JustPearlyThings - June 07, 2023


Man Hating Feminist Does The Unthinkable


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11 minutes

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200.92278

Word count

2,279

Sentence count

2

Harmful content

Misogyny

14

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Hate speech

3

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss the importance of being a good wife and how to be a good mother and wife in the modern era. We also discuss how to deal with the challenges that women face when it comes to being a wife and being a mother.

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00:00:00.000 i'm just being real as a woman when a guy says like oh i need you to help me with this it's a
00:00:04.720 bit like oh you haven't got it then but it's also the one thing the one thing that was in the long
00:00:10.080 run most women are going to want to work the same when they're older yeah so it's like okay you know 1.00
00:00:14.880 let's just say you're in your 30s you're single right we're not bringing the same youth and
00:00:19.040 fertility that we used to bring so how can we expect them to take over 100 of the bills and
00:00:24.720 and it's like okay the next you're going to be with him the next 50 years maybe you only work
00:00:28.640 the next 20 and 30 but he's probably going to work longer than you yeah but i just what was
00:00:36.640 the question sorry would you submit if it's 50 50. i don't think i would i don't but submit as in like
00:00:46.640 do what he says or submit is like a boss okay so when you go to work right i don't know what you do
00:00:53.280 for work i don't know if you work for yourself but you've had a boss at some point or i think of it like
00:00:57.280 a coach right i i pick which coach i want right so and what he says goes i have to listen to him at
00:01:03.680 the end of the day you know i might make a case occasionally but you really can't do that too
00:01:08.400 much otherwise they're going to kick you off the team or they're going to fire you it's not your job
00:01:12.320 or it's not your role to boss him around yeah but the boss is the boss is giving me you know a full
00:01:19.280 salary so of course i'm going to listen to him and i feel like that when when you're married it's like
00:01:26.640 if he's showing you that he's going out and working hard and taking care of you then you're like yes
00:01:31.440 boss yes yes yes leader yes leader yes my king yes my king i will cook for you i will feed you i'll
00:01:38.240 wash your clothes no no only only only one maybe two meals that we asked if he's doing 100 of the
00:01:46.320 bills i'll do three meals there we go that's my ten percent um but i just i think this is like the
00:01:52.240 mentality that's going to leave a lot of women single and half of us probably because yeah because 1.00
00:01:57.680 i mean there's only so many like guys that can take over a hundred percent of the bills we're in a
00:02:02.400 modern time like how can we expect them to take over a hundred percent of the bills if we're not
00:02:06.640 we're not virgins anymore we're not young anymore yeah i mean well she still is but but you know
00:02:13.040 like the average area but the average age of first marriage used to be like 22 it's 31 now here um
00:02:20.640 but um i quite like being equal you know like how that sense of power um as well as the guy but um
00:02:30.400 um if you think of it in a deeper way we i don't know i kind of jump from one side to i think i think
00:02:39.680 what you're saying is when you have children you don't want to be equal that's what you're saying
00:02:43.840 isn't it obviously you can oh no when i feel like when when when it comes to children and obviously like
00:02:50.480 if i'm a stay-at-home mom and like it just depends on the situation it's like
00:02:55.120 like either way i'm the mother and you're the father and i think i wouldn't just listen to him
00:03:04.240 if he says this goes but you wouldn't you wouldn't listen to him if he says something goes
00:03:09.920 about my child no because it's our child if that makes sense but so it's 50 his dna 50 your dna right
00:03:17.840 yeah so if there's a big decision how do you and you guys disagree how do you make it
00:03:23.040 uh again it depends on the situation but i'd always want to
00:03:30.960 like someone has to give in do you expect him to give in or are you going to give in
00:03:36.880 good question i always give in um i think just like do good do good wives submit to their husband's 1.00
00:03:45.200 authority i don't think necessarily like if you're a good wife or a good husband
00:03:49.680 um i think building that foundation of communicating well so if it comes through
00:03:56.960 a issue of anything and obviously we're talking about children i think it's just stating the facts
00:04:04.080 and then solving it so you both stated your facts and you both disagree who who gives in
00:04:10.720 happy wife happy life
00:04:16.160 no you know it's funny you're not wrong i mean that's i mean that's that happens all the time
00:04:20.480 how many women wear the pants in relationships yeah i was about to say there's a lot of men who 0.99
00:04:24.320 would literally just do what their wife says and are those women happy with them do they usually
00:04:28.960 not always because they're not always they don't really like push overs though
00:04:31.840 we are never happy sometimes we kind of want someone to put us in our place as much as we
00:04:35.680 want to say wait wait go ahead no say what you're going to say go ahead say okay as much as we want
00:04:40.880 to be like yeah um i want to have a say and stuff that there's times where sometimes you you want
00:04:47.280 someone to put you in your place like i feel like so it doesn't it make sense for us to give in
00:04:51.280 then yeah i can't i give in yeah as much as i give in i've switched her yeah
00:04:55.840 um sorry sorry uh yes because i feel like when it comes to men i'm going to keep it nice and short
00:05:04.160 because i can blab on um so we expect a lot from a guy obviously when it comes to women being 0.99
00:05:12.880 independent which again i like inequality to some extent um we don't really give that sense
00:05:19.360 of power to like what means being a man you know so like responsibility and
00:05:30.400 you know yeah i know you mean i'm not sure if that makes sense we don't give them that respect
00:05:35.520 that we should give them in a way yeah we don't let them leave power because he is a man you know
00:05:41.040 and he has certain duties that a woman can't do if that makes sense yeah it's like we want these 0.99
