JustPearlyThings - April 22, 2023


Man Marries His High School Sweetheart


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Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

205.40327

Word count

2,253

Sentence count

259

Harmful content

Misogyny

17

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Hate speech

9

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In this episode, the guys discuss what they would give up to be in a relationship with their significant other. From social media, nightlife, and time with friends, to being a good parent and a good husband. The guys talk about what they are looking for in a partner and what they want their partner to give up for them.

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00:00:00.000 Starting here Alex, I don't think I've even heard you speak once. What would you
00:00:03.840 expect the right girl to give up for you? To be with you? Definitely the 0.67
00:00:08.820 socials. Okay, no social media. Definitely nightlife. Yeah, and time giving time is it.
00:00:16.740 Okay. So your big things are social media and nightlife? Nightlife, yeah.
00:00:23.120 And all the ho behaviors are the window. All the ho behaviors gone. Do you 1.00
00:00:29.340 want a waifu ho? No. No. Is it possible to? I don't know. Okay, what would you expect your 1.00
00:00:37.680 girl to give up for you? I'm pretty liberal. Like, unless I see that it's coming
00:00:43.460 between us in some way, do what you want. Just don't be out here making either of us
00:00:48.120 look crazy because you're a reflection of me. So if you're gonna go to the club with
00:00:53.220 your girls, all right, cool. But then if it comes back to me that you was
00:00:57.460 dancing on 50 men and your tongue was down 50 throats, then obviously it's not
00:01:02.200 gonna run, can it? Because that's too many. One man, too many. I should be the one man.
00:01:07.220 And if I'm not there, obviously it's not always that I can be there, but like, I'm not gonna be that
00:01:10.460 club. What if she's dancing on another dude? What do you mean you're dancing on a...
00:01:13.360 I don't know, she's at the club. What else are you doing on the club? You're dancing.
00:01:16.720 That's almost like a sarcastic refrain, but I understand what you mean by she's
00:01:20.380 dancing on another one. But like, I wouldn't appreciate that. And if that was okay...
00:01:24.040 You dumping her?
00:01:25.120 Yeah, of course. Not working on nothing.
00:01:27.280 Oh, he's thinking about it. He's not sure.
00:01:30.140 Yeah, because you know what it is now, yeah.
00:01:32.140 The laws of the line.
00:01:34.140 Have you kept a girl before that's done that? 0.85
00:01:36.520 Well, yeah. That's the thing.
00:01:38.320 Oh, okay.
00:01:38.920 And I was like, you know what? It's a dance. If I... She told me... She did tell me though.
00:01:43.040 So it's like, all right, cool. You told me.
00:01:44.200 Mm-hmm.
00:01:45.200 Is it the worst thing in the world? No. Did I appreciate it? No.
00:01:49.440 You didn't marry her though, did you?
00:01:50.960 I did marry her. That's the thing.
00:01:52.160 Oh, she's the... Oh, that's your wife that you... 1.00
00:01:53.860 Yeah, this is my wife, yeah. Okay.
00:01:55.360 Yeah. So... But then, to be fair, with my wife, because the story with my wife is a long
00:02:02.120 time in the making. Like, I met my wife when I was seven years old.
00:02:04.880 Oh, okay.
00:02:05.440 Like, so it's different, you know? So like...
00:02:08.240 You love her.
00:02:09.040 Exactly. But then I've said to her before, like, if I met you in the club, and then I found
00:02:13.520 like, you went to the club when you was in other things in the club. It's like, nah,
00:02:16.760 because I just met... You're just any girl from the club, so you can go.
00:02:19.200 But she doesn't do that now? 1.00
