JustPearlyThings - July 04, 2023


Man REJECTs Feminism And Loses Custody Of His Kid

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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7 minutes

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203.66

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1,565

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Harmful content

Misogyny

5

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Hate speech

6

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Summary

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In this episode, I speak to the mother of a 3 year old boy who has been living in fear of losing custody of his non-binary son, and how his mother is pushing gender ideology onto him and making him feel like he's not allowed to be who he really is.

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00:00:00.000 is like why don't men get custody of their children i think perhaps it's just the natural
00:00:06.820 bias hasn't been that way for so long that they just tend towards giving it to the mother yeah
00:00:12.480 that's what i think too i don't think a lot of it's like conscious but i think when you have
00:00:17.260 propaganda saying we don't need dads right and that men are deadbeat abusers for 50 years people
00:00:23.180 start to buy into it a bit yeah sadly but i i don't think that's a common reality it's just
00:00:29.660 a narrative no it's not the more i do this documentary the more i think it's literally
00:00:34.000 just spiteful women genuinely like they use the kids as pawns like what what reason did she have 1.00
00:00:41.060 to not let you see your son what real perhaps we disagreed politically that's the only thing i can
00:00:46.560 think of yeah okay so you didn't want to be a feminist so now your son needs to be at every 0.84
00:00:50.960 statistical disadvantage correct like that's that's great that's the most selfish thing i've ever heard
00:00:55.640 yeah it doesn't seem like a good idea for a child it's not it doesn't seem like it's not
00:01:01.440 yeah it's a narcissistic thing to do for sure um okay so you fought and you eventually got 50 50
00:01:07.540 custody yeah so tell me what what happened with she's trying to make your son trans 1.00
00:01:12.480 so she's treating them as non-binary okay um which is obviously not healthy for him and i don't understand
00:01:20.540 how anyone if you love your kids so much like people do you know when you have a kid it changes
00:01:24.540 your whole life i mean it elevates the amount of love you knew you could feel the amount of things
00:01:28.760 you could feel like in a way that's just indescribable and how you could want someone
00:01:34.100 that you love that much to not be happy with who they are and putting them at more statistical
00:01:38.720 disadvantages like you said like suicide and all these things that come along with things like that
00:01:43.280 it's heartbreaking and how it happened i'm not sure if it's she has her own sort of gender journey
00:01:50.100 going on as far as i know oh wait so she's trans so from what i gather from social media i don't
00:01:58.080 speak to her often but um she went from dating me to being lesbian to now she's non-binary oh wow
00:02:05.740 so i don't know if she's pushing that onto him or if it's something to spite me as you were saying or
00:02:11.700 what but what is non-binary i don't i'm not with these terms i'm not too with it either but essentially
00:02:20.460 it's just like treating them as not a boy or a girl so that they could choose themselves something
00:02:25.360 like that but she didn't she actually treated him as a boy for his first like year and a half of life
00:02:29.700 i want to say so it kind of came out of nowhere it seemed to me um so maybe it was from me getting
00:02:36.480 custody or i'm not sure what and how how so he was what two when she starts treating him as non-binary
00:02:42.620 maybe a little under but yeah two and then how old is he now three and five months okay and is this
00:02:47.680 like does he bring this stuff to you like the stuff she says he'll tell me stories um he definitely
00:02:54.800 100 knows and feels he's a boy he'll tell you that if you ask him and if you say anything like
00:03:00.560 that he could even conceive as possibly calling him a girl or something like that or giving him like
00:03:05.040 a girl's toy when he's playing with his girl cousins he'll like get mad now and he'll be like
00:03:08.920 no i'm a boy not a girl he'll start to yell at you because it's upsetting him so much and
00:03:15.000 i can tell you what he does share with me is like like for example she took him to disneyland one time
00:03:20.480 go to disneyland i assume they had fun right and then a few months later he's like dada you know
00:03:27.640 like he wanted to tell me something and i knew he wanted to tell me something because you know you
