.

00:02:18.960 So instead of staying and doing that, he's left.

00:02:21.060 No, no, it's not.

00:02:21.780 I don't understand that.

00:02:23.080 No, it's not, it's not that he's left.

00:02:25.520 It's more, he doesn't want us to get toxic and hate each other.

00:02:28.820 So it's more like if we separate.

00:02:30.520 Can I answer your question?

00:02:31.600 If he was to call you right now and be like,

00:02:33.300 okay, I'm ready.

00:02:34.460 Can we get back together?

00:02:35.700 Yeah, I'll say yes.

00:02:36.520 So the reason that you're not together is because of him,

00:02:38.520 then it's not mutual.

00:02:39.040 He's not ready yet, yeah.

00:02:40.440 I don't think that he can just leave

00:02:42.400 just because he's got no money.

00:02:44.020 It's not that he doesn't have money, guys.

00:02:45.660 It's obviously got to be another reason that he's not coming back.

00:02:48.640 No, no, no.

00:02:49.040 I think you guys are getting it wrong again.

00:02:50.320 It's not that he doesn't have money.

00:02:52.100 He's not, he, for him,

00:02:54.080 having 600K in your bank isn't enough

00:02:56.940 because he feels like,

00:02:58.660 That doesn't make sense.

00:02:59.640 No, no.

00:02:59.980 But again, exactly.

00:03:01.400 I can't tell him enough times.

00:03:03.500 I don't care if you're not making millions.

00:03:06.040 It's him to believe and accept.

00:03:07.580 But actually,

00:03:08.600 Do you believe what he's saying?

00:03:10.200 It's just like, okay.

00:03:11.660 Like, it just sounds like there's something missing from the story.

00:03:14.700 I don't know.

00:03:15.480 I don't know.

00:03:16.180 You could be.

00:03:17.440 This is where men have to come in, yeah? 1.00

00:03:19.180 I'm listening.

00:03:20.340 Eddie, does a man feel like money is important in a relationship?

00:03:25.480 110%.

00:03:25.920 Okay.

00:03:26.560 Go on.

00:03:26.820 If you were now with a woman,

00:03:29.120 but you're not financially happy where you are,

00:03:32.320 would you break off the relationship?

00:03:33.960 No.

00:03:34.920 Can I ask you a question?

00:03:36.060 Okay.

00:03:36.420 If it's stressing you out and you're feeling like,

00:03:39.440 you need to focus on money.

00:03:40.860 I can only feel stressed if you're the reason I'm stressed.

00:03:43.800 Okay.

00:03:44.020 Because if money is,

00:03:46.800 I agree with you in the sense that men do have a lot of pressures,

00:03:50.360 but I believe that's just the way it is.

00:03:52.140 And men have to deal with that pressure.

00:03:53.700 It's part of being a man.

00:03:55.220 Okay.

00:03:55.480 But if I'm married to you,

00:03:56.980 and this is why I think everybody's going to start thinking there's a piece

00:03:59.320 missing,

00:03:59.700 because even as a man,

00:04:00.600 and this is me speaking as a man,

00:04:01.880 if I'm married to you,

00:04:03.320 the only reason I'd feel the type of way is if I'm made to feel that way.

00:04:06.720 So it's either he feels that way because of someone,

00:04:09.680 which has to be you,

00:04:11.220 or there's something else missing from the story.

00:04:12.920 So now let me ask you this.

00:04:14.340 In a relationship,

00:04:15.160 you have to give time, right?

00:04:16.120 Time and energy.

00:04:17.000 When you have children,

00:04:17.800 you have to give time and energy, right?

00:04:19.340 If you felt like you giving time and energy there was taking away from what your

00:04:23.760 dreams in money was,

00:04:25.980 would you then?

00:04:27.100 Why did he not think about that before you got married?

00:04:29.320 Exactly.

00:04:29.720 What I'm saying is when we were initially,

00:04:31.520 it was different,

00:04:32.400 right?

00:04:32.720 That his goals might've been different.

00:04:34.100 People change.

00:04:34.980 I'm trying to convince him money's not an issue.

00:04:37.600 Yeah.

