JustPearlyThings - May 03, 2023


Man Gets Divorce Graped During The Pandemic


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12 minutes

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2,251

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198

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27

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In this episode we discuss the age difference between men and women when it comes to sex. Do you think a woman who is 19 years old is more mature than a guy who is 26 years old? Is it because she's younger or because she has more experience?

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00:00:00.000 Physically, obviously, he's going to like the 19-year-old instead of the 26.
00:00:03.680 But I think mentally, I don't know about most 19-year-old girls.
00:00:07.380 They're probably not there yet.
00:00:09.460 As in for an older guy who has everything, has the money,
00:00:13.320 why would he go for a girl that's maybe still a girl?
00:00:18.220 You know what I mean?
00:00:18.600 Maybe he needs to be a bit more, I don't know, woke in a sense.
00:00:23.260 I think, like, onto your point, I feel like with him, it's more,
00:00:27.500 you know, when you're 26, you're like four years to 30.
00:00:31.580 You're looking to settle down, buy a house, have some kids,
00:00:36.040 have a dog, have a garden, all of that.
00:00:38.660 When you're 19, you're, yeah, hot girl summer, outside, you get it.
00:00:44.440 You're living your life, you're living your best life, all of that.
00:00:46.740 I think that's why, and because he's obviously a guy,
00:00:49.560 he's a guy that, you know what I mean?
00:00:51.360 He's not a settled down guy.
00:00:53.260 That's why he's probably saying that.
00:00:54.760 He's like, oh, these girls, they're not ready to grow up and mature and get a house. 0.61
00:00:59.200 No, I think he says it in the clip.
00:01:00.380 It's because they're younger and, you know, they have less damage.
00:01:05.400 Yeah, it's true.
00:01:05.960 The older you are as a woman, the more damaged you are. 1.00
00:01:09.540 True.
00:01:10.640 It's true.
00:01:12.480 I don't know, that uni phase is scary.
00:01:14.920 That university phase is scary.
00:01:16.900 I believe, yeah, that a 19-year-old girl that did not go to uni,
00:01:23.060 probably started a nine-to-five and everything,
00:01:24.840 is more mature than a girl that actually has gone to uni.
00:01:27.140 I just believe that because you've grown, you've just developed in the labour world.
00:01:30.680 It depends on your mindset.
00:01:32.280 You know what I'm saying?
00:01:33.400 I mean, obviously, there's going to be differences between girls, 1.00
00:01:36.680 but by and large, like, a girl that's 19
00:01:38.720 is going to have slept with less people than a girl that's 29, 39. 1.00
00:01:42.600 Depends on the generation.
00:01:43.640 I think this generation nowadays is really scary.
00:01:46.560 Very scary.
00:01:47.920 I think older women say that to compete with younger women. 1.00
00:01:52.320 How much older?
00:01:54.040 All older, in general.
00:01:56.420 Yeah, I think they say that, like, to remarket themselves.
00:01:59.780 No, I really do, because then they can say,
00:02:01.280 oh, my generation's better than their generation. 0.89
00:02:03.040 We have less bodies.
00:02:03.880 But no, I think in general, like, if you're younger,
00:02:06.860 you have less experience.
00:02:09.000 The kids nowadays are more exposed to a lot of things.
00:02:11.700 I think it's the best where you're from, too.
00:02:13.040 I think it depends where you're from and, like, your environment, you know?
00:02:15.660 Well, which is why I say in general, right?
00:02:18.200 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:02:18.760 Even if we just take the same girl at 29 versus 19,
00:02:22.140 she's had more experience at 29.
00:02:24.320 Yeah.
00:02:25.180 You know?
00:02:25.740 I was on the train once.
00:02:26.680 I was having a conversation with a couple of my females in my gospel choir,
00:02:31.060 and, like, someone overheard me.
00:02:32.760 It was a younger girl, and we got into the conversation about bodies
00:02:36.680 or how many men you slept with, and she's like, 1.00
00:02:38.980 it's not a problem, you know?
00:02:39.980 Why are you making it such a big thing?
