JustPearlyThings - Man Admits To Getting Cucked By Post Wall Woman

00:00:00.000 done that before as well like when i was in my early 20s i went out with a i was seeing a woman

00:00:04.600 who was like mid 30s like maybe like my age now like 34 and um for me the benefit was she was so 1.00

00:00:12.480 emotionally mature and she knew herself and there was like this confidence in her and like i'm not

00:00:20.460 i wouldn't say i'm the most i'm i find it difficult to deal with just insecurities and the idea of

00:00:29.660 making your insecurities something someone else has to wrestle with and that's just a part of a

00:00:36.020 relationship we all do it but i feel like with her she had dealt with it wrestled with it and had

00:00:43.140 coping mechanisms to like pull her through it and there was so much i learned from her in that 0.96

00:00:50.120 regard of like okay this is what it looks like when you kind of take care of your own shit can i 0.97

00:00:56.480 swear okay yeah when you take care of your own shit and so it was kind of like um it was a really good 0.97

00:01:02.000 experience in that regard for me i think for her it was like one question why didn't that relationship 0.98

00:01:06.680 work out like why did you end up leaving oh because like the the truth i think like i i think for her

00:01:12.600 it was there was a bit of a play aspect to it like she didn't take me that seriously and to be fair i

00:01:17.680 wasn't to be i wasn't to be taken seriously at that age or time but um we vibed really well and she

00:01:25.880 i think even just the idea of what a woman can contribute to your life outside of her being 0.73

00:01:33.620 beautiful and looking good like just being stimulated mentally like by her and her life experiences like

00:01:40.320 you said like it kind of shaped what i look for dating going forward can i say something

00:01:46.300 i'll let you go so basically as a woman grows older maybe past the age of like 26 27 they start 0.57

00:01:57.620 to have a better mentality less insecurity less headaches a bit more maybe grounded and a bit

00:02:02.920 more self-sufficient when it comes to emotional stability and yet we're trying to say that it's

00:02:07.280 easier maybe perhaps or better for men to go for 19 year olds with women over 30 generally are just 0.65

00:02:12.460 way more calm yeah anyone over 30 is well i'm excited about 30 30 so i to answer your question i

00:02:18.980 actually don't think it's just a woman thing i think it's everyone i think as you develop and you 1.00

00:02:23.680 grow you become more sure of yourself so now i'm right for the picking type of thing yeah maybe

00:02:27.920 for some people i'm not saying everyone in their 20s is immature or not ready or whatever but i think

00:02:32.360 generally speaking in your 20s you're trying to figure it out in your 30s you know who you are

00:02:37.180 because you know yourself and you've learned to like yourself and you've learned what you

00:02:40.380 you're struggling with yeah i think when you reach that age you just had so much experience and i'm

00:02:44.860 just saying like as for me i don't want to experience your experience so i wouldn't me personally i

00:02:49.880 wouldn't take anyone over that age seriously because you come with a lot of baggage and me personally if

00:02:55.380 i'm gonna take you seriously in in if you're like 20 years plus more than me you you you have a lot

00:03:01.260 of experience that you're gonna compare me to so if i lack in one field you can be like in the

00:03:07.180 back of your mind you'll be like oh but when i was dating so and so he used to buy me all these gifts

00:03:11.340 i'm used to getting these so it's like i'm not really trying to go through all that

00:03:14.720 how old are you again i'm 20 yes you know when i was your age i used to feel guilty like if i was

00:03:20.780 dragging it on for too long because i feel like you know what i don't i can't see this long term because

00:03:25.500 of the age gap and then i feel guilty like dragging it on because i feel like i'm wasting your time do

00:03:30.060 you guys feel like older women um okay i had a guy tell me once that if he dated a girl under the age

00:03:36.540 of 25 he didn't have to worry as much about that because she wasn't like dying for her commitment but

00:03:42.380 if she was over the age of 25 like they want to settle down like they want to lock you down quicker 0.55

00:03:46.540 would you say that's true yeah no no all right same no no i'm asking the guys because they date

00:03:57.900 women so i mean to be fair i think i think when it comes to all the women right and i just think from

00:04:03.660 my experience like when i i like now i did long term seriously but obviously you know back in the day

00:04:09.660 your boy had a little sprinkle around the field but um one thing oh i was i was i was i was sprouting

00:04:16.460 very early from 16 onwards but one thing i realized about um these uh older women is that it it's kind 1.00

00:04:24.380 of they're more on the i i don't see it on the side where they take it serious because once they see

00:04:29.020 a younger guy they don't usually see me as a serious candidate as for a long term relationship

00:04:33.660 they just want some quick action and they just want to feel young again you know what i mean so like

00:04:39.100 i know when i used to get in those um situations the fact that since i was so young and i guess the

00:04:45.420 way how i'll compliment them make them feel make their body feel like there's a temple they they