00:04:38.020 But Eddie,

00:04:38.560 if you were now putting energy in,

00:04:40.740 like you want to put energy in your business,

00:04:42.140 but you feel like having a relationship is straining your business.

00:04:45.420 Would you keep the relationship or would you focus on business?

00:04:48.940 I do both because I'm married to you.

00:04:50.800 Okay.

00:04:51.020 Now what I'm saying is if you felt like it was draining,

00:04:54.160 like you felt like you couldn't give.

00:04:56.280 And when I say draining,

00:04:57.580 it's not that I want money.

00:04:59.180 I want your time,

00:05:00.380 right?

00:05:00.900 So as a,

00:05:01.540 in my,

00:05:01.840 my relationship,

00:05:02.720 I want your time.

00:05:03.660 If you felt like you couldn't give your partner adequate time and you know,

00:05:07.200 that's the only thing she wants from you.

00:05:09.380 Would you feel like you need to terminate the relationship?

00:05:11.320 No,

00:05:11.580 because I'm married with a child.

00:05:12.720 Yeah.

00:05:12.820 But my responsibilities are,

00:05:15.780 my responsibilities are,

00:05:16.760 it's way higher than that.

00:05:17.780 So I think,

00:05:18.240 and this is what we talk about.

00:05:19.300 And why I ask the question about modern women and selfishness, 0.99

00:05:22.020 I truly believe that when we're in the relationship,

00:05:24.080 it's not about me no more.

00:05:25.280 So whatever it is that I need to sacrifice to make sure this thing works,

00:05:28.080 it's what I have to sacrifice.

00:05:29.060 That's my responsibility as a person who's brought a child into this world.

00:05:32.800 Right.

00:05:33.260 Sorry.

00:05:33.300 Sorry.

00:05:35.980 When you talk about money,

00:05:37.960 I've always earned more than my men and I've never made them feel any different.

00:05:43.300 Less of a man.

00:05:43.980 They've always paid.

00:05:45.540 You know,

00:05:45.760 they've always been the men.

00:05:47.260 I've never,

00:05:47.960 it's never been a problem.

00:05:49.420 And if,

00:05:49.740 if you're married during your relationship with someone,

00:05:53.020 you manage the money,

00:05:54.680 you build each other up.

00:05:56.080 You know,

00:05:57.060 if like you,

00:05:58.320 if you,

00:05:58.580 if you was married now and you're on,

00:06:00.520 I don't know,

00:06:00.980 nine thousand a year,

00:06:03.360 with you and your wife together,

00:06:04.620 working at it,

00:06:05.660 they can build,

00:06:06.260 you're not going to say,

00:06:06.900 well,

00:06:07.000 you know what?

00:06:07.260 Let's separate because we've got a kid.

00:06:08.820 You ain't got enough money.

00:06:09.840 And we're going to,

00:06:10.540 we're going to come back in another three years when you've got money.

00:06:13.040 You're not going to say that.

00:06:15.200 You're going to work at it together.

00:06:16.720 I'm first generation here.

00:06:17.680 So my parents migrated over here.

00:06:19.040 They came here with nothing.

00:06:20.400 Like to the point where,

00:06:21.700 when I was growing up,

00:06:23.100 they had to switch between,

00:06:24.200 he was looking after me day and night because they couldn't afford a nanny.

00:06:28.040 They work through these things together.

00:06:29.420 So I'm thinking if,

00:06:30.520 if they can move from a land,

00:06:32.400 where they know to a land where they don't know and still manage and maintain a relationship

00:06:36.580 and still be together to this day for me to come in and tell the story,

00:06:39.860 there's no reason why other people shouldn't live.

00:06:42.360 You know what it is?

00:06:43.300 Can I just say this a million times over?

00:06:48.020 It's because this generation hasn't faced real adversity and all the adversity they face is on social media.

00:06:55.300 So for example,

00:06:56.380 like you said,

00:06:57.100 your parents left their country and came here and made it work.

00:07:01.480 Your marriage,

00:07:02.180 you have to make it work.

00:07:03.760 You have to put in the effort.

00:07:05.400 I said marriage ain't easy.

00:07:06.980 Your partner has to put in the effort.

00:07:08.300 I'm not denying that.

00:07:09.100 There's got to be someone else like missing from the story.

