JustPearlyThings - March 19, 2023


Married man drops Red Pill truths


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

214.82199

Word Count

2,289

Sentence Count

2

Misogynist Sentences

15

Hate Speech Sentences

7


Summary

In this episode, we discuss the question, "Does a woman's past matter to a man?" and the question of "Would you take down her social media if she had been a stripper?" We also talk about the question "Is a woman s past a good or bad thing when it comes to men?"


Transcript

00:00:00.000 listen um what do you think about it bro all right so i want to share two personal anecdotes um
00:00:07.200 because i think like that's such an important topic right the first question like there's a
00:00:12.100 there's a question that belies the question of you know would you take down your social media
00:00:15.760 and that question the question that belies the question of would you take down your social media
00:00:19.800 is does a woman's past matter to a man does it or does it not tell you guys a personal anecdote so
00:00:27.660 when i was 25 i finished university uh and i went to i got a consulting job in dallas texas and i met
00:00:35.640 a girl and she's like 5 10 blonde at that time it was like the best body i've ever seen on a woman
00:00:43.660 i mean it was it was just like one of those like what the you know and uh just smoking and and we
00:00:49.920 started dating for a couple months and i was like my mind was blown i was like oh my god this woman
00:00:54.060 is amazing like i was just 25 and i was infatuated right and then about three months into the
00:00:58.900 relationship she uh she's like hey i need to have a conversation with you about something and it's
00:01:03.520 something you should know about me and uh it turned out there was no accident that her body was like the
00:01:08.980 most incredible thing ever she had been a stripper for like six years i didn't know this i was you know
00:01:15.520 i just i had no idea and here's a question like did that change my perception of her in any way at all
00:01:21.320 so that's i mean i can't control my biology like there was something that changed in my mechanism that
00:01:27.520 said hey like maybe this is not the girl for me why well she gave that up but i'm i might have daughters
00:01:33.380 one day like i don't i'm sorry guys this is gonna sound offensive but i can't imagine a bigger failure
00:01:39.000 as a father than my daughters being strippers and i can't imagine setting a worse example for my daughters
00:01:44.700 than by having a mother who was like and and it's not something that i'm i'm like talking logically
00:01:50.140 it's just viscerally ingrained in me so i know it's at a dna level so it's like a personal anecdote
00:01:53.940 right and the second question is the question of surrender we talk about the question of surrender so
00:01:59.860 so so so here's like how i looked at it right like imagine imagine and i'm gonna ask you girls like
00:02:07.040 are there some metrics that you would use to determine what is a high value man are there some hard
00:02:11.720 metrics that you would say these are some metrics that this man is high value what might those
00:02:15.300 metrics be and i'm not trying to make a very reductive argument but there are some bottom
00:02:20.340 lines are there not what are some of those bottom lines you guys can how he carries himself okay but
00:02:25.240 that's not a metric but okay confidence and charisma sure no but also just like like in general like
00:02:31.080 his values how he carries himself like you can i don't know is a certain energy that you have when
00:02:37.180 you carry yourself like a high value man okay sure like that's true but what are some underlying
00:02:40.840 metrics because those those things tend to be congruent or confluent with other things in their
00:02:45.600 life that are going right like what are some other things in his life okay is the high value
00:02:49.680 okay hygiene what else strong values is ambition i would just just say it's money
00:02:55.760 you can't be a broke high value man so there has to be he has to like be have good money for his age
00:03:05.380 so here's a conversation i had i've been by the way mary i'm married 10 years in two weeks it'll
00:03:09.960 be 10 years we have four kids together we have four kids 10 years okay uh i got married at 30 and
00:03:16.960 i'll tell you guys my story a little bit just like i'm gonna share it i'm just gonna put it so at
00:03:20.400 30 i was on the precipice of making about a million dollars a year at 30 so at 33 it was it was it was
00:03:25.840 substantially more than that but at 30 like i have a decision to make of whether i'm going to marry
00:03:31.560 this woman okay um i was a good looking guy back then i've gotten fat but back then i was i was a
00:03:38.660 pretty good looking guy like i'm 6 4 i'm making 1.6 a year right i'm working 80 hours a week like
00:03:45.520 just non-stop hustle all i did was work in my 20s i did not party i didn't touch alcohol until i was
00:03:50.300 like 35 i just worked and worked and worked and worked and so now i have a lady in my life that
00:03:56.020 potentially could be my wife and uh she wasn't the only lady in my life when i met her there was a
00:04:00.740 um there was an assortment and and that's and that's and that was a decision i made as a man
00:04:05.680 i'm not gonna get married from a weak position because i had seen some of my friends that are
00:04:09.940 weak and broke and like not experienced with women commit to women that just absolutely destroyed
00:04:15.520 them i see it now at 40 some they got just they just got taken advantage of right so okay so
00:04:20.460 there's like five or six girls i'm seeing pretty regularly i'm not closed i'm open about it i'm like
00:04:25.560 hey i'm gonna you know but i know that the reason i'm building my value as a man is that
00:04:29.280 i want to choose the best woman of the girls that are available to me and i you know i was doing okay
00:04:35.720 so it's like okay i'm gonna choose the best woman so i'm gonna go to that woman and say hey listen i
00:04:40.340 really like you i'm into you but your social media bothers me because there's a lot of dudes that are
00:04:44.880 thirsting for you and they know you're in a relationship and i find that disrespectful to me
00:04:48.900 that you would leave that door open to that attention is my attention not enough and she might say
