JustPearlyThings - Man EXPOSES The Corrupt Nature Of Divorce Courts

00:00:00.000 me and my son like if you saw us it's like we're like the closest like parent kid combo I've

00:00:06.440 honestly ever seen we're just super tight what motivated you to like keep going during that

00:00:12.400 because I'd imagine it has to be so frustrating like spending all this money not knowing if you're

00:00:16.620 even going to get custody at the end it was never a thought in my mind to give up I just

00:00:21.920 100 was all in from the beginning there was never a second where I contemplated running away I've

00:00:27.960 had people I knew like oh you should just give up you know court all these things we're talking about

00:00:32.540 you'll have to be their kid's uncle and pay all this child support but I never considered I was

00:00:37.500 always all in on being there for Sawyer and when when he's older like you said like I'll be able

00:00:42.100 to look him in the eyes and tell him that I did everything I could there wasn't one more thing I

00:00:46.440 could have done for him you know you have any pictures I have lots of pictures can I see well

00:00:52.440 I don't have my phone on me right now oh okay but I can show you some after for sure yeah I was like

00:00:57.240 I wanted to see him he's got like nice curly hair it's pretty cool what did the doctor say in court

00:01:03.120 um she said that it was okay to treat kids as non-binary as well as some things my attorney

00:01:11.580 got out of her on cross-exam about things that were said that weren't true to the doctor about me

00:01:18.920 basically I won't go specific but things like you know lies about me false accusations we got the doctor

00:01:26.000 to admit those things were told to them wow yeah is family court public like can anyone go watch a

00:01:35.160 family court it's interesting because if you have the login you could watch on zoom um usually like

00:01:41.960 if you tried to get my court cases documents they would say no it's private because it involves a minor

00:01:48.220 um it seems like people can spectate to an extent I mean if you're in a hearing you're spectating other

00:01:54.340 people's that happened before you oh interesting to like spend a day in family court you'd like watch

00:02:00.740 it it was interesting to see some I've seen some stuff that really surprised me before like what

00:02:06.140 like and to be fair I don't know all the details right so I'm just going off the 15 minutes that I

00:02:11.800 saw but it blew my mind because I remember there was a dad who essentially had just sworn at his kid

00:02:17.000 he caught his kid watching an inappropriate movie and swore at the kid and that was it that I knew

00:02:24.760 about evidence-wise and because of that he hadn't seen the kid in a few weeks and he was

00:02:28.900 graced by the judge to get granted like a day or two a week not overnight after that and I was like

00:02:35.920 have you seen my case this is like how is that even possible right yeah wow so he swore at the kid

00:02:43.340 and then they said you can't again I don't know all the details right that was all I that I heard

00:02:47.680 in court and I was really shocked is this common yeah it's it's definitely common that you know

00:02:54.140 anything that dad does gets used against them you know I think I think when moms start considering

00:03:01.620 the custody stuff they're probably trying to even sometimes um and I'm sure dads do it as well but

00:03:06.320 like trap the other parent you know try to trick them into saying something like something like that I

00:03:11.360 saw an interesting video like Steven Crowder and his wife having an argument and I don't know the

00:03:16.420 context you know so I thought that was interesting to get put out online without context well yeah and

00:03:23.080 I'm like that sounded bad but really I didn't I was like that so no I'm like that's abuse you can't use

00:03:28.940 the car oh that's a low bar right well they say it's like worse because she's like pregnant and you 1.00

00:03:35.440 don't have any context and he kind of like yells okay it makes him at least appear as the bad guy

00:03:40.220 no I saw that clip I was I kind of thought she planned it so it's from like three four years

00:03:45.780 ago so I'm like yeah okay so now she's giving you this clip and you're just acting weird like as a

00:03:51.780 girl I'm just watching this and I'm like why are you like you're saying this abusive behavior like

00:03:59.480 like I'm like this is this seems like what I was saying like a trying to bait him yeah and I'm just

00:04:04.940 thinking like because you can't use the car and he asked you to walk the dogs this is I'm like okay

00:04:13.400 he said he doesn't love you I'm like oh come on we've all said crazy things that you don't really

00:04:18.460 during a fight yeah it's during if I'm like can we stop acting like we all have these like clean

00:04:24.460 relationships that are just like you've never said it like she didn't say anything crazy back to him

00:04:29.900 but it's like we live in this society where if a guy does anything wrong in a relationship it's

00:04:34.240 abusive it's coercive control it's financial control when it's like no maybe he just was a 0.99

00:04:38.780 dick that day you know it happens like and I'm sure she was a bitch a different day like people can 1.00

00:04:44.380 make mistakes in relationships and not be bad parents I absolutely and not have to lose custody 0.98

00:04:50.020 like there is I think there's very few reasons that it's uh that that a father should not have

