JustPearlyThings - July 06, 2023


Man Narrates His Experience In The Divorce Courts

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Hannah Pearl Davis
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8 minutes

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In this episode, I speak to my ex-wife about her divorce from her ex-husband. We talk about the process of divorce and how it was for her and how she coped with the separation from her husband. We also talk about how she dealt with the aftermath of the separation and what it was like going through the divorce process.

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00:00:00.000 how was um how was the divorce process for you was it so my my divorce happened during
00:00:07.600 pandemic and if you see in your stats uh majority is either two ways it went more babies or more
00:00:15.200 divorces oh it's true it's like an eye opener when you're at the epidemic anyway um so that happened
00:00:23.840 and it was it was tough it was it was tough i'm gonna lie she file the only way we so we've got
00:00:32.640 a daughter and um when it comes to uh our daughter we think on the same wavelength but when it comes
00:00:38.480 to us it was never meant to be so um we just she filed for divorce because if you're on benefits
00:00:47.520 it's it's you have to pay as much and but i did the whole solicitor thing and we had to agree on a lot
00:00:55.040 of stuff i know people that if you don't agree on it that's where the process gets more thank you yeah
00:01:01.520 so so it wasn't so bad for you no i i'm i don't know man i'm blessed i got like an angel on my
00:01:06.960 shoulder from life i'm just i don't know so that situation went okay even though i don't even know
00:01:15.360 she's probably watching i didn't want to say but it's it's weird it's with her and probably with a
00:01:24.000 lot of i shouldn't say but females uh it goes back to you know daddy issues the way you 1.00
00:01:34.640 and so if it's like that princess mentality you you feel that you you're old and you don't want to
00:01:45.600 work for things and and you know the the father figure looks out for you and does all that stuff
00:01:50.320 so that's kind of where she saw me in that situation where i thought that when i first came into the
00:01:57.280 relationship um it was good but um uh maybe about maybe two months into it she fell pregnant and 0.93
00:02:07.920 that's kind of for me i did what my upbringing was was to be the better man and stick stick with it
00:02:13.600 but i saw so many red flags it was crazy but i just just i just stuck at it and she's always had those
00:02:21.760 red flags and she doesn't think that she does so everyone knows this is the problem not her it took
00:02:28.240 a long while man we went through therapy and stuff and it's just i think she still doesn't get it
00:02:35.120 still doesn't get it's very a young mentality a childlike mentality
00:02:42.800 but to a point that where her boyfriend now
00:02:46.080 is someone who's a who is a boy who still lives at home with his mom she's almost in her 40s
00:02:51.760 wow right i'm dating i'm dating the woman that's got her together i got my together we're working
00:02:57.600 together and we're you know we're making it work but you can't sometimes probably offended a few
00:03:05.360 she took a oh yeah she took a no bro but i'm yeah well thank you well that's the thing i
00:03:11.600 it was a bad situation it flipped i'm i'm in the happiest place i'm you know i'm here i'm here on
00:03:17.920 this show i'm here with you i'm happy to be here and stuff so but yeah it sounds like you got out
00:03:24.240 easy relatively yeah i am actually speaking to another friend of mine who's going through
00:03:29.520 pretty bad situation with his soon to be ex-wife obviously they're separated but again he's telling
00:03:37.840 me the same things that i'm hearing like even though they were separated just to he wanted her she didn't
00:03:45.680 want him he's like well if you're not being serious i i just i don't want to be even in the 0.89
00:03:51.120 same bed of you i'm going to sleep on the couch i'm like oh my god i went through shit like that 0.97
00:03:54.720 that's nuts and child mentality she always thinks everyone everybody else is wrong not him 1.00
00:04:02.080 i mean not her and i was like i've been there i've been through that why do you think um feminism
00:04:07.520 has convinced women that they'll be better on the other side of divorce especially after children 0.96
00:04:12.240 so they could so they can bag some money so they can they're gonna have i guess
00:04:22.080 some of the power that the man may the man may have had beforehand oh so they can get money out of
00:04:28.000 it oh big time but you know child support yeah what's the consequence if you leave if you can just
00:04:33.280 put them on child support exactly that's that's that's you raised your hand did you have something
00:04:39.520 to say um i forgot what i was gonna say no worries if not but um no it's just the whole divorce and
00:04:47.840 separation it's just the whole um actually i had a question for you because you said you had so many
00:04:53.840 red flags but you still continued what made you for the sake of my daughter but before what before
00:05:01.280 had because the reason i'm asking you because when i got married um i saw red flags as well myself
00:05:07.840 but i chose not to i chose to avoid it so i just wanted to know um you saw the red flags but what made
00:05:14.800 you still go ahead because i saw the red flags before getting married but the fact that i was pregnant
00:05:21.120 as well it was the thought of doing the right thing but then you've ended up continuing but going
00:05:27.600 back to the beginning where you could have avoided so many it's true i say that it's kind of like
00:05:34.960 that time travel thing if would i go back in time and change things or would i still have my daughter 0.99
00:05:40.160 now i wouldn't change the world i wouldn't change a thing for my dad for my daughter so i did you know
00:05:47.200 my in my in my family my mom and dad got divorced and separated my dad cheating i just knew i didn't want
00:05:53.200 to go down that route of what he did so i i was the better man and i stuck at it yes i saw red flags but
00:05:59.440 i knew my daughter's in the picture so i just i just carried on but we weren't married but we were
00:06:05.040 together but it's i even went that further down the line maybe i don't know six years down the line
00:06:11.840 then we got married oh wow and it still went wrong so i put everything on the table for her to try and make 0.68
00:06:18.160 it work and it still didn't work so that's why remember when pandemic came i was like okay this
00:06:23.440 is the real deal i can't i can't do this anymore i'm out i'm out but if you're to answer your question
00:06:29.280 it's solely for my daughter simple blood i think men are much more willing to stick it out for the
00:06:36.560 kids than women are typically they are i agree which which is weird because you would think like women 1.00
00:06:41.680 like it's always the narrative that women are like closer to the kids so it's weird that like men seem to
00:06:46.160 stick it out more yeah go ahead i think um men always have the the nature to love for their
00:06:54.640 children i think every man loves their children regardless however us female can um i don't know 0.99
00:07:02.000 if it's intentionally or not but can make a man no matter how much they feel or love their children
00:07:09.600 they can make them not want to be around or exist and i think that's where the problem is
00:07:16.240 not whether the man loves their child or whatever because every man that i've spoken to because i've
00:07:22.000 got a lot of male friends who's got children and has experienced something similar to him and as a
00:07:27.600 woman who's experienced the same thing but i'm a woman so it's like i have more support they don't men
00:07:34.480 don't have men don't have that this way men don't have that support but they're just seen as the bad
00:07:43.600 person oh where's he gone oh he's not doing nothing he's not doing that but they never focus on okay why
00:07:50.080 isn't he doing anything because i believe that there's no man who's given birth to a child on earth
00:07:56.000 that doesn't love their children that's that's just how i feel but it's just harder for them to
00:08:01.360 they're not supported to deal with their emotions or regulate their emotions so sometimes when they're
00:08:06.160 trying to communicate or express their feelings they're seen as being angry or being aggressive
00:08:14.480 so for them they feel the best thing for them to do is not be around which i feel it's very sad but yeah