00:07:11.820 It's literally,

00:07:12.660 okay,

00:07:12.980 I'm not denying.

00:07:14.320 I'm trying to make the marriage work,

00:07:16.480 right?

00:07:16.800 It's,

00:07:17.020 I can't,

00:07:17.640 it takes two to tango,

00:07:18.820 right?

00:07:19.460 Again,

00:07:20.320 he,

00:07:20.900 it might come to a point in his life that he realizes actually Soraya is there regardless,

00:07:25.920 whether he's a millionaire or zilch.

00:07:27.680 And then he might be like,

00:07:28.900 actually I can see it.

00:07:30.640 Yeah.

00:07:30.840 But it's very hard,

00:07:31.940 especially the area he was brought up in.

00:07:33.720 He was around a lot of superficial people.

00:07:36.100 I grew up in Hackney.

00:07:37.280 I came from like Eddie poverty,

00:07:39.260 whatever,

00:07:39.460 like my family came here with nothing.

00:07:40.960 I grew up with that.

00:07:42.000 That's my reality.

00:07:43.080 I'm not,

00:07:43.580 I don't care about designer goods.

00:07:44.820 I don't care about materialistic things.

00:07:46.560 He needs to accept that.

00:07:47.660 I don't care.

00:07:48.400 But,

00:07:49.020 the thing is you haven't faced adversity together and that is the problem.

00:07:53.280 You're not facing your adversity together.

00:07:55.820 I'll say it one more time.

00:07:57.300 You are not facing the adversity together and that is the problem.

00:08:01.600 I'm listening to you and I respect that you've been so open because it's allowing me to understand

00:08:07.900 your story and I can see you're making effort.

00:08:11.460 Yeah.

00:08:11.600 But you are,

00:08:12.340 it's like you're missing the part where you have to work as a team and that teamwork means you have to put

00:08:18.400 an eye to the side and make it we.

00:08:20.560 I wish he was here.

00:08:21.620 No,

00:08:22.020 no,

00:08:22.120 no,

00:08:22.200 no,

00:08:22.320 no.

00:08:22.620 I know because,

00:08:23.140 maybe you should put him and bring him here.

00:08:25.080 I mean,

00:08:25.500 you can call him.

00:08:26.460 Yeah.

00:08:26.740 Call him.

00:08:27.020 Call him.

00:08:27.740 I wish he was here.

00:08:28.840 You have his number.

00:08:29.420 Call him.

00:08:29.960 Call him.

00:08:30.300 Call him.

00:08:30.800 I wish he was here.

00:08:31.680 We have a phone line.

00:08:32.840 We have a phone line.

00:08:33.680 I wish he was here because again,

00:08:36.820 this is exactly the conversations I've had with him and I've told him we're here.

00:08:43.460 We could do it.

00:08:44.120 This and that again.

00:08:45.440 I can't change him if he feel,

00:08:47.700 especially where he grew up in a very individualistic mindset where it is all about,

00:08:52.760 I need to do this.

00:08:53.720 I can't have help.

00:08:54.780 I can't.

00:08:55.260 Yeah.

00:08:55.360 But the thing is,

00:08:56.480 because you've got married and you've had a child,

00:08:59.400 which is,

00:09:00.000 it should be the other way around.

00:09:01.240 So he,

00:09:02.060 before he married you,

00:09:03.140 he should have been working on himself and came with the money,

00:09:05.980 blah,

00:09:06.100 blah,

00:09:06.280 blah.

00:09:06.660 They said,

00:09:07.140 I'm ready.

00:09:07.920 You accepted where he was and he accepted where you was when you got married.

00:09:12.640 Now you can't go,

00:09:14.040 you can't put your child,

00:09:15.600 you know,

00:09:16.040 back inside your womb and then she regrows again. 0.95

00:09:19.320 But what I am saying is where you are,

00:09:22.680 you have to work for it together because,

00:09:25.140 because you're working separately.

00:09:27.160 And as we do have to bear in mind,

00:09:28.320 as many of you know,

00:09:35.480 I was just banned on Tik TOK and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.

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JustPearlyThings - April 06, 2023

Logical Woman SHUTS DOWN This Delusional bimbo

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