00:03:30.580 know your kids so well you know what the situation is when they say things to you
00:03:34.460 and he was like when mommy took me to disneyland i couldn't go on the rides unless i wore my
00:03:39.040 princess shoes and i remember just being like you know so devastated in that second but i tried to
00:03:45.100 like just be normal to him and be like you know i'm so sorry buddy next time you know make sure you
00:03:49.940 stand up for yourself and say i i want to go on the rides you know i don't want to wear those you can
00:03:54.120 you can say that but it's just heartbreaking that's so heartbreaking to think like you took someone
00:03:58.900 all the way to disneyland assuming what he's saying is true which i believe it is you know and then
00:04:03.080 not letting him go on the rides unless he does something he doesn't want to do it's just
00:04:07.160 yeah so she's pushing this gender ideology onto him he's not even i mean because the left is going 1.00
00:04:14.940 to say oh we let the kids choose you're not really letting him choose if you're making him wear
00:04:19.920 girl shoes he doesn't want to wear yeah and it's not just that one time i mean there's there's been
00:04:26.180 pictures that have arose from social media people have sent me and i've provided them to court as well
00:04:30.580 it wasn't our main source of trying to get custody but it's it was one of the things we brought up
00:04:34.720 but there's been lots of pictures of him in dresses and makeup and stuff like that he puts that on a
00:04:40.040 three-year-old yeah wow oh so you're so you're you're trying to raise your son and you're just
00:04:47.620 scrolling on social media or your friends are sending you stuff friends yeah yeah and it's basically
00:04:52.940 your son dressed up as a girl correct and there's nothing you can do right now to stop it exactly 0.99
00:04:58.660 wow the court said that that's not something that they would rule on no yeah and it's like
00:05:07.980 they're not even putting the child's best interest at heart because at a three four-year-old you're so
00:05:13.180 like you don't know anything about the world and now you can't even they can't even tell you what
00:05:18.020 your gender is they don't understand an abstract conduct of like all these genders they just see 0.94
00:05:23.080 their basic reality in the world for what it is that you know like i'm a boy and you're a girl
00:05:26.800 that's all you know kids like sawyer see is just boys and girls and i think it's really sad to
00:05:33.400 confuse them with stuff like that they can't comprehend that what other examples do you have
00:05:38.280 of like times she's done this um sometimes when i pick him up he'll have like a girl diaper on like
00:05:46.800 frozen princesses which isn't like the end of the world like maybe the store was out of guy boys diapers
00:05:51.180 i doubt it but stuff like that like a pink shirt but she when i pick him up generally he doesn't
00:05:57.300 have anything too you know flamboyant or whatever you want to call it which is good
00:06:03.160 so what's your experience been like sharing this with the court they don't take it into account at all
00:06:09.620 the gender stuff it doesn't appear that that the court's concerned with that there's other issues
00:06:15.040 that have arisen that i've brought to court as well but yeah the court declined to rule on the gender
00:06:20.520 stuff because like there was a situation like i got a restraining order on her and one of the 0.93
00:06:24.620 things i tried to include was um to treat him as a boy and they declined to do that part of the
00:06:30.740 restraining order wow so there's no way you can even legally protect your son from her putting
00:06:36.640 feminist ideology on him well i'm gonna do everything i can and keep fighting yeah i meant so sorry i meant
00:06:42.960 so far yeah wow yeah it's it's a tough situation especially in california is this common have you
00:06:51.300 seen this like going into this have you seen other fathers in the same situation i've seen other
00:06:56.580 fathers in very similar situations regarding some of like the mental health aspects and the accusations
00:07:01.280 the gender thing on a personal level i haven't seen too much of it although you do see stories like
00:07:06.420 jeff younger from texas you know and his had like twin boys and the mom was transing one of the sons
00:07:12.820 and the court ruled to continue to do that so it's starting to happen more and more and i see online
00:07:19.220 there's like communities i guess of moms uh right-wing people usually call them out and call them like 1.00
00:07:24.020 munchausen mommies which is interesting but it's unfortunately just becoming more and more common
00:07:30.820 as this gender ideology becomes more and more common in society wow this is i can't believe this is real 0.99
00:07:38.580 yeah it's real life yeah unfortunately