00:04:57.740 custody of his kids like I even even if he is say abusive or on drugs I don't see like why can't

00:05:04.920 he have supervised custody like like you go have you you guys go see your baby daddy's in jail

00:05:10.700 for god knows what like you can go do a supervised visit with him but the kid can't have a supervised

00:05:17.000 visit with his father that's like an interesting point yeah it's like what if it's supervised we get a

00:05:22.660 cop there what like why can't they see them it's a really good point and regarding like the fighting

00:05:27.800 and relationships like I come from a big family four kids my mom and dad are still together which

00:05:32.920 is amazing and we've all had fights before but we're all still a family and we still all love each

00:05:36.620 other no matter what like I've we've all done things we regret and said things we didn't mean

00:05:40.420 but it's like we're still a family it doesn't have to be the end of the world and I think when you put

00:05:46.080 something personal online it just kind of says something about you know what I mean because it's

00:05:51.440 like you're trying to be the victim when you're trying to win in the court of public opinion right

00:05:56.240 when at the end of the day is that good for the child like Hillary like genuinely for the Hillary

00:06:02.200 is that good for your kid to have this like clip of you like calling the dad an abuser right like when

00:06:10.160 you know damn well that I he could be but I don't think so yeah I mean I don't particularly think so

00:06:16.520 either it's interesting like you say stuff online that that went back to my case um I told you like

00:06:21.580 false allegations against me so a lot of that was posted to social media like so the day I won half

00:06:26.600 custody of Sawyer right one of the greatest days of my life um my son's mom called me an r word on

00:06:33.260 social media and called the judge a liar I have this picture it's presented to the court wow and

00:06:39.940 so that was you know it was and there's way more examples that was just a good one but that was

00:06:45.740 part of the grounds for my restraining order well and like what consequence does she have for that

00:06:50.900 like this is the problem we're going to get into as women we start calling everything great great I'm

00:06:56.280 gonna say great just for you too but we're gonna we're gonna call everything great like we're losing

00:07:01.740 the meaning of it how can you be in a relationship with somebody that graped you because totally because

00:07:07.060 if if someone graped me in a relationship I'm going to the police so it doesn't make sense that

00:07:13.020 now the the you were fine with him when you guys were together a year or two later when he's trying

00:07:18.160 to get custody all of a sudden now he's a grapist yeah it's just like like this shouldn't even stand 1.00

00:07:24.860 in court in any way like this should be such a joke and a laughingstock guilty until proven innocent

00:07:30.560 somewhat in family court and that's what people don't realize like how unfair family court is

00:07:36.600 because it's based on a balance of probabilities it's not based on evidence and I think you you

00:07:42.520 probably are familiar with this at least it's in the UK I'm not as familiar with the US but in the UK

00:07:48.220 it's like so and I've been told it's the same here it's based on a balance of probabilities so it's more

00:07:55.600 likely that he did it than didn't do it interesting so it's not based on innocent until proven guilty

00:08:00.720 therefore they can throw in all of these abuse allegations and if enough stack up because in the

00:08:08.360 UK too what they'll do is they'll have six like reasons like there's six forms of abuse financial

00:08:16.620 abuse coercive control um great like the physical like there's a whole thing right and basically if he

00:08:24.300 meets like four of them so maybe he didn't let you spend the credit card one day he made you not

00:08:29.840 wear a thought but do they even have to provide proof of these things or just you claim it correct

00:08:34.440 they claim it and I've had like guys show me pictures of a screenshot of a girl trying to get 0.64

00:08:41.700 the guy to hit her like trying to provoke him to hit her so they could go to court and get custody of

00:08:46.800 the kids that's how like manipulative some of these women are it's crazy yeah one of the things I 1.00

00:08:52.260 provided the court was like our text messages from the time we were dating right as well as like her

00:08:57.000 first or Facebook whatever social media posts where she would say like you're so amazing blah blah blah

00:09:02.580 right I love you so much all these things I showed that to the court like does that seem like we were

00:09:07.160 in any sort of abusive relationship right like and I felt that I pretty well dispelled that and the court

00:09:13.180 did find that I'm not a great fist yeah to be clear that's part of the order did she take down the post 0.85

00:09:19.560 or no I don't know oh you don't know because I'm probably but okay because I'm just thinking

00:09:25.340 there's no consequence for girls going online and accusing men of things and ruining their entire

00:09:30.360 reputation I think and it doesn't have to be girls but I think false accusations generally like that

00:09:35.240 should be a crime yeah like a serious one too like because if you accuse someone of something serious

00:09:39.700 besides defamation it's like it's way beyond that when you're talking about kids and everything that

00:09:44.160 goes beyond just your reputation that's like your life your your life your kids you know the most

00:09:48.960 important thing to you

JustPearlyThings - July 04, 2023

Man EXPOSES The Corrupt Nature Of Divorce Courts

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