00:02:42.340 You know, most guys, they like that type of stuff.
00:02:45.000 I was like, wow, is that where your mindset is?
00:02:48.700 Yeah, the generation is going.
00:02:49.560 You wait till 10 years' time,
00:02:52.060 then the guy would not appreciate that.
00:02:55.380 It's, I don't know.
00:02:56.360 It's just the younger generation nowadays,
00:02:58.260 it's like, I don't know what they're thinking.
00:03:00.760 They're well-done free.
00:03:02.440 I've had younger guys try and chat to me.
00:03:04.480 That's good.
00:03:05.460 Shout out to them, man.
00:03:06.260 No, no, no.
00:03:09.380 But, like, honestly, I feel like it doesn't really matter
00:03:12.420 the age on both, like, whether you're male or female.
00:03:15.640 Do you think, though, ladies,
00:03:16.820 is a higher body count, like, more important, not important?
00:03:23.480 As in, like, as in to bag a guy,
00:03:27.020 someone that, you know, having a relationship?
00:03:30.560 I mean, as in, like, what, if a girl's, 0.68
00:03:33.160 oh, if she's got more bodies than, like, 0.87
00:03:34.800 the guy that she's speaking with?
00:03:37.820 Do you think it makes a difference?
00:03:38.620 I mean, some guys, like, oh, she's experienced.
00:03:41.540 I can't do that.
00:03:43.160 I can't do that.
00:03:44.120 Not everyone.
00:03:45.120 Not every guy.
00:03:46.140 I feel like it's more so, like, freaky ones.
00:03:48.980 I'm sorry to take it there, but, yeah,
00:03:50.600 it's more so the ones that are into that sort of thing.
00:03:53.380 If you want, like, let's say,
00:03:56.180 literally a homebody, but, like,
00:03:58.380 homebodies can actually, okay, I'm going to stop talking.
00:04:00.380 Wait, wait, wait, wait, can I say something?
00:04:01.540 I'm going to stop talking.
00:04:01.920 Go, go, go, go.
00:04:02.620 If I'm talking to a girl, I'm dating a girl, 0.97
00:04:04.400 she can have many bodies that she wants. 1.00
00:04:06.780 But once I get my wife, 0.99
00:04:08.240 I don't want my wife, the bearer of my children, 1.00
00:04:10.400 to have 28 bodies, bro.
00:04:12.620 But then why is it?
00:04:13.460 I'm going to be kissing her and thinking about
00:04:14.820 who knows what thing is going in that mouth.
00:04:18.620 That's just me personally, bro.
00:04:19.920 No, I hate you.
00:04:21.000 It's true.
00:04:21.960 I mean, like, my wife, I mean...
00:04:23.720 But that's what a lot of guys say.
00:04:24.920 If you're dating a girl that's got so many bodies,
00:04:26.960 but your wife is the one that you're cuffing, 1.00
00:04:29.340 it doesn't matter,
00:04:30.820 because you've literally already had the girl
00:04:32.200 that's been in...
00:04:33.560 But I'm not a millionaire, though.
00:04:34.840 I'm not having kids with that girl, 0.99
00:04:36.240 with that harlot.
00:04:36.940 He's just trying to chop.
00:04:38.380 I'm trying to beat and delete, and I'm out.
00:04:39.840 Bye.
00:04:41.280 And that's the problem.
00:04:42.520 And that's the problem.
00:04:43.120 Girls thinking our men doesn't, 1.00
00:04:45.220 it's not a big deal.
00:04:46.980 They're not bothered,
00:04:47.700 because they just want to slam,
00:04:48.860 and that's the point.
00:04:49.600 If it's someone who wants a proper relationship,
00:04:51.960 I usually, mindset,
00:04:53.120 they're a bit older,
00:04:54.060 and they want to settle down,
00:04:55.640 so they're not going to go for someone.
00:04:58.700 You're going to have to go to somewhere like 0.58
00:04:59.960 back in Africa,
00:05:01.900 a bone through her nose,
00:05:03.380 just to have someone,
00:05:04.280 a female that hasn't got no bodies count. 1.00
00:05:06.240 Do you know what I mean?