00:02:20.520 No, no, no. She... Now, when she's like, oh, she's meeting my friends, I'm like, yeah,
00:02:23.520 go, because she's a wife, she's a mother, she did education, stuff like that. She very rarely 0.99
00:02:28.040 goes out. She looks after me, food, clothes, all that kind of stuff.
00:02:31.400 To a more traditional relationship.
00:02:32.680 Very, very, to be fair. Yeah. So... And yeah, so that's why I would question it.
00:02:40.120 But obviously, my situation is very unique, as opposed to some other people out there.
00:02:45.040 But in general terms, then I would most of you would say, yeah.
00:02:47.880 Okay. What would you give up for the right guy?
00:02:53.360 Not soccer.
00:02:54.360 Yeah, that's pretty much... My daughter and football is, like, those two things.
00:03:00.400 I mean, why would a man want me to give up football? I mean...
00:03:03.120 I mean, I don't even keep social media on my main phone. I don't...
00:03:13.120 Going out...
00:03:14.120 How did you get recruited today? Your main phone?
00:03:15.120 Don't they recruit you through Instagram or not?
00:03:17.120 No, just the girl knows me. 0.65
00:03:19.120 Oh, okay.
00:03:20.120 She called me. But yeah, I mean, I'm... Yeah. And going out, it's just over...
00:03:24.120 I did a lot of clubbing when I was younger. I've lived my life.
00:03:29.120 Garrison.
00:03:30.120 I mean, I'm easy. Yeah, whatever. I don't have to dress like a slut. 0.88
00:03:35.120 But then what if your husband was like, nah, yeah, so...
00:03:37.120 You need to hang up your football boots.
00:03:39.120 No more life coaching. Just sit down.
00:03:43.120 No more culture.
00:03:44.120 Get up and cook. 0.90
00:03:45.120 Get up and cook. 0.90
00:03:46.120 Yeah, if he's the right man, like, sure, I'm bored of coaching anyway.
00:03:50.120 I've been doing it for 20 years.
00:03:52.120 I've been doing it for 20 years.
00:03:53.120 Seriously, if I, yeah, if he can provide...
00:03:55.120 So you won't give up. You just won't do it because you don't want to do it anymore, right?
00:04:00.120 It's not like give up for him, your coaching.
00:04:04.120 Well, I am doing it now, but yeah, if he really wanted me to give up.
00:04:07.120 For the right man, yeah, I would. I'm not really attached.
00:04:09.120 Okay.
00:04:10.120 I'm not really attached to...
00:04:11.120 I have a question.
00:04:12.120 So this one, I actually don't even...
00:04:14.120 I don't even think I would do this one.
00:04:16.120 So would you get plastic surgery for the right guy?
00:04:21.120 No.
00:04:22.120 I would not give up.
00:04:23.120 No, no, no.
00:04:24.120 I would not.
00:04:25.120 That doesn't really make sense to me because if the guy wants you to get plastic surgery,
00:04:28.120 why don't you just find the woman who looks like... 1.00
00:04:31.120 Who looks the way, yeah.
00:04:32.120 Yeah, you want...
00:04:33.120 I've heard guys like paying for their girls' boob jobs. 1.00
00:04:36.120 Yeah, 100%.
00:04:37.120 I've heard of that.
00:04:39.120 I'm too scared to go under surgery.
00:04:41.120 I wouldn't want to do it either, but I think that's my...
00:04:45.120 I might need it, but I still want to do it.
00:04:48.120 Fine as you are, man.
00:04:49.120 All that plastic surgery, BBL, BLL...
00:04:52.120 But yeah, otherwise I'm easy.
00:04:53.120 I'm not down for it, no.
00:04:54.120 I'm not attached to...
00:04:55.120 Yeah.
00:04:56.120 But then couldn't you just get the girl to eat more? 1.00
00:04:59.120 You can't get boobs from that. 1.00
00:05:01.120 No?
00:05:02.120 Yeah, I mean...
00:05:03.120 If you put on weight, wouldn't your breasts grow? 1.00
00:05:05.120 Yeah.
00:05:06.120 I don't think they want.
00:05:07.120 I think it's usually because they want the hourglass.
00:05:09.120 Yeah.
00:05:10.120 Sheesh.
00:05:11.120 I don't know.
00:05:12.120 And that's because of social media again.
00:05:13.120 I'm just trying to think of a natural route.