00:04:50.060 they live off of that stimulation because i'm i'm overly praising them in such a sense so the fact

00:04:56.140 that i made them feel younger they know that i'm not going to get this as a long-term relationship and

00:05:00.380 i made that clear from the start but they just really enjoyed the fun they was getting let me put it like

00:05:04.780 that and i think the the common denominator of every story is that you were young and in your

00:05:09.020 20s in your early 20s so i think that shows a level of manipulation was maybe they're like they

00:05:13.980 know that you're young and naive and you'll like latch on because it's fun yeah you think it's a

00:05:20.620 manipulation no no no no but like they know you're young and you're like like you're impressionable

00:05:28.460 yeah you'll enjoy the validation of being with them almost like because like no one said oh when i was in

00:05:32.860 my like late like when i was in my uh like late 20s or early 30s i was with someone that was like 50

00:05:38.060 because because you know yourself better and you know that that's not something you could maybe commit

00:05:41.820 to and so who who has manipulated him or her not like i not manipulated but like i use your younger

00:05:48.460 self you don't know yourself as well maybe so like you're kind of like oh like this older person likes

00:05:52.780 me like oh like that's cool like i i think that might be slightly different because i think i think

00:05:57.420 when in the woman's perspective because she's the younger one and she's dating the older guy maybe

00:06:01.420 yeah maybe from my perspective i know that when i was in that stage trust me i just know i wanted to

00:06:05.420 release one yeah yeah i didn't feel manipulated personally i have a question for you guys is it

00:06:15.900 wrong for what age do i want to do a 32 year old man to date an 18 year old no nope no i judge him for

00:06:26.060 it okay all right if anyone said raise your hand if you think yes all right i'm gonna raise my hand i need

00:06:32.460 yes or no yes or no everyone grows up different ages okay okay it depends what she looks like

00:06:40.140 what depends what she looks like she looks i don't know at 18 some of them look like they're 18 when

00:06:45.020 they're 13. but you kind of got to put in context because you're like how old did you say he was he's 32

00:06:54.860 she's 18. all right at 32 when you sit down with an 18 year old what are you talking about

00:07:02.460 like what is she like no for real like generally what is she offering you like i mean if she's

00:07:08.380 okay i mean so you're i see you want a uterus you're just baby i feel yeah you're just talking about 0.70

00:07:13.740 one dimension and i look at you and i'm like all right you as a man let's say you have stuff in

00:07:18.780 common let's say like maybe maybe you're into the same stuff maybe they're both gamers i don't know okay

00:07:23.660 and that's that's what off the top of my head i'm like it's not in of itself wrong but i do raise an

00:07:30.780 eyebrow because i do wonder like like you question the guy a little bit i question the guy a little

00:07:36.300 bit like what do you like because all right and he's seriously dating or is he just having fun like

00:07:41.580 in your scenario uh let's say let's say seriously dating okay so you've looked at this he's looking

00:07:46.700 he's looking for a wife all right cool and so i'm here and i'm like so in this 18 year old who is like

00:07:52.140 a few years off from being a child you're like in you i see a partner and someone i want to build and

00:07:57.580 someone i want to model my potential daughters after all of that really and i'm like bro like

00:08:02.700 of an 18 year old you got it kind of depends though if if she's like someone that's been like working

00:08:08.460 out there enough like doing by herself independent then you kind of because a lot of women mature a 0.99

00:08:14.140 lot quicker as well you could be like you could have an 18 year old that literally acts like a 25

00:08:18.540 year old you won't even know any difference yeah no sorry it depends on it like some 18 year olds are in

00:08:22.700 uni yeah and they're basically kids yeah that's what i'm thinking it's like you're right that's

00:08:28.540 why i struggle to put my hand up yeah but it's like it's because sometimes you're like oh she's 18

00:08:35.580 and she's in uni and she's only lived with her parents and she's coming out and you're visiting

00:08:40.460 her dorm in uni and you're a big man maybe she's 18 she wants a family maybe she's 18 she wants to be a

00:08:48.700 mother okay but that's still the same dimension we're talking about looks and fertility that's it 1.00

00:08:53.500 that's what you pick your partner i said they got something in common

00:08:58.380 something in common i i just struggled to with the idea that an 18 year old girl in uni

00:09:04.460 is stimulating your mind and spirit like and if she is i kind of i just think like when i was 18 versus

00:09:10.220 21 like i wasn't that different like i'm just i'm just thinking like mentally i don't think i was that

00:09:15.340 different at 18 from 21. i don't think there is that much difference yeah but no one would really

00:09:19.900 bat an eye at 21. no i moved out when i was 18 and i was working so i was you know pretty much a full-grown

JustPearlyThings - June 02, 2023

Man Admits To Getting Cucked By Post Wall Woman

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