JustPearlyThings - Man Gets Divorce Graped During The Pandemic

00:00:00.000 Physically, obviously, he's going to like the 19-year-old instead of the 26.

00:00:03.680 But I think mentally, I don't know about most 19-year-old girls.

00:00:07.380 They're probably not there yet.

00:00:09.460 As in for an older guy who has everything, has the money,

00:00:13.320 why would he go for a girl that's maybe still a girl?

00:00:18.220 You know what I mean?

00:00:18.600 Maybe he needs to be a bit more, I don't know, woke in a sense.

00:00:23.260 I think, like, onto your point, I feel like with him, it's more,

00:00:27.500 you know, when you're 26, you're like four years to 30.

00:00:31.580 You're looking to settle down, buy a house, have some kids,

00:00:36.040 have a dog, have a garden, all of that.

00:00:38.660 When you're 19, you're, yeah, hot girl summer, outside, you get it.

00:00:44.440 You're living your life, you're living your best life, all of that.

00:00:46.740 I think that's why, and because he's obviously a guy,

00:00:49.560 he's a guy that, you know what I mean?

00:00:51.360 He's not a settled down guy.

00:00:53.260 That's why he's probably saying that.

00:00:54.760 He's like, oh, these girls, they're not ready to grow up and mature and get a house. 0.61

00:00:59.200 No, I think he says it in the clip.

00:01:00.380 It's because they're younger and, you know, they have less damage.

00:01:05.400 Yeah, it's true.

00:01:05.960 The older you are as a woman, the more damaged you are. 1.00

00:01:09.540 True.

00:01:10.640 It's true.

00:01:12.480 I don't know, that uni phase is scary.

00:01:14.920 That university phase is scary.

00:01:16.900 I believe, yeah, that a 19-year-old girl that did not go to uni,

00:01:23.060 probably started a nine-to-five and everything,

00:01:24.840 is more mature than a girl that actually has gone to uni.

00:01:27.140 I just believe that because you've grown, you've just developed in the labour world.

00:01:30.680 It depends on your mindset.

00:01:32.280 You know what I'm saying?

00:01:33.400 I mean, obviously, there's going to be differences between girls, 1.00

00:01:36.680 but by and large, like, a girl that's 19

00:01:38.720 is going to have slept with less people than a girl that's 29, 39. 1.00

00:01:42.600 Depends on the generation.

00:01:43.640 I think this generation nowadays is really scary.

00:01:46.560 Very scary.

00:01:47.920 I think older women say that to compete with younger women. 1.00

00:01:52.320 How much older?

00:01:54.040 All older, in general.

00:01:56.420 Yeah, I think they say that, like, to remarket themselves.

00:01:59.780 No, I really do, because then they can say,

00:02:01.280 oh, my generation's better than their generation. 0.89

00:02:03.040 We have less bodies.

00:02:03.880 But no, I think in general, like, if you're younger,

00:02:06.860 you have less experience.

00:02:09.000 The kids nowadays are more exposed to a lot of things.

00:02:11.700 I think it's the best where you're from, too.

00:02:13.040 I think it depends where you're from and, like, your environment, you know?

00:02:15.660 Well, which is why I say in general, right?

00:02:18.200 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:02:18.760 Even if we just take the same girl at 29 versus 19,

00:02:22.140 she's had more experience at 29.

00:02:24.320 Yeah.

00:02:25.180 You know?

00:02:25.740 I was on the train once.

00:02:26.680 I was having a conversation with a couple of my females in my gospel choir,

00:02:31.060 and, like, someone overheard me.

00:02:32.760 It was a younger girl, and we got into the conversation about bodies

00:02:36.680 or how many men you slept with, and she's like, 1.00

00:02:38.980 it's not a problem, you know?

00:02:39.980 Why are you making it such a big thing?

00:02:42.340 You know, most guys, they like that type of stuff.

00:02:45.000 I was like, wow, is that where your mindset is?

00:02:48.700 Yeah, the generation is going.

00:02:49.560 You wait till 10 years' time,

00:02:52.060 then the guy would not appreciate that.