00:05:06.640 I don't know where you're going to get that nowadays.
00:05:08.760 You can't.
00:05:09.420 There's some wholesome queens out there. 1.00
00:05:11.160 There's some wholesome queens out there. 1.00
00:05:13.580 What age group would you say that is?
00:05:15.100 I'm talking about 20 to...
00:05:17.960 23, 25.
00:05:19.620 You can get them before it gets too bad.
00:05:22.340 Where are they?
00:05:23.100 They can't even say...
00:05:23.960 They're unicorns,
00:05:25.220 but they're out there.
00:05:25.780 You know what I was thinking, though?
00:05:27.020 I was like,
00:05:27.560 as a guy,
00:05:28.400 it has to be tough,
00:05:29.740 because there's really no way
00:05:31.100 you can get a good woman in a way 0.81
00:05:32.700 because social media
00:05:34.080 will always affect women. 0.98
00:05:36.100 And so I've been doing
00:05:36.940 this divorce documentary, right?
00:05:39.000 And I've been interviewing guys,
00:05:40.980 and there's one guy,
00:05:41.940 he had one fight with a girl in seven years.
00:05:43.660 She came from a traditional Muslim household.
00:05:46.160 What more could you want?
00:05:47.960 Like one fight?
00:05:48.580 Doesn't that sound good?
00:05:49.740 Traditional background.
00:05:50.980 She was young when they got married,
00:05:52.640 and she screwed this man over, 0.66
00:05:54.180 took his kids,
00:05:54.860 because she got involved.
00:05:57.520 It was either social media
00:05:58.980 or she got around
00:05:59.860 some single divorced friends,
00:06:01.780 and they kind of influenced her,
00:06:03.060 and then she switched.
00:06:04.160 Because women are more susceptible 1.00
00:06:05.540 to propaganda than men.
00:06:07.240 True.
00:06:07.540 So that's how politicians
00:06:08.640 control elections,
00:06:09.940 and that's how advertisers
00:06:10.940 market mostly to women.
00:06:13.120 And so I was like,
00:06:13.500 it's got to be tough as a guy,
00:06:14.520 because even if you get a girl
00:06:15.380 with the perfect background,
00:06:16.720 social media can still
00:06:18.680 kind of brainwash women in a way. 1.00
00:06:21.200 So, I mean, I have a point.
00:06:22.900 Okay, I'm 44,
00:06:24.220 and I have been divorced.
00:06:26.440 I'm in just under three years.
00:06:28.980 A relationship with someone,
00:06:30.580 and she's older,
00:06:33.300 and I'm hoping it's true.
00:06:36.280 She hasn't got that much bodies, 0.99
00:06:37.720 but you never know.
00:06:39.180 But from what I've spoken to her,
00:06:41.440 she's the real deal,
00:06:42.440 and like usually,
00:06:44.500 at a girl in her 40s,
00:06:46.580 they would have to go
00:06:47.260 for someone older.
00:06:49.120 They can't go for anyone younger.
00:06:50.820 Just they're not mentally there yet,
00:06:53.640 or they've, I don't know.
00:06:55.340 But my point is that
00:06:57.560 I'm in a good relationship,
00:07:00.520 and when it comes to
00:07:03.260 body count,
00:07:05.580 I'm sorry,
00:07:06.020 it's a big fucking,
00:07:06.900 sorry,
00:07:07.180 it's a big deal.
00:07:09.540 And just knowing
00:07:10.400 some of the things
00:07:10.960 that she said,
00:07:11.540 it still bugs me,
00:07:13.440 but that's me
00:07:15.860 trying to get over myself
00:07:18.320 as a reflection of that.
00:07:20.700 So I trust her.
00:07:22.280 We trust each other.
00:07:23.580 She's older,
00:07:24.580 and she's had that problem 0.99
00:07:26.460 because, again,
00:07:28.180 younger guys would approach her,
00:07:30.720 but they're just about
00:07:32.160 messing around and stuff.