00:05:14.120 I'm trying to think of a natural route.
00:05:15.120 No, you can.
00:05:16.120 There are ways that you can, but not for it to look like plastic.
00:05:18.120 No, obviously not.
00:05:19.120 It's not going to be up here like this, but like...
00:05:21.120 But there are things you...
00:05:22.120 Like I said, it is you can work on yourself.
00:05:24.120 And yeah, that...
00:05:25.120 I would do that for him.
00:05:26.120 Like to work on myself, to be in shape, to look good.
00:05:28.120 Yeah, absolutely.
00:05:29.120 But not plastic surgery or fillers and all that.
00:05:32.120 That's quite true.
00:05:33.120 No, I wouldn't do that.
00:05:34.120 Yeah.
00:05:35.120 Okay.
00:05:36.120 What would you expect the right girl to do for you? 1.00
00:05:38.120 Or to give up for you?
00:05:39.120 I think, you know, sort of to begin with, just looking with my current circumstances,
00:05:44.120 obviously if she'd work this, that, the other, it's fine.
00:05:47.120 But if it came down to where I was in a position where she wouldn't need to work, 0.65
00:05:52.120 and especially, I think, I think by nature, like, I want to be with a woman that's more nurturing.
00:05:59.120 So, you know, that early stage is before the kids start to go to school.
00:06:03.120 I'll take one for the team.
00:06:04.120 You know, you've got to stay at home, especially if I can provide that life for us, you know?
00:06:10.120 So that's why I'd expect her to give up.
00:06:11.120 After that, you know, we're open to talks.
00:06:14.120 If she wants to go back to work, yeah, no problem, man.
00:06:16.120 But in that period, you've got to play ball, man, you know?
00:06:20.120 If it's the best thing for the family.
00:06:22.120 Yeah.
00:06:23.120 Did you answer what you would give up for the right guy?
00:06:26.120 I don't remember.
00:06:27.120 No, not really.
00:06:28.120 Okay, I didn't think you did.
00:06:29.120 Because I was thinking about it, and I was kind of like, I don't know,
00:06:33.120 I probably wouldn't give up anything.
00:06:37.120 Nothing?
00:06:38.120 Damn, son.
00:06:39.120 No.
00:06:40.120 You don't think any relationships require sacrifice?
00:06:42.120 No, I have a fiancé, obviously, and I love him.
00:06:45.120 But I think the only reason probably is coming from that, that is he's very,
00:06:51.120 he wants me the way I am.
00:06:53.120 I mean, I think I love dancing.
00:06:57.120 So he doesn't mean going to the, because I do a bit of a TV personality in Persian channels.
00:07:02.120 So I do a lot of dancing.
00:07:04.120 I do a lot of, you know, cameras.
00:07:07.120 I do, like, Persian, Latino.
00:07:09.120 So I mix both.
00:07:10.120 Will you teach me?
00:07:11.120 I will.
00:07:12.120 I will do a bit of a dance here.
00:07:13.120 Oh, yes, please.
00:07:14.120 And so because I do whatever I always wanted to do right now, and he's very happy with the way I am,
00:07:21.120 even though I'm most of the time just, you know, I'm very, like, outgoing and stuff,
00:07:27.120 and spending a lot of time out because of the camera and videos and my friends.
00:07:33.120 And he's always involved and he's loving the fact that I'm very outgoing and social.
00:07:37.120 So he doesn't say, oh, I don't like that.
00:07:40.120 Don't do that.
00:07:41.120 Don't do this.
00:07:42.120 So I think maybe.
00:07:43.120 So he lets you do whatever you want.
00:07:44.120 So probably if he tells me don't dance, I wouldn't give up because I'm, I'm so.
00:07:49.120 What if he told you delete social media?
00:07:56.120 What do you need social media for?
00:07:58.120 Social media, because I have a big platform on Instagram and I really worked hard for it.
00:08:03.120 Do you make any revenue, any type of money?
00:08:05.120 Do you get paid from social media?
00:08:07.120 No, but I have a big, amazing family.
00:08:10.120 It's like, you know, you're having, when you build up your Instagram, your real family.