00:02:55.380 It's, I don't know.

00:02:56.360 It's just the younger generation nowadays,

00:02:58.260 it's like, I don't know what they're thinking.

00:03:00.760 They're well-done free.

00:03:02.440 I've had younger guys try and chat to me.

00:03:04.480 That's good.

00:03:05.460 Shout out to them, man.

00:03:06.260 No, no, no.

00:03:09.380 But, like, honestly, I feel like it doesn't really matter

00:03:12.420 the age on both, like, whether you're male or female.

00:03:15.640 Do you think, though, ladies,

00:03:16.820 is a higher body count, like, more important, not important?

00:03:23.480 As in, like, as in to bag a guy,

00:03:27.020 someone that, you know, having a relationship?

00:03:30.560 I mean, as in, like, what, if a girl's, 0.68

00:03:33.160 oh, if she's got more bodies than, like, 0.87

00:03:34.800 the guy that she's speaking with?

00:03:37.820 Do you think it makes a difference?

00:03:38.620 I mean, some guys, like, oh, she's experienced.

00:03:41.540 I can't do that.

00:03:43.160 I can't do that.

00:03:44.120 Not everyone.

00:03:45.120 Not every guy.

00:03:46.140 I feel like it's more so, like, freaky ones.

00:03:48.980 I'm sorry to take it there, but, yeah,

00:03:50.600 it's more so the ones that are into that sort of thing.

00:03:53.380 If you want, like, let's say,

00:03:56.180 literally a homebody, but, like,

00:03:58.380 homebodies can actually, okay, I'm going to stop talking.

00:04:00.380 Wait, wait, wait, wait, can I say something?

00:04:01.540 I'm going to stop talking.

00:04:01.920 Go, go, go, go.

00:04:02.620 If I'm talking to a girl, I'm dating a girl, 0.97

00:04:04.400 she can have many bodies that she wants. 1.00

00:04:06.780 But once I get my wife, 0.99

00:04:08.240 I don't want my wife, the bearer of my children, 1.00

00:04:10.400 to have 28 bodies, bro.

00:04:12.620 But then why is it?

00:04:13.460 I'm going to be kissing her and thinking about

00:04:14.820 who knows what thing is going in that mouth. 0.89

00:04:18.620 That's just me personally, bro. 0.99

00:04:19.920 No, I hate you.

00:04:21.000 It's true.

00:04:21.960 I mean, like, my wife, I mean...

00:04:23.720 But that's what a lot of guys say.

00:04:24.920 If you're dating a girl that's got so many bodies,

00:04:26.960 but your wife is the one that you're cuffing, 1.00

00:04:29.340 it doesn't matter,

00:04:30.820 because you've literally already had the girl

00:04:32.200 that's been in...

00:04:33.560 But I'm not a millionaire, though.

00:04:34.840 I'm not having kids with that girl, 0.99

00:04:36.240 with that harlot. 0.93

00:04:36.940 He's just trying to chop. 0.92

00:04:38.380 I'm trying to beat and delete, and I'm out.

00:04:39.840 Bye.

00:04:41.280 And that's the problem.

00:04:42.520 And that's the problem.

00:04:43.120 Girls thinking our men doesn't, 1.00

00:04:45.220 it's not a big deal.

00:04:46.980 They're not bothered,

00:04:47.700 because they just want to slam,

00:04:48.860 and that's the point.

00:04:49.600 If it's someone who wants a proper relationship,

00:04:51.960 I usually, mindset,

00:04:53.120 they're a bit older,

00:04:54.060 and they want to settle down,

00:04:55.640 so they're not going to go for someone.

00:04:58.700 You're going to have to go to somewhere like 0.58

00:04:59.960 back in Africa,

00:05:01.900 a bone through her nose,

00:05:03.380 just to have someone,

00:05:04.280 a female that hasn't got no bodies count. 1.00

00:05:06.240 Do you know what I mean?

00:05:06.640 I don't know where you're going to get that nowadays.

00:05:08.760 You can't.

