Man EXPOSES The Corrupt Nature Of Divorce Courts
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Summary
In this episode, we have a guest on the show who is a single mom battling for custody of her son. She talks about her experience with losing custody and how she managed to get it back for her son, Sawyer. We also talk about abuse in the family court system and the tactics used against kids in family court.
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me and my son like if you saw us it's like we're like the closest like parent kid combo I've
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honestly ever seen we're just super tight what motivated you to like keep going during that
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because I'd imagine it has to be so frustrating like spending all this money not knowing if you're
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even going to get custody at the end it was never a thought in my mind to give up I just
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100 was all in from the beginning there was never a second where I contemplated running away I've
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had people I knew like oh you should just give up you know court all these things we're talking about
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you'll have to be their kid's uncle and pay all this child support but I never considered I was
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always all in on being there for Sawyer and when when he's older like you said like I'll be able
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to look him in the eyes and tell him that I did everything I could there wasn't one more thing I
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could have done for him you know you have any pictures I have lots of pictures can I see well
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I don't have my phone on me right now oh okay but I can show you some after for sure yeah I was like
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I wanted to see him he's got like nice curly hair it's pretty cool what did the doctor say in court
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um she said that it was okay to treat kids as non-binary as well as some things my attorney
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got out of her on cross-exam about things that were said that weren't true to the doctor about me
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basically I won't go specific but things like you know lies about me false accusations we got the doctor
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to admit those things were told to them wow yeah is family court public like can anyone go watch a
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family court it's interesting because if you have the login you could watch on zoom um usually like
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if you tried to get my court cases documents they would say no it's private because it involves a minor
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um it seems like people can spectate to an extent I mean if you're in a hearing you're spectating other
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people's that happened before you oh interesting to like spend a day in family court you'd like watch
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it it was interesting to see some I've seen some stuff that really surprised me before like what
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like and to be fair I don't know all the details right so I'm just going off the 15 minutes that I
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saw but it blew my mind because I remember there was a dad who essentially had just sworn at his kid
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he caught his kid watching an inappropriate movie and swore at the kid and that was it that I knew
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about evidence-wise and because of that he hadn't seen the kid in a few weeks and he was
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graced by the judge to get granted like a day or two a week not overnight after that and I was like
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have you seen my case this is like how is that even possible right yeah wow so he swore at the kid
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and then they said you can't again I don't know all the details right that was all I that I heard
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in court and I was really shocked is this common yeah it's it's definitely common that you know
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anything that dad does gets used against them you know I think I think when moms start considering
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the custody stuff they're probably trying to even sometimes um and I'm sure dads do it as well but
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like trap the other parent you know try to trick them into saying something like something like that I
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saw an interesting video like Steven Crowder and his wife having an argument and I don't know the
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context you know so I thought that was interesting to get put out online without context well yeah and
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I'm like that sounded bad but really I didn't I was like that so no I'm like that's abuse you can't use
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the car oh that's a low bar right well they say it's like worse because she's like pregnant and you
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don't have any context and he kind of like yells okay it makes him at least appear as the bad guy
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no I saw that clip I was I kind of thought she planned it so it's from like three four years
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ago so I'm like yeah okay so now she's giving you this clip and you're just acting weird like as a
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girl I'm just watching this and I'm like why are you like you're saying this abusive behavior like
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like I'm like this is this seems like what I was saying like a trying to bait him yeah and I'm just
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thinking like because you can't use the car and he asked you to walk the dogs this is I'm like okay
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he said he doesn't love you I'm like oh come on we've all said crazy things that you don't really
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during a fight yeah it's during if I'm like can we stop acting like we all have these like clean
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relationships that are just like you've never said it like she didn't say anything crazy back to him
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but it's like we live in this society where if a guy does anything wrong in a relationship it's
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abusive it's coercive control it's financial control when it's like no maybe he just was a
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dick that day you know it happens like and I'm sure she was a bitch a different day like people can
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make mistakes in relationships and not be bad parents I absolutely and not have to lose custody