00:08:14.120 Sorry?
00:08:15.120 You can call your family, FaceTime your family.
00:08:16.120 Oh, I took my family in Iran.
00:08:18.120 I, I, I called Instagram my family as well because I, I kind of like.
00:08:22.120 Hold on, better than your real family, like your fiance and.
00:08:25.120 No, I just don't understand why anybody wants me to delete my Instagram.
00:08:29.120 In case.
00:08:30.120 You can see them in real life.
00:08:31.120 Yeah.
00:08:32.120 Well, I'll give you an example.
00:08:33.120 Is he ringing?
00:08:34.120 We had, we had, um, a guy, um, come, come in, um, uh, two days ago, Justin Waller.
00:08:41.120 He's like a YouTuber.
00:08:42.120 And this guy has married women, um, constantly trying to sleep with him on social media.
00:08:47.120 All the time.
00:08:48.120 Like literally, like he, he's shown me like videos, pictures of girls, like saying, come over.
00:08:54.120 And like, he'll show me pictures of their families.
00:08:56.120 Right.
00:08:57.120 Yeah.
00:08:58.120 And he, he doesn't do it.
00:08:59.120 Cause he's, he's not that type of guy.
00:09:00.120 Yeah.
00:09:01.120 You know, but, but it's like, if a guy just wants to avoid that headache.
00:09:05.120 Yeah.
00:09:06.120 Yeah.
00:09:07.120 Of you, you know, potentially doing something like you wouldn't understand that if a lot,
00:09:11.120 a lot of, um, divorces like come from social media.
00:09:15.120 That's true.
00:09:16.120 Cause my sister had, uh, you know, lots of argue with his, with her husband because of social media.
00:09:20.120 But now thinking about it, if obviously he wants me to delete Instagram.
00:09:25.120 Otherwise he's not going to be with me because I, I, I really love him and he's, he's amazing.
00:09:30.120 So probably I would, but I think I'm going to be depressed for a few months.
00:09:34.120 Is he Iranian?
00:09:35.120 Is he, is he Iranian?
00:09:36.120 No, he's English.
00:09:37.120 Okay.
00:09:38.120 Okay.
00:09:39.120 So you, so you, so you.
00:09:40.120 Okay.
00:09:41.120 I don't know.
00:09:42.120 It explains a lot.
00:09:43.120 When you don't have that sort of things in your life, you don't really think about it.
00:09:47.120 But now because we were discussing it, it's actually good for me because when you discuss
00:09:51.120 it, I get into myself and thinking if one day doll want me to delete my Instagram, because
00:09:56.120 we never had that conversation and I never thought about it, but now you're asking me
00:10:00.120 and I'm thinking about it.
00:10:01.120 Probably I would.
00:10:02.120 Well, can I ask you, would you like, would you give up just pearly things for the right
00:10:07.120 time?
00:10:08.120 Oh yeah, easily.
00:10:09.120 Yeah.
00:10:10.120 I mean, to be honest, I would, I would really want to get my.
00:10:12.120 Yeah.
00:10:13.120 You could just do it at home though, from home.
00:10:14.120 Yeah.
00:10:15.120 I mean, to be honest, I don't think the show is conducive.
00:10:17.120 Like what am I going to do this when I have kids?
00:10:19.120 No.
00:10:20.120 You know what I mean?
00:10:21.120 You could still do the wife show. 1.00
00:10:22.120 The wife show. 0.71
00:10:23.120 I would, I would, I would still.
00:10:26.120 The wife show you could still do.
00:10:28.120 Oh yeah.
00:10:29.120 The wife show. 0.71
00:10:30.120 You just have to pivot.
00:10:31.120 The wife's school.
00:10:32.120 You could still do that man.
00:10:33.120 Yeah.
00:10:34.120 Just rub the baby with your foot here. 1.00
00:10:35.120 The camera ain't got to be there.
00:10:36.120 I mean, if it was genuinely causing a problem in my marriage, like I would, I mean, it's social
00:10:41.120 media.
00:10:42.120 You know what I mean?
00:10:43.120 As many of you know, I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily
00:10:48.120 basis on this platform.
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