00:05:09.420 There's some wholesome queens out there. 1.00

00:05:11.160 There's some wholesome queens out there. 1.00

00:05:13.580 What age group would you say that is?

00:05:15.100 I'm talking about 20 to...

00:05:17.960 23, 25.

00:05:19.620 You can get them before it gets too bad.

00:05:22.340 Where are they?

00:05:23.100 They can't even say...

00:05:23.960 They're unicorns,

00:05:25.220 but they're out there.

00:05:25.780 You know what I was thinking, though?

00:05:27.020 I was like,

00:05:27.560 as a guy,

00:05:28.400 it has to be tough,

00:05:29.740 because there's really no way

00:05:31.100 you can get a good woman in a way 0.81

00:05:32.700 because social media

00:05:34.080 will always affect women. 0.98

00:05:36.100 And so I've been doing

00:05:36.940 this divorce documentary, right?

00:05:39.000 And I've been interviewing guys,

00:05:40.980 and there's one guy,

00:05:41.940 he had one fight with a girl in seven years.

00:05:43.660 She came from a traditional Muslim household.

00:05:46.160 What more could you want?

00:05:47.960 Like one fight?

00:05:48.580 Doesn't that sound good?

00:05:49.740 Traditional background.

00:05:50.980 She was young when they got married, 0.95

00:05:52.640 and she screwed this man over, 0.95

00:05:54.180 took his kids, 0.83

00:05:54.860 because she got involved.

00:05:57.520 It was either social media

00:05:58.980 or she got around

00:05:59.860 some single divorced friends,

00:06:01.780 and they kind of influenced her,

00:06:03.060 and then she switched.

00:06:04.160 Because women are more susceptible 1.00

00:06:05.540 to propaganda than men.

00:06:07.240 True.

00:06:07.540 So that's how politicians

00:06:08.640 control elections,

00:06:09.940 and that's how advertisers

00:06:10.940 market mostly to women.

00:06:13.120 And so I was like,

00:06:13.500 it's got to be tough as a guy,

00:06:14.520 because even if you get a girl

00:06:15.380 with the perfect background,

00:06:16.720 social media can still

00:06:18.680 kind of brainwash women in a way. 1.00

00:06:21.200 So, I mean, I have a point.

00:06:22.900 Okay, I'm 44,

00:06:24.220 and I have been divorced.

00:06:26.440 I'm in just under three years.

00:06:28.980 A relationship with someone,

00:06:30.580 and she's older,

00:06:33.300 and I'm hoping it's true.

00:06:36.280 She hasn't got that much bodies, 0.99

00:06:37.720 but you never know.

00:06:39.180 But from what I've spoken to her,

00:06:41.440 she's the real deal,

00:06:42.440 and like usually,

00:06:44.500 at a girl in her 40s,

00:06:46.580 they would have to go

00:06:47.260 for someone older.

00:06:49.120 They can't go for anyone younger.

00:06:50.820 Just they're not mentally there yet,

00:06:53.640 or they've, I don't know.

00:06:55.340 But my point is that

00:06:57.560 I'm in a good relationship,

00:07:00.520 and when it comes to

00:07:03.260 body count,

00:07:05.580 I'm sorry, 0.99

00:07:06.020 it's a big fucking, 0.93

00:07:06.900 sorry, 0.99

00:07:07.180 it's a big deal.

00:07:09.540 And just knowing

00:07:10.400 some of the things

00:07:10.960 that she said,

00:07:11.540 it still bugs me,

00:07:13.440 but that's me

00:07:15.860 trying to get over myself

00:07:18.320 as a reflection of that.

00:07:20.700 So I trust her.

00:07:22.280 We trust each other.

00:07:23.580 She's older,

00:07:24.580 and she's had that problem 0.99

00:07:26.460 because, again,

00:07:28.180 younger guys would approach her,

00:07:30.720 but they're just about

00:07:32.160 messing around and stuff.

00:07:34.240 So she wasn't ready for that.

00:07:35.280 She doesn't want that. 0.84

00:07:36.000 She just wants 1.00

00:07:36.500 a serious relationship.