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like there is I think there's very few reasons that it's uh that that a father should not have
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custody of his kids like I even even if he is say abusive or on drugs I don't see like why can't
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he have supervised custody like like you go have you you guys go see your baby daddy's in jail
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for god knows what like you can go do a supervised visit with him but the kid can't have a supervised
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visit with his father that's like an interesting point yeah it's like what if it's supervised we get a
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cop there what like why can't they see them it's a really good point and regarding like the fighting
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and relationships like I come from a big family four kids my mom and dad are still together which
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is amazing and we've all had fights before but we're all still a family and we still all love each
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other no matter what like I've we've all done things we regret and said things we didn't mean
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but it's like we're still a family it doesn't have to be the end of the world and I think when you put
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something personal online it just kind of says something about you know what I mean because it's
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like you're trying to be the victim when you're trying to win in the court of public opinion right
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when at the end of the day is that good for the child like Hillary like genuinely for the Hillary
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is that good for your kid to have this like clip of you like calling the dad an abuser right like when
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you know damn well that I he could be but I don't think so yeah I mean I don't particularly think so
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either it's interesting like you say stuff online that that went back to my case um I told you like
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false allegations against me so a lot of that was posted to social media like so the day I won half
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custody of Sawyer right one of the greatest days of my life um my son's mom called me an r word on
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social media and called the judge a liar I have this picture it's presented to the court wow and
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so that was you know it was and there's way more examples that was just a good one but that was
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part of the grounds for my restraining order well and like what consequence does she have for that
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like this is the problem we're going to get into as women we start calling everything great great I'm
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gonna say great just for you too but we're gonna we're gonna call everything great like we're losing
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the meaning of it how can you be in a relationship with somebody that graped you because totally because
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if if someone graped me in a relationship I'm going to the police so it doesn't make sense that
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now the the you were fine with him when you guys were together a year or two later when he's trying
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to get custody all of a sudden now he's a grapist yeah it's just like like this shouldn't even stand
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in court in any way like this should be such a joke and a laughingstock guilty until proven innocent
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somewhat in family court and that's what people don't realize like how unfair family court is
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because it's based on a balance of probabilities it's not based on evidence and I think you you
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probably are familiar with this at least it's in the UK I'm not as familiar with the US but in the UK
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it's like so and I've been told it's the same here it's based on a balance of probabilities so it's more
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likely that he did it than didn't do it interesting so it's not based on innocent until proven guilty
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therefore they can throw in all of these abuse allegations and if enough stack up because in the
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UK too what they'll do is they'll have six like reasons like there's six forms of abuse financial
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abuse coercive control um great like the physical like there's a whole thing right and basically if he
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meets like four of them so maybe he didn't let you spend the credit card one day he made you not
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wear a thought but do they even have to provide proof of these things or just you claim it correct
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they claim it and I've had like guys show me pictures of a screenshot of a girl trying to get
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the guy to hit her like trying to provoke him to hit her so they could go to court and get custody of
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the kids that's how like manipulative some of these women are it's crazy yeah one of the things I
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provided the court was like our text messages from the time we were dating right as well as like her
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first or Facebook whatever social media posts where she would say like you're so amazing blah blah blah
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right I love you so much all these things I showed that to the court like does that seem like we were
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in any sort of abusive relationship right like and I felt that I pretty well dispelled that and the court
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did find that I'm not a great fist yeah to be clear that's part of the order did she take down the post
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or no I don't know oh you don't know because I'm probably but okay because I'm just thinking
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there's no consequence for girls going online and accusing men of things and ruining their entire
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reputation I think and it doesn't have to be girls but I think false accusations generally like that
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should be a crime yeah like a serious one too like because if you accuse someone of something serious
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besides defamation it's like it's way beyond that when you're talking about kids and everything that
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goes beyond just your reputation that's like your life your your life your kids you know the most