00:07:34.240 So she wasn't ready for that.
00:07:35.280 She doesn't want that. 0.84
00:07:36.000 She just wants 1.00
00:07:36.500 a serious relationship.
00:07:37.880 And funny enough,
00:07:38.920 I came along
00:07:39.460 and just happened to be all right.
00:07:41.100 She got her king.
00:07:42.080 That's right.
00:07:42.440 How was the divorce process
00:07:45.700 for you?
00:07:46.620 Was it?
00:07:47.500 So my divorce
00:07:49.180 happened during pandemic.
00:07:51.880 And if you see it
00:07:53.100 in your stats,
00:07:54.480 majority,
00:07:55.800 it's either two ways it went,
00:07:57.060 more babies
00:07:57.820 or more divorces 0.69
00:07:58.820 during pandemic.
00:08:01.080 So it's like an eye opener
00:08:03.280 when you're at the pandemic.
00:08:04.960 Anyway,
00:08:05.660 so that happened,
00:08:06.960 and it was,
00:08:08.600 it was tough.
00:08:10.360 It was,
00:08:10.760 it was tough.
00:08:11.640 I ain't gonna lie.
00:08:12.120 Did she file?
00:08:13.220 The only way we,
00:08:14.600 so we've got a daughter
00:08:16.120 and when it comes to our daughter,
00:08:19.420 we think on the same wavelength,
00:08:20.940 but when it comes to us,
00:08:22.160 it was never meant to be.
00:08:24.120 So we just,
00:08:26.900 she filed for divorce
00:08:28.180 because if you're on benefits,
00:08:31.280 it's,
00:08:31.700 you have to pay as much.
00:08:34.220 And,
00:08:34.700 but I did the whole solicitor thing
00:08:36.580 and we had to agree
00:08:37.800 on a lot of stuff.
00:08:38.720 I know people that
00:08:39.560 if you don't agree on it,
00:08:41.700 that's where the process gets more.
00:08:43.640 Thank you.
00:08:44.300 Yeah, so.
00:08:45.160 So it wasn't so bad for you.
00:08:46.740 No,
00:08:47.040 I,
00:08:47.320 I don't know,
00:08:48.320 man,
00:08:48.440 I'm blessed.
00:08:49.080 I got like an angel
00:08:49.740 on my shoulder from life.
00:08:50.940 I'm just,
00:08:51.340 I don't know.
00:08:51.840 So that situation went okay.
00:08:55.260 Even though,
00:08:57.320 I don't even know.
00:08:58.560 She's probably watching.
00:09:00.400 I don't even want to say,
00:09:01.620 but I don't know.
00:09:02.600 It's,
00:09:03.220 it's weird.
00:09:04.120 It's with her
00:09:05.500 and probably with a lot
00:09:07.360 of,
00:09:09.440 I shouldn't say,
00:09:10.440 but females. 1.00
00:09:11.600 It goes back to,
00:09:13.120 you know,
00:09:14.740 daddy issues.
00:09:16.760 The way you,
00:09:18.020 no,
00:09:18.600 speak the truth.
00:09:20.640 Do I?
00:09:20.940 Keep it real,
00:09:21.440 Mike.
00:09:21.480 Keep it real.
00:09:22.200 And so if,
00:09:23.760 it's like that princess mentality.
00:09:25.600 You,
00:09:25.860 you feel that you,
00:09:26.760 you're old
00:09:27.180 and you don't want to work for things
00:09:29.540 and,
00:09:29.820 and you know,
00:09:30.880 the,
00:09:31.020 the father figure looks out for you
00:09:32.560 and does all that stuff.
00:09:33.400 So that's kind of where she saw me
00:09:35.380 in that situation where
00:09:37.040 I thought that
00:09:38.160 when I first came into
00:09:40.020 the relationship,
00:09:41.020 um,
00:09:42.060 it was good,
00:09:42.700 but
00:09:42.860 I,
00:09:45.600 um,
00:09:46.260 uh,
00:09:46.760 maybe about maybe two months into it,
00:09:49.480 she fell pregnant.