00:07:37.880 And funny enough,

00:07:38.920 I came along

00:07:39.460 and just happened to be all right.

00:07:41.100 She got her king.

00:07:42.080 That's right.

00:07:42.440 How was the divorce process

00:07:45.700 for you?

00:07:46.620 Was it?

00:07:47.500 So my divorce

00:07:49.180 happened during pandemic.

00:07:51.880 And if you see it

00:07:53.100 in your stats,

00:07:54.480 majority,

00:07:55.800 it's either two ways it went,

00:07:57.060 more babies

00:07:57.820 or more divorces 0.69

00:07:58.820 during pandemic.

00:08:01.080 So it's like an eye opener

00:08:03.280 when you're at the pandemic.

00:08:04.960 Anyway,

00:08:05.660 so that happened,

00:08:06.960 and it was,

00:08:08.600 it was tough.

00:08:10.360 It was,

00:08:10.760 it was tough.

00:08:11.640 I ain't gonna lie.

00:08:12.120 Did she file?

00:08:13.220 The only way we,

00:08:14.600 so we've got a daughter

00:08:16.120 and when it comes to our daughter,

00:08:19.420 we think on the same wavelength,

00:08:20.940 but when it comes to us,

00:08:22.160 it was never meant to be.

00:08:24.120 So we just,

00:08:26.900 she filed for divorce

00:08:28.180 because if you're on benefits,

00:08:31.280 it's,

00:08:31.700 you have to pay as much.

00:08:34.220 And,

00:08:34.700 but I did the whole solicitor thing

00:08:36.580 and we had to agree

00:08:37.800 on a lot of stuff.

00:08:38.720 I know people that

00:08:39.560 if you don't agree on it,

00:08:41.700 that's where the process gets more.

00:08:43.640 Thank you.

00:08:44.300 Yeah, so.

00:08:45.160 So it wasn't so bad for you.

00:08:46.740 No,

00:08:47.040 I,

00:08:47.320 I don't know,

00:08:48.320 man,

00:08:48.440 I'm blessed.

00:08:49.080 I got like an angel

00:08:49.740 on my shoulder from life.

00:08:50.940 I'm just,

00:08:51.340 I don't know.

00:08:51.840 So that situation went okay.

00:08:55.260 Even though,

00:08:57.320 I don't even know.

00:08:58.560 She's probably watching.

00:09:00.400 I don't even want to say,

00:09:01.620 but I don't know.

00:09:02.600 It's,

00:09:03.220 it's weird.

00:09:04.120 It's with her

00:09:05.500 and probably with a lot

00:09:07.360 of,

00:09:09.440 I shouldn't say,

00:09:10.440 but females. 1.00

00:09:11.600 It goes back to,

00:09:13.120 you know,

00:09:14.740 daddy issues.

00:09:16.760 The way you,

00:09:18.020 no,

00:09:18.600 speak the truth.

00:09:20.640 Do I?

00:09:20.940 Keep it real,

00:09:21.440 Mike.

00:09:21.480 Keep it real.

00:09:22.200 And so if,

00:09:23.760 it's like that princess mentality.

00:09:25.600 You,

00:09:25.860 you feel that you,

00:09:26.760 you're old

00:09:27.180 and you don't want to work for things

00:09:29.540 and,

00:09:29.820 and you know,

00:09:30.880 the,

00:09:31.020 the father figure looks out for you

00:09:32.560 and does all that stuff.

00:09:33.400 So that's kind of where she saw me

00:09:35.380 in that situation where

00:09:37.040 I thought that

00:09:38.160 when I first came into

00:09:40.020 the relationship,

00:09:41.020 um,

00:09:42.060 it was good,

00:09:42.700 but

00:09:42.860 I,

00:09:45.600 um,

00:09:46.260 uh,

00:09:46.760 maybe about maybe two months into it,

00:09:49.480 she fell pregnant.

00:09:50.520 And that's kind of,

00:09:51.700 for me,

00:09:52.060 I did what my upbringing was,

00:09:54.160 was to be the better man

00:09:55.260 and stick, 0.69

00:09:55.820 stick with it.

