Man EXPOSES Divorced Women
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Summary
In this episode, I speak to the father of a young boy who died at the hands of his own mother, Leslie Spriggs. We discuss the circumstances of his death, the events leading up to it and the impact on his family.
Transcript
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But back to, so, she, did she go to jail, the mother of Archie?
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But the sad part was that there was warnings about this.
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And, if anything, you guys were looked at as the abusers.
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To this day, I would say there are people who see Leslie Speed as a victim.
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To this day, even though she's done what she's done, that there are still people who would still see Mr. Spriggs as an abuser and Leslie Speed as a victim.
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And she, those more extreme feminists will see her as, well, this is what happens when you commit domestic abuse against a woman.
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Fortunately, it's not a view held by the majority of the public.
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But in the serious case review, in the inquest that was held some years later, the findings were made that the death could not be avoided.
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Well, had you listened to Mr. Spriggs, all you had to do was listen to him.
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All you had to do was listen to me and look at these cases and the links between them.
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I was only ever told that, oh, we only ever look at cases in isolation.
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Well, how can you when there's clearly an environment in which this is going on?
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There are, they gossip, they, you know, they do what women do, you might say, which is obviously not very politically correct.
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There were plenty of opportunities, but they, I believe it was a whitewash, that they didn't want to confront the truth of their failures.
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And the local authorities, Shropshire Council, social services, but the main finding made by the inquest, John Ellery, the coroner for Shropshire, suggested, recommended that the local authority should intervene earlier in such cases.
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cases that, that, that essentially take more children into care at an earlier stage.
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Now, on the very day that he made that, he made that, he made that recommendation.
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So, the coroner looks at Archie's case and says that, like, foster care should intervene quicker.
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Well, he'd made, that would be 2019 that he made that recommendation.
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In the meantime, in the meantime, there had been some movement that me and my son had a shared parenting agreement.
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We, 20, the end of 2018, 2019 was wonderful for me and my son.
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We finally got the, the time together that we needed.
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We went on holiday, Ireland, Dorset, and I can't even begin.
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You know, there was so many things that we did together.
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Because around this time, so around this time you, you'd gotten the shared parenting agreement,
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So, five years has gone by total around this point, I believe, if I have this right.
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I thought, I thought there was a year or two you didn't see him.
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In 2018, things improved slightly, but we were working up to February 2019.
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Even though we had a final court order, which gave us a formal shared parenting agreement.
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Yeah, so I'm saying total, this has been like five years at that point.
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So, four or five years, now things are better with your son.
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But then, Archie dies and they finally come to a conclusion on that case.
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As far as my family concerned, myself, my son obviously is the most important player
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However, my ex-wife continued to make problems, continued to create stumbling blocks.
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She was not attending any of the meetings, the child in need meetings that were required.
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As six months went by, we were supposed to have child in need meetings where basically
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we had issues and we are supposed to come to agreements and things are supposed to settle
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So, this is supposed to take three months and the social services who were involved at that
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Six months goes past and not one meeting has taken place.
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So, eventually, we have this thing, and you are probably well aware of this, parental alienation.
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Now, this is a process where a parent, and I am going to say typically a mother, as has
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been my experience and most experiences I have heard of, are mothers who will basically
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trash the reputation of the father, by sometimes very subtle means, sometimes very obvious means.
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Now, my ex-wife was clearly committing this sort of thing.
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She had put up security cameras bristling all over her house.
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My son was aware of everything that was going on around him.
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He was old enough to understand what was going on.
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And she was creating more and more of these problems.
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Well, what happened in the end, on the very day, well actually, sorry, I am jumping ahead
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a little bit, we did actually eventually have one child in need meeting, chaired by a social
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worker, Gail Mullington, who was completely inept.
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And we had eight people sat in the room at the local school.
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Now, this is supposed to be a private kind of family meeting, right?
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The implication being that I am obviously going to start beating people up.
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We have got several school teachers, we have got my ex-wife, we have got a new friend
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We are supposed to be there just for emotional support for my ex-wife.
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There is myself, there is several other social workers.
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But what this descends into, instead of this kind of constructive conversation it's supposed
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Everybody takes it in turns to criticize me and say, well, your son presents as scared,
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he presents as, he's always very untidy whenever you drop him off.
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This just runs contrary to everything I knew about my son.
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Do you think your wife just told them stories and they believed it?
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It was well known my ex-wife spent far too much time around the school making friends
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with teachers, telling them stories that weren't true, making my son seem like a victim
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And making everybody feel sorry for him when he was just a normal lad, okay?
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And he was becoming quite happy, really, that we had finally got a situation where he got
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to have a dad and a grandmother and a grandfather and all my side of the family were all, you know,
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And I kind of walked out because I could see it was a hatchet job.
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I believe she's something to do with the women's aid group, a clear militant feminist,
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What right is she to ask me questions in a meeting that's...
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She's there for emotional support, nothing else.
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And that was very typical of the sort of thing that happened.
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Mummy told me to say bad things about you because it made her happy.
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I had to say bad things about you because I never had to say bad things about you.
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It was not something that I wanted to burden my son with.
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I mean, of course I got accused of parental alienation myself all the time.
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I was always very positive about my ex-wife, about his mother, but he clearly said that.
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He said it and he repeated it several times and we thought, well, you know, we need to
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And we went to the school because at the time it was getting late and no one else was answering
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the phone and thought, we've got to take him to the school and discuss this while he's
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And then I was basically accused of making him say it.
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He was saying this but nobody wanted to listen.