Man Admits To Getting Cucked By Post Wall Woman
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the age gap between women and men when it comes to dating and relationships. Is it better to date a woman over 30 years old than a woman under 25 years old? Is it possible for women over 30 to be a good match for a man? Is there a difference between a woman in her 20s and 30s and a woman who is in her 30s?
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done that before as well like when i was in my early 20s i went out with a i was seeing a woman
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who was like mid 30s like maybe like my age now like 34 and um for me the benefit was she was so
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emotionally mature and she knew herself and there was like this confidence in her and like i'm not
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i wouldn't say i'm the most i'm i find it difficult to deal with just insecurities and the idea of
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making your insecurities something someone else has to wrestle with and that's just a part of a
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relationship we all do it but i feel like with her she had dealt with it wrestled with it and had
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coping mechanisms to like pull her through it and there was so much i learned from her in that
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regard of like okay this is what it looks like when you kind of take care of your own shit can i
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swear okay yeah when you take care of your own shit and so it was kind of like um it was a really good
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experience in that regard for me i think for her it was like one question why didn't that relationship
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work out like why did you end up leaving oh because like the the truth i think like i i think for her
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it was there was a bit of a play aspect to it like she didn't take me that seriously and to be fair i
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wasn't to be i wasn't to be taken seriously at that age or time but um we vibed really well and she
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i think even just the idea of what a woman can contribute to your life outside of her being
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beautiful and looking good like just being stimulated mentally like by her and her life experiences like
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you said like it kind of shaped what i look for dating going forward can i say something
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i'll let you go so basically as a woman grows older maybe past the age of like 26 27 they start
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to have a better mentality less insecurity less headaches a bit more maybe grounded and a bit
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more self-sufficient when it comes to emotional stability and yet we're trying to say that it's
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easier maybe perhaps or better for men to go for 19 year olds with women over 30 generally are just
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way more calm yeah anyone over 30 is well i'm excited about 30 30 so i to answer your question i
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actually don't think it's just a woman thing i think it's everyone i think as you develop and you
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grow you become more sure of yourself so now i'm right for the picking type of thing yeah maybe
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for some people i'm not saying everyone in their 20s is immature or not ready or whatever but i think
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generally speaking in your 20s you're trying to figure it out in your 30s you know who you are
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because you know yourself and you've learned to like yourself and you've learned what you
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you're struggling with yeah i think when you reach that age you just had so much experience and i'm
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just saying like as for me i don't want to experience your experience so i wouldn't me personally i
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wouldn't take anyone over that age seriously because you come with a lot of baggage and me personally if
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i'm gonna take you seriously in in if you're like 20 years plus more than me you you you have a lot
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of experience that you're gonna compare me to so if i lack in one field you can be like in the
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back of your mind you'll be like oh but when i was dating so and so he used to buy me all these gifts
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i'm used to getting these so it's like i'm not really trying to go through all that
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how old are you again i'm 20 yes you know when i was your age i used to feel guilty like if i was
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dragging it on for too long because i feel like you know what i don't i can't see this long term because
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of the age gap and then i feel guilty like dragging it on because i feel like i'm wasting your time do
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you guys feel like older women um okay i had a guy tell me once that if he dated a girl under the age
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of 25 he didn't have to worry as much about that because she wasn't like dying for her commitment but
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if she was over the age of 25 like they want to settle down like they want to lock you down quicker
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would you say that's true yeah no no all right same no no i'm asking the guys because they date
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women so i mean to be fair i think i think when it comes to all the women right and i just think from
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my experience like when i i like now i did long term seriously but obviously you know back in the day
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your boy had a little sprinkle around the field but um one thing oh i was i was i was i was sprouting
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very early from 16 onwards but one thing i realized about um these uh older women is that it it's kind
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of they're more on the i i don't see it on the side where they take it serious because once they see
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a younger guy they don't usually see me as a serious candidate as for a long term relationship
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they just want some quick action and they just want to feel young again you know what i mean so like