00:05:46.800 we'll complain about male leadership but then when they're like oh let me leave we're like oh
00:05:50.320 no no no not like that sit down as i said because we are never happy yeah that's not attractive that's
00:05:57.600 true that's not attractive to me what like leadership no a guy being a pushover like yeah
00:06:03.360 i don't think that's attractive but that's the problem because that so guys are hit with this dual
00:06:06.560 narrative aren't they because on the one hand it's like uh no we won't go you know equality and
00:06:10.560 equality 100 but you know we we don't want the guy to be sort of manipulative coercive to be
00:06:16.480 like trying to you know push it in any sort but but then on the other hand of course what women 1.00
00:06:20.240 seem to be attracted to most viscerally is due to uh you know who who leads and do to come in and you
00:06:25.600 know lay down the law so it's sort of like guys i think a a beset with this uh you know two two
00:06:31.520 sort of opposing dialogues coming through you know i feel like it's energy as well though because if you
00:06:36.160 don't have that energy i'm not listening to you as simple as that you have to count you have to
00:06:40.400 that's what it is there is a certain type of energy you have to you have to have and there's some guys
00:06:46.000 that naturally do not have it but then they're like trying to tell you what to do and it's like
00:06:49.600 it's given how do you describe the energy it's exactly it's just energy you don't know when you
00:06:55.680 get it you feel it like you when when there is a guy who's telling you what to do and he has that
00:06:59.920 energy you're like oh wow okay but then another guy can try and do that and put on that act but you
00:07:06.080 feel like it's forced and you're like this isn't you you're just following the narrative but you're
00:07:11.440 not actually that guy you're not that guy you haven't got it in you sorry i feel like in those
00:07:19.840 situations you have to be unapologetically you yeah whether you're a man or a woman you always have
00:07:25.040 to be unapologetically you yeah whether you want to take the reins or not you always have to be there
00:07:30.240 and stand your own ground if you're happy to back down and be like do you know what you might both
00:07:35.360 disagree but i think maybe what you're saying makes sense but i feel like there's a lot and
00:07:40.400 that person's willing to go i know i make sense i'm happy to take the lead here and you go fine
00:07:45.760 that's cool i think it works both ways yeah i think in i don't think over an emotional standpoint
00:07:52.560 that a man overtakes a woman in that but i agree with you but i also feel like what we're talking
00:07:57.440 about the energy thing the problem is with some guys that do it and we think that they don't have
00:08:02.400 the energy it's because they're inconsistent they're inconsistent for example it's like
00:08:07.680 say that again say that again like inconsistent with the energy yeah so like sometimes they're
00:08:12.720 masculine and sometimes they're not yeah sometimes they're really tapping into that feminine role and
00:08:16.800 you're like you're turned off because biologically you're just like as a woman you're gonna look for 1.00
00:08:21.760 that guy who has that energy could it be basic could it be based on how you feel though that day
00:08:27.280 because we feel differently every day perceive things differently as well i agree yeah so when
00:08:31.840 you went for example what we talked about earlier the birth control pills when she the woman's on the 0.98
00:08:35.360 birth control pill maybe she's more open to the dude who's less dominant dominating you know and 1.00
00:08:41.280 then when maternal giving is that yeah could that be correct i i would say so yeah from what i've read
00:08:48.800 it's fast it's hard being a guy isn't it i'll tell you what you know what i mean i do feel sorry for
00:08:53.040 you guys it's hard being a human who you said it's hard being a woman i said that you said that yeah
00:08:59.600 do you genuinely think it's harder being a woman and dating than men i think it's so hard but one thing
00:09:06.000 i would say i feel like men and like their experiences or their voices it's definitely like
00:09:11.840 it's so sad but they're not really shown and i feel like they should be shown a bit more
00:09:15.600 do you i'm gonna i'm gonna go back to the first statement women have harder time dating than men 0.92
00:09:20.240 yes or no oh wait that no no no no sorry no offense the guys i know you guys are struggling
00:09:24.400 no offense but yeah i feel like they struggle more you know there there was a woman who decided to 0.99
00:09:32.400 pretend to be a man for a while can't remember her name but she ended up killing herself because 1.00
00:09:38.800 she she she she did she she turned around and said i don't know what i was thinking being a man
00:09:45.760 is horrible and she said that woman completely ignored everything she said looked down on her 0.99
00:09:52.240 judged her on the way she looked i judged her on everything that she said and she ended up killing 1.00
00:09:57.200 herself i feel like because men's mental health and everything is so overlooked but but then how is it
00:10:04.080 fair to say that it's easier to be a woman but we say that we can't be equal because we're both so
00:10:09.680 biologically different is it fair to compare whether it's be easier to be a man and a woman
00:10:15.920 exactly but but that is the first statement that came up yeah no offense it's the first statement that
00:10:20.320 came up and it's first thing that pops in your head so sometimes you just need to take a back
00:10:24.160 thought and go actually is that right to say or do i need to look at it comparatively i've heard that
00:10:30.720 story before but do you think do you know much about it i mean is there any evidence to show that
00:10:35.120 it was specifically the you know or did she maybe have some other issues going on or something do you 0.99
00:10:39.200 know what i mean yeah yeah in any scientific study you cannot take away external controllables like you
00:10:48.640 you can't but in that situation from what she stated initially was that it was really difficult to act
00:10:56.720 as a man and and to be treated as the way men are it's just an interesting look it is not an end
00:11:02.480 all and be all of the evidence that supports it but it's an interesting turn on it yeah but again i
00:11:08.960 i wouldn't use that as a as a core element
00:11:18.560 you