00:09:50.520 And that's kind of,
00:09:51.700 for me,
00:09:52.060 I did what my upbringing was,
00:09:54.160 was to be the better man
00:09:55.260 and stick, 0.69
00:09:55.820 stick with it.
00:09:56.400 But I saw so many red flags.
00:09:58.700 It was crazy.
00:10:00.180 But I just,
00:10:00.960 I just stuck at it.
00:10:02.340 And,
00:10:02.480 um,
00:10:03.400 she's always had those red flags 0.99
00:10:05.260 and she doesn't think that she does.
00:10:07.900 So it's,
00:10:08.800 everyone knows this is the problem,
00:10:09.980 not her.
00:10:10.780 It took a long while,
00:10:11.940 man.
00:10:12.080 We went through therapy and stuff
00:10:13.820 and she's,
00:10:16.320 I think she still doesn't get it.
00:10:18.140 Still doesn't get it.
00:10:19.100 It's very,
00:10:19.440 a young mentality,
00:10:20.780 a childlike mentality.
00:10:25.020 She's probably watching.
00:10:25.920 But to a point that where
00:10:26.720 her boyfriend now
00:10:27.820 is someone who's a,
00:10:30.200 who is a boy
00:10:31.020 who still lives at home with his mom.
00:10:32.680 she's almost in her forties.
00:10:34.540 Oh,
00:10:34.840 wow.
00:10:35.560 Right?
00:10:36.020 I'm dating,
00:10:36.720 I'm dating the woman that's, 0.99
00:10:38.340 got her shit together.
00:10:39.200 I got my shit together.
00:10:40.160 We're working together.
00:10:42.140 And we're,
00:10:42.660 we're,
00:10:42.960 you know,
00:10:43.580 we're making it work.
00:10:45.100 You can't,
00:10:46.540 sometimes,
00:10:46.880 probably offended a few.
00:10:48.480 She took an L.
00:10:49.480 Yeah.
00:10:49.860 She took an L,
00:10:50.240 she took a big L.
00:10:51.640 But I'm,
00:10:52.220 yeah,
00:10:52.420 well,
00:10:52.600 thank you.
00:10:53.020 Well,
00:10:53.100 that's the thing.
00:10:53.580 I,
00:10:53.880 it was a bad situation.
00:10:56.440 It flipped.
00:10:57.440 I'm,
00:10:57.580 I'm in the happiest place I am.
00:10:59.700 And I'm here.
00:11:00.640 I'm here on this show.
00:11:01.420 I'm here with you.
00:11:02.660 I'm happy to be here and stuff.
00:11:04.440 So,
00:11:04.660 but yeah,
00:11:05.540 divorce was a good.
00:11:06.320 It sounds like you got out easy,
00:11:07.780 relatively.
00:11:09.040 Yeah,
00:11:09.320 I am actually speaking to another friend of mine who's going through pretty bad situation with his soon to be ex-wife.
00:11:18.180 Obviously they're separated,
00:11:19.260 but again,
00:11:20.360 he's telling me the same things that I'm hearing.
00:11:23.180 Like,
00:11:24.080 even though they were separated,
00:11:26.720 just to,
00:11:27.540 he wanted her,
00:11:28.460 she didn't want him.
00:11:29.960 He's like,
00:11:30.660 well,
00:11:30.780 if you're not being serious,
00:11:32.180 I've just,
00:11:33.040 I don't want to be even in the same bed of you.
00:11:34.880 I'm going to sleep on a couch.
00:11:35.820 I'm like,
00:11:36.120 oh my God,
00:11:36.680 I went through shit like that.
00:11:37.880 That's nuts.
00:11:38.980 And child mentality.
00:11:40.740 She always thinks everyone,
00:11:41.900 everybody else is wrong.
00:11:43.420 Not him.
00:11:45.340 I mean,
00:11:45.720 not her.
00:11:46.340 And I was like,
00:11:47.040 I've been there.
00:11:48.260 I've been through that.
00:11:49.020 Why do you think,
00:11:49.840 you know,
00:11:50.080 I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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