00:09:56.400 But I saw so many red flags.

00:09:58.700 It was crazy.

00:10:00.180 But I just,

00:10:00.960 I just stuck at it.

00:10:02.340 And,

00:10:02.480 um,

00:10:03.400 she's always had those red flags 0.99

00:10:05.260 and she doesn't think that she does.

00:10:07.900 So it's,

00:10:08.800 everyone knows this is the problem,

00:10:09.980 not her.

00:10:10.780 It took a long while,

00:10:11.940 man.

00:10:12.080 We went through therapy and stuff

00:10:13.820 and she's,

00:10:16.320 I think she still doesn't get it.

00:10:18.140 Still doesn't get it.

00:10:19.100 It's very,

00:10:19.440 a young mentality,

00:10:20.780 a childlike mentality.

00:10:25.020 She's probably watching.

00:10:25.920 But to a point that where

00:10:26.720 her boyfriend now

00:10:27.820 is someone who's a,

00:10:30.200 who is a boy

00:10:31.020 who still lives at home with his mom.

00:10:32.680 she's almost in her forties.

00:10:34.540 Oh,

00:10:34.840 wow.

00:10:35.560 Right?

00:10:36.020 I'm dating,

00:10:36.720 I'm dating the woman that's, 1.00

00:10:38.340 got her shit together. 1.00

00:10:39.200 I got my shit together. 1.00

00:10:40.160 We're working together. 0.99

00:10:42.140 And we're,

00:10:42.660 we're,

00:10:42.960 you know,

00:10:43.580 we're making it work.

00:10:45.100 You can't,

00:10:46.540 sometimes,

00:10:46.880 probably offended a few.

00:10:48.480 She took an L.

00:10:49.480 Yeah.

00:10:49.860 She took an L,

00:10:50.240 she took a big L.

00:10:51.640 But I'm,

00:10:52.220 yeah,

00:10:52.420 well,

00:10:52.600 thank you.

00:10:53.020 Well,

00:10:53.100 that's the thing.

00:10:53.580 I,

00:10:53.880 it was a bad situation.

00:10:56.440 It flipped.

00:10:57.440 I'm,

00:10:57.580 I'm in the happiest place I am.

00:10:59.700 And I'm here.

00:11:00.640 I'm here on this show.

00:11:01.420 I'm here with you.

00:11:02.660 I'm happy to be here and stuff.

00:11:04.440 So,

00:11:04.660 but yeah,

00:11:05.540 divorce was a good.

00:11:06.320 It sounds like you got out easy,

00:11:07.780 relatively.

00:11:09.040 Yeah,

00:11:09.320 I am actually speaking to another friend of mine who's going through pretty bad situation with his soon to be ex-wife.

00:11:18.180 Obviously they're separated,

00:11:19.260 but again,

00:11:20.360 he's telling me the same things that I'm hearing.

00:11:23.180 Like,

00:11:24.080 even though they were separated,

00:11:26.720 just to,

00:11:27.540 he wanted her,

00:11:28.460 she didn't want him.

00:11:29.960 He's like,

00:11:30.660 well,

00:11:30.780 if you're not being serious,

00:11:32.180 I've just,

00:11:33.040 I don't want to be even in the same bed of you.

00:11:34.880 I'm going to sleep on a couch.

00:11:35.820 I'm like,

00:11:36.120 oh my God, 0.98

00:11:36.680 I went through shit like that. 1.00

00:11:37.880 That's nuts. 1.00

00:11:38.980 And child mentality.

00:11:40.740 She always thinks everyone,

00:11:41.900 everybody else is wrong.

00:11:43.420 Not him.

00:11:45.340 I mean,

00:11:45.720 not her.

00:11:46.340 And I was like,

00:11:47.040 I've been there.

00:11:48.260 I've been through that.

00:11:49.020 Why do you think,

00:11:49.840 you know,

00:11:50.080 I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.

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JustPearlyThings - May 03, 2023

Man Gets Divorce Graped During The Pandemic

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