00:04:54.620 screw off and i'll take my million dollars a year that i was making at the time and my six foot four
00:05:02.500 at the time somewhat fit smart dude and i would go to the next woman without thinking about it why
00:05:08.120 because i think a high value man would just have options i just can't can i say and i want to
00:05:16.620 piggyback what you said you know i think a lot of women have not like in my in my practice and what i do
00:05:22.460 i deal with high value men the women that most women want those are my those are my clients these
00:05:28.540 are the men that come to me to vet women so if i see a woman on social media i say the first thing
00:05:34.080 i want to see her pictures i want to see what she looks like what is she doing her obedience level
00:05:38.440 yeah um and because a man like you said who's making the money that you're talking about
00:05:43.720 working 80 hours he doesn't have time to argue he doesn't have time for questions back and forth
00:05:50.060 he knows what he wants he can get what he wants and if you're not you're not down for the for the
00:05:55.100 for what he wants he's on to the next one and i think a lot of women over inflate their uh what
00:06:00.840 their value is and the real catch the value is a man working 80 hours a week making a million dollars
00:06:07.600 at 30 years old who is going to provide and protect for you where you don't have a hard life he's making
00:06:13.700 your life easy but he has standards and if you're not willing to bend to that this is why a lot of women
00:06:18.560 don't realize everyone has talked about their work your work your work okay a man like that you
00:06:23.460 don't have to work okay he's your life is soft your life is cushioned and if he's giving you a
00:06:29.160 cushioned life there are rules and structure in place and any man who's disciplined and making that
00:06:33.640 type of money he's not going to allow you to be consumed by the streets and there's some men that
00:06:38.380 are okay with it i think they're simps and weak personally i would never go there but you know
00:06:44.020 but i think a man who was truly hard working he is not it is what it is if you're not down for it
00:06:50.860 the next woman's going to get that and then you're going to end up what maggie talked about
00:06:54.180 in your 20s you think you have endless options no men see you as consumption they see you they're
00:06:59.920 not going to marry you they a lot of times women say there's these f boys the same guy that treats
00:07:05.160 you like he's a f boy to you he's a husband to a woman who's disciplined and obedient in terms of
00:07:11.060 and understands the value of a man like that and the funny thing is the guy that would ask you to
00:07:16.420 take the instagram down is much more likely to be husband material than the guy that doesn't because
00:07:21.320 the guy that the guy that doesn't doesn't care about you he doesn't give a shit you say that
00:07:25.880 you say that you know i've had i've had guys try to like oh you're posting like you're single and i'm
00:07:33.100 thinking but we've just started talking it's not but have they proposed but those sounds like
00:07:37.260 where's your like have they proposed to you are these high value men and i'm talking about men
00:07:41.620 who are worth millions of dollars who are high value have they proposed to you i don't care what
00:07:46.400 like simps are saying in your dms and that's a valuable point exactly if it's a man that comes
00:07:51.440 with substance and he's telling me what to do then it makes sense if you're a man that's just coming
00:07:55.460 to my life and i don't really know what you've got going on you're you're looking at my page telling
00:07:59.560 me to take something down this is why i understand what you women are saying i get it
00:08:03.360 if the man has substance no i don't know why can't we why can't we yeah just just just real
00:08:10.560 quick is that um you got to understand that a man of substance and a value that is making
00:08:15.840 high value man income he's not even going to choose you because he's going to look at your
00:08:20.380 instagram and be like she's for the streets now he may go up inside you and here's the thing is that
00:08:25.200 him going up inside of you inside of you or how you quantify the amount of likes on your instagram
00:08:31.060 post may make you feel like you are the prize may make you feel like you are a queen but it don't
00:08:37.420 mean any of that see my thing is at the end of the day is what results are you trying to get up out of
00:08:41.960 it i think men have to move calculated and strategic throughout their life whether or not it's within
00:08:46.540 their purpose whether it's not it's in dating women because the repercussions for men for choosing
00:08:51.900 incorrectly or not working on their purpose earlier enough far outweighs any of the repercussions
00:08:57.420 that the average woman today can never face so like when you look at instagram and it's a tool
00:09:03.120 we got some people here that use instagram from a work perspective it's a tool you can't make money
00:09:07.320 off off of it i make money off of it if you do it correctly but most women today are not making
00:09:12.460 money off of that it's just simply an attention and a validation engine so if a man of substance and
00:09:17.780 value comes first of all he's not going to come to you if your instagram looking all crazy so right now
00:09:22.840 you're disqualifying potential long-term suitors into the future because your ego is so damn high
00:09:31.300 so then the question is is that if you want to set yourself up for a lifetime of happiness
00:09:35.780 in serving a man why won't you make that change before a man ever comes into the picture
00:09:42.060 and i would offer that the high value man that you probably want um he's not going to ask you
00:09:49.860 more than one or two times and then when they ask the way that we respond indicates how we are going
00:09:59.880 to be in relationship with them so if this is the hill that you want to die on about social media
00:10:06.540 then how does that play out in a relationship when they are financial family health decisions whatever
00:10:15.180 are you going to have to argue him down with everything and a man of substance doesn't have
00:10:20.400 the time and he's not going to take the time so as many of you know i was just banned on tiktok
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