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i know when i used to get in those um situations the fact that since i was so young and i guess the
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way how i'll compliment them make them feel make their body feel like there's a temple they they
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they live off of that stimulation because i'm i'm overly praising them in such a sense so the fact
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that i made them feel younger they know that i'm not going to get this as a long-term relationship and
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i made that clear from the start but they just really enjoyed the fun they was getting let me put it like
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that and i think the the common denominator of every story is that you were young and in your
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20s in your early 20s so i think that shows a level of manipulation was maybe they're like they
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know that you're young and naive and you'll like latch on because it's fun yeah you think it's a
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manipulation no no no no but like they know you're young and you're like like you're impressionable
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yeah you'll enjoy the validation of being with them almost like because like no one said oh when i was in
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my like late like when i was in my uh like late 20s or early 30s i was with someone that was like 50
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because because you know yourself better and you know that that's not something you could maybe commit
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to and so who who has manipulated him or her not like i not manipulated but like i use your younger
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self you don't know yourself as well maybe so like you're kind of like oh like this older person likes
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me like oh like that's cool like i i think that might be slightly different because i think i think
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when in the woman's perspective because she's the younger one and she's dating the older guy maybe
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yeah maybe from my perspective i know that when i was in that stage trust me i just know i wanted to
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release one yeah yeah i didn't feel manipulated personally i have a question for you guys is it
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wrong for what age do i want to do a 32 year old man to date an 18 year old no nope no i judge him for
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it okay all right if anyone said raise your hand if you think yes all right i'm gonna raise my hand i need
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yes or no yes or no everyone grows up different ages okay okay it depends what she looks like
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what depends what she looks like she looks i don't know at 18 some of them look like they're 18 when
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they're 13. but you kind of got to put in context because you're like how old did you say he was he's 32
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she's 18. all right at 32 when you sit down with an 18 year old what are you talking about
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like what is she like no for real like generally what is she offering you like i mean if she's
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okay i mean so you're i see you want a uterus you're just baby i feel yeah you're just talking about
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one dimension and i look at you and i'm like all right you as a man let's say you have stuff in
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common let's say like maybe maybe you're into the same stuff maybe they're both gamers i don't know okay
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and that's that's what off the top of my head i'm like it's not in of itself wrong but i do raise an
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eyebrow because i do wonder like like you question the guy a little bit i question the guy a little
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bit like what do you like because all right and he's seriously dating or is he just having fun like
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in your scenario uh let's say let's say seriously dating okay so you've looked at this he's looking
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he's looking for a wife all right cool and so i'm here and i'm like so in this 18 year old who is like
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a few years off from being a child you're like in you i see a partner and someone i want to build and
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someone i want to model my potential daughters after all of that really and i'm like bro like
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of an 18 year old you got it kind of depends though if if she's like someone that's been like working
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out there enough like doing by herself independent then you kind of because a lot of women mature a
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lot quicker as well you could be like you could have an 18 year old that literally acts like a 25
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year old you won't even know any difference yeah no sorry it depends on it like some 18 year olds are in
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uni yeah and they're basically kids yeah that's what i'm thinking it's like you're right that's
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why i struggle to put my hand up yeah but it's like it's because sometimes you're like oh she's 18
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and she's in uni and she's only lived with her parents and she's coming out and you're visiting
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her dorm in uni and you're a big man maybe she's 18 she wants a family maybe she's 18 she wants to be a
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mother okay but that's still the same dimension we're talking about looks and fertility that's it
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that's what you pick your partner i said they got something in common
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something in common i i just struggled to with the idea that an 18 year old girl in uni
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is stimulating your mind and spirit like and if she is i kind of i just think like when i was 18 versus
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21 like i wasn't that different like i'm just i'm just thinking like mentally i don't think i was that
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different at 18 from 21. i don't think there is that much difference yeah but no one would really
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bat an eye at 21. no i moved out when i was 18 and i was working so i was you